 when is the game finally over for the narcissist you clicked on this video because that is what you want to know and I'm sure that is something that many people want to know I will admit that at some point along my journey that is what I wanted to know as well just let's keep it real here let's be honest I mean especially COVID narcissist they're not very direct they don't tell you what's on their mind it's like there's this elephant in the room that no one speaks about and yet they never express it to you and the reason for that is because narcissists enjoy playing games they like to manipulate and deceive you it's what gives them that kick that two second high it gives them supply makes them feel alive and believe it or not that is actually their idea of fun to them it's fun to manipulate to deceive play silly childish games mess with your mind to leave you second guessing yourself to make you wonder what is going on as you probably know by now we don't play any games on my channel in my community with over 165 thousand subscribers and 40 million views we don't play any games here I give it to you direct even though some of you may not be ready to hear it I still tell you exactly what I think I tell you exactly what is on my mind and if there are any questions I always respond to the best of my knowledge and experience that's just how we do things on you welcome to the real world reality real life with narcissists no they don't do any of that they may lie to you and act like they are so honest direct and upfront they may act like they're on the same page as you go on the same frequency and the information it resonates with them they're gonna be act like that sometimes but the reality is that no they cannot understand you and those of you who have been involved with narcissists you should know that by now you should be aware of that by now because as I've said before my other videos they are lacking empathy they lack the ability to understand and share your feelings and experience which is it causes a lot of arguments a lot of misunderstandings because they're missing that empathy remember everything is all about them it's self-serving self-seeking self-motivated naturally of course when someone lacks empathy the other person is gonna be experiencing a lot of confusion they're gonna be wondering what is going on there's gonna be a disconnect when that empathy is missing and the other person in the narcissist and of course that is what enables them what allows them to continue playing these games with you is because they are missing that empathy because if a person has the empathy then they would recognize hold on a minute this is wrong it would click in their mind straight away as soon as they witness your confusion your pain they would recognize that it is wrong but you can recognize that when you become aware of my videos you can cut off the supply by raising your vibrational frequency because they can't meet you there they operate more in the lower forms of consciousness fear guilt shame desire these types of things they can't experience peace level joy like we can they can't even experience acceptance and that is not a low frequency but it's not exactly that high either so keep these things in minds when you are interacting with them I know that the game can be over any time that you decide that it is over because the power is in your hands the power is in your mind and you can switch that game up whenever you want to because for non-narcissistic people how you feel is a choice happiness is a choice and you can be happy any time that you like anywhere that you are doesn't matter what you have or what you don't have what you wish you had you can still be happy despite that because the happiness comes from within you generate these emotions from within unlike narcissistic people who can't do that if they want to feel good they can only feel good at your expense well by manipulating you getting one over on you and that's why they're so dedicated to the game that's why they're so dedicated to that and yeah it gives them a thrill it's their idea of fun torturing you because a lot of them are sadistic as well and yeah the game will never be over for them because this is essential to that emotional survival so the game must continue they can never disrupt the game and be open honest and direct with you they can never disrupt the game and do that because that's no fun for them and they need a way to regulate their emotions they need someone to be a fool a dormer an emotional punching bag an emotional tampon whatever you want to call it they need someone to be all of those things and of course how can you be those things if there is no game no manipulation if they're just upfront open and honest then there is no game at all so that means there's no emotional regulation and there's no deception they can't get one over on you they can't cheat lie or steal from you they can't do anything which instantly puts them at a disadvantage where they automatically have to see you a superior and they have to submit to you as that authority because as we all know they are very weak and unintelligent people especially emotionally which is the whole point that's why they have to play the games that's why they have to try and take advantage of you deceive you and do all of these things lie to you deny gaslight project blame shift I could list list a hundred different things that they do and they have to do all of these things because they are weak and stupid but it put it bluntly and rather may sound insulting I think it is pretty accurate and they prove that themselves with their actions their actions do come from weakness and a lack of intelligence it is as simple as that and that is how you should all automatically know but it is in fact you who is superior to them and that is why you should establish the authority of role in that relationship at least as much as you can until you meet someone who may be on your level and then of course you should treat them as your equal if you're in a healthy relationship or it could be a business relationship it could be family anything whatever it is of course then if it's healthy you treat them as your equal but when you're dealing with narcissists you do need to establish some authority over them you do need to do that because otherwise you're just giving your power away to someone who is weak and stupid and foolish these people were never meant to have power as you can see that by how they use it or should I say how they misuse it how they use it to abuse manipulate and destroy people that's what happens when you give your power away to them and that is why you should recognize that you need to keep your power to yourself stop giving it away to weak stupid people who will only misuse it and recognize your own strength and intelligence by developing the awareness of what you will do with that power and actually write it down make a list of the things that you would do if you kept your power how would you use it to help yourself other people and the community in which we live in how would you use it to do that make a list and write it down and then you can write a list of what the narcissist does when you hand your power over to them write a list of all the different ways that they misuse it and abuse it and then by that point it should be a no-brainer for that point you should understand that yes you do need to keep your power to yourself you do you do need to stop giving it away to weak stupid people such as narcissist yes you do need to stop doing that you will eventually come to that conclusion as I did in my own research and experience of five years of doing this naturally I it was inevitable that I would come to this conclusion yes and you will too in time the more of my videos you watch you will realize that yes narcissism it comes from weakness more than anything else it is weakness and it is a lack of intelligence especially emotional intelligence it's a lack of empathy more specifically affective empathy some narcissists yes they may have some level of cognitive empathy but they can't really share your experience emotionally that is why they fail to understand yes that is why they fail to do that so of course when someone is weak stupid and they lack empathy the game is never going to end it will always be there the game is pretty much just the illusion that they create that illusion will always be there without the illusion I would imagine that they would lose their minds they would go insane I mean I can't even imagine what they would do if the illusion ever fell apart I mean they they would automatically have to take a subordinate position but since they they're so power hungry I would think that they would probably kill themselves first before they were going to do that either that or they would just try to kill you anyway and as you know many of them yes they do become violent not always physically violent but emotionally psychologically and yes that does have damaging effects on you especially if you don't have to heal and process it so yeah it's good to be aware though that's the illusion and I know it's something that a lot of you may not want to hear right now but it is important for me to tell you that the illusion is indefinite the illusion will never end and you should know that by recognizing that it is necessary for them to maintain their false self without the illusion how can they maintain the false character and without the false character how can they get supplied they're not just going to wake up one day throw the false character away and start from the beginning again they're not going to do that because that would automatically put them at a disadvantage narcissists they don't do that they take shortcuts so the illusion yes that will always be there it's not going to go away and it really doesn't matter how long it is because I'm sure if there's anyone in the live chat right now who has been with a narcissist for a long period of time you might have been with them for 50 years and you know the illusion is still there you know it hasn't gone anywhere because narcissists don't do the work they're very insecure the very weak people so they will hold on to the illusion for their lives if there's one thing that a narcissist is loyal and devoted to it is their false self and you can be sure that they will abandon their family members their wives their husbands even their own children if it ever came down to it before they would abandon their false self their false character the illusion and you've only got a look of grounds at how they behave how they treat other people how they treat their own family and their friends how they manipulate people and force flying monkeys and it should be obvious to you that yes their main priority is their false character and the illusion that comes before anyone else they will happily cause destruction and inconvenience to their own supposedly who are meant to be their family members or friends they will happily do that they will leave them out in the cold it'll shut them down yes they will do that because the illusion comes first the false character comes first everything else comes second third fourth whatever it just comes after it's less of a priority so whatever you thought you had with them it wasn't real it was just an illusion and that is why if you ever dare to confront them if you ever dare to make them own up to something or you try to expose them then watch how they abandon you they will abandon you first before the illusion falls apart yes they will abandon you first before they do that and it doesn't matter who you are it doesn't matter how significant of a position you think you hold with them that all goes out the window if you threaten the illusion and this does not just go for the victims such as yourself who is watching this it's the same thing for the flying monkeys if the flying monkeys will be enablers who maybe their family members friends co-workers whoever it is if they dare to threaten the illusion at any time you can be sure of course the narcissist is going to choose the illusion and the false character over anyone so in a nutshell yes all of these people you see surrounded the narcissist they actually do hold an illusion of significance importance and relevance to the narcissist they are all disposable they could be disposed at any time if they refuse to follow the false narrative and play the game they all hold an illusion of significance and importance and value as well because they're only valuable if they submit to the false narrative and the illusion if they're not willing to submit to that then at that point they are a lost cause they are a means to an end they serve no purpose after that and you may have noticed that in your relationship with the narcissist you may have noticed that because if you ever dare to question or confront them you threaten the illusion you threaten to expose them well let me let me know down in the comments what happened to you when you did that I bet that they discarded you they started the smear campaign against you they enforced their flying monkeys and enablers they tried to destroy you because it all comes down to the fact that narcissists are extremely insecure they hate themselves they can't stand themselves so they create this false character and the illusion to protect their fragile egos and that's it's all that it really is that is what the game is that's what the game is and that is why the game never ends they will just throw people out just discard them by that point they're just garbage just like you may have been just like I was we've all been through it because they don't even see you as a person a separate person with your own feelings and needs anyway and their minds are just an object and their minds you're not real because to them reality is not real the truth isn't real it's false it's the opposite everything's in black and white and it is the illusion the fake world the alternate reality the false self all of these things are real in their minds in their world it's you you're fake you're bad you're evil that's how they see it and yes they are completely delusional they can't see it any other way because as I said the illusion is indefinite it never ends the illusion can never end but maybe the narcissist collapsed often it does happen in old age if they did have no more flying monkeys or enablers and they were completely alone I would assume that they would go insane maybe they would try to commit suicide although at that point it would be difficult to tell if it is genuine or if they are just trying to get people's attention so they can gain sympathy and gather new flying monkeys it would be very difficult to tell and to be honest I haven't had much experience about my own life I haven't actually witnessed that myself so I'm not sure exactly what would happen with the illusion if the illusion would fall apart if there were no flying monkeys or enablers maybe it would just be this one crazy delusional person who just backs on their emotions with no logic or reason maybe that could be a possibility I don't know but I'm open to learning new things so let me know down in the comment section if you have ever experienced that in your life if you have ever witnessed the collapsed narcissist and what happens when there's no more enablers or flying monkeys what happens to the illusion to the forced character I would like to hear from you because I am always open to learning new things I research every day but I would imagine that even then as tragic as it sounds I think they would actually in that moment of despair and desperation they would just create yet another false character to suit the current environment to just momentarily adapt to that and perhaps in that moment it may seem genuine but yes it is just another false character and then as soon as they gather new flying monkeys and enablers and they gain sympathy from playing the victim I would imagine that once they're back on top again that more overt side of them would come back and then they would go ahead with the illusion once again I'd imagine that is what would happen but that's just based on my research because as I said I haven't actually experienced this in my own life I mean typically if a narcissist does collapse or the illusion falls apart you probably won't even see them after that you probably won't even hear from them because they're not going to want you to see them fall it's very embarrassing and humiliating for them if there's one thing that I most definitely learned about narcissists it's that they can't be vulnerable they can't be vulnerable at all they hide behind this wall because they're very weak and afraid that they act strong and tough on the outside if you have ever caused a narcissistic injury sometimes you won't even know what caused it you will see how quickly they can crumble they're very sensitive it doesn't take much to do them as I said they are very weak and emotional but yeah let's see what we've got you in the live chat I can see there are some comments here he's just in the zone a bit there just giving you this valuable information which I hope will inspire and help you when you come into the shade more here before I read the comments sorry I do have a bit of a cough right now Tiffany Rivera says they love playing game yes they do they enjoy it it is an amusing activity to them believe it or not they enjoy doing it and of course it's very difficult for us to comprehend to understand that because all we want is just to be open direct and honest that's just the way that we are built now let's say it's not built like that they were taught from a very young age to be passive aggressive to beat around the bush and to never face things head on yes they were taught to do that they were taught to avoid direct confrontation about how things never get resolved they just keep going around in circles they repeat the same things again and again and they never get anywhere they never get anywhere Monique Lucero says they are children that never grew up zero love of their false selves users yes a lot of them are like children that never go up but at the same time they are missing the very childhood qualities and virtues that are important useful and magical they are missing those qualities and virtues that purity and innocence that childhood magic they are missing those things and that is why when you're around them it is very boring and predictable their act gets all very fast they're no fun and that is why but yes you should most definitely not love their false self don't encourage it too much give them a little bit here and there just to keep them going just to validate the illusion so that they don't crash down on you but at the same time keep your distance don't get too close you don't want to get something through the illusion where you become delusional and you start believing that it's real because once you do that and you go down the rabbit hole it can be very difficult for you to get back out of it let's see what else we got here Cheney says they've done great nothing more grotesque than an aging narcissist yes that's very true I mean but the younger narcissist at least then it makes more sense you kind of understand the narcissism there I mean they may be quite physically attractive for instance but then when they start aging and they stop taking care of themselves in the way that they used to they're just like big babies and it makes no logical sense because you look at them and they say hold on a minute you've got nothing of value to offer to me you can't even have an intelligent conversation and yet you walk it around and they feel the shit doesn't add up it doesn't make any sense to a man who is grounded in sanity and reality doesn't make any sense to a man who is grounded in that but yes that is just how it goes for them you know it used to be there was a time a long time ago actually but there was a time when especially then yes we grow older maybe we lose our looks but we used to be values for our wisdom and experience and that used to be more valuable than anything else more valuable than how you look and that is what made those men more valuable than these narcissistic women who parade on their physical appearance which actually doesn't really offer any value in society today but now sadly we we see so many more narcissistic men not only do they lose their looks and they're still narcissistic but they also have no wisdom or experience to offer to anyone but in my opinion that is very sad because there used to be a time when we would respect our elders and now it seems there's more people who admire the youth solely on how they look for these meaningless physical possessions their cars their houses their watches which don't really provide any value to us anyway but yes that's just how it is that's just the way that things are going today and it is very sad but that's just how it is this is how it is we can only be a reflection of what we want to see in the world you can't change other people not directly anyway you can do it by like i'm doing spreading awareness and hoping that they will see it and they will change they will see it in themselves because that's what we should be doing i mean that's what i do myself when i continue to research narcissism of course i look at myself sometimes the question if i possess any of these descriptions or traits and then i try to manage it i try to be more empathetic more understanding with other people that is something that we should all do every day we should always self reflect that is where your power comes from just a good guess they will be angry to show any sign of happiness it irritates them because they can't experience that they can't generate their happiness from within and maybe that is why they're so tied to the material world rather than the spiritual reality because that's how they get their happiness and even then it doesn't bring them much common anyway because if you were to participate and consume and the very activities that they do would probably bring you much more common than it does for them and maybe that's why they're so mad that's why they're so controlling that's why they have to shut you down and stop you from doing that because they already know how happy it would make you if you ever did that and that is the last thing that they want to see tanya says they will win no matter what we do i'm 65 and i don't have the strength to fight anymore if you will i'll be a piece of all well i beg to differ with that tanya because for one thing you are watching my live video right now so you must have some strength in you haven't gone over to the dark side just yet and as i've said before in my videos whether they like it or not yes in fact love does win in the game and there is nothing they can do about that these lower vibrational levels where they reside whether it's shame guilt fear pride desire these things will never bring them what they're looking for because the ego always wants more the ego is never satisfied so just as soon as they think they've got what they wanted the ego always wants more so now they're thinking what else do i want what else do i need and that's why love wins in the games i know i don't just mean the love that you have for other people or things although that is important as well but it's also the love that you have for yourself when you look back at everything you've been through in your life all of the suffering all of the achievements well i think we look back through that and you you realize that you have made it it's an incredible thing and it does boost your confidence in yourself and that's really what it is it's that journey it's that it's not the destination it's everything that you experienced along the way and when you look back at that nothing will make you love yourself more than that especially when you're dealing with narcissists and you see how everyone tried to bring you down if you look back at the past self who okay maybe they did lack wisdom maybe they did do some undesirable things and you may wonder where in the mind you were during that time but despite that you kept moving you got up you kept going and you climbed to a higher place and that is what overrides the shame that you may have felt back then develop this love for yourself because despite that you kept going and you made it you kept going and you made it so yes love does win at the end whether they like it or not this really nothing they can do about that and that is something that i've always believed in from day one i never thought anything different that is why i have such a strong faith in god and i know that god has always been there for me my entire life he's always been there to protect me and he always will be there as well and that's another thing as well it's your love for a higher power a higher force whether it is god or the universe whatever it may be for you that is a very powerful thing a lot of things have been done in the name of god and we should respect that we should appreciate it and we should hope to become more like that as well but yes that is everything the love that you have for yourself as long as you still have love for yourself and your hearts you always win doesn't matter who tries to devalue you will discard you doesn't matter what they do to you because everything that they do every act of abuse and you look back and you remember everything that they do to you yeah you do that you remember everything and you realize that's what were they trying to do what were they trying to do to me back then they were trying to take away my love for myself and when you remember that you will realize that that is the one thing that gave you power that is the one thing that you needed all along it's that love for yourself and that is one thing they can't take away that is one thing that will always be there especially if you are an empath you will always have that no one can take it away they can only try and pull you into the illusion if you doubt yourself but that love is always going to be there that's what makes you different that's what makes you a target for these types of people these types of predators they see that they see that love this that innocence sometimes they see that pride as well and they want to rob you of it but if you are a true empath that never goes away that will always be there and there is nothing that they can do about that and yeah that's really what you need to do that is what I advise you to do is to continue to practice self-love and self-care Tanya says she can't hear anymore well then I'm just connecting the sound to the car can you hear me now let me know if you can hear me yes every act of abuse that they do there is a very clear intention behind it and it is designed to harm you it is designed to take away your self-love they don't act out of love out of giving love to you if they did then maybe you would feel better following it it's because they intend to harm you and that is why everything they did that's what it was designed to do it was to take away yourself love and make you hate yourself that's what they were trying to do to you and that is why it's so important for you to develop the self-love because that is what protects you from narcissists that's what keeps them away and of course that is another reason why they're trying to destroy it to keep you stuck to keep you in mesh with them so then you would never leave you would be under their control for a long time so yes that's really the message I want to end with here I want to finish this on a positive note and encourage you to practice self-love self-care this is something that you need to do and yes I do conduct one of my coaching sessions and I do sessions as well specifically on self-love and self-care and what you need to do to get there what you can book on my website it is narksafiver.co.uk and other than that as always please give this video a thumbs up if you enjoyed it if it was helpful for you and I look forward to talking with you in another one very