 In this module, you will see that when our thinking is changed about gender that is deconstruction takes place and it happens through our desire. What happens after that? The social system constructs gender, then we deconstruct it through desire. What happens now? Culture interferes. Culture controls our desire. This influence of culture leads to another process that is called reconstruction. Initially gender work is done by male children. Now how it happens? How culture does it? The first stage is through male children and adults. After the first two years of life they are agents of culture. They do the gender work. They construct art, art and views about them. During this phase fathers are more active in parenting than our mothers. The style of parenting is different for boys and girls. See our treatment by our fathers. They talk with us. The stories they tell us. So in parenting, in our grooming, they are more active and especially in grooming of boys. Monitor the choice of gender specific games, language or toys. So everything is being monitored, being controlled through parenting and especially by fathers. In parenting, fathers give more attention to boys than girls. It is also observed that girls are more neutral in choices of plays etc. than the boys. Whenever they play, they talk, they remain neutral. Boys tend to be more rigid because they are interrupted by their male peers. Male peers, they enforce gender norms. They remind them of gender norms. And they disapprove feminine choices. See fathers start this process. They focus on boys. Then comes our peers, especially male peers. Male peers also take part in this monitoring of our choices. And whenever we take wrong choices, these people interrupt. Apparently activities and behaviors are neutral. There is of course something different in case of girls. The difference is called asymmetric view of gender. So this is the way culture interferes. And this is the way culture reconstructs, reset our thinking about gender. Here is a task to further elaborate the ideas I have shared with you. Talk with your father, see when he is free and comfortable. Interview him informally to support or reject the idea of asymmetry. Asymmetry means their attitude for boys and for girls is not symmetrical, not identical, not similar. So after the interview, you will see whether the view that culture creates asymmetric attitude towards boys and girls is right or wrong. Another task is compare your findings from the interview with your father with some book or any other writing on parenting styles. Such books are available especially in libraries where early childhood education is taught. So parenting style, even general bookshop and Google can provide you books, materials on parenting styles. So write your own point of view after this comparison with your father's parenting style and with the style discussed in that book. Remember you will focus on parenting in Pakistani culture.