 My name is Sanbacki. I am the author of Malignan self-love, Narcissism Revism. The narcissist is confident that people find him irresistible. His unfailing charm is part of his self-imputed omnipotence, part of his personal myth. This inane conviction that he can charm anybody and that no one can resist him is what makes the narcissist a pathological charmer. The somatic narcissist and the histrionic patient flaunt their sex appeal, their virility of femininity, their sexual prowess, their musculature, their physique, their training or athletic achievements. The cerebral narcissist, on the other hand, seeks to enchant and entrance his audience with intellectual pyrotechnics. Many narcissists of both types brag about their wealth, their health, possessions, collections, spouses, children, personal history, family tree. In short, the narcissist brings forth and brags about anything that would garner him attention and render him alluring. Both types of narcissists, the somatic and the cerebral, firmly believe that being unique, they are entitled and deserved special treatment by others. They deploy their charm offensives in order to manipulate their nears and ears or even complete strangers. And they use these people as instruments of gratification, as sources of narcissistic supply, attention, integration, admiration. Exerting personal magnetism and charisma become ways of asserting control and obviating other people's personal boundaries. The pathological charmer feels superior to the person he captivates and fascinates. To him charming someone means having power over her, controlling her, or even subjugating her. It is all a mind game intertwined with a power play. The person to be thus enthralled and charmed is an object, a mere prop in the narcissist's theater of life. He is of a dehumanized utility. In some cases, pathological charm involves more than a grain of sadism. It provokes in the narcissist sexual arousal by inflicting the pain of subjugation on the beguiled who cannot help but be enchanted by him. Conversely, the pathological charmer engages in infantile magical thinking. He uses charm to help maintain object constancy and to fend off abandonment. In other words, he uses charm to ensure that the person he has bewitched won't disappear on him suddenly. Pathological charmers react with rage and aggression when their intended targets prove to be impervious and resistant to their lure. This kind of narcissistic injury, being spurned and rebuffed, makes them feel threatened, rejected and denuded. Being ignored amounts to a challenge to the narcissist's uniqueness, entitlement, control and superiority. Narcissists wither without constant narcissistic supply. When their charm fails to elicit narcissistic supply, they feel annouced, failures, nonexistent, disintegrating and even dead. As is to be expected, they go to great lengths to secure narcissistic supply. It is only when their efforts are frustrated that the mask of civility and congeniality drops and reveals the true face of the narcissist, a predator on the prowl.