 Hello everyone. Welcome to another Narc Survival Live video. Just been travelling for a few hours and I arrived at this town. I don't know much about it yet but I'm going to do some travelling. The female narcissist will leave you for dead. That is exactly what they will do. And some of you who are watching this, you may be male or you may be female, but either way if you have dealt with a female narcissist, I am sure that you will be able to relate. Because it's not always a relationship. It could be at work, it could be business, it could be a family member or friend. It could be anyone, but whoever it is if they are a female narcissist then this is typically what will happen. So they come in and they display this character to you because they tune in to what you're looking for, to what you're interested in and they mirror you, they reflect back your virtues and ideals so it's whatever you're looking for, whatever you want them to be and how many of you who are watching this, you may be empaths. So maybe you are looking for someone who is more humble and modest, someone who is agreeable, someone who's on the same page, someone who wants the same things as you do, a long-term relationship, marriage, children, a future, something where you're building together, you're working as a team and the female narcissist will come in because they are chameleons, they can shape shift and be whatever they think you want them to be. They'll create this false character just for you just to please you in that moment to get you hooked but then as time starts to go by it's like they're just demanding more and more of your time and energy, more and more of your money and you can clearly see as time is going by all of these things are happening to you, you're getting more and more tired, it's like you're not the same as you used to be, you're getting more and more drained, your bank balance is going down, you're not spending as much time working as you were before, now it's like all of your time just revolves around this person, this female narcissist, you're spending all of your time catering to them every day, it's like you can't even work anymore, you can't even make money or as much as you used to and yet it's like every week or month that goes by you seem to be spending more and more because they're taking your attention away from what should be more important to you, they're taking your focus away from that and instead all of your time and attention is on them, it revolves around their feelings and needs, it's like you become this shoulder for them to cry on and then after you become that they no longer respect you but then they never really respected you to begin with that was all an act so they could get in and then once they got in over time they began to show you exactly who they are, they began to reveal the true parts of themselves where you started to see beneath the surface of their manipulation, they became more intimidating and aggressive or they began to play the victim and they would give you these fake apologies, they would cry, they would act as though they're going to change but they never changed, it just got worse and all the while while all of this was going on they were draining you of everything you have and in a lot of situations they were living this free life, they were staying at your place, maybe they were driving your cars, you were buying them food every day, taking them out to eat, maybe you were taking them on trips as well and then gradually your life began to deteriorate, things inevitably got worse, it affected your health, it affected you financially, it affected everything about you and then it got to a point where you felt like you just couldn't do it anymore, you were nothing like what you used to be and that is when they felt like it was all over for you, those of you who have gone through this already, they decided that you were finished, you were all washed up, you were done and there was nothing more that they were going to get out of you so then they were ready, they just tossed you aside, they already had someone else lined up, they thought the grass was greener on the other side, they moved on to them and they just left you behind like you were nothing because that's typically what happens with female narcissists, they act like they're capable, they're so efficient and at the same time they're humble, they're modest but once you spend enough time around them, you realise that that is not true because what they do is they destroy you over time, they use up everything you have and if you look back you can clearly see it, it's like the moment they came into your life, your life began to decline and if they discarded you or you left them, now you can see that your life is beginning to get better, it starts to improve the moment that you are away from them because they are a constant hindrance on your life and of course remember we are talking about narcissists here, I'm not talking about all women although yes there are a lot of women in this world who are highly manipulative, they will sell you a dream, they will give you this character whatever they think you want to see, they will be that for a few days, a couple of weeks, however long it takes to get you hooked, to get you emotionally attached to where you are then more willing to come into their demands because that's all they really want from you, they are self-absorbed, they lack empathy, they are not in it for the long run unless there is an incentive for them to do that, they are just in it to get what they can and then leave and move on to the next, they do not really care about you and many of you will already know this because that may have been exactly what you've experienced already, the female narcissist they swooped in, they manipulated you, they sold you a dream, they told you they were about all of these things, exactly what you were looking for and you look back and it's like where are they now, if this person really loved me, if they really cared about me, if they had my best interest in mind, you've got to think after everything I invested in them, I remained loyal and devoted, then why aren't they with you now, if they really cared, now that is how you should know that they were never emotionally attached to you, they never loved you, they never cared about you, they never cared about you, if they did then they would never have let you go through all of the things that you went through, they will come in, sell you a dream and over time they will gradually take everything you have and when they think you're finished, you're all washed up, that is when they will leave and line up their next target to do the exact same thing all over again and this is happening to millions of men around the world, they get sold a dream by some woman who just wants to use them for their resources or even just for their attention and it takes their time away from their work and then all of these things start to go wrong for them, maybe they were tricked into marriage and then they had to go for the divorce and pay all the court fees, maybe they lost their house, their car and many of you may be going through this right now, you may have lost everything to some woman who never even cared about you, they were never really there for you and yet because of their arrogance and entitlement they managed to take everything away from you, maybe they're with some other guy right now, some of you who are watching this, I know many men go for these situations and there could be some other guy living in your house, he's sitting on your couch watching TV while your ex-narcissistic wife is cooking him dinner, maybe he's going out, he's driving your car and all of the money you lost, she may be spending that money on him, maybe he hasn't got a job and she's taking him on a holiday and now he's there with your kids, these things happen every day, there are so many men who have to go through this and all they really wanted was just a normal relationship, a normal marriage, just a normal family but they were tricked, they were sold a dream and I know many of you who have been through this, you may have lost your own kids to this woman and now you can't even see them and yet you have to pay money to them every month and maybe you had to pay the alimony as well, it's not right, it's not fair but these female narcissists are everywhere and they exploit these systems because these systems are set up to work in their favour and it destroys genuine hard-working loyal trustworthy men, the very men who we should be encouraging and creating systems to support them, destroying them does not serve anyone in the long run, these men could have helped so many people, they could have been productive members of society, they could have contributed a lot, together they could have made a big difference in the world and there's so many of us who have been through this, there's millions of people around the world, this happens all the time and these systems favour narcissistic women who destroy these men's lives but unfortunately it's just the way that it is today and it's just something that you need to be aware of to protect yourself if you've been through it already to prevent yourself from getting in another situation like that again, you need to be very careful around a lot of women today because they are just looking for someone to exploit, they're looking for someone who will take them in, take care of them, when all along they're not really with you, they're just in it for what they can get, they're wearing a mask and they already know that if you knew who they really are you wouldn't want anything to do with them but by the time you figure it out it's too late, they've already got what they wanted from you and then they're out, they're on to someone else, we need to pay attention to the red flags at the beginning of the relationship because if you look back there were red flags, it's just that we overlook them, we don't pay enough attention to them because if you look back a lot of them they tell them, they tell you exactly who they are but we want to believe that they are something different when they're actually not and that's not to say that all women are bad, of course not, there are good women out there, I've met some already myself but we need to look at our own co-dependency, our people pleasing to where it's like we want to put ourselves in these situations where we can save people, we can help them, maybe we see their lives and it looks like they're not doing too well and we just want to give them what they never had, we want to make them happy when thinking like that, when we're looking for a project for us to fix, these things just put us into trouble, it brings problems into our lives, a better thing to do is to find someone who already has their life together, someone who is on the same level as you, someone who you can see that they're not just putting on an act, they're not just trying to please you or just be who you want them to be but that is who they actually are because yes a lot of these women they put on an act, they pretend to be something they're not because they know what a lot of men want to see today especially after you've already been through one failed marriage after that just like you're looking for something different, you're looking for a woman who is more kinder, more agreeable, someone who's willing to work and build with you as a team rather than being envious and competing with you and that's really it that's what you need to be looking for it's someone that who's not only a relationship partner but someone who is your friend like a close friend, someone who you can be vulnerable around but that's not to say that you should tell her all of your problems she shouldn't be the shoulder for you to cry on remember we are men and we should be able to take care of ourselves emotionally we shouldn't be looking for some woman to be our mother that's never going to be a healthy relationship we have to be men we have to be able to think logically and rationally and to be able to manage our own emotions because what gets us into these relationships a lot of times it is these emotions these fantasies to where we're not thinking logically or clearly and we're we're willing to believe in this dream because it feels good in the beginning but then that means that any woman can come along and just sell you this dream and then they can get you to take care of them they can get you to do what they want you to do and then at any moment they can leave you even after everything you invested into them all of that just goes to waste so yes it's very important to be aware of this what a lot of these women are doing today they're not really with you they know they don't belong around you they're just there to get what they can get so they will play the role they will pretend like they're with you when a lot of them they never even decide a relationship to begin with they were just looking for someone to save them they weren't looking to be with you long term they saw you as something temporary because they already knew that if you knew who they were and what they were really about and how they don't really have empathy they don't really care about you if you knew all of these things from the start you never would have got involved with them and that's really something to keep in mind because looking back at my past relationships that's really what was missing it was that empathy i mean some of them they may have managed to fake it a bit in the beginning but over time it revealed that they did lack empathy they couldn't share my feelings and experience and that's not to say that i was looking for a shoulder to cry on or anything like that i've never really had these ideas when i'm in a relationship it's more i was just looking for someone who understands someone who is on the same page someone who is in the direction that i'm going in in the future thinking about having a family getting married creating a life for our children but sadly a lot of women today especially younger women they are not thinking like that they are not thinking like that at all they're just thinking about what they can get in the moment and then just move on to the next guy until they get older and then maybe then they settle down with someone who is unaware or someone who just doesn't have many options because then it's easy for them to get in but that is really what you need to be looking for when you are dealing with these women you need to be looking for that empathy that is the key component that you need to build a healthy relationship you do need to have a woman who is caring and nurturing someone who actually sees you they know that you exist and they can see when you're feeling down they can see when something is not right when you're sad when you're confused they can see that and they just can't deal with it that is the type of woman that you need to be looking for the type of woman who will actually care about you she won't be able to see you going through anything she will be there for you unfortunately as i mentioned before empathetic people empaths they are very rare i know many of you who are watching this right now you may be empaths as well but unfortunately it is only one to two percent of the population so it's not easy to find someone like that but i can say once you tune into yourself and you remember who you were being to the narcissist remember how you treated them how you always cared about them how you were at their back and call knowing that recognizing it it will make it easier for you to identify another empath so you're looking for someone who looks at you in a similar way that you looked at the narcissist in a similar way that you treated them but at the same time when you do find someone like that you have to let go of the bitterness the resentment from the past and of how you were treated unfairly and you just have to give it a clean slate another chance with an empath you really have to let everything go you cannot bring that forward into the next relationship it doesn't matter what happened this new person if you meet another empath they are not responsible for that it wasn't their fault as long as they were not involved it's someone from a completely different situation you have to try to not be so paranoid or distrustful of them because these types of things even though they may be an empath it may push them away so again yes these are things to be aware of the type of person that you want to attract you need to become that person you need to be loving and caring you need to be empathetic because like attracts like so if you want to attract this person into your life you need to be that as well you need to tune into your empathy that ability to share another person's experience and by doing that it will put you on that frequency to where you're more able to recognize these traits in another person and it's like you may never have seen it before especially after you've been involved with a narcissist many of us we may experience narcissistic fleas we may become more self-absorbed and shut off from the world ourselves and when we're doing that you wouldn't even be able to see an empath even if they were right in front of you because you need to be on that frequency as well you need to activate that empathy when you do that you will see it straight away you will know it immediately when you tune into that loving frequency that empathy you will immediately recognize the empath if you are dealing with one and of course that is typically what narcissists do as well they pretend to be empathetic they reflect it back to us they use cognitive empathy and they've got a lot of practice at doing that so they already know exactly what they're looking for but you will already know if it's you if you are the empath you've only got to look back for your life all of the narcissistic people you dealt with all of the times you came into the relationship with so much and you left with a lot less than you had while the other person left with a lot more that tells you everything that you need to know but yes that's what I really want for you the men who are watching this especially you've dealt with these female narcissists they've manipulated you they've used and abused you they left you for dead but I don't want you to give up on relationships it doesn't mean that you have to get back into a relationship straight away you should take some time to heal I would recommend at least six months maybe one year just take some time alone stay out of relationships get to know yourself again build your life back up but stay tuned into that empathy be aware that at some point in time you may come across another empath and it may be the first time in your life but when you see that when you experience it you won't forget it you will feel it you will recognize it that transfer of energy and it's like for the first time in your life you feel like someone actually sees you someone actually cares about you someone actually doesn't want to see you in pain someone will be there for you even at their own expense and it's like in the same way that you were there for the narcissist the way that you love them the way that you cared about them the way that you would have done anything for them you would have done anything to make them happy if they said jump you said how high you gave your life for them you sacrificed everything and of course that doesn't mean that someone has to come along and sacrifice everything for you of course that is unhealthy there needs to be a mutual exchange so at least if they can meet you halfway that is how you build a healthy relationship when two people are given to each other and that is why in my opinion my experience of what i've researched the best relationships are when two empaths come together but at the same time they have their own separate lives they have their own thing that they're doing their own purpose and they don't have to be together they're fine on their own but it's a choice they're choosing to be together and it's because they just care they just appreciate that connection it matters to them and it's not just because of the feeling that they get for themselves it's for the feeling that they get to give to you because another empath they love to see you happy they love to see you comfortable there's nothing they want more and i'm sure that was you in the narcissistic relationships that you experienced that was you every time you were always that person but yes we do need to watch out for these female narcissists because they are everywhere and we do need to watch where we are putting ourselves because of course there are typical places where female narcissists are going to be anything like nightclubs bars these types of things anything where it's noisy loud there's a lot of people there most empaths are not going to be in that type of situation they're not going to be in a loud noisy place with loud music alcohol they're not going to be able to feel comfortable in that type of space empaths prefer to be alone a lot of the time unless they can find someone who is similar to them but of course that is quite rare empaths they may just enjoy sitting at home reading a book well narcissists they're always out they're always seeking supply so they're going to go wherever they expect supply to be wherever is easiest for them so of course there are typical hotspots for narcissists and we do need to be very careful i really wouldn't advise starting a relationship with anyone you've met in a bar with a nightclub i personally don't think that's a good idea at all because as we know this is where narcissists go that's where they go to find supply and as well as that they're always on social media so if you want to find another empath i would say to go to a library maybe a cafe maybe a beach you might find an empath sitting on the sand but they're not going to be in a large group of people they're not going to be around all of the music they're going to be off somewhere maybe with their earphones in they're going to be looking down they're going to be looking away from everything else it's just what empaths typically do because they can't take on all of this energy that they're receiving from other people it's too draining for them so that's really my advice if you are looking to settle down with another empath because like attracts like it works well although it is very rare but i think that's really what we need in this world is for empaths to come together empaths need to be together in relationships in marriages and it can be genetic as well so it's great if two empaths can have children together that's what we need we need more empaths in the world people who care about other people people who aren't just all about themselves because i know myself and my own life i've already contributed so much to this world i've lost so much i've helped so many people and i'm not one to really brag about things like that i don't really talk about it but i have done a lot a lot of things behind the scenes that no one sees and i know and i accept that i am just one man there's only so much that i can do so what i really want is for people to heal and avoid these narcissistic people who are only going to use you and instead try to find another empath get married start a family bring empathetic children into the world because that's really what we need it's very rare now only one to two percent of the population may be empaths so it's quite sad when you think about it when you go out into the world you see all these people eight billion people in the world very few of them are empaths and of that one to two percent how many of them have been hurt already to the point where they may not be willing to give anyone another chance i just find it really sad and i know that from the things that i've seen the world used to be a very different place and it's only getting worse which is why we do need to continue to educate ourselves to protect ourselves from a narcissist because again it's not just about ourselves and i know a lot of you may be fed up with hearing that if you've been with narcissists i know what that's like of course but really it's true it's not all about us i mean we have to protect ourselves from a narcissist for the good of the world for the good of other people so that one day we can meet another empath get married have children who inherit our genes they're empathetic as well and they go out into the world they're aware they know what to avoid and then they do the same thing they meet another empath as well and if we all do that this world will gradually improve people will begin to treat others right again so that's really what i'm thinking about and that's really always been my mission it's really what i've wanted and even i myself of course i am open to dating again i hope that one day i will meet someone right for me i hope that i will meet another empath and then maybe we'll get married we'll have children together and they will inherit our genes and we can teach them as well to practice empathy we can teach them that empathy is important and then they'll go out into the world they will treat other people right but at the same time they will be aware they will know what to avoid yes of course i do think about dating again of course this time was someone who is more like myself someone who cares not only about me but just about the world in general maybe someone who is a vegan like myself someone who is spiritual and while i've been through a lot i don't ever want to give up i'm going to keep trying because i believe that it is my duty it's something that i am supposed to do and i want you to see it that way as well for yourself if you have empathy effective empathy you need to see it as your duty as well to keep this alive because narcissism is very alive in the world today effective empathy is very rare it's dying out so what kind of a world are we going to live in and what kind of a world will it be for our children our grandchildren of course we need to think about these things because we all do have a duty to educate our children so that they do consider other people they treat other people right we don't need any more bitter resentful people in this world people who are only looking to take rather than build they're not looking to contribute contribute anything to anyone the last thing we need is more people like that so that's really what i'm about and that's really what i want to promote to close this message and i hope that it inspires you to do the same to take this energy and to share it with the world and hopefully together we can make some improvements we can spread the peace and the love the positivity because i do believe that that is our duty that is our mission our purpose that's why we're here so that's it for this video i hope it was helpful for you those of you who have dealt with female narcissists if it was you can give it a thumbs up down below it will help to support our community and let me know your thoughts down in the comment section i do read your comments every day share 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