 Ni me toka tuki dogo, ni me toka studio tuki dogo, ki dogo, ki dogo! Ki dogo guys not even for three minutes. Yo buddy di me ni pega. Oh my gosh. E man James, good morning. Ii joto na shne kusame kukost. Siyuku jana yo evi ya ki please. It's too much. At what platform Facebook, what platform channel Twitter hashtag is why in the morning my name is Valentine or at Colour Me Valkaribusana. So you know it's about that time. We are asking a very, very important question. And the question is, promises made to be broken or why do people break promises? For why? Should we even make promises in the first place? Hashtag why in the morning. But let me allow my panelists to introduce themselves. So hi guys. I'm going to make a little more zest. Hi guys. Hi. Thank you. Let's start with you. Please introduce yourself. Faith Musoli. On Facebook find me at Faith Musoli. On Facebook find me at Faith Musoli. Twitter at Faith Musoli. Instagram Faith Musoli. Mamu lirudi nasuwa. Twitter. Twitter. My name is Ken Andrew. And I am a student of this university. What do you study? I study communication and electronic media. Oh. That sounds fancy. It is not fancy but it's what I like. Karibusana. So tell me what you think about this. Why do people break promises? I think people break promises because at times they prioritize themselves. They feel like if I do this for someone they might feel maybe I love them too much or they might feel too confident of their position in your life. So maybe sometimes you decide let me break this promise and have them a bit to put them in their place. That's what I usually think happens. That is very confusing. Sorry. No, no, don't be sorry. Okay. So una pendim tu sana. So now you break a promise so you remind yourself where you're from. Siya tu una pendim tu sana but umtu anafil kama una pendim tu sana. Nampendisana. Nampendisana. So mwambi etu skupende evo bro. As you break your promise no at least a jwe kuna viduzi niye sezifana umse no. Sii last mwambi umpendip o jwe No. That sounds even worse. To look someone in the eye and to tell them they can't get something it's hurtful than the promise itself. You know? Uneza men, things are po ki break your promise but kumangaliya kwa macho live life. That's sad. For me. Kabla twende lene, promis breaking. Ebu, just help me understand. Would you rather be told the truth like sezi kukaku payi amu you just be held hanging? Just. Of course I would rather be told the truth. Don't say it like that because sometimes the truth when it's being told sometimes it's not nice. I know. Sometimes the truth is not nice. It's not appealing to the ears but that is what it is. It is what it is. So if you just tell me that faith I don't want you. I don't like you. It will hurt me. But at the end of the day it will help me. There is no need. I will be in a relationship in a hopeless place. There is no need to be in a hopeless place. Just set the boundaries or rather the record right. Like if you don't want me you don't want me. Tell it to me. I should not live in oblivion like you love me when you don't. I think if the promise is broken the boundaries are set because you will be thinking in the back of your head he did this to me last time. You can't do it again or maybe you will have that sort of confusion so you will not take the same steps you will not do the same thing that made him break the promise or made him promise you something. But how do you even know if you did something? Let's say you made me a promise and maybe I did something that you didn't like but I have no idea. I don't want to come to me. Like for all I know I was minding my own business having very good time because I like having good time and somehow it offended you. So something that we agreed on now is in jeopardy because you saw something you didn't like. Now niambi we pained you are just acting you are not talking to me. But you know one thing at times we ladies push guys into making promises that are not there because in the first place see take it to you know some ladies will force you into something and then they are like babe promise promise he is telling you I won't make it Yes you are like just promise me that you will do it then the guy says ok promise For example You have seen your friend with an iPhone you have seen faith with an iPhone and so you want an iPhone because your friends have iPhones then you pushing this guy buy me an iPhone the guy tells you I don't have the money but you insisting you need that phone then the guy tells you it's ok I'll get you end month then at the back of his mind he knows very well I'm not going to buy this phone but he just doesn't want to tell you because as for you you don't take a no for an answer so you just he's feeling that vibe So he just tells you I'll get you an iPhone then at the end of the day he tells you I'm sorry faith I couldn't he has broken a promise but for him it wasn't a promise he knew he wasn't going to buy you a phone but for you as a lady you just don't take a no for an answer ok I'm confused the two sides are confusing the first one why are you stressing somebody son why why are you stressing somebody son to buy for you something you cannot afford on your own exactly it's not fair but also you someone son why are you not just refusing just say no why are you there ok baby I love you I will do anything for you before the promise is made u boy anafakwa strong anafakwa na jokeni anezafanya na haiz so before he makes any promises anafakwa sure when you buy me an iPhone I can't buy an iPhone so just tell her I cannot buy an iPhone whatever happen next let it happen life continues is there an underlying fear that if you go ahead and say no instead of making the promise atakwa cha yes because anafia rejection anafia like this lady niki muambia no atani kata but I've seen she's a good lady nina mpenda she has a qualities of a woman that I would wish to stay with forever and then again ana ona if I make this promise maybe it'll keep so he just says it's okay I'll buy you whatever you want I'll do it but at the back of his mind maybe he knows that I'll not do it but to an extent something is telling him you get some money somewhere so if just in case I get that money then I'll buy her that phone so see atia see atia na make promise na najiwa hatafanya na najiwa hatafanya it's in between I'll either do it or not depending on my financial status but you know the fear will always be there but first of all you should know your financial capability before you make promise when after my day ni my loan ununue kitwenye maybe even after part of your iPhone what's there stopping her from leaving you know but at the end when you go back in depth so before the promise is made that's the key time that's the key part whom say anafakwa straw I can't get you this but I love you know that's the only thing you can do if you cannot get it but if you can get it well and good go ahead there's story for it's okay sorry by now you can be knowing your financial capability at that time when you're making that promise but towards you are fulfilling that promise something comes in between and then now you have to break these news to this lady that I'm sorry something came up you know you have broken the promise despite you knowing your financial status capability so promises can be broken not necessarily because you're broke or because something can come up along the way we are often accused of having very high expectations come on my damn but I'm seeing the opposite is also true you also have very high expectations as gentlemen so how would you feel if we are making each other I made you a promise and then I break it and I don't communicate at all and I'm acting like everything is okay for me if you break that promise and you don't communicate the problem comes in in the part of communication because promises will always be broken this is human this is how everything happens they will always be broken but if you cannot communicate after and say give a reason or say something just to reassure and keep everything in place that's where the real problem comes in for the man to not get a reason and to have a very little communication but for the promise being broken as I said before she can use it as a sign to show that well maybe we have this but not that much she can use it as a sign to show her real intentions and something which is okay and according to me it's very okay to put someone in their place like that is it true to say sometimes guys just aim for the surest that they can't afford and then they come telling, crying so that means ulianda ukomba gari ukanda ukomba ungo and I'm not by them making fun of anyone tafazari place no, that's not what I'm doing I'm just painting a picture so after you're just basically presenting yourself as someone that you are not that's where the story is going sindio aya my gosh I'm telling you on my surest where my boyfriend has car he's taking me everywhere oh my gosh oh my gosh this is a month that I've been living I've been living and then one day you just cannot afford to upkeep me is that a word you cannot just you know maintain the level that you have introduced yourself and I'm not pointing at him please it's not it's not paz no, no, no it's just in the general what's the problem mam na penatu witu muna muezi pata see what you want to penatu witu wizi pata but because you know confidence na if you feel like niki approach you dem nimo angelesha na kila kitu nukonayo nizam pata so na unjiwa boizwenju anga very high on confidence like wakiyo in a group mutiwa na apu iniwa tata really india wule tuna tuchana ana step up ana jekako situation sasa lazima azima tumiyo dola azima fanyizo witu zote then which sadly one day ita ina isha tu you know out of nowhere for me like kama wuna juwatu wizi awizi maintain witu witu unizo gari back seats tu liya tu fanyi witu zingine tiza ball kakandwadi wupati iso staff ju uta jeka situation iniwa piya wemone uta kuna muka sugu na sema jana nili kwa na ido leo si na fanya ni ni una kwa confused una make a lot of wrong decisions in your life so if you can't really maintain it just take a step back and let the ones who can do it do it but you know one thing you know one thing as women or other ladies we put men into compromising situations because io tu anakwambia kuna gari kuna pesa that is what we like to hear yes because my dear ilegari hai kwa yungu then you like tell me you're lying no tell me you're lying excuse me that you know you will not that is the equivalent of saying all men are dogs so so umetweka all was turned out no thank you I don't think the women put the men in those situations it's the men themselves because when you are 2021 you understand the weather of the dating scene and all the situations and you know if I go into this I'll have to be like this the women they will always be the same you know they will always want to be reassured with things and you cannot blame them for being like that because most deserve it you know and for a man if you know you cannot give it to them you'll be failing her and you'll be failing yourself you know and also you'll be failing all the men because that's not how it's supposed to go yes exactly but there are some let me use the word some let me quantify there are some women who put men in those situations and then there are some men who put women in that situation in that this man comes and tells me wamba faith I have a car then I fall in love I've fallen in love with the car thank you I was going to ask what are you falling in love with I'm falling in love with this car so all along we are riding around partying party after party and then there he comes one day and he tells me by the way you gotta see Angu then I'm like tell me you're lying because why come on then the relationship would have gone so smoothly like there wouldn't have been bumps and then along the way you find yourself like sasa tuta ishi aje tuta kula ni ini because this man is now broke broke yet he he was broke in the first place the broke is the absent of the car that is what you are calling yes but there are women who see men who don't have cars as broke momekuja san san sana sana sana but okay so many questions so many questions let us start with why are you falling in love with things and if you are going to fall in love with things you get your own thing you fall in love with them especially if you are like 18, 19, 20, 21 you still have your better life is ahead of you you can work towards all those things you can have them if you put in hard work dedication and you don't have to fall for things that other people have and break their hearts and also not fulfill your dreams and goals because you found someone and you are comfortable somewhere if you do it by yourself if you work hard with maybe two or three of your friends your girlfriends or something you can get to a better place than where you are because when you move forward because of your own hard work and everything everything will be you as you know depend on someone you don't have to fall in love with cars or any other things so if you are a young girl let's say to the ages of 30 it is very possible even for boys it is very possible you are still not yet at your prime especially if you are below 25 you can do a lot of things so you don't have to promise things you don't have to fall in love with other things to other people before you have really taken care of yourself and you started heading towards your goals in life we are going to read a couple of your messages that are available on Facebook or on Twitter the hashtag is why in the morning why? just before they set me up the way they usually do the beginning of an interview I just had with a very phenomenal woman I asked her what is the problem where do you live where do you live where do you live so what is the secret and she told me something that stayed with me we make promises or we are made promises we are made I hope so with the idea that there will be no challenges that everything will remain constant you know I could okay let's use each other once more time so maybe we make a promise before God and our family and friends but at some point forever is a long time so I know there is a point I won't really like you but I made a promise and I need not be very intentional with that promise I said I am going to do this even though I am feeling like this what has happened or he has done what I still have to honour my promise that is on me I have nothing to do with you or how you behave or what you look like I am the one who made the promise are we together terms and conditions that apply so let us now read suwale ni kwa nini ngo moa ye kukip promises mbo na atu hubreka hadi na hadi ni deni okay hashtag why in the morning remember you can find us at Whitefifu on Facebook Whitefifu channel on Twitter hashtag is why in the morning so we have a man James good morning star student hashtag when the morning his promises are worse than lies you don't just make your partner believe you also make them hope I got made a promise and I had full hope in it only to be disappointed later life is too short for someone to make use of you okay as we continue but you see how he is hurt you see because of a promise someone made but it's opposite is also true like I could make your promise have every intention of keeping it but somehow COVID-19 just comes and I have broken it just like that without wanting and now you are upset but I think the point is communication after communication after that is key because you might be intentional it might be not intentional but if you act like you give someone the silent treatment be it your girl your man your father if you give someone the silent treatment after that's what really ruins the whatever relationship you have but then again it depends on how many times this person has been breaking the same promise a mistake made once is a decision more than once sorry a mistake made more than once is a decision yes I had to call Emmanuel Louison because it's morning when the morning well I promise it's like me won't go through are we politicians we still mourning that hi we still Michael Delandela still mourning that hey tune in and buy a good topic naniya na gaji bo hehe itu vichinja anga vina buddili moribu mkwa says kaka wega tune ati eee promise ningu mua kii tu achatu maside eva says chokasai bumilia nikondani ya shawala eiku promise nikama wonga tu I think we have a politicians affecting our hearts those ones will promise you everything alafu rukwiki peteru kie kie so Yes. So, sometimes in condition you're at the time in Afanya, you break promise mostly, you come, you're about to shed. Money is running in the world. Hashtag, why in the morning. As we continue, we have over the day amortizia, njito ande ni kondani watu wanna break ahadi me biju yadada kuchafuka. Timo, bazuwa's good. Timotachi says the window will be changed. Aga na sayo wongo. David Odera says kisumu sorry to collect ni in singumusana kukip. Okay. Paul Kamala says taveta market present on the register with Joseph Ray Rotund. Rama Love says ponu suzenia ziko fragile. Woh, medunga point. Siju ni kupigema kofi. Godia pingo ni mekwana irungu Jay Jason. Ni mekwana Piawell. Tabi. Ah, irungu Jayson ame sma. But he Jayson haini. So, I am not sure if I'm saying it right. Mi kubaya. Tabi wa. Tabi ni mekwana eni gumusana kuchimiza hati zingini ni regrettable. Oh, bedia slasas macha well-tuned. I have Machu present. Musabi Junior says 026. Weh, lukho ame, I think. Saboji, opposite, kitinda begari tuned in, I think. Okay, hashtag why in the morning. Is there a problem? Is the bigger the promise, the mother hat? Yes. It is? Give me a smaller hat.