 in the grand scheme of things they just weren't letting me progress like they were letting everyone else progress and i was like why can't let you just hold me back forever and i branched out on my own and then it did work but in that for them not to sue me i had to sign an agreement that i would be uh partnering with their mcn wyland and chain just did their first video from their brand new house but instead of giving us a house tour they decided to spill some tea all up in that new house about defy media everybody this is chris from the rewired soul where we talk about the problem but focus on the solution and if you're new to my channel i'm actually not a drama channel my channel is all about mental health but what i like to do is pull different topics from the youtube community to try to teach you how to improve your mental and emotional well-being and you know what can screw your mental health up is being at a crappy job or leaving a crappy job so make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell so real quick before we get started and jump into the topic that shane and rylan were talking about did you know i have two books over on amazon that you can download on your phone or your tablet or whatever i had somebody leave a comment the other day and they're like chris how can you never tell us that you have books i'm like oh yeah i i did write two books so the first book hope i wrote that about a year ago and basically like if you want to learn more about me and just my journey of overcoming depression anxiety addiction and just like what i do like all compacted into one little book go check that book out then i also wrote a shorter book called caught in the crossfire i get a lot of questions about how to help a loved one who is struggling with an addiction and i wrote this book to help you either a help them or b ensure that your mental health is okay during the whole process or c hopefully both so if you would like i will link those down in the description as well as in the pinned comment they'll make some great stocking stuffers too if you want to help somebody you know with their mental health on the holidays all right but anyways let's jump into this so rylan adams and shane dawson just did a video over on rylan's channel and it was it was fantastic it's fantastic like shane oh i wish shane made more content i love him what are you doing hear me out what if it's jojo and like coco we don't know right we don't and um but anyways the the first half of the video like well the first two thirds it's about a 30 minute long video first 20 minutes they were talking about um the tragic wildfires going on in california and they were kind of sharing their personal experience and everything like it's it's crazy like um myself and tristan we both live in las vegas nevada both of our families are over there in california um some up north some in central but yeah it's pretty crazy so if you want some more insight on that like definitely go check out their video um it's a pretty wild wild experience but anyways so the last 10 minutes like shane has been pretty vocal on twitter and i think instagram too about his disdain with defy media for those of you who don't know rylan adams used to work for defy i think he worked under the company clever which was like part of the like defy like corporate umbrella type deal or whatever and yeah so rylan shares some of his story about what happened when he was trying to leave defy and then like signing up with their emcee in and everything so like in this video the overall topic i want to talk about is really two things two things how to get over like how to recover with your mental health after being the victim i guess if you will like of a crappy job and then i also want to talk about learning from other people's experiences all right the other thing that's going to be in both of the topics is like trust okay like trust issues and skepticism so one of the things is is that it's almost like a relationship with you know if you start dating a guy or a girl and it's like it's kind of hard to not bring the baggage from the last relationship into a new one but when you go through something like rylan has with a company it's kind of difficult not to bring that into a new company now rylan he's working for himself but again this video is not for rylan and chain it's for you baby so so yeah so one of the things is that i have i have personal experience with this i've had companies screw me over i actually originally worked back in the day in a sales position at car dealerships and it was awful i'm going to do some videos about like the awful places i've worked that were just like soul crushing but especially in a commission-based job and some of you who've worked like sales you know what i'm talking about is cutthroat when you work for big companies they're all about the money and everything like that and yeah sometimes you know they screw you over on your money they they hold your check and everything and you know my my anger issues have gotten really like a lot better over the years but like one thing one thing that i'm still like pretty like firm on is like don't mess with my money right like i got a kid to feed i got bills to pay like do not mess with my money so again like i mentioned this in my drew monston video i made yesterday like this video is if somebody walked into my office and they were dealing with the same issues as rylan so part of this is after you're done with a crappy job like what i've learned and what i suggest to other people is like take control take back control of the situation how do you do this you really only have one of two options okay so one of the million reasons why i say we talk about the problem but focus on the solution like if you just sit around if you just sit around complaining about your old job like what good is that doing you like what good is that doing you like go ahead process it vent journal about it do whatever you gotta do but give yourself a time limit like how long are you gonna sit there and and talk about how terrible this job was it's done it's over it's in the past so now you have two options okay the first option is to let it go all right this is something that i've done many times i've just let it go a job screwed me over and i'm just like let it go let it go and every time like i get worked up about it again i just remind myself to let it go that's another reason why mindfulness meditation is amazing because it reminds you to keep letting stuff go right so it's just like okay that's something crappy that happened they screwed me over on some money and what i would say is is ask yourself is it worth the fight is it worth your emotional and mental you know well being to go after them and chase this down right like how much money is it you know because sometimes we let our pride get in the way like maybe it's like a few hundred bucks like and we'll do something for the principal like let me tell you something about my principles like if my principles are gonna screw up my mental health like screw my principles that sounds terrible but in the context of this situation like if it's a few hundred bucks like you know because i used to have this like no i just can't let them screw me over it's like you know what they screwed me over lesson learned let's move on the second option in order to take control and i think this is more relevant towards like big youtubers because i was sitting there watching this video with tristan here's the other way that you take control now i'm not a lawyer i don't know legal stuff but defy media screwed over gigantic youtubers like huge youtubers we're talking combined millions upon millions upon millions of subscribers okay so even though defy media was screwing them over and taking some money a lot of these youtubers still have money what i would do in their situation to take control if i wasn't going to let it go route because it sounds like defy owes them a lot of money like i would band together i would i would take charge get a bunch of youtubers together and say yo we need to get like some of the best lawyers on earth and we're going after that money like it's one of those two things right like are you going to sit there and talk about the problem are you going to get in the solution for somebody like me i never had the financial uh i was never in the financial um place to like get a lawyer and go after a company over like a few hundred bucks that they owed me you know what i mean but like for these youtubers this is definitely something that they should do especially and it's just a real quick like side thing but like especially with you know um the way just things are going with like youtube being an actual career for a lot of people being a social media influencer um being a career for a lot of people like it would be good to set some president and and like and like show people like or these big companies like you can't just screw these people over for example um i don't know if any of you are in the know but uh taylor swift she just signed a new contract with a new record label and like she did something for like musicians rights and it kind of set a new standard for musicians and that's like really cool you know like something that i always try to talk to all of you about when it comes to sharing our stories and everything like it's not necessarily about me i do what i do for all of you like what am i doing like what can i do to inspire you what can i do to help you so i think it would be very very beneficial if a lot of these youtubers from defy media got together got a legal team went after their money right um but yeah like especially with this being such a huge deal i am sure i am almost sure that they could find a lawyer who would take this case and yeah and i don't know i don't like i said i don't know laws and all that stuff because there's contracts and everything but you find a good lawyer maybe you can get some of your money back so the next thing i want to talk about the next thing the most important thing that i want to talk about is this some of you are like i still get comments it's great because my channel's growing but i still get still get a comment every now and then most of you know what my channel some people are like this is a drawbar channel this is a drawbar channel like you guys this video from rylan and shane is probably gonna get tens of thousands if not hundreds of thousands if not millions of views right and how many people are just gonna watch it like a mindless zombie just like right but like there is such a valuable lesson in this okay and that is have a healthy skepticism in all things that you do especially when it comes to your career all right and when i say healthy skepticism there's like there's like healthy skepticism and then like on the other side of you know like way on the extreme there's like paranoia and conspiracies it's gonna work out and so i was like they're gonna contain the fire we're all gonna resume as normal the next day and i am a conspiracy theorist i was thinking oh my god every single person that wants to get revenge on somebody is going to go out and light their friends or their enemy's house on fire and blame it on the wildfire and it's gonna become a thing where everybody's house on california is gonna be on fire oh my god and then lasers like my brain went there right away and i was like oh my god and people who just want to like collect insurance money they're just gonna light their houses up on fire and then that's gonna cause the whole neighborhood to go on fire because people in california in LA like some people are like very shady so yeah you don't got to be full blown Shane Dawson i think that people are lighting fires to get insurance money but it's important to have a healthy skepticism okay this is important because something i teach my son a lot because children have very bad impulse control have any of you heard of the marshmallow experiment right people would rather get the the short-term gains rather than the long-term ones even though the long-term ones are better well anyways a lot of people a lot of people because they get caught up in the excitement of being a famous youtuber or whatever it is or maybe signing with a big company or getting a promotion or whatever they make bad decisions okay and we need to learn from this when you're watching videos from like Shane and Ryland about this topic you need to learn from it like you guys as my channel is growing like Shane mentioned it i've been getting a ton of emails i get emails from mcn's all over the place but here's the thing i have watched so many videos from other youtubers who i follow and they talk about their awful experiences with mcn's like we have to look at that like there's so many things where it sounds like something my dad always said and something a lot of your parents probably says if it sounds too good to be true it probably is right so like we need to look at this stuff we need to learn from this like a lot of you watching this you're not trying to be a youtuber you're not trying to be a social media influencer so what do you take from this whatever career that you're getting into whatever job that you're getting into like there are websites out there i think it's called glassdoor.com where you could review a company right so see what other employees are saying about this place the same way you would look up amazon reviews before you buy something right like see see what's going on like i am like one of the reasons i make these videos is because i am constantly avoiding different pitfalls because i've seen the people come before me and i've seen them make those mistakes so i know what to look out for and what to be what to have a healthy skepticism of like right now with my channel like getting a lot a lot of growth lately i have some things that i'm working on and not only should you talk to other people who have been there before so like i might be doing something soon i can't talk about the details i feel so so fancy now saying i can't talk about the details anyways i can't talk about the details but one thing i've done is reach out to some of my big my bigger youtuber friends who have more experience in this i say hey this is something that i'm thinking about doing um this kind of business deal like what are your thoughts on it right i'm asking them what their thoughts are on it but then i also have Tristan and her and i are a team you know like we're living together now and all these other things so her and i sat down and talked and last night we we wrote down a whole pros and cons list you don't believe me here it is i hope you couldn't see that anyways we wrote down a whole pros and cons list like this is another reason why mindfulness is so important it helps you pause it helps you not jump into these decisions like i am not a victim blamer but i can't tell you how much better my life got when i started to realize that i make bad decisions that put me in bad situations so if i run around signing contracts if i run around signing up for this and signing up for that or taking jobs that i didn't properly research if i do that there is like even though it sucks that a company screwed me over like part of it's my fault you know what i mean because i didn't properly research it and i just want to empower all of you to let you know you are in a lot more control than you think when it comes to your career path all right anyways that's all i got for this video and if you want if you want why wouldn't you want to let's have a conversation down in the comments below like what's what's your experience like with previous jobs screwing over like do you have a hard time letting go of a past job that has screwed you over all right let's talk about it down in the comments below okay but anyways that's all i got for you with this video if you like this video please give it a thumbs up if you're new make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell because i make a ton of videos and a huge thank you to everybody supporting the channel over on patreon you are all amazing and there's some brand new exclusive content up over on patreon so make sure you go check it out and again if you want to get one of my two books that are already out click or tap down in the description or down in the comments all right thanks so much for watching i'll see you next time