 Welcome back the 21 convention tenure anniversary Rolando, Florida Our next speaker was known in the best-selling book of the game as Rasputin He's been coaching men around the world for over 25 years quarter of a century about as long as I've been alive Without further ado, please let me welcome hypnotica to the stage All right, man, I gotta tell you guys This is the first time in a really long time that I look out and I see men that get it For the last eight years after the game that went through this really weird phase Where all guys were coming out and they wanted to be men and they want to say oh I'm the best in the world and she like that and it got really weird and The cycles kind of coming through now again Well, I'm starting to see the real essence of men come back out instead of a bunch of guys wanting to peacock and being like Look at me and things like this. I'm the best. It's not about competition This is about you being the best version of you that's available and looking out and seeing you guys And and even the level of this conference the professionalism that's here is really showing so it's coming back out to this professional Powerful where men this is stuff that we get to talk about that we get to share our experiences with So that we can be the best versions are of self. That's possible. And so Anthony Thank you for putting on such a great professional thing I Can talk about a lot of things been around ran strip clubs still do for the last 25 years had lots of Experiences and all kinds of things I consider what I specialize in in sexuality and seduction very skilled at hypnosis Design human engineering all kinds of things like this. We can go really deep There's gonna come a point in time where we're gonna ask questions I want the question to be asked because I want to answer them There's a group dynamic going on and I want to make sure that we can all Understand and have questions and answers that probably everyone has thoughts about now. What do you think? is a man's purpose in life In my opinion really very simple a man's purpose in life is to navigate successfully his own reality It's very simple Nobody else is gonna come in and navigate your reality. You have to do it. You're a man Okay, what Alan talked about yesterday. You're not gonna get a pass I've been talking a lot of the teachers and you've seen me kind of in the background I'm not too social cuz I'm watching I'm asking questions. What do you guys want? What do you guys want? The biggest thing I see here is you guys got to give yourselves the permission to say fuck it. This is my life I'm a man I'm gonna do what I want when I want. Okay, as long as don't hurt anyone else But you got to step into your power. I see a lot of guys Unsure about it. They're in their heads and they're analyzing. Should I do this? Should I do this? They're meta processing themselves So when they're out, they're fully not connecting. They're in their own head And when you're in your own head and you're talking to a woman guess what you're not gonna get any head All right, it's real simple a woman wants to feel a connection she deserves a connection You're with you a hundred percent of the time all the time be okay with taking a vacation from your own head Say you know what? I'm not gonna be selfish anymore I'm gonna actually pay attention to this woman fully focus on her so much that you absolutely forget about yourself And you become so aware of her that you can read her nonverbals you can go through and you can calibrate what's going on You can see her and be there with her so that when you're in a conversation with her you're paying attention to everything One of the best things that I do with women is I focus so much on where I forget about myself I can pick up things their blinks What their pulse rate is okay? This takes calibration to do these kind of things But if they're finishing a lot of times I like to call women out Because I like them to know that I'm so hyper aware of them that sometimes they get insecure And I don't want to be insecure, but I wanted to understand that there's a certain level of communication going on that They're not used to there's a certain level of intimacy that's going on that they're not used to and when they're with That with a man who knows what he wants Okay knows his values his beliefs his boundaries and everyone should know your beliefs your values your boundaries What you're gonna put up with what you're not gonna put up with Because that's the foundation of who you are If you don't know what you're about you're gonna get run over Women want this kind of man in their life. They want a man who's gonna come in and say hey, you know what? No, I'm not cool with this You know what that's not at my level. That's not my style. Most guys are just like okay I'm gonna bend my rules because I want to get laid. I want to I want to make her happy Okay, if you're a man and you know what your own boundaries are and you got a good Disposition and who with who you are as far as spiritually and I do believe spirits in the spirit Okay, I don't think there's a guy that sits up there and says you're this you're this you're this But I'll play with the archetypes that are out there I do believe that there's an energy and if you meditate on stuff, you're gonna get answers And you have to dream big because if you're gonna be Average in life if you're gonna be mediocre The best way to do it is to be realistic Okay, you have to be unrealistic about this. Okay, life's gonna grind most people out When I first started I was terrible with women. I was fat missing teeth You know if you ever see there's a book back there. Look at the picture where I started from terrible with women horrible. I Just a normal dude So I was like, how am I gonna get better? So I positioned myself, you know where women were the choir You know, that's like there's a lot of gay guys in there and there's me. I was like this works The girls are into it like a cool. Then I went to a show choir Then I went to Starting in a strip club, but think about it at the time in that time. I made a Goal for myself. I wrote it down. I want to be the best in the world with women Now the young kid coming out of high school, you know, sitting there in the back of a show choir lifting girl Was that realistic to think at that point in time that at one day I'm gonna be up on stage being all the books, you know have more sex with women than most men do in ten lifetimes Did that seem realistic to me? Do you think it was realistic to me? You think I completely believed it? I didn't But I dream big and you have to dream big too if you want this. Is it hard fuck? Yeah, it's hard. It's completely hard. It's what separates the men from the boys The moment like you move from boyshood to manhood you cross the line called responsibility 100% You give up the professional victim game and you start thinking to yourself, you know what? Why not me? Fuck it. Why not me like this is my experience when you move to that level of experience where you're looking down the world And you're thinking you know what this is here for me I'm here. I Have the only and probably will ever have a unique DNA with the solution to every problem here on earth through your unique perspective Nobody else can take that from you. That's how rare you are You're so rare in the world that you have something to offer that nobody else has you have your own solution So what are you gonna do with it? How are you gonna look at situations? What are you gonna want for yourself? You have to know that if you don't know that someone else is gonna come along and say well, I'll give you something to do Why not? All right, so the biggest thing that I want you guys to understand is first of all just stop and realize You know, you're just as good as everyone else around me Lot many guys are better than me at lots of things. I don't focus on that and go well They're better than me. There is no competition among other men Okay, the only competition you have is what level are you going to raise the bar to? That's the only way you move forward in life You keep on raising the bar because I was next thing you know, I was in the strip club I'm gonna flip back to that a little bit. Okay. I was a young kid getting beat the fuck up by the most Manipulative women on the planet. I love dancers. Okay. I love them. I think they're great I think what they do they have to do because they're making money. It's a fantasy. It's not real It's an impulse business that is a necessity in this society because feminisms coming in They shut down strip clubs, you know that lots of strip clubs are up. They put bad names on dancers But I was talking to Anthony earlier or I'm sorry Matt and And we're talking about it and said think about this Anthony was talking about the war on men masculinity Do you know that after 40 there's a four times increase in men suicide than women? Did you know that? Okay, why? Think about this. Why is the strip club so valuable? Anyone have any ideas? Men are lonely It's an outlet for men yet. They want to shut them down It's the only place where a man can go if I'm 40 years old Then I just broke up with my wife or got a divorce and I don't go to a nightclub You know what a girl's do if I come up and want to talk to go creeper fucking post it They shame you things like this So you got to get to the point where you don't give a shit And that's what the strip club is good for guys can come in get that bottom route Conversation maybe even a little you know touching and feeling powerful things So you really got to think is that where you want to be at the end of your life? You want to be going to a strip club? Hopefully you do kind of mine, you know lots of good girls I'll even show you the best girls that give the best dances, you know be like Okay, but the point that I really want you guys to understand is man It comes down to a decision your destiny is formed in the moments of the decisions that you make and as small As mundane as they seem in the moment every moment is just as powerful as every any other moment Okay, you can sit there and you can say well, I'm not gonna do that And what does that lead to? at least Just yeah, I'm no big deal Okay, every decision you make forms in your mind a neural pathway Every time you do that behavior gets stronger and stronger and stronger so the habits start to rule you And it's a hard place to be I've been there You know and coming back from that and having to unlearn Things is hard Changing a habit So why not do the best that you can do to get into your own level of reality what you want I mean how many people here have your own beliefs your values what you're used to what you're gonna put up with what you're not gonna put Up with in life down and stick to it Okay, that's not a lot So think about it. You're the mayor your own town if you had your own rules someone came in and they were unruly They didn't respect you they were late How would you react? You got to hit it hard you got to say hey, this isn't it Alan was talking about time wasters yesterday and There's a girl. I did about six girls right now, and I have a wife all up on the table Upfront they actually let me so if I flip off the story. Let me go back to it I'm gonna want to something else that I saw Johnny and I went and watched King's Kingsman yesterday The new Kingsman you've seen it That's cool I like it and There's a scene in there These are the like the most trained guys and fighting and stuff like this and there was a scene in there with a guy Had to sleep with this girl to put this thing up her vagina so it would transmit this energy and he called her up He's like ah He got weak. He didn't have it worked out And so he got he got worked One of the best in the field that I was thinking man if he like had if he came to one of our seminars He'd have that shit all down and on lock. So he wouldn't even have to go through that So you can have everything you want as long as you're honest about it You know if you're honest about it like and these are things that are cool that took me 25 years to learn and Lots of anguish because there was like four or five times when I met such a cool girl And I'm like I think I'm monogamous again, and then I got monogamous for not a lot a long time I ended up cheating and fucking being miserable and thinking fuck so I knew after a certain thing I am not monogamous. I have great respect for people that are monogamous But I don't think it's for everyone and the society doesn't really reward men who have multiple women So you got to understand okay, what are you about so you can be upfront about it when I meet women for the first time I just go like this I say basically say hey I'm really only will date and I'm really using the date, you know, I hang out with Bisexual women. Oh, well, I'm federal what could be hang out. I go it doesn't do me any good It doesn't do you because what if we hang out we start having sex we start developing feelings What's gonna happen? Okay, it's not gonna be fair for me because I know what I want and It's not gonna be fair for you. So let's just be friends You know when you put something like that on a woman, you say let's just be friends or you know It's it's not really working out on a sexual level. That's a new paradigm for most women So I want you to understand that if you have your philosophy down and be powerful with it and have examples and Analogies of why it's important a guy came up to me says how do you have all these? Relationships with women and and and not have any issues with it. I go. I never said I didn't have any issues Okay, like even my wife sometimes it's funny, you know, my wife and I may split up It's not because we don't get along it's because she really wants kids and I'm not feeling it You know, I'm like look at your it's probably at that point where we need to split But she was saying that one point. She's like well, this doesn't seem to be working out with a lot of the girls Sometimes she has conflict with girls that in itself Minaj management is kind of rough I said, so wait a second. So it hasn't worked but for the last 25 years. I've had four girlfriends consistently At the same time and there's a cycle sometimes they come and they go I'm like, so I've been living this lifestyle for 25 years and it doesn't work. Do you think I give a shit? Would you give a shit if you had that kind of Lifestyle and you were learning things along the way No multiple women. Yeah, I've learned a lot and the nice thing is is I'm at this level now We were all talking about Xan Johnny. We're at this level now. We're fully content. We went into the gutter We went into the basement. We got dirty There's there's a fulfillment there when you live your life the way you want to you can't explain it All I can say is there's a certain piece because I knew that I put myself in those situations that were grinding me out and The thing that's really cool about that is you guys are young like it took me 25 years to do this We didn't have seminars like this. This is why it's so cool We didn't have guys that are true and tried we went to that weird phase where a bunch of guys were coming out They were you know, they got laid three times. They're like, I'm a guru You know, you know like bad advice You know most of the guys that I know I think we're doing it just because I think they were secretly gay and that was their frontal well, look at me So there's a lot of bad advice But now we're at the point where we have guys that have been here over the years that are consistent That really know what they're doing and what took me 25 years because I didn't have any real role models Now you guys can get the best material and if you really look at it like any other subject It's only going to take you I would say for the average person two to four years to figure it out And that's that's quick. That's pretty simple. It's just like any other subject. You got to study it Dynamics, especially between men and women are hard. There's a lot of adjusting You're gonna fail lots of times Okay, but you just keep on getting back up getting back up getting back up think shit man You know, I'm out of girls. They need to go get new girls All right, and that's the cool thing you get to do because most men are like oh my god I'm not gonna approach her because I'm gonna look like an asshole and you're gonna beat yourself up for you know 15 20 minutes or maybe a week and I talked to this girl all the girls that I date are muses, which is cool for me Okay, there's a girl that are the most sought-after women in the world. Okay Guys always try it, but they hang with me and I always ask them I'm very curious about it because I've come such a long way in my dream and I asked them I said well How fast does it take for you? To forget about a guy when he comes up and says hello. She goes what guy now? I was like the guy who comes up and says hello She goes no, that's how fast I forget what guy And I was like really? Then I was like whoa So if you guys are out there worried about you know like approaching a woman and her saying something and feeling bad You're the only one feeling bad because she probably doesn't even remember Two minutes later you're gone. You're you're you're a blip on her screen So why not take the time to say you know what I'm gonna learn this shit And what a lot of guys do is they go all over the board They try to like better themselves in all areas if you just really keep simple about it You're gonna get that much more powerful like just focus on your initial Communication with women I'll talk in yesterday. What we're who's got that was out lunch like the waitress was there And I'm like can I give you a right back there? So can I give you a little advice? I was listening to his conversation. I go where in the conversation Did you have some kind of playful sexual innuendo and I'm like so when she said this I said Why don't you say something like this really really subtle really simple something that I can't remember exactly what I said But it was like well sit down and have some lunch with me like joking or something like this You know that is a form of inviting a woman in having fun, but it's safe and I learned this from Ted Walton at the Ted Walton. I read his book and he said you know what at his level He always talks to people wherever he goes no matter what he gets in the habit of just hey How you doing how you doing so now it's such an ingrained behavior that it's natural for him talk to everyone So I'm like if you just talked to with the woman and and she says oh, I live down the street I said well, you know, you know, I live right down here. Maybe we can meet halfway joking You know, I'd love to take you out or and and get you food poisoning joking something like that You're still saying something that is putting it out there playfully, you know, it's not like creepily But if you do that for the course of a month every girl you just say something playful not creepily Okay, you got to learn the difference. All right, you're gonna get in the habit where it's gonna be so natural to you Even to do what he said talk to everyone Because talking is one of the forms of communication imagine that mysteriously that Get you to be intimate with a woman So I just want you to understand that there's like things that you could do you could just say okay I'm gonna focus on this. I'm gonna focus on this and get it done really quick because most of the basics are out there You know, they're perfect for you as far as that goes and think about this All life, I'm an optimist, okay, and I've done lots of experimental things in my life Okay, and so I know that there's another side. There's there's more energy, but in this physical realm all life All your experiences is gonna end in tragedy Everyone you know is gonna die your pets are gonna die plants are gonna die okay, but when you get to that point and Your crossover transition Are you gonna be proud of the life he lived? They're gonna be like, you know, and I pushed it and that's all between you and you Ain't nobody gonna be able to change that the amount of pride that you have with your own unique DNA and your own unique Lifestyle the way you go through life with whatever situation you have Okay, is it going to be how proud you walk through that you look at God or whatever in the eye and you're like Did good right did good man come out to you and say yeah, you're pretty much like everyone else You think you were born here if there is a God I think you'd be proud of you're like I just did what everyone else wanted me to do. I Was I what did I offer you? You just wasted space you wasted energy. I already got all the other answers But what did you do specifically when you do push yourself a little further? Do you think about that like every moment and see it seems it's so scary on some part Because it's so elusive because you think this moment right here is just normal You know, she's seen that woman over there is just like I'll do it later put it off But that's the moment the powers in the moment and there it almost seems like there's no energy there You have to create your own energy in the moment to get momentum to be powerful to move forward into the future And it becomes a habit they get stronger and stronger and you have more and more self-belief in yourself You know what level like if it's your if you had You have the platinum man who did everything you said and your gold man did most of everything silver Where would you be at? You know as far as the best way to build confidence is to get the things done that you say you're gonna do Because then you can trust your word and you know that you can follow through with what you do So like I say like if you're at If you like 90% of the things you're gonna be pretty good above average probably great 80% good 70% average 60% below average So think about your word think about what you want to do have some goals for yourself because when I was going back to the Goal thing and we're talking about what I wrote down this you think that I'd ever be saying like out of the billions of people on the Planet I've taught most of the major coaches. Okay have sex with women that I still sometimes go well How the fuck did you do that? You know you think that I would ever have that experience. No, so going back to what we said you have to dream big There's energy in dreaming big. There's energy in this Illusion that you want to create that's such at a high level that it adds energy it draws you to it It's what sustained you when you get beat up Beat up dragged around like you know if you have got beat up and dragged around you don't really know what your resilience is going to be like And your resilience comes straight from your curiosity And how curious you are is how deep you're gonna go with a woman and yourself Are you curious like if you get beat up three times like are you curious that you have the resilience to bounce back? And to be more powerful to get back up on your horse Yeah, it's very obvious when I'm working with the dancers And I'm always getting the dancers back up on point You know they come back and I have to do instant therapy on them because they go out there And they're with a bunch of asshole guys there. I got you're too fat. You're just too small They come back and they're crying and shit and it starts off like this and this is what women do So I don't want you to be feminine in this way They come up and they're like the first guy right here that they come up and they go you want to dance No Second time next guy you want to dance? No, okay third time you want to dance Next time You don't want to dance to you All right next time. I'm gonna go in the back and smoke a cigarette They don't come back out. So that's what women do You think you can be a little bit better than that? I mean women are soft. They can get beat up. What excuse do you have? You know, what's a woman gonna do to you? Don't hurt your feelings You know, yeah, get your feelings hurt, but you know what that's the nice thing about feelings is their energy They're moldable. They're pliable. It's like your brain What's the meta thing that the metaprogram that you want to think okay? I get beat up. I fold Doesn't happen like that. You can't do that So you have to really get you have to get motivated like just having this talk right here Something in your body should be going like fuck the way I had been living All right Fuck that like why are you sitting back on the sideline? Like life's going out there if I could do it and I started from the Seatiest shittiest strip club in the world that you can imagine was fucking scary a friend of mine got shot killed there All right, who was bouncing as well? Okay graduating graduating graduating like you don't think That life is just gonna hand you stuff like you get grinded out next thing You know you like pop through and you're like fuck. I'm at this level cool Like it's better than that level but when you're getting tossed around you think that you're going underwater That's the way it works You know you never think that this is where it's at Even even at this phase right now like everyone's like oh you're mad you've done all the shit Yeah, I have but I'm still running into new things You know the the intensity that I used to have because I've had so many experiences. It's not there I knew as fucked when I was there's like a I had I throw parties at my house There's a full-on like a little orgy going on with a bunch of girls. All right, and the girls like yeah, come on over. I was like I'm kind of hungry. I knew I was like, oh, that's not good You know, but you as a man you're gonna have to go through that Don't get to that point and and have all this other extra baggage that's still there like get to that point where you're like Hey, man No women this day sometimes they'll be like, oh, you're too old and I'm like that's not that I'm too old I'm like you're just not mature enough to understand what a real man's about You know, so I have to work on this level like that's all new to me I'm going, you know great. That's a whole new look. So there's always stuff along the way Don't get to the point and be like I haven't done any of my work. I still got all this fucking baggage here Shit now. I'm getting into you know middle-aged. Now. There's a whole nother realm You know, it's like a these rocks. They'll drag you down. You got to take the rocks out when they're there Write them down figure out what's going on when I first started. I was an insecure motherfucker big time I'll tell the story because I don't know if you guys heard it But I literally was like I'm gonna fix this and this is what Evan Pagan or David D'Angelo We used to do this in the early game because we're curious I wrote down all the beliefs that I had this how you do you get a book spend a day I just be aware of the thoughts going through your head came up the hundred forty negative beliefs about myself and Consistently one at a time. I hit it. I had he I hit his he hit mine We hit him together and I started working on one reframing it doing hypnosis doing whatever it is taking it apart You know try to break it down so the emotional energy is still not there and boom one would disappear And then another would disappear and pretty soon like because I got rid of this one This one was kind of linked to disappear and I got to the point where there was no negative emotion Then I was like, okay Well now what are the beliefs that are gonna empower me to the man that I want to be that's gonna facilitate this Lifestyle that I want for myself then you start to create these So you have to sit down because if you don't do the work on yourself and figure out what's going on You're not gonna know who you are what you're about And does it take time like oh man you got to invest it shit I can't watch Game of Thrones because that's like an hour. Well if you put an hour Into just sitting down writing your beliefs. That's good. You're investing in yourself. You have to invest in yourself If you don't invest in yourself you valuable not gonna happen You know women want to be around people that raise their expectation because they secretly I think the biggest thing that women want in their life Excuse me. I'll keep a little tension on that The biggest thing that women want in their life. I think is to be successful and to have freedom and When you live your life by a physical shining example of that Women want to be around you because you've raised your level so high that you're not like every other guy Okay, you can hold them to a higher expectation I hold my the women that are in my life at a super high expectation not to be a dick, but because they're so used to men Placating to them. They're so used to our society living at a level. That's not cool like this one girl And I'm gonna see if she'll pick up She's on the she's on the cutting block. Okay, beautiful woman But she's late all the time and she she wastes my time and I sit around I'm like look this isn't gonna work and every time she comes over she'll have a little bit of drama I go this I go you got a really young mentality. This isn't gonna work out Okay, and so I'm very harsh with her and she hates it and otherwise right that's pretty harsh because I'm like look You're fucking wasting my time. I said be here at 8 o'clock. Okay, and that's not just the first time She was late a number of times I go I ain't gonna sit around because I stopped my work get ready sit around and wait My time is important. Okay. I value my time which you shall value your time and so I'll be there at 8 o'clock I said, okay, if you're here at 8 o 1 Forget it So she's always pushing it because she's used to because people let her slide And when you let people like that slide and they don't value that people aren't gonna put up with it Then they're fucking themselves because nobody in life is gonna want to be around a person who's always late That thinks that you know is selfish about time with other people So she was about 10 minutes away and she was coming over and it was like 705 I knew she wasn't gonna make it. I'm all you're not gonna make it might as well turn around She goes no, I'll make it she pulled up my house at 8 o 2 and I was gone. She's like, where are you gone? Down the street. She's like, what do you mean? I said, I told you should go. I can't believe you I go hey, that's how it works now. You know what it's like and how she got better not at all All right, so I don't even know if you can hear this, but I'm this is not planned, okay, but She's gonna she'll tell you hopefully she picks it up Can you hear that Now I may come across harsh. Okay, cuz this is live She may not pick up. She may pick up She doesn't pick up that silence again One more time and we'll give it up All right, maybe she'll call back. I'm gonna leave there the point oh something about silence all right silence in Communication is probably the most powerful seducer that there is People are talking talking talking, you know men think that the more they talk the faster that she's gonna spread her legs for you Don't work that way. Okay. It's the silence It's the pictures if you're talking she's not able to really make the pictures on her own in ways that she prefers So when you're silence about the often you have that depth You let her feel it you feel that the void of the universe It's a fulfilling like okay, and you're grounded and you communicate with a woman and you're looking at her directly in the eye She feels that You know and time most people think that time it's the lack of time Which really creates the seduction in a woman's mind. Do you seduce the woman? For the most part yes or no Yeah, if you see few moments you set the interpretation you set their inspiration You get her mind going there if you know how to you know put on some light sexual innuendos get her thinking But for the most part she's gonna do it to herself She's gonna be like that guy was really interesting. He wasn't he didn't wait around. He actually said well It's nice to be you walked off said something and she's like oh so in her mind It ticks one of the things I do at work because I work, you know Wednesday Thursday for sure And then I go in other times, you know there's girls that you know I always flirt with and I walk them out to their car and they're like when you're working next I go next week Doesn't that suck they're like what we gotta wake a whole week to see me next that's gotta suck But I know you're making those pictures in your mind right and they always laugh and stuff like this But you're just putting that suggestion in lightly Okay, but she does it in the off time. So stop thinking the more you talk to her the more you're hanging around her The more you're leveraging yourself to get laid You know, I know guys that are that are super super powerful and strong that have a quick interaction And also boom they leave and the girls like what where that guy go? You know, especially in the strip of who's that? Okay, that's my friend. Oh, he said you were gonna give his number. I go did he know all right, you know Cuz I know he's doing what he's doing. It's a very powerful thing to do, you know, so so be more exciting How do you be more exciting with a woman? Well first of all you create the life you want to create You know, you decide for yourself to raise the bar and to live an exciting life And know that living an exciting life one that you have to go above and beyond is Is a sacrifice you have to sacrifice stuff being a man. You have to learn to sacrifice What are the things that you're gonna sacrifice? Sometimes it's friends TV. Are you gonna respect yourself? Like what do you do? Just as a base line to be healthy put out the best energy like I had to play my full stack when I was there I was like, okay, I got to take care of working out Got done worked out got it down eating eating equals good energy if you eat, right, okay? Learning about stuff. I had to do what I had to do to place the best hand because I wasn't the most prettiest kid I mean that I would consider myself a brutally rugged. That's you know, that's I'm not a pretty man You know, it's one of those things but women appreciate that ability to go through and get grinded out because it It chisels away you it brings you grounded into that masculine energy Like I you'd be amazed if you came to my house like how many women will climb up in bed that are welcome at my house Anytime they'll climb up in bed and just like come in the bed and they'll just put their head on my chest And then and I'm cool with it. I'm not I don't look for sex all the time Okay, but they're just like I would they they all say the same thing they just you ground me You center me Because they don't know what's going on in real life, you know women can be grounded in their own nature But with all the wishy-washy guys that are of the you know, the men that are out there these days they're all over the place so a good strong masking man who knows what he wants who has a high level of Expectation for himself is gonna probably have a high level of expectation for the person that he's with That makes sense and that's what they really want You know one of the best things like money and money's cool. It attracts women Okay, I always say you know if you want to be you want to get women become a drug dealer become a millionaire or be really good-looking Okay, other than that there's one other level and that's be so masterful in your own life that your energy Brings them up Your inspiration brings them up When they get around you and I have to be with women all the time I have to go in there and quick fix them because they just got beat up in the shrimp club and I'm like come on Let's go you're beautiful blah blah blah look at you and I go, you know look at this guy out here Blah blah blah. I have to do stuff on the fly to get him to go back out there to make their money Okay, that's what they appreciate because they're like, you know what? He's gonna tell me straight up like I'm brutally honest with women. They come up to me They're what do you think and I go you look like spend Bob's score pants that outfit and they're like really I go Yeah, look like you look at your curves your curves are all sexy and nice like this and you're wearing some straight-ass outfit That's like this. I'm like and this other girl. She's wearing these clogs brand-new girl matter of fact I'm actually dating her kind of now, but she was wearing these clogs like, you know stilettos are sexy, right? I've seen that women with these clogs and she came in she's 21 And she's like jump stairs. I'm like, hey I said come here. I said you like losing money. She's like, what do you mean? I go do their shoes are ugly And she's like, well the girls say they were pretty I go Really the girls said that you think the girls want you to look pretty You're competing with them for money. She's like, oh, they did lie. I go. No You know and not at all and so she changed she started making money next day She came out and she's wearing those you know those little things that they have like the snaps they go like this Have you seen those little? Laundry things it's like an outfit, but it comes down here and they snap it together here It's like snap it opens. Well, she she was wearing that and she didn't know and she's like bending over like this And I said, I'm hammering this poor girl. I said hey come here She's like what I go. There's a house mom in the back. She's an older lady. She's like 60 years old. She's so stuff. I said You need to cut those things on the bottom of your pants She's like why I'm all because when you bend over the edges fold out. It looks like you're wearing a fucking pad You know like a tampon pad and she's like no it doesn't like a mom Tell her she goes You know and then when girls come out to me, I'm they're like You think I'll make money. I go first of all you smell like fucking smoke your breath smells like smoke Your body smells like smoke you think a guy's gonna pay good money for that No, no, no fucking go in there wash your shit off you get pretty and come back out You're here to make money. I think a guy's gonna pay 20 bucks for two minutes to smell like an ash To have an ash tray rubbing up on down on his body, you know, it's that level of being harsh It's that level of not worrying about their feelings on a degree because if you're truthful It's the thing if you're truthful, they're gonna appreciate it because most men bullshit them and It's so rare to have a man. It's like no, I don't like that even though it may hurt them You just tell them like it's my it's not a personal. It's my own personal opinion. I could be wrong I don't like it And then they said well these people said it's been good then wear it That's my own personal opinion stick strong with your personal opinion. Your personal opinion matters Your personal opinion doesn't matter when you don't respect your own opinion to do the things that you want to do So it's coming back to this bottom line is why not you You have to get good at you It's the hardest thing in the world but a man if he's gonna be Satisfied in life if he's gonna be stoked in life and look back and be proud of his own unique Contribution because really it's about it's an institution of contribution to be a man. Think about that You are an institution to give Contribution if you're gonna be a high-level man, you have to contribute Whether it's your own unique personality Whether it's you're going and doing things above and beyond because that's really where it's at When you can start doing service when you can start giving more and more and more of the energy you get more and more energy When you're all worried about yourself and you're just working on yourself and I gotta do a retreat I gotta do this and you work on yourself. You're never gonna get that good energy You got to go above and beyond and start to help it out other people as long as you're not being like codependent on it Understand it's a tough love. It's tough love not only for you But for everyone else around you if we're gonna be a high level man like that Now this is my opinion. I can't come across. I might have been a little slightly jaded working 25 years in the strip club All right, but I get along with all women for the most part except my sister She is a feminist Trust me trust me it gets exciting sometimes You know and it's real simply like if a girl says no you say next That quick you should have that worked in no next No next, you know work on because it doesn't matter in her mind to that degree and like I remember like I said Man it every level. There's another devil No matter how high you get there's another devil at every level. It's gonna come in It's gonna beat you down the bride of the light the dark of the shadow always there is no escape for you as a man There is none so handle the shit now that seems hard So that you can be big enough and bold enough to get stuff. That's way harder whoo But it's worth it That's the cool thing. It's a grind, but it's worth it and And just remember man like I said To understand who you are and what you're about like there's guys here that can support you Okay, there's guys here that that can understand what you're going through as long as you don't become a professional Victim Okay, and waste your time like you should give yourself some serious goals, whether it's like I'm gonna walk up to a woman 30 minutes a day something simple Whether it's gonna be I'm gonna communicate with women. I'm gonna learn this I'm gonna ask questions If you're brutally honest with them you can be brutally honest with you Ask them ask women and the conversation like you just had a conversation you can stop like it's amazing How much women want to help? Okay, so if you just had a bad interaction with a woman and you're just like I just came across just go okay Hey, this is gonna sound really stupid But I'd like some real honest advice as a man The way I just came at you if you were a female dating coach Where would you say I went right? Where would you say I went wrong? Self-exploration like it's out there. That's why I say use what's out there and they'll tell you And pretty soon you'll start to get the habit. Well, you know what you're you were a little fidgety Or you came across too harsh or you didn't smile Okay, they're gonna give you your best feedback. That's live. That ain't no bullshit That's live interaction and that's live data You want that live data because that's where it's at be cool with asking them because sometimes just you asking them lowers your It shows that you're vulnerable and they may continue the conversation on and now because you relaxed and maybe she's relaxed She feels a little bit more comfortable with you and now she's helping you you never know where that can go It could go to the bedroom You know, but be okay with that like make it a gold next next cook all you guys If you're out there when you talk to a woman just say hey, I'm doing a little socio I don't know social studies thing and I'm supposed to ask, you know as a man What I could have done to be more attractive in your eyes if anything She'll say with the way you close like that's the best Advice that you can get is from a woman. All right, and it's gonna toughen you up Because you know it like most guys can't take it they can't take the the heat of Worrying about what other people think about them. I mean when you worry about what other people think about I'm sure you heard it. You know, you care so much about what they think that you forget about yourself Their their opinion of you is so much more important than your own opinion of yourself. That's a weak weak way of being Okay, you can't be like that. I'm well you can't be like that. There's there's consequences There's things called strap-on that girls use with guys like that sometimes. All right It's a real penetrating experience So I want to kind of open it up a little bit because I was gonna give 20 minutes I mean, do you guys have questions about things because I want to be able to answer Questions specifically that you may have and I also gonna give you guys an offer So remind me to give you guys an offer that I'm not gonna give anywhere else But I have a tendency to go a little off the track. So go ahead Eric so you go into strip club. How do you go in there and Not be looked at as a mark You know and a wallet that they're looking to extract money from Okay. Well, first of all, I got to go in the attitude that you're not going in there to meet a woman because she's a stripper You're kind of generalizing. Here's what I do walk in there and just say you know what? This environment Relaxes me. I know and usually these are what they call NLP Anchors, okay, like spatial anchors. You can sit there like a buck is gonna go far If you have 30 bucks, you can go in there 30 bucks two minutes of average two minutes a song 30 bucks an hour Two hours you're gonna be able to sit there girls are gonna come by and you just like this You know, they say you have a good time. You're like, I'm gonna just here to relax You know this beats the environment with all the other guys that you're probably used to I know a lot of guys Come in here that are thinking that they're gonna get laid or they're they're gonna meet women or you know, they're they're just pervin But then there's guys that that come in here just because I like look I am I appreciate the female body You know, I appreciate coming in here I appreciate, you know having multiple women that are cool enough that are ballsy enough to go up on stage because it's something that I consider it's pretty admirable to be able to do that and Then you just get in a conversation and you can even say there's a lot of guys that come in here that are pretty idiots, right? And so what you're doing when by doing this, you're separating yourself from all the other guys And you're saying then there's you know, then there's guys that you probably met that are really cool You know and have you ever met a guy when you're in a club that you're like you went home with or you became a boyfriend Or there are other girls that you've seen that do that What what happened like I'm curious about the nature of this business because this is amazing what you guys do Do you see how you can come in there and do that like you're walking through the door It's not think that you're a mark on some level. It's unrealistic Okay, but there is a difference in the girl's mind about a guy who's in there thinking that he's gonna get laid Because he's in the fantasy world of that and a guy who's actually pretty cool a Guy who's not you know having a good conversation because in that conversation They're gonna go in his mind. He's different so help separate yourself like this do things like this Have fun with them like the strip club the reason I got into the strip club business because I had the worst eye contact with women Probably of any guy like I couldn't even look at all the Because as soon as I looked at him I just my body is what I mean ever feel that like it your lights up and I was like All right, so I forced myself to go in there because for a buck I could sit there and force and not be like some creeper, you know Even way back then to get better at it and I was like, okay, three seconds. Let's do this three seconds one All right, three seconds, right? Well To you know, I would be like concentrating on my breath like I micro-managed it, but that's why I went in there It's a fantastic place to practice your skills and get good with women I mean even in conversation Conversations where it's at, you know a lot of guys talk talk talk, you know but I mean the conversation will reveal the depth of the Experience that you can have with a woman like does anyone want to play role play like, you know On how many questions you can ask I highly recommend everyone, you know Study a little bit over they call mind lines or sleight of mouth patterns It's it's how to get into the depth of things that people say how to listen deeper to conversations Because when I woman has a conversation with me, I'm exploring her world. I'm not talking about me Okay, I'm exploring her world and I'm teaching her more about her way of life Because I'm asking the right questions and when she is going to those depths of questions that I ask her and she's Exploring she's like I never thought about that, but she's processing. She's linking to you this experience of depth To you so if anyone wants to play role model pretend like you're a chick, you know and and go back and forth I'll kind of teach you a little bit of how to do that or I'll teach you afterwards or something like this But that answer your question on how to not be looked at like that guy Just use the non-verbal say there's a lot of guys I know the women here that are idiots that you know They probably think they're gonna like lead then there's guys that you probably meant that are really fucking cool It's kind of like the speed seduction shit. You know, there are good aspects of it Okay, and then there's the personalities behind it Okay, it works for you don't Any other questions? fears a few years ago. I left an abusive relationship. It was mostly and physically abusive and It's left me devastated. I've left other relationships just fine But this one has left a deep impact on me and has affected me still to this day three and a half years later What would you suggest to get over and find worth in myself past that abuse? Why would you give worth to a woman to define who you are as a man? Like who's setting the standard for you? You're looking to say someone else is going to Infuse me or define my life for me. You define your own life Everyone gets hurt. Remember all life ends in tragedy. Okay, what you do with it is are you a professional victim? Are you not because you can make that? Yeah, we all feel shit I mean like I told the story with the get over your ex I created that program because I was dating a girl for five years that lived right across the way Went south and she was not open. I was like trying to like getting information from her shut down I was feeling it. I was like I had this thing and if you're a man and you're doing this kind of stuff And you're having multiple relations. You better get real good at feeling the sting You better get real good at feeling sufferings to a degree because if you're man enough to put it out there like this Is who you want you better be man enough to take the sting? Okay, so you'll have to be able to do that and the opportunity that you have is That all that extra time that you're wasting on it because I know that there's a lot of energy involved in that You know you can man up and say hey all this extra time that I'm wasting I'm gonna be able to reach handle it to something much more productive and powerful and I was talking to you before I said do this how many time we all I'm thinking about I guess stop thinking about her. Well, let's put a fucking financial monetary Number on it. Let's just say you make a hundred dollars a day a hundred bucks a day. What is that like? I'm not a mathematician. So some of you guys are gonna have to help me if you're making a hundred bucks a day Okay per hour. What would that average around? Okay per minute You did good there Okay, what would it be average like throw it out there because like I said man, I'm I'm next to well When it comes that so eight bucks an hour. What would that average a minute? Okay, so 40 cents. So that's what you figure your time is worth if you're making a hundred bucks a day 40 cents a minute and I put this on guys. Okay, so you keep on thinking about this girl I want you to get a stopwatch. I'd make do I do this get a stop watch every day As soon as you start thinking about her hit play or hit start and then at the end of the day go I thought about her almost two hours Well, then you get to go and give that $16 to a homeless person Once you start learning that they're wasting your time and they're wasting your energy when they're not there And you're doing it to yourself and you start punishing yourself for it How long is it gonna be when you're like, I'm not doing that shit no more this chick that I can't stand Okay, or that can't stand me and she's you know trying to make my life horrible in some way Now she's causing me financial ruin I mean how many guys are gonna be stoked to be like yeah this month I just gave away 400 bucks because I was thinking about her anyone No, so there's ways of doing that like I said the main thing is is do you get the man up and say okay? Yeah, you know what you're gonna get beat you're gonna get stung. Okay, but it reveals you as a man You get to redefine who you are You get to figure out wearing your life. Did you give permission to people to run your life like that? That's the thing, you know every person has to relearn we come into this world and we learn what society our parents our friends Okay, and then we get to this level where we boom take the red pill and we're like shit I got to unlearn a lot of stuff and that's a process for a man Every man is gonna have to go through that okay It was scary in my life when I went through that took me a number of years You know that's how I start off massage and I'm like well this didn't work out crystals, you know I went through LSD. I mean I've done over 250 hits trips of DMT Mixed with ketamine. Okay, like I've done a lot of shit to explore the lot of shamanistic stuff I've run in nudist calic colonies because I was trying to find who I am At the time where they were like, I think Eric's going a little fucking nutty Okay, but all those friends are miserable all those friends are in relationships where they're it's embarrassing all these friends call me Hey The wife's gone for the weekend. You think I can get hooked up at cheetahs Sure You know when I'm picking up parties in the van the most disgusting thing the reason why I hammer on guys so hard is because I'm Sick and tired and disgusted and men that are like hey guys. Okay. No listen. We're all here together No one tell the wives we're gonna be here and I'm just driving on that's fucking pathetic It's pathetic as a man like a man should have his way down like hey, this is who I am. This is what I'm about This is what I'm gonna do If you don't like it cool, then you're not you're not appropriate for my life You know you want a woman to compliment your life. She's there to compliment you. She's not there to be your better half She's there to be the icing on your cake. You're the cake. You're the foundation She's the icing either makes you look good or makes you look not good Vice versa, you're complimenting her as well in her way So understand that there's some really powerful factors that are going on and to look around just say I'm not doing the shit anymore Done when this conference is over and I'm driving back home or I'm flying Every situation your life should look different. You're gonna start to see the patterns in your life where you're looking around and saying That's weak. Where's that gonna lead to? This person over here pussy This person over here. I would never put up with that shit. I tell that to girls And they laugh They laugh and I'm like that shit that you're pulling over there wouldn't even happen in my life Not even you wouldn't even get the first word out of your mouth Not even happening. They laugh and they're like I think because they get away with it Okay, and they're used to it because there's a lot of guys Remember it's real simple, you know, and this is why guys have to learn this like women will beat us up and be like Oh, they're doing this micro aggression and all this shit shut the fuck up But a minus is easy getting laid for a man is a chore getting laid for a woman's a choice Real simple. I was arguing with this girl. She's like, no, it's not that easy. I go bullshit. I go, you know what? Open up a Tinder account right now, and I'm gonna open up my Tinder account same time exact same time. I said watch what happens Five hours later. I had two hits Five hours later. She had three hundred and something. I Forgot about it. You know like five days later. I remembered. I'm like, how many you at right now? I'm all I got 10 Sway, I was not good on tender. I got late a couple times, but you know like said it just didn't work I had like 10. She was at 3,500. I said now. Tell me how it's not easier for a woman Tell it shut her down. So you had nothing more say I go This is what men have to go through and if you're not willing to do the sacrifice and go up with it You're ain't gonna get it. You're gonna just be average. You're gonna be sitting on the sideline And that's it Like I said the most important things you're an accessory to a woman on a lot of levels If you don't look good if you don't dress like I'm not the best dresser, but I got a hell of a personality Alright, I sit there with them and go okay. This is it. I do I take care of my body Yeah, does it suck like doing it at 60% of the time I hit the gym. I'm dredging in all right just the way it is, but It helps Okay, haircut. It's pretty good the way I talk the way I communicate Leveraging and then you have to be able to do that You have to respect yourself if you don't respect yourself to do the things that are good for you What was that gonna respect you or you're gonna get a woman that's on the same level? I mean the most amazing thing is when you have two people working together or three as a powerful unit moving forward progressively Okay to be more productive to be more happy to be more healthy all these wonderful things in life It's such a powerful thing. I just want you guys to get this like deep down Like I want my voice to become one little cell in your body. That's like don't be a pussy And that's day and listen this is a this is a lonely Journey there's nothing more lonely than a man because he's the one who has to do it and most of the time It's you alone in your own head So you might as well get real good at understanding that and real good at convincing yourself and And it being your own person that inspires you to get up to the gym like even the gym sometimes I'm like I feel like doing it. I'll check myself. I have like an energy drink sometimes I'll be like I'll take an energy drink and I know I'm fucked if I don't work out I'll be like Jesus fuck, you know, so I'll be like, okay, I'm just gonna cheat boom And I'm like, I gotta go to the gym. I have to work this out. I'm gonna feel like shit You know a lot of times you're being creative with the way that you got to manipulate yourself out of things Like get good at manipulating yourself Okay, there's no easy way through this and things like that any other questions Cool what I got two minutes. Yeah, you were talking about Your purpose and just your your your reality what you want to live and my question to you is What the fact factors determine a man who succeeds and who doesn't succeed and what determines how how fast if he does succeed What determines how fast he does how fast he does? I'll say I look at life as pure potential Pure potential like potential in every moment of what I'm gonna do what I choose to do what I want to do I live life complete by how I want to do things in the moment at any one point in time like full 100% choice My wife gets pissed and a lot of girls that I'm hanging out with get pissed because I will sit there in a parking lot And I'll get out and I'll open the door and I have mason jars Okay, that's what I drink when I go to the yeah, and I'll be like I got a pee. I'll pee I Little repeated there was another seminar that was going on a couple weeks ago I was in this big event like this. I had to pee and there's a huge line. I just want like this It's not tacky. It's not, you know, like it like Purpose, but I was like, I gotta fuck a pee. I don't give a shit Okay, I threw it away wash the thing and stuff like that But a man should be able to do whatever he wants in any one situation The moment you start worrying about what other people say. Yeah, I could people think he's a sick pig He's a fucking, you know a brute. He's a caveman But I enjoy my life Happiest person that I know and that's what it comes down to because I make that in the moment and as far as like the speed of it The speed of it really comes down to your own commitment You have to be committed and everyone knows they both you can't bullshit the mirror you look at yourself and you're bullshitting You have you have to have that commitment You have to like I said set the bar and say you know what every behavior that you do is gonna have a Consequence that leads into something else and it goes down the line You can track every behavior if I don't approach her. I'm gonna feel bad. I'm gonna talk shit to myself I'm gonna have less energy. All right, that's gonna build a stronger pattern for next time It's gonna see more easier. I'm gonna come up with an excuse compared if I walk up to her. Hey, you know what? I learned more data You know, I got a richer reality a map of reality than I would have before it's more complete now because in my mind I thought maybe I knew her but I didn't approach her so I know nothing about even I walk up to her and say Hi, she goes fuck off. I'm like, okay. Well, she at least had this kind of voice She talked high my map of reality is stronger It's more realistic because I have an actual representation that can go on the map of the world and explain things and Define things so everything is about data. Everything is about how to Enrich your world and in your reality through experience because the more data you have the richer your map is if that makes sense You have to get so curious. That's the key Curiosity is the key if be curious about everything curious of how I'm gonna get my feelings hurt Curious if I'm gonna smile laugh or cry if she fucking shuts me down. Okay, so I got okay. I'm gonna just wrap this up I just want I'm gonna one more minute to really grind into you Nobody is gonna live your life for you at the end of the day It's your eyes that connect with your brain your brain is gonna either have a good Understanding of life or it's gonna have a shitty understanding of life The only thing that makes it different is you going out there and putting yourself in the situations and building past it Getting stronger because when you put yourself and you get shut down and you get beat up Okay, when you're the solution and you have that solution Is there anyone in here that thinks that at the end of day if you come up with the solution to everything that you guys are Worried about right now you come up with the solution. You think you're gonna be worse off or better off You're gonna be a fuckload better off because if the next level is gonna come you're gonna get more powerful You're gonna have more pride in yourself People are gonna respect you more and especially this DNA We need men in this world that are powerful because the media is fucking guys heads up And if we don't have guys that are right now saying hey, you know what? I'm gonna do this right now and I'm gonna be that guy because I'm gonna be a physical manifestation of for my kids for the cousins for the friends down the street They're probably gonna watch stuff on social media and they're gonna have a clue and this country is gonna be fucked So make the decision now that there is no more bullshit Set your standard high and get ready to kick ass in life and get ready to get grinded fucking out because it's tough But it's fucking worth it a hundred percent across the board. Hope you enjoyed