 Let me get this set up. I'm trying to make sure my Wi-Fi on Slow day-to-day, so I want to pop in and some more questions I mean every time when I try to do it. I try to get through the questions, but can't always get to them all so Being that we pretty still right now. I figure No better time. God bless you Bullets or if I miss you last night or if you missed the Q&A just put your question with the hashtag Q in there and Then I'll Catch it if I can Can you do a video on? Men with mommy issues, please. Hey, that's a good one. I'll try to do that. I remember to Put that down. I'm guessing like mama's boys Keeley God bless you God bless you how to stop Possessing over a crush You know what I feel like that's a huge issue that a lot of women have and What happens is you taking you give a man credit that he hasn't earned and the thing about it Which would you see it across the board what a lot of women are doing is you? Thinking about and really what it is you thinking about love And you falling in love with the idea of love But you really don't have love and you really don't know that man So you just have to remind yourself and be able to say to yourself over and over. I don't know him I don't know him. I don't know him And when you realize that and then you have to ask yourself, you know, what is he giving me? Does he notice me as he paying attention to me? Is he coming for me and the answer is no the more you give yourself that reality check the more it helps you Can you do a video on single mom overcoming? Relationship how to recover fully for a good man No can't do that on here all of just cuz YouTube, you know guidelines you can't talk about That topic on here. So you probably will need to Do therapy we got some therapists on my mentor dot life. I don't know if I'll See the website on here my mentor dot life It's coaches on there who are also, you know, therapists So if you're in their state, then you can you know find a coach in your state, but too too deep for for you to and But at the same time Angelica God bless you. I see you right there. Let me see who I'm Miss somebody bless you Now I'm gonna try to be on here today to my phone die now I still got the iPhone 10. So this battery ain't as good as that 11 So I heard I need I'm gonna try to get get that 11 But then they to close the store so I didn't get to get to it How to stop unblocking my ex and giving him access to me That's gonna be a personal choice, you know, that's gonna be your personal choice But the way you gonna be able to do that is you got to remind yourself Why you blocked them you got to remind yourself why you broke up with them So you got to sit down and go through that and the thing is just like anything in life when something first happens We we feel it But then with time Time starts to heal it because you get further away from it And we forget the steam we forget what it felt like So then you forget what it felt like and then you unblock them and you give them access But and that's because you're not reminding yourself of who he is and what he did and why you had to block them to begin with It's also because you're not doing the work So you have to ask yourself how many coaching sessions have I had how many courses have our online courses? Have I taken how many seminars have I gone to how many books? Have I read see what happens when you do the work which I always talk about doing the work when you do the work you take And you replace the old with the new because when you're doing the work You are now gaining clarity and you understand what you went through so you can label that you can put a label on that and say Okay, that was this that was this and then now You understand it and you can move forward But as long as you sit and still and you're not doing the work You really don't even understand and process what you went through So that's how I was gonna help you with that. Hey Tony. Can you do a video on how men hide there? Y'all ask me some questions on here for here cuz y'all ask about a video just pull the question from that because I Ain't gonna be able to write it down. I'm not gonna be able to remember all that so You know just whatever question you have on that just ask me a question on it God wants to be with me but lives with an ex and kids saying their roommates That's a lie That's a lie He want to have you he want to have you on a roster, but a man never gonna live with his ex and Their kids and nothing be going on It also means if he live in there that means that he doesn't have the means to Be on his own to pay to pay his own way He don't have the money or he's still in a relationship So it's one or the other either he doesn't have the stability to stand on his own two feet or He's still in a relationship with her. That's the only reason a man gonna live with a woman Samantha is a coach My contact info is on my mentor dot life. I'll be glad to help you Samantha is a coach on my mentor dot life So y'all make sure if you're looking for a coach that you visit the site Hey, Tony, thank you for taking the time to do what God called you to do You repeat yourself a lot and it takes a lot of patience to continue to do so on such a genuine loving way. God bless you Hey, thank you. I'm glad you realized that I Be having to say the same thing over and over every day But you know, it's always somebody new who missed the message the time before Is it okay to say hi to a man or should I ignore him until he notices me? Because isn't it important to build a friendship first before actually dating? I mean you cuz I don't know what you mean by saying hi like if you passing a man and and you Smile and nod like you look his way and y'all catch eyes and you smile and nod In a in essence, that's hi, but if you mean walking up to him to say hi My name is such and such that's not necessary You're doing the most because what you have to realize about men is that a man sees you a man sees you Before you see him and if he doesn't see you that means he's not looking for women That means that he is locked in he's focused On whatever it may be his woman his goals his man But if he does not approach you and say something to you that means he either It's not into you or he is all he's emotionally unavailable So it's never Time to approach a man and say hey Because men just have it in us innately to approach the woman we want to approach And if a man isn't approaching you, it's a reason for it Actually, I'm glad you catching the lives Tonya. I just found out I can become a coach on my mentor that life I'm coming. Hey, go ahead. Share. Yeah, it's it's open When you go on my mentor got life, you'll see one button says become a coach one button says Hire a coach. So yeah, if you're a coach or you're a consultant, it's a good time to join while so many people around the world sitting still and Working on themselves How did he see me as? weak when I checked him on How do you see me as weak when I checked him on any disrespect and was willing to leave if no change I'm not sure if you finish it on from from another question Okay, how do you know if a man has mommy issues and if he does how can I still date him? You you can tell that's a good question. Thank you for putting it in question form just in case the video is months from now You can tell when a man has mommy issues by he will interject her He will put her in your situation. So he will be quoting her for one He'll call her in front of he'll call her in front of you and so you will see Him talking to her all the time so that that'll happen and Another thing what'll happen is? He'll always be leaning to what my mom said this or let me ask my mom my mom said that You know or if it's mommy issues in the sense of on the flip side for some people If she wasn't a good mom if she wasn't there then he may have a disdain for women You'll notice that as well So it's different types, but when his mom is coming up and and things are getting in the way like For example, like I'm I'm married as y'all know going on 13 years this month And I have two sons with my wife So my mom and I we talk on the phone probably once a month, which I need to increase that but That's because my focus versus my family and if me and my wife talking about something I don't have to say let me check with my mom Let me get my mom's opinion, you know My wife doesn't have to worry about what my mom said this my mom said that you know And there's been times to where my mom has wanted to overstep her boundaries and had to get checked by me and Be told listen. That's my wife, you know Don't don't don't come out the mouth anything negative about my wife I had to tell my mom that my sister that you know anybody other women constituents colleagues Don't come out the mouth wrong about my wife So to in essence in the good books as a man will forsake his mother and father and cleave to his wife so if you don't feel that sense that this man has grown and stands on his own two feet then That's when you need to if it's even a question about him having mommy issues Then you got to be real about that and address that Nisha God bless you God bless you. I'm for your blessing. I love my ex. He is in the streets Read between the lines. He has a criminal background, but has a good soul to leave him for that That does not make sense It does make sense to leave him for that because if you don't believe in him to the point to where you know I was in the streets. That's why my wife left me and If you don't and that's why I became who I am see has she not left me when I was in the streets And when I say I was in the streets I was full-time in the streets when we first got back together I wasn't working a job and then I went and got a job because she wasn't cool with it and then even having a job I still went back to the streets and Although it was I had start over and small and I'm building back up eventually it would have got really really big But what happens is is I got raw and just how them guys touch my car Well in my car. I had envelopes. I had mail to my house which had my Apartment number on it. So guess what they could also later touch my house which had my wife and My son in there. So it'll bring it the danger to your front door. And so You can't talk about, you know, a good soul if you got a good soul then speak to his good soul You know speak to his gifts, you know, help him get the money He got and open a barbershop open a clothing store write a book, you know do something like Other than something that's illegal because if you are reinforcing that then he gonna stay there and eventually it's only two options with that you're gonna lose your life literally or Metaphorically speaking you're gonna lose your freedom or you're gonna lose your life. It's just point blank period Ain't no ain't no other option. Ain't no way out. No other way out unless you get out A. E. God bless you. Hello, bro. Tony checked out your IG and read the Q&A's It answered quite a few of my questions you rock blessings to you and yours always. Hey, thank you so much for reading that The Q&A get a little draining, but I try to do it because people always say hey do the Q&A do the Q&A So I try to go in there. I miss I miss a little bit, but I'm back on it right now because we sitting down Glam dog bless you. I'm 22 and my ex is 21 Now y'all see how tight up this here live on dealing with your ex because I get so many questions by the ex I say, let me just get this thing a title because everybody asking about the ex, but you can ask about whatever I'm 22 and my ex is 21, but I broke up with him because he was emotionally cheating He recently told me he physically cheated in hopes. He could win me back with honesty should I give him a chance? Absolutely not Absolutely not going about your business keep going and you know you did the right thing and a Man does not try to get you back with honesty that he that's not what you're trying to do Honestly, he's trying to hurt you boy. He's trying to hurt you more because What he's trying to do is say oh you want to be big and bad you want to move on you want to be tough I Teed it on you now. He ain't saying it like that But he's gonna come be like, you know, I just want to be honest with you You know, I just I just want to tell you everything and you know, I just want to tell you that You know, I actually physically cheated on you too and really it's just the dig deeper It just because that could have been between him and God He could ask God for forgiveness and move on with his life, you know What how they say what you don't know won't hurt you ain't everything meant to be brought up if you know already been forgiven you know already been given grace because a lot of stuff you gonna do and And That you're not gonna go up and tell a man if you dealt with it yourself. You handle it It's out the way but man will use that intentionally because It's a man is never gonna tell anything on himself So when a man tells something it's because he absolutely feels all the evidence is out there and you know anyways or Just a sting a little bit more and if you go back after him admitting that to you then That's you're saying to him. I'm okay with it so you could do it again and He loses respect for you when you do that. So You can't do that Question boyfriend lost his father six months ago and he is struggling. We live in different countries But last few weeks, he's pulling away and being cold doesn't want to talk on the phone anymore help It has nothing to do with his father It has nothing to do with his father has everything to do with the fact that y'all are long-distance and long-distance Just it's not real for a man. Y'all live in different countries. So it has nothing to do With it with his dad because that's just not how a man's heart works like a man a man's heart And you've seen this if you ever if you ever up close to another man like one of your family members Who loses their father or their brother? It's just not how a man work like men He'll fast like get over things fast and yes, it's gonna hurt, but a month two months Like it a man is never too hurt to deal with a woman just put it like that like To not deal with a woman you might need a week and you might need a week two weeks and In two weeks is if you the most sensitive man that God has made on earth, but your average man To deal with his woman He gonna be able to do that the next day Like because a woman is consolation a woman is comforting So when a man uses a death in the family as a reason to pull away from you So you that's when you got to understand that it's not that that's just his scapegoat That's what he is using to get out but You'll see me and go to go to their family member funeral and not even cry You know, it's not that he don't feel it but it's just how men heart is and and our heart is like that because of Everything that God knew we would have to deal with in the world when it comes to You know Serving for your country and all of this stuff It's a lot that a man sees and has to go through and that's why God made the man's heart the way it is So yeah, that's that's a long distance and I and long distance is not real Long distance is never real for a man Never real for a man and I say never just cuz I don't want to leave in any room if you know your exception to the rule Okay, congratulations. He'll go a cookie, but on average long distance with a man is never real Bolet God bless you. We know we get on your nerves sometime, but count against our heads But count against our heads and not against our hearts. Okay. I got you Hey, this thing is a it ain't easy work now. I didn't want all these different personalities all these different questions But you know How does it affect a man when his father was? Intentionally absent from the home lived in the same community, but not with the mother and the children and did not provide It affects a man in some serious ways And you typically gonna see one of the one extreme or the other So what you're gonna typically see is you're gonna see a man who if his father was intentionally absent he that man is just kind of Void of of real feelings like his he doesn't know how to Or he doesn't desire to have a genuine connection with the one Because of his own biological father couldn't have a genuine connection with his biological mother That kind of throws him off and he's just like I Don't want that my dad must have ran from it for a reason I'm afraid to fail like my dad failed. I don't want to do my children away He did me so a man would be all the way over there or he'll be on To the other extreme of he's super clingy super loving almost overbearing because His father was not there and you rarely find that in that in between So you just kind of got to see which one he is and then You know, it's kind of like picking You know, which which one you want to go down with because both could end up being Not good situation But you you just got to really take your time and evaluate that man All of God bless you met a nice guy says he's a man of God But lives with his parents am I being shallow because I told him I don't think we're equally yo um Well, you got to evaluate why he lives with his parents So if he lives with his parents and he doesn't have a job Then y'all are not equally yo if he lives with his parents because they need him and he's taking care of them in their old age Then that's a different situation if he lives with his parents and he has money He has a job and he has the means to afford his own place But his culture says stay with your parents until You absolutely have to move like until you meet your wife and it's time to go on with your life Then that's something totally different too but if you live with his parents and there he's riding off of them like living off of them and he's not really ambitious or a go-getter and Things of that nature then that's when you've got a problem You know, that's when it makes more sense But what I've come to learn which I didn't really understand or know because in my culture you know Where I'm from and the family we be trying to get out of house around 16 We be so ready to go but you know 17 18 you definitely gone like my sister moved out when she was 16 Soon as I left for college at 18. I never lived with my parents since then so You know, but I've learned other cultures like people from the islands and different, you know races sometimes different cultures They'll stay together and they they all stay together and you would they believe in staying in the house together and everybody Put their money in and all that so, you know, you got to see Okay, yeah, so if he got a job then he just he probably just stacking his money They probably one of them families just believe stack your money until you meet your wife So you could actually be passing up on a good man who was being financially responsible And he's like why live by myself and have random women in and out and you know How to pay all these bills when I don't have a wife So I would kind of rethink that because if he's ambitious enough to have a job Then he may be standing for other reasons so it'd be best to ask him, you know Why do you still live with your parents, you know What's your what's your thoughts on that and what's the reasoning behind that and get that answer and then if he Give your lazy sorry answer then, you know, that's just his makeup, you know failure to launch But if he gives you a very, you know, financially sound reason of why he's doing it then you know, you got a man who is fiscally responsible and That could actually be an asset to you in in a relationship Found out a guy was talking to was dealing with me found out a guy I was talking to was dealing with me while he was on a break with his ex He unblocked me after a month after it didn't work out with his ex. Why does he still want a friendship? That's just me, you know me and struggle being alone me and struggle being alone and you know, you are what He would consider a hold me down the hold me down woman, you know just to kind of You you just give them to the next situation He doesn't want you doesn't want to be with you has a soul tie with his ex But you you the commercial break, you know, you the commercial break the way you still could be entertained You'd have time show Still could be entertained until the game is back on so with men like that you just got to keep it more You got to keep it more Hello, Tony, how and when do you tell a man that you're dating that you have been married before you tell a man That on first date you tell a man that on Thursday that that on that does not matter to a man And the longer you wait the sneakier you look So if you've been married and you wait till month three month six to tell a man you was married Now you can't trust you now you sneaky, but it's actually in a woman's Favor to have been married Men are more concerned with a woman who's never been married over a certain age especially like men get more concerned about that just because It's kind of like It's kind of like when when a man Chooses a woman Yeah, unless you really young like under 35 then When he chooses a woman for her to have been married that means that another man Thought she was a wife and had what it took to be with her so That is like a it's a stamp. You know, it's like a stamp of approval So marriage is not like the scarlet letter a whatever that used to mean in the book in school I can't remember what that meant, but It's not a bad thing How should I go about explaining to my son when he gets older what happened between me and his dad as far as Us not being together. When should I explain that? As soon as he is at the age of understanding Explain it and just keep it real, you know, but it has to be an age of understanding love and relationship So when he starts to get ready to talk to women then you got a 1213 probably around when he can understand how because he's seen his friends getting Relationships and break up so we have some understanding but six seven eight It really ain't gonna go over Not fair for men to judge women who have never been married Yeah, it's not about on and it's not, you know across the board with every man, but it's also depending on age so If you hit 40 and you've never been married, it is true that me and do raise eyebrow and like Okay, but but that's not the end of the story because now he has to realize is it you That your standards and you loving yourself is the reason why you haven't been married or is it that? You crazy and every man you've met you've ran off So he gonna raise the eyebrow But then he gonna take the time to kind of talk to you get to know you and see what side if it's because You're a good woman and you just not gonna put up with games and grown boys Then that's totally different. You know, he don't hold that against you. Let's see Tony. I met a I met the guy right guy, but he smokes Marriage Jane what should I do? If you don't smoke then gone by your business if you don't smoke gone by your business now if you smoke in okay y'all just be blazing together, but I personally Having been around that growing up and having been on the other side in the streets. I Don't recommend Being with a guy who smokes that Just be who has any form of Addiction it's just not it's just not a good thing because if a man is On a substance that he really needs that he can't live without and it's not like health reasons Medical reasons then that shows the imbalance, you know Emotionally and mentally and what that means is he has he's more likely to cheat So when you look at cheating men, it's typically something underlying So you got to really pay attention to that her mark Forgive me if I'm saying your name wrong now But I appreciate that blessing is it normal to think about your ex from time to time Wondering how they are broken up. No contact for five months. I want to get him out of my mind That's very normal. That's very normal. That that's just how the mind works though You know, that's just something that's biological, you know, but it but it's also Emotional and spiritual because you had a relationship with this person and you have a soul tie with that person You had an emotional bond, you know, and y'all connected on that level So when you try to move forward your mind is going to replay Good times scenarios and people you knew people you met and you'll think about a random school teacher Sometimes but you may not pay attention to that because that's not your ex But you think about an old friend that you had in first grade, you know, it's just that's just how the mind works You know, just recalling your past and replaying situations So but when you think about your ex what you have to do is when you think about your ex You can't just let your ex take up, you know rent free space in your mind when you think about your ex You then in that next thought you have to be conscious about Reminding yourself the lessons your ex taught you and why your ex is your ex So don't just think about, you know, y'all little house on the prairie running through the run through the lilies You know chasing sunflowers and and you know letting the sun beam on you Don't just think about that you then Consciously after your mind subconsciously took you to the thought of your ex then you have to consciously take your mind to the thought of Why that is your ex? I love a dangerous soul tire. Listen to you daily move to a new city And change workplace. God is blessing me major, but the devil is coming for my mind advice on not judging myself for my past That's normal. That's normal You may have to be very practical in the sense of Like writing an affirmation card out like getting a three-by-five and writing an affirmation what you want to believe about yourself What you want to tell yourself and read that every morning afternoon and night you have you may have to be that You know specific with it because with the mind you Have to control your mind or your mind will control you. So when you think about self-talk 80% of our self-talk is negative So if you just let your mind run Your self-talk is gonna be negative. So you have to be very intentional About what you want to say to yourself and you got to learn to block thoughts and as soon as that sentence start to come You know, so for me being in business, you know, my relationship is perfect with my wife Me being in business. I may thought may want to subconsciously come to me and say, oh, man Things about to get hard. But as soon as I hear old man I'll block it and I say blessings coming blessings is coming blessings are bounding Abundantly, you know, hey, I'm a money man And I'm I start to speak life and I don't let that negative thought play all the way out and then repeat itself So you have to remind yourself that you are love you have self-love you blessed and highly favorite You are forgiven. You're a better person. You're growing you learning your healing Tony my current guy still shares a house with his ex-wife We have been together One and a half years She is giving him a hard time to sell the house. He is very seldom there, but I am unsure if I should move on or You're in a sticky situation and you kind of you you almost up the creek Without a problem. So you got to really think about this. You dealing with a man who lived with his ex He seldomly there she giving you she giving him a hard time by selling the house But what you got to realize is You don't really know If that's the truth all you get from him is what he's telling you you don't really know if That's actually his ex and Unless he's living with you Then you don't know if he seldomly there Unless you live in next door and you watching so you kind of It sounds like to me you you to hold me down You know, it sounds like to me you playing yourself Because you can't take a man serious who has any close quarters or interaction with his ex unless they have children under the age of 18 So unless it's about their responsibilities, then No You playing yourself Tells you God bless you Forgive me for saying your name wrong My ex says he has never been physical with his so-called female best friend, but Text says otherwise he completely denies physicality with her. What do you think Tony? My ex says he's never been physical with his so-called female best friend But text says otherwise if the text say otherwise if the text say otherwise They ain't gonna they're not gonna be texting about their They're not gonna be texting texting their Figment of their imagination if the text say they was physical and they talking to each other Then they were physical. So and then what you also got to realize is let me see what you said Okay, you say your ex all right So that's a red flag right there You you weren't about your ex and you dealing with your ex see you need to be preparing and getting ready for your next So the first thing is you got to stop worrying about what your ex doing Look at share share is you took the life coach certification share Share she share watch all my videos her and Carmell kisses and to bella Share up there putting words share knew what I was gonna say for I said it stop worrying about your ex That's the first issue so Because a ex you can't believe nothing. He's saying anyways So you got to start preparing to move forward and if your intuition says that Him and her was physical then move on with your life and I'm gonna tell you like this right here men in a relationship a committed relationship Cannot have female friends can have female colleagues and Constituents and Associates but what that means is what that means is is that every that he every single text could be read by you That every text could be read by you that every phone call could be heard by you and that he could share every detail of All their interactions with you if she is a colleague constituent or associate That also means that they only talk about things that pertain to business or work or Things that are important This is not they're not sharing hopes and fears and dreams With with each other if a man is going to be in a relationship He cannot have that type of relationship with another woman that that has to be reserved for his woman Can't be no this my female friend and she was here before you. Okay. Well, she finna be gone after me so point blank period y'all because Humans are are gonna be human and what you got to realize about female friend is that When you talking more than you seeing each other and y'all building then and y'all building That you form in real love you fall in in love and and that's gonna be you know a Issue for you because your man will just be arguing with you But shooting a breeze having a good old time with the female friend and so that will be Building he'll be making love emotionally mentally with the female friend and then making War with you. So you got to understand that Days of God bless you. God bless you. I gracefully walked away Divorced my husband after learning of his affair three years later. He still acts like the victim and hateful Moreover takes it out on our kids. Why I keep a healthy distance Well for one You got to realize and ask yourself. How is he taking it out? On them Now if it's a physical way verbal way, you got to step in between You got to shut that all the way down if it means that he's just getting distance and he's not coming to see them Not buying them anything then that's something he got to answer the God for it That's something he gonna have to answer to them for when they are of age and they can phrase that question to him so you just be there everything and don't worry about all of that and The other thing is you got to realize some man just would never grow, you know So you got to understand that be glad that you over don't don't wreck your brain trying to understand You cannot understand a grown boy. That's one thing that just will not happen You will never understand the ways and the reasoning behind grown boy behavior It just will not make sense. Don't make sense to me as a man I used to be one of those grown boys and it won't ever make sense to you to a man Let me see somebody okay Solomon. I see you God bless you talk about dating No, so mom. I'm sorry. I thought that said Solomon So mom oh three talk about dating younger men That's that's kind of like Raising your little brother, you know, it's kind of like raising your little brother. I Don't recommend it. I don't recommend it Especially if he's more than five years younger than you It'd be more than five years younger than you then It's it's a stretch the chances of y'all really succeeding in a happy and healthy way It's gonna be slim to none. There are people who have done it. It has worked now There are there's always an exception to the rule, but I don't recommend dating younger men You asking for a lot. Okay, Jesse Jay Yeah, something for somebody Tarot T. She gifted in that area. God bless. I want no kind of tarot T No kind of nothing got to do nothing with no Strology psychic none of that. I like to give me a holy Bible I've been in your shoe. Okay, y'all talking to each other Now see y'all talking each other y'all ain't listening word. I'm saying Got me on here talking to myself My boyfriend leaves me for cheating my boyfriend leaves me for cheating yelling and calling Police on him and stealing. I'm changing for him. Do you think there's a chance? I could be the one for him He comes back when I say sorry Y'all a hot mess You know, that's essentially what y'all are and then what what it is you saying sorry and you changing But how are you changing? So you got a lot of issues you got to address you you're gonna need you're gonna need some One-on-one With a therapist to address what happened in your past Then you're gonna need Some coaching with a relationship coach who specializes in Relationships and that's how you're gonna heal and that's how you're gonna grow So you're gonna have to put your money Where your mouth is and really don't just holler I'm sorry and then show up on on the free live You're gonna have to do the real work with the books the courses the coaching wherever that's out there for you and Then show in your actions, but the thing about it. This is the thing. I just finished watching that um That uh CJ madam Walker um Little series on Netflix just finish watching that and they show how She she had that man had a husband Gratting him by them now Swinging y'all don't talk Mike grouting and just twist them and she'll just twist them every day And it just broke him down. She just a masculade them every day every day just a masculade them And yes, he has her vision her dreams and they show him trying to help her trying to help him trying to help her But after a while, he just started to you know, just break down get weaker and weaker and then he'll come old devil He'll come old devil of a woman and she saw that and she prayed on that and he was too dumb to see it And he fell for that other woman when you were masculade a man yelling cursing cheating You'd be better off moving on with your life chalking it up asking for forgiveness Moving on with your life So you'll be better off because if you stay and you Trying to get that man, it's gonna be hard for him to heal in the situation with the woman who did all of that to him and He may actually stick around to get revenge So when you when you dog somebody out, I don't recommend trying to get them to stay with you Let them go about their business you learn from your mistakes and be better for you for the next person Because the person for you that's truly for you. You're not gonna treat them like the length between your toes These are Alan if a man truly values you a God bless you. God bless you if a man truly values you Will he never be your ex in the first place? He will never be your ex in the first place most exes are lessons for us to learn from We have to learn and keep it moving. Oh These are send a blessing in to get that word to y'all now take that word now let that word sit on your heart What she told you know, you'll never be your ex in the first place if he truly value Fitness mom God bless you Lord point out in your life I pray the Lord bless you because because you did this last night With that blessing bless you ex husband divorced me and married his mistress a month later three years Three years on he's sorry and regrets everything Says she's a mistake and should have worked it out. I've worked so hard to forgive and move on That it really ain't a question now, but um Keep working to forgive and move on And be glad that you see that life has taught you That the grass is not always green on the other side also be glad that you have gotten to see that Life that we reap what we sow And know that to be true for yourself and how you treat people and how you move forward in your life So he got exactly what he deserved let him sit in his mess Let him feel it and unless y'all have responsibilities together like raising You know sons and daughters who are under the age of 18. That's the only reason y'all should be talking let him Apologize let him admit the mistake let him feel all of that And let them talk to the let them talk to the voicemail. Let them talk let them sit on red on the text message Let them sit in his mess to get the lesson because because that's what he deserved because he signed up for that So let them let them deal with Demetria god bless your high tone. I'm aware some men give women the side eye Past 35 that haven't been married. So how do we look at men that aren't married past 35? Is that a red flag or if they've been divorced? Well, haven't been married and divorced two different things as you Say And yes, but it's it's up to you You know, you don't look at a man with a side eye just because he look at you with a side eye If it's not in your heart to judge him because he's never been married past the age of 35 Then don't start doing it just because that's what he's doing to you so Don't try to act like a man because a lot of the things that men do is stupid A lot of the things that we do as men should not be emulated or copied And that's the mistake that a lot of women make is starting trying to act like a man when that man could be a grown boy So what you also have to understand is yes, if a man has never been married and he's over the age of 35 I as a man give him will give him a side eye Just because it's too many women. So it does not make sense to me How you could be 35 and never been married when it's so many women. So that tells me that either Either he like men's But his culture won't let him admit to that Or it tells me that he has not worked on himself enough to become husband material to Be ready to marry a woman Or it tells me that every woman he's dated has not wanted to marry him for that reason I just stated he has not become a man So to me it is a Deficiency it is It's not a good thing to me as a man if a man is over the age of 35 and he's never been married unless Unless he's been doing the work of the lord unless he's been living like apostle paul He's been planting and building churches or he's been leading the ministry and he's been doing so According to the will and the word of god meaning abstinent if he's a virgin and never been married By 35 that and he's been doing the work of the lord. He's been touching lives He's been leaving a legacy building a legacy. He's been walking in his purpose. That's something totally different But if he just been out here soaring spreading his Wild oats just living reckless. He's been in fornication. He's been sleeping round touching all different kind of women then Yes, he is a a deviant at 35 and never been married now if he's been divorced that is a good sign Because that means that he had the courage To take that leap even though it didn't work out That he had the courage to Sign the dotted line that says I commit to you until death does us part And he may not have had the maturity or she He could have married the wrong woman and the woman could have been a no good woman so To be married is always To have married and and fail is always a noble thing Because especially if the person did it for the right reasons with pure intentions Now if he were broke busted and disgusted and married a woman for her money and her position in life Okay, that's something totally different But if he did it with an honest heart Trying to be a good man then that's a noble thing Same vice versa Your tour god bless your height only how should having standards be approached? Is it okay to allow a man the time and space to reach your standards once expressed or leave him Or leave him be once you become aware he does not um You first got to express your standards and and really you express your standards Not in like a not in like a bullet point form not in like you just telling him look this everything I needed a man, but you see the way he moves you see what he does and you just checking him You know he coming in late without Updating you and letting you know what's going on you check that he yell at you you check that he cursed at you You check that you know you see some emotional cheese or facebook messages instagram dms You check that so you let him know what you will and won't stand for And you give him an opportunity to show that okay, i'm learning this i'm learning you so let me change and you you Give him that opportunity now if he does not change And you got to address this same thing especially if this thing is a deal breaking situation like the small fox spoils the vine a little bit 11 11 if the whole lump if this is a small thing that he keeps doing that can become a A big issue now you got to realize okay, it's time for me to pull back I may need to move on with my life, but A lot of men will go against your standards just because a lack of knowledge just not knowing what it is to be a man See money. God bless you. God bless you. How? man be cruel to his wife with 2k and now x Just f i don't know that's just female just friends left three months after he had a child One year after he had a child on me At 11 years now has a girlfriend with one kid been in Home with our kids after he gave ultimatum to come back One month in how to let go and forgive Yeah, you're gonna need some coaching You're gonna you're gonna need some coaching that's too deep that's that's too deep You're question too long. You can't even fit the whole question in there. So you're gonna need some you're gonna need some coaching Yeah, you're gonna need some coaching and that kind of man there He he sounded like a mess, but he sounded like he's such a mess. He'd have made you a mess And so you you really gonna you're gonna need some coaching everything ain't ain't for this here Q&A I hate to tell you that but um, but I will tell you this Some things have the same application, you know, so the same way you heal from Uh, 11 year relationship is the same way you heal from a one year relationship And that's by getting a new knowledge getting a new knowledge speaking life to yourself Writing your affirmations getting coaching reading the books learning what you did not know Because when you get new knowledge you replace the old So when you learn what this red flag looks like and when you look back And you look back over that relationship and you talking through it and then you start to see All of the red flags you miss everything you miss everything you did wrong then Now you are prepared and now you're able to say, you know what that wasn't love That was self-hate. That wasn't love. That was lust that Expired that wasn't self-love. That was insecurity. That wasn't love. That was control. That wasn't love So now that new knowledge helps you understand what you went through the Andrea God bless you. Tony. Thank you. I watch all your videos Read and listen to your books Had a one-on-one session a student in your academy. God bless you. You showing me how to love me I'm learning my worth and setting my standards with your teachings Men actually want marriage question mark. So that's that's question mark Hey, thank you. Deandre. God bless you. Thank you for that blessing too. Um Yes, I'm in that one marriage and I be honest with you to be honest with you I think every man wants a marriage, but I think most men problems is just not knowing Who he is as a man And a lot of times a man only Finds out who he is as a man when he sees Himself in the reflection of a woman What I mean by that is when he when he's dealing with this woman And she shows him And she and she speaks life into him and she she stands her ground and she knows who she is A lot of time men learn like that like what a real woman is Learn the value of having a good woman in your life And and once a man experiences a good woman in his life just her being there being a support system Not being a floor mat not allowing herself to be ran over mistreated talk down to But standing her ground and being a support system then What happens is Is a man is able to see like wow, I can't live without this She is an asset to my life because she makes me better and I make her better and we we're strengthening each other So, you know that men won't marriage, but a lot of times a man doesn't know it until he sees it Question at Jesse J that when Find a better job he cheated repeatedly and then put me and my daughter Out the house. I had to go into shelter I don't know if you're talking Jesse J or me Caramel kiss when is a good time to set up a website to your book? To be published Should it be made before you publish the book? Um, yeah, you set it up right away Just because you can start putting on your facebook your instagram your twitter You can have the little button on there that collects emails the way you got email addresses coming in So you can put the first chapter on there and when they give you that email They get the first chapter delivered But now you got the email So now you got a hundred emails when you release the book You're able to send out an email and you may have 10 15 sales on that first day out of them hundred people Or more that you email Question to a man What makes a strong woman or what is a strong woman to a man and that that's a good question Um, a strong woman and this this is a thing that a lot of women Confused because it's I remember it's a book out there. That's called men love bees And that's not actually true. You know, that's that's a lie But a strong woman to a man is a woman who She knows who she is and what she wants and she refuses To accept less than that and what I mean by that is a strong woman Isn't a woman who can be cheated on over and over and over and over again and stay A strong woman isn't a woman who can be you know mistreated and all of that yell that curse that All of that and stay a strong woman is the woman who She can love you and respect you As long as you loving and respecting her and when you stop loving and respecting her She has what it takes to walk away regardless of how much she has put in Regardless of how many years how many kids how much money what she didn't sacrifice how far she didn't move What her friends saying what her family saying? Regardless of how much she has sacrificed and invested in that relationship when you are not reciprocating her love She'll walk off. She'll walk away on you. That's a strong woman to a man Every man knows that every man respects that even though that even though we don't want to deal with the consequences of that The repercussions of that A man gonna know and respect that that when her foot hit the ground the earth shakes And that's what every man truly wants in a woman But see the thing about that's kind of confusing and that selfish about men is that A lot of times a man will want a strong woman But will try to weaken that woman And really what he wants is he wants her to be strong for the world and strong against everybody else But weak for him And it's counterintuitive. It's counterproductive. It just doesn't make sense But that's the stupid things that men do when we operate and as a grown boy We want her to be strong enough to turn down all other men advances But then be weak enough to let us cheat and then she stays or to let us be toxic and she stays And that's that's ignorant But a strong woman gonna be a strong woman, you know with or without you You know for you or against you she she gonna she gonna rise And and that's really what every man wants But a lot of women don't understand that a lot of women think that You know, oh, I gotta be a rider that's what he cheated on me three four times As long as he make up and he cry and he buy me some gifts and we go on some dates and we talk to the pastor I'ma take them back. I'ma keep taking them back. No, you're not a strong woman at that point You're a weak woman and he knows that and you're never gonna get his best as if you weak Fitness mom now see fitness mom blessing y'all she is it because this sound like it's for somebody else question But the questions i'm missing now And some of y'all miss y'all question because you posting while i'm talking so you might want to type it in there But don't hit sin until you see me stop talking Pretty black. I'm guessing that's somebody um screen name What to do with my ex slash Baby daddy tries to deal with me. We both 31 Tell me he'll always love me but in love with another female She publicly humiliates him on facebook by After their constant on and off um So that's your baby daddy So the thing about it is when you got a baby daddy and he talks to like that He childish like that. He dealing with another woman is The only way you deal with him is when it's dealing with your child and that's only if you need him And that's only if he's gonna be responsible and respectful In the presence of your child like he's going to be an asset to your child's life If he's not going to be a healthy Responsible and respectful asset to your child's life Then don't deal with him at all don't deal with him at all if he want to deal with you Let him get the court to tell you that And what because what you also got to realize is you got to judge a man by his choices You judge him by his choices in his own life But then you also judge him by his choices You know in women So if he choosing this sorry no good woman and they always and they off and on And they always on facebook and he and she exposing him and they going back and forth That let you know that if he has a woman like that you can't trust that type of woman around your child so If if he moving like that You as a mother have to protect yours So you got to keep yours away from him until he learned how to pick better women because them same Women that type of women he dealing with them women will be pumping your child in the head your your child come over there I'm child in the head be Putting out cigarettes on your child, you know be you know tan up there Clothes and putting bleach on it clothes and just doing a little stuff to yours because She in the wrong place and so that's what you got to realize You know went went a man when you dealing with a grown boy So true Tony 20 years four kids but had to walk away Just know that I saw good seed in the fertile soil you being one of them as well as A few there are so too blessing from my father got to go y'all have a blessed a bless you keely god bless you Keely keely be blessing now keely be blessing y'all saw who was on here last night keely was on here Showing up and showing out lord bless keely lord lord a lord you can hear my prayer bless keely keely be on here blessing me Every opportunity she get I'm 41 no kids never married been single a while due to raising nephew Dealing with mom dying helping grandparents. I hear being single this long is a red flag. What can I do when dating? You don't need to worry about dating. You know, don't worry about dating right now What you doing, you know, you got a lot on your plate going on And it's a red flag for the wrong man So the man who sees it as a red flag and he doesn't dig deeper to get to know you and and the reasons behind Why are you single and haven't been married? Then that's not the man for you So it's a red flag for the wrong man, but you got to realize that for the right man He's gonna get to know your story. He's gonna hear this out. What's been going on He's gonna see who you are where you are where you come from what you come through and what you're doing And that man it won't be a red flag He will see it as a blessing from god because he'll say wow you kept her Sacred and and untouched and undefiled for me like you kept her To where I don't have to worry about changing her last name from another man last name You know, she she's been there for me. She's been waiting on on me to show up in her life That's how the man for you will see it Being over 40 without children of marriage. It's only a red flag for the wrong man Okay, Jesse was writing what I was saying Y'all if you want to type in the chat y'all that be I'll hear Trying to get something in chat Now y'all put that hashtag Q in front of your Question so I'll see it because that way I won't be on here reading everybody You know Just reading random comments. I worked with a guy. He likes me and I like him You work with a guy and you like him You'll never know if a guy like you He has never made a move and has a girlfriend To to keep from getting caught up. I moved my seat. He found my new seat What is he thinking and what should I do? I know what y'all work at y'all playing musical chairs now that what y'all work at now um So so that's the thing and that's one thing that I had to correct you on you work with a guy and you like him You don't like you So what you have to realize is men have work wives And what I was telling y'all You know a man will look at you and he'll get him a release And that's the release he needs for being at work help him get through his day So in his mind when he look at you when he flirt with you and you give him that little interaction That's just like he didn't lay down with you. That's just like he he didn't had you on your bike Okay, because it's just a release from the brain That's that little bit of serotonin or dopamine that he's feeling in his bloodstream from interacting with you That just invigorate him give him what What he needs to get through his born day You and that's and that's how he sees his job. So You like him. He don't like you and the fact that that you Have a girlfriend. I mean the fact that he has a girlfriend and you know about it That's another sign He really don't care about what you know and what you think So you got to put all that in there together and just got to realize You falling in love with the idea of having you a work crush A work husband instead of actually You know reciprocating or falling for a man who actually is available and giving you the type of interaction you need It's the idea Um lighties So sultry latis forgive me for saying your name wrong right now latis So so god bless you. You didn't even ask me questions Maybe I hope you I hope you didn't hit sin or you got to put your question in there now Hold on. I saw some questions coming in Pretty baby last time he left he started hanging with another girl and told me he was picking between his options So I ran the girl off and he came back to me. Am I wrong? I just Asked about me cheating. Okay. Yeah, you don't want to ask about you cheating and you yelling and all of that And you ran the girl off Is you wrong? um You're gonna need some coaching And if it's not affordable, I'm hoping maybe you could You know try to ask some friends and family You know try to ask some friends and family to help you raise some money for coaching You're gonna need some coaching You're gonna need some you're gonna need therapy. You're gonna need therapy, you know, because you ran the girl off And you you cheated on him. That means you don't want him You yelling at him cussing him out. That means you don't want him. You know what he is to you He is your human teddy bear And what do we have teddy bears for we have teddy bears for pain We have teddy bears for comfort. We have teddy bears to to to self soothe to ease us He is your human teddy bear Because you don't want him if you cheat on somebody in that moment You don't want him now you probably could want him later But in that moment especially as a woman because a woman cheat different than a man You know, it's it's a whole different situation and so He's just a placeholder for you and you need to let him free because eventually what's going to happen is you're going to be the Try to run the wrong woman off And she's going to be just as unstable as you and somebody going to end up with some serious Consequences So I wouldn't be dealing with a situation like that Um Ponaka god bless you For she them put my cash up on there And some of y'all be sending me that dollar and um one of one of y'all sent me five dollars last night god bless. I think it was um A young lady mariata who came to myself love retreat in california last year sent five dollars God bless you Let me look for a question now known a god for a couple known a guy for a couple years I'm 42 He's in his 50s One date. He's consistent He says things I don't like I stopped talking to him. How do I get past that and give him a chance? Well, depending on what he's saying that you don't like So if he's saying stuff that's deal breakers He's saying stuff that's showing his mindset that can show that could lead to some control some infidelity Stuff like that then listen to your intuition and keep it moving And when a man get in his 50s, he's gonna be a little bit more real He's gonna be a little bit more blunt So you just gotta make sure you're not just being overly sensitive And you might need to sit down and kind of bounce that off of a wise friend or a coach Chris king What do you think about? men who sin What do you think about men who sends you screenshots? Between him and x With kids under 18 To show you what he says is what it is as far as moving on from their relationship um You kind of got to take it with a with a grain of salt Because a man only gonna show you what he wants you to see So with him and his ex You know how x situations is You could be arguing today and tomorrow you talk about You miss eating that peach cobbler and she missed singing on that microphone So You get the screenshot of when they were cussing each other out and he said i'm done with you I'm moving on But then you don't get the screenshot and then say hey, I missed that peach cobbler And she said yeah, hey, I missed singing on that microphone. And so you don't get to see that so You just got to decide to trust him and you could just tell him like listen You know, that's between y'all, you know, you I really don't care to see that Like I trust that you're doing what you say you're doing and you know Don't don't feel the need to show me and then you just got to watch the rest of that And and at the same time you also got to ask yourself Does he Do I have what it takes? Do I have what it takes to be with a man who has a soul tie with a woman and they have Together you know children together because It's a lot that come with that So you got to ask yourself. Do you want all that come with that? Uh, Sabrina, God bless you. I am studious so no relationship experience I enjoy singleness and have accomplished much at 25 I have suitors. I should go for but never intrigued I seem to fail For rebels slash bad types thoughts. You're in a real You're in a real tough place You're in a real tough place because If you have no dating relation, you have no dating experience No real dating experience and you falling for rebels and bad guys You got to ask yourself why you falling for rebels and bad guys It's probably because they are your alter ego Because you kind of resent being so studious and being a bookworm and not having lived life So when you meet a rebel and you meet a bad boy now That's the fun side of life for you and but you coming in there like a deer In the headlights of f-150 remember and you waiting to get that f-150 a hug and it's been to lay you down So what you need to do is put them books down before you start going to date You need to be done got through the book work got through your studious Got to get your degrees and before you start dating you need to come over here to this school Okay, you need to go to tonigasinsacademy.com which is In the in the description and you need to take the real love university. It's a real course You need to take um how to dating 101 understanding men. That's a real course You need to go to this school over here before you start dating and what you're going to learn is that When you're looking for a bad boy He also looking for himself So that is the blind leading the blind and y'all both going to end up in a ditch So you got to understand that that you can't be falling for for rebels and and the bad boys Uh-oh got old live testimonial India say dating 101 changed my life I mean that was a real course now that date 101. I went in on that one now And y'all could use the coupon code healthy right down the word healthy So before you click buy now, you'll see a little link that says have a coupon hit that type Healthy and then hit apply now on tonigasinsacademy.com Um queen be god bless you question. I caught my ex cheating on me. He kicked me out Why is he mad at me when he cheated now? He's sorry and told me All there's hope should I wait? Now god bless you god bless you god bless you Sometimes y'all you god bless you god bless you. Okay Let me read this again Okay Oh, no, you're the one off in the read again Disappeared Okay, you call him cheating He kicked you out And then now he's saying It's gonna it could work out and you saying should you wait Okay, you call him cheating He kicked you out for catching him cheating Then he telling you it can work And you wondering should you wait should you give it another chance? Mm-hmm. Now. I just want you to hear that back to yourself Okay And you got to get on out of there you got to be gone gone gone gone gone and the reason why The reason why men Will get mad with you for catching him. It's just embarrassment. It's no different than when you see when you see Uh, a little boy get caught In his room doing something he shouldn't do and he have a temper tantrum and he mad and he you know He upset that's the same way men are So what you're gonna have to do You get you some baby powder and just Keep slapping yourself till you wake up. You got to get your can of fold just and just Smell the fold is in the morning. You're gonna have to read your book. You have to have your affirmation card You're gonna have to really really be able To get to the place to where you can get through to yourself To help yourself understand that you Playing the fool that you playing the fool right now if you even considering going back with him That you sitting there Looking like who shot john forgot to kill So you you got to realize that and you got to go on about your business with a man like that You got to run so fast. You got to run so fast from a man like that Explain why my ex-husband blames me for leaving him when he basically forced me to now. He only shows hatred towards me That's just a sign of a grown boy That that won't that won't change And he he is in The mindset of blaming everybody else for his issues instead of working on himself So you got to understand that he probably blame If he blamed the government the white man the black man the Hispanic man He blamed women. He blamed the school system. He blamed his mom and daddy He just in the habit of blaming everybody else for his issues It's being too busy a turnoff for a man. Um You know, it's not it's actually the opposite As long as it's legitimate, you know, like if you got an olivia pope schedule And it's it's real like that's really what you do. That's really what it is. Then no, that's not a turnoff But if you getting his text and you get his phone calls and he know you work 95 And you don't have any kids and you just sitting there looking at his text message for three hours before you respond That's gonna upset him. That's gonna turn it to an issue for you But if you truly just that busy and he got to get in where he fits in That's a good thing because a man likes an ambitious woman Broke up with a guy I was dating one year because he wouldn't commit and doesn't like titles Divorce three years now have a three-year-old read and watch everything you have but having issues finding a good man Okay, so you've been divorced three years and then you met a guy and broke up with him after a year because he You did the right thing But having issues finding a good man now that's you and As you and every other woman case I help to be honest with you because And i'm gonna tell y'all the reason why it's just a lack of good men right now the reason why It's a lack of good men right now. Honestly, I'll be honest, which is just the world that we living in And with all of this social media with all of this access and what's happening is The men who have a voice so back in the day A man was more likely to just operate from his heart because the television And social media wasn't there, you know, it wasn't the way it is today But today men get on instagram and they see this millionaire who has three four women They see this other million they see all these millionaires who's never been married They see all these million who juggling all these women They see all of this they they see regular guys who juggling three four women They see all of this and they like why should I settle for one woman? Then they see so many women selling themselves for a bag for a nice purse for a nice dinner You know and just doing whatever for for a little gift So they and and they see so many women who Might try to carry themselves sort of kind of Classy, but or do anything for a cash out or do anything You know, they send all of this and all of this access is right on the phone And so men is just so spoiled today Just because of the access to loose booty women And so the good women walking around and the good men are being turned into bad men Just because of the world we live in it's like the bad is becoming the norm And it's almost like if you live then Sodom and Gomorrah is like if you live there Before long you're gonna end up just being like everything else around you because it seems like it's the norm And the people who trying to hold on to morals and values The more and more you hold on to morals and values the more and more you get drowned out And people start to call you old school and and all of this and people be asking me it's 2020 It's 2020 you still believe like that and i'm like, yeah Because principles don't change As you look, oh, I bless you turning 55 in may Single I want to be married to a quality man. Is it too late advice? You know, I just saw a picture of a lady um 85 getting married As long as you got breath in your body I mean as long as God on the throne it is never too late It is never too late because it's men that's 55 That went through a divorce five years ago And it's ready to get married The what you have to do in that situation is you got to increase Your rate of interaction you got to get out of the house more and when you out more you're gonna meet more men Now for some of y'all who catch all these q and a you're gonna get tired of hearing me say the same thing But y'all got to realize, you know, everybody needs some I tried contacting my ex this period, but he didn't respond I was the one who left the relationship because a lot was going on and I had to question if he truly loved me Dated for 10 months keep moving keep moving If y'all was guilty for 10 months and you broke up see Typically the only time I really Condone getting back with an ex is if y'all were together for 12 months or less And a lot of people say oh that don't sound right because you seem like you'll want to give an ex a chance After five years or 10 years because of the history y'all got But no the longer a person Has got to get to know you the longer Time a person had the chance to get to know you if they still can't get it right Y'all aren't meant to be But when it just was 12 months or less y'all still was getting to know each other. It still was fresh. It still was new So if you break up within 12 months, that's understandable because you didn't know each other This was a stranger if you break up after three years five years It's no excuse for that because y'all don't have enough time to learn how to respect and how to love one another So that's why I only recommend getting back with an ex as if y'all had to take a break or part ways under 12 months Now you left after 10 months because you was questioning if he loved you If you got to question if a man loved you after 10 months Then he does not love you does not care for you and he realized he chose the wrong woman Or he's not the right man for you and so he wants the relationship to end So he creates distance and he sabotages the relationship so that you will leave now when you leave you got to stay gone Because when you left you tried to the boss up, you know pull old car You tried to make a power move and then now you come back crawling hitting him up So now he laughing at you Yeah, I thought you were big and bad. Huh thought you was grown. Uh-huh. Yeah, I see you miss call. All right Keep calling me. Uh-huh. You're gonna sit there And so that's what he's doing to you now because he didn't like you in the 10 months that you left So understand that and keep it moving and understand this A one man should never go back to a man A woman should never go back to a man if you leave if a woman leave a man You got to stay gone because if you leave a man trying to send a message He got to come back to you if you go back to him you up end everything you trying to do Angela martin, how do we join the bless tribe? It should be a little button up under the video up like on the On the right hand side up under that says join If not, if you look in the description under the video under where my face is there's a description box It may have an arrow that you got a hit to make it drop down But in there it'll say join the bless tribe And you click that but it's only to my knowledge right now It's only for people in the us only for people in the same country that I'm in Because I know it's people outside of the us that said they've been trying to join and they can't but you know On the why youtube has it that way Can a man have some grown boy ways because he's scared to fully show a woman love Yeah, but it's really not it's really has less to do with being afraid to show a woman love And more to do with just Being afraid to sacrifice and be a whole man. It's a man will want to show love, but he just may not Be a man yet know how to how does a man come back to you? How does a man come back to you? Maybe you kind of meant how should he come back to you because he come back to you just by texting you See any other man calling your phone, you know, that's how he come back Now how should he come back is he should come back and he should be Asking for forgiveness. He should be Telling you that he's sorry. He should admit his fault If it was his fault, he should ask for forgiveness He should tell you that he loves you tell you he wants to be with you And if he needed to change if it was on him and he needed to change He should be telling you how he changed and he should be able to show you how he changed So it shouldn't just be like a I sat and I thought about it and I was wrong and I want to be back with you You know, will you take me back? No, he should be like look I went and got coaching, you know, I went and got coaching. I went and you know Work with this coach over here that coach over there. I read this book. I read that book I think you'll enjoy this book. This book really helped me. This is how it helped me So he'll be showing you exactly what he's done to get better And most men typically try to you know Typically try to You know Come back I supported my child's father for Three years he quit his job when our child was six months old and asked me to go back to work So I did when he found a better job. He Got us he Left us out had to go in Put us out had to go in the shelter Um supported my child's father for three years And he quit his job when our child was six months old Okay. Yeah, you you can't do nothing but learn from that and hopefully everybody that just seen that question could learn from it too You know, that's that's That's just a definition of old sorry man And it's just a man who doesn't love you, you know, it never loved you And so all you can do is learn from that and that that really comes from a lack of preparation That just comes from a lack of knowledge of you not knowing what a real man is A real man will never add a never quit his job and ask his woman to go work When he able-bodied, you know, when he's able-bodied and and he is, you know Now who is on the hell talking about the darn thing? We ain't this ain't a doctor chat We don't know what that is Nah, don't know somebody paid. Nah Ask them crazy questions on what the symptoms this thing. I'm not a doctor How to cope with a ex manipulating A parental alienation very poorly handled in court, but strange my time with a child Go on my mentor.life go to my mentor.life click hire a coach And in the filters select the subject co-parenting And see if you can find a co-parenting coach on there That that has been through that and can you know work with you on that? That's that's real deep That's a little too deep for here. I'm about touching your face Uh, India ain't ain't going out. No, well, I ain't been I ain't been touching nobody. I'm in house Why do men demote women after we mess up? Oh Phone on low battery now. I told y'all we're gonna go to this to the phone That so I ain't got too much longer Why do men demote women after we mess up and put us back in competition with other women? Pretty bad. You need a coaching session That's your third question. You need a coaching session I'm turning 40 next week and started dating a successful 39 year old man for three weeks now. He meets majority of my standards But a few of my preferences So I continue getting to know him Um, he meets majority of your standards. You got to ask yourself. What are your standards? Are they real standards? Make sure your none of your standards are actually a preference And then you got to ask yourself the standards that he doesn't meet. Are they deal breakers? So example if a standard is you want a man that does not smoke But he smokes that's a deal breaking standard. Okay, so you got to understand that now No man Will meet all of your preferences And if a man meets all of your preferences, he probably most likely will not meet all of your standards So you got to weigh the good versus the bad Which the standards are the good and some of the preferences could be the bad because sometimes we want what we can't have You know, I might want me some Popeye fried chicken because it looked good golden crispy flaky And brown, but that ain't the best thing for me. So I prefer Popeye chicken, but My standard I probably need some grilled chicken. You see what I mean? So you got to understand when you weigh in these out, which one weighs the most standards or preferences It's always standards and no no human would be perfect And what you also got to realize if he likes you And he has most of your standards and a lot of your preferences and he likes you too Then you got to understand that because he also taken a chance on you because you probably don't meet all of his Preferences or all of his standards either but We got to understand that Delaney God bless you kids father has three kids the same age wants to fix kids father Have three kids the same age Do y'all have triplets or twins and then one other woman or is it Three different women All had one round the same time That's the question now That's the question now if it if it's the latter And you got to go on about your business any Babs god bless you the canadian. I think that's canadian Hi, Tony I am a teen that has been watching your videos for almost a year now. Okay, you blessed up there. You got your debit card up there in Canada Thanks for all you do. I am in need of coaching with you and want to know how I can get started, but I'm not working. Well, you got to wait until you're working The first and foremost you're gonna have to wait until you're working to get coaching Okay, and then two when you say teen Hopefully you mean 18 or 19 because if you on the 18 and that means you got to have a parent That comes sign you up. And so that's one way to get started with coaching Is a parent now if you're 18 or 19 then you have to wait until you either get to some more savings some more than 13 99s or You could go to my mentor dot life and do coaching with another coach. That's $25 an hour Because this coach is that you know start out at $25 an hour and to be honest with you It's only gonna be a little difference, you know, it's gonna be a little difference and You still probably could get the result that you need What are some things men can read By looking at a woman or being around her Shakita A man can read everything It ain't nothing that he cannot read So everything about you he can read if you Have been hurt in the past and you have not healed he can read it If you lose booty and you trying to pretend that you're not he can read it If you are not lose booty, you very strict and conservative And trying to act like you lose boy. He can read it if you strict and conservative he can read it A man can read if you insecure A man can read if you confident a man can read if you taken and you on a break A man can read if you married but separated a man can read everything He can read everything about old woman And the reason being is just because It's a gift that was given to men because of the work The other work outside of women that men would have to do like hunting And going to work for the country to go against other Countries those things are were necessary skills. So you got to be able to read And read and react very quickly So a man literally can read everything about you and that's why a lot of women don't understand that And that's why I tell every woman you have to learn Perception you got to get Either with your father your uncle your brother if they're articulate and they're honest and they understand themselves if you don't have that then Go on book a session on my mentor died life with me and I'm gonna give you the rundown You got to understand perception because the reason being is A woman could be insecure And she thinks that her insecurities are hidden But if you don't Realize that your insecurities are not hidden A man will approach you knowing where you're gonna give up Knowing where you're gonna be weak at and that's how men end up living off of women getting money for women Getting women on a bike quick and easy because he read your unhealed Unaddressed insecurities in your clothing Your dress your the colors you wear the way you walk the way you do your hair The way you smile the way you talk the rhythm and cadence in your voice All you we all are glass windows that's why I know if anybody We read each other, you know, but men have an exceptional gift with reading Others just because of what a man is built for in life overall How can I discern? Acacia god bless you. Forgive. I'm saying your name wrong How can I discern the differences between a man's ego and his sincerity? Um, so Really where that applies is when a man comes back to you When a man comes back to you you have to discern is this his ego is he coming back out of ego Or is he coming back out of heart? That's what that really applies. And so what that means is if it's ego when you Put some stipulations in place and say listen if you want to be back together Then we need to do this. We need to do four sessions of counseling therapy or coaching I also want us to read this book, you know I also want us to go to church or also when you put these stipulations in place if it's ego He's gonna be like, you know, we don't need anybody else in our life. We don't need uh We don't need that man off of youtube telling us what to do. He don't even know what he's talking about He probably cheating on his wife. I'm not doing all that. I'm not talking to anybody else If I can't talk to you and me and you just can't talk one on one Then I don't even want to talk to anybody else. What am I doing? Why did I even come back? That's ego When he's coming back out of heart, he's gonna be like Hey, you know what, you know, okay, cool. That sounds good. You know, let's read that book I really want to do that and yes, okay. I'll do coaching. I'm gonna pay for it. It costs a lot It's more than what I can afford, but I'm gonna do that, you know And so it he'll be willing to jump through the hoops to do what he has to do to grow and get better Any bouts, God bless you. I had a dream in the summer With an X and thought it was a dream from God and now think it's a soul tie any advice Um God ain't gonna give you but God not gonna give you a dream by the X Because when God in the mix it wouldn't be your X Y'all would have stayed together. So God ain't gonna have you dreaming by the X But that's what a soul tie is a soul tie that is an emotional Connection it's an emotional You know bond so when you try to move on your mind is still missing The chemical releases it used to get from being with that person spending time with that person Shakita harrick. God bless you. God bless you um Santa Santa You should have put your question right there. You say, please read my question You should have put it right there because I seen please read my question, but I don't see your question So, you know, you'll learn from um Like pretty bay in there. Keep putting that question That's how you got to do For if you want me to see it because if you post it once and you see all these comments I can't I can't see your question because As i'm trying to scroll i'm touching the screen. I'm about to cut the whole live off Keep touching the wrong What's the color button? Why do women brag on cheating men pretty black? Brat on cheating men I don't really know understand what you mean. Maybe you mean women talking about oh, he cheated and we worked out and we got back together I don't know what you mean though Yeah, I'm about to be off this hill live not here soon because my phone going dead Somebody said plug your phone in but I can't because I could plug my phone in but Live it's like a computer system running, you know So like if I unplug a microphone it get real loud sound like a fan sound like a fan is uh Is running and you really can't hear me because it's just the machine running So loud breathing it makes too much noise Shakita Harris got two of your questions. Ask God bless you You're pretty black. You'll have to give me an example about what you mean about women bragging on Answer who Janisha? What Janisha uh Janisha, um Janisha got to do a coaching session Yeah, Janisha she she posts a million questions. I answer a million of Janisha questions. That's why you see Janisha Here go Janisha question right here. Is it funny to men to see women hurting like I'm starting to feel Men don't have hearts um A lot of men don't a lot of men don't And what I mean by that is any valve just purchase your soul to our courses I always tell you a lot of men was raised so cold. He don't know how to be warm Like you got to realize like a lot of men they was out there You know that one they're going through a lot dealing with racism discrimination You know dealing with all this different stuff that it just kind of made him put up a wall And it made him cold instead of being Warm so a lot of men Don't You know care a lot of men don't have a heart, but you also got to realize what men do That's why I try to remind y'all as far as think about everything a man does you can't say all the words on here But think about what a man has to do when he signs up to work for his country And they got to go to another country what he is doing So a man heart is built different think about what a man got to do when he had to go out in the woods and hunt for food Think about what he's actually doing Like it take a certain type of heart to be able to look through this here scope and Hit that deer And then go get it All of that right there take a certain kind of heart to pop that chicken You know neck like men are wired to do certain things that They take that same energy into relationships And so that's that's what you have to realize you dealing with a different type of human When you dealing with a man and a man has to learn how to turn that side of him off You know that savagery and just that coldness He got to learn how to turn that off And a man has to learn and mature to the point to learn that his gentleness is in his strength His strength is in his gentleness In a relationship two years, but now he says he would have been proposed, but he says he's not ready For he's not ready for my ready-made family How should I proceed? Oh, I got 10 left. How should I proceed? he Should have been known this before now He didn't he knew it. He was trying to convince himself otherwise, but he knew it And he was trying to convince himself otherwise, but now it's getting real now it's getting real And he just told you how he feels Now the question now he told you how he feels He already knew but he just got the courage to tell you why he hasn't proposed to you Also to tell you how he feels now it's on you Now you're gonna sit there and play the fool After he done told you he don't want you he don't want to be with you because you're ready-made family Or you're gonna listen to him And you're gonna break up and going on about your business and be with a real man Now it's on you because he just told you and be thankful that he told you before three years or five years Be thankful that he told you before it's too late. So understand that too now So think about that Hey I'ma go ahead and get going on because if I let the phone die, they're gonna process and upload on the On the computer. So hey, God bless y'all. Thank y'all for showing up on here. I put me what what I put in a day an hour and 40 God bless you. Um, I'm gonna pop in here as often as you know, me and my wife get us a little break So while she working out come in here and do some q&a Being that we on this his situation. Thank you for everybody that blessed me with with the donation. Thank you for my moderators Share and caramel kisses. I don't know if two bella made this one. Thank y'all for moderating and um I may after my phone charged up might get to do something later today round seven or eight To I know I missed a lot of questions. Some of y'all Y'all need a coach session. Okay. I'm on my mentor dot life, but I don't know how far my schedule is booked out But thank you. God bless you. We'll talk soon