 What's going on you guys? It's your boy Lloyd here. I'm not the single guy, but I got a question and we are gonna talk about this Hey, Lloyd love your channel. Thank you for all the advice you provide us. I have a question about texting I feel like my conversations are pretty boring and not exciting. I get responses, but it feels very platonic How can I spice up my conversations a little more and make them more sexual to increase their attraction? Any tips would help. Thanks. This guy is wondering How you can spice up his conversations and turn them more sexual. Now, I would highly recommend that you guys don't think that turning the conversation sexual is going to increase attraction. In fact, if you force a conversation to get turned sexual 99% of the time the girl is gonna get creeped out and run away Which is probably why you're asking the question in the first place because you felt like this is something that might occur So what you need to establish first is she needs to get attracted to you Before you actually start going sexual and probably needs to meet up with you and decide she wants to have sex with you first So what I would recommend that you guys do is follow some of these rules for turning the conversation sexual You can do it in the right way But the first rule of this is gonna be don't do it unless you've actually had sex with the person Okay, I can actually get away with doing this because I've had a lot of practice But you need to build up an extreme amount of comfort with the person as well too if you just go all sexual It gets very creepy. You have to build a baseline level of attraction and the sexuality blossoms from it Okay, it's like sexuality and women and men. It's like a seed Okay, you can plant it you can water it, but it has to grow by itself And if you don't let it grow you're forcing it to go like please grow grow grow grow grow grow Then nothing's gonna happen. And in fact doing that will force it to not happen at all Okay, so you have to have the framework for it So number one don't force it number two build comfort and build things that are gonna make her want to do that stuff with you Now I get it There are gonna be some women on dating apps that will go sexual right away Let me ask you a question How many of those girls actually meet up with you some of them might but most of them will probably get too scared never show Up in the date and flake I've had this happen with dozens of my students and this used to happen to me when I was younger so even if she starts being sexual with you first Bring it back down to a level where you can start actually getting to know each other and be comfortable Remember she's not gonna show up on a date or she's not gonna show up or hang to hang out with you or even come over to Your place if she doesn't trust you safety is the biggest factor for women in this if you do want to turn the conversation sexual You can't go sexual right away. That's too big of a jump. You need to warm people up to it You ever heard of the thing called foreplay a lot of men neglect it and women get frustrated by this So you have to use foreplay when you're texting as well, too So talk about things that would lead to a sexual conversation like hey What are you up to right now? You know and then you can describe what you're doing? She can describe what she's doing that gets her in the mode where she's telling you what she's up to and then maybe You can turn it sexual from there because she could tell you if she's having a sexual thought or if she's doing Something sexual hopefully not with another guy So if you put yourself in these in these positions, it's more likely that the conversation concerned sexual again There has to be a baseline level of trust there She's got to be with it and if she's not playing ball guys don't get frustrated just change the subject and talk about something else Okay now the other thing that you can do to guess lead in to a sexual conversation is you start with you could start with Relationships you can start with first of all, I would talk about other people Relationships with other people and then sex naturally transforms into that usually when you're talking to the person That's what I like to do But you can do this over text as well. That's one technique Okay, again, don't force it this should happen a little bit more naturally like start the conversation about relationships And if she doesn't want to talk about it, then you can change the subject to something else Okay, again, we're leading into it. We're using the whole the idea of foreplay So once you've built up comfort once you've started talking about those subjects where she's getting comfortable with you She's telling you what she's doing You know sex should naturally flow from those and if it just stays there and she's that's all she feels comfortable with doing That's fine. Again, if you're forcing sexuality before you've actually better before you've actually had sex You're gonna push her away So stop focusing on the sex to build attraction do the other things that I talk about to build the attraction and the sexual Naturally blossom from that and if you need some techniques to be able to actually start talking about sex I highly recommend that going through Friends relationships and things that other people have done and then you can talk about things that you guys have done But making it, you know, not as judgmental or personal or any of that sort of stuff or explicit right away Remember women are not they don't like to go explicit They're more into the soft core stuff first and then they go into the you know the more explicit things later For instance, if you were talking about relationships or you're talking about fun crazy things You did at a party or when you were a kid I would talk about a time that you went skinny dipping as opposed to a time where you railed some girl behind a dumpster You know the ladder is probably gonna scare her off The first one is probably going to intrigue her a little more. Okay, so guys, that's how you do it If you made today and consider subscribing I come up with videos like this every single week if you're interested to get coached by me personally There's forms down below. I highly recommend you sign up for my texting cheat sheet Which will teach you all the rules to be able to do this sort of stuff in a calm and respectful way So you're not being creepy and you're allowing an environment where the sexuality can blossom from because women are very sexual creatures But they're just scared to be and they're not gonna be like that with 99% of guys on the planet So be part of that 1% that makes you feel good enough to be able to do it with you. Cool. All right, you guys Thanks for watching. Good luck out there