 Well, hello and welcome to Jonathan from the heart. I'm Jonathan as I have Jonathan as a comment I'm so excited to be shooting this short video for you today our topic this critical skill that has a man Instantly bond with you, and this is very critical. So you need to learn this Okay, really quickly. These are my Weekend videos I shoot out on my balcony very similar to the videos I shoot in my private group called midlife love mastery check out the link below My group is a private group where you get Access to me on a regular basis through a once a one once a month webinar and a private Facebook group where I shoot three videos a week Based on the questions you ask and the best part of this is it's only twenty dollars a month to have direct access to me On a regular basis. So if you want to talk to me and you can't afford coaching go there, okay? Check out the link below. Okay, we're going to talk about this critical skill that men instantly bond with you now there's this saying that Men fall in love through sex and women give sex to fall in love or something along those lines And certainly when we when we're sexual with another human being by the way, that's not where we're going today Okay, it's not going to be about sex But when we're when we're sexual with another human being we release chemicals that make us bond to another human being so And this is but it's very temporary these these chemicals are very temporary Because they go very quickly and they're not really rooted in any sort of attachment any sort of attachment This is why and and here's the challenging part because many many women have chosen Partners to be in their lives that are so unsuited for them so unsuited for them and yet they're bonded to those people I know many of you are probably wondering why does a man You know Why does it? Why is a man with that woman? She's so not right for him or vice versa kind of thing We men say this about women all the time. Why is she with a jerk? Why does she like the bad boy? Why does she like assholes? Well part of the problem is within human beings and I'm going to get to the instantly bond in a second is An unhealthy love attachment and an unhealthy wound that stems from childhood called And it's it's it's repeating patterns from our childhood known as the Amago And if you're not familiar with the book getting the love you want by Harvelle Hendricks and Helen Hunt I Highly recommend checking out this book. This will help you understand why we've chosen partners in our past We've bonded with partners in our past because we're repeating patterns from our childhood That's one of the primary challenges with many people in relationship So if you don't understand this and if you don't heal this you're gonna repeat this pattern and men are gonna repeat this pattern, okay? By the way, does anyone recognize my t-shirt where this is from if you do post a comment below This is a cartoon from the 60s when I grew up with that I loved also by the way My mug says it's a that's all mug that says I make the world go around. What do you do? I love this mug. Anyway, so we often choose based on the Amago and This is because there's a deep lack of with most human beings a lack of self-love of feeling I feel good enough. I feel lovable. I feel likable Are you do you ever feel that way a lack of not being good enough not being lovable not being likable? And if you've ever felt that way, I highly recommend checking out my book. What the heck is self-love anyway? What the heck is self-love anyway? I know you're annoyed if you binge watch my videos You hear me talk about my book again and again again, but here's the thing I repeat myself over and over again for a reason I'm here to encourage you to do up a daily personal development self-help in spiritual practice Because when you've created the foundation You're gonna be setting yourself up for what's next because how a man Instantly bonds with a woman is when he feels safe with her when he feels safe with her when he feels like she's his confidant Now this is really tricky and I know some of you think and by the way this this this is two-sided You should feel safe with a man and he must feel safe with you and this starts by by Co-creating a relationship from the very beginning by being vulnerable by being authentic by being Transparent I'm gonna repeat that by being vulnerable by being authentic by being Transparent we are so riddled with armor most people are ridder with the armor of being so afraid To speak your truth chapter one in my book speak your truth do it with kindness And I'm here to say when you can be his confidant I want you to think of the movie when Harry met Sally and if you haven't seen a ghost check it out But what this is a this is a relationship that was built on a strong foundation of of Confidence with one another that feeling of I can talk to you like my best friend Let's think about that the best communication you have most likely in your life is with your best friend Okay. Yeah, if your best friend isn't the person you're in partnership, then that's what has to be developed To feel like you can talk to your best friend because when it's sincere and from the heart You can never say the wrong thing to the right person. By the way, that's in my book as well This is why if you haven't studied the work of Barbara D. Angelis I highly recommend checking out this book how to make love all the time by Barbara D. Angelis Look how thick this is this is a book to teach you how to become confident with one another and Ladies before the penis gets to go inside the vagina start being more intentional stop being stop getting caught up in this rhetoric of Feminine energy and all you a man has to do is claim you and you just sit lean back and let him come to you. Yes Instinct biology and socialization. That's how we get into the first grade relationships I want to teach you how to get into Master-level relationships. Okay, if you want first grade relationships that don't go anywhere Then then follow that advice because they're short-lived relationships because without emotional maturity Your relationship isn't going to go anywhere and without true vulnerability authenticity in transparency You could be in a relationship of companionship connection and sex as Esther Perrell calls it stable ambiguity It's stable because you're monogamous and exclusive with one another But what's ambiguous is the commitment to one another and I'm here to encourage a stronger level of commitment That's why I highly recommend checking out these books Is this sinking in is this resonating if it is please post a comment below if you like my t-shirt Please post a comment below By the way, my teddy bear says hi, please say hi to him. This was a gift from a client All right, I hope this is sinking in if you want him to instantly bond you you have to become his confidant Otherwise it ain't gonna happen. All right Wrap up this video as I always do first off giving myself a big gigantic jot them bear hug of self love I'm gonna reach into the camera. Oops and give you a hug of love if that's okay I'm gonna ask you to turn to someone or a pet or even a teddy bear and give it a hug of love Because hugs are a great source of love and let's face it. We could all use more love in our lives I want to thank you a bunch and wishing you a fab day. Bye. Bye