 As we all know, the Dolan twins just sat down with Shane Dawson to discuss where their YouTube career is heading. So in this video, what we're going to do is we're going to take a look at this conversation from the aspect of positive psychology. What is up everybody? This is Chris from the Rewired Soul, where we talk about the problem, but focus on the solution. And if you're new to my channel, what I try to do is take different topics going on in the YouTube community, try to see what lessons we can pull from them, and kind of get our wheels turning a little bit. So if you're into that stuff, make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell. And if you're not yet, make sure you follow me over on social media at the Rewired Soul over on Instagram and Twitter. So for those of you who don't know with all of my videos, what I'd like to do is find a cause that kind of ties in with the video topic, and we donate 20% of the YouTube ad revenue to that cause. All right. So this video, 20% will be going to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America. This is a great, great, great organization. And it's meant to help people who are struggling with anxiety and depression when millions and millions and millions of people around the United States are struggling with this. So make sure that you share this video, but also if you would like to donate to them directly, there will be a link down in the description and the pinned comment below. All right. So yeah, the Dolan Twins announced when was it last week that they were doing a collaboration with Shane Dawson. A lot of people didn't know what it was about, but I guess when you sit down with Shane Dawson, you look like, okay, all right, something's up, something's going on. So they sat down with Shane Dawson, and it was kind of like sitting down with a mentor. Shane Dawson's been in the YouTube game for what, like 12 years now, and the Dolan Twins have been uploading weekly since they were 14 years old. And they're getting to an age, you know, they're 19, about to turn 20. And they're getting to an age where they're trying to figure out, you know, what, what's the next step? Do they want to keep, you know, going on the path that they're going to? They want to switch things up and everything like that. All right. So like I said, we're going to dive into some positive psychology. But first, I want to ask you a question. All right. Answer down in the comments below, pause the video if you have to. But in one sentence, let me ask you this. What does true happiness look like to you? All right. We'll circle back to that question at the end of this video, but make sure you leave a comment down below. All right. But anyways, I want to start this video out by discussing this clip right here, which I found really fascinating. Well, I've dealt with the second twins. I've dealt with a lot of twins. I'm going to do this. We'll do this. Okay. But I'm actually proud of you. I know that, and I don't want to sound cheesy, but I know this is like hard to talk about kind of this kind of stuff, especially for you guys, because I'm assuming a lot of your audience is like younger and they're probably just like, you like I want more videos. You can bleep me. You can put a dolphin noise. So it's like kind of a big step for you guys to be like, we want to like chill. Slow down. Well, we haven't even talked about what we're going to deal with. Yeah. No, but it's okay. I mean, fortunately, the times that we've taken breaks from the weekly uploads, everyone's been pretty accepting of it, but I do feel like I'm letting people down and it starts like really like take a toll on my my like mental health and mental stability myself. All right. So why did I pull that clip? So positive psychology is just an amazing branch of psychology. So my beautiful girlfriend, Tristan introduced me to this dude, not like personally, but anyways, this is Dr. Ed Deener, okay? He is one of the OGs when it comes to positive psychology. Two of you might have also heard of Martin Seligman. He is like the father of positive psychology. But anyways, Tristan showed me this documentary called Happy and they did an interview with Ed Deener. And when he talks about how he got into positive psychology and started creating this branch of psychology, it was just, it was, he put it in a way that I hadn't even thought of before. But anyways, he talks about how so much of psychology and mental health is looking at getting rid of depression, right? Like how do we get rid of depression? And he's like, maybe we're looking at this in the wrong way. Maybe we need to focus on how to help people become happier. And just that little shift in perspective, I feel makes a huge difference. All right. Like think about that for a second. So many of us are talking about how do we get rid of depression? How do we get rid of these bad feelings? Why don't we focus on? How do we become happier? Because that's one of the goals in life, right? So anyways, there are some amazing books on positive psychology that I've been diving into some of them I read a while back recently. I just read two of them. One of them, one of my favorites is The Happiness Advantage by Sean Aker. This dude's friends with Oprah, so you know the book's good. All right. But he also has another book called Big Potential. But anyways, another great book that I just finished was called Antidote. And then this book right here, The Upside to Your Dark Side, was written by Ed Deaner's son. All right. So as I've been reading these books on positive psychology, I have found a common denominator. No matter which book on positive psychology I read, I found one common denominator that I saw the Dolan twins bring up with Shane Dawson. And it's this. We suck at discomfort. All right. Like, think about that for a second. I don't know where this idea came from, but it's something that I struggle with. You might struggle with it. But it's something very common where we don't like being uncomfortable, right? And that uncomfortability might be sadness, it might be boredom, it might be complacency or whatever it is. But for some reason, we're always trying to push these things away. And for some of us, it causes us to become, you know, workaholics or we pick up, you know, vices and things like that to mask our feelings and emotions rather than just sitting with them. You know, they've done studies on this. I'll cite it down in the description below, but they did one study where they had people sit there and they had the option to either, A, sit with their own thoughts and feelings, or B, electrocute themselves with a buzzer. And most of them hit that damn buzzer. Like how crazy is that? So when I see the Dolan twins talking to Shane about this and talking about how it takes its toll on their mental health, I think about all of you guys watching this stuff. I think about my own life, right? And I think about what we've learned from these amazing people studying positive psychology. Why are we constantly running from discomfort? And the best thing for us to do be to acknowledge that discomfort is a fact of life. Achieving pure happiness and bliss 24-7 for the rest of our lives is impossible. And once we get that out of our heads, now we can start focusing on how do I manage the negative feelings, right? And I don't even like using the word negative feelings. Feelings are just feelings. The way we judge our feelings is the only thing that makes them good or bad. But when you have positive psychologists from around the world all discussing how we suck at dealing with discomfort, it makes you think a little bit. So I want you to ask yourself, like, how much resilience do you have when it comes to being comfortable with the uncomfortable? Like, are your expectations that life is supposed to be perfect or you're supposed to be happy all the time? Do you think that it's healthy for you to have that as an expectation? Because it seems to me that it's just one of the biggest illusions ever that we're supposed to be happy all the time. Although we are talking to you guys, you guys aren't able to talk back to us until after we post the video. So we can't really have a conversation with each other about something that we're both so unsure about. So we reached out to someone for help because we needed it. And when you need help, I would advise you to please reach out to someone because everybody in some way or another is able to relate to one another and just by saying the simplest thing you could help someone so much or you can be helped by someone so much. So I also wanted to discuss that clip right there, alright? Like the importance of asking for help. So let me introduce you to someone else. It's another amazing author. If you didn't get the memo, I love me some books. So I just finished this book by Annie Duke called Thinking in Bets. I actually heard about this book from the YouTuber Dr. Mike. He did a review of some books. But anyways, in this book she talks about finding a group of mentors. She calls them fellow truth seekers, right? So I do believe that the Dolan twins, what they're doing by talking with Shane, someone who's been down this path before, someone who used to make a ton of content and now makes less content but the quality is way bigger, right? Like this is something that all of us can learn from. So here's one of the issues. Like I don't know if you guys got the memo, but the United States health care system, the local health care system, it kind of sucks. Not everybody can afford therapy, right? So what is the next best option that's affordable? Find people who have gone through what you're currently going through. Find people who have achieved what you want to achieve and you ask them, how'd you get through it? What do I do? How do I get through this? Do you have any experience that you can share with me? Like despite your opinions on 12 step programs, right? Like millions upon millions upon millions of people, I'm one of them, have gotten sober all because it's one person who's been through it helping another person. So although I do believe therapy is the best option, I'm in therapy, okay? Because believe it or not, I don't know everything. But like I also have to have mentors and people who have been through specific struggles, right? So let me know if you want to answer this in the comments down below, that would be interesting for me to see. Like especially those of you who have been through therapy, do you find more value from a therapist who has been educated in these topics? Or be someone who's actually been through what you're going through? Or see. I think see, but don't pick my answer. I think see is the best option, is when you're able to find a therapist who has also been through what you've been through, all right? But I would love to hear your experiences about that down below. But I do love how the Dolan twins kind of hit on that topic multiple times throughout this video about the importance of reaching out and asking for help. The only thing that I would chime in on based on things that Annie Duke talks about in her book, things from my own personal experience, as well as my own personal experience, working in a treatment center and everything like that, is to also not only reach out for help, but find somebody who understands what you're going through. Something that I realized a long time ago, and this is something that you might be able to relate to as well, is that our minds try to make us feel as though we're the only person going through what we're going through. It tries to distance us from everybody else. Nobody understands what I've been through, but here's the thing. There's always someone out there who has been through what we've been through. And even if they haven't been through the exact same situations, they can identify with the feelings, right? They can identify with the struggles. They can identify with like the core things that are going on. So for example, the Dolan twins and Shane Dawson, you know, they don't make the same type of content, but Shane Dawson can relate to making a bunch of videos and feeling kind of burnt out on his content and not really knowing which direction to go and all these other things. So the Dolan twins picked the perfect guy to talk to about this. And what's interesting too, in the videos I'm doing on Shane Dawson's series with Jeffrey Starr, I talk about the same thing. Jeffrey Starr is Shane Dawson's mentor when it comes to getting into the makeup industry. You see what I mean? Learn from others. So all of you out there who are consuming this content, learn from the people you're watching. What can you do in your life to turn to others so they can help you go down the path that you want to go down? Because remember, like I asked you at the beginning of this video, what is your definition of true happiness? And now that we're coming to the end of this video, ask yourself, how comfortable are you with discomfort? And I want you to ask too, what can you do about it? What can you do to get a little bit more comfortable with the uncomfortable? All right? But anyways, don't forget, share this video because 20% of it will be going to the ADAA. All right? And if you liked this video, please give it a thumbs up. If you're new, make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell. And a huge, huge thank you to everybody supporting the channel over on Patreon, as well as everybody else supporting the channel by buying my books, as well as buying merch and all that other stuff. It means a lot. All right? Thanks again for watching. I'll see you next time.