 I call it the ice game. I learned this from a random group of people in Germany. And the ice game is very simple. You get people around a table, there's a bucket of ice, and there's a thing of alcohol, a bottle of alcohol. And it goes, guy, girl, guy, girl, guy, girl, guy, girl. And you don't tell them what you're doing. You just say, we're playing the ice game. Guys grab ice, guys put ice in their mouth. They turn to the girl, they pass the ice without using their hands. So it's like spin the bottle. It's a stupid game, but because it's a game, women like to play it. It's not them making out, you're just passing ice, right? It's no longer them being responsible for sex. You're leading, you're just passing ice. And if a girl doesn't like you, she'll still play. She'll just get the ice really fast. She'll grab the ice and spit it in your mouth if she has to. But if she likes you, she'll pass the ice and it'll linger. And if you're not sure if you can kiss a girl and you're with a group of people, it's a real fun way to test the waters. If you're ever in that no man's land situation, by no man's land, I mean you don't know if you can escalate or not, don't stay there. Do something, put her to a decision. Escalate, do something small, and she'll give you feedback. So in this situation, we played the ice game. She was real into it, we started making out, had a good night. Another great thing to do if you're kind of in that weird situation where you're in no man's land, body shots. You guys know what body shots are? Tequila shots, you lick her neck, you put salt on her neck. She puts the lime in her mouth, you lick her neck to get the salt, you take the shot, and you basically kiss her to get the lime. If she doesn't like you, she won't play. You say, hey, let's take some body shots. She'll be like, no, I don't want to. She doesn't like you. And she's like, okay, she likes you. It's easy stuff, you can skip a lot of pain of figuring out when to kiss a girl if you do something intermediately. And then another great game that I like to play for Deep Report is when I first learned it, it was called the Questions game. And the Questions game is just a game that most of you guys probably played when you were six or seven years old. It's like truth or dare without the dare. I ask a question, you ask a question. You go back and forth. I have three rules that I made up. One, you have to be honest. Two, you have to answer the question that you asked. Three, you have to ask a question that makes the other person potentially embarrassed or nervous. So what happens very quickly is you get into very deep rapport. You start talking about sex that comes up very quickly. Talking about sex in an interaction with a girl will make her think about sex with you. Don't talk about sex with her. Don't talk about disgusting porn and crap like that. This isn't attractive. I learned this the hard way. There's a way to talk about sex and there's a way not to. That's a whole another speech. But playing this game will you ask her, you know, have you ever been in jail? What's the craziest thing you've done? You'll get to know somebody very quickly. And if you're not naturally good at getting into deeper poor, you know, a tool like this can be really helpful. Physical escalation, when to make the move? Probably two years ago, I was out at a bar in Venice. And it was called The Brig. I walk in the door. There's a dance floor, right past the dance floor, there's a bar. Girl looks at me at the bar and just gives me the biggest type three, you know, I want you eyes I've ever seen. Like, I'm not doing it right. She's like, she's looking at me and she's smiling and just giving me that like amazing feminine sexual look. So I walk up to her, hey, I'm Robbie. Shake her hand. She's immediately into me. She's like, nuzzling up against me. It's great. Like an idiot, after about three minutes, I decided that I was gonna go talk to my friend. And of course, when I came back, she's dirty dancing with the biggest black dude I've ever seen. So like, dang, that sucks. My buddy goes, no man, just talk to her, just wish her a good evening. Interrupt her on the dance floor, wish her a good evening, tell her it was nice to meet her. The guy can't, he's not gonna kick your ass if you say that. So I said, fine. I was still a little bit scared he was going to. So I basically stopped them. She was like, humping this guy who's eight feet tall. And I stopped them and I say, hey, it was really nice meeting you earlier, I'm gonna run. She immediately turns her back to this guy who was just her friend and he wasn't hostile or anything. He just kind of walked away and full investment again. I'm back in. So I'm thinking, well, thank God my friend told me not to be a pussy, this is great. So then the interaction gets interesting. We're up against the bar and she takes her hand and cups my balls. She just goes, wham! Not in like, I'm gonna hook up with you way and I'm gonna rip your balls off you way. So it never happened to me before. I'm like, ugh. So I grab her by the hair as forcefully as she did to me and I try to pull her in to kiss her and she slaps my hand away and jumps back. Like, whoa, whoa, whoa, what is going on here? This is strange. So I'm like a deer in the headlights at this point. Then she comes back over and she grabs me by the face like this and she's like shaking my head around and like, this girl's psycho, what is going on? But then I remembered and I was like, okay, stay calm, stay grounded, stay cool. And obviously this girl is into you. She's showing massive investment and she wants to play. Just let her seduce me. This is a big thing that I did wrong for a long time was that I felt like I was the one who had to seduce her. Women will seduce you. They're better at conversation than you. They will lead the conversation. They're probably better at physical escalation than you. They can lead physical escalation. So your only job is to get them to like you and you do that by approaching them in an authentic, direct way. You create attraction and a lot of the time you can just put it on autopilot after that. So this crazy, you know, physical banter went on for about 20 more minutes where she started actually trying to kick me in the balls. Then I got pissed. At a certain point I got pissed and I wasn't gonna stay just cool and collected anymore. I was like, listen, you can fuck around with me but do not try to kick me in the balls. And she kind of in a weird way melted. She was like, okay, I can't fuck with this guy because I think she was kind of toying with me up until that point. She was just having fun. And that's when she realized, okay, this guy is serious. He's actually has balls. He's willing to set a boundary. And then she got real feminine. She kind of nuzzled up against me. We started making out. And then she got crazy again and tried to pull me in the bathroom. Well, she did pull me in the bathroom but I'm not a big fan of sex and dirty bathrooms so I went back to my house. But what I learned from this interaction was something very interesting and that was that you don't have to try every time. You don't have to do everything. If you're just relaxed, you're a cool guy, let her seduce you. Some women want to be seduced. Other women want to seduce you. Every woman is different. Escalating on a woman is not a step-by-step process. Every girl's different. And you have to think. You have to think, who is this girl? What does she want? What does she like? It was obvious that this girl wanted sex that night. If I started trying to have a deeper, poor conversation with her after she tried to grab my nuts, oh, so what are your hopes and dreams and passions? Weird, right? Think about this stuff. You don't have to go deeper, poor every time. You gotta read the woman. If she's into dancing and partying and having a crazy time, then that's what you have to do. If you're at a lounge and it's dark and it's quiet, that's when you have the deeper, poor conversation. Not when she's out on the street. And for the longest time, like I said, I thought about it as a step-by-step process. It's not. You have to be able to switch gears. You have to be able to read her. And this is really the mastery, I think, when it comes to seduction and meeting women, is being able to read what's different about her. How does she want to be seduced? Is she going to seduce me? How am I going to deal with her friends? She's driving. She's got four girls that she's taking home. Am I going to try to make out with her here and pull her in the bathroom? No, she's sober. She's responsible for her friends. I'm going to get her number and take her on a date. Think ahead. Think about what you're doing. Don't just haphazardly go into a bar and start shotgun approaching every chick in there.