 Small, big, beautiful man, yeah! Joey, you got a lot of things in your mind and you got a particularly beautiful mind. So I want to give you the opportunity to speak your beautiful mind, which is the name of your show. I shouldn't be saying this so much, but like I'm saying, I threw out four topics for you. We got masculinity, what's the deal with makeup? That's majority of sign filled impression. We have small people, big cars, that's topic number three, or the end of the world and whatever inspires you to talk about any of these things, go for it. But I'm giving you 10 minutes, right? And the goal is you don't stop talking, okay? Okay. Um... Hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on. Hold on, don't start yet. I'm wondering if I should have like a on-screen timer. I'll put an on-screen timer when I edit this. All right? All right. Okay, so you ready? Joey, speak your beautiful mind. So Ty thought of a few random topics and one of them was masculinity. And I have a few thoughts on this. I didn't meet my biological father until I was 24 years old. I didn't have a father figure until about age 13. And so there's a lot of kind of things I had to learn on my own about being a man. And I learned from my opinion that there's about as many ways to be a man as there are men. And when the whole, the trans movement became more and more public a few years ago, I was completely in support of it 100%. There's just one, there's one thing about it that has a tendency to bother me just a tad bit. And that is when someone's asked, why do they want to have a biological sex change and their responses, well, I don't feel like a man or I don't feel like a woman or, you know. And in my 27 years of living as a cisgender man and identifying as a man and not having a problem with it, I couldn't tell you what a man is supposed to feel like. I knew from the beginning that gender roles are a social construct and that, you know, we may have brains wired a little differently here and there. But ultimately, around age 17, maybe 19, I realized that I don't have to like things that other men like. I don't have to be interested in cars, which I'm really, really not. I mean, I'd like to learn how to work on them just for, you know, out of pure interest, but it's never been like an obsession, never been that much into sports. I was, I tried out for contact sports in about eighth and ninth grade year, but it didn't work out for me. I ended up becoming the water boy. I was a theater kid and, but I've never, with all of that, you know, with all of those reasons, excuse me, I've never had a reason in my mind to question my gender and all of that. So most of the time I want to, I want, it's not really any of my business unless a trans friend of mine makes it my business. Most of the time I think that it's a legitimate situation where there's a neurological disorder that's backed completely by biology and anatomy and science and, you know, they just need to continue to see doctors and, you know, ask what the doctors would have them do. And it's just not really, I don't really, I don't hold an opinion on that part at all. And I haven't, from the beginning, like it's just, it's your body ultimately. So, but when it comes to masculinity and femininity, it's not, I don't think it's an exact science and I don't know the first thing about sociology or psychology, but from my current perspective, and I plan on learning about those things, from my current perspective, just based on living, it just seems like, what is, what are those things? What is masculinity? What is femininity? How do you define it? How do you measure it? How do you, you know, like, and who determines what that is? Who determines what's more masculine? What's more feminine? And if you have more masculine traits than feminine traits, does that mean you're a man trapped in a woman's body or vice versa? And it's just, and then I think things have just gone a little haywire. And I'm bisexual, so I identify with the LGBT plus community. And so I think things have kind of gone off the deep end where all this is concerned. Because now we have, what is it, like, 51 genders. And so it's a little, it's a little confusing to me. Because, see, if I were a trans person and I were convinced and certain based on all kinds of evidence, both anecdotal and biological, medical, all of this evidence that I am, let's say, a woman in a man's body. Like, I have a woman's brain and I know it. And I'm trying to transfer from woman to man. And then all these people come in saying, well, oh, we can all just be whatever we want. We can identify with whatever we want. And it just doesn't matter anymore. And it's just, I don't know. I don't know about all that. Because it just doesn't seem necessary. And at the same time, it also just, it's not, it doesn't seem like science to me. It seems very much like astrology. And the things in the Mars Briggs personality test. And the things kind of in that vote of the non-exec scientists or almost that I dare say pseudo science, it just doesn't seem, I think it's also self-defeating and counterproductive when it comes to helping the trans community, helping the world take the trans community seriously. When you just basically, oh, we can just make shit up. We can just be whatever we want to believe and do whatever we want to do. And it's just, and I think it's a lot of giving into what's called post-modernism, which is a lot of what religious people get into too. It's basically the belief that science is just an opinion or science can't explain everything. And it's just, and facts are malleable in a sense. And it can go down that road. I'm not asserting an absolute truth. I'm not asserting with anything with 100% confidence or anything like that. It just seems to be that with all that, it can lead down a road to where facts don't really matter. And I think the facts are on a trans person's side. And so if we kind of just start throwing all this out there that we can just do whatever and identifies whatever, it's just, I don't know about that. So, but I mean, I don't have enough knowledge and expertise to write a book on it or to do a peer-reviewed journal on it. But it's just, that's just my current thoughts on the matter. I just feel that you really can't define masculinity and you really can't define femininity. And I think it can cause somebody who is just perfectly natural and perfectly normal, like a man who's interested in theater or a man who's interested in makeup to become self-conscious about who he is. That if I'm a man, I guess if I'm not interested in all these things that most men are, something must be wrong with me. And I think that can, these kind of things can cause that kind of mindset to go down that road too. So it's, and for some reason, what the next question that Tyrone asked was what's the deal with makeup? I don't know what's the deal with makeup. I had a lot of fun with it when I was in theater and I actually plan on doing drag someday just for fun. Cause there's actually a lot of cisgender males that do drag. And so I'm completely okay with it. I think thought theater was a lot of fun and I miss it. And I plan to be a part of it again someday when the world starts to turn again. So, tell you, yeah. Minute 30, keep talking, keep talking. Minute 30, I got a minute 30 seconds. Okay, considering that now that I mentioned it, another topic of what Tyrone said was the end of the world. It kind of does feel like the end of the world. I'm not gonna lie. We got a lot of shit going on right now. So we've got, we got a lot of shit. And, but the way that I keep saying is that that I just try to tell myself that there's people out there that are experts that have done this for years. I've been dealing with all this kind of stuff for decades and they know who to contact and they know who to talk to and they know what to do. So I'm just gonna chill out, I'm a PS4 and go to work and talk to my friends and shit, you know? So I hope it's not the end of the world, but if it is, I'm a very adaptable animal. I mean, our species wouldn't have made it this far if we weren't adaptable. So I plan to just tap into that no matter what happens. So. You have 30 seconds left, keep talking. I have 30 seconds. Keep talking. What's up with small people in big cars? I mean, is that not, that doesn't seem very safe. All right, time, time, time, that was really good. All right, so I don't know if I should do like a summary, but you had some really good quotes in there. The ones that I wrote out were when you were talking about masculinity, you said there's as many ways to be a man as there are men. And I thought that's such a kernel of truth and such a well, that's like a book cover right there. That's really good. And then what is masculinity? How do you define it? How do you find it? How do you measure it? And I was like, that's something that I've always had in the back of my mind, but I never had anyone say that wasn't inside my head. So like hearing that, I was like, yeah, how do you measure masculinity? And if we don't have a means of measuring that, how do we know what is masculine versus what's masculine? What does it say that we don't really have a standard? Or what's healthy masculinity versus toxic masculinity? Yeah, like I would love to have like better standards for measuring that stuff. I also like the idea of, you know, like the state of the world where we tend to be motivated by not hurting people's feelings as much as we do avoiding like the hard truths or like acknowledging that being cool is a form of kindness in its own right sometimes or like kindness is cruel sometimes. But it can lead down a road where facts don't really matter. And I was like, wow, that is a well-put sentence. If you could edit it to make it to portray and emphasize that I'm not transphobic, that I'm 100% in support of the trans journey, I'm just kind of speaking on the particular topic of the whole 51 genders thing. Where did that come from and how is that helpful? So yeah, like if I were to speed through the summary, I think I agree with you 100%. I feel like I don't know what it's like to be a man despite the fact that I am a man. And because I don't know what it's like to be a woman, I have no frame of reference and having a frame of reference is so important. So that's such that when I meet someone that says, I don't feel like a woman, I feel like a man or I don't feel like a man, I feel like a woman. I'm like in my head, I'm like, how do you know which one's which? Because even if you were one. Yeah, I don't even know what a man feels like and I've been 100% behind identifying as a cisgender male for as long as I could identify. I didn't even know there was another choice. So it might be what there was and I'm fine with it. But I'll throw out this story because I feel like it's worthwhile to give you another 10 minutes and ask what it would take for you to change your mind or what it would be, how would you recognize if you're wrong? Cause it's good for you to have a frame of reference too. But the story that I got was one of a guy who loved playing guitar, hated playing guitar actually, but always wanted to play guitar but just didn't like the practice of playing guitar. Just like, I love the way how it looks. I love the guitars. I think it's a beautiful instrument whenever I'm playing it just sucks. And I've gone to the guitar stores and I'm playing and it's like, this doesn't just make sense to me but I like playing guitar. And so what happened is he went over to his friend's house who had a lefty guitar and he's like, well, I'm always playing right handed. Let me just try it left handed. And when he had the left handed guitar in his hand he was like, oh my gosh, I'm left handed. And he didn't even realize it his entire life. He was just like, this just feels right. And when I did this, it just felt wrong. But when I did this, it feels right. And he played it and he was still bad. Like it wasn't like he was an amazing guitar player but it was just the idea of when he tried the other way, like when he knew the status quo of what he was started off with was not good for him. And when he tried something else or at least opened up that door it was just made a lot more sense to him. And I can understand someone who's like, steeped in the masculinity lifestyle, opening up the door to like something a little less masculine and more feminine maybe or something on the other side of the fence and being like, this feels better than where I was at right now. I may not even be a better looking woman or a more attractive male, but I feel, I don't recognize, I don't identify with whatever's on this side. I feel much better over here. And I will take some work obviously but I'm willing to make that transition. That's why I identify as trans. I was like, that makes sense. Like that, I didn't have an issue with it either way. I'm out of the state of mind where if someone says they were born gay or if they suddenly lived like a straight life their entire life and it was like, you know what, I'm just gonna just be in love with this dude. Cause I just get along with them way more than all these other women was like, I get that. It's like, I'm totally fine. I'm not the gay police. I'm not going to say, hey, what counts and what doesn't. I'm like, it's all good to me. And then I also, if I had my opinion, I would get rid of the terms lesbian, gay, trans, maybe keep them if you really need to be specific but lesbian, gay, trans, LGBTQ, PA plus Q, all that stuff, get rid of it. Call it pride, capital, all letters. That's a marketing move straight from black people. We, that's a gimme, that's a freebie right there. Call it pride. It's like pride folk or like pride. And I'm like, that's good. Cause you already got pride parade. There are people who are trying to make that move. And I'm like, yeah, cause that's way easier to understand. It's like, hey, we're different, but we're all different. And we can be proud about what makes us different. So we can show pride in that. I'm like, that's cool. I include everybody. 100% behind that.