 have you noticed these days it seems like for those of us who are over 40 that most relationships seem casual in fact I call dating a string of a long drawn out version of friends with benefits and one of the main frustrations I hear from women is their their desire to keep a man's attention their desire to you know in what's the word I'm thinking of like grow the relationship this is one of their strongest desires and what they oftentimes think if they just keep putting in more and more and giving more and giving more and giving more that the man will love them now I'll be candid with you giving more in a relationship oftentimes comes from a place of chasing someone's love and I want to encourage a different way to approach relationship so I want to invite you all to do something different instead