 That was just a song that he put out there for fun and I'm doing it for fun I have fun making songs, but I'm trying to make them all mean something or like affect someone in some way And they help me channel like my anxieties and like I put Creativity out into the world or whatever and I focus on that and it it takes away some of my like negative Thoughts and feelings because I get to put it out there. I get to get it off my chest Scotty sire makes a lot of music about his depression and being depressed, but is he actually depressed? What is up everybody? This is chris from the rewired soul where we talk about the problem But focus on the solution and if you're new to my channel My channel is all about mental health and what I like to do is pull different topics from the youtube community or pop culture And try to teach you how to improve your mental and emotional well-being But I also like to increase awareness and decrease the stigma So if you're into that kind of stuff make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell So my beautiful and wonderful girlfriend She recommended that I watch this new episode or video That brandon. I don't know if his last name is pronounced calvillo or calvillo But he drives around in cars with other youtubers and tarts and this was like, you know talking to uh, scottie sire about depression Right and she told me to watch it and then she had some gripes with it and she wanted to know my thoughts I'm like, okay, but if I watch this i'm probably gonna want to make a video. So here's where we are And something that she brought up that i'll try to touch on again later in this video is She was saying it almost feels like he's afraid to let go of this depressed guy thing or depression because it's become part of his identity, right? And that's definitely something that we need to take a look at because it might be something that you're struggling with And again, if if you're new to my channel or you've been watching my videos and haven't gotten the point yet Like this video isn't about scottie. It's about you. Okay So one of the things is Like i can make like 50 videos on this but one of the things i'll try to narrow it down to a few topics one of them is is like Not getting excited right not getting excited about different things. Okay, like not Be like, oh, okay. So they they have a conversation about going on a party So scottie sire for those of you don't know he's uh, you know part of the little Friend group of like david dobrik and all these guys are always doing like wild and zany stuff, right? Sometimes i mean i know i have friends that get really excited to go party and like i try to get excited too And i i mean i do let's make it like three guys one guy doesn't want to go to the party The other two guys are like, well, what the hell's wrong with him like there must be he must be like depressed And he doesn't get excited. He doesn't get excited like other people do like I'm just letting you all know like if you don't want to go out and party that doesn't mean that you have depression It doesn't mean that you're depressed like that's not what that means like There is such thing as people being introverts like some people just don't like to go out some people don't like to socialize Now it does sound like scottie definitely has some kind of anxiety disorder and i'm not here to diagnose or Anything like that. All right, but from some of those experiences. I don't know, um, you know, if if he still has it but You know what will save the next part from when we talk about therapy but I just want all of you to know like It doesn't make you a depressed person if you aren't at the same energy level as other people like Myself tristan other people I hang out with like We just chill like we just chill and I think Part of it is just as you get older But i've been like this for a while now since before I was even 30 No, I just like I like staying in I like chilling like it doesn't mean i'm depressed. Well, I just Yeah, I mean it's hard because I I want to like be like well You should get excited for these things like you should get excited to go to like disneyland You should get excited when like you see a puppy. I don't either so in that clip right there Like brandon like drops like a million shoulds in a row like should should should should should right and right before that Um scottie was talking about should you know should get excited and he talks about when he was a kid You know this and that and like, you know, these things didn't excite him. Okay, so this is why i'm a huge huge advocate for meditation So part of meditation and mindfulness meditation specifically is like watching your mind for judgments, right? Like anytime you use the word should that's like a judgment. That's like an expectation, right? So one of the issues that a lot of us have and scottie talks about this regularly About how insecure he is And the issue that a lot of us struggle with is comparing ourselves to others, right? Like we look around at other people like, you know, they're getting excited. I should be excited, right? They're getting happy. I should be happy And we often don't take into consideration the fact that A were not them B they might be faking it, right? This is one of the reasons why social media makes so many people sad depressed or comparing themselves or whatever it is Because we we sit in this world of shoulds, right? Like where like this is why like meditation helps kind of decutter your brain and like get down to the root of it Like who said you should be happy about this, right? Like who should be happy, right? So we all have our diff- we're all wired differently. Like for example I was just talking to somebody about how I went to corgi beach day for my birthday and like I get extremely excited when I see little corgis wobbling around with their little fluffy butts all over the place, right? Not everybody gets as excited as I do But on the other hand like my girlfriend for example, she doesn't get excited over everything But if a cat shows up, she turns into like a kid in the candy store loves cats You see what I mean? So like something I want all of you to start working on is like Quit comparing yourself to others, especially when it comes to emotions. You know, like that's just it's not fair to you That's not that's you shouldn't do that, right? I just use the word should but um one of my meditation teachers Like every time I use the word should he would point it out to me He pointed out how many times I said should okay, that is that is judgmental That is um like you're judging yourself and it's also it's also putting these weird expectations Like where do these expectations even come from now? Let's talk about therapy. Let's talk about therapy like this Oh my god. I like paused it. I paused it. I texted Trist. I'm like, what the heck is happening so like Right here just I want you to pay attention to how brandon says this You haven't like this is weird now. You haven't like gone to I don't want to say gone to therapy because I mean I don't I don't think you needed all right like man like I really like when I'm trying to like I don't know decrease the stigma. I I'm always Worried that I'm gonna come off all like snowflakey if you will But if you listen to how brandon asks that question, it's like stigmatizing therapy, right? Like he's like he's like I like you can see how uncomfortable he is like Do you go to therapy and then he immediately says I don't think you need to go to therapy, right? And I'm just like, what is that supposed to mean? Like what is that supposed to mean? Like one of the reasons that a lot of people don't go to therapy is because people talk about therapy like that Like listen to me very carefully. You don't need to be Insane to go to therapy. You don't need to be suicidal to go to therapy like therapy is about helping you have a better life Okay, like I was I was touching Tristan I'm like one of the reasons like these guys live in you know in this this state is because they're just surrounded by each other Right comparing themselves to one another and you know, they're getting like bad feedback from each other Like a therapist is an objective point of view So scotty mentioned that he tried therapy when he was 19 now He didn't go too in depth on this right? He didn't talk about it too much But he says that they they gave him three different anti-depressants And he actually sings about it in one of his songs. It was like zoloft prozac and lexapro, right all anti-depressants and I don't know what the situation was like back then. I don't know how old he is now, but One thing I will say there's a few things I want to talk about with that his experience with therapy One of them is I I would think more than anything that it brought up the problem with over medicating Right the problem that we have with over medicating people like just because you don't get excited like One of the one of these symptoms one of the symptoms of depression And you need to have multiple symptoms to be diagnosed with depression One of the symptoms of depression is not having enjoyment in things that you used to enjoy, right? And when I'm and I'm not a clinician. I'm not a therapist. I'm not a psychiatrist But when I'm watching somebody to see if they might be struggling with depression Like I watched them and there were multiple times throughout this where I saw Scotty having fun. Okay, so again, I'm gonna circle back to maybe this is part of his identity. Okay So I think this spoke more just in my opinion to the over medication problem Like if you walk into a doctor's office or whatever and you say like I don't have excitement like other people do Then they're like here try these medications, right? Like it's crazy But the other thing that he talks about and he doesn't dive deep into this was The therapist told me a bunch of stuff that I don't uh that No, he said the therapist told me a bunch of things that I already know. It was really difficult Like I had a drive there. I didn't feel comfortable Driving there. I got like claustrophobic and anxious as soon as I was in the office I talked to the person and like the person would be great. You know, we'd talk And then I'd leave and I'd be like, well They told me I know basically So right now I want to give a huge shout out to daily She's been subscribed to my channel and she's actually from my hometown But anyways, she went way back way back in my uh library of videos and she found a video I made called common sense versus common action I'm actually going to link it in the info card. I'm also going to share it In the community tab common sense versus common action like for example It's common sense that I should go to the gym. It's common sense that I should quit smoking, right? It's common sense that people should go to therapy. It's common sense that people should meditate Like common sense doesn't do you any good. It's the action that you have to take So like going to see a therapist like because I hear this all the time. I worked in treatment centers I work with uh people of trying to overcome addiction and struggle with mental illness and they're always like, I know I know I know I don't care I don't care how much you know and I'm talking to you watching this I don't care how many books you read how much knowledge you have in your brain If you're not doing anything with it Then what's the point common sense versus common action? And by the way Check out the description and join our facebook group because it's phenomenal Because people are talking about the problem but focusing on the solution and keeping each other accountable We aren't in there just talking about the things we should do We talk about the things that we are doing and it's going phenomenal so far So like if you're in therapy and you're just like and you're sitting there and you're just like, oh, I already know I know I know Then do something with it, right? Like how many people do you know where they're like they know They should quit dating scumbag guys or you know dating like certain women They know they shouldn't but they keep doing it anyways So that just really rubbed me the wrong way aside from just like kind of how they like talk about therapy like Oh, I don't think you need therapy if you want me to be honest Like I think most people need therapy It's hard for me to think of anybody who doesn't need therapy Like just going through my little roller decks of people. I know I can't think of anybody who doesn't need therapy You know many people like Okay, you want some examples of who needs therapy? Check down in the comments below Check down in the comments below of any of my videos and try to tell me you don't come across Dozens if not hundreds of people who need therapy. Okay, so therapy needs to be something that we just talk about It's like going to you know, the doctor or whatever it is like we just need to get our minds right So many times we have this like bad perception. So Certainly back to, you know Scotty and you know his depression part of his identity That's something a lot of people struggle with especially musicians Especially musicians, right? So I was telling Tristan like before I even watched the interview in the car I started going down this rabbit hole of like who's scotty like what's he do? And I started listening to some of the songs and then in the beginning of the interview They like referenced his new album and a lot of it is just talking how much you don't like yourself And I'm like listening and I'm watching this and stuff and I'm just like I'm like, okay because there's a part where he asked Scotty if he thinks that he's depressed Scotty says no, all right Like with all the things that you see like online like all the characteristics of what A depressed person Would it be an act like would you consider yourself that would you consider yourself kind of a more of a depressive? I mean, I don't think I'm depressed. I think I think I get sad sometimes more often than others. I think I'm a little more sensitive than some people So like is this something that it keeps going like This is something that a lot of us have to ask ourselves. I made a video not that long Not that long ago about this fear of change. We're afraid to let go of that part of us, right? Like I I felt like my drug and alcohol addiction was a part of me if I'm not the party guy If I'm not the wild crazy party guy, then who am I and that's something that kept me sick for a very long time So like I want you to ask yourself that I want you to Ask yourself like or do you have this fear of change? Like do you feel like you're gonna lose a piece of yourself if you get better? You know like that's kind of a that's kind of a wacky fear to have Like afraid to get better because you're losing something No, don't think about it as losing something think about how much you'll gain All right, so yeah, um, I think scottie needs therapy think brandon needs therapy if you're watching this You probably need therapy everybody needs therapy And now you think i'm gonna plug better help without me. I have people coming in here and be like, oh my god You still promote better help So i'm just not even gonna mention the better help link down in the description Where if you would like to work with an affordable online licensed therapist You can like my girlfriend and so many others do i'm just not even gonna say that okay All right But anyways, that's all I got for you with this video. Let me know down in the comments Do you feel that maybe your mental illness has become part of your identity? Are you afraid to change are you afraid to let go of it? Do you feel like sometimes you play into it more or let me know down in the comments like do you judge yourself Based on your feelings of whether you feel or don't feel certain things Let's have a conversation down in the comments below. 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