 Despite the condemnation from the president and the novena advocacy for peace against bandits attacks on communities in the northeast and other parts of the country, the attack still persists what residents want in plateau state. Also on the breakfast, we take a look at the new revenue allocation which suggests the federal government takes 52.68% of the revenue and states gets 26.72% while local government gets 20.60%. What is the implication for our economy? And don't forget we also will be looking through today's newspapers and analysing the biggest stories of the day. Good morning to you. This is the breakfast on Plus TV Africa. I am Justin Acadone. And I am Messi Bopu. Good morning and thank you for joining us. Yes and thanks for joining us. We're just ahead of straight to what is top trending. And the late singer, Osina Chungwachiku, is still in the news with different reactions and different developments and trailing and that particular event that happened over the weekend. This time around, from what we hear, the late singer's husband allegedly was in a secret marriage. Messi, can you believe that that was actually revealed by the list of women of his and Paul and Tal and she said it in an interview with the national television station where when she visited the children and she made some shocking revelations stating that this man who was alleged to have bitten or domestically abused the wife also had another wife. So it's really unfortunate that a lot is actually unveiling and one of the things that one would hope for is that Osina Chungwachiku will probably be alive at this point. But it's really sad. Very sad. Like you said, we have different accounts of it and at some point you have she making that revelation. I mean, as a matter of fact, a lot of people are saying that this we don't even need to get into a trial because you already know what the law says. You are innocent until you're being proven guilty by a lot of competent jurisdiction. And at the end of the day now we're not even looking at a case against domestic violence, right? Because I'm not sure we have laws as regards domestic violence. But of course mother is mother. And so if you are responsible for the death of your wife then that would just be another case. But some people are saying the fact that the children would actually speak up because children have spoken up and then one of the, you know, the child went to the room and brought a photograph, I'm here on an album where you have the father, pictures of the father getting married to another woman or is probably married to another woman. I've read different stories, I've seen different reports and really if those stories are things to go by, I mean if any of this is anything to go by, it's really sad. Very, very sad indeed. But one would think that if you were in a secret marriage, if you probably got married to her, I mean you have someone you are in love with or you're married to, why not go ahead with a divorce? So what's the essence of staying together? You probably would have just gone and asked her to leave or just you leave. And at the end of the day she would have been alive if you were not no more comfortable with the relationship, if you were having issues and you're no longer in love with your wife and you feel that another woman would make you happy. Like you have said, why not separate? Why not divorce instead of making her life a living hell? Yes, I don't understand the rationale. Like I mentioned earlier on, I mean we have to verify all of this facts. I mean not to say that it's not possible that this would have happened or this is the case, but I'm just saying that if all of this reports and all that we're seeing is anything to go by, then I don't understand why he had to stay in. So if you have someone you already married to, someone you probably comfortable with and you love, then why stay with her? You just go away. You go away or you ask her to leave. It's just simple. I would always say that at the end of the day for me, if you look at my micro blogging platform, I say I'm human, we need to be human. We need to understand that we're human. Sometimes we actually have forgotten the sense of our humanity. So whether or not there's a relationship or not, whether or not we're in relationship, whether or not there's any kind of relationship you want to talk about here, you need to understand that the other person you're dealing with is a human being and what we expect is that you should treat them with respect, dignity, and there should be some level of fairness. So that principle should be constant at all levels. I don't even think that love should even come in the equation here, whether or not you love her or you don't love her, but you should treat her as a human. And if you think it's not going well, would you just ask her to leave? So what is the reason, right? What is the reason that you had to stay by and treat her like that? Like I would say it's anything to go by. But we really wish and hope that Osina didn't die and some people would say it's because she's dead and that's why we're getting to know about all of these things. So it's a very dicey situation. It's very sensitive and it's very complicated. We can only hope that justice will be met and also a lot of people are looking out to get the autopsy report. Now you know with a climb, we're not very big enough to say when people die you don't really just find out what led to the cost of their death. So we're hoping that we get an autopsy report and see how that actually pans out. It's a lot to take in first week. A whole lot to take in. Also in related development, there are calls or partitions people have been pushing out on Twitter specifically asking for legislation for domestic violence. They're asking for domestic violence act and so far they're asking for about 7,000 people to sign up. The thing is that domestic violence, we don't specifically have them a domestic violence act or law in Nigeria but what we have, I know it is domesticated here in Lagos, they have the violence against persons and prohibition act which actually takes care of gender based violence, you know, spousal rape and other issues that may come out from the home front. But this particular one is actually coming out all in the wake of what happened with them last week and a whole lot of people have been speaking about domestic violence and that the need for government to make appropriate laws to attend to those specific issues and they are actually calling out for people to sign a particular petition. So yes, this is very brilliant. I must say it's commendable the fact that we're going to use the law to address all of this but as much as this sounds very brilliant and interesting we also need to understand that what's really at the end of the day we talk about domestic violence, it's not just a particular gender that's a victim here right here. So you have the men, even though it's not very popular or probably might not just be reported at all times also because of some cultural perspective and narrative that's been pushed out over time and so men are expected to be men and you know the we men of course we generally know that would say we men are very vulnerable. I mean you look at the statistics of those who are I mean vulnerable there would always be the weaker sex not necessarily but you see the victims of it well that's very okay but I think that it's more of a cultural thing as long as we have the law and we think that there should be a collaboration of the law as much as you have the law on the other hand but we need to do a lot of work the orientation and the narrative that's been put out there is really wrong and so I always say that we live in a society where it's an abused cycle so it's an abused generation your father or your mother abused vice versa right? The second continues and so the children have been acculturated I saw a video of two young lads I don't know if it was a skit I don't know if it was real they walked up to their den and said they were going to get married and they say oh you know when I get married I'm going to be beating the son was now telling the mom that she will be beating the wife you know it was really sad so we talk about acculturation these children learn faster than what you tell them by the things that they see in the environment so it's a lot to deal with I'm thinking that it's kind of a cultural thing because over time culture I don't know where that originated from but constantly some people just thought that it's normal that a woman will be beaten by her husband and been maltreated and the fact that she has to stay in and some women too also I don't want to stop pushing blame some women feel that it is normal that he has to beat me so that I can have like a reset because some women say that sometimes he needs to really make my brain correct again when I started the show but no matter what it is you can't be in an abusive relationship there's even a post that is trending where a particular lady called off her wedding because the boyfriend has been hitting her she said that she cannot go ahead with the wedding I think it is commendable because those are telltale signs of the relationship who says he won't beat you when you get into his house I'm almost tempted to speak for a particular dialect which I mean I know you don't speak but I don't so long as you translate no problem you say that you translate no problem it is so hard for me so I'm stealing my elements but to be very honest it's such a big one the truth is domestic violence should not be violence at all levels should not be tolerated whether domestic or not now it's a good thing that you have this bill trying to seek there's a law to protect people whether man or woman from domestic violence but I'm saying that we need to also tackle it from the narrative that has been pushed over time the cultural, the religious, the family level everywhere tackle it from there, maybe we will not even need the law because people will need to understand and then why do you need to speak up you just constantly have to be there and so it calls for a little consent but like that post that you made reference so she called off her wedding I mean it's supposed to happen in recent time but you know she has seen all of that she needs some mental health you better say it in ethical I can say it I'm impromptu to say it so should I give the English interpretation you say it in ethical it means that you would use sleep and know how dead is the way you sleep is that's how dead is so what you are feeling that might be a precursor that will happen in the future for me and I don't know but I'm more concerned about how I'm being treated and what you say so it's the way you treat me that's how it's going to be so if you look at the way we sleep that's how dead is you are completely lost to everything and so the way sleep is just the same way death would be and so it's just the same thing if you look at how you are being treated there's something a lot of people think that when we get married everything is going to change but you know where that comes from is the fact that the culture of marriage all the African women and women have been taught about let me not even begin to delve into African women but I think that the difference is not so much but you know the Nigerian woman all we've been taught of is the fact that you go to school graduate get married and have kids and marriage has been the center of it we're not saying that marriage is bad but you know women have been made to believe that there's nothing about it and that's why women say well you can't leave your marriage what will people say oh god you're going to be embarrassed and all of that so people are just saying oh it's because I can't be divorced no one can hear that I'm separated really? Marriage does not complete you marriage does not make you you could actually have a wholesome life and either marriage is not working you can't move away from it if you've been battered in a relationship move away from it there's no point trying to salvage it let's pray about it you know fasting and praying session let's do some sometimes counseling session might work but if the person is beating you if you have been battered if you have been physically abused there's no point of you staying because over time it might get worse fine some people have actually had some very good testimony afterwards but that doesn't really work for everyone if you are being battered if you can if you no I understand you're very well but what we're saying first of all everyone we need to understand that we're human and even those who would make reference to the Quran and the Bible if you also understand I'm not sure that Jesus himself was a valent person and if Jesus is about love the way you treat one another would be love and respect and so I'm not even sure yes the Bible would say does not you know agree with divorce but would Jesus be happy I mean for those of people who would say oh you can't leave but would Jesus be happy that you are treating another human in that way and what would he even say you love someone so it's a lot it's a lot to deal with at this point in time we do not support violence at all levels whether or not it's coming from a woman or a man totally are not in support of it and it's a good thing that you know the government is thinking in the direction to have laws to protect both genders you know from violence but also we would say that we need to you know disabuse our mind of the culture and the narrative that has been put over time as regards to violence and the outcome of it including you know the issue of rape as well we also saw that it's a lot to do with but we need to move away because we're out of time and of course we need to I'm really happy that not like I'm happy that this incident happened but a whole lot has come out of this and the church is beginning to you know put its best foot forward concerning this issue of you cannot divorce you have to manage the relationship though it's something that we need to talk continuously over time but this is just so rampant right now because of what happened with Osinochet but over time the church should talk about domestic violence the church should talk about issues you know couple and family families go through because at the end of the day if you're not a life you don't have a family you don't have a marriage I don't want to dwell on that for so much because it's really very emotional stuff I don't want to. Then again before we leave our top trending it is a sad one for Nigeria we lost the statistician general yesterday who died just a month after he was appointed we won't really dwell on that but we pray that God gives him the family of the later statistician general the fortitude to bear that irreparable loss. We'll take a quick break and when we'll come back we'll go straight here off the press in a moment stay with us.