 How have you healed from this relation? What healing has this relationship provided for you? Now, let me be clear. If you've been in a relationship of abuse, if you've been in a relationship of verbal or physical abuse, that's a completely different story. If you have to call a doctor, an attorney, or policeman, that's a completely different necessity for healing that needs true professional help. I am not talking about those cases. I'm talking about garden variety endings of relationships.