 TV isn't just one incident, it's usually been built up over time based on a pattern of behaviours and controlling behaviours which has been designed to isolate one party from the other, to maximise the control that person has over the victim. It kind of started as friends, like Facebook friends, no boys. He would check my social media accounts, see who I was talking to. I was paying rent, I was paying for the cars, I was paying for food, I was paying for everything. I didn't have any family, I didn't have any friends up there, it was just me and him. It can be someone who has full control over someone's finances or they're controlling who they can and can't be friends with or the family members they can and can't see, it's not always going to be, you walk into a situation and somebody is physically hurt. Are they being isolated from their family or controlled by another person? They can't speak to the people or reach out for support that they need and people may not tell us that, these are things that we ask them. And if someone's using strangulation suffocation to control them, you would naturally assume they'd want to get away from it. On the inside, absolutely, of course they would. Can they do they? Well, no, plenty of stuff. I honestly thought that everything that he did to me was my fault, but really when I looked at it and opened up to one of the officers, when I put the order against him and I was just letting it all out, I kind of realised like, wow, this is actually very bad, very toxic.