 yna y belynead ar y ddechrau'r ysgol. Yn gyd yn y friedgell ar yr original. Daeth y cael y leg. Goedio gorodd o'r cyfiad ar y holl. Felly, yn ei balkwn i'n ôl. Mae ydych nesaf yn ychydig. Mae'r gwydd arall. Fy oedd y gweithio newid. Mae eu gweithio newid. Mae'r heddiw ar yr conferences. Mae'r musglau'r heddiw. Mae wedi myfydol. A regerio arfer unig, gallwn meddwl yn rhoi'r llygaf ar y llygaf. Roeddwn i'ch bod dyna colli, lle'r llygaf yma. A'r colli, a roedden nhw. O'r meddwl gwerthodd hynny. Mae'r awnosig yn ei ddynt. Mae'r rai gynhyrch. Mae'r fideis o'r fideoau, nad oedd yn gyrfa nôl o hynny i'n ei ddweud yn bwysig. Ond oddy'r meddwl sy'n mynd wedi newidd o'r ysgrifennol, ..a grannig o'r rhanol.. ..y'r rhannig.. ..y'r rhannig. Rwy'n deall y gallwn i ymrwyaf â'r gwahaniaeth.. ..y'r gwahaniaeth a'r rhannig. Yn ei ffordd, mae'n golygu. Yn ymgol.. ..y'r rhannig. A gallwch chi'n mynd yn dynnu'r rhannig, mae'n gweithio'r rhannig.. ..y'r rhannig. Mae'n gweithio'r rhannig gennym eich gweithio. Mae'n gweithio'r rhannig. Neither remember it. They don't remember how they lied to you, how they cheated on you, how they abused you, how they betrayed you. They don't remember any of that. But it's strange because they remember everything about you. They remember every little thing you said or did which was often just in response to something they did but they can't remember anything that they've done. When you bring that to them, they don't understand Diolch. Diolch a gwelwch chi wedi llwynt. Diolch chi byddo'n cael eiみbwys. Diolch chi'n fawr yn gwneud i chi. Diolch chi'n gwneud i chi ar ei ddiiolch, ac cefnwys cyflwyntau a scoreddau. Wrth gwrth y canol yma, mae hiwnau lle ac rwy'n cael ei wneud. Diolch chi'n wneud i chi arall atom ni. gyda'n ei ddweud, maes i'r oed, ond byddai'n gael fel yma. Mae'n ddweud yn ddifŵr i. Ond ymlaen i'n ddweud yn ddifŵr i. Mae'n ddweud i ddweud oherwydd mae'n gweithio. Mae'n ddweud yn ddweud. Mae'n ddweud yn y cynnigol yn y wneud. Oherwydd, roeddwn ni'n gweithio'r ddweud o'r ddweud, mae'n ddweud o'n oed yn ddweud. Mae'n ddweud oherwydd, mae'n ddweud. Mae'n ddweud. While you're talking to them, you're getting pulled into another world. That's why you feel it affecting you— you feel like something's not right up your mind. You feel like you're not being heard, you're not being listened to because they're in a different state of mind, in a different form of consciousness, which is outside the grounds of reality. They're not really with you. It might look like they're there mae'n meddwl, yn nodi'n ei bod iechyd, mae'n meddwl, mae'n meddwl ac mae'n meddwl er ffordd. Mae'r mynedd, mae'n meddwl. Ond aen nhw'n meddwl. Mae'n growing ond eu bodi ar y maen nhw, ond dychydig wedi gwneud cyfnog. Mae'n meddwl i'r cyfrifio ar y cefnog. Mae'n meddwl i'r mynedd, ac mae'r cwrnwys. Mae'r cwrnwys ffwrdd ac yn gyfnogaeth dros cyfrifol ymw affordable. You don't know who you could be, in their minds you could be Chris Brown, Justin Bieber, Beyonce, you could be J.Lo, Jenny from the Block, P. Diddy, you never know who you are in their minds, but they're assigning this character to you, they're using this person to take your place while they're talking to you. They don't even know who you are, and many of you may have caught them out unless they may have said something in the beginning, maybe they told you, oh, you look like J.Lo a little bit, that you may have just passed it off, maybe it's just, you took it as a compliment, but no, they really meant that. In their heads, that's how they actually saw you. And then you're held up to this impossible expectation which you can never fulfil, because you can't be someone else. You can only be you, but they're expecting you to be all of this and it's just, it's ridiculous, but this is the reason why they constantly compare you to other people. People that they see, you go out places, maybe you go to the gym, you go to a restaurant, wherever you go, they see someone and they compare you to that person. This is why they do that. This is why they compare you to celebrities. Think about it, why would you compare a regular person to a celebrity, that makes no sense, but it makes perfect sense in their heads? Because they idealised you, they saw you as this perfect person in the beginning and they are trying to turn you into that person when they're with you. All they're really trying to do is to turn you into this ideal fantasy character, because they are completely insane, they are delusional, they live outside of reality, they live outside of themselves, but they know how to twist, bend and distort reality to what they want it to be. And that is how when they do things wrong, they mess things up and you bring it to them, they just seem to forget what they've said or done to you. Or they see no reason to do anything about it. They don't understand, because they don't want to understand. If they try to understand the things they've done and they try to make things right, that would just be bringing them closer and closer to reality, closer and closer to the truth where they would have to take accountability. Of course that is why they want nothing to do with the truth and they want nothing to do with the reality. If you keep bringing a reality to them and the truth, they're just going to get rid of you, because if you ever bring that choice to them where it's like, okay, you either choose me or your fantasy world, they're going to choose the fantasy world every time, they're going to get rid of you. It's not even a choice for them between you and their false character, their false self, they're always going to pick the false self. They're always going to discard you, you're never going to win that competition. But they will try and change how you see them. The only way you can coexist with them is by validating the illusion, the fantasy world, the false character, otherwise they're not going to want anything to do with you. Which is how they have to try and change your perception of them and all of the things they do. They manipulate you so that they don't have to be accountable for their actions. They don't have to grow, they don't have to develop, because as we know, narcissists never change, they always stay the same. A narcissist is really just someone who doesn't grow, they don't change. They're emotionally stunted at the development of a child, because no one ever held them accountable. Their parents, their families, their siblings, their friends, no one ever came to them and said, no this is wrong. No one ever did that. So there was never a reason for them to grow, to change, to adjust, to adapt. And that's why you look at them, they just look crazy. They look very strange, like they are mentally ill. They don't act normally, they don't think or rationalise like a normal person, because they haven't developed mentally in their minds. And also their emotions haven't developed, because no one ever came to them and told them what is right and what is wrong. No one ever held them accountable for their actions. So of course you come to them and you confront them, you tell them, this is wrong. I want you to do something about this. I want you to make it better, to make it right. They don't even know how to respond to you. That doesn't make any sense to them in their world. So of course they don't know how to do the right thing. They don't know where to start. All they can really do is lay in their own mess. And just not even try to fix anything. Just pretend nothing's wrong. Or they'll just try and make you think that something is wrong with you. And they'll do that by making you think that you're crazy. Making you think that you remember things wrong. Something is wrong with your memory, your perception. Making you think that you're insane. And they will do that by making up these stories, these lines, these rumours. About things you never said, things you never did. But it all comes back to the fact that they are delusional. They are detached from reality. They make this stuff up in their heads. They're not really there and they're not really with you. They are not living in the same world as we are. Because they have made an alternate world inside their heads. A fake reality. Which they prefer, which is more appealing to them. And sometimes they can't even control it. So what can you do about it? There's nothing you can do. You can't change it. You can try. You can go to them and try to explain. You can try and justify the things they do. But it's not going to make any sense to you. Because you're trying to make sense of it. Using your functional brain. You're trying to make sense of it from your perspective. From the real world. It's like saying 1 plus 1 equals 2. Yeah, that makes sense to a normal person. It might not make sense in that world though. So yeah, the only real way that it can make sense. Is if you put yourself in their shoes. You imagine things from their perspective, from their eyes. You have to go inside their heads. You have to go into their world. But I don't think you want to do that. Because their world is full of fear. That makes no sense. They're very hyper-vigilant and paranoid. They think that people are out to get them. They think that you're out to get them. Which is why they always have to be two steps ahead of you. But really the reason why they created this world. Is because they just wanted to get away. They wanted to escape. Because they have all of these problems in the real world. They have all of these things that they don't like. But then you've got to think, why did they create this fake world? Why did they create this false character, this false self? And of course the reason why it was created out of their problems. Out of their fears. So of course that world isn't ever going to be anything good anyway. And as long as you are involved with them. You're going to get caught up in their mess. You're going to get pulled into their world. And it will affect you. Maybe you're not straight away but over time. It will begin to change your character and composition. Which is why you just have to back out of it. You can't be around that for long periods of time. It will make you crazy. You will end up thinking that something is wrong with you. That's really the only way that things can go. Because remember in that world there is no accountability. There's no consequences for their actions. So something has to be wrong with you. They don't accept truth. They don't accept reality. So the only option is for something to be wrong with you. And then they just have to kick you out of their world. Bring you back to reality. And then that's when you start to wake up. You realise maybe nothing was wrong with you after all. The entire time you were fine. The only problem you had was that you were around them. That was your problem. When you realise this you realise the only thing you can really do is move on from them. But this is it. This is why they never try to fix things. Because really they don't even know how. They don't know what to do. They don't know where to start because they've never had to do that. I remember I confronted one of my narcissists before. And I just couldn't believe how out of touch with reality they are. Like they don't even try to fix things. They don't try to change anything. They can't even accept that anything is wrong with them. And I said to her, I said, I bet no one's ever come to you like this before. I bet no one's ever questioned you, confronted you. And she was like, yeah. You're right, no one has ever done that before. But she doesn't know what to do. No one has ever done that before. But she was saying it in a way as though she was proud and boastful. Like she's powerful and in control. No one ever went to her and confronted her like I did. But that's really nothing to be proud of. Because that just proves it's just a child inside of an adult body. A child that never grew up. A child that never learned from their mistakes. Because they were never told that they made a mistake. And that's really sad when you think about it. I guess that's why they're so heavily dependent on people, on their sources of supply and they try to turn you into the parents, their caretaker. They want you to do everything for them. They want you to fund their lifestyle. They want you to take care of them. Because it's a child that never grew up. Their parents never told them what they did wrong. So they never learned to fix things. They never learned to correct their mistakes. If you go to them and tell them this is wrong, they'll just walk away. They'll discourage you. They'll find someone else who sees nothing wrong with them. Because you don't see anything wrong with them in the beginning. Maybe for the first couple of weeks. But yeah, it's just a child in an adult body. And all you can really do is do everything for them. Never confront them. Listen to them, accept their lies, delusions, their fantasy, the false character. And just never see anything wrong with them. That's the only way you can coexist with them. But what kind of a life is that? A world where things make no sense. A world where nothing could be wrong with them. So it's something wrong with you. So you always have to take action. You always have to fix things. It's sad, but it's just how it is with them. You just end up with a lot of things you have to deal with, a lot of things you have to fix. Just by being with them. Your entire life just ends up becoming something where you're just having to clean up their mess. Because you know they're never going to be accountable for anything. They're never going to accept that they did anything wrong. But yeah, I hope this sheds some light onto this topic. Why they never try to fix things? Why they just seem to forget everything they've done wrong? Why you're always having to deal with everything? If this was helpful, please give it a thumbs up down below. Share the video. Subscribe. For coaching you can go to my website. It's Narcseviver.co.uk. Check out my Instagram as well. New pictures and videos every day on there. It's Narcseviver YouTube on Instagram. Alright, I'm going to go out and get something to eat. Thank you all for joining me. And you all have a great day. Bye.