 Welcome back to the 21 convention 2018 I'd like to introduce to you a friend of mine and a friend of yours Mr. Richard Cooper from the YouTube channel entrepreneurs in cars the website entrepreneurs in cars.com forward slash community And a guy who has a PhD in ZFG Mr. Richard Cooper What's up, my brother's from another mother. All right, so All right, so I don't have to do the intro we can hop straight into it So one of the things that has happened doing this thing on YouTube this experiment that I called just uploading videos and pushing a button You kind of have an impact on people's lives and they ask questions and they feedback and a lot of people have started telling me like Why didn't I know this 10 years ago? Why didn't I know this 20 years ago? You're like the father never had so I've been working on a book this year And I put it off because I was planning on releasing it for the 21 con But these are some of the elements that are probably going to be in the final version of it So we're gonna hop into it. I got about 19 points. Hopefully we'll have some time for some Q&A afterwards Here we go first one son don't let people make their problems your problems I learned this lesson not from my dad, but one of my best friend's dad he was an entrepreneur he ran this circuit board plant and One of the things that starts to happen when you have some influence in the world Azure man and your accomplishing things you're putting your little dent in the universe is people will come to you a lot of the times With their problems and they often try to make their problems your problems Some guys take them on they play captain save a hoe. They'll rescue the single mommy They'll go and bail somebody out of something that they screwed up in you know their life But they really shouldn't be bringing to my plate and I think it's really important to understand one of the key components Of life as a man navigating it in this masculine world that we're trying to run You want to avoid the unhappy and the unlucky as often as possible because they will drag you down another way of putting it As poor planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on my part Okay Remember that embed that into your mind Think about it because when people come to you with their problems that you don't need to make your problem you can quickly Default right back to this don't make your problems my problem some key areas Ask holes I love calling people ask holes and It's out of love because what they do is they come to you with all these questions They ask you all these questions and then they do absolutely nothing with it These people are ask holes you avoid them as often as possible They come to you once for advice and they do nothing with it the second time that's on you People that don't take ownership in their lives broke people Unhealthy obese people that haven't made self-care priority for them people that get poor life results Had this friend of mine He coaches entrepreneurs in the group entrepreneurs organization basically these retreat forums And he explained the component of being very attentive to people and what they do their lives and the kind of results They get out of it. It's like the tip of an iceberg. You only see the top of the iceberg The level beneath that Includes your choices which then defaults down to your belief system your belief system every day you get out of bed And you have these beliefs and you make choices about what you're gonna do with your day What you're gonna eat or you're gonna go what you're gonna do for a living the kind of women You're gonna spend time with stuff like that And it's really really important to be attentive to people's results because if you see people dragging around These terrible results in their life. It's because they got crappy choices from their shitty beliefs So be attentive to people's results Don't let their problems make your problems or become problems in your life. Sorry constant complainers. I remember I had this This is a great story. I had this girlfriend in my 20s and she worked in this law firm. She was a clerk She'd come home. I live with her made the mistake of living with a girlfriend at the time of my 20s And she'd come home every day talking to me about ghetto pussy It was somebody that she worked within her office that she didn't think very highly of me Always made disparaging comments every single day. All I heard about was ghetto pussy ghetto pussy that this that another thing Stay away from people. Don't let these people in your lives. They're gonna be energy vampires. They're gonna drain you People that have a problem for every solution J.O.B. It equals just overbroke now I'm gonna take some flak for this one. I know because we're rich you're an entrepreneur not everybody can do that This is kind of a standard office workspace for many people that have you know resigned their lives to this we got We got Bob over here talking about his women's report with Sally Beth has her lunch on her desk over there She's working on some spreadsheet that doesn't really matter if it gets done or not and the entire office doing exactly the same thing I'm a firm believer that if you want to have success in life as a man If you want to navigate the world put your little dent in the universe, you're not going to do it working for somebody else You want to consider these sorts of jobs, son When I'm when I'm when I'm talking about this talk today guys, by the way I'm basically looking at you you gentlemen the people out there watching this after the fact This guy's coming to me looking for advice. What should I be doing with my life? Well, these are the key components that I'm pointing to that you should be attentive to C level jobs they matter CIO CTO CFO CEO now to get to those jobs By the way, you're gonna have to be one of these plebs for a while and work through the ranks for about 10 or 20 years That's one way to do it Medical professionals top-level sales you want to make six figures upwards of over a million dollars if you're a Exceptional sales person it can be done very well top level in STEM science technology engineering math You guys already know that of course my personal favorite entrepreneurship. You are thinking anyway, so why not think big I? Think your president said that mr. Trump. I don't know where that came from, but hey, where is he today? He's running the biggest country in the world right the most important place Son do not let LTR attention seeking women into your life Sorry, don't don't get into an LTR with women that seek attention from men I posted this on Instagram a couple weeks ago fellas if her social media account Accounts aren't private and she isn't using it to run a business sell a product or a service Then she is seeking extension external attention and validation Attention is a coin of the realm for you for women. She isn't just talking to you Vine's a little bit outdated. I apologize for the wrong slide, but today it'll be like Instagram snapchat something else But you get the idea right if you see on her mobile device Alerts and notifications from 70 different places her phone is always down She's off in the corner looking at it puts it down when you walk into the room. She's not just talking to you fellas She's talking a whole bunch of other guys Don't let these women into your lives. They're not LTR material They're a plate to spin at best and that is all you will save a lot of time Aggravation hurt staying away from these sorts of women This is kind of how women and men differ when it comes to using cameras Guys pointed out to the world women pointed to themselves. It's just the reality of it. There's a great book by Near AL it's called hooked and how companies form these habit forming products So products like he talks about Facebook other social media platforms video games like Warcraft and These notifications the way that they're designed to run for Individuals that use social media platforms and they dive into notifications are very very addictive It seems a lot more addictive to women than it is towards men because you don't have this like phenomenon of selfies All you got to do is go to Instagram and search hashtag selfie In case you guys can't see it on the camera as well. That's over 300 million posts Okay, and they're all the same. Let's all take a picture of myself. Look at me You don't want to LTR that chick like that if she's posting stuff like that and she's not selling a product or a service in a business Stay away from her if she is hopefully she's making some money She had some value to her life too as well this this year was really funny because I clicked on this I mean for obvious reasons So I clicked on the story part. I'm like, huh, okay I never got that by the way, but I got this I Don't know if you guys see these sliders on Instagram on stories. You know those of you that are familiar already know what it is Those of you that aren't you grab it with your finger and you slide it across to show the person How much you like what they're doing? So what this chick is looking for hashtag selfie blah blah blah Slide across and tell me how much you love me and there's probably three or four hundred beta orbiters that have done That to let her know how amazing she is today. She'll do it again day after day after day Sun there are no cheat codes to life challenges. I post videos on YouTube. I know a lot of you guys have seen them already some of you may not but There's always somebody in the comments looking for the shortcut the cheat code to play the game on God mode and Win at all levels without any kind of risk or any kind of problems and They don't exist They never have existed anybody that's gone looking for the shortcuts in life Has never found them and they've always found disappointment and failure The very desire to find shortcuts makes you eminently unsuited for any kind of mastery Robert Green Read that book if you haven't seen it yet. It's just mastery Robert Green. It's a great piece Basically talks about you have to put in the time if you want to get the results ten thousand hours seven years something like that Be attentive to the fact that you've got to put in the time if you want to be successful There is nothing and I mean nothing in life that is going to come to you that has any value With no effort whatsoever Sun stop ignoring red flags Is this a Christmas parade? Is this a Halloween festival? Is this an lgb cheat qt xyz parade? This is a Chinese Communist parade. I Have a saying on my channel and even in my private men's community more red flags than a Chinese Communist parade and Guys are incredible at ignoring these things Fine for me. I mean I book lots of coaching calls I have the conversations with the guys and I do it over and over again Some of them unplug some of them revert back to their old beta conditioning and subscribe to the ego investments that never serve them But quite often these red flags are right under your nose, and you're just not paying attention to them And there's probably friends of yours that a little point to them I'll be one of them. I won't do it in a very nice way. Some people call me an asshole, but I'll point right to the facts That's that's really all that I do as I just point to the facts and let the dots connect themselves So red flags when it comes to money So like money for example if you're getting credit card statements in the mail and it says it's going to take you 88 years and cost 10 times what you owe right now to pay off your debt That's a red flag. You need to fix that. Okay Self-care you get out of the shower you look down for your Johnson. You can't see it You're carrying a little bit too much belly fat. It's time to do something about that Women women's a big red flag. I don't know how many times I've had these conversations with men over and over and over again guys that keep going back to the same woman Dealing with the exact same problem over and over again because they choose to ignore the red flags They're looking at their beauty. They're looking at some history, but rich, you know, we have something together or we did this or we have this memory buddy of mine says You know people are masters of two things They know how to complicate their lives and then they try to justify why they do it and men are incredibly bad at that Pure circles you're of course going to become the average of the five people you spend the most time with You guys all know that and Job are you doing a bullshit job? That has no impact that does put no dent in the universe and you sit in a cubal every day and you're slowly dying It's a red flag be attentive to those things Son you need to avoid women with daddy issues That's a great one, isn't it? I'll just read it out in case the camera doesn't get it This is why she ends up in a stripper outfit by the third movie if she resents men She has daddy issues if she doesn't have a good relationship with her dad This is the key indicator of daddy issues. I did a woman for about three years Hated her father did not have any contact with him whatsoever That was a nightmare relationship I Could have avoided that had I known that and that was only recently that that was in the last six or seven years So it's you know, I'm an older man with gray in his beard now She tries to control you she separates you from your friends or she's crazy in the bed crazy ahead This is a very big tell Crazy in the head crazy in the bed She does batshit crazy things on the street and in the bedroom be careful be attentive Does she have a good relationship with her father because if she doesn't again? Play them. Don't date them. Okay. Don't get into an LTR. You don't want her problems become your problems son Pick up heavy shit and put it down My buddy Curtis sent me a mug in the mail to my men's community with that printed on it by the way Red Bull doesn't give you wings guys. It's lat pull-downs. Give you wings. That's kind of shit You want to do if you want to get big in the back? we have evolved as Endurance hunter Organisms, okay, we're endurance hunters were endurance predators if you will we've evolved over the millions of years To run down antelope and then kill them and eat them We're not designed to sit on our asses and be sedentary in front of computer screens that throw off radiation indoors with unnatural light We get this circadian rhythm breakdown, you know our systems Part of being a man and navigating the world as you grow up Son is going to be picking up heavy shit and put it down There is no excuse for you to do it it takes an hour a day You can do it five days a week and do it six days a week do it three days a week do it seven days a week I don't care do it figure out a way to do it. That was back in the summertime. I was in Mexico That's a cool little place down there asked me later on I'll tell you a little more about it But you throw it's basically like Fred Flintstone stuff you throw rocks and stuff in a bag and you pull them down We had Pat talk a little bit about TRT I'm gonna spend some time in this one as you get older You're gonna want to optimize your endocrine system We've got Chad on the right over here And we got somebody that looks like he has a body of a pair on the left and As you get older guys, I've been on TRT for the last six months. I Started to notice around 43-44 And around there not as focused wasn't sleeping as good. I'd go to the gym I didn't have any strength. I'd go to the gym and not want to work out I'd go to the gym and do some bullshit calf exercise when I was planning on doing chest and even then I wouldn't pick up anything And it's not just like the physical appearance. It's not just the strength and the muscle mass Confidence he was talking about how it affects your brain testosterone plays a big role and focus and clarity It removes mental fog. There's a reason why as guys get older they run into problems like Alzheimer's disease You don't ever see guys that are 20 years old getting Alzheimer's disease Do you they don't get it because they've got high level high levels of testosterone when you're 20 years old Your biggest problem in the morning is getting up and you got wood so hard It's admiring the chandelier and you got to stand on your head to take a leak By the way, that's one of the symptoms of low T when you get older is you don't wake up with morning wood anymore Okay Increased muscle mass healthy heart. Heart is nothing but a muscle guys don't get heart disease in their 20s They only have cardiac problems as they get older because there's testosterone levels decline Strong erections healthy libido strong bones plenty of energy What happens is you get older and you're not attentive to that you end up depressed constant fatigue and increased risks of Alzheimer's disease increased fat tissue There's an enzyme in your body that Aromatizes testosterone to estrogen and the fatter you get the more belly fat that you carry As you have more testosterone in your body, it's going to aromatize to more estrogen Basically, that's why guys get bitch tits, you know the man boobs and stuff like that You get increased risk of of ed low libido increased risk of osteoporosis. So your bones suck. So basically Who do you want to be when you get older? Do you want to be attentive to these things? It's not that expensive I don't know what it costs in the us. I'm told it's around 300 bucks where I live. It's about buck 80 200 a month It's not hard They'll try to sell you on bullshit products like pellets creams nasal sprays Blah blah blah none of that stuff works the most effective way to dose and do it properly Pin yourself once or twice a week with doctor supervise work Okay, you're gonna get your blood labs pulled every about three to four Maybe five months or so depending on how they want to do it and then you adjust from there And it's not just by the way testosterone guys when they're doing this they're checking for things like vitamin d I was incredibly low in vitamin d when they pulled my blood labs the first time Um, I live in Toronto a little far basically anybody north of of the tropics or south of the tropics south of the equator Is probably going to have low vitamin d. You're going to be deficient in vitamin d You're going to have to supplement with vitamin d. I take about 15 000 iu of vitamin d per day It's in a spray. It's got oil base in it. It's easy to absorb the pills don't work by the way You've got to have it with the oil base spray. Otherwise your body doesn't absorb it highly effective Increases mood everything else your body metabolizes a lot better the last six months have been a game changer About a year ago. I was weak depressed didn't have a lot of focus You'll probably notice that if you watch some of my older videos You know the way the conversations flow now are a lot different than when what they were back then, right? It's important to manage your endocrine system as you age because your body changes you have to adapt Sly he's about 70 years old over there guys You want to look like that guy? Or do you want to look like this dude when you're 70? I picked sly Jeff Bezos, this is before trt. This is after trt He's probably in his late 30s there and then he realized i'm not working properly. There's something wrong with my Biology, let's go see a doctor. You get some supervision. He turns into a cyborg I don't know if you guys guys know who this is. This is uh, g and g and luca avucci There you go. John luca vachi. He's about 51 years old. Look at him. Dude looks like a sexy bitch Am I all time favorite if you guys heard mel Gibson on that phone call that was recorded It was it was all over the media a number of years ago. Dude looks happy as pie there Manager endocrine system as you get older. You don't have to fizzle out and die I mean, you know, you can have a great life in your later years. I know a guy that's 82 years old He's been on trt for 30 years guys fantastic Son never allow the state to decide You notice how i'm not going to say marriage do get married or don't get married, but never let the state decide How you're going to live what's going to happen to your access to your kids and your wealth Bad news four to five divorces originate from women women get incredibly bored a lot faster and long term relationships and marriages Than men do men it kind of like goes a little slower over time women It's like I do honeymoon phase boom a couple kids boom right So you just have to understand that that's that's a that's a propensity of the way things usually go 90% of alimony flows to women 80% of custody orders are awarded to mothers There is zero incentive in family law the way that it's written throughout most of the western world For women to behave well in a divorce 50% of first marriages fail 75% of second marriages I don't know about you guys, but I wouldn't get in a plane with a parachute if they said well There's about half a chance this parachute's going to open How can you minimize those risks? I know a lot of guys want to reproduce they want to have kids They want to leave a genetic legacy. I get it been there done it got a t-shirt She has to enter your frame and you must control it Okay, rollo writes about this in his first book if you haven't got it get it copy in the front Vet her as wife material properly and by the way guys even if you vet her as wife material properly 3 years down the road She could change her mind women always reserve the right to change their mind at any given time That doesn't have to be consistent Uh shanti smith. He's at the back wrote a book. There's a copy of his as well tactical guide to women Read that if you haven't She must be a compliment to your life not the focus It is okay for you men To say to your woman your wife your girlfriend You are to be a compliment to my life not the focus Let's not get that confused. It's okay to say those things be clear If you're gonna assert yourself you're gonna be a masculine man. You're gonna navigate the world properly Set the frame and continue it Be red-pilled understand women straightforward control the finances I'm probably gonna get some flak in the youtube comments when somebody sees us later on No, I'm I've been in the credit collection business for about 25 years now and Men are just better at managing money women aren't you know You have to be attentive to money And it's not just free reign. Here's the atm card go buy whatever you want. Here's a credit card. Have some fun Control it. Okay, make sure that you've that you've managed that properly And I'm not saying be a dick guys If you're gonna get married and you're gonna get into a long-term relationship with a woman You've still got to control these things but in a reasonable manner. You've got to assert yourself. You're the man Do not marry too far down I talked last year in my talk about hypergamy and marrying down and that sort of stuff And the reason why I mentioned that in this list here is if you marry Let's say you make 160 000 a year. You meet a nice hairdresser. She makes 30 000 a year That's going to be a problem if you get divorced, especially in a state that's unfriendly towards men Back to the matter is so you can minimize the risk with her bringing something to the table. She's got her life She's created something. She's not going to rely on you, you know to be taking care of for the next 30 years of her life Should the marriage not whip, you know work out or she changes her mind Very important to be attentive to that. Don't marry too far down. You can avoid it You can never stop gaming your wife hunter drew talks about stuff like this. Okay Marriages are hard. They're way Harder than dating than being in a long-term relationship spinning plates They're really hard and most people are not good at it Most guys are not good at it. You can't stop gaming your wife. Most guys will go I do They'll do the honeymoon to eat the cake Bada boom bada bing moving to the house And then they start sitting back and watching sports the hand goes down the pants Cheeto dust on their shirt and then that happens on Monday nights and Tuesday nights and then Friday nights and so on and so forth You can't you can't stop doing the things that you did to get her if you want to keep her You're gonna have to do the work and it's hard work This is important if if you're gonna take the risk of getting married Okay Make sure she's got a low lay count and lost the v-card later on in her life There's been a lot of studies that have corroborated this. Okay, if you got girl a She lost her virginity at 14 And she's got a three digit notch count versus girl b. She was 21 and has a single digit notch count Girl b is more likely to stick with you for the term of the marriage Till death do us part if that's what you're vowing Just be attentive to that if you're gonna vet them And last but not least live where shared custody is default There are places in the world and you have to check with a family lawyer where you live In fact, if you're if you're gonna get married if you're gonna take that risk Consult with a family lawyer before you do and find out what the state says About divorces and what his experiences are with that so at least you walk into it with your eyes wide open Maybe you need a prenup. Maybe prenups are useless where you live But have that conversation You've got to learn how to deal with rejection son Life is going to kick your ass Things are going to happen to you your friends are going to double cross you. They're going to betray you Your girlfriend is going to break your heart in a tiny little pieces Your boss is going to throw you out Three weeks after you bought your first house All of those things happen to me at least once in my life, by the way These are all just tests to see how bad you want shit Some people buckle Crumble into a ball and they start crying don't know what to do Some people, you know Make the ultimate sacrifice Okay These are just tests You have to learn how to deal with rejection as a man life is going to reject you women are going to reject you Work is going to reject you money is going to reject you society is going to reject you A lot of guys in this room already know that when they talk about red pill ideas society rejects And maybe even family rejects them. I've had it happen to me. I know what it's like 98 98% of women aren't for you a lot of guys get one it is to like the ump's degree and it's like I don't know. What is there eight billion people in the world something like that, right? Let's just assume that 98% of women aren't for you. Not a good fit. They're not digging your vibe Whatever You still got at least a couple million people in the world that might be a good fit Stop getting hung up on something that's not working out. I had a conversation last night with somebody Girl, he you know, he basically said to me, uh, you know, did I you know, did I screw up? Can I go back? He wrote this long letter Beta type letter It it was going to serve him no purpose and it basically sealed the deal it basically sealed the deal in her eyes And she was a bad fit. She had she had daddy issues. She had all she had more red flags than a chinese communist parade okay Just understand that 98% of women aren't going to be for you and that's okay. It's okay for you guys to move on Learn how to do that take ownership for your life Son, you're always going to lose money chasing women, but you'll never lose women chasing excellence I did a video on my channel. Check it out. It's not long. It's like 10 minutes long, but You've probably heard this phrase before and it ends with you'll never lose women chasing money Love people and use money. My dad says he'll be proud of me for saying this because he thinks that I Do the opposite But if you're on your purpose if you're chasing excellence if you're making that your mission Women will be abundant. You'll be the one that'll be spoiled for choice if you do it properly Son you need to make a few money I talked about this in a video a few weeks ago. Some guys got pissed off. How the hell am I going to become a millionaire at 40? I said I think every guy should be able to figure out how to make a million bucks by the time they're 40 So I'm going I'm 30. I might as well off myself. That's impossible Well, let's do the math 10 years divided by 365. It's about 270 dollars a day You're telling me you can't figure out a way to make 270 dollars a day come on I get it if you live in the sahara and the savannah and middle of africa But we're all living in the modern world today here. There's something that you're a world class at There's something that you're an expert at Hopefully you've gone through your phase of master and you've learned that you can sell a program. You can teach a course Coach people. There's any number of things that you can do I'm a big car guy. You probably noticed by the title of the channel in my instagram By the way, follow me on instagram now entrepreneurs and cars Um, I was at an event a couple months ago back in the summertime You got a nice rare, uh, super trafeo lambo 720 s and a five million dollar bugatti shiran over there You get to hang out with cool people You get to make great connections You get to have these new opportunities in life if you surround yourself with excellence And you can only surround yourself with excellence if you are excellent yourself Do the work make a few money. It's not hard. Don't make excuses. Do the work son Treat this life like it's the only one you get let's set aside what happens when you die Some people have a vision of something else. Let's just set that aside for a minute Let's say that you've got an hourglass with certain a finite number of grains of sand And when that last grain drops your heart stops and you lay cold and you're dead You're all gonna die Every single one of us we're all gonna end at some point And life flies. I'll be 45 next month I remember a time when I was not 45 and that doesn't seem like that long ago But to the younger men out there and you can ask the older guys sitting in the room right now Or even later on tonight time flies a lot faster than you think Be attentive to it live a purposeful life Too many guys sleep walk through life letting other people make choices and decisions for them that are not beneficial to them I have to flick some boogers at single mommy's because anthony really wanted me to I'm not going to do it myself this time last year's video. You can check it out, but do not ltr a single mommy Played them That's it. Don't date them don't ltr What I'm going to do is I'm going to give you some opportunities to check out Some comments from some people that have commented in my most popular video or one of my most popular videos There's like I don't know 10,000 comments. So I pulled a few out. We'll just highlight a few of them This guy over here no ability to appreciate anything I do for them If I am in the middle of doing something for them, they are sweet If I am not I'm a piece of furniture or a piece of electronics that they turn on or off. It's tough 100 correct was with a single mom for 17 years And it was a constant battle and I was never right and she basically would wouldn't cooperate with me on anything And always chose her son's bad behavior over me. I gave it my all And it made no difference This guy over here says has to be the stupidest thing I've ever done this guy There's some cold hard truth right over here Simon says seriously if anybody here needs another reason not to date a single mom hear this dude You're raising somebody else's kid. What the fuck is wrong with you? Your genes will go extinct your name will disappear while the dude's genes and name will continue on Just thinking about that drives me crazy This one over here This one hurt me when I broke up with my single mommy After the relationship ended I swore that I would never date a woman with kids again Worst thing was I got really attached to her kids after sorry her her girls and after we broke up You never see them again. They're not your kids You're just an accessory Do not LTR or Marius and the mom son You're gonna deal with haters as a man navigating this world Especially if you chase excellence if you're putting a dent in the universe people are gonna judge you They're gonna criticize you When you get harshly judged and criticized always ask yourself if you would trade your life for that of the critic If you wouldn't understand the critic is jealous and trying to take you down People never get jealous of losers They want to be you That's why they're trying to take you down. They will come at you. You have to know how to deal with it Like water off a duck's back I love this one don't ever worry about society thinking that you're weird Society is basic mindless dog shit and thoroughly fucking brainwashed Blue pill thinking at its best everybody knows fight club. It's a great movie Son as a man you have a hundred percent responsibility and zero percent authority Hundreds of years ago we had responsibility and authority as men You were the man it was your house your castle Now you don't have that anymore You still have the responsibility You still have to perform Still have to be a man man up You have no authority. That's the world that we live in today. It's a dangerous place We've talked about it a little bit this week and we're gonna hear a few more talks on it Don't want to mill on this one too much though Son the burden of performance is 100 percent on you It's a tweet I put out a couple weeks ago Women don't care about the struggle. They hang out at the finish line and they fuck the winners I'm gonna say it again Women don't care about the struggle. They hang out at the finish line and they fuck the winners and it's interesting If you ever want to get feedback in an idea or a notion post it on social media Post it on twitter post it on instagram and watch what people do Women were like, yeah, so You're just angry because you're not at the finish line Right And then there's guys that come along. Oh, come on. Wait nightings. It's it's it's very very predictable But guys, I want you to understand the burden of performance is on you Okay, you still have to be a man. You still have the responsibility to deliver Only women children and dogs are loved utterly unconditionally a man is only loved under the condition that he can provide something If you haven't seen chris rocks tambourine The latter half of the stand-up comedy routine on netflix. He talks about his divorce and what really happened Before you get married if you're gonna get married watch that Okay, this is a true story Women can fuck up children can break things your dog can get into the fridge and eat the margarine and shit all over the house And be a retarded dog. It doesn't matter. They're forgiven. They're loved unconditionally Your you know, your kids can go in your garage and kick over your motorcycle and fuck it right up Doesn't matter your kid loved unconditionally Wives how many how many guys have I talked to? How many guys have I coached where their wives have gone out and they fucked chat thundercock And they want to forgive them You're only loved under the condition that you're useful The minute that you don't become useful See you later Lots of stories on that. I'll share one real quick day as a single mommy Divorced her husband. I always like to ask so how come you guys didn't work out Have that conversation if you ever date a single mommy How come you guys didn't work out? You know, he just wouldn't keep working. He kept quitting his job You know, he said people would bees mean to him and then she was making fun of him Like, you know, people are being you know bees mean to him sort of thing Guy quits his job three four times in a row at some point. She's gonna say fuck it. I don't need him I got the kids. I have a good income. He's got to pay child support family law says that I'm covered. We're done here You have a burden of performance as a man. You can't sit back. You can't put your feet up You have to perform constantly son Stop giving fucks to things that aren't fuck worthy Jack Donovan, I don't know if he's in here, but I know he's here this weekend He's speaking the next day read his blog. I don't care Just search for it on google. It comes up right at the top Profound I'm not going to get into it build your tribe Build your tribe we live in an us versus them world regardless of what society media feminism is trying to tell people Oh, let's all be kind and save the turtles and make sure we get rid of straws Okay I like turtles. I don't want them to get hurt either But am I really going to have that much impact if I don't put a straw in my cup? Build your tribe Speaking of Jack Donovan. He's a guy that actually walks to talk and does what he says he's going to do If you've read the way of men and becoming a barbarian. He actually built a tribe Lotland put dudes on it. They hang out together and they do shit That's what men do. That's what we've done for millions of years. We're tribal Build your tribe whether it's your tribe your people here. You join a private men's community Whatever it is that you do Build the tribe These guys have your back Fuck what they think Rule number one in life Fuck what they think Everybody's going to offer an opinion or view and it's to modify your behavior If you're a grown ass adult and you got a brain in your head and your feet work and you can walk around and do things You you have the right to do what you want. Let them think whatever they want Go back to the other point where I said, you know, I was talking about the critics Would you trade your life with people that are criticizing you? That's some profound shit. I want you to think about that for just one minute Think about the last person that criticized and judged you Said why are you shaving your head? You look better with hair? I don't like that outfit. You should get rid of that jacket. It doesn't look good on you Blah blah blah. Why are you spending money on that? Why did you buy that car? We need this for that and that and the other thing you should buy that car Would you trade your life with those people that judge and criticize you and told you to behave differently? Think about it. Tell you what if my phone rang right now And somebody like trump said hey saw one of your videos. I got some feedback for you. All right. I'm gonna listen Guys a billionaire hot wife president of the united states. Okay. I want to hear what he has to say The retard on youtube that has access to the internet and a keyboard that thinks he knows something I'm not interested Consider it It's your life fellas make it the focus Nobody else is going to make it the focus for you. We always try to sacrifice ourselves for other people For our relationships for our women They don't do the same for you. It's not it's not reciprocal Okay, put yourself on a pedestal You are the prize Pat mentioned that this morning You are the prize Act like it behave like it Fucking live it son You started out as a winner What is it hundreds of thousands millions of these little bastards? You started out as a winner. You're telling me you can't end as one Thank you. I'm gonna take some questions in a moment. We got about 20 minutes or so I just want to mention I'm building a private men's community It's for you. If you're not a snowflake you want to chase excellence and you want to become a better version of yourself There's a lot of guys here today That are here because I've mentioned this conference and they bought tickets talk to them. They'll probably mention They're pretty easy to spot. I have premium videos stuff that I don't upload to youtube Content that's not politically correct enough for it So I put them behind the paywall monthly q&a's with me discussion forum and a private facebook group I'm going to leave that up and I'm going to open the floor to comments or questions if you guys want to hit the mic Let me know what's up with your thoughts are Damn, it's bright Go ahead. Hey man Thank you that game is important. Yes, right looks versus game versus money. Yeah, I've also heard you say that That you want to make your weakness your work I think you make your wounds your work make your wounds your work. Okay, so maybe that's different But okay, so let's say hypothetically speaking that game is maybe you're Not your strong suit. Okay, but to practice that isn't that sort of chasing women for at least a little while Or would you rather Be focused on you know building your empire Something like that. Well, if you if you're building If you're chasing your excellence building your empire, you're on your purpose Women will be abundant You don't have to be chad. You don't have to Have a great head of hair, right You've got a great beard by the way. I like that I appreciate that you don't you don't have to be As attentive to those things I'm not sure that I'm following the challenge But what I'm basically saying is if you're on your purpose if you're on your mission if you're working on your Shit, you're going to be spoiled for choice if you're doing it, right? If you're not spoiled for choice and you find that you've been doing it You're chasing excellence. You're putting a dent in the universe. There's something missing somewhere Okay, I don't know. Maybe it's something in your self-care regime Maybe you get out of the shower when you look down and you can't see your johnson. I don't know But there's something missing somewhere Yeah Richard charles Your beard is fucking savage man. You have to think uh, george. I don't know where he is, but he just cleaned it up But anyway to my real question so Monday, I introduced my dad to the red pill through your video last year be better. Yeah um going forward, how do I I guess keep you know You know given the red pill to him. Do I just give him more videos or talk actually talked about just yeah We talk about that a lot. Um, I think we've covered it a few times in red man groups and our role has talked about it before I have uh, donovan You can't cram the red pill down somebody's throat if they're not ready for it, you know, the teacher always appears when the student's ready Um, it's okay to you know, send sub signals. Hey, you know, I know that you've got oneitis Or you know, probably not gonna say one is I know you're still heartbroken over your girlfriend You've mentioned these things Let's have a conversation about this sound bite and see how they respond then you can kind of go from there So back to the point of your dad. I mean Is he is he interested in becoming a better version himself? Does he want to work on himself? Does he want to fix the trauma? Is is he still stuck? Does he want to get unstuck? Right, and if you start a lot of tony robbins, sorry, he likes to follow tony robbins Yeah, yeah, no, so do a billion other people. Yeah, but they don't actually do anything with that information, right? Right. Um, I'll say this. He called me up He told me that he watched the whole video and I asked him what he got out of it, which is And the thing he got is I'll start to manage my own bucks for the day Well one day at a time, right, right But you know, you keep him in check a month later three months later a year later. Is he still managing his fucks? You know, I um I get challenged by my dad a lot. You know, he's in the autumn years of his life. He's in the mid 70s and You know, he always used to He used to you know preach like the Brian Tracy stuff and you know chase excellence and do the work and take ownership And I challenge him back now and that's okay You know because I because I've actually put myself in a position where I can do that And I'll challenge him on his health and his self-care and how serious he is about it And I'll call him out on it and I think you should I mean it's family, man Blood is thicker than water, right? Right. Thanks pups. Welcome Hey, how are you? Yeah, are there any sources out there where you can find out about divorce laws around the world? I mean what countries are still pro marriage and pro men Yeah, I think if you if you kind of go down the rabbit hole and start googling it you'll find A lot of eastern european countries are still friendly to fathers um, I don't know where it is in Australia, but there's some places where it's default shared custody There was a law in canadian parliament when I was getting divorced that I was hopeful for that they threw in the garbage That was going to make default shared custody basically no parent is more important than the other both parents Play a role in the kids lives for a child to be productive and useful in society They do a lot better statistically speaking being raised by both parents whether it's in separate homes Obviously, it's better together, uh, but there's some states actually florida is a good state that's friendly to fathers If you live in i think georgia, california There's some there's a whole list of states that are high like hostile to men Men go through the divorce machine. They end up living in their parents basement And they don't have a pot to piss in or a window to throw it out of so again If you're gonna wife somebody up be attentive to where you live and understand what you're walking into because most guys Will walk into a marriage thinking well I just did what I was always told to do and I said I do and I was a stand-up guy But I don't understand why she was fucking her boss Right be attentive to where you live. I think it's important that if you're going to wipe somebody up that you live in a state Or somewhere that's friendly to fathers Richard thanks for your presentation. Thanks for the ec community. You're putting together. Thank you What uh life or business lessons have you learned from the experiments like posting videos on youtube that have turned out to be wild successes You know, I was I was thinking about this a couple weeks ago. It's kind of interesting that you asked that um Okay, so here's so here's some of the lessons People are lazy People are really a lot more lazy than what I thought They don't want to do the work. I think you're at an incredible advantage I mean if you're here today and you said fuck it. I bought a ticket. I flew down here. I drove here Whatever it is however, it is what you found your way here You've got an advantage over everybody else out there that's sitting around picking their nose wondering why their girlfriend did what they did And betrayed them sort of thing. So number one, I think people are incredibly lazy. They're not really willing to do the work Number two They're not willing to Make a few money. It's too hard Everything is too hard. Oh, I'm at a disadvantage. Oh, I came from a single motherhouse. Oh, I work in the post office You know fill in the blank Look up Sean Stevenson s e a n s t e p h uh s o one Look up Sean Stevenson on my channel. I did an interview with him. He's about three feet tall He lives in a wheelchair. He's broken all the bones in his body about a thousand times when he sneezes He can break his bones. He's a clinical psychologist very successful He charges $10,000 to international speakers to coach them on how to have an impact The guy pulls on your heartstrings when he speaks. He's very powerful And I put him on the channel specifically because I got tired of listening to people Make excuses rather than doing the work Because here I have the optics of a man three feet. He's got a gorgeous wife, by the way Married to a gorgeous woman highly successful in this career makes tons of money spoiled for choice has a great network of people And there's some guys out there telling me well, I can't do it because I was raised by a single mommy Or there's guys out there going well, you know, I'm genetically this or that or I can't because of this disadvantage And it's like the point that I was making in that video is you need to take ownership for your life You're in the driver's seat. Nobody's going to hand you shit people like honestly people have Disappointed me Enlightened me At the same time I get enlightened by people here, you know the last couple of days like, you know, I'm here today because of you It's like wow, I didn't know I had that much impact because a couple of days ago I was reading the comments and somebody called me an asshole You don't listen to the haters most people aren't willing to do the work Doing work is hard Very hard But the rewards are big You get to hang out with people to dry five million dollar begatis All right Great talk Richard. Um, I'm about $23,000 into cryptocurrency I literally got in right when crypto hit like 18 grand. I got in right at the top and it plummeted. It's can't get over six Yeah, um, do you feel like there's a future in cryptocurrency or should I cut my losses and and maybe look for another vehicle? Oh, wow, you're looking for investment advice now. Um, I have Well, I know you're in a video, honey. Yeah, okay. So speaking from experience. I've got about five percent of my cash Not cash, but five percent of my wealth in crypto 95 percent of that is bitcoin. Okay. Um, I think bitcoin has some value My my view on it is watch what happens when the bubble pops with the stock market and we'll see if crypto Like that'll be the real stress test Like is it really digital gold because if it is people will pile into that and you'll see it instead of 18,000 It'll be 50,000. It's entirely possible for that Uh, it it has use it has practical use and application. I use my cryptocurrency often Whatever I can buy something at a discount. Um, if I want to be anonymous, I use cryptocurrency, right? So, um, do I think there's a future? Yeah, but it's going to take mass adoption. It's going to take The plebs of the world our moms and dads and our cousins and aunts and uncles that you know know how to Turn on their cable TV box and switch a channel to find the same ease in it for it really to like explode I wouldn't go too far into it I've managed to keep mine around five percent of my wealth and that's it. Okay. I mean you're gonna invest what you're willing to lose I think at six grand. It's an incredible bargain though. Okay. Yeah, thank you my father from another mother. Thanks Richard, thank you for all the videos and all the advice you gave all of us Just quick question. What would be your advice for someone who wants to go into becoming an entrepreneur? Even though they have a career they enjoy but they know that slowly Or even in a fast way becoming an entrepreneur is going to be more rewarding and better for them in the long run How would you advise someone to start? How would I advise somebody to become an entrepreneur? Um Well, first of all, you're gonna have to do something that you are absolutely passionate about and love Because you're gonna get kicked down a lot Uh, it's really hard. It's it's like probably like Aside from getting divorced for me. Anyway, I think entrepreneurship is probably like number two getting divorced was the hardest thing I've ever done um And that says a lot so a lot of people have been divorced just think you know It's fucking hard, but it's not quite as hard as that for some people if you have an acrimonious divorce So that's the first thing uh do something that um that you're absolutely passionate about because there's gonna be Times where you're the marketing guide the salesperson the fulfillment do The office cleaner that empties the garbage bins and backings the floor You're gonna do all that shit for a long time with not a lot of pay So there's that part It's got to offer value to people like people have to be willing to give you money if you're gonna create a business They have to want to throw money at you Just chuck it at you all the time because like wow, that's some great shit. Give it to me. Give me some more Right, you know, you want to be a billionaire solve a problem for a billion people and charge them a dollar Sort of thing are you solving problems is you know, the big thing Because I see one of the biggest things that I see holding dudes back when I'm coaching them on their businesses is they like to create a Uh a hobby and then they call it a business Right and if people aren't willing to give you money for your business It's just a hobby that you're not getting paid for So I think it's incredibly important to make sure people are willing to give you money for whatever it is That you're solving a couple of the things just real quick one subscription revenue Meaning you don't have to keep going out and hunting and eating what you kill A lot of people will create a business for it's like let's take real estate for example You sell the three billion dollar house you get your commission now you're hunting down for the next You know deal sort of thing. That's why a lot of these guys make teams. So there's that so subscription revenue for me is useful I mean it's part of the reason why I created immense community 10 bucks a month It's like a netflix membership is more people pile in it grows, right? I'm still putting out the same content every single month Okay, it's just we have a larger community. There's more engagement. Everybody gets more use out of it So I think that's incredibly important too. And I don't like moving physical products You have problems with physical products. They break in the mail people return them. They say they never arrived All kinds of stuff like that cost goes up when the cost of oil goes up. So I like moving information Or services my main business is a service what I do on the channel turn into information I kind of just like slipped into it when I was talking about entrepreneurs and their success rides And people just kept asking me questions. So it's like, okay. Well, my time is valuable. I like to charge for this Excellent Greta box. Thank you. Yeah Hey, man, uh, really great speech by the way So on your second point about ltrs with Attention-seeking women. Yeah, I'm a younger guy Most women my age are attention Attention-seeking, you know, they have instagram and all that stuff. So like am I just screwed or no, um If if you're a if you're a high value guy on his purpose chasing excellence making money and putting a dent in the universe Women are showing you attention You're within your right. I mean if you're talking to a chick that you like and maybe you want to ltr her Right, like is that what you're asking me? Well, I'm I'm asking, you know, like because they're all attention-seeking And then you don't go into an ltr with them. So I mean, yeah, don't have a kid or Well, if you have a girl that's posting selfies Daily of I don't know if I can go back fast enough But just to kind of get to the the point Gonna take a while So drive any new new cars this time or yeah, I drove a mclaren 720 s. I'm hooked Such a bad move. I shouldn't have taken the the keys Okay, well, let's take, you know, like these girls over here, right? I don't it's going faster than I think I stopped that Anyway, you get the idea It's it's you know, the girls that are doing this and it's multiple daily and it's like I just got out of Breakfast meeting and here's a picture of me and two hours later I just did it and here's a picture of that and it's like 900 likes a thousand likes. Oh girl, you're so beautiful I can't there's fucking dudes slipping into her dms all day long There's a pipeline of penis going right into her dms looking for her attention and she's loving it So if you're so if you're thinking about ltring a woman that has a social media presence My take on it would be like hey if you're not selling something a product or a service and building an audience to offer stuff too There is no reason for you to publicly post this stuff Okay, I don't I don't want to be in an ltr with a woman that's advertising. Hey, look at me. I'm available right That's that's within your right and she and she wants to fall into your frame Right. She wants to follow you. She wants to look up to you. She wants to be with a giant And if you put your foot down and clean that up and she tells the line You got somebody that you can work with if she raises the middle finger and says no, I like the attention She's a plate at best You just have to like you have to guard your time as a man Again, this is your only life as far as you know, it's all we got grains in the sand drop Do you want to spend your time dealing with a woman that's constantly seeking validation attention from the outside world? I know I don't I don't have time for that shit It's a plate. That's it Thank you. Yeah, you're welcome We're good All right, let's give it up for Richard Cooper