 Hey, what's up? You guys welcome out to my channel if you're new here. Hi. Hello. I'm Lydia And if you are new here, make sure you hit the subscribe button during the growing Camelie Today we're doing the calibration with the wonderful Alana. Hi guys. My name's Alana today We're collaborating on a video of self-harm coping skills. So when it comes to self-harm coping Strategies and skills. This is something that I have kind of developed over time I think it's important to remember that It may take you a while to figure out what coping skills actually work because not everyone will have the same ones and I think it just takes a bit of trial and error until you find some things that work. I might go through a couple of things that I found helpful just in case any of you guys want to try it. I am currently four months self-harm free I'm almost a year and a month free from self-harm. So I would say the first Croping skill would be destruction. So for me, that was a really big one. I Whenever I would get a like be triggered or I get an urge to self-harm I would just go and do a task. So that may be something just like cleaning my house or Filming and editing a YouTube video could be doing some singing or listening to some really good music watching your favorite TV show Anything like that. Just Have a list of things written down That you can then just go pick from and I think that really helps because then you don't have to really think about it In the moment, you can just choose one Having a shower or a good bath. I like to have a bath when I get urges It really helps. I have a really hot bath. I don't run any cold water into that. It's just feeling hot The other one that is often recommended, which you might have heard is to use your body to kind of physically Calm down. So in DVT, there's a acronym called tip. So This can be really helpful for some people. So T is for temperature. I Is for intense exercise and then there's two P's so pad muscle relaxation and then Pad I think it's called pad breathing Oh paste breathing paste breathing. So Those ones require you to do sync with your body. So obviously exercise really intensely for like 10 minutes maybe or Fill up your sync with really cold water and put your face in it and hold your face in there for about 30 seconds or as long as you can because it actually triggers off a Kind of like a really kind of reboots your body And because it's such a shock to your system like to your body it can often kind of pull you out of that state of You know, like if you're dissociating or Not really being able to think right that can be helpful as well Going for a walk sprint bike ride Personally, I have no illness. I used to go for walks to try and cope with suicide Dripping red food coloring to make it seem like blood, but without that being actually being blood Using a fidget toy There's a lot of them out there. I've got a box full of them. Here's another video I'll link it on the iPod They think a punch bag Now I don't own a punch bank or a puncher pillow Same effect another thing that I would recommend is to start journaling every time we have an urge Start journaling because there may be specific triggers that are coming up that are actually triggering you So a lot of the time we have self-harm urges. We kind of think well that came out of the blue I have no idea why I had the urges had the urge nine times out of ten There will be a reason why you have that urge and it can be very hard to figure that out So if you start journaling and just writing what happened before you felt triggered Why you you know why you felt triggered? Did you act on the trigger? Just all of that. It's like collecting data and over time You will start to hopefully find patterns and be able to figure out kind of why you're doing it because I think All these other coping skills do work, but at the end of the day you do have to figure out What's under all those layers and why you're actually doing it? So you can then use the distraction and coping skills to address the issue Going on medication now medication is one of the stories as I stopped self-harm We heard just didn't get the urges when I was on medication taking a nap This is one of my signature rules Whenever I start to feel down or get urges, I have enough So I hope that that helped you guys I have found You know obviously fighting off urges very hard at the beginning But when it when it gets, you know more time starts happening and it goes by and then you haven't acted on the urge It becomes easier really does you just have to kind of push through that like initial stage Which can be really horrible And can honestly feel like you're going insane, but it does pay off like I promise you it really does So yeah, I'm going to leave you there Hopefully this was helpful and I will see you in my next video