After a breakup, you might be frustrated because you feel you have done everything to get your ex boyfriend back. Yet whatever you do seems to push him farther away instead of pulling him back. But in truth, if you have not had any success, it could be that you have been using the wrong approach. It is natural for you to feel the urge to tell your ex how much you love him and cannot live without him, but that is your emotions leading you on the path to destruction. By constantly staying in contact with him, you are making yourself look needy and desperate. To get him back you will have to reverse the breakup and make him feel as if he is the one being rejected. You might think that impossible, but all you have to do is take control of your emotions and stop having any contact with him at all. Accept the fact that he is no longer your boyfriend and move on with your life. You need to forget his phone number and email address. In short, he no longer exists. Once you get that mindset, everything will start falling into place. Your ex boyfriend will look around one day and realize he has not heard from you for some time. That will start the gears in his mind turning in another direction. Instead of being prepared to reject your every attempt to communicate with him, he will be wondering why you stopped trying to get him back. When he starts to wonder what you are up to, the advantage he had been enjoying will start to shift in your direction. To further add to his confusion, you should get some friends together and go out and have some fun. Hearing about this, will make your ex boyfriend feel that you are gradually slipping away. When he broke up with you, he never intended to lose you. Something you said or did displeased him and he went off to sulk a while and enjoy watching you trying to get him back. But, by ignoring him, you have taken all of the fun out of his little game and he is now the one feeling rejected. Nothing will spur a man to action like the feelings of rejection and loss. He is missing you like crazy and kicking himself several times a day for being so foolish as to break up with you. Every bit of him is now being pulled in your direction and he is no longer feeling pushed. Soon your ex boyfriend will come to the conclusion that he will have to swallow his pride and his ego and go all out to get you back. When that happens, you have reversed the breakup and he will be the one coming after you. Citation: H. L. Archer.