 don't compete with other couples. God is writing your own love story, don't steal his pen. And so anything which you like to add to that about not comparing yourself, especially right now on Instagram, you know, people don't post their struggles, they only post their highlights, they post their best things, they take really nice angles of how they look, their houses, they post the best things about their house, they post the smiley faces, their marriage can be falling into like, I know some couples who are honestly right now living like cats and dogs, don't even live in the same house. But they still post photos and they still post this really nice quotations on how amazing their marriage is. It's just a lot of balonies. And so, and a lot of people today are having tension in their marriage, not because their marriage is struggling, it's because they constantly compare it to somebody else's marriage that they don't know who's still struggling. Yeah, and like we say, comparison kills, it truly does kill, especially for women. If you're comparing, you know, your husband to some man of God, you know, some person that you don't even know, or even person that you do know, that is better in certain area at this point of life, you know, that's gonna kill your respect for the husband that you should carry. And that is not acceptable. You have to respect your husband, honor him, and not compare yourself or compare your man to some other man or man of God. The same thing with wives, you know, maybe some wife she's so gifted in this, she's a preacher, she's this and that. And, you know, I wish that she will be like that. It's gonna kill your relationship. The Bible says we run the race looking unto Jesus, not to another person's marriage. We don't look to the Instagram, we look to Jesus, who is the author and the perfecter of our faith. In our faith, in our finances, in our fitness, and in our family. Run your own race. Just because, and these two couples, they always work out together. It doesn't mean that's gonna be your situation. Just because, oh, they already look at the cars that they drive, look at the business that they have. That might not be your situation. Oh, look, they're both in ministry, they're both traveling together. Listen, that's not your story. Yeah, or even look, my husband is not as spiritual. That's the comment sometimes I receive. What do I do? How do I change that? Like, you know what? You don't try to change, you know, anything about your husband. Honor him as he is, and trust God, you know, that he will bring higher, and he will rise to that level. Yes, yes. Don't honor him as he is, because that's, that's, but if you honor him higher, honor him the men that you want to see, and then he will rise to the occasion. But comparing him, he'll never be like somebody else's husband. If you wanted that other husband, you should have married the other husband and stuff. So, but if you got married with that brother. And also, never say or even verbalize such words that I wish you were like that person. Oh, Jesus. That is the worst thing you can do to your husband. Repent. I would, if I would be, I would hashtag you right now, repent and stuff. So, yeah, if you're saying, yeah, I wish you could be more like, if you say that, okay, you deserve to be beaten with 49 stripes, 39 stripes. And that is, that's so painful. That is so hurtful. When you begin to compare, you know, if I would come into my wife and say, you know, in the beginning, I had the desire before I met my wife, is that I wanted to have, you know, a worship leader, a prophetess, an intercessor, like my grandma's 16 children. And then, so I took all the women that I've seen in the world, and I combined the best versions of it, and I put it into this one imaginable person. You know, I didn't, of course, myself was not like all of the high qualities of what it is to be a man, but I just expected her to be like that. And I remember before I got married. And then none of the above. Yeah. And then she has to cook like my mom. She has to have as many kids as my grandma, a heart of Mother Teresa, the voice of Joyce Meyer, the anointing of Catherine Coleman, and the voice of Kerry Jobe, you know, and, and of course, the looks of somebody in Hollywood. And so you combine that and that person doesn't even exist in heaven. Like, that doesn't exist nowhere, because each person has their strengths and their weaknesses. And when I met my wife, you know, she is not necessarily a preacher. She's not a worship leader. She's not an intercessor. She loves to pray. She's not like my grandma. She doesn't have 16 children. And on the top of that, she doesn't cook like my mom. She doesn't enjoy cooking at all, and stuff. And so, and what had to happen is adjusting to the person that you married and understand that you did not marry her, because if I wanted to cook, I hire a cook. Okay, I'm not marrying a cook. I'm marrying a friend. Or cook yourself. Yeah. Take a moment. What are you kept right now? Oh, yeah, cook yourself. I mean, what a revelation, huh? And so, yeah. Yeah. Never mind. Number nine. So we get it. Pretty much the whole idea is that, you know, we're not marrying, you know, a worship leader. You're not marrying a pastor. You're marrying a man that you love, that you respect. Hey, thanks for watching this video. If you enjoyed this content, and this was a blessing to you, would you help us and hit thumbs up, so that it could help more people to discover this video. It cost you nothing, but it can go a long way to help with the algorithm. As well as if you're not subscribed to our channel, hit subscribe, click on the bell, so that you can be reminded each time that we upload videos. 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