 Eight signs who have hurt the narcissist. The narcissist is hurt when their ego has been bruised When they feel less valuable or important When something affects their sense of worth The larger their ego is the more at risk it is of being bruised When they're entertaining their delusions of grandeur Is actually when they are most vulnerable Narcissists are very sensitive people They always have to be right. They always have to be in control So it is actually very easy to hurt the narcissist. You may find yourself walking on eggshells You may become extremely cautious of your words and actions when you are around them Because you're afraid of how they might react But identifying if you have hurt the narcissist can Help you to protect yourself Which is why I have decided to share these eight signs with you one narcissistic rage The most obvious sign you have hurt the narcissist is narcissistic rage They will get very angry They will insult you and put you down They will say and do whatever they think will hurt you the most In this state they can be unpredictable They can be very dangerous They may throw things at you They may damage your property And they may even become physically violent passive aggression if the narcissist feels threatened by you it will become passive aggressive They will express their anger or annoyance indirectly In a way that is designed to confuse you They will say something and then do something different They will pretend to agree with you when they hold a different opinion Because they're afraid of the consequences of expressing that anger directly towards you Maybe they're worried that they might lose some of the conveniences that you're providing to them So instead they become passive aggressive They push just to the edge of what you're willing to tolerate So that it's not enough you to call them out on it so that you don't have a firm conviction To disconnect from them which enables them to continue their behavior three criticism When the narcissist is hurt, it's because they feel less valuable or important But they don't want to reflect on these feelings. It's too painful for them to deal with So instead they try to put you beneath them By tarting your sense of worth They do this by criticizing you by indicating your fault and it is proven way To make you feel like you're not good enough Because that's exactly how they feel But if they can put the focus on you, it makes them feel better It makes them feel like they're not the problem and that's what their criticism is designed to do It's designed to deflect the focus on to you It's designed to keep you looking at yourself Because they don't feel like they're at fault They don't like how it feels And they don't want to do the work to change their dysfunctional behaviors fall Opposition when you have hurt the narcissist The narcissist will immediately become oppositional to you they will refuse to do what you want them to do They will be very disruptive if you pick up on any of their flaws There has to be something wrong with you You have to be wrong because they just can't accept that there anything less than perfect But when you question or confront them They feel like they're losing control They feel like you're taking back your power So to regain control of the situation They become opposed to whatever you stand for Even if they secretly agree with you Even if it's unfairable for them They have to be in opposition to it They will only agree with something If it benefits them 5 silent treatments Sometimes the only thing the narcissist can do is be silent If they know that the situation doesn't warrant a certain reaction, they have no choice but to be quiet They have to accept it But the silent treatment is also designed to punish you. It's a control tactic It's designed to make you question yourself It's designed to make you feel like you've done something wrong 6 Triangulation When you hurt the narcissist it affects the narcissist's sense of worth It makes them feel like they're not good enough It makes them feel like they're at fault Which is something the narcissist doesn't want to accept So they run from the situation It may seem like they're running from you But they're actually running from themselves It may seem like they found someone else But they've actually just found someone Reflects back to them this ideal vision of themselves Someone who validates their false self Someone who supports the illusion and this is what they then reflect back to you It's meant to hurt you It's meant to make you regret your decision It's meant to make you blame yourself Because now there was someone else Who doesn't see anything wrong with them It might make you second guess yourself It might make you think you made a mistake But you didn't make a mistake This new person has been manipulated by the narcissist Just as you were when you first met them They don't know what they really like But the narcissist will use this to hurt you and make you feel like you're at fault 7 Victim plane The narcissist will not take accountability for their actions Instead, they will blame you They will lie They will make false accusations They will exaggerate your faults and mistakes While minimizing or denying their own This is how they evade accountability This is how they avoid any consequences for their actions By passing the blame on to someone else By holding you accountable And they do that by playing the victim By acting as though you did something to them They will often blame you for the very things that they caused The very things that they did to you It's projection They disown the parts of themselves that they don't like And assign them to you This is designed to make you question yourself It's designed to make you take responsibility for the situation While protecting the narcissist fragile sense of self Smear campaign If you don't fall for the narcissist victim plane They believe that someone else will So they manipulate other people They shut on the false character In the hopes that they will find the illusion They will tell them horrible things about you They will bring up things that you confided in them They will bring up things from the past They will fabricate stories They will say what they think will make you look bad While acting as though they did the best for you They try to help you This is designed to punish you For not complying with their agenda And it's also designed to take the focus off of them And all of the faults they made Narcissists run from accountability They don't want to deal with the shame They don't want to deal with the consequences of their actions When you hurt the narcissist It resurfaces everything that they try to bury within Everything they despise about themselves Everything they cannot control When you hurt the narcissist It may seem like they hate you But they actually hate everything that you are resurfacing about themselves That's what they're in opposition to That's what they're running from Because it's something they don't want to accept It's something they don't want to deal with But the truth is That when you hurt the narcissist It really has nothing to do with you All they see is the ghost of everything they once were Everything they hated about themselves Everything they tried to hide And nothing makes the narcissist angrier than that Thank you for watching I hope this video resonates with you Please like, comment, share and subscribe If you would like to donate My PayPal link is in the video description The coaching inquiries You can email me at coaching.naxivetacoloruk Thank you for watching And I'll talk to you soon