 Ladies and gentlemen Tony Gaskins here, let me get my Camera set up here. Hopefully I can get this here set up Y'all hear me and wipe all my camera real quick Want to pop in now watching the live of you know The power was that be but I didn't realize that was going on so I would have pushed this back, but Being that it was already scheduled It kind of pops up. So won't hop on here I'll catch up with what I miss from what the Vice president was talking about but um Didn't get a chance to do a live and answer questions this week yet hoping I'll get to Do the normal one on Sunday, but not too sure what'll be going on because next Monday my anniversary. So, you know, I Don't know if I'll be on moving night all weekend. So I want to pop in Do a little live answer some questions from you all did a video. I think the day and yesterday Saw some questions if you in the bless tribe and you had a question from either of those videos you can you know Put that here and I'll be able to address it. Remember to put the hashtag Hashtag Q in front of your Your question So I'll see you That's it my desk over here uneven. So y'all got to forgive me All righty miss Nikki got your question Is it a thing now for single man to not only sleep with women but by her expensive gifts take her on trips? go on about How great she is and still not want to make things official with her Yes, that is a thing. That is a thing being really doing that today just really because you know marriages Kind of becoming outdated for a lot of people a lot of people feel like that is old news It's from the old days and not really for this day and age. So a Lot of men today treating girlfriends like wives with the hope that the girlfriend will just get comfortable And a lot of times the woman starts to believe she starts to say well look I got everything a wife got Why do I need that piece of paper? Not realizing that in most cases It's just a man setting her up to kind of keep her powerless kind of keep her in a position to where You know if he wakes up one morning and just want to take on off then She doesn't get to she can't get half. She's gonna get alimony support You know, she is not afforded a lot of the same things That a man would get Well, yeah, she's not even girlfriend toner just dating for a man. That's not getting married It's all the same dating girlfriend. That's all the same if he don't believe in marriage You know, so he gonna treat a just dating girlfriend all the same way because If he doesn't believe in marriage then everybody getting the same treatment The only time it's a difference is when a man believes in marriage and that's when he may separate girlfriend benefits from wife benefits Should you be patient with a changing man at 23 or let him work it out with God and be gone It depends on what you mean by being patient and it depends on what he's doing now What he's doing is deal breakers then know you shouldn't be patient But if it's just a little thing little odds and ends that he's working on trying to get better at then that's totally different But if it goes into something that is a serious deal breaker, then you got to go on about your business You know, you got to move on with your life Because he's still old enough TR stopped talking to a guy a year ago Haven't met he came back and apologized Is that something to give a second chance to? He just because he came back and apologized does not mean That he want to be with you, you know, he could be apologizing just to get that off his chest Just to say sorry just so you ain't bad mouthing them, you know, that doesn't mean he wants to be with you My son had a science events early AM also Hour away his father drove us but the night before he asked to sleep on the couch so he can get up on time I don't know about that Yeah, it don't sound right to me now. I don't know who asked Who asked to sleep on the couch to get up on time? Oh Okay, I see what you're saying I see what you're saying It sound like you saying he the father doesn't live with y'all and he wanted to be there. So he already there You have to specify that if that's the case because when I when you say father and son I'm automatically assuming the father in the house Now the father in the house and want to sleep on the couch. Okay, that's a red flag If he don't live there and want to sleep on the couch then that that makes sense He's probably just saying look I'd rather be here be on time Then have to be trying to get up at my house get dressed and get over here The girl with favor God bless you. Thank you for your blessing. What advice would you? Give to first time Young married couples what advice would you give to first time young married couples to be honest with you That's a whole seminar. That's a whole retreats a whole weekend event What you make sure y'all read my book make it work make sure you read that and Chapter by chapter you discuss each chapter In there what you're going to see is the importance of learning how to communicate both you got to communicate and you can't just Hold stuff in that's that if you I have a quote that says communication to a relationship Is like oxygen to life Communication to a relationship is like oxygen to life if you can communicate in A way that is effective that your partner responds to then You're gonna struggle it is not going to work And but if you can express yourself and then also when your partner is expressing themselves if you can listen and take action do what he or she needs you to do and Respect, you know, they're wishes and then the other thing is if you can learn not to If you can learn how to sidestep power struggles a lot of times in relationships is People fighting over who gonna get served, you know, who's going to be? What y'all talking about today alpha and beta which I'm getting in all them terms But that's what's going on in a lot of relationships and I remember my wife We had to get past that because she wanted to be serve I want to be served. So we just was bumping heads and neither of us was really Operating from the right place. Let me see. Can you talk about how to love a man? That's a very vague and you know broad question, you know, to be honest with you As a woman loving a man is innate It comes naturally for you So you will kind of have a little siren a little, you know Triggering your spirit when you not loving him the right way and you will be able to if you sit down and think about it Connect that action with your past. You'll be able to see where you learn that from You'll be able to see that and understand it XOXO God bless you met a guy recently He shows me he likes me. We only talk on the phone because of Rona in our conversations He never asked questions about me. Why? Well, I don't know how he shows you that he likes you if y'all only talk on the phone And if on the phone, he don't ask you questions about you. I don't know where you picking up that he liked you The other thing is he may just be focused on himself And he's not asking questions about you because if he asked questions about you then You in turn got to ask the same question about him A lot of people answer the question and say and you and he might not want to be giving up his business But some men just don't know how to build with a woman don't know really how to communicate dealt with a good guy Asia God bless you For your blessing dealt with a good guy, but he was Now see these people that's it giving these on donation now these blessings. This is these type of people that Go in the VIP line at the club. Okay They see a long line free before 11 and they go on right on over to the VIP So when they pop up there the thing showed me so y'all forgive him when I got to go up there and get the Get to him real quick because it'll disappear if I don't address it right then Dealt with a good guy, but he was very insecure. How can a man get his confidence up? Typically a man's confidence comes from a woman is a come from a woman speaking Into his life letting him know, you know Affirming him in those areas where he may be insecure in and so you can't really Focus too much on that that's not really your job So you kind of got a you could speak into his life Like I was real on shot face because my skin, you know I didn't like my skin and I didn't like my wife when I met us. She touched my face I ain't like a touch of my face, but then now over time. I got more comfortable You know with just her showing love and showing me that she wasn't judging me And so it really comes to speaking life into those insecurities Amanda God bless you Hey Tony nervous to start as a life coach I love to serve others my spiritual gifts are Okay, you might have meant Exhortation because that looked like that say something else and wisdom Do you think it's safe to get started with no experience? I advise on a daily basis what I would say is um, I would say you You need to hire a coach first So you just can see how a session is ran on my mentor that life y'all know you can see my shirt, but on my mentor that life you can Go on there click find a coach and then there's filters There's a little thing for filters you click in the filter box and you could select the price is Coaches who charge $25 an hour I would recommend doing one to four sessions before You create your profile and start coaching others that way you can see and maybe do a session with two or three or four Different coaches to see how others run their sessions Blend off 32 God bless you bless you. I am currently separated from my husband He stated we cannot move forward until we establish a friendship. What is he really saying? separated from us It's it's sound like he's saying he want to start over But it also sounds like he's saying he want to waste some time and he kind of just wants you to keep state be stuck But because y'all should already be friends if y'all already been married So to me it just sound like he trying to be complicated I tell behind going by this business, but If you want to give it a try be friends That just mean talking building and see if that's what it really is You'll know you'll know within a month or two if that's what it really is or he's just wasting time Marie God bless you. What are your thoughts on women that put a man before her kids? Is it a self-esteem issue be blessed? Now? That's a whole book right there. That's a book right there And I'm trying to understand that still You know my thoughts on those women is I feel bad for I feel extremely bad for I feel like she definitely lacking something in her life She's lacking some type of love and affirmation is something that went wrong some she was missing. I Feel like that. That's just like they say it takes a village to raise a child I sometimes it takes a village to raise an adult to so in that situation You kind of got to speak to the Situation to your friend sister family member and really call it like it is and then hope and get everybody else Who knows her the call it like it is and hopefully the way somebody says something gonna reach her You know and hit away at me to hear that So she can understand what she's doing and how much damage is gonna cause it'll be good Even the fine adults who felt neglected by their mother and get their story to be able to share with her if you're in a committed relationship and XOXO ASO pop back in If you're in a committed relationship and are struggling with bills one month Is it wrong if your boyfriend does not offer to help you financially? Now I talked about it in the video about being a provider and all of that What you have to realize is if he plans on marrying you and he sees you as his wife Like a future wife and he's able then He will and he wants to be a provider a healthy provider. He will offer to help you He will offer to help you on the other hand You need to get your situation together because it's not your husband and he is not responsible for you So before you expect a boyfriend to offer you anything you need to go down the whole list Mama sister brother cousin auntie uncle said cut third cousin You know pay they long and Scott you need to go through the whole list before you expect something from boyfriend And then with a lot of women say oh well if I'm on my back Then he need to be given something where you shouldn't be on your back And so in in dating in a relationship where you are dating you are not married Neither one of you are responsible to the other person in that area Financially and all of that that is a marriage benefit. So that's why in dating the two of you need to be Independent and then in marriage you become interdependent So you got to understand that mr. Melk. Oh bless you Oh Charity what if you are in a marriage where you feel like you are roommates lack of communication No intimacy not building anything my feelings are never validated. My anxiety is high all the time You're not in a marriage, you know, you you are Enslaver you in prison and so you have to understand what marriage is and what you in is not That's similar to what Harriet Tubman was going through with the master So you got to understand that right there and and you need to start looking at your exit strategy And you really gonna have to have a real sit down with him and let him know like this Listen, this is what it is. This is how I'm feeling and I can't keep going on like this because life's too short to live like this So, you know, you've seen a Harriet Tubman movie If not, I'll need you to watch it because I'm getting ready to get off this implantation And you just gonna have to come to him like that there and really let him know like this all deal breakers And he may say okay, bye See you later and then gonna go on about your business in that case and not he might call your bluff But you gonna have to make a move Daneisha, do you feel a guy who's pursuing you or someone you are with should still be talking and hanging out with their ex? absolutely not Absolutely not and when you notice that that's when you understand you in the triangle That's when you understand you a rebound. Okay, so a person that you're talking to should never be dealing with their ex If they dealing with their ex you you getting in the way you getting in the way You putting your heart on the line and you getting ready to be a casualty So you got to understand that and remove yourself from that situation Never deal with somebody that's still hanging out and you know friendly and You know cute and coy with their ex Should I be suspicious of a man who is always around women not never see him around other men, but Every women that comes around he is very friendly with signs of a player You might be reading into it too much, you know, because that could be anything that could be anything Some man just want to be around women because he might be fighting sexuality sexuality issues if it's a whole bunch of women and he friend of all of them then You know, it's some type of insecurity could be there, but at the same. Yeah, it's an insecurity. That's there When a guy don't have healthy male relationships or a lot of them or any of them that you see and he always with some women So it is something it's something there, but don't don't read too deep into it The goddess cave God bless you God bless you for your blessing Lord bless the folk that's sending these help blessings on high On the main line Healing from first relationship One year finally taking for granted Feel guilty for not being there for ex and choosing myself He tried calling I ignore then he went off and blocked me But yep. Yep. Yep healing from your first relationship One year finally taking for granted Guilty for not being there Yeah, when a man You know comes back and he calls you and then you don't do what he wants you to do and then he goes off then what that means is he never changed and He just coming to keep you stuck and so he blocked he blocked you. You should have beat him to it You should have beat him to it. Yeah He shouldn't have to block you. He should already been blocked when you getting over your ex you got to block your ex You can't leave or unless y'all have responsibilities together like y'all had children together If that's not the case they need to be blocked anyways, you know And somebody else could reach you if it's an emergency, but it shouldn't be an open line right there So it's so not don't be doing no charge bikes on this here now Because you send too many five dollars now. Don't be don't be calling Google Tom. I yeah That was that was erroneous. So we got this video. So I'm sending right to Google Little exo did so come on I tell my friends that men view a woman who is a single mother by way of divorce differently versus by way of breakup with a boyfriend. Am I wrong? No, you're not wrong You're not wrong. That is a that is a nuance right there but you are not wrong at all because a woman who was married is Marriage is a is a stamp of validation. You know, you verified when you get married So if you have children from marriage, that's totally different than having been a Girlfriend on your back because if you was a girlfriend on your back, that's a baby mama So it's a difference, you know between a ex-wife who has your child versus a baby mama To the next man because the next man gonna view that totally different So you are right about that whether that's unfortunate or not Trina Nash, thanks for answering questions. I didn't even have to ask. Oh, God bless you God bless you. You have to ask your question, huh? Now. I'm looking for the questions now for those y'all in in the free before 11 line, I Had to get VIP when they pop up. Yeah, nice. Y'all forgive me. Hey God bless you Eleanor I'm looking for the question now y'all put that hashtag Q in front of you help me see it Okay, and I see he was acting distant He said he wasn't distant was just looking to see how I act when I don't get what I want Is he manipulative test? No, he was distant He was distant and he was playing mind games and the fact that he told you he was playing a mind game When we play mind games, everybody loses. So you got to let him know listen. I'm not your play toy I'm not your teddy bear. I'm not your test dummy If you either gonna be in or you're gonna be out But if you want to be playing games then go about your business cuz tricks is for kids silly rabbit So you need to let him know you got to check him on that So he won't be playing with you like that and then next time you go ahead when he get distant Then you give him what you give distant people and that's the block. So when he really and he like whoa Wow, okay, you're gonna block me. It's like hey Stupid is it stupid does don't let anybody play around with you and try to you know that reverse psychology on you Dominique God bless you God bless you convert six months made it official three months later and Get prego ended everything because he got rude and cursed a lot Two months later, why is he calling 30 and he's 27? three kids Now I don't know if he got three or you got three What sound like he got three since you put it out to him after his Okay, so 27. He's still young and immature if he got three then that mean he definitely Young and immature nasty cuz he round. He'll you know Putting off in everybody and so he definitely real actor Six months three months later. You did right by cutting them off You did right by cutting them off now if he calling that he gonna call cuz cuz you you got his child So he you know, you just ain't gonna walk clean off on that So he got to get some type of communication in you just got to make sure that it's proper communication healthy Communication effective communication if he trying to get back with you Then you got to have your stipulations in your mind in place Or what he needs to do in order to show himself approved to get back in your life And if he's unwilling to do that, then you got to keep it moving Met a grown man has the majority of traits you talk about Courted me like a gentleman, but I have no physical attraction to him Trying my hardest to be attracted to him, but it isn't working help Well, you can't force something Okay, Dominique you you got okay. You terminated the pregnancy Well, if you terminated the price and then gone by to life gone by to life you cut them off and He got that way while you was carrying heels Then if a man act like that when you carrying heels He deserved to get cut off. So if he calling it's just a soul time. He just wants you stuck He wants you on his roster. He won't he won't he need a roster filler and you the roster filler. So understand that back to Andrew Now this is what you got to understand when you dealing with What y'all call what y'all call it's not what I'm calling this what y'all call him What y'all call look ugly. Okay, when you dealing with look ugly what you have to realize is that You not wanting him may be him reaping what he has sold so What's gonna happen is a Lot of times Look ugly want a woman that he knows is out his league. I call it nickels wanting dimes and He he want that because he wants it Every man know what level he's on Every man know what type of woman is attracted to him but what a lot of times We got a Toyota Camry budget, but we want to go see if we can get a Mercedes S63 But really we know we need to be in that camera and just keep working keep working till we can get to that S63 so he know he probably need to keep working on himself increasing his income and you know working on his his health and body and all of this and Whatever he needs to do he knows that but he's trying to jump the line and get a woman that's out of his league and These are the type of men that a woman like you end up feeling sorry for him So you give him a chance and then he end up taking a stupid pill and Still doing wrong Then you end up having to leave him now He feel offended like you did something wrong to him and then now he not he on a YouTube channel Leave one of these movements by the red or blue pill and about a minute all this and Men going this and that way now he leave one of those movements because He was a little other Tried to date out of his league got his feelings hurt now He but hurt on YouTube making all these crazy You know videos and so when it comes to a situation like that shut it down early Shut it down early go and get them on out the way because as long as you drag them on That feeling in your gut that won't let you really fall for him. It ain't gonna go anywhere So don't compromise like that now don't compromise like that. It's okay. It's okay to it's okay to Not just judge a person based on looks but you at least need to be able to stomach them like you need to be able to say He's cute. You know, she's cute It shouldn't be Yeah, what you said You shouldn't feel like a little nauseous and just trying to force yourself to be attracted to him in some way That's unnecessary. You can't do that. So that is a part of a Standard you need to be able to stomach the person they might not be everything on your list, but they need to be a Good amount on that list. Don't go too far. I Just gave my life to God and I came across you a while ago right after I did that's amazing Hey, God bless you. Thank you for being a member of the bless tribe. Thanks to all the new members Who who joined join the night you get in this here chat? You got to be a member of the bless try the join the bless try the link is in the description of the video I have to do this just so I'm not so I'm not bombarded with too too many Tony can you give us specific questions like three or four main ones to ask a man in dating that will reveal his true Intention nothing nothing of nothing you just gonna have to pay attention and it's not the questions that you ask It's what you see and What you what you see what you paying attention to and what you hear that he does not say Because a player know how to answer all your questions Play I know how to answer all your questions. Yeah, just like a Real goon when you watch first 48 when it's a real one And and first 48 on there. So where were you at the time of 725 on? March 27 the real goon. I was at my house. Well, I'm always that oh Well, we have word that you were on Mark Street at 725 I don't know where you got your word from but you're hearing wrong because that's not where I was So they gonna know how a real player he gonna know how to answer all your questions what you want to be What kind of woman you want? Do you drink do you smoke? Do you curse go to club? He know everything right to say, but you got to watch him for consistency You got a you just got to talk to him as if he's the most interested man in the world You got to pretend that you Oprah you Gale King you somebody like that and you just you you doing a 60 minutes You doing the E true Hollywood story? You just want to listen to him talk and you make him feel good and you just Really? What and what not not what happened after that? Oh My You're a bad man. So now you said no what? That's how you got to talk and you just listening to him. He's gonna tell you everything you need to help But what happened is women want to do all the talking women want to either do all the talking or women want to how they check list And going down the list you can't do that. You can't do that. He's gonna spot you from a mile away Sweet tea. God bless you. Can you please distinguish between a soul tie versus love are the feelings similar? Yes, the feelings are are very similar and that's what you got to understand now in love You also have a soul tie now that this me defining soul ties. I'm like whoever made up the term soul I could mean something else But what a soul tie to me is is an emotional bond. It's the emotional connection So it's not gonna be so when you in love you have a soul tie when you love somebody you have a soul tie But what you have to realize is a soul tie can also be rooted in lust a soul tie could be rooted in something that is Unhealthy so you can have healthy soul ties and you can have unhealthy soul ties So what you have to differentiate the way you differentiate is you got to look at the root Because remember the fruit may look similar, but the root is what's gonna separate the two So when you look at the root of the connection if in the root of the connection, there was all of this unhealthy stuff going on in this relationship and then you all broke up That's an unhealthy soul tie If you with that person and you love them and the good outweighs the bad That's that is real love That's a healthy soul tie. So an unhealthy soul tie. That's always gonna end in a breakup anyways So that's what you got to realize on that key to God bless you God bless you Tony tell me how to comment when you do videos that aren't live chats when you say at the end to tell you that We were blessed. Don't know how to do that. Um You should just write up under the video is Up under the video you scroll down you will see where it says comments You got a click right there click where it says comments I'm guessing if you've ever read the comments under the video Maybe you haven't sometimes but it's right down your out It'll be up under the video a little bit down your click where it says comments And then you'll see where you could type at God bless you Keeley Keeley I'm gonna have to make my company public so you could Begin stop cuz every time come on here you send me a blessing you need to have stock in me As you be blessing me Satara smell God bless you God bless you here to tell all you ladies do not get a See babe go on sabbatical leave from dating until this is over with a God bless you right now y'all listen to Satara nice tar anything else you want to tell them now come on keep on coming on in here now anything anything that's a paid commercial right there Satara you working for World Health Organization anything else y'all got to say come on in there star But y'all heard what star had to tell you but God bless you for that $15 to star God bless Question, please provide information regarding a coaching session If you go to my mentor dot life Go to my mentor dot life. I'm on that site now some great individuals who run in my mentor dot life I'm one of the ambassadors So if you go to my mentor dot life, you click on find a coach You'll be able to browse through the coaches or you could just click at the top where it says Click here for filters you click there and type in a Tony and I come up Key to what you might have to do is go on YouTube and search how to comment on a video That's that's interesting. I don't know if it's your browser or just the way you're holding your phone But Amanda just what you could find me on my mentor. Thank you for taking time out for all of us You are a blessing a God bless Amanda Did you bless me two times or they let you send two messages for for the one blessing because it's showing me You bless me two times. If you bless me two time Lord boy, boy Bless her girl double for trouble Coach Rock God bless you God bless your brother Tony God bless you too, but I show appreciation now You the first man I think I've seen you on there tonight with a sin of blessing don't don't don't try to do no charge back now coach And coach rock you need to go and get on my mentor dot life You'll have your coach all coaches mentors consultants Get on my mentor dot life in this time while you home Because it's perfect time to be home and work from home doing coaching sessions mentoring sessions helping others with your knowledge How can I learn to forgive myself for being in a relationship where my ex disrespected and used me? I have forgiven him, but I keep remembering the red flags. I wish I exited You may have to do it manually Sit down and write a letter to yourself write a letter to yourself and read the letter read it over and over and over And just I forgive I forgive because I was not equipped. I was not prepared No one taught me the red flags of a man. I did not know love did not know a real Relationship did not know what a real man looked like you may have to literally write a letter of forgiveness that you read over and over And internalize you may also have to get an accountability partner Meaning either a life coach or a friend who can talk and speak life into you and help you see it from a Perspective that you're not looking at it You also got to give your credit yourself credit for just having a heart to love and understanding that you know different than anybody else Everybody's gonna make that mistake at some time Kimberly Renate just because God bless you bless a bless a lord. You are a blessing Thank you for those gems for the gems. God bless you and your family and be well a thank you very much Ashley God bless you. Why do men feel like they don't need healing had to in past two Engagements due to both men allowing past pain to penetrate current relationship It's societal, you know, it's just a societal structure that Has construct that has been placed in the minds of men to feel like because you got to realize for men from Early on from, you know six months It's been it's six months. It's it's little boys who six months. Oh again Hey, stop stop all that crying stop all that crying Bit boys on crap. It was on crying. That's what men hear. So men start to realize. Look, I just gotta Get over it. I just got to suck it up And so his mama telling them that his daddy telling them that he go to school the school teachers telling them, you know Stop chatter telling stop complaining stop crying, you know And so he's hearing this and then he's played sports. His coach is telling him. He's joined the chess club robotics club That teacher telling them, you know, stop whining stop complaining. So he get into a relationship. He just feels like Okay, I can't you know express myself, you know, I don't need to go get no healing bless you for that though Karen Johnson God bless you. You are truly a blessing helping me tremendous. Hey, I appreciate you appreciate And I thank all of y'all who appreciate the work that I'm trying to do Y'all don't never be there for me When I'm reading them comments, I'll be having to lead and block I'd be like Lord, it don't be nobody but the devil, but it's too many comments So I don't expect y'all to see him But I'll be going through I'm trying to just see what my next video gonna be about Because I want to speak to the issues that are just having a preset topic list that may only mean something to me Because none of this stuff that I talk about do I need so I'm doing it for y'all So that's why I go through the comments and try to see what questions in there based on the video that I post so I can You know know what to post tomorrow And so I appreciate y'all, you know appreciate Charity I feel so unworthy of being loved I have pretty much took care of everything for eight years out of my 11 year marriage Now I'm on disability for RA and still paid 70 RA I'm guessing that's a type of ailment. I can't remember. Remember what it means right now and still pay 75% of the bills I'm treated unfairly That's a tough situation to be in and you're gonna have to ask yourself. You're gonna have to ask yourself You gonna have to ask yourself Dude, is this how I want to live the rest of okay rumored to it all right? It's okay You're gonna have to ask yourself is this how I want to live the rest of my life if if I will be better off Separate and getting divorced separate and using my money to take care of myself Where I could go to a one-bed room and have a nice set up like a little spa in there And then the money that I would be spending on this sorry Snanky booty man to have me in home nurse that come in and check in on me or help me out If it's anything that he's doing for you physically if that's not the case then you got a What the same say I could do bad by myself and And really you could flip that and say I could do better by myself. So Life is change Suffering that's a choice So it's all how you think about it. So like right now is people who could be losing They wits about them or it's people who could say look I'm gonna make this Be the best that it can be and so you have to think about this understand that If you hear on this here in a neck That means that you're not trapped because you're not trapped It's not that that bad to where you can't leave because a man who really really Controlling and just the worst you ain't got no free time to be on the internet listen to another man talk So the fact that you've got this much freedom. Let me know you got This it take this same amount of freedom right here to start saving first and last month rent they're gonna get in you somewhere Gonna get in you somewhere now y'all forgive me how I said that in a neck cuz um, I Just like to say start look wrong. I don't like to conform to the man language that he gave y'all so I Say stuff. I like to say it Thank you for blessing us you crack me up when you say this woman slap crazy now I only recall saying that but that's um, yep, but that might slip out every now And he wants you to get on your bike now somebody asked me the other day is he saying bike or back? I'm saying back for those y'all who don't know, but I just pronounce it back when I say stay off your bike I'm saying stay off your bike. I'm not saying stay off your bicycle Stay off your bike new member here us women need to hear your words. Hey God bless you God bless you I'm glad you got a good sense of humor because I won't be telling jokes. So if you be laughing That mean you got a good sense of humor That mean you're hard in the right place because I've been not a sit-down comedian or stand-up comedian Love the game of basketball Jenna Costa 20 love the game of basketball usually only The only lady on the court at gym Okay, he got your look game, huh? Does this come across desperate not looking for a man just now listen to me now Do you love 60 second video and email it to me and I'm gonna tell you if you come off desperate Now if you're looking if you out there looking like you got on like you got two left feet Yes, you're gonna look desperate But if you could do a little something you ain't got to be Diana to Rossi But if you could do a little something no, you don't look desperate you just out there having fun You just out there getting a little cardio in you don't look desperate and to be honest with you to a man To a man, that's very very attractive to be out there now if you out there looking like you got two left feet now Now you might be out there like you trying to catch you a man But if you could if you could do a little something That that's be very attractive to a man that probably where you're gonna meet your husband and I ain't gonna tell you no Like you're probably gonna meet your husband right now in that basketball court Bought your make a workbook then bought the audio book and it gave me life. Thank you Bought your message to boys course for one of my law students God bless you de under you out here doing the Lord work you out here song in the people life So in the my life now, what is this number that then came in? No, hold on I think I'm seeing thing See love I Got blessed. So I'm blessing you. It's a happy day I ain't no they'll let you do that God bless you So to send me Whatever you didn't did for see love Lord double in tripling pull out in her life On high give a double for trouble Name with you. Hey, I want Lord bless you for real you it mean Lord got floodgates of heaven by the open for you God bless you not now I Appreciate all this equally, but that right there that throw me off. I ain't seen that. I ain't no YouTube Let you do that You didn't pay somebody caught no Met a guy online to nail T. God bless you thank you to nail God bless I'll see your question. I'm trying to hope on miss none I hope cuz they come across the top and then they'll move it out the way Met a guy online talk once great vibes Okay, you got that you gathered all that from talking once great vibes Said he was single not wanting to date, but still entertain my combo weeks later Posted on Facebook. He has a girlfriend Two months later. He's engaged is that true love? Wow That brother that were moving fast Well, see I'll tell you what to nail when he looking for some help he's looking for help he looking for somebody Sameek I miss you up there. Oh I mean, I miss D to Jita Thank you for all you do. God bless. I see you Miss D Now to nail what this guy was doing. He was looking for some help. That's what he was doing And so that's what you got to realize when you see a man move that fast he's looking for some help and When he said he was not looking to date. It's really just because he was talking to you Didn't want you to get your hopes up. But if you would have said You are you are in or he would have saw a way he could live with you live off of you Or you had the benefit he was looking for he would have hopped right on it Y'all have been y'all have been engaged in two months But it just what he would what he specifically looking for he didn't see it But it ain't got nothing to do with love Amanda Gale God bless you question if we are God bless you Amanda. God bless you cuz your name to been in here a few times tonight Amanda poor I don't like Lord if we are in a relationship and he is Heart and liking women's pictures and he still acts like he is single. We've been talking for nine months Should I tell him how much it bothers me? Wow? Amanda Amanda listen to my mother listen to what come on now Amanda come on now Amanda Amanda You should have told him the first time he did that you didn't let this slide for nine months He acting like he's single and you to get him nine months of your life that you're not gonna get back Hey, Amanda, you got to let him know that not only do you not like that, but that's a hundred percent unacceptable a Hundred percent unacceptable when a man in a relationship He gonna look at other women pictures That but that's between him and God So he got to answer God for that if he lost it in his heart But when he go to liking her pictures, he trying to get her attention and that is blatant disrespect So you gonna have to check him Coco Chanel. God bless you 22 first relationship Now people understanding now the VIP line Getting the club first so y'all forgiving now cuz I have to address these up here 22 first relationship now I'm gonna ask y'all did y'all get a bonus check? Cuz like Lord what the world going on? Y'all got a bonus check in the in the work from home situation 22 first relationship left ex last month long distance relationship Dated one month drag me alone unfollow him to heal He's Exiling me from mutual friends Can't stop the pain It let the mutual friends go Because if they allow you to be exiled that mean they're not your friend that mean they're his friend They're not mutual friends So you got to understand that because a mutual friend not gonna cut you off Your friend not gonna cut you off for your ex that you dated for one month in his long distance so Those are not your friend those his friends. So let them go let them kick rocks right along with him that's what you got to understand and Keep them blocked keep going about your business y'all dated for one month. It was long distance To be honest with you That's a tough one because it's like wow If you feeling it Over one month Can you imagine had you wasted six months a year? I think I read that right Rachel? God bless God bless should a woman continue a relationship with a man Who has pride and ego issues and feels he may not be man enough for her Now hold on because Now I think what I know He has insecurity Issues that's not pride and ego because he pride and ego make you arrogant like Pride and ego is like your president. Okay, that's pride and ego You ain't gonna never hear your president say he ain't man enough for something I Heard this man say they say we passed China this man say Yeah, congratulations to our great testing. That's that's a that's a tribute to our testing. I said What if you can't get him no bad no, he ain't heard a day of bad news in his life That's pride and ego now a man who say he's not man enough for you that is Insecurity and so what you got to realize is it's one or two things Sometimes a man will be joking If he is trying to put you on a pedestal, he may be joking and saying that on the other side is if he says That he is not man enough for you and then he treats you badly because of that feeling that's when you see his insecurities are surfacing and They're affecting you they costing you but if he just saying that sometimes me and just say stuff Just conversation pieces just to say, you know, I ain't I ain't good enough for you I don't know if I'm man enough for you. That's just some fuck, you know Conversation a little bit of sympathy. Don't pay it too much attention. Don't pay it too much attention Done. God bless you. God bless you. How do I handle my ex-husband of 18 years? Proposing to this girl. He dated before we got married He cheated on me throughout the marriage and also broke up multiple times with this girl. He's engaged to Okay, how do you handle him? Now I'm wondering If y'all have little ones under 18 if you do you gonna handle him with child support If he got a little bag to his name what I mean a little extra change He got a little money to his name if he got a little money to his name. You're gonna handle him with Alamone Okay, Alamone spouse support and you gonna hit him across the head with it I mean get the best lawyer in your city Tell the law you gonna get a lawyer 33 and a third they percentage But you need the best deal the best Alamone deal you never seen because a man don't waste your time for 18 years He got to call fit up. He got to call fit up. That's why I tell people. I don't believe in no prenup I don't believe in none of that if I do my wife wrong She can have it she can have it all because I waste her time. I waste her life So unless you ran him off now now if you if you the one out there cheating and all that which typically I don't answer questions like that because it's not the case the one who in the wrong rarely gonna be on here Trying to get help and ask questions. They was in wrong So and then he was cheating on you so that let me know he was in the wrong because he cheated on you throughout the whole marriage So this on him. He also broke up with the girl. He's engaged to let me help you understand this What you got to do in a situation like this and apply this y'all apply this now to Anybody who going through a breakup or anything similar to this where you breaking up with someone who they was cheating on you Line and all of that and it was a long time. It was a long relationship What you have to understand is that the good Lord on high is trying to separate you for your You got to have separation before elevation. Y'all ever seen that meme or that quote online? That's this where it come from. Yeah, they did where it come from Separation before elevation. So you got dreams. You got visions. You got goals You got blessings that's gonna come to you that he is not good enough to be in your presence When you receive what's coming to you. So you got to understand that is that you being Separated you being prepared for your next level for your blessing that he is not fit to enter into that season Of your life with you. So you really got to be like good riddance You really got to be like go ahead. Hey girl. Congratulations. Happy for you. Glad you, you know They had you got got more sorry Stankin no good sloppy seconds Good luck because he ain't worth the limp between his toes That's how you got to shift your mind and understand you ain't losing nothing, you know, you ain't losing on you gaining You gaining because you bought the game freedom you about to get you some space to where you could be blessed So hey, let me get some some of the people in the free before 11 line now because y'all VIPs and coming took up the whole line Got the club full I had a good relationship With my ex's mom She is very sick with Alzheimer's and while I'm not talking to my ex I am constantly worried about her and want to be there for her how to approach this That's a that's a tough one now And if it's truly in your heart if it's truly in your heart to be there for her and it has nothing to do with your ex then I Would see about but it's not this other thing now what you just said the irony is if she's suffering with Alzheimer's She don't know who you are She don't remember you so you being there for her is not going to Bless her or do much for her if she truly suffered with Alzheimer's So now now now if you didn't figure out a certain type of way to talk to her or just being there Will relieve her even if she does not know Even if it does not know she doesn't know and and I see you say it's just for you now You got to ask yourself do you want that experience and if you do you may can approach your ex and Say hey, is it okay if I reach out to your mom and be there for her You got to remember when you break up you break up all the way across the board when you break up You break up with everybody so you know you have to understand that If he says no stay out of our life, I don't want her to be around you on her way out Then you got to realize that you know You got to realize that and you got to move on out the way because When you when you leave a relationship you sometimes you lose more than just that relationship I'm looking for y'all question now a nine. Let me see what time it is. I Can't tell the time now. Okay, so it's probably it's probably Eight o'clock I Got to go here in a little bit, but I got to go at 8 30 me and my wife got a Cuz I got to get on this hill grill at 8 30 grimson grim state because I remember why I got a date at 9 So I'm gonna have to go by 8 39. Oh, no, that's steak Upgraded my life from well done to medium so that's they gonna take me five minutes each side Okay, at the max I could stay probably eight 45 850 because I feel bad for all the cues that I'm missing all the questions. I'm missing over here my sis passed away from Neglecting health and fear she was dating a younger man and wanted to keep up with him I wanted to write a book about it. Not sure if I'm angered or if this is a call It's a call if you feel it could help somebody if about if it can help women reclaim their Agency over their life their identity and to remind women not to lose themselves for a man chasing a man Don't lose your life. You know what the good boy say was it profit for a man to gain the whole world and lose his soul That's another version of that. What does it profit you the game? You a little thrill a little raggedy relationship and lose your health lose your sanity lose your life So if you give it that angle that approach and you give it old provocative title Three words or less then it could it could help people and it could be purpose And the good thing about it is that it's coming from your heart. It's something you want to do Unfortunately, you know, I really sorry for your loss. I'm sorry for your loss But what you have to also realize too is that Your sister doesn't have to read it and endure it That's the hard part about writing a book sometimes is you writing when you write a book that's dealing with somebody who Is living it's much harder I told my wife is some books that I'm on a right, you know after my parents go on to glory just because Not even dealing with them is it but just talking about, you know, your upbringing and things that you internalize Even if they have to deal directly with your parents, they just could blame themselves reading it but you know the revelation you receive could help other people and So you may write it and have somebody say a if something happened to me before This person has gone on the glory published this for me So you may go ahead and write it right now. Your sister has has passed away Rest of soul. So it's perfect time right now for you to write that book and release it and I and I say Everybody Out the writer book Please can you throw more light on when a man says He marries a woman who gives him peace of mind Now some of y'all questions is just dealing with your specific man And in some cases your specific sorry man So what you have to think about when you ask a question is is it? Multiple women going through this and if the answer is no then that means you need a one-on-one coaching session If it's not multiple women going through that now What he's saying is he read a meme online that say be his peace and So now he just using that Because it's our but don't marry nobody Okay, because he married he been married He don't marry nobody and what he also has to realize is a woman can't give you peace of mind Your peace of mind is on your time. That's your choice Happiness is a choice Peace is a choice. You can't depend on nobody else for your peace and so And not our ten women gonna give you peace so he just talking outside of the net and that's why I say y'all can't you know y'all can't You can't take everything a man say serious Someone told me he's single from a 15-year relationship Stated he doesn't know how to get out there and date Looks interested but seems shy That can very well be but if he told you all that then he ain't too shy, but he telling all his business He got a business in the newspaper. He told you all that so he ain't too shy one Let me help y'all understand something now One thing a man ain't shy about is a woman That's one thing every man could find courage to do approach a woman That's one thing every man find courage to do understand that Amanda pick it back on my question regarding my boyfriend heart picks. He rarely likes anything I post am I being Too patted or emotional and how do I confront him after nine months? I'm not the jealous type, but he said his ex-wife was jealous and see that's how he got you That's how he shut you up right now He know you want a man so bad that he told you why he left his ex why he told you his ex he told you his ex Was jealous so that he could go and do what he wanted to do willy-nilly and then and and then he Took and seen that Now he could like these other women pictures when you post he rarely like your picture. So you so you a secret They don't really know you as girlfriend But he like in a picture. Let me tell you why a man like a woman pictures online If you don't have nothing to do with him now If the pictures she posts don't have nothing to do with him and he like in her picture is to get her attention That's that's what that's for to get somebody attention Especially when you like in the pictures of people who don't have millions of followers Because they're gonna see it So he's trying that is how today in this social media society That's how men get they women you gonna see them like in the picture like in the pitch because when she go to her Notification especially if she got a hundred followers even if she got a thousand or ten thousand She's still going to see these likes and her Notifications and her when she logged in so she see this man Now she see him three times in a row what she's going to do is she's gonna click on his picture Go to his profile. She may even write him and say hey, thank you so much for liking my pictures That's his opening. Hey, no problem at all. I really enjoy what I'm seeing I'm really admiring what I'm seeing and now she'd open the door for him to shoot his shot So unless this picture deserves a light like it's some kind of charity work It's some kind of you know something that need but if it's just her you know selfie or Just showing herself Jacqueline God bless you didn't ain't got nothing to do with it Keeley God bless you these sessions help me and also give me labs continue being in your purpose Tony Helping us all good night Tony and my blessed tribe be blessed a bless you Keeley. I'm playing I'm praying for a major blessing for you Lord poor I don't her life bless Keeley Keeley be showing up showing that now some of y'all bless me on my cash Out thanks to Caramel kisses. She always post them a cash out and I caramel kisses do not work for me Now a lot of y'all probably think she an industry plant think she a plant that I don't plan it They're the post that but Lord laid that on her heart to do that and I'll show thank you caramel because people do get that cash out and people send me a cash out blessing and To be honest with you that that keep the engine going it keep the minister moving I'm gonna tell you keep the miniature move and keep lights on because When you when you answering everybody and they mama question it can get draining It can get draining. I ain't gonna lie to you y'all can imagine imagine now y'all get tired of your best friend asking you question I imagine and imagine seeing 10 million questions not literally, but 10,000 questions. So I so when y'all do that I Know you think it don't mean much, but it really means a lot Hey, brother told him going to join my mentor also going to take your life code certification Are you still having an event in ATL April 11 due to the 19? Yeah, we still in there on April 11 night. Yes. Oh, we didn't know We didn't know April 11 till they say otherwise but right now they say that their situation is until April 7th and then they'll know more but We still in there, but we got a backup plan just in case but it's already sold out So you can't really you can't get a ticket for that one, but I'll do that every month. So I'll do another one in You know may June July, but But yeah, that one is sold out to God leave glory and we got a backup plan if we can't make it happen How do I stop talking to a player? Saudi a God bless I know I said we're gonna be on here 90 Saudi a God bless. I did check my time So I got 20 more minutes on here y'all and I got to get going in 20 minutes now So I'm gonna try to get as many questions. I can How do I start talking to a player if he hasn't done anything wrong yet? Should I ghost him or when he texts me? Should I take my time in texting them back now? How do you know he's a player if he done them wrong? He could be a former player. So if he done them wrong Then you know You'll be you could be cutting off a good man So don't don't do don't just act out of fear now. Don't act out of fear. Don't act irrational God bless you K. God bless you Okay, man, I'm trying to inquire on how to tell him at months later without being confrontation I forgot to answer that part of your question. Um, it is a Man as long as you not yelling incursion then you're not being confrontational But you could be you could say it just like I'm saying it right now Literally, you could get off of this live tonight and say hey, I would like to speak to you Or say hey, what's up? What are you doing? Give me a call? And then when he called you you literally say hey, you know, I've really been thinking and I Just want to share with you that it really really bothers me when I see you liking other women's pictures I feel like it's another level of disrespect. It's not about jealousy But it's really the message that that sends and social media today is not innocent one out of five Relationships are started online So you liking a woman's picture has some implications that she can read into and whether you mean it that way or not I'm a woman and I know how women can take these things out of context And so that really bothers me and I want to let you know that So you express that to him now if he wanna, you know Get froggy tell him to leave. If he if he get in his feeling then you just let him know What you feeling about the situation? K God bless you. Every kiss begin with K You about to help me pay my K K Jula credit card bill. They've been sending at me Now I got an office building My mentor doc life got a corporate office, you know, I talked to the people today They say give us half off for the next two months Still the still the canceling the rent they gonna give half off and then the half that they gave off gonna put it on the back In I say, but y'all ain't right People are here Melissa I started talking to my ex. It wasn't consistent. He called us a divine pair future marriage But lack of action. I told him that I'm falling back and he took a fence and stopped speaking Grown boy. Absolutely. He a poet. That's what he is. He a grown boy poet He named his name little ooze. He like little ooze a virgin poet, but young and Because he taught my divine pair Future marriage, he just like to talk and then don't have the action to back it up You can't focus on me and like that Only thing you listen to is what a man shows you Never listen to just words You got to focus on the actions and even with the actions the actions have to be consistent because anybody could fake it for a little while If your ex called you out the blue and stated they just sent a hundred dollar Western Union to me to help me out Because they care for me still and want nothing in return. I'm confused Tony. Please advise Your ex want to stay on your mind the ex won't stay on your mind But you've got to take it in stride the wealth of the wicked is stored up for the righteous So you got to accept that that blessing from your ex and say, okay, God Lord You'll use a ex the same male blessing because that hundred dollars on spin So let that hundred dollars spin and and your ex say he don't want anything in return Don't give him the return So thank you very much, and then you go about your life don't say another word not another peak not another text Not another phone call. Don't send no car. He say I don't want nothing in return. Give him a thank you. Keep it moving Then you'll really get to see if he really meant what he said You'll really get to see it Question as a 27 year old version. How do I not get defensive when men bring up something? Sexual nine out of ten men I talked to say something sexual in our first combo I either cut them off or get really defensive you get the fence ain't no wrong getting the fence or not Ain't no wrong getting the fence in the sense of Hey, let's not talk about that. You know, you don't have to yell or scream or curse But you could literally just let them a let's not talk about let's not go there. I don't even know you What are you? What are you talking about? What are we talking about and that's just men today and men today are that way because of this dating app Society so because of the dating app society Me and very very forward and because of the desperation in a lot of women they used to being forward and getting what they want on that first night first date first conversation Treasure 23 year old man cutting out his vices still but believes in God worth it or no It depends on how he cut them out and if he cut them out I can't locate you Tony on the my mentor page now. You got to go to my mentor dot life Okay, or this what you could type this in there somebody Caramel type this in there for my mentor dot life forward slash Tony Gaskins JR for junior my mentor dot life forward slash Tony Gaskins JR and that'll bring up my specific page, but I don't know why you can't find me now. I mean It's If you click through if you just click find a coach and then click till you get to the tease you'll see me You'll see me on there. I don't know if I could So they so they don't let me tighten them So they let y'all do all the typing Thank You caramel. I really appreciate it. I Apologize and calling caramel now. I need to know you real name, but I'm but since that's your name I'm gonna hit us. I'm gonna call you now Ex-husband got mad because when picking up kids from his mom's house I stayed and talked to her for a few minutes instead of immediately leaving while He was there with his girlfriend thoughts Nah I mean, let him get mad like my daddy used to tell me don't get mad scratch the booty and get glad Let him get mad, but that's something he'll take up with his mama. So that's it That's his mama house So his mama do what she wanted to if his mama say I'm talking to the mother of my grand chair You don't have to get over it with old nappy head woman You don't brought over my house knowing that she coming over here to pick up your kids That's on you because you and your naughty head girlfriend could have been up the street at the park But no y'all want to be at my house While my ex daughter-in-law coming over here to pick up her kid You need to see it because you're being petty. So if the mama Okay talking to you and you just don't want to be nasty and you just want to talk to her then You know, I mean you just want to talk to her because you don't want to be nasty Then go ahead and do that Don't worry about what your ex getting mad by if it's a problem. He'll tell his mama Then you'll know next time you come to pick him up his mama give you the cold shoulder You catch the hint gone about your business He gives up a lot of insight for future entrepreneur young Saturday I try to do business big, you know small business videos for those y'all who you in the self-love phase But you want to start building you I try to do those videos don't nobody watch them though So if anybody won't be watching them now ain't gonna stop ain't gonna keep wasting my breath now Time to to pressure. So y'all need to watch them watch them Saturday business video with the same energy y'all watching relationship video with nine. I Had broken up with my ex Amicably now you know I'm country Student and you gonna throw throw hard words in there like amicably I Had broken up my with my ex amicably And he texts me daily He's 24 years old and I'm older. Okay, why you say your age now and we ain't shame in here But that that would have helped me understand a little bit more about your relationship. You would said your age now He still shares his life goals and insecurities with me. You said it's a soul tie, but does he Want something else too? Well depending on how old you will he could see you like a mother figure or a big sister figure so you could be like his life coach and It is a soul tie and you could bring him a sense of comfort, but he just But he just Don't Doesn't have what it takes to be in a whole relationship with you so Okay, y'all say keep the Saturday small business Going I'm gonna keep it going now. I keep it going. I'm gonna give y'all probably about Four or five weeks to see if y'all watching it y'all ain't watching it You know what give you a view on YouTube 30 31 seconds So once you hit 31 seconds that counts as a view So you ain't got to watch the whole thing But that'll let me know that you got at least some interest because I'm doing this for y'all I ain't doing it for me, you know for my health is for y'all So if ain't nobody watching I'm gonna be doing it Thank you for your videos and your mini books any plans on coming to Canada now We get through this 19 I might find my way up to Canada But I don't spoke in Canada in Toronto like three times and I spoke in Montreal one time and I spoke in Edmonton Alberta one time So I haven't been up there a few times So I like I like Canada in a lot of ways and so I may Come come back up there Well with Shonda all you count for is one view So, you know, you don't know don't worry about it too much But you'll you'll see the difference you look at my last Saturday video The amount of views on there and then look at the relationship videos. You'll see what I'm saying Do you plan to open up any more coaching for April? No, just in case they let us have it in in person I want to keep it where it said I can't add any more people now If they say we got to do it online, then I can open up more seats online. I just have to figure out what Site on my, you know, teach the class on Let go X because he wanted to behave like a grown boy. We recently connected for concern only due to The 19 why would he ask are you dating anyone? But that ain't why he connected with you. He Couldn't care less about the 19 what he wanted to talk about is what you doing with your life Are you seeing somebody you date somebody because he wondering what his soul ties up to? Shanice pinks and God bless you. God bless you. She needs Question do you think you could restart the dating process with someone you've already been dating? Like setting new standards and a new tone to get back to on the right path Yeah, you could try but it take two to make it work. So You could try and if it doesn't work then You got to understand trying to reset some things could show you that You're not meant to be with that person and you got to be okay with that revelation So understand that now you got to be okay with that revelation Tony this might be stupid compared to others, but I am 24 And I get nervous talking to men because I grew up only around women since I'm nervous It's hard to be myself any advice. I don't just stay nervous stay nervous. That's that's that's a mechanism That's why you nervous That's a mechanism that God put in there so you could be a little reserved so that you could be a little cool Calm and collected. You don't need to be all the way yourself You all right out the gate the more the better you get to know a man Then the more cool calm and relax you're going to be so that Mechanism that's in you is there for a reason that is to protect you Because if you just meet a man and you all goofy and loose and laughing and hey boo and baby and laying your head on his lap and touching on You doing all of that then Which you would make call being yourself. You're doing the most you're doing too much. He see a deer in the headlights and he gonna Run on through you so stay nervous ain't none a man Women ask me this sometimes about do men not like dating shy women or nerf men Don't have a problem with that. Men don't have a problem with a shy woman with a nervous woman With a quiet woman. All of that is good. All of that is good. I remember my wife. She just would not express herself She would not express herself. I'd be asking a question and she wouldn't express herself And I used to call my daddy for coaching and he says son. You better appreciate that boy You better appreciate that woman not you know want to argue about everything and turn a mole hill into a mountain sun Listen to what I'm telling you appreciate it because you keep begging her to talk talk talk when she start You're gonna wish you could turn that faucet off. So To be honest with you, I learned that and I say, you know what that is that has saved me a lot So a man don't mind you being quiet Now you ain't got too many more minutes now I Can see through my marriage. I've been a real disrespectful wife How do I fix that relationship because I know I've hurt him Now what you could do you could you could turn over a new leaf and you could go on your 40 days of love The way you showing him love every day and a different type of love every day meaning you doing something to show him you love him every day and If that don't work, you might stretch it a little a little longer, but If he's still there is either a man who doesn't require Complete respect or it's a man who doing his own thing and he really don't care that you disrespectful So that's what you got to understand How can encourage a man for focusing on his future Not his brother. He always wants to help out this big brother His brother doesn't care about him. What should I do? Let the man do what he's doing. Just let the man go through that You know, let the man go through that It's just It's what people have to deal with you know, he wants his brother's love But he may realize his brother needs his love more than he needs his brother's love So he knows what his brother has gone through what his brother has seen and been through and he's helping his brother because he has a Well and a reservoir of love to give to his brother. So You came worried about family business because you say his brother don't care for him and his brother might kill for him But you don't know what you jealous about is that he helping his brother in a way that he don't help you That he give and show his brother love that he don't show you So that's why you worried about it And so you got to check that and realize that and just understand he a grown man He a grown man. So you can't you can't try to protect him You know from doing something you want to do Caramel got a book coming. God bless you. Let me know when your book hit Caramel How long should you wait to see if someone has changed? Being human we aren't perfect being human we aren't perfect or Put the track shoes on That's a personal choice. You got to ask yourself how much time you got to waste how much time you got to give me personally If you trying to see somebody change You ought to see that change immediately in the first 30 days and then What you have to check for is is that change consistent? Is it real? So if it's real that mean that change is still gonna be there at 90 days as 60 days And then you're gonna do another check at 365 days And you got to keep checking anytime you check and that changes is gone They then revert it back to who they were then you put your track shoes on and gone about your business Are you selling courses on you to me calm? No, I'm not they have one of my courses on there, which is entrepreneurship with purpose And that's cuz they licensed that course, you know, they they paid me to shoot that course for their site So that's why they sell it At whatever price they want to sell it at you to me. That's a learning But all my courses on Tony gasses Academy calm So the updated version Tony gasses Academy calm If you're going anywhere else to get one of my courses which people don't knock your courses off because they got the ability to record video and all that they're gonna sell it on other sites, but You know Yeah, I got about two more minutes now. I got to go. Hey, babe No, no. Oh, yeah. Yeah, I got I got to go. Yeah about another minute See hey, thank you for that stamp of my book dream chaser. I wrote a book in six days Put my whole story in there Diana hit a buzzer beater Been seven weeks since I broke up with him after he was toxic and manipulative This made me think about Think again about him. Watched all your videos about healing and self-love. I feel like he damaged me. Yeah, he did Yeah, he did that's so tired, but you got to keep doing what you doing keep doing what you're doing and You gonna feel better. You got to keep keep doing the work Dominique where you said can you answer my question, please? You should have put your question right there because It's so many messages in here. I might can't see it. Okay. I'll see you right here This last question now is Dominique. She said can you answer my question, please? I think she just joined the night Welcome to the blessed trial Dominique and don't try to get no charge right now Hi Tony my question to you is I feel like I'm a great catch But men don't approach if they if they do They're over the five six mark I've been told by others they don't see why I'm single I'm 30 why I'm trying to see about this five six now Hold on now y'all close y'all cuz I need to come in a little closer You see this he'll mention but don't uh, don't want y'all looking all in my face now Try that Yeah, I can't really hardly see you there Dominique, but I see you got a red lip on Now this is the thing. That's why I tell my wife I remember one time my wife came in the room with a little sweat on I Said baby You like that's what we got a sweater from she said You don't like it So I've been getting a lot of I've been getting a lot of comments on this sweater. I said baby People lie to you People come up to you lie to you And be talking about you behind your back You got the only listen to people who love you Who you know ain't gonna lie to you so I say that to say Some people may know exactly why you single and tell you girl I don't know why you single and then be on the phone Girl, she was on my She don't know why she said she's single cuz of this and they know exactly why you single so Yeah, I don't know what five six mark. I don't know if you mean a height or if you mean See somebody say the age somebody say I don't know if you talking about the look scale What you talking about no age? They over the five six what you mean five six years older than you Five six years under you. I think you mean under you what I say don't date a man more than five years Younger than you for more than five years older than you Yeah, just keep waiting just keep waiting Dominique just keep waiting what you may have to do is a culture session and what I do with my clients is I had Them send me three pictures and I read them Men and women I read them cuz I'm a person that read, you know, I read people. That's one of my guilt So I read them and I tell you what energy you giving off What that energy says and ask you is that the energy you trying to send off and if your answer? No, then I help you understand and we work through to see what you need to do to change that energy So hey, I think y'all God bless you God bless you And I really appreciate all y'all who are Denise bless you popping in there blessing me again Really mean the world now. Yeah, I got to get going cuz I got a date at nine with my wife He'll we in here from this year 19 and I put these states on the grill now y'all make sure you go to my mentor dot life I'm on there, but my sessions kind of booked out right now. I think till the end of April or May So if you can't wait that long We have VIP sessions, but That price ain't where you want it to be but um It's other coaches on there. So why are you in this time? Make sure you're doing the work on yourself. God bless you and I Plan to post a small business Saturday video tomorrow Man a verse for Monday I'm gonna see if my wife will shoot a little video with me on Saturday or Sunday the post for Monday But I gotta ask cuz she really ain't into all this video stuff We'll talk soon. Oh, yeah, what y'all can do me a favor now for my anniversary Make sure you go on and pre-order this hill It come out April 7th. So it's coming out soon now. So get your book in account now You could pre-order the book or or the audio book or the e-book But this right here I Write better than I talk. So some of y'all could understand me talking some of you can't I write better than I talk All the game in here make sure you read as I'm telling you it's gonna. It's gonna set you it's gonna It's gonna do you right now God bless you. We'll talk soon