 Sal writes Jonathan I'd love to meet you for coffee, but it's not a date I would treat you to the coffee for all the advice and help you provided and that has helped me tremendously Thank you so much. So I appreciate that All right deep dive remember I said this is personal questions. So deep diver rights Jonathan What are you looking for in an ideal partner physically mentally emotionally? Is there a preference physically? well, so Great question. So like anyone we all have our physical preferences. I'm six foot two I'm probably attracted to women between five four and five eight. It just happens to be kind of something I like I'm attracted to a athletic Physique I'm attracted to women who are athletic and they're They are physically active and exercise on a regular basis. I'm not attracted. I'm attracted to blondes brunettes I have actually a thing for redheads More dark auburn hair. I'm I have a thing for that I think ever since I fell in love with Stephanie powers in the TV show heart to heart Stephanie powers and heart to heart. I have a big thing for dark auburn hair but I'm not but my ex-wife was a blonde and And I've dated brunettes and such like that What else? Well, shoot I have it on my bulletin board here. I'll read you from my bulletin board See, I actually have my perfect made on a bulletin board. So I'll read you from that We mutually a dire a desire and adore each other We feel safe and accepted with one another. We feel rooted with one another We feel fun and spontaneity together. We are both givers and believe in teamwork. We believe in depth We believe in growth. We believe in intimacy. We believe in flexibility We believe in love and laughter and communicating with one another what's most I think what's most what I'm most attracted to I'm I'm rather sapio sexual What that means is I'm attracted to an inquisitive mind This is one of the reasons why I get rather I use the word bored in the dating realm But most women today to me seem very boring. They don't ask really deep intelligent questions I'm gonna read you a meme that I love that illustrates what I'm looking for since you asked but this meme so feels like Here's the meme Starts off. I hate small talk. I want to talk about Adams death alien sex magic intellect The meaning of life far away galaxies music that make you feel different Memories the lies you've told your flaws your favorite set your childhood what keeps you up at night your insecurity and fears I like people with depth who speak with emotion from a twisted mind. I don't want to know what's up So that just gives you an illustration of what I'm looking for in my perfect partner Thank you all for these questions. I appreciate that Carrie says you just described my perfect partner. Well, thank you Yes, I can get bored with a lot of people I like to ask good questions. Sadly folks I do recognize that the vast majority of men and women alike are very emotionally Unskilled and lack the the tools and skills to really communicate at a deeper level and not that I'm sitting here and having intellectual conversations about You know the meaning of life per se, but I like people that go beyond the surface In fact, it's something I learned in sales. We used to call it drilling down drilling down So if you ask someone a question you ask them What inspired you want to do that and then go deeper and say what's your greatest pleasure from doing that and then go deeper with Each question. I've been told I heard a dating coach once say you should never ask questions on a date I've got to go you got to be fucking kidding me How do you get to know another human being if you don't ask questions and what blows me away ladies? I mean, I've gone on first dates with women who have I've told them I'm a dating a relationship coach and they refused that when I say refused they don't ask me any questions about my profession I have a fun Profession I have a lot of fun with what I do for a living between the YouTube channel the podcast and all the things I do you would think someone would be curious about that. I want I'm Incredibly curious when I meet a woman I'm curious about how she thinks and what she thinks about what she's into and I want someone to be that equally curious But most women are like this on a first date. They're just you know, they're like this They're just filing their nails. They're just filing their nails because it's all about them actually quite frankly I Haven't gone on a first date and I think it's been months and months and months I mean I did meet a friend recently which felt like a date But I haven't gone on a real first date in a long time because most women don't spark my curiosity I'm now this listen. Maybe I might I set my bar too high, but I'm not looking for mediocre I want something spectacular and I want the same for you I want you all to strive for something spectacular because if it isn't a fuck. Yes It's a hell. No, I repeat that if it isn't a fuck. Yes, then it's a hell. No, I think that's Mark Manson So anyway or Alan call Cohen calls it a hell. Yes to me if it doesn't feel like a hell. Yes to meet someone I'm not interested, but that's just me and maybe that's why I'm still single, but who knows I just haven't met my person yet All right