 Hello everyone welcome to another live video just out here at this lake. I've just been to the zoo and I have to see in all of the animals before I come down here and check out this lake I haven't seen before so yeah here I am I think I can hear some birds or owls in the background a lot of nature here it's pretty cool so yeah looks like people are starting to come in now so let's go on with the topic why narcissists are hateful and envious of you of course there are specific reasons for that and as we know in general they are like haters and they always desire to take something from you but not only that they feel like someone's trying to take something away from them they're very jealous too and yeah the reason why they're so hateful and envious towards you is because you have what they want and they want to participate they want to partake in that but they can't and the reason why is because it irritates them that it belongs to you and they want everything to belong to them but then it's like they have to recognize that you are a separate person which they don't want to do this is why we have this issue with them where it's like they want to be around you they want to be involved with you but the very resistant towards you I'm sure you've noticed that whenever you try to be affectionate or intimate with them what do they do they push you away they intimidate you they become very threatening and part of the reason for that is because they fear intimacy and vulnerability they don't want to be vulnerable around you because there's a risk to where you're being vulnerable with someone when you reveal when you reveal your flaws and imperfections that gives the other person the opportunity to reject you and as we know they are deeply afraid of rejection that's the last thing they want to experience they have abandonment issues which stem from their childhood so you find that the relationship is just you're together but you're not really together they're always keeping you at arm's length they always have to distance themselves from you even though it may seem like they really want to be around you but they can't go there cross that line into being the person that you want them to be that intimate affectionate vulnerable person they can't do that this is like the narcissist greatest fear the risk that for a start they think that they really are you know that vulnerable side of them which we all have they think that's not good enough you know they have a black and white mentality where something's either perfect or flawed of course they believe that that's completely flawed and you know the tragic thing about this is that I'm sure you'd all agree one of the biggest mistakes they ever made was abandoning their true self and creating the false self that was one of the biggest mistakes they ever made because who they really are is actually not that bad if they're just held on to that true part of themselves everything would have been okay but of course they they can't be completely blamed for that as well because with the family dynamic it's likely that they had a narcissistic parent as well who constantly told them that they're not good enough and they'll never be anything and when someone's told that there's a good chance that they can go on to become a narcissist or they could become an empath as well it really depends on the individual and how they react to it but yeah this is going from programming in their childhood it's not something that can just be overwritten it would take years and years of work and even then they would still probably snap back to that old way of operating but yeah this is this is what it comes down to really it's I think at some level yes they do desire to have love and intimacy but in the back of their minds it tells them they're not meant to be loved they're unlovable they're not good enough so they avoid it at all costs they resist you as sad as that sounds that really is the truth I mean if you look at it it's love and affection that's applied anyway what narcissists doesn't want supply so why do they reject it because they're afraid to be vulnerable they're afraid to expose their weaknesses and just who they actually are you may never even see who they are you might get glimpses of it really if you trigger them you might see that frightened little child inside of them that never developed and you may want nothing more than to put your arms around them and just tell them everything's gonna be okay you may want to do that but that's one of the worst things you can do you can try it but they're not gonna respond well to that because when you do that you're just reflecting back to them that you see that they're weak and fragile and then they're just gonna lash out at you so that doesn't work I mean it's very as I said it's very tragic when you think about it because the very things that they need or what the disorder is programmed to block and deny and there's no getting through that it's a barrier that you cannot cross or penetrate because that's there to protect them and however all they are no one up until this point has managed to do that so the odds are that you're not gonna be able to do it I mean we we have to look at it like that's that's our own kind of narcissism in a way the way we think that we can fix anyone I mean this is how a lot of empaths are they think they can fix everything and yeah you can't doesn't work that way besides it sounds the only thing you can do is just leave let them figure it out on their own maybe they will one day maybe they won't who knows but that's not your job that's not your responsibility you've just got to do you can't force someone to change you can't force them to be what you want them to be you didn't like it when they did that to you so you need to understand that it's not right for you to do that with them and you can't do it anyway it's almost impossible even if you did or you thought you did it would have had to have been the permission that they gave to you to let you do that so that's all it really is but yeah they will hate you and they will be envious of you that's just the nature of the beast but it's not really that they hate you remember this goes back to that childhood programming when it comes down to it they actually hate themselves and the reason for that is because of the narcissistic parent or a family member friends whoever it was someone put it in their head so that they're not good enough and they likely repeated that on a daily basis throughout their entire childhood so that's all they've ever known I mean it's the same with anyone really I mean the way that you treat people you learn that at some point it was taught to you most likely in your childhood everything we do the way that we behave the way we treat people these things are taught to us we learn it from a someone I think that's important to remember from any of us of course you know we may have learned certain unhealthy habits I know I have but we can change those things we can become better people we can become stronger and especially after being involved with a narcissist when we develop the self awareness especially following the relationship that's how we're able to do those things but remember the problem with narcissists is that they lack self awareness that's why it's so difficult for them to do that I mean I have I have heard of these things about self-aware narcissists but I don't know I don't know what I think about that because one of the main traits of the disorder is that they're meant to lack self-awareness that's why they keep doing the same things again and again expecting a different result I mean that's the definition of insanity as Albert Einstein once said I mean surely if someone is doing the same thing again and again and they're expecting a different result that must mean that they lack self-awareness so it does make me wonder about these self-proclaimed self-aware narcissists on YouTube or maybe they're misdiagnosed like Sam Vaknin and then there's another one Lee are they really narcissists are they really full-blown MPD I don't know maybe they're just narcissistic because from what I've learned the whole nature of it is that they're meant to lack the self-awareness so it does make me wonder I mean the way that they can just talk on these videos they can be vulnerable they're showing empathy they're able to relate to you I've never thought of narcissists like that the ones that I've met in my life I could only dream that they would treat me in that way where they'd be able to empathize with me and understand where I'm coming from and understand themselves and why they do what they do they could only dream for that to happen and yet we have these self-aware narcissists who claim to to be able to do that I don't know my mind isn't really made up by net I do find it quite hard to believe a big part of why they're so hateful and any of us is really the self-awareness that's what takes control of their minds and causes them to do a lot of things that they do because for us I mean if we have ever felt like we hate someone for whatever reason or we're envious if we've ever felt like that then as soon as we become aware of it and we're thinking in our minds yes okay I feel hatred I feel envy I feel whatever I feel as soon as you do that then the emotion lessens it goes down and yeah as we see with narcissists the emotion doesn't tend to go down it gets worse if you tell them you you bring their attention to it it just causes an even bigger narcissists narcissistic injury and they get even worse any kind of self-awareness makes them worse what it makes us better and yeah there's an obvious link there if you trigger someone to self-reflect and they hate that I should tell you everything you need to know they hate themselves and you may think that you hate yourself but just look at it how if someone brings your awareness to something about yourself it triggers you to self-reflect you don't get mad do you if anything it humbles you tells you you're not that important and when you react like that you should know that you don't dislike yourself as much as you may think your self-esteem is not as low as you may think because a person with low self-esteem is likely to get mad or self-love in that scenario so yeah that's something to think about I don't want to get too deep into it but I hope that helps I hope that brings more awareness to you but the narcissist and also about yourself let's take a look at this link again it's really beautiful got some mud on my trainers 200 pound trainers covered in mud but don't worry it's not the first time so I know how to wipe it off I've got some wipes in my bag take a straight off now it's been a really good day today saw lots of cool animals a lot of firsts saw a white tiger for the first time looked like it was sleeping but still glad I got to see that looks like I ran the car into the mud too anyway I'm gonna go now back into the car please give 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