 another video welcome everyone to this life we're gonna be talking about what happens when you go no contact no contact with the narcissist so first let's talk about what leads to that point where you've had enough of them you know I'm going to deal with them anymore maybe they said or did something that you didn't approve of things you didn't like and you just had enough of them I didn't want to deal with them anymore you confronted them you knew nothing was gonna change and if you haven't already maybe you're thinking about going no contact with the narcissist because you just know that nothing's going to change you know they're always going to be this way and you just don't want to deal with it anymore so what happens when you go no contact with the narcissist amazing things let me tell you of course they want you to think that without them you're gonna be miserable your life is gonna be so much more difficult but they just say that to control you is to keep you stuck so that you can't move on and they will do all of these things to try and sabotage or escape to keep you stuck because they already know that once you get out of there you're gonna realize just how much better life is without them and they know that once you experience that you're never going to want to come back because when you get out of there when you experience real freedom without the narcissist you will never want to go back to them the life is just so much easier so much better without these people in your life just imagine it you just leave the narcissist behind and finally you can do what you want to do you don't have to answer to them every day you don't have to listen to their endless arguments their commands the dictations you don't have to listen to that stuff anymore and you can finally do what you want to do you can finally live the life that you want to live the life that you always wanted to live until they got around you and they controlled you and they put you down making you feel like you could never escape because they made you believe that you could make it out there on your own they made you believe that you weren't good enough so you needed them but they needed you far more than you ever needed them they wanted you to think that they were the missing piece to your puzzle when the truth is as long as they're around you will never feel complete and that is the truth it's only when you get out of there that is when you can complete yourself the only thing stopping you from feeling whole and complete is the narcissist hell yeah Ricky it is amazing living my best life that's so good to hear that's what it's all about it's about getting rid of these narcissists out of your life once and for all I'm living your best life without them because as long as they're around you're always going to be miserable how can anyone be happy with a narcissist it's just not possible at all because it's like this endless game of chess anytime that you're happy they're miserable and then they have to put you down to their level so that they can elevate your expense so you can never both be happy it's just not going to work that way and I'm not saying this is easy I'm not saying that you can just go no contact with a narcissist and then suddenly you'll feel better no it does take time but you are all capable of getting out of there and getting to the place where you need to be of course you know I do have to put a disclaimer here I'm not saying that anyone can and should go no contact with a narcissist of course narcissists are dangerous and if yours is violent or you fear that they may start a smear campaign against you and completely ruin your career completely ruin your life you do need to be very cautious and maybe you can't just go no contact with them so please use your judgment here okay because this message may not be suitable for you but for those of you who do feel that you can get out of there you can go no contact trust me it will be the best decision you make in your life and you will be wishing that you made that decision earlier because it's the feeling you get when you get out it's just amazing it's like you're just experiencing life again for the first time it's like you've been controlled for all those years you forgot what real life was all about because when you are around the narcissist you're always walking on eggshells you're always worrying if something you say or do might offend them so you tone yourself down you can't really be yourself while they are around and it's just really sad you know because you are gifted with all of these abilities all these qualities and you just can't use them to your full capacity because you're afraid that you're going to make them mad you're afraid that you're going to upset them but when you get out life is great it really is life is so much better without the narcissist it's just when you've been around them for such a long time you feel comfortable and they trick you into thinking that you're not as good as you are so you're not going to find anything better you don't need to find anything better in another person you will find better in yourself but you won't gain access to that until you leave the narcissist behind but yeah you know it is it's an incredible feeling when you do that it feels amazing and as you know I've experienced that myself and of course I wish for you to experience that too I want you all to do it you might not all be there right now where you are able to go no contact with the narcissist but even if you can't do it right now gradually get yourself to the place where you can but just work towards it if you don't go no contact with the narcissist maybe at some point they will discard you and when they've trauma bonded you that can be a very painful experience because you've attached to them and they've done everything they can to make you attach to them well they're not even attached to you and then they just leave you behind like you're nothing it breaks you apart you just look at yourself and think was I that bad did I really do all these horrible things and maybe they didn't do anything to me maybe they were perfect and it was just me I just screwed it all up because that's what they want you to think they want you to think that you were the problem I've been there you know I've been at the lowest point in my life where I had nothing where I lived off just 500 pounds a month that's all I had to look after myself to look after my cat I've been in a dark place myself you know and it's hard when you have to go through that you know this isn't just something that I talk about on YouTube I've really been living this every day this is my life this is real and I know that you've all been through this too especially my older viewers people who have been with me since the start I know you've been on this journey with me you've watched me grow you watched me become who I am today and I love and appreciate all of you for that but yeah you know I just want you to know I've been through hard times myself I've struggled and you know the word times where I wished that I had just gone no contact with a narcissist but then actually saying that when I look back I guess that is actually what I did you know with a narcissist that I was with you know every time she used to phone me should always be like gaslighting me and putting me down on the phone and it just got to the point where I stopped answering her phone calls and then she discarded me but then depends on how you look at it you could say that I discarded it you could say that I went no contact and I'll admit you know it was hard in the beginning I did struggle there was a tough few months and then I found out about narcissism from Sam Vaknin's videos I was researching about it for a few months and I was posting comments on the YouTube videos from several different youtubers and then people said you know maybe you should start a channel of your own and you know I thought why not I wasn't really too confident myself at the time but you know I felt like I had some experience I had some knowledge from the videos that I had watched over the past few months before that so I just went ahead and created the channel it grew very quickly and I went from living off 500 pounds a month to then making about 2,000 pounds a month within the first five months of creating the channel and then within the first year I was then making five thousand pounds a month and since then it just doubled it just grew and grew and I don't have to struggle anymore and I've been through the trials and tribulations I've suffered and I've come out the other side but I'm not saying this to brag you know this is so you know that it's real so you know that you can do it too Alex Sandrina asks where is your knock now the last thing I saw of the narcissist was that she was working in my local supermarket I just saw her working there and she was just kind of looking at me and laughing at me as though I was beneath her or something and ever since I noticed it then I changed supermarkets then I went to you know I go to a supermarket now that's more of market they just sell better foods so yeah yeah be happy says who's laughing oh no you know I can honestly say despite everything that was done to me I've never been like that you know I've never been someone who looks down on people or someone who wants revenge you know despite everything she did to me I honestly I wish her the best in life I really do you know I don't want to see her down I don't want to see her struggling and you know it did it kind of hurt me you know when I saw it working in the supermarket I mean you know not that I'm against anyone who's working or anything whether it's in a supermarket or not but you know if any of you know about the story with the narcissist she was trying to manipulate me and she was saying about how she's living her best life and I don't know to me that's just that's not my idea of her living her best life at all but you know that's just me that's just my perspective of it and you know different people might see it differently and I respect that but yeah you know I was never one to look down on people or even to take revenge you know I'm all for just moving on and you know letting other people to move on with their lives and you know I'm not gonna go around telling anyone what to do I spread the awareness here on the YouTube as you know I don't mention any names or personal information it's never been about that this is about helping people it's not about tearing people down or trying to ruin people's lives it has never been about that at all thanks for the donation true love Matt Williams says she was lying in s she's miserable sadly you know I can't really say you know how narcissists feel although I do tend to do that in my videos I know but you know I know a feeling is to our own interpretation really but if someone was to ask me I don't think narcissists can ever feel good I don't think they can ever experience real happiness how could anyone feel happy when they've done all of those things and they haven't made themselves at peace with what they've done they haven't accepted it they're still in denial and it's still ongoing now they're still doing these things how could a happy person ever do any of that and that's when you might realize that these people are not happy at all you know they're very hurt and I think that people who are hurt do deserve our compassion I'm not saying you have to spend time with them or be around them but I think it's good to be compassionate from afar and to know that you know these are people who are going through a difficult time they're struggling with their emotions God's favor asks do you think she watches your channel I honestly wouldn't be surprised but she's probably seeing it as though this is just a load of BS I'm just making it all up you know that's what these narcissists will think they're not going to take anything you say seriously remember they always have to think that they're the victims but of course you know I never made this channel to act as this victim or anything that's why I call myself narc survivor you know we've survived something it's all about moving past that stage of being the victim but yeah I really appreciate all of their support I'm just looking through all of the comments now multi-powers asks how old are you I'm 32 anyway that's all for this life I will be back tomorrow as you may know we are celebrating the achievement of 100,000 subscribers so I will be going live tomorrow at 7 p.m. GMT plus one London time so I hope to see you there thank you all for joining this life and you all have a good day