 Rolling? Okay. You guys can go ahead and chat. Okay, fantastic. And to tell you what, let's start off, since a lot of people don't know you, I had the good gift of actually knowing you prior to this event. Right. In the blog you write and some of the information you have in your kind of area back for teams, and what you actually bring to this convention and the ideas you put forth today. First of all, as the oldest person attending this convention, I bring a lot of wisdom and experience, obviously, and also because of my research into, as I said in my presentation, my path has been, I knew I was going to be dating again after my second marriage ended, and I wanted to learn as much as I possibly could, and I went down a rabbit hole, in fact. And I'm a very logical research-based guy that all my friends and the one I'm currently dating last when I talk about statistics, you know, and surveys and all that kind of stuff. And they're just like, oh, God. But I'm passionate about that. I'm really passionate about that. And this rabbit hole, you know, it's a euphemism for a thought process of where rational behaviors observed. Is that correct? Right? And just sort of propaganda on what we've brought and led to believe. And that's typically what we associate based on the movie The Matrix, Red Pill and Blue Pill. Yeah, Red Pill, Blue Pill. And I'm kind of all over that concept, almost exclusively by the internet. And I think that a lot of the attendees here also have some degree of awareness regarding that. Right. And so I kind of bring, you know, an online digital element from sort of the internet and bringing it down here. Right. You've got, you know, the Red Pill. We have the Manosphere, the loose collection of blogs, bulletin boards and various websites that talk about men's issues. Right. And some of the guys here knew about it, and a lot of them didn't, which is fine. I mean, we get information one way, you know, through various sources. And so that's kind of what I'm bringing, is a conceptual overview of how humans behave. Okay. Simple as that. And then the individual coaches, of course, and the advisors, you know, they talk about more specific things. Right. And not only that, they offer a number of different programs, so respect to that. But when we talk about it, you're talking about the biological research, the theoretical pattern and behavior, the stuff that we see in anthropology, human evolutionary type stuff, cultural evolution. And you've got a background, interestingly enough, in cultural geography, which is actually a rarity. It's interesting that it's one of the rare people I actually said, okay, I've heard of the term before, but I haven't heard of it yet. It's a subset of geography. Geography is not just maps and state capitals. Geography, as one of my professors said, is the lie of where. Simple as that. So I learned about how agriculture developed in human society based on the geography of where it happened. So, you know, we're talking about hydraulic cultures, rivers, stuff like that. And it was a fascinating class. I took several of them. So you actually have a really good, solid academic kind of background for this sort of studying, reading, research, material. And you have a relatively professional interest, or at least a professional training background, for a lot of this information. Yeah. My degree is a minor league degree. But it did go to a very good school. It was renowned for its geography school, for its geography department. And I'm very glad. And then I did my graduate work to get a teaching certificate for a couple of things. So I'm a licensed school teacher. Nice. So you know how to speak, and that definitely played out in your presentation. Right. And that's a very important part, is the ability to present well. And it's always good to see somebody who speaks well in public. It didn't come naturally to me. I had to learn. It's a skill. And it doesn't matter what skill it is. It has to be taught and it has to be practiced and trained for competency. Right. And I think for the pickup guys, I don't think they spend enough attention on a guy's voice. I think that is an extremely important part about it. But that's a whole different sort of skill set that can be related to the pickup scene. But having a good voice loud enough, not too loud, well measured, without too many vocalized interruptions makes a very big difference on how people perceive you. Right. And for example, in a lot of the pickup or the dating type stuff where we talk about engaging people socially, we talk about body language tells. You know, leaning to and acting or those sort of things. We focus in on that, but we don't pay attention to our raising voice and anxiety and slowing things down or tempo or tonality and that sort of stuff. The quote from the film crew, literally, as we just said earlier, is audio is 80% of what you see. And I thought it was kind of an interesting thing on that. Yeah. The power of the voice is quite remarkable. And there are speech coaches. Well, you look at any famous actors, like Morgan Freeman or James Earl Jones. You just sit down and go, powerful, rich voices really kind of matter as far as conveying a lot of sense of that. And in particular, masculine voice. Right. You sit down and say, there's an element to that. And yes, you're right. I don't know of a single coach that really kind of sits down and teaches that. Because it is a very, very different skill set, I recommend to folks also, guys, drama class, community theater. Yeah. Because it really forces a guy to work on his delivery and his presentation so he doesn't come across flat. Yeah. And I've seen like guys take impromptu stuff, you know, where they literally learn to have lib or... Yeah. Well, I do that now. Yeah. And be able to think on the feed and be creative. Yeah. Improv. Yep. Improv. Improv is a very good skill to have. The thing is, a lot of this stuff takes time and effort. Right. And I don't know of a skill that's worthwhile that doesn't take effort. You know, I'm never impressed by a child who tells or an adult who's said, I learned this skill when I was five. And, you know, I don't need to learn anymore or particularly their educational system. It's like, I don't know how many five-year-olds I'm really getting wisdom to. You know, now that a child's insight for stepping out of the box or kind of speaking a plain truth with that social interrupting that I get. But to sit down and talk about profound decisions or skills, I don't listen to teenagers either. No. Nor do I. And I'm also a little suspicious of anybody who makes outlandish claims that they can fix a guy's problems just like that. Right. That is definitely a problem. You know, it's because there are no magic pills. There's no magic beans. You know, and it takes hard work. But I think the guys here have a really big conception of that. Right. And of course the professional guys. Plain, plain coming in. We are definitely in Sydney, Miami. Look at it by the airport. Good times were add by all. What are the odds of that door opening when 737 is coming in at that time? It's like, welcome to Miami. Come to the conference. Stay for the Zika. Hey, but with the hurricane we got a spread now. Nobody wants to talk about it. Nobody wants to talk about it. This is hashtag Florida Trouble. Speaking of that, you don't want to see the Department of Homeland Security sprays are out. Like in Central Florida, they're particularly going to the neighborhood spring. They were literally worried about it. So you start seeing that taking place with that public awareness. I'm surprised that hasn't spiked yet. Florida problems. Thank God for the election to cover that. You know, everyone's focused in on the election. I'm actually very glad that the presentations I've seen so far are not political. We really, to be really honest, it's typical here. You know, there's political beliefs. It tends to be a lot more libertarian and conservative, relatively conservative, you know, and ran objectivist type conservatism. But as far as straight up politics, yeah, there's not a whole lot of room for that. And because it's so inflammatory. The other thing I find really fascinating, and you were witness to it. Actually, you were right in between it, actually. There was a sincere disagreement between Brent Smith and James Marshall. Yeah. And how much hostility did you see there? None. None. Not only that, both men listen. And that is something you see here. And people don't realize on occasions that different speakers have different ideas or different belief systems, but they come together and communicate. And there really is that sort of discussion. When people are saying, you know, we need to have a discussion. Usually it's said, you need to shut up and listen. And you don't have that here. Interesting. I've been asked by several people over the years. You know, there are all these various dating coaches. James is here. We've got a couple others. And I was asked very specifically, very recently, you know, how do these guys differentiate themselves? And I'm still trying to figure that out, by the way. Because I am not in the business. I am not a professional dating coach. I have a regular full-time job with benefits in a 401k plan. And so I have no financial skin in these games. I do this because I'm enthusiastic about this topic. And I want to share information. Simple as that. And I'll find out on my own. I'll probably be asking some folks tonight or tomorrow saying, okay, what makes you different than you? What makes, you know, RSD, Real Social Dynamics, with the infamous, what's his name? Julian Blanc. Yeah, there we go. I went older, older, older. And so what is, or love systems, or any other guy who's pitching a system or one-on-one coaching? I would like to know, you know, what differentiates you in a very competitive marketplace? I mean, this is, you know, a lot of people are getting into it. And for good reason, there's a demand for it. I can certainly see that. But I argue that human behavior is predictable, right? Right. Okay, based on that, then the content of all these guys should be very similar. You would think. But the coaching and the instruction isn't. So it's like, what separates one university from another? Is every English department the same across the board? All right, I can see that. Excuse me. And in particular, you know, for example, you also have guys looking at different market sectors. Right. You know, so Brent Smith typically ends up dealing, let's say he's teaching the side of stuff and he isn't, at a very different class level, you know, of clientele type and caters that clientele type than, say, another organization. Okay. And so you see that. And you also start to see what we find is a level of professionalism, is starting to differentiate certain organizations. Right. And you'll start seeing that more and more. And the internet is really kind of becoming open with responses. If you have bad reviews, bad revitations, you don't last. That's... 10 years ago, that didn't happen. Yeah. You didn't have that. And I have a rule of thumb that I advise people is that, you know, if the dating coach hasn't been in a business more than three years, be very suspicious. If they've been in a business more than seven years, probably doing something right. Yeah. You know, because it is a very competitive business. And also the same applies for the dating coaches, for the female side of the equation. Yeah. Which is actually a bigger market. And I've actually been in touch with quite a few of these. I hate to say it. That is a larger market and more money is sitting there. And we've actually had one come in and talk before he was actually talking, you know, specifically targeting that. But they were literally discussing attendee numbers and stuff like that as staggering. Yeah. Absolutely staggering. Yeah. And I think that's... I think that what the men do is it's interesting because if you... You know, the self-help book industry is huge. And you go to Barnes & Noble, the last one, the last one, or Books of Million, whatever. And in the self-help section, it's big. It's all for women. With the exception of men, it'll be like exercising and maybe diet. But there's none of that sort of... None of the sort of stuff they have for women. And men go to the Internet. I know that I've gotten, over the years, gotten quite a few emails from guys saying, thank you very much. I was kind of embarrassed. I didn't know that other people were looking for help, right? That's what I'm very encouraged. And I think that's... It just goes to show masculine behavior. You know, we're supposed to be strong and independent. We're supposed to be self-reliant and resilient. We don't need any outside help, so to speak. Well, I also think you have culture in Dr. Nady and a lot of inferences, not only in publications like in magazines and self-help, you know, where they're constantly inundated to the movies, to the TV shows, that they're getting the message that they want to hear. Yeah. It's an echo, Chair. I don't think it's good advice, but they're constantly getting, you're good enough where you are, you have, you know, fat shaming, it's bad and all those sort of things. And so, you know, why would you think you have to change? One of the biggest things I've even seen, I've got friends, all right, say friends. I follow a couple of number of people I've met in associates. I normally would have just dumped on Facebook. Just to monitor what the hell they're doing, because they're such classic examples of social failures. They've done nothing. They keep going through relationship after relationship after relationship, and this, you know, literally this next guy who's, you know, three times convicted, fallen just out, and he's going to turn his life around, and he's such a sweet guy, and he's going to, you know, he's going to become the next rising star in MMA and he's 35. You know, in a 22, 23-year-old, you know, you just, you know, for fashion, you just sit down and go, you're every one. And oh, by the way, four weeks later when he's hitting her, just doesn't understand why. Yeah. Well, there is the, you know, I had a word for it. Oh, I call it emotional pornography. Yes. Okay. And emotional pornography, it's one of my first blog posts that I wrote back in 2011, and it's fairly easy to define. It's setting up false expectations for relationships, false expectations about romance. So we talk about the romance industry all the time. It's huge. I actually had a couple of dates with the romance author. Oh, wow. Yeah. She specialized in a particular niche, but it was very interesting. 25%, sorry, 50% of old paperback books sold the romances. Right, yeah. 50%. Okay, so we have this emotional pornography that's circulating. Are you familiar with the screenwriter, Nora Ephron? Sounds real familiar. When Harry Met Sally? Yes, there you go. So this is in Seattle? Mm-hmm. You've got mail? Yeah. Every cutie made Ryan move out there. And she, I mean, she recently passed away, but she was doing more of a ruined relationship of expectations than anybody else. Because we go to see these romantic comedies and we think this is how life should be. And it's not like that whatsoever. You know, and I talked about in my presentation, you know, where we have certain behavioral traits that are all inherited that can't be overwritten. Right, it's genetic. And I know in my speech, I specifically was talking about how the mammalian brain formulates, and that's where the emotional and motivation center is. Right. And women's neuro-snapses are actually structured and hardwired more rapidly to work in that dynamic. It's one of the reasons why they're nurturing and supportive, and that would have been a biological response to, you know, your graph of human evolution and time period of hunting and gathering and all those sort of things, and why women invented, you know, planning and seeding. Yeah. Because the guys were out, literally didn't have time to sit and do that. We're not going to, you know, see the benefits of seed, seed stronger and grow. Right. So you sit down and see that and notice that response, and well, women are prone to emotionally deal. We're visually based. You know, we have to spot danger, which is the same thing where I was literally talking why guys see G-sized tits wiggling and you can't find, you know, visual capture as opposed to emotional capture. And so, you know, for me, knowledge is that there's understanding in the knowledge. And so, once you have that knowledge, you can start to understand the solutions because it almost presents itself. It doesn't take a whole lot more. And I can be more empathetic for it. It's interesting because there's a dating coach out there. It's based out in Los Angeles called the Ebenmark Cats. He's very clever to follow. He's very good at what he does. And part of his curriculum is educating women about men. Because men are visual. We've got certain behaviors that in modern society are not appropriate, but will be appropriately appropriate in a hunter-gatherer society. And we are visually visual capture, like that term. We look at young attractive women. Yeah. This is what we do. And it's our lizard breed. Yeah. It's the same brain structure that every vertebrate has. Not just mammal, vertebrate. So it's reptilian in nature. Yeah. And it's the oldest, 500 million years old evolutionary development. It's been responsive. And the other thing I find terribly fascinating is both the hindbrain, the lizard brain, and the mammalian complex, the middle brain will actually start to neurologically shut down the cerebral cortex, the rational brain. So what you end up having is the irrational parts of our brain, the hindbrain and the middle brain, literally shutting down the rational component so you don't think rational. And if you're dealing with that and you don't have a way or conditioning or train yourself to resist that sort of behavior, you're going to be subject to it. Well, I'm friendly with a neurobiologist out of Nova South Eastern University. Her name is Dawn Maslin. Nice woman we've gone back and forth. I think we've talked on the phone. And she says that being in love is like being on drugs. Oh, it absolutely is. Because your rational brain shuts down. Nick Sparks talked about that. Not just the shutting down, but the flooding of chemicals. All this sort of chemical industry. These are the same ones people are getting on chemical highs. That cocaine releases, that heroin releases. And you sit down and say it's very, very possible to become love addicted to the neurological responses to it. And you almost kind of wonder, again, people who are they say the quote, love addicted, they're compensating for a lack of connection. I've never seen anybody love addicted that was in a healthy loving relationship because they're getting it. It's always a coping mechanism for a lack of attachment. Social isolation and those sort of things. And to kind of understand that nature of it. If you don't understand the nature of it, you can never resolve the problem. And so you start looking at that and understanding that issue. Well, there's going to be there's new studies. We've got new sensing technology and it's interesting because it's very controversial. When you start studying the differences between a man's brain and a woman's brain, it brings out the people, the blank slaters who think that all human behavior is a construct. It's a social construct. And I've read quotes from relatively well-known sociologists not scientists per se, but sociologists saying, why are we even studying this? Right. It's like, don't study that. I've been clear. Men and women are different. And what I find is, again, they're shutting down the communication. Science has never resolved. It's always open for retesting and that's the part of the scientific basis is the ability to retest or assumptions. And it's only resolved if you continue to test and have the same assumptions. And when you don't control the variables, like for example, the publications you talked about that when you have articles being written or papers being written on polling data and we know that's notoriously bad. I answered a question an audience member literally to that where they're saying this. I don't know the study you read. I can't reference it. But I would go back and read the paper. What was the study like? How accurate was it? Was it really a study? And then like you were saying, who was funding it? Advocacy research. But again, this stuff is coming out and I think that the blank slaters are going to be... your voices are going to be muted more and more and the science is very, very, very becoming clearer. Well, and my thing is I think people want to be happy. For example, I gave up a while back with the men's rights organization. Not so much that I was just giving it up, but I was focusing on other things because what I find is I didn't want to be opposed to or fight something. I would rather focus on living and thriving and by example, you'll gather more followers and people will look your way by success rather than trying to combat something because at a certain point intuitively everybody knows that it's an African saying that when elephants fight it's a grass that gets trampled and nobody wants to live in a house with fighting elephants. It's interesting though that when I first started my blog back in 2011, the day after Valentine's Day by the way is that I had some fairly inflammatory posts because I was still getting my sense and my rhythm and what I was going to be covering so back in 2011-2012 I had some inflammatory posts and I said some bad shit about women. I did. I generalized negative. Those posts always got the most traffic. Oh yeah, without a doubt. I was always thinking if you ever want to become famous the easiest and fastest way you can become famous is to throw a brick through a window. You just have to know what brick through what window to throw and in society unfortunately is a glass house. I know that's very true. Some of my blogging peers, I mean they're known for being just real tough and they get a lot of hate mail and they get a lot of haters and I'm kind of lucky I don't get a lot of haters. Well, drive traffic. Let's really be honest and if it drives traffic there's a business model attached to it. Right and again because I'm not making any money from this. I have a donate button. I don't even have that. And I've done some one-on-one stuff by Skype in the past and it was the exception more than the rule. Right. Now that I'm working full-time again it's just like, well, you know, I gotta work full-time. It's one of the reasons I got here yesterday and not the day before. I got a full-time gig and like I said I could be making money I suppose but I don't think I have the personality and frankly I think it's a younger man's game. I really do. See, this is where I would actually disagree with you. I think the industry has been focused on younger men. I think there's a huge market out there that's not tapped. Guys that are socially isolated. Guys who are hurt. Literally your experience is not uncommon. And to sit down and say that there's a lot of men who look at it and go, I'm not going to go back and do a quote a young man's game. I'm not going to go out in peacock and steal superstories and run cubes on 40-year-old women. And I've done it really does. And here's the other one, it's shades of gray. I can remember and this is going to sound really horrible. We went to a bar that actually was an outdoor bar but across the way was a movie theater and all these women are going to see this movie and we would just literally almost be kind of rude to sit down and just as a social experiment just tell them no or whatever it was and no woman likes to be told no but my god these women go in snarling at us come back out and just were wrapping themselves around with their finger with saying no. It's like why are your panties on? And they're like what? And like go to the bathroom and take them off. And it's like I'm not doing that, I'm not doing that. And you just back turn. Actions not words. And back turn. And I did it as a fucking joke and I'm thinking that she's going to pop her clutch open when she comes back because she left and we're like oh my god she's going. And going right to the back she's like holy shit she's doing it. And she comes back and instead of just she comes back and drops it on the table. Perfect. And I just say have a seat. Well if you read the book A Billion Wicked Thoughts by David Busse and another guy who's named escapes me you'll see that the one thing that women respond to more than anything else it's like a counter percent response rate a positively sexual response rate is dominance. Yes in your talk go into that because you were explaining the difference between and domineering. First of all world a difference. The problem with the English language is it's very hard the English language is very limited I'm sure there's some fancy long German word that would cover this immediately but Germans have a word for everything. If not they just start combining We don't have that luxury in the English language. Women want they respond positively sexually to dominance but the problem is it's too close to domineering and so it has a negative connotation. Now technically speaking it shouldn't have a negative connotation but the reality on the ground is when you say dominant it has more of a negative connotation based on the context of course so that's why I like to word leadership and so there are other words in the English language that describe seduction and courtship and all that that just aren't quite spot on and our language just doesn't cover the nuance it doesn't cover the thorough connotations Yeah, so dominance yes women respond to dominance but I like to say leadership instead The other one is I'll use ownership or agency and so for in particular I've talked to a number of guys to sit down and say look it's been a man's role to initiate the relationship all the way through our cross from initiation, conversation from walking across, leading and so when you line all these things up there's like a hundred steps if you really break it down all the way up to it and as soon as you're in the relationship all of a sudden it's hers and my answer is no that relationship is still demands and that is your bus, your driving and if she ever reaches for that wheel to grab control of it your job is to pull that thing over tell her to sit down that's not your place pull over, stop and if she isn't going to get out it's called the captain first mate model that's the guy I haven't read anything and not only because I haven't read he's still producing workers he's actually gone into the marriage counseling business now he's certifying people with that methodology I've been following Athol since 2011 and he's turning it into a real business and he's fully red-billed it's on his blog and the name of his blog is Married Man's Sex Life and I know he's put the first book out, I know he's put it on his third or fourth at this point but that's the captain first mate model in the relationship because he's happily married and he doesn't want to deal with PUA and seduction and picking up women but some of the same kinds of things apply so then in the dating process a man, instead of my presentation he doesn't ask for a date, he states the date he says I'm going to break the conversation with you we're going to have a date or do you want a date? we're going to have a date are you free? and that's the courtship process that is a very bold confident maneuver and it shows leadership in that process now I've also been told guys to be very worried when they do that so for example I will track I did it when I was single with a number of women but my partner now I'll track our ovulation cycle and I know that to be dominant just prior to our ovulating is when she's going to respond the best so I know within that window I have about a five or six day window when she really wants Mr. Gray and I don't mean like mean harsh but just sort of like babe we're going out we're having Chinese or get your stuff on not that dress, not tonight whatever it is you're just young enough so you don't have to worry about this young cats will have no clue you know what I'm talking about but it's interesting on the back side of the ovulation cycle is when she gets really emotionally based and that's when you sit down and say you start being nurtured and that's when I was telling the guys that you come and say okay let's watch it chick float I really wish I had this information about you I would still be married let's talk about that I mean because a lot of the guys are younger and a lot of them are really kind of even fixated on the fact that they can't change that they've got so much personal narrative they're 22, 23 and they feel they can't change their life they're who they are they're fixated in it I got a callus over them I agree and the interesting things I try to explain to them that between you and I right now there's 20 plus years more than your the knowledge of your life that you could just get to my point spending 20 years doing you know marginal things plus one thing a day can you talk about what that changed for you was like it was remarkable it was not overnight there was no epiphany there was no angel visit me at night and hit me with a hammer and say you were in the lead no it wasn't like that it was a series of small events a series of reading websites reading stuff that men were dealing with my own issues so it took a good year two year and a half to finally internalize all this stuff I resisted it highly in the beginning I thought this was horseshit and as I said in the presentation there's no way come on and that's a common reaction when your belief systems are challenged you have to reaffirm that belief system and it took a long time for me to say well wait a minute and it really did change I look at all sorts of stuff and I look at actions over words now because in the presentation I eavesdrop I see body language amongst people and it has been like a new set of glasses in effect or monocle in my case so that I could see the world differently but it took a long time it was not an overnight procedure I was stuck in my ways this happened in my 40s I'm not the young Sprigley fellow that I once was I'm an old Sprigley fellow when I pick up a new skill I'm not going to do it well you know to sit down and say okay I did what you told me well yeah you did but you did it at an amateur level and somebody I'm trying to emulate is playing it's two steps forward one step back and so you have to be kind of consistent at it I also know that people are trying to rush this the process a lot of times the guys who don't understand it don't believe it I said okay fine let's just go out you and I are going to sit out of our social environment and we're going to sit and observe people what's going on what's their story and what happens is they start realizing there's body language signals because when you talk about display language indicators of interest they don't understand what those are or what it is but they can see flirting with other things oh do you see that and the next big step was recognizing when she's doing it and not having security I remember the first time I realized that I could count the number of times until I would actually go over and respond and to sit on it was eight or nine indicators deep and reality every time a woman is trying to have a bid for your attention and you don't respond it's kind of a rejection and after a while that rejection is hard and she's going to stop the problem is because men and women are so different in terms of our behavior and our perceptions is that you hear women talk and again I'm a chronic use dropper and when a bunch of women are at a table talking to a restaurant I'm usually within your shot and they say well I saw this really cute guy at the bar last night or at the meeting or wherever they were at and I was just keep throwing out so many signals so many signals to talk to the guy and it's like what what signals and so this is the whole men from Mars, from Venus that kind of stuff but that's cultural training I would disagree I would say that it's actually biologically based think about it if you hear women they don't want to be judged and they want to have respect within the community if she's very sexually aggressive amongst a tribal community then she can lose respect and status within that community I wouldn't say even respect should be attack in an animal world like I say a primate world would literally be subject to attack I'm keeping it from staying away from the primates, did you have a question? oh yeah I got a couple prompts for you guys but you guys are just on a roll so I didn't even want to stop this is what happens when we start going I knew this was going to be a good one first thing I got to say is earlier when you guys were talking somebody asked if Andrew was Socrates' son what piece of shit said that that's just cool somebody else said isn't Andrew older than Socrates that's awesome is this too loud? I'll turn it out alright so we got a couple of them prompt here Socrates you heard something like this yesterday so this is kind of for Andrew so if you can go first and Socrates if you have a follow up do instincts completely override the changes in technology over the last decade for example girls that have much less social skill due to an increase in communication done over text messages instead of in person I would say I don't know if it's on a DNA level yet we're going to evolve into I don't like the signs but yes the use of technology can override on a circular behavior level I don't know about DNA level but yeah absolutely we are losing social skills in a major way men and women alike this is the biggest complaint that women have about men and young men have about young women by using these lovely devices for communication we do lose some of that some of our ability to perceive body language and other things is going to decrease social skills like any skill you got to practice I literally ended my speech this go run stating that values accrued by individuals who show up prepared aware and able to make a difference and clearly the digital media and social media is affecting our abilities to relate socially and people that have them are vastly more successful so for example I know a lot of people are using standard back and forth to initiate but what it's amazing if you're going to move from beyond the social media element you have to be able to engage you know in a social construct yeah I get that question a lot on my blog and I'll end my response there's a great website called succeedsocially.com from my Canadian guy for free and he's really good and he's got exercises and he's got essays and he does this for free it's been around for a long time and I recommend it highly to everybody again it's a nice free resource succeed socially succeedsocially.com alright I've got a follow up for that last one and then one more question and then we'll wrap up so where do you think we are headed what are your predictions in one minute or less what are your predictions for a socialization of the future do you think this is like a short term gap caused by cell phones do you think a new technology in the future might make things better and here's my prediction I'm going to step into the role of the futurist have you ever heard of the expression wet wired no, wet wired is right now the human-machine interface I love this software development it's limited by the size of our hand absolutely true it's limited by the size of our hand they can't get much bigger than this okay so what's the next big revolution is going to be where there's going to be an implant in the brain and I know this because the one updating actually has co-clear implants for her hearing we have the technology it will be embedded directly into the brain and therefore you can think to change something on your device or to contact with somebody else or whatever it'll take 50, 60, 100 years of all but that's where it's going to come human beings are going to be wet wired into the network so to speak so that's wet wired wet wired right into the brain that's what it's called so my predictions are going to be kind of dark it's kind of science fiction type stuff science fiction and everything really rosy my concerns is that as feminism is more and more ingrained socially and become more and more mainstream matriarchies are not sustainable and where they are sustainable they're in mud and grass huts and so technologically not advancing they're not supportive we know of civilization has been because of patriarchy and families and particularly husbands and fathers and when you remove fathers from the equations you have failed societies and we have a number of serious examples we can draw upon and in every instance violence and poverty and social behavioral disorders go through the roof and women and children are in particularly damaged most part and you see male aggression you see male sexual physical dimorphisms rise and it becomes a vastly more violent place if we don't get a hold of this if reason and rationality and social connections don't win the argument the intellectual and behavioral argument I think we're going to see a society based on those parameters alright and so let's finish off with one last short I don't want to call this an exercise or a question it's just a thought experiment so one of the major pieces or ideas in your speech or there Andrew was that attraction behaviors specifically are predictable yes so Socrates what I want from you name some predictable attraction behaviors start thinking of as many as you can and Andrew I want you to explain evolutionarily how that happens all based on fertility all based on fertility as I said before the purpose of human beings is to make more human beings so let's test it Socrates you're talking about a conference behavior of a man saying come here now or now you know or doing just this you know that's that's that's a dominant role you know and you'll start to see that when you I think you brought up earlier caveman when you can kind of hook a girl and kind of bring her in that sort of thing pulling her hair generally you know particularly like that nibbling on her lip those are all response mechanisms and based on those response mechanisms you also have genitalia simulation okay guys get physically aroused women will get physically aroused we can look at studies on rape where you have a violent action taking place and why do women orgasm a third of the time now I'm not saying it's consensual by any stretch of the means I'm not saying it's not criminal and it should be absolutely condoned but these are physiological responses that are not not basically negotiated these these are absolutely genetic responses to an event to stimulation to being violated and that that is a genetic component that's not willful behavior so cool final messages and then Andrew I'll let you tell everybody where you're at online sure you go first you can generally find me either at 21 universities in any of the videos there you just look up Socrates or you can find my blog at manningupsmart.com and I am the private man wordpress.com because I'm a cheapskate and again I'm not monetizing it that's where my blog is I've been doing it for a long time I've got about 600 blog posts whole story of my cancers on there what else have I got in there my videos are in there it's just a free wordpress site and you can google the private man and it's number one on the the search return and my goals are typically just to help people navigate the sexual marketplace and understand the values of relationships relationship skills, maintenance and repair cool thank you so much guys awesome