 do you want to stop getting in your own way? are you willing to drop your ego enough to understand the circumstances you're currently in were created by you and you alone? but you know what's cool about that? it means you can change it on your own that you don't need to depend on exterior circumstances or people to change your circumstance or change your own life. if you're new here I'm Sarah and I help teach people how to find inner happiness through fitness and spirituality and today I'm going to show you how you may have created an undesirable circumstance in your life and how to fix it. so there's one particular phrase that I hear pretty often and one that I even used to say to myself that I cannot stand. it makes me absolutely crazy. so we know that our thoughts and our beliefs create our reality. so think about this phrase expect the worst hope for the best. expect expect the worst but hope for the best. like really take that in. so if you're expecting the worst what do you think's gonna happen? and the reasoning behind this saying if you really look deep within yourself as to why you're saying it or why you're thinking it is because for some reason you don't think or you don't believe that you're deserving of what you actually desire. so naturally you're trying to protect yourself from the pain from getting hurt which it makes sense. after all we are human. think about it if you knew without a doubt you were going to get whatever it is that you want. that phrase it wouldn't even cross your mind. so by saying or thinking this phrase you are conditioning your subconscious mind to attract or bring in the worst which then attracts in the worst case scenario which then further solidifies the belief that the worst always happens. but then hey you expected the worst right? so it doesn't hurt as much. when in reality you had no shot at the best because you had already decided that you weren't gonna get it. and there are a ton of variations of thinking this way. another one I care very often pertaining more so to money in particular is I just want enough to pay the bills. so there you go. you're going to get just enough to scrape by and pay the bills. nothing for your savings, nothing for going out to dinner, nothing extra, nothing for investment, nothing else. just enough for your bills. if you believe and repeat to yourself just enough that's all you're ever going to get is just enough. just enough. you have just created your own ceiling. and no one else put that ceiling there except you. and you might be thinking well so and so said I couldn't do it or so and so said I couldn't have that. but as I said in my video about a month or two ago on the four agreements if you're allowing what someone else is saying about your limitations to determine what you believe then you're agreeing that that's the truth and so you're you're embedding that into your mind into your conscious and your subconscious mind so that's all that you're going to get. so it's still you creating your own ceiling and as soon as you could admit that to yourself and really face it then you can change it. anytime a thought like that crosses your mind a phrase, a word whatever it may be bring awareness to it. stop yourself and think hey is this thought benefiting me? is this thought creating my own ceiling? am I getting in my own own way by thinking this thought? and then replace it with a more positive thought that's in congruency with whatever it is you want. another thought that will benefit you. say your bills are $3,000 a month so choose a number a realistic number that doesn't seem so far away like you're not going to go hey I'm making $3,000 a month right now so I want a million dollars a month and I want you to choose a realistic number that would actually make you feel secure and comfortable. let's say it's $5,000 so your bills are $3,000 but $5,000 is what would really give you that extra room to put a little savings go out to eat go see a movie put a little an investment put a little away for a vacation whatever it is for you okay so then when that thought crosses your mind I only want enough for the bills you say I want $5,000 a month I want $2,000 more than what I need to pay my bills you have to get a little specific when you're thinking about this or else you're just taking a shot in the dark right so then your second step is to change the word want into some configuration of the present moment like am or have or something like that so it sounds something like I have $5,000 enough I consistently make $5,000 a month so every time you have some kind of thought that pertains to money that's a little more negative or feeling like you're saying I just want something replace it with a word that already means you have it because what happens is if you say future words like I will have or in the future I will or something along those lines you're projecting to your subconscious that it's always going to be in the future as we've talked about in previous videos your current reality is it's a lag from your past thoughts so to change your future you need to change your current thoughts to now if you keep thinking words in the future I will have I will get I will do this you're just pushing it out further and further in the future and you're never going to get it in the present moment when you say things like I have $5,000 a month I make $5,000 a month consistently so that I can easily pay my bills I can put money away in savings or for a way for emergencies and I can put a little bit of money away each month for vacation your subconscious will begin to search and look for evidence to prove that that's true which will eventually open doors opportunities whatever that will actually bring that money into your current circumstance another example maybe you've been in a past relationship where you were cheated on been there and after all of that after you start to go through that recovery and healing process all you keep thinking is I just want someone who's not going to cheat on me I just want someone who's going to be loyal to me again you have set your own ceiling so then the universe god source energy whatever brings you a person a relationship with someone who doesn't cheat on you but maybe they don't cheat on you but maybe they're an alcoholic maybe they're addicted to drugs maybe they physically abuse you because all you were focused on was the bare minimum and so that's where you set your bar so that's what you're bringing in but hey you asked for someone who wouldn't cheat on you and this person doesn't that's what you asked for so that's what you're going to get that's what you believe you want so that's what you bring in so you really have to choose your thoughts and your beliefs and your words very carefully when you want something and you truly want to think about all angles of it and stop settling for a just you have to stop setting your invisible ceilings stop thinking that you're not worthy of what you want and what you deserve stop settling when you find yourself in a position in a scenario in a situation that you don't like or that doesn't make you feel good you have the power to change it but you only have the power to change it if you're willing to take responsibility for the fact that you created that situation with your thoughts and your beliefs you must be patient and consistent be consistent with putting out into the world into the universe into your mind with what it is you actually want you deserve so much to be happy and to be loved and to be fulfilled so stop settling for the bare minimum you don't have to take the bare minimum so stop getting in your own way i hope that as you listen to this video something in your life came to like a screeching halt in your head like oh crap i'm doing that if that has happened to you please let me know in the comments below i would love to chat about it with you and you never know like maybe someone else is going through that as well and we can create a community here where we can talk through these issues and figure out step by step how to rewire thoughts in your brain so that you can start bringing in the things in your life that you want that you deserve that are going to bring you happiness and joy and inner peace i love you guys so much i hope you found a lot of value in this video if you did please don't forget to give it a thumbs up because that really helps me out on my channel and share it with someone if you think that they could benefit from this video as well and don't forget to subscribe so we get to hang out again next week i love you guys so so so much stop setting your ceilings and don't forget be limitlessly no ceiling limitlessly yourself