 Hello everyone, welcome to another Narc Survival Live video, as you can see I'm just out here walking about by this river, and yes in this one we are going to be talking about what you need to do to destroy the flying monkeys, to rip them apart, to tear them to pieces, to completely annihilate them, yes we are going to be talking about that in this one, but of course I must put a disclaimer before we begin, and that is to state that I do not condone any acts of abuse, whether it be physical, mental, psychological, emotional or anything else, I do not condone any of that, but what I do condone is that victims and targets of this learn what they have to do to protect themselves, yes I most definitely do condone that, yes I most definitely do condone it, and I would advise you to do that at all costs, because that is what you must do to destroy flying monkeys, because what they're trying to do is they are trying to destroy you, they've been given this false narrative by the narcissist, they've been told all of these things about you, many of which may not even be true, but they believe that it is, at times you may even go along with it just to make them feel more comfortable, but deep down you know the truth, you know what you stand for, you know what you value in life, and many of you you believe in these things so much with so much passion, you hold these things dear to your heart because it means that much to you, and many of you you may fall for the illusion that it means that much to them when in reality it actually does not, it doesn't mean that much to them at all, although they may stand by it, although they may swear by it, and it may seem like they're really about it as though that's the only thing that really matters to them, the reality is that it is not, and I can blow this out of the water right now if I wanted to, and in fact yes I will, by saying that if the shoe was on the other foot, if it was you and you were enforced to be a flying monkey, would you do it? I'm pretty sure that you would not, you would not go along with that, I already know that you wouldn't do that because you're watching my video right now, and aside from the haters or a few narcissists that manage to find these videos, I know that most of you are empaths, you are genuine, caring loving people, you want the best for other people, so you're not going to go up there and try to tear someone down, you're not going to spread rumors or gossip, you're not going to do any of that, yes I already know you're not going to do that because you're watching my video right now, and that is not what we stand for, we don't do stuff like that, no we build people up, that's what we do on here, and if you're not about that then you could just unsubscribe right now, because that is what we do, this channel is about self-preservation, protecting ourselves from narcissistic and toxic people, and yes that is exactly what we do on here, what do you need to do to destroy these fine monkeys, these people that are following you around, they're irritating you, they won't leave you alone, actually you have to understand that they do it because I would even go as far to say that a flying monkey must have at least one cluster B personality disorder or some other mental illness, because that's the only way that they would be capable of doing that, you've only got to put yourself in their shoes to recognize that you would never do that, you've only got to put yourself in their shoes to do that, so that is how you already know, but yes you are very different, you are very special, and of course that is the reason why they are after you, because they recognize your individuality, they recognize that you're not just going to sit down, now you're going to stand up for what you believe in, no matter how many of them are after you, no matter how bad it gets, because yes there are levels to this, and what you're going to do to destroy these losers, these lower lives, these flying monkeys, what you're going to do to do that is you are going to continue exactly what you are doing, because they want to sway you, they want to change you, they want to move you, they want to turn you into something else other than what you actually are, and they want to do that so that they can prove a point, so that they can validate the illusion and the false narrative, yes they want to do that, but you cannot let them do that, you must continue being yourself, and don't you ever sway from that, don't you ever let them do that to you, because I can promise you as soon as they do that, they have got total power and control over you, they have dominated you after that, they have crushed you, they have brought you down to your knees, and in some cases there is no getting back up after that, by that point you're weak, you're foolish, you're nothing, you're a piece of shit after that, once they've brought you down, beneath them, after they've gained this control over you, and they've changed who you are, they've made you accept things that you would never normally accept, yes they've made you do that, oh I hope if you're watching this video right now, no they haven't made you do that yet, and I can tell you right now that that is where your power is, to stand by who you are and what you believe in, what you value, yes you've got to stand by that no matter what, no matter who's coming at you, no matter what they're going to do, you must preserve yourself at all costs, and that must come before anything else, before anything else, yes in some ways when you are in this crazy world of the flying monkeys, yes you have to become an narcissist yourself, you have to take a leaf out of their book and stop giving a shit about other people, you need to lack empathy yourself, because you need to understand that these types of people are not worth caring about, you need to become indifferent, but I will also say as well it's a completely different situation, if someone is shown with their actions, not only the words that yes they can change, they can't be better, in that case in that situation you are a fool if you do not let that person do that, you are a fool if you do not let them do that, but if they have proven not only by their words but also their actions time and time again that they are not going to change, they are not going to improve, they are not going to be better, then at some point you need to get the picture, you need to understand that this person is not going to change, yes you do need to understand that, but those who come to you and confide in you and they may even tell you exactly what is going on, and yes of course I have experienced this myself pretty much from day one, from the very beginning of my life I have always been a target, I have always been surrounded by flying monkeys, not only in my family but also my friend circle and even in the community, so yeah I am actually very familiar with that, I have experienced it many times already, it is nothing new to me and I can tell you that sometimes yes there are actually genuine people in this world believe it or not, they do still exist and sometimes they may come to you and they may be quite fearful, they may not know exactly how to say it, but they will make it obvious to you and they will come out, they may even speak to you, they may try to help you, they may try to comfort you, yes these are good people, yes you need people like that in your life, but that is only if you can trust them because a lot of people you cannot trust, when you are in the narcissist world, when you are surrounded by flying monkeys ideally you should just cut them all off, just get rid of them all, just annihilate them all from the very beginning, that is quite honestly the most effective option, the best thing for you to do because when you do that then they are not going to have any influence or control over you, then there is nothing they can do, what are they going to do to you then, they have got to have a foot in the door, they have got to have a way for them to get in, but if you keep your doors locked there is no way they are getting in, they cannot gain access then if you keep them out, so yes a lot of times that is what you have got to do, you just shut them out and get used to it, get used to being alone, it isn't as hard as you think it is and you should actually enjoy it, enjoy your alone time, the most important relationship you will ever have in your life is the relationship that you have with yourself and the problem with a lot of people these days and why they are so narcissistic and so toxic is because they don't have any relationship with themselves, they have relationships with everyone else but not themselves and that is why when you get in a relationship with these types of people you don't even know who they are and they don't even know who they are they don't know the first thing about themselves and yet you are trying to get to know them, you are trying to get to know nothing, something that doesn't even exist because they didn't even build the foundation and the structure of who they are, so yes as I said the most important relationship you will ever have in your entire life is the relationship that you have with yourself, that relationship, that relationship is going to be more important than any other relationship you have in your life and I don't care what it is whether it's a friendship, it could be a relationship you have with a family member, it could be even your own children but whoever it is that does not matter, what matters most is the relationship that you have with yourself and that needs to be the priority above everything else, so yes that is really what you have to do to destroy these losers, these lowlifes, these flying monkeys, that is really what you have to do in most situations just cut them all out if people have already proven themselves to be low value, you should not even desire to be around them or to talk to them or confide to them or do anything with them, I don't care what it is, I don't care what it is, you need to look at yourself and ask yourself am I a high value person, do I love myself, do I have high self-esteem because I can promise you if you do you wouldn't entertain that garbage, you wouldn't entertain it which is why sometimes we do need to look within ourselves, we do need to recognize are we missing something because yes these flying monkeys will come to you and they will portray as though something is wrong with you or as though you're deficient in something and what you have to do when that happens don't push it away, don't fight it, don't resist it, you look within and you check yourself and you see are they right, am I missing something and I can tell you that whatever it is you're not going to get it externally, everything external it's just a reflection of your internal world so all you have to do is go within yourself and if you're missing something, if you're lacking self-love if you have low self-esteem all you have to do is go within yourself and fix it and only you can do that, no one else can do that for you, no flying monkey even I can't do it, the only person who can do it is you, you have to go within yourself and how you do that is you recognize whatever it is that is causing you emotional pain and then you check the root source of it you check it in your mind and you feel it in your guts sometimes even in your chest you feel it you identify it and then you process it you feel it and then you let it go and then you have healed it it's as simple as that it's this doesn't have to be complicated and then once you do that you will feel a lot better not only about yourself but about other people and the world you live in and yeah these flying monkeys won't bother you so much after that because what they're doing is they're playing on your traumas they're playing on your weaknesses they're playing on these things that they think that you are missing so all you have to do is identify it identify the emotional pain feel it process it and then let it go and then after that you become untouchable you become invincible they can't even touch you after that because you have processed it and they need a way to get in if they have no way to get in there's nothing they can do all they can do is run around in circles they can chase after you they can try to harass you but the power is always in your hands you are the one with the power they have no power at all their power only comes from manipulating deceiving and confusing you but all you have to do is recognize that the power is within you you are the only person in that situation with the power and that is why they come around you to take your power away from you yes that's why they come around you to do that so you take your power back and you do that by not letting these things affect you because it's only going to affect you emotionally so recognize whatever it is that you are deficient in whatever it is that you are missing whatever it is that confuses you or that you don't understand and one thing you've really got to stop doing is seeking validation looking for answers outside of yourself you already have all of the answers yes you can come to me for validation that's fine I do believe that I am someone that you can trust to confide in and of course I have experienced all of this myself so of course that's a different situation if you're seeking validation from someone you know and someone you can trust that's fine but do not seek validation from these types of people that will be the biggest mistake you ever make because they will only lead you astray they will only lead you down the wrong track and then you will be further and further away from your goals and objectives from the things that you're trying to achieve so yeah do not seek validation outside of yourself learn to validate yourself learn to develop self-confidence and these things could only come from within you're not going to get it from anything else that confidence it can only come from within and it comes from recognizing what are you most passionate about what do you value in life what do you believe in when you recognize these things no one can take it away from you no one can do it they can put you through all these obstacles they can make you jump through hoops they can do all of this stuff they can tell you they see or that you're not good enough it's not going to make a difference at the end of the day you're still going to be you you're still going to feel confident in yourself and there is nothing that they can do about that there's nothing they can do about it all they can do is sink deeper and deeper into their own delusions of thinking that you're this you're that something is wrong with you you did this wrong whatever all they can do is do that but it's it doesn't have to mean anything to you it will only mean anything to you if you resonate with it if you try to understand it which is why i said to stop seeking validation from them because if you do try to seek validation from narcissistic people from people who only care about themselves that's that is a recipe for disaster you cannot honestly let yourself think that that's going to lead to anything good they already know it's not going to lead it to anything good that's where they put it in front of you it's to distract you to stop you from moving on and becoming better with yourself and in your own life that's why they do that and yes you do need to recognize that you do need to be aware of it because that is the only way that you will be able to prevent it that is the only way that you will be able to do that so yes your awareness is very important in this situation you need to become aware of what they are trying to do to you when you become aware of it then you will be better able to prevent it if you're not aware of it then there's really nothing you can do it's going to go straight into your subconscious and it will affect you and it will change your thoughts feelings actions of behaviors and then there's really not much you can do about that until you are able to learn how to process and to heal these emotions which these kinds of things can take time it's something that gets a lot better with practice I mean not everyone can just identify their own traumatic responses or then instantly go inside their minds and change it in a matter of seconds most people aren't able to do that but yes that is possible and that is something that you can learn in my coaching sessions which you can book on my website which is narksurvivor.co.uk so yeah I do highly advise that you do that I do believe that it will benefit you if you are dealing with flying monkeys I can assist you with that so yes definitely head on over to there you can book a session with me and I can not only give you the validation that you need to deal with these types of situations but also I can guide you to deal with these feelings that come along these emotional responses because yes I have been through that myself on many occasions and yes I have to learn how to deal with these experiences because you will find that if you don't deal with it it will keep coming up again and again and in time you will begin to welcome it you will begin to see it as a challenge to see if you can get over it because trust me I guess to a certain point in life once you've healed all of your traumas and you've become emotionally healthy you've developed strong boundaries you've developed this belief and confidence in yourself I guess to a point where it's like nothing even challenges you anymore where you feel like you're on top of everything and sometimes you do desire something more you do desire a challenge in your life you will desire that sometimes so it's not always about the destination enjoy the journey go along with it and also I can recommend a service that I have used in the past as well which is BetterHelp you can book a session with a licensed therapist through there it's betterhelp.com slash Narc Saviva but yeah that's it for this video let me know your thoughts down in the comments let me know if this video resonates with you if you've been dealing with flying monkeys and share the video give it a thumbs up and as always I will talk to you in another one very soon peace