 okay we're back again hello and welcome to another video right here on me plus you with us my name is Kwame hi I'm Elaine and we're doing good you guys should be proud of us this is like yeah our fourth video coming back yeah so we're doing good yeah we're trying so today we wanted to tell you or share more with share more with you on our pregnancy journey and that's why we've titled it the lows and the glows of pregnancy yeah essentially the struggles and the beautiful moments yeah yeah do you want to start or no I'll let you start and I can okay since the bulk of the work is actually you're physically doing it yeah but not consciously so it feels funny when you say like you're putting in most of the work because it's it's just growing which we are very happy with yeah I mean we're now seven months along yeah so it's quite evolved yeah there's no way to hide anymore but if you want to hide no yeah but it's it's interesting how your appearance changes yeah and how people interact with your appearance right yeah just maybe when you change your hair it's like less radical but yeah comparing that to see that people react differently to you so yeah what has been something do you want to start with the lows or the glows what do you want to hear first I don't have them like in order or anything so we just talk then so what do you want to hear glow or a low anyone that comes out we just talk about it okay well I'll ask you that at first of all you are you enjoying it well yes not every moment but which words are you enjoying just looking forward to meeting our child and that's also what I am consciously trying to do is I don't want to set too many expectations or like this how it's gonna be or this how it's gonna be I want to meet the baby first of course the basic things I know will happen like you have to feed and clean and all these but more like how it will feel or how it will be or how the baby responds or what did we shared the what gender no okay so we keep it a baby baby yeah okay so how the baby responds and I just want to meet yeah the the child and then take it from there so I think that's you're struggling with the gender bit right I don't remember whether we said it or not we didn't say it in the previous videos so no so that's I am looking forward to and I think it's pretty amazing how my body has changed I don't know if you guys look at the Jollof video that was in that was actually the old one yeah that was in May that was in the midst of Guam's funk yeah we filmed that in May and then I sat down to edit and I was like yeah you didn't like it and it didn't come out and then I was it I didn't edit it and then I just felt like doing it just a while ago he put us in the trash I saved it was never in the trash I almost don't do stuff but if you look at that one and then well maybe the past couple of vlogs you can really see that my body has like really changed like there's more volume in many ways like I mean obviously my tummy has grown my boobs have grown I didn't know that that would happen like I am still wondering when they're gonna stop growing it's getting heavy I gained a bit of weight not a bit 10 kg which I'm very proud of because I've always wanted like I like that my body is taking up more space I've never been really focused on like weight how much I should weigh but I like that it's comfortable and it's taking up space and that's a nice but you're comfortable yeah so that's good yeah that's good I'm also happy about that as well because in the beginning where we had a lot of who is the baby growing is a size yeah that was a bit low yeah it's one of the low some reacting to this coming from that angle you know is a belly size okay I mean oh it's three months or it's four months we don't see anything you know but that was also because other people commented on so that's a low because a low in this an external induced low because then we started thinking wait is she not eating enough it's the baby growing well so yeah when when when these encounters happen sometimes of course with the hormonal changes it throws a lane off and not a lot way less than I expected yeah but then it's still you still feel it a bit yeah yeah of course you know it's a lot yeah so yeah I'm happy that at least over the course of the pregnancy yeah you're gaining healthy weight what it's supposed to be yeah and now at this time I'm very hungry like I always I can eat a lot which is not easy in this economy yeah it's always clearing out in the evenings you would have her eat her supper snack a little bit and then before she sleeps oh can you make me like Milo a couple of Milo or something because grab and makes the best Milo so I don't want any Milo yeah so it's fun to see actually it's fun to see and it's fun to see how the belly is also growing and how you're curing yourself yeah I think my biggest low or thing I struggle with is the energy and the unpredictability of it so I'm quite an active person I like to do things I like to like that gives me energy to to go on a walk or grab some coffee or milkshake somewhere or I I like that I catching up with friends and now because you wake up and you think like okay did normally I would think like okay today I'm gonna do this or I have like an idea and then that's what I will pursue but then some day she wake up and like it's energy levels like below zero like minus 20 I just like I can't like what I don't want to do anything yeah and and I realize that it does get to you yeah I find that difficult yeah because then I get in this kind of funk like I don't want to do anything but then I'm like but I really have to do yeah yeah and I think that yeah I can get grumpy about that but it's more than I'm like I'm not with you that's okay yeah more with me like and oh I want to do this and this and this but I literally don't have the energy for it that's a low that's a low for filming yeah but yeah I try to be a bit more flexible and what I find difficult is that I mean normally you work during the day so for me it's an office job so it's like from like nine eight nine hours you are away from home and then after that you try to do your own thing like watch a movie or walk the dog or cook or anything but now because my energy is so low so does I get frustrated that I get home from work and just my energy is finished yeah and then I feel oh I'm only working and that makes me unhappy so they get into that cycle of I don't have energy but I have to go to work so any only working and only working and it's like so that one I still try to even though I'm sleepy or tired I try to rest a bit when I come from work and then still do something like walk with Nala or we cook together just to add a bit of an activity for myself instead of only focusing on our work but it's long work days are long now very long now because I get a lot done but I get tired more easily so you cannot take a nap at the office so I think my constant low would be being very protective so anytime Elaine is out of the house I'm constantly worrying that she's fine that she's gonna come back home like safe and in one piece also because like driving for example her interactions with police are never good and it makes it gets her overwhelmed now people think I'm a criminal no I mean you get stopped the police checks they find something you know how it is they've they try to find something to pin on you and Elaine is not sure what is going on because sometimes they stop her and if they are too yeah they are too and they are speaking to themselves not telling her exactly what is wrong and then they are telling they're wasting her time maybe she's coming from where she's extremely tired and then she calls me and I'm like losing it you know yeah so yeah anytime she goes out I worry that I mean she doesn't encounter any police I hope that she's fine or she's chilling she's resting so I think that has been the biggest constant low for me because of how protective I am of her piece you know but I think it's also been trying to support me because at some point I was I got a bit more road anxiety because of the accident I had in the beginning and then at some point I wanted to drop me at work I think once or twice a week I wanted to do every every day of the week but she she's stubborn yeah but I would take her to work it was really nice and now I feel I've gained a bit back like my confidence and I now the work times also changed a bit earlier so when I go it's quite quiet so that also helps so I like that we we keep observing every change to what we need yeah but that that in a way if you think about it actually all the lows and how we deal with it turns turns to glows because when we think about it like you know how they happen they still happen and how we deal with them and like you know this win you're talking about right now that you know the support has come in and you're able to drive to work yeah that's that's a win you know yeah but I'm also also more I'm proud that I'm now a bit more confident and I I've gained to get back kind of to this is I'm I'm a good driver I look well and the rest is up to anybody else on the road so it's not all me and I think that's also good to realize I think in one other glow I'll try to put it neatly what that so I think it's hormonal so hormones go both ways right sometimes I can be sad about the state of the world and these things hit you extra hard for example that one I've had a couple of times or I don't know what to eat and that makes me cry yeah I ran out and got something a big show because I was crying if like why you know like come on but the why is not really a good question in pregnancy you should just accept things as they have you have at the moment yeah we've been talking about any time comes up we just I really have more reassuring that it's just that it's just the part of it and with the hormones definitely you have to remember that okay of course you need to keep checking in if it comes back and it's very like heavy then something needs to be done but most of the times it's like a moment and the feelings will wash over you don't ignore them don't try to put them down but let's try to let it be let it come like just literally like a wave and then after that so I know that now like okay I should give myself an hour or maybe I should nap and then after the nap don't take any big decisions just after the naps what she does the most is after the nap she just watch what is a what do you call it the kind of TV shows that trash TV yeah she just does trash TV my trash TV she means shows that don't challenge your mind in any way yeah just reality shows like like yeah sorry I don't like I like I think trash is not a good light I will say light you know TV reality but I was trying to give you another glow which is which is which I think is also hormonal but it's kind of a nice one is that you're really in I'm really into my partner I mean I was already into my partner I mean how look at him yeah okay but I feel now because you are like you're even more there's a certain kind of togetherness and I find him extremely and I'm sure it's almost because like nature wants you to be close to each other right because you will be the caretaker as well of this child so I'm sure it's all biologically explains why it's yeah but it's just super interesting that I'm like so like into it who is laughing and just smiling yeah like it's just like I find him I don't know I just look at him like all the time good and so smart and then if I have a problem I just come to him and then we talk about it and it's just like everything okay yeah really sexy I mean it's just really nice good I think we're gonna end it on the globe I really love where it's going of course we're gonna share more with you guys we just wanted to share this little bit with you on some of the bits if you've had if you've been pregnant or if you've had a partner who's been pregnant or you've been together you can also share in a comment what you guys go through and how you guys yeah or if people are worried like I've had a couple of conversations with women who came to me like how is it and how is it for you and should I be worried about this or that I have had a lot of yeah conversations about that too so if you have experiences to share please let us know if you have concerns you want to ask please let us know in the comment section so that's it for this particular episode of the lows and the glows and we are enjoying the process we try yeah we'll catch you in the next one before Elaine yeah swallows me up here yes it's all here yeah we go to do something else now I'm leaving it I'm leaving it in just so you know okay that's fine