 When the narcissist thinks they are done with you, it is inevitable that at some point your relationship with the narcissist will end. It is very rare that someone will stay with the narcissist, or that the narcissist will keep them around. Because there is so much awareness about this now, to remain around a narcissist, they have to be able to pull the wool over your eyes. They have to be able to deceive you. If they cannot do that, you will experience constant fights and arguments. Until it finally ends, when the narcissist first targets you, it may feel like a fairy tale, but it isn't long until they begin to devalue you. They begin to hold contempt for you. They treat you as though you are worthless beneath their consideration, but this tends to happen gradually, although it can also happen suddenly, while devaluation happens over a longer period of time. It gradually gets worse the longer you stay with them. You may not realize just how bad it was until they finally discard you. Even when the narcissist discards you, it doesn't mean that it's really over. They will often return to their victims if they believe they can get something out of them. It's a cycle and it will often repeat itself. They will say that they are done with you. They will discard you, but then they will come around with a hoover. They will contact you again, because they see that you're starting to move on. They see that you're doing better without them. They will even come back if they see you with someone else. Most of their behaviors are provoked by envy and jealousy. When the narcissist discards you, it can feel very unpleasant and uncomfortable. It's not like a normal breakup. You cannot talk to them or work through it together, because they don't even see you as a person. You're just an object that is no longer useful or desirable to them. So they're just tossing you in the trash. There's nothing that needs to be said. They don't care about your feelings. They don't care about what you're going through. That doesn't happen with the narcissist, because they just see you as an object. They just saw you as something that could provide some form of convenience to them. Which is what they then chose to exploit. And when they decide that you are an inconvenience, that is when they decide to get rid of you, without any regard for your feelings. Because all they care about is what they want. They are self-absorbed and they lack empathy. They are only concerned with their own profit and pleasure. And they don't see anything wrong with that. They will always find a way to justify their behavior. They will destroy your life and then move on as if nothing happened. Narcissists will discard you because they need constant entertainment. And they get bored very easily. When the narcissist thinks they are done with you, they will tell you that they are done with you. Or they will just leave. They will throw a temper tantrum. They will disappear as if you never existed. And they might not even tell you what you did wrong. They will just go because they want to move on to something else. Narcissists often do things without thinking. They are quickly irritated and provoked. So the discard will happen very quickly. They're not going to remain around you if they're planning on discarding you. A person would only do that if they're trying to make it work if they care about you. Narcissists are very impulsive so they're not going to be thinking about it over a long period of time. It will happen very quickly. As soon as the narcissist thinks they're done, they are done. When the narcissist discards you, you need to process your emotions. The narcissist will not validate what you are going through. So you will feel like this traumatic experience has not been resolved. And they may also decide to come back. The narcissist may think they are done with you, but you can choose to be done with them. You can choose to discard them first. But when you decide that you're done, you really need to be done. You should never return to the narcissist. The only reason why someone would return to the narcissist is because they hope that they can change. The narcissist will not change. So you need to take away your hope. If you discard the narcissist, you should never take them back because they will only come back to punish you. They will only hurt you and then discard you. Thank you for watching. I hope this video resonated with you. Please like, comment, share and subscribe. If you would like to donate my PayPal link, it's in the video description. Coaching queries. You can email me at coaching.narc-survivor.uk. Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon.