 I think it just broke my heart that you said, when I want to add on to my beauty, right? And it's just stuff like that that I don't think we realize that we say. Because it's like, why is that added not to your beauty? Do you know what I mean? The kittyperm girls, they came out and said, because now they're grown. And they came out and said, those styles that we had on the boxes of these kittyperms were, I think they got silk presses. They didn't actually get relaxers. But a lot of little girls' motivation and their mom's motivation was to look like the little girls on the boxes. How did y'all feel about finding that out? Yeah, that was a Twitter thing. I've seen it. This is my first time hearing it. Yeah, they didn't have perms. Yeah. I am water broken. Because perms make people hair come out and everything. Wow. All this time. Hair burning in the chair. When I used to get relaxers, I would find a pretty sweet girl on the box. Like I wouldn't just try to find a certain brand. I would look at the picture. Yeah. They never come out like that. Yeah. Well, it brings me to an interesting place. I think a lot of times, especially in our community, we talk about daddy issues. Let's talk about mommy issues. Oh, boy. Oh, God. What pressures, what insecurities do you think your mother's instilled in you? You talked about doing your hair and putting it in your mind that my hair is a problem, is unmanageable. What do you think they put in you and how do you think it's affected you into your 20s? Okay, so I can say that like my mom actually used to do my hair and then she started to have someone start doing it for me. So when she got tired of doing it, she started to pay somebody to do it because it was no longer her niche or it was no longer something that she wanted to do because either she couldn't manage it or she just didn't want to deal with it. But as I began to get older, it starts to be a problem with me because this is who I am. So now I have to find a way or source or somebody that can do my hair. So that's where I come in with learning how to do my own hair. Now, now I'm at this stage where I finally learn how to do my own hair and how I want to manage it and what I want to do with it and finally learning the fundamentals of black women and their hair. We don't just wear weave because we want to, not because we have to, but because we want to. It depends on the mood and it depends on who you is as a person. It depends on what, I got to get my hair this certain way because I have a photo shooter. It depends on what business you in, what ventures are you taking off to and more expands to so much. Do you wonder why women get their hair done a certain way when they go on to a certain place? You might want deep wave body wave because you finna go to the pool and you know it could get wet or a woman to get braids because it could get wet. We get our hair done because we can have a silk press as a black African American woman and then we go to the pool and then we get out the pool and it's just curly all over her head. But I don't know why we don't find beauty in that. We have to, that's where I finally found beauty and well right now I'm not wearing my natural hair because I don't know why, it's not a cause. It's just, I'm just not right now. But occasionally I do when I don't have a lot going on. I don't know why it's been that way or how I actually take it in to finally realizing and having this conversation is actually a beautiful thing. Just who you are as a woman. It's beautiful the way that we're able to transition. I like the transition to be like, oh I had this hairstyle then I can do this hairstyle. But it's beauty because I have other race friends who's like, who's not black, white or I have a Korean friend, I have a Latino friend and she wishes she can have my hair and sometimes I wish I can have hers. But as a black woman, my Korean friend can't get the hairstyles that I get because her hair is too soft or she don't find beauty within what she have and want what we got. So we get deeper on different levels between how you was really surrounded and what you actually taking in. Like right now I'm reaching levels where I'm unlearning the things that wasn't taught right. So that's where it comes like, am I really tender headed or was you just putting too much pressure on my hair at the time because you couldn't manage it. So not as she hurt because that's how I'm like getting my hair done. So it's like, damn, my mom used to be like, girl, be frustrated. Yes. My parents drill certain things in our head. Like you ever, you ever seen a kid and the mom is always like, girl, he's so bad but the baby not even bad. And then he turned not to be bad because you put that on him. She's so tender headed and you become too heavy. Maybe it was just too heavy. And you rough. But we hear things as kids and they say it and we drill it in our heads and we just believe it. Like my mom used to always tell me like you crazy or you want to be crazy. But no, I was just dealing with mental issues. Like I just want it to be heard. I want it to be seen into the form where she made me actually feel like I was crazy. When I really just needed counseling, I just needed somebody to talk to. I was lost and I needed to be found but you just kept saying I was this, I was that. So that goes to say like, how you was raised. Parents do to help us in these areas. Not what men can do, what women can do, what can parents do. See that's something that starts with them. It all starts when you're a kid. So when you're growing up, but it always starts with what you initially learned or what you initially took in. And out of everything you learned was correct. Cause I'm unlearning a lot of things. That's not right. And I was just like, wow. I can't accept the fact that I was raised this way. And now after all these years, I'm trying to unlearn it because it's not correct. It's not right. Like when I do have a child, nothing is perfect but I want you to be taught different the way I was raised. Like I don't want to have to hide my inner beauty. I want to bring it out a long time ago. I shouldn't have to wait till 20s. What about teens? You are beautiful as you begin to grow older. Like it's a journey. It's not something that's just settled but it's always goes down. So like remember who you are and opinions don't matter. And also like do your own research. Like your parents can tell you something but I have a nephew who's like 100% on top of his stuff and he's 10. He will correct you wrong in a heartbeat. Like no, that's not right. Like this little dude raised himself. Like he know like you can't play with him like that because it just, it really depends on how you was raised and what you encounter yourself with. Can you reset the question? How do you feel like mothers specifically affected our self-image, especially as women or your self-image as women? You know what's crazy? I'm just saying her thinking about random stuff and how you start to connect to the dots with things. And so like one of the things that my siblings and I have always been kind of complimented for is that we've always had long hair from a young age. Now I was having a conversation with my mom and it was something like, oh yeah, you guys have good hair that must be like the white side of you, right? And at that moment I was like, I definitely corrected her on that by the way. If y'all wondered, I'm like, hold on, wait a second. But then it is things like that that make you wonder just kind of growing up and it's like being always asked what you're mixed with or having other black men come up to me and be like, are you just black? Are you sure you too afraid to be black? Like stuff like that. And so I think that some of the messaging that I've gotten from my mom or just other people as well is that if there is something good about my beauty, people question it if it's blackness. It's attributed to something else. Yeah. Like you can't have a hair like that because you black. Right. Like black is not beautiful, so it must be mixed with something else. It's unbelievable to you for this standard of beauty, something that you perceive as beauty to be just black. But the question is, why isn't black beautiful? Why isn't it beautiful? Who said it wasn't beautiful? Me, sir. Okay, Malcolm. Okay, Malcolm. I'm just saying, like we gotta, for real, we gotta put our foot down to understand that it's beauty between everybody. Like we're all different for a reason. That's what a lot of people don't realize. Like you can set yourself aside from the crowd. Like why do you feel like you, like when we piggyback off, why do you feel like you gotta be this it girl? Why is black not beautiful? You are beautiful. Your skin is beautiful. Your hair is beautiful. Your tone of voice is beautiful. Who you are naturally is beautiful. We have to remind people that they are beautiful because some people are in a dark space and feel like their black is ugliness. We shouldn't feel that way. Like you are beautiful. Just be you, be free, and do exactly what you believe in because a lot of opinions don't matter. Like love the skin you in and embrace it and bring it out more. Like learn your inner self. I feel like that's what all ties onto as growth. Let me get y'all's advice. I have a daughter. She's two, but she's about to be two. Her mom and I are trying our best to get her in the mindset of I am beautiful. I think technically her hair is for B. I'm for C because I'm African, but I think it's for B. Looking back at some of the places that you guys can identify that it went wrong for you as far as your own self image from family, friends the whole night, what do you think I should keep in mind doing to make sure that when she grows up, when she's 20, 30, she feels beautiful just off top? Wow. Honestly, I say this all the time. You really have to let kids be kids because you can tell a child all day long, do this, do that. You can teach them, teach them, teach them, but that kid is gonna do what they wanna do when they get older. Like my mom taught me everything I need to know. My dad taught me everything I need to know. When I got older, I did what I wanted to do. I can say, Ida, I'ma say. Well, I did what I wanted to do, but I found my way when I figured it out on my own. You gotta allow people to figure it out on their own because they need that journey because your journey is gonna teach you. So you can give her stuff and she'll use it. She might not use it, but all you can do is the best that you can and not put too much pressure on yourself because she's gonna figure it out her own. And she might not grow up how you want her to grow up, but she's gonna grow up, but God got her. So don't worry when it comes to kids because God is gonna take care of you. Do the best that you can and give the rest to God because that kid is gonna grow up. She's gonna remember what you gave her, but she's also gonna learn new things along the way. She's gonna find out what's for her and what works for her, but she'll always remember what you taught her as well. So to piggyback, I can say, like as you being her father and some things that I wish I had in my father, like reminding me of my beauty-ness. And since she's two, you can also teach her, like when she's begin to write out affirmations. I am beautiful. I am brave. I remind her when she looks in the mirror, have sticky notes around her room and let her write it out like I'm brave, I'm beautiful. I love the skin I'm in. I wish I had that. And I'm finally learning to actually, I'm on my self-care journey right now. So I'm finally learning all of this of the things that I didn't know before or what my parents didn't teach me so I can give it to my seeds and my kids can give it to their kids. Like you are beautiful. Love the skin you in. Enjoy your alone time because there's gonna be days like that's dark and you don't know which way to go, you know what I'm saying? So it all gets deeper about what you was taught and just like, just to always remind, like I'd be trying to think of things to always remind her that she's beautiful besides like the affirmations and the sticky notes. As a dad, take her to her hair appointments, let her be comfortable. Like my dad likes my hair, give her compliments, remind, you have to constantly remind a woman that they are beautiful. That is important. This is randomly in the middle of that. Like you're beautiful and I love you. You look pretty today, sweetheart. It's gonna be toxic. Oh God. But, let me show you, this is my daughter. I thought that was like a art. No, that's all right. Oh my God. She's so beautiful. I'm scared, I'm so beautiful. So the reason I show y'all this is because I think she's gonna be cute when she grows up. I don't want her to feel like she's too cute. So like what's the balance of, you're beautiful, but you know what I'm saying, humble yourself. What's the balance of always remembering where you come from? Like I'm trying to think. It's always important to be humble, but then it's just like, hmm, somebody else can think of anything. Like you're rooted? Yes, remember who you are. I would say just be careful about how you carry yourself. Because if she look at daddy and daddy is like, you know, this cocky guy, she's gonna just, she's gonna know. It's not a fault. Y'all are very cocky, but I would just say, she's in that calmly, y'all are very cocky. Now that you mention it, I would just say kids pay attention. Say everything. Kids remember, they know, they know what you, like right now, she probably be looking at you, even though she real young. She probably still be catching on. So I would say be very careful about what you do around her and don't show her that cocky side of you. Try your best to be humble and she'll follow that. Because all she got right now is what she see. Her parents do. Come on, we ready? I can feel it. I mean, I think one thing to keep in mind is that when we're children, that's where, when our brains are the most malleable. And so, a lot of times kids are making connections with things without realizing it. Like I was saying before when my mom did my hair, frustrated, like pain. So those are connections that I tied to my hair. And so I think that you just have to kind of be intentional about making those connections subconsciously for your daughter. So going back to the first question, what she can do to embrace her beauty. I would say when she's doing her hair, have her look in the mirror, like whoever's doing her hair, say affirmations, make it a positive experience. So maybe after she gets her hair done, you guys go do something fun together or something. So then her hair days become something she looks forward to, right? Or like with my dad in terms of like the humble, the balance and things like that, his nickname for me has always been beautiful one. So he's always caught me that. But he was always at my award shows. He did things to help cultivate my mind. He used to make me read out loud to him, things like that. And so that showed me that, okay, education, intellect, those things are important as well. And so I think we gotta be careful because I think what happens a lot is that if women aren't getting a lot of guidance at home, being taught self-love, but then we go out into the world and we're noticed for our appearance, we do focus too much on it. And so I think it starts very young with helping her understand. There's other things like beauty is cool, but there are other things that you can cultivate within yourself. And those are the things that you should be proud of because genetics made you look this way. But who you are inside is what you work toward every day. Yes. So quickly, if you can, explain to men what protective styles are. And the reason I ask is because as most men, I wasn't a fan of wigs or weaves or, you know, certain hairstyles. Until I started understanding hair and black women's hair and it not being as resilient to the elements. And that's why you might wear weave or you might wear wigs to maintain what it is that you have or not have to, you know, your arms go dead trying to, you know, do twists or whatever the case may be. So explain to black men why it is that you guys wear the braids. Why it is that you guys wear the weave outside of trying to be the it girl like the utility to these things. And, you know, some of the bundles we have here. I would say, like for the most part, I love just wearing my real hair right now. Like I'm not really weaving it right now just because I just feel so free. Like I can just. Weave it alone. I don't know. Weave it alone. So I'll say the reason that I do wear like bundles and wigs and lace fringes because they just look so good. Like if I want to just change it up and look pretty, even though I'm pretty like this, if I want to just look even better, like add on to my beautifulness, add on to my beauty, I'm gonna put on some bundles. They gonna be nice, soft and slid. It's just gonna feel like a new person. Like I just genuinely want to wear it because I want to feel good. Okay. I'm sorry. I can't. I think it just broke my heart that you said when I want to add on to my beauty. Right. And it's just stuff like that that I don't think we realize that we say because it's like, why is that add on to your beauty? Do you know what I mean? I just feel like it look good. I don't know. Not that I don't look good like this because I feel like I'm very beautiful like this, but if I want to do it up, I'm gonna put on some bundles and put on some makeup. Okay. Let me ask you like this. I know for instance, if my daughter told me that I need to add this to be pretty, it would break my heart. I'm not saying you got to add it to be pretty because I'm already pretty. It's an enhancement. It just enhanced. Even that. Even that. Even like, because to me what it's saying is that in order for me to be my super Saiyan self, my optimal self, I have to use something outside of me. So I would understand from a, you know, once in a while thing or from a protection thing. You know what I mean? But from a, I feel prettier thing that hurts a little bit. I don't know what to say. I mean, I'm not saying you're prettier with this. I'm just saying like, sometimes I just want to wear it because it's pretty because I like it. I feel like you like what you like. Right. I like my natural hair, but I also like because it's pretty. I like the way- It's like a style switch up. Yeah, it's a style switch up. I like the way it look on me. I like the way it lay. I like the way I like, I like it because it's soft. I like it because it's pretty. It's just pretty for me. But then, but again, I don't wear weave a lot. So it's not like- Sure. You feel me? Yeah. Like it doesn't make me more beautiful than I already am. That's what I was trying to clear for. Okay. Okay, okay. I'm a natural girl all day long. Like I don't need weave. But if I do want to feel pretty earth or I want to feel like I want to look good, then I'm gonna put on some weave. But you do see like in our community in particular, a lot of women don't feel pretty until they put on the weave or put on the makeup or put on the outfit. Yeah, it's different when you feel like you need it because you're not pretty natural. And that's the only reason. But it's different reasons why women wear weave. I couldn't say that. Okay, talk about it. Like my reason is because it's pretty, I like it. Okay. And another woman reason can be because of the length. It's longer than her natural hair. Or because of her natural hair, you don't get as straight as the bundles. Or think about the curl patterns. Like you have your natural beauty and your curl pattern, but you also want a body wave because it flows different. So it's not just the color. And that's another thing, the color of it. Sometimes it's a, so that's the thing. It's different between dyeing your natural hair as a black woman than getting 613 bundles and dyeing it. Like I'd rather not dye and bleach my natural hair because it doesn't turn out the same when you go back. So it all depends. Weave is not a bad thing. It's actually can protect our black natural beautiful hair. So I wouldn't dye my black beautiful natural hair because I love my curl pattern that I have. So I'm wearing weave because it's a protective style piggybacking off what you say. Why is it a protective style? Because my hair is growing up underneath. I have braids. So the braids tightens up the hair and pulls it from the root as it begins to grow when I'm not stressed. Okay? So, yeah, it gets deeper with- That's a good, that's a good-ass point. While we do the things we do. Yeah. I want my hair to grow. I'm gonna put some braids in. It's gonna be braided down. It's gonna grow. And it's less to maintenance. It's less to maintenance and maintain. Just wake up and go. Exactly. It's gonna look good. It's gonna look good. It's gonna look good. We all look a bust down middle part. It just look good. But some girls love a curly, a curly wave. Some girls just like they 6'13. That's their natural state or- Is this gang talk right now? What is 6'13? I don't know what- 6'13 is blonde here. 6'13? I'm sorry. So it's blonde bundles. It's blonde bundles. Okay, okay. 6'13, that's just the number preference. I'm learning. You know what a bust down is? You know what a bust down middle part? Oh. A Rolex? Like real sleek. When the girl got the middle part, it's just like- Bust down straight. It's 30 inches plus. Okay. That's what a bust is down. What's your thing? You say you don't like me. As we- That's what we're gonna get to. I want y'all to- I'm gonna try my best to represent the male delegation. Okay. So y'all ask me questions about women's- or men's perception of women's beauty, hair, the whole night. Okay. I'll do my best to be honest. Okay. So go ahead. I got a question. Come on, roll it. You ready? All right. So when you see a woman who- primarily wears makeup, just to go to like the grocery store or run errands, do you see that woman is insecure? Yes. Why? Why is she insecure because she has makeup on? I'm gonna give you two answers. Number one, I would say that she is hiding something. Especially if she's doing all that just for like mundane tasks. Like she's hiding something so at the core she might not like herself. And that reflects in how she covers up who she is, AKA her skin, right? On the other hand, I would also like ask what her skin care is like because wearing too much makeup, I've been told like could mess up your skin, clog your pores at the whole night. Especially if you make a habit of like, I can't move without wearing makeup. And then like the other thing too, I guess this is the third answer. It would make me feel like she's high maintenance. I can't take her to hike or go to a beach or do this, this and that because she has to be on sleep all the time. And it ain't gonna work for me. Another dude might be different, but for me it ain't gonna work, yeah. I agree with you. I like that. So you're not feeling alone? Yeah, I like natural clean beauty. That's how I put it. Not even natural beauty, clean beauty. Yeah. Clean natural beauty, yeah. Calm, womanized. Keep them coming. I was gonna wait for you, everybody. I just got a question. Keep it going. I got squishes. I got a question. Like anything in general that we wanna know about me? Mm-hmm. And if you can relate it to what we've been talking about that week. Yeah, right here. That's, yeah, hair beauty, I don't know. Oh, I got a good one. Wait, go ahead, I'm sorry. So how do y'all feel, man? So you know how like a black woman when we wash our hair? Yeah. Real nappy. You don't get nappy, you get curly. You get curly, you get real curly. How do you feel about that? Cause I always felt, I have not met a man where I can wash my hair in front of him. Because my hair would be real crazy. When it looks like it's strenght up, really, you get real, you get real bad in front of him. Yeah. I'm gonna be honest. I gained a lot more empathy for what women go through when I grew my hair out. And I had to wash and detangle and do things like that. Because I think men, if you don't have that experience yourself or you haven't had to do nobody's hair or whatever the case may be, you think it's easier than it actually is. And that's why I think it might be harder for a lot of men to empathize with. Why do you look so crazy? Cause I've been getting caesars my whole life so you don't know that your hair shrinks up after you wash it. Right, but I think I would encourage more women to educate, especially if it's a dude who really cares about you and loves you the whole night, educate him on what's actually going on. Yeah. Have him help you. And he can kind of learn and gain an appreciation for what it is that you guys are going through. But then again, if you love you, you love you. Facts. So you gonna love me with my hair. This way or this way? Facts. And if he's only with you for your hair, you might not wanna be with that man. He might like me. Seriously, that's scary. I'm trying to think about what my question is. It's gotta be good. Men. Oh, I got another question. Go ahead, roll with it, what I think. Well, you might not be able to answer this, but when your girl weren't here then, or if she wanna wear weed, do you offer her to buy it, or does she have to ask you to buy it? Mm-mm. Where does that come from? We're gonna be like, I need my hair done, or I need my nails done, or I want this weed. I need it installed, and they expect, I feel like women just expect men to just pay for their hair. Like, girl, get your own hair done. I don't think a dude who has it would mind. I think he would mind if it becomes excessive. If it's like, you're switching your hair up every two weeks, and you're using like premium honey hair level, you know what I'm saying? You need tap nuts. But if it's like, once in a while, once a month, or whatever the case may be, I think that's reasonable. I think men can pitch in to a woman's self-care routine, self-care process. And if it makes you feel good, and not just, it gives you confidence, but like, it makes you feel good, cause your confidence has to be rooted. I'm with it, I'm cool, yeah. Do you offer like, for your girl, do they able to get your hair done? I've paid for my women to get their hair done before. Have I bought them hair? No, but I've given them money to buy hair. Like offered it or they had it? Maybe both. Cause I don't know like, when you're about to go do the stuff. So I'm not just gonna off top of my head, you know what I'm saying? But, and that's why I also wanted to have this conversation, cause they're men who are in women's lives and they want to best understand their woman and best help their woman. And I know Honey Hair, we're talking about doing some kind of like, you know, Valentine's Day special. So that could be, I'm sure most of them will be like elated if you got this level of hair, or this quality of hair for your woman for Valentine's Day. But I really do want, just like I'm having conversations with women so men could get a more in-depth and nuanced understanding of how women's minds work. Beauty, hair, makeup, stuff like that. We don't necessarily have to understand everything, but like now I know what a bust-down, I know what a bust-down is. And a 613. And yeah, 613. But yeah, I don't think if he offers means that he cares, I mean he loves you or cares for you anymore, but like if he's willing to meet a need that you identified to him. I think that, yeah, he's right with you. Just wondering. I'm like that. I got a question. I got no question. Bonnets. Okay. I wanna talk about bonnets because I asked this question to my friends recently and I'm like, when you talk to a guy and you stayin' over his house, when do you back out your bonnet? Cause for me in the past, I've dated someone and I would literally have my hair get messed up because I was so insecure about wearing a bonnet in front of him. To the point where he asked, he was like, you don't be wearing that to cover your hair, why you getting your hair done? Like why you not wearing a bonnet? And then I feel like it was okay, but I realized that's a thing. So when you guys see a bonnet, what is your interpretation of that? Because, but when does the bonnet come out? Like how you reached that? Right, right. Once the, you have to be comfortable by that time, right? That's a good point. I'll say this. Before I grew my hair out, I didn't get it. Like I would wear a durak, but I was a dude. You know what I'm sayin'? You wear a durak to the basketball court. But I think most men we associate bonnet with like our mom until like you have an understanding of like maintaining hair. So I know like men who are high level in their pimping, they'll just get like satin pillowcases or silk pillowcases the whole night. So you don't have to wear a bonnet. But you know, somebody like me who's had hair, I get it. I get it. Yeah, put your bonnet on, protect yourself. But yeah, most men just don't know. And they just, like I said, they're just making that maternal association. Oh no, we're not talking about going outside. We're talking about in the house, like where your man, yeah. I have no question though. And I don't know if this is a tangent though. So Bonnet reminds you of your mom. What is the interpretation of your mom that would be off-putting for your woman to have remnants of her? It's my mom. When you say your mom though, is it like you don't find her physically attractive? Is that it? Or is it like, because some people, like some women might say there are some men that they look for that have traces of their dad. So I guess that's the more of the lies I'm going of. Is it just the physical aesthetic of it or does it trigger something else? Like you remind me of my mom and there's something else. I think it could be both, honestly. For me, when I'm saying it, it's the aesthetic. Okay. It's the aesthetic. I think it's the same reason I don't like wigs. Because you would see your mom, especially middle-aged, older black women, they come off work, they just snatch it off, put it on. So you remember how it smells, you remember how it looks, and you're like, I don't wanna be thinking of my woman the same way I would think of my mom. Some men, it could be like, they still have a maternal wound and they have trauma from their mom. And they're going the complete opposite way. So I don't want my woman to be anything like my mom because of the trauma piece. But for me, it's like, you know, if you're trying to get unhorny, you think of like an old woman. You also think about your mom, your dad, your brother, you know what I'm saying? So I don't wanna be able to think about anything that is related to me. If I'm trying to be in that type of mood with a woman. So would you have six women in her body? I have. Do you get turned off? Do you think about your mom? Wow. That's a good question. Wow. That is a good ass question. Before I understood bonnets, it didn't help me. Like it didn't make me, you know what I'm saying? But now that I understand it, it doesn't affect me. But it was about the understanding piece. Right, you gotta understand each other. Mm-hmm. It went all different, you know what I'm saying? It's been women who didn't like me, wear my durag. And I'm a dude. We need our bonnets. What about our scarves? I'll wear my scarves, please. I would say this, I prefer scarves to a bonnet. Yeah, I got scarves. Low-key, yeah, I prefer scarves to a bonnet, yeah. I love the scarves. This is what I'm going to be. I feel like I look cute. This is what I'm saying, so it depends. I like the turbines, too, though. Oh, the low-round scarves? Yeah, I fuck with those. I fuck with those heavy, yeah, I like the turbines. Wow, that's cute. I'm trying to think if I got it. I don't even have no questions. I've been asking questions for a whole time. Questions for a man. Let me think, I don't even like, see, why do I feel it this way? You know what I was going to say? Yeah, I don't even like nicks. That's another, I'll be back in a little while. This is about hair, but we'll have another question. As much as women have things to work on, so do men. Men have to learn, men have to learn the strategy of how to deal with a woman. Personally, you have to learn how to keep up with a woman. We are high maintenance. We have to agree to that. We have a lot of things that we have to take upon ourselves before we can even think about a man. Oh, I got a good question. Roll with it. So I've heard women tell me, for instance, because sometimes I'll ask women, from the point of view of a woman, how would you advise men in your life, maybe your brother, whatever the case may be, to differentiate women, right? And I've had women, for instance, tell me that, you know, if she wear French tips, she a ho. So, you know, little things like that, if she use tampons versus pads, she does this and that. I've heard different things like, yeah. So what I would say is, what is something that men could look out for when it comes to how a woman wears her hair to differentiate if she's somebody worth, you know what I'm saying, kicking it with, or somebody, nah, she for the streets, or she dirty, or she this. It depends, okay, so I could say it depends on your day. Like, okay, my day switch up and my outfit change. So maybe I'm at the gym, my hair is slicked back in the ponytail, but I'm also about to run to the grocery store and I look for it.