 Hello everyone, welcome to another Narc Survival Live video. I'm live in my cute little room here in Biwako Valley near Otsu in Japan. I thought I would get on here to a live video for you before I get some sleep. It's almost 11 p.m. here in Japan and this is a big topic for today. By the end of this video you will know how to get respect from a narcissist because there is really only one way to get that. I mean this is really the only effective way so by the end of this video you will know the only way to get respect from a narcissist. Before I begin please give this video a thumbs up down below. Very important as it helps to support our community. It gets this message out there so that other survivors will see it as well. When you're dealing with a narcissist it's like everything they do it's disrespect. They always insult us, they put us down, they make us feel bad about ourselves, they make us feel like we're not good enough. They do all of these things. Yeah it's like no matter what we do we can never change their perspective of us. It's like they never see us in a different light. Once it's gotten to the devaluation and then they view us in a certain way and that's really it. That's really the problem because in all honesty once a narcissist has disrespected you, once it has gotten to that point this may not be what you want to hear but there isn't too much you can do after that. Once you've already tolerated the disrespect and they've already been able to do that they felt comfortable in treating you that way and they didn't face any consequences for their actions then at that point they've already learned that what they're doing is okay as though it's fine for them to continue. That's just it because they look at it like if you're still sticking around it can't be that bad. If it was that bad you would have left and chose the thing they don't value anything that is close to them. Anything that is around them they think of the opposite way of how we do. I've said it before myself if a person desires to be around me and a part of my life I look at it like they must be an amazing person because I see myself in that same way I recognise just how great I am and how hard I've worked to become the person that I am today but narcissists beneath that arrogance and that false sense of superiority they're actually very insecure they believe they're not good enough so when someone comes around them you desire to love them to be with them and their minds they see it as though there must be something wrong with you you can't be that great because if you were that great you wouldn't be anywhere near them that's how they see it that's why in the beginning they idealised you because you didn't really know them they didn't really know you so at that point you had value but the more time you spend around them the more your value goes down because they really see it like if you're so great what are you doing around me if you were that great you would be off somewhere else that's how they think and that's why some of you may have experienced when you do get away from the narcissist then it's like they start to idealise you again and they try to get you back they hoove at you they love bomb you again because they see it as though once you've had some time away from them you've had time to replenish your value yeah I mean maybe that's the first time that our narcissist actually got something right because that's very true once we have time away from them we do have time to replenish our value and the more time we spend around them our value does go down I'm sure many of you have noticed that it does affect us the more time you spend around a narcissist a person the more your value will go down along with your self-esteem your self-worth your confidence your belief about yourself it may even affect your qualities your skills your abilities everything good about you will take a hit the more time that you spend around them when you get away from them you can gradually increase your value again so the way that they see it yeah it's completely true that's something the narcissist has actually got right the well aware of that so of course when you're around them they don't see you as a valuable person because they're constantly draining your value but when you get away from them then they start to see you as valuable again and that's really yet that is the only way to get respect from a narcissist it's to leave walk away go no contact move on with your life I know it may not be what you want to hear but that is the truth the only way to get respect from your narcissist is when you leave them and move on because as long as you're around them they're never going to respect you they're just going to see you as a fool they're never going to appreciate you I'm sorry if that's not what you want to hear I don't lie on this channel I can only give you the truth sometimes the truth hurts as long as you are around the narcissist they are never going to respect you especially once it's gotten to that point but they have devalued you they've disrespected you already and you have tolerated it they've got comfortable in doing that and anyway if you with a narcissist and you don't let them disrespect you they'll probably get rid of you because that's all they want is a fool a doormat someone who tolerates them someone who just put ups with whatever they do they don't want to be around someone who sets boundaries says no doesn't tolerate their abusive behavior they don't want to be around someone like that so it goes back to what I said the only way to get respect from a narcissist it's to leave them in the dust take off on them forget them because as long as you're around them they are never going to respect you they're always just going to see you as a fool and that is never going to change if you want an ass says to respect you you need to respect yourself people treat us how we treat ourselves or how we teach them to treat us and as long as you're around such a low level person who's no good and they know that they're no good they know that they don't deserve your love as long as you're around someone like that they're just gonna see you as a fool they're gonna see you as something to play with because they look at it like otherwise what are you even doing there what are you even doing around them if you want better treatment because that's how they see it if you want better treatment go somewhere else what are you doing here because they already know they can't give you that they have to get that ass says to supply and unfortunately at some point they can only get that from devaluing you disrespecting you and I know some of you you may not want to leave that ass says behind you really need to work on your self-esteem practice self-love and realize you deserve so much more than that you do deserve better treatment you deserve to be loved and respected you are not going to get that from a narcissist they are never going to love or respect you they're self-absorbed and they like empathy they only care about themselves they don't even see us as real people they objectify us a person cannot abuse you without first objectifying you they have to view you as an object before they are able to harm or mistreat you they can't view you as a human being and do that so yes all this time they never even saw you as a human being and you just gotta think to yourself what hope is there in anything for you with them if they don't even see you as a real human being I mean that should tell you everything you need to know this is facts they wouldn't be able to treat you that way if they didn't first objectify you so yeah they don't even see you as a real person they just see you as an object as a tool for them to use when you realize that it should make it that much easier for you to walk away you should realize that you deserve better you deserve to be loved deserve to be appreciated for everything that you do that's read of the message that I want to share with you today I really just want you to know that because that's what this video is about it's about respect and myself I believe that every one of us we are all deserving of love and respect yes I do believe that unfortunately the only way you're gonna get anything like that from a narcissist is to walk away and leave them alone because as long as you're around them they are never going to respect you and the truth is that even when you walk away you need to be careful as well because they may also not even respect your decision in walking away and they may try to track you down they may stalk and harass you they may start a smear campaign against you try to get you fired from your job try to target you financially yeah they may try to do all of these things sometimes even when you do walk away they don't even respect that I'm just saying that if there is any way that they're going to respect you it is that some an narcissist will definitely respect that if you cut off all means to them reaching you there's no way for them to contact you or even know where you are they're forced to respect it then they haven't really got any other choice if there's no way for them to reach you it all begins by you respecting yourself and here's the thing when you respect yourself you will immediately desire to walk away from them because you will look at the treatment that you're receiving and you will recognize that you deserve better you deserve more you deserve to be loved but they can never love you so that is my advice for you if you want to get respect from a narcissist that's all I've got to say for this one I'm gonna get some sleep now but thank you all for joining me and if you found this video helpful it's very important please give this video a thumbs up it will help to get this message out there to other survivors as well thank you and let me know what you think about this video in the comment section 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