 It's October. Welcome to the Teen's Cornerstone Connection Lesson. This month, we begin a new quarter with the theme Bible, Reality Bible. We have our mission coming from Shani, Joyce appealing to the deaf community. We have Amy and Sid on violin and piano. And then we'll have Steve, Flex and Ashley and our wonderful teen teachers on the panel. Enjoy. Hi everyone, my name is Shani and I'll be giving the mission story. So our mission story comes from the country Cameroon and it's about a little boy called Elijah. And the title of our story is Hearing a Voice. So one evening, Father asked the seven-year-old Elijah to massage his neck and shoulders before going to bed in Cameroon. Father's neck and shoulders often ached and the massages helped him relax and feel better. Elijah liked helping Father and he often gave him a massage before bedtime. The light bulb in the living room was dim and Elijah couldn't see well, so he ran to his bedroom to get a flashlight. Just as Elijah entered his bedroom, the light went off. It was dark and he couldn't see anything and he felt a strong wind blowing through the open window. Then he had a voice. Elijah, Elijah, Elijah, the voice said. Elijah didn't recognize the voice. It wasn't a man's voice, it wasn't a woman's voice. It seemed to be a man and a woman's voice mixed together. Elijah was scared. He stood still as a stone. He wondered who was calling his name. Slowly, not too softly, not too loudly, he asked. Who is it? The voice replied. It's me. But Elijah didn't know who it was. He was so scared that he forgot to pray. Then he had another voice. If you can't find the flashlight, come back so we can pray together, the voice said. It's getting late and you need to go to bed. Elijah knew the voice. It was his father. He stopped feeling so scared. At that moment, the lights came back on. Elijah looked around the room and immediately spotted the flashlight on the floor, covered by a shot. He grabbed the flashlight and returned to the living room. It's too late for a massage, Father said. You have to give it in the morning. Father didn't notice that Elijah was especially quiet as he prayed and Elijah didn't tell him about the voice. He didn't think Father would be interested. Climbing into bed, Elijah felt a little afraid. Then he remembered Psalm 23 and he repeated from memory. He said, The Lord is my shepherd, I shall not want. He makes me to lie down in green pastures. He leads me beside steel waters. He restores my soul. He leads me in the path of righteousness for his name's sake. Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil. For you are with me, your rod and your staff, they comfort me. You prepared a table before me in the presence of my enemies. You anointed my head with oil. My cup runs over. Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life and I will dwell in the house of the Lord forever. Finishing the Psalm, Elijah fell asleep. He slept peacefully. The next day, Elijah told Mother about the voice and she immediately prayed with him. Lord, she said, You are the one who knows what happened. You are the one who knows the voice that called Elijah. I want you to cover him because you, the solid rock, stand against any spirit who doesn't honor you. In the name of Jesus, amen. Elijah knew that the voice would not call his name again and it hasn't. Part of this quarter's 13th Sabbath offering will help open a seventh day Adventist school in Elijah's home country of Cameroon where children will be able to learn about God. Thank you for planning your generous offering. To you, our viewers, and a big hello to you, my panelists. So today we have a very, very interesting lesson right before us. So take a deep breath wherever you are because you'll need it. So before we begin, I'd like my panelists over here to introduce themselves starting from my far right. Hello fellow viewers, my name is Mikhail Flex. Hello everyone, my name is Steve. And I am Ashley Silas. And my name is Brigitte, I'll be the moderator for today. So before we begin, I'd like to invite Flex to give us a prayer. That's my heads for the prayer. For the just name, we ask for your Holy Spirit as we go through, Lord, this topic, this lesson of my father this day. And Lord, we ask, Lord, that you may show us what you want us to speak and understand, Lord, and for the fellow viewers, may they understand the concept of what you have to show through this topic, Lord. Give everyone here a blessing. Just name a prayer, amen. Amen. Thank you so much, Flex. So today our lesson is entitled, Eli's or Ellie's, I don't know how you want to pronounce it. Eli's Bad, Bad Boys. And this is a very interesting story because I just want you to think with me. The reason why God actually kept us or brought us into this world is because he wants to repopulate heaven. So one way in which he'll repopulate heaven is for people to come to earth, to be born, for their characters to be formed, and then if they're found right, then they can get to heaven. Now one of the key things that we'll be discussing in this lesson is the role of parenting in the lives of children. And so I want us to see what do we think about this lesson. So, Flex, maybe you could take us through that. All right. So I'll start with the key texts for this lesson. And it comes from 1st Samuel, chapter 2, verse 12. And it says, Eli's sons were scoundrels. They had no regard for the Lord. We have two verses. The second one is Proverbs 22, verse 6. And it says, Start children off in the way they should go. And even when they are all old, they will not turn from it. Amen. Now, I have a few questions that I would like my fellow panelists to answer. Now, I'm going to give you four authoritative figures or role models in a normal person's life. We have a teacher, we have a role model, we have your parents and your friends. Now, Ashley, let's say from the ages from your born till you're eight years old. How important, if you could rank them from top to least, are these four people? Okay. From ages one to eight, mostly its parents, like seven, eight is when the children start telling their parents, but the teacher said so. But like from four years, five, six, seven, they go like, No, I cannot do that. My mommy did not say like that, you know. So for them, it's just parents, then teachers, then their friends. And when it comes to their friends, it's like, but my mommy said, this is how we do it. And like, no, but my daddy said, Oh, no, my daddy is stronger than your daddy. So at that point, it's just their parents and then their teachers, then their friends. That is very, very true. Steve, I'll give you a different age set from nine till 15. How important are these four authoritative figures? From nine until 15, yes. I would still put the parent on top. Definitely, because from the ages nine to 15, they're still learning. We're still discovering, you see. And without the help of their parents, really, they cannot find them. They cannot discover themselves as a person, you know, or drunk teachers again second, because they are fundamental in their learning, their understanding also. And then friends can come after, you know. They have more time with their friends, actually, this age group, but I still put parents on top. That is authoritative. But if you look at who we listen to most after that, do you rather listen to a friend? That's true. So for the last age set, I'll give it to teacher Bridget. And this is because none of us are 25. So maybe you can expound which are the most authoritative from top to least. So at least from experience, I would say as you're transitioning from teenage into adulthood, then you start realizing that your parents have so much value because you realize that in teenagehood, that's when you are not agreeing with so much of what they were saying. But when you get into your adulthood, then you realize, wow, they had so much wisdom. What they were telling me is making sense right now. So for most, truly, it still goes back to the parent. So it's like you start with your parent, you go to other people like your friends, and then you go back to their parent. So that's what I would say. I would drunk parents first. And then there's also a big role that friends have to play during that age group because you realize that friends will advise you in different roles. So youth also consider friends really great. And the third one I'd give is role models because this is also a time when you've known yourself or you're getting to know yourself better. People who you look up to will have a very big influence on your life. Thank you very much. Which is so true. Now we're going to go into the subject section and I'm going to ask Steve, which stage in life is the most critical for character building in a person's life? For character building? Yes. I'd say probably teenagers because at that point they're trying to discover who they are. And they're trying to discover themselves. So I think that's probably the most important age and if they don't get it right at that age it won't be easy going forward to discover themselves. I think I'll disagree with that. And not entirely because that is when you also need to make choices for yourself. But the most critical age group for character building is from 0 to 12. Just before your teens. In that age if your parents do an exemplary job it would be like Joseph and Moses. They left their father's house at 12 years of age and they knew what was right and they would not do otherwise. But you get to teenage youth at least it happens in our day and age where we get to teenage youth and we throw everything our parents have brought us out of the boat. And they're like, you know what? I want to live my life. I want to do things how I think I should do them. And now you get like right now you're now an adult. I think everyone on this panel is an adult and you start looking back at the things you've done when you were a teenager and things you did when you were a child and you think well when I was a child and my parents were basically controlling everything I was far much better than when I was a teenager and I was making these decisions for myself and going against the authority. And so yeah, the parents always remain whether you've grown up married, not married parents will always be at the center of authority. And I'd just like to add that it's also important to note that as a child is growing from age zero their brain is developing so quickly so it's almost like a sponge where they absorb everything around the environment. So it's very important for us at those early formative years to ensure that their walls were preventing evil things from getting into them because those things will really influence them maybe not at that time but you'll see the effect later on. Which is very, very true. Now maybe the last question I'll just throw the answer or give it. It says what are some of the examples or ideal training for the buses start off a child in the way they should go or train up a child in the way that they should go. Some of the kind of trainings I think about is maybe punishments like you know or you take away their phone these days phones are very important to kids or maybe discipline them in beating with a wooden spoon or a muiko so these are some of the trainings I thought about. Seems like everyone of us has had to go through that. Yes. And now that we're talking about parenting maybe let me just hear from our panelist having grown up to this age that you are do you think that your parents or your guardian did a good job or what would you say they did? Was it good? Was it bad? Do you regret? Is there anything that you change as a parent? I can start off. For me I think my parents did the best of their ability to build the character I am today because there were more of strict when I was young but then they kind of let me see for myself or test the waters for myself and then once I came to realize that hey you know it's bad here or you know what my parents think then they started giving me advice and I feel like they really did and they could you know the ability. What about you Steve? I believe my parents did very well they did great holding me to the person that I am today mine was more practical so I got to see things firsthand and I can say that helped because growing older you get to experience them again and since you know what happened to you initially or you know what you are told about it you're able to do the right thing you're able to understand like you need to do this and this happens so I believe they did very well they helped me grow to the man I am today Absolutely and actually before you answer the question I want to add a spanner into the works considering that you're a first born who has seen maybe I don't know if your parents' leniency has increased as the other children have increased but what would you say about that how has the parenting been for you? Oh my lord okay my parents growing up like toddler age up to 10, 11, 12 my parents were strict like in approachable light you do not even cough like my parents were strict to the point of you can be seated in church you cannot even drink water do you want to drink water? go stand at the door drink water come back that was my parents so my brothers came along and they were a bit lenient with them but for me it was very strict and then to my teenagehood I was scared like I've grown up very scared of my parents they say turn left you turn left even if you're going to break your leg you can hear their voice anywhere you go so as I approached teenagehood I was very scared because of that I would never ever talk to my parents no matter what it is I'm going through they just say turn left you turn left whether you're going to die when you turn left that's it die in obedience but I was so scared so because of that when I was 14 I sort of rebelled I was tired I was tired of this pretentious obedience I just turn left turn right you turn right and so I messed up a lot I did bad things they tell me turn right and I look them in the eye and I turn left so growing up 15, 16 I started realizing that as much as their method of parenting was wrong from the start it was also not right to rebelle and then I started saying that some of the things they said initially now make sense and so 17 now turned 18 I am more of agreeing like sometimes I sit in my mom and I'm like by the way mom you said this sometimes but now it makes sense so even now she tells me something actually do this and I'm like mom I can't I'm not doing it she's like okay make sense mom I told you so you told me mom and now I understand so right now I'm more open minded to what do you have to say and even when I'm making decisions I'm like mommy what do you think because I find that she has lived in this world for some time and I am just venturing into this world therefore high experiences may be very very valuable to me absolutely thank you so much for sharing and I think we have gotten a few insights from each one of us I think it's very important for each one of us to be grateful for the role that our parents have played especially considering the bible says that we should obey our parents but it doesn't end it says that you should obey your parents in the Lord so it's important sometimes even to question maybe why am I being told to do this or why am I being told not to do this so it's important to question for you to have an understanding of that now there is a short story that is given in our lesson about a little boy this little boy had a toy boat so he had gone to a place that had a pond so with his toy boat he decided that he's going to place it in that pond and as he placed it there he imagined it being a big ship and that it would float and overcome all those waves so as he was imagining he came to a realization and he came back to reality and he realized that his toy boat had gone so far from the shore of the pond so he became so worried and then there was a man who was seated just beside it was like a park so a park with a pond so he seated beside and he saw the frustration of this young boy and he asked him would you need some help and the boy said of course I would need some help I love my toy boat I'd really love to have it back so the man said okay I'll help you so what he did he went to the other side of the pond and he started throwing stones now the little boy got so mad because this was a new toy and because he saw that those stones were so close to hitting his toy boat but little did he realize that by this man throwing the stones into the pond it was making ripples that would make the toy boat go to the other side so the little boy was telling him stop stop stop please don't you're going to spoil my toy but he couldn't understand but later on he realized oh okay the toy has come back to the shore and I can go and pick it and so I just want us to apply that in our lives it's like what our parents do for us as we have discussed here there's some things that they do to us that we feel like they are painful for us when they are disciplining us just like how this boy felt that his new toy boat would have been destroyed because this man was throwing stones yeah but he realized that the stones did not hurt the toy boat neither did they hurt the boy at all so this plane for us sometimes may be painful whether it be from our parents from role models or from God but it is worth it in the end yeah so that is the little story that I just wanted to add into this now I'd like to request Ashley to take us right into our story for today so Ellie Sands this comes from first summer chapter 2 verse 12 22 to 25, 27 and then 30 to 36 Ellie Sands were scrundels they had no regard for the Lord now Ellie who is very old had about everything his sons were doing to Israel and how they slept with the women who served at the entrance of the tent of meeting so he said to them why do you do such things I hear from all the people about these wicked deeds of yours know my sons the report I hear spreading among the Lord's people is not good if one person sins against another God may mediate and intervene but if anyone sins against the Lord who will intercede for them his sons however did not listen to their father's rebuke for it was the Lord's will to put them to death now a man of God came to Ellie and said to him therefore the Lord God of Israel declares I promised that the members of your family would minister before maybe forever but now the Lord declares far be it from me those who honor me I will honor but those who despise me will be disdained the time is coming when I will cut short your strength and the strength of your priestly house so that no one in need to reach old age and you will see distress in my dwelling although good will be done to Israel no one in your family will ever reach old age everyone of you that I do not cut off from serving at my altar I will spare only to destroy the light and sap your strength and all your descendants will die in the prime of life and what happens to your two sons Hofni and Finnehas will be assigned to you they will both die on the same day I will raise up for myself a faithful priest who will do according to what is in my heart and mind I will family establish his priestly house and they will minister before my anointed one always then everyone left in your family line will come and bow before him for a piece of silver and for a loaf of blood and plead appoint me to some priestly office so that I can have food to eat Thank you so much for taking us into the story and I just want us to reflect on how this story begins they say that now the sons of Eli were sons of Belial they knew not the Lord and actually Belial if you go and look at its meaning it means worthless people who are worthless so you can imagine these are the children of a priest and they are being called worthless and it goes on to say that they knew not the Lord now I want you guys to think with me is there a difference between knowing the Lord and knowing of God is there a difference between knowing the Lord and knowing of God and can you relate it with our story for today maybe one of our panelists can maybe yes there is also there is a difference a real real difference because knowing God can just be something you've heard right I think it's job where it says I heard about you but now I have seen you face to face so you can hear about God but you cannot actually know him internal like first hand and why I say this is because even the demons know that there is a creator and that Jesus is Lord over all because when he was casting out demons like the story of Legion they said Lord Lord do not cast us away from this land at least send us pigs they already knew that he is the Lord over everything so there is a difference between knowing and having a first hand relationship with him and thank you so much for reflecting that actually if you look at our story it's as though the sons of Eli just knew of God they knew that this yes he is a powerful God and as a family we have been appointed to be the priests and so forth were supposed to be conducting these sacrifices but they did not know God they did not have a personal relationship intimate relationship with the creator and that is why they ended up doing these grave sins that they had and so maybe Ashley you can take us into the out of the story but before you do that I think I just came across a paradox when I was reading this story Eli was a priest and other than that he was also a judge he was not only a priest but he was a judge but how comes he was not able to pass judgment upon his own children so you can imagine that's quite a paradox I thought and actually you can take us through the out of the story turns out that it's not the only paradox Samuel Samuel was a judge and a priest at the same time and Samuel his own children were corrupt taking bribes I don't know perhaps it's not even our place to correct our parents but sometimes you get so absorbed in your duties to the world your duties to the church your duties to your family that you forget to take care of your own children you forget that you know they need to be told turn left turn right this is the wrong path this is the right path and sometimes even given reason for it could I add something before you even just from what you've said it's important actually the LNG writing the spirit of prophecy says that the home is the child's first school it's like God has put parents as his representatives here on earth so it's in quote end quote it's like the parents are the first God of the child before they actually know the true God so if the parents fail in reflecting the image of God then the image of God is completely mad for those children completely distorted also I believe that the parents those who are in high positions like being a priest let's take Eli for example he had such an important role to perform you see and probably he may have not understood that he held in high scrutiny because when you are in a very important position people hold you in very high scrutiny you see and so you see even I also read from the spirit of prophecy that he was held in high scrutiny and also his kids did not perform the right duties and this had an effect on many people because he had charge over many people so if he understood that that would happen that his children might have influenced a lot of people maybe then maybe he would have brought them up better that speaks directly to us who are seated on the panel on the panel sorry because we have our lives to live and there are people who know us virtue of what we are doing now and they will meet us one day and be like is this the same you I mean if Ashley is doing that then what about me you know so the question I'd ask is part of this story challenges our view of God and our view of spiritual leaders like so do you think what repeat the question one more time what's part of this story challenges our view of God and our view of spiritual leaders well you have to be the challenge is discipline right most spiritual leaders don't really have the they don't really understand or maybe the challenge is discipline your own flock an example I'll give is David and Absalom right when the brother I forgot his name slept slept with Thamma right and Absalom heard about this and he plotted to kill Amnon but if David had responded sooner and disciplined and disciplined Amnon then Absalom wouldn't have the need to actually seek out his own justice so that's the real challenge that the spiritual leaders actually need to understand that disciplining is not hating your flock it's something that is necessary for growth because even us were chastened in the Lord so that we are refined as the outcome of the product amen who are the main characters mentioned in the passage and what are some of the weaknesses this story exposes Steve some of the main characters are mentioned to Eli and Eli Sons basically and some of the weaknesses exposed here is our main theme which is poor parenting and failure to discipline you see and these weaknesses turn out to be grieved because God punishes the Israelites and punishes the sons of Eli as well and this causes a lot of distress and it even leads to their death I will answer this question what do you think it means when the Bible says that Eli Sons had no regard for the Lord and how would this story look like today you know we often say in class that we should do the things that we only do if we would only do if God was there but we fail to say that God is there not if he was because he is always there seeing how every thought are every motive and having no regard is you know when you would just do something wrong like you just blunt about it of the consequences of whoever is watching and if you look at the things they did as priests sleeping with the women who were serving people at the tent of meeting it was not as light seen but the rumors their father knowing and everyone else knowing did not stop them it did not even make them shrink not to mention the fact that God knew but starting of the children training the children in the way that they should go also played a big role and in the flashlight I think Helen Wright says that if we do not restrain or if our parents indulge our every need and our every want then we get to the point where we do not know how to control even ourselves at a personal level yeah and I just also want us to discuss what you said that in that question the Eli sons had no regard for the Lord what would this look like for us today and I just give one example it is very evident even in this day and age that people would actually come to our church maybe not even necessarily our church but in any church and they just be on their phones throughout and it's not that they are writing notes or reading the Bible in fact the sites that they are on just to make your jaw drop so you know that's maybe an example do you guys have any other examples how is it that people in this day and age have shown that they know not the Lord like the sons of Eli any other example I don't know but the example that you've given is really really disturbing especially for us teenagers because we come to church and our gadgets are on all through and the things that we are doing are not like I would not even mention it it is just too bad so it's an appeal to everyone of us I mean we need to have that what I call a belt of conduct you cannot go below that line thank you so much even things such as making noise in church you know one thing about making noise is that it not only affects you it affects the people around you so it's like you're preventing other people from listening to the word of God and even as Ashley has made the appeal it's important for us even to see the dire consequences that it had on the family of Eli he was told that you know the people of your family will not live to an old age can you imagine and in fact the role of priesthood was taken away from their family so it was a very very grave thing and for us we may not see the consequences right now you may come into church do what you want to do go home and you're like after all see I'm still alive and I'm still coming to church every day but remember that the wages of sin is death so it's at the end that you will receive and reap those consequences so let's all be alert let us change our ways because that is what God is calling us to do and so I just like to invite Flex having taken us through the key text what appeal do you have to make to us based on what we've learned today on first Samuel 2 where it says that Eli's sons were scoundrel they had no regard for the Lord now it's we see this from the spirit of prophecy from LNG white where it says that the problem with Eli's son was a gradual and continual rebellion that went unchecked or eventually spun out of control now Hoffney and Phineas served as religious leaders but were openly belligerent belligerent and careless about the calling my appeal is if you know anyone in your family or in your friend's circle who's going through this rebellious stage or you see them doing something that you know will eventually part of them pray for them and we are here to be our brothers keepers and good to care for others even though they seem or they say they don't need it prayer can go for anyone so if you have these friends you can nudge them and always keep them in prayer so that God can change their hearts and open their eyes to see that they're actually going the wrong way and that they need to come back to God because it's just as simply as turning around that's all you need to turn around to God and right then and there it will be saved thank you so much for that Steve how about you take us through what sister LNG White has to say in parcheques and prophets so this is highlighted in the flash light which reads that there is no greater curse upon households than to allow the youth to have their own way when parents regard every wish of their children and indulge them in what they know is not for their good the children soon lose all respect for their parents all regard for the authority of God of man and a led captive at the wheel of Satan well this is highly illustrated when when Eli did not correct his sons and if you read further into that chapter in parcheques and prophets you'll find that eventually their sons the hearts of their sons are hardened these sons are hardened and eventually they decided to correct them now they did not turn back they couldn't go back because they were too far into sin that they couldn't correct they couldn't see any meaning into what their father was telling and then I also presumed that they were so used to the father doing them everything or allowing them to do anything that they want that they spent their life what did this old man say you know so even this is the point where they were mocking you know I'm wondering like it just hit me that apparently we somewhat in our mind think that in our parents give us everything we want to will respect them like if my mom says actually don't do this I'm thinking no mom this is unfair you know I'm mama and all that but it builds the respect and quite on the contrary if she gave me what I wanted every time I wanted it I'd lose respect I'd lose soundness of this is authority and it also applies in the world in terms of work place and now you're working and you need to listen to people for them to I mean you come into an industry well then there are those seniors and they're living and they need to hand over their responsibilities to you so how do you listen to them how do you interact with them to show to go to the point of showing that it is true you can handle these responsibilities or do you act like Hofney and Phineas where you abuse your authority and abuse your power and do whatever it is that is right so from the flashlight I also got two questions and I'll ask let's say Flux and each of the questions so the first one is to Flux do you know anyone that's not your parent who adopts who starts provoking who thinks when correcting their children or something like that who thinks about it who thinks through something when they're correcting their children who thinks through something when they're correcting their children so let's say they adopt a thoughtful approach very very very few actually I can't bring it on your mind no one comes to mind most of the people go straight to judgment and feeling like they don't love me and happiness so I haven't yet found someone who actually just says maybe my parent has something for me to learn from her saying no okay that's from the child perspective but how about the parent perspective sometimes I think as much as our parents think our parents feel like we are disobedient they also just don't listen we have the same problem of not listening when they are speaking but our parents do not listen sometimes you would expect that okay fine there's a rumor that is going on that I have done one to three things but my mother should know me well enough well enough to tell me by the way I've had this but I don't believe you can do it that you can do it even though it's possible that I can fall into sin but there are just some things that you're like mom really me you could even believe such a thing and you know as a person that really hurts me you do not know your child that well you do not know me that well to the point of believing a stranger over me the situation is just more than you can explain but your parents are like you explain it here and now and perhaps you even traumatize though you are like I really don't know what happened right now so that's just one thing I think we should know when as we grow up so the question was what five qualities would you want to have as a parent oh wow first of all I want to be able to reflect the image of God that's the first one I want to be a good listener now hearing it from Ashley because yeah it's important that parents also listen I want to be prayerful for my children because you know as a parent you can tell children to do this but they do the opposite so there's a role of prayer there disciplinary and I know I will be because of the kind of personality that I have those are for the fifth one okay the fifth one will come later as I continue growing so thank you so much for that which do you think will be the most difficult I think being a disciplinarian is difficult because even as Eli did you know he felt he felt really bad cause that was one his public image would have been destroyed if he told his children that you know you guys think up this role you're not doing the right thing so one would have been his public image and the second thing would have been he just you know that feeling as a parent you're disciplining your child but you're like what would they think of me would they still love me so I think that one is challenging yes I think parents don't have that feeling maybe when they become a parent then you will know so we need to come to an end in Ephesians chapter 6 verse 4 as Ashley is preparing to give us just one verse from the punch lines that spoke to her then we will come to a close okay so I'm going to take you through Ephesians chapter 6 and verse 4 which says fathers do not exasperate your children instead bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord thank you so much and this text that speaks to me is fathers do not embitter your children or they become discouraged personally growing up I really loved this text even when my parents would go like please share with us your favorite text in the Bible I'd be like dad Ephesians chapter 6 verse 4 fathers do not exasperate your children and my dad would be like why do you do that I'm like because you make me a knight so much so it is just something that I think we should adopt in our day-to-day lives and even as we grow up and if we will be campers in the future shouting at your children is not the best thing no matter how upset you are and you can be a disciplinarian but you can also learn to listen to your children they will know you know mama Uksha Fikapa you just don't pass that line but there are just those things that we will need to understand because our society is becoming degraded and everything is a disaster in our generation everything is a disaster everything I cut myself it's a disaster I'm going to sleep for 3 days my youngest brother he's cooking in the kitchen the knife cuts him he's a liar because it is a very big disaster but if I did that you would not be eating every day twice in a week you'd be sleeping hungry I'd say that we need to to learn to put the importance the adequate importance on important things and the adequate lightness or trifleness on trifle matters so that we do not make a big deal or something that is small and that which is serious and for our eternity the country for amen thank you so much so I want to remind you people that it is charged upon you if you have the responsibility of correcting a sin or rebuking or reproving and you do it not that sin will be charged upon you as if you are the one who had committed so it's important for us in whatever capacity we are to correct whatever sin we see even if it is amongst our friends be the one to call out that sin don't let that sin grow to a point where you cannot correct that person when their hearts have been so hardened so thank you so much our panellists for joining us today I'd like to invite Steve to close for us in prayer okay so let's leave and pray Father what you have when you come before this day thanking you for the blessing that you've given us to discuss your word today I pray that you may be with us and be with our viewers of God that you may enlighten them and they may walk in your path of Lord with us our Father protect us for this is my humble prayer believe in trust in Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior amen