 All right, Karibusana, this is hashtag Y in the morning. An interesting update right here just in it. It talks about a Russian president, Vladimir Putin, wins fifth term and this comes made a set to tighten up a group for Russia, a country he has ruled since the onset of the century. Electoral agencies report that Putin is leading with over 87% of the votes as no credible position candidate so far was allowed to buy, which is an interesting one. So the three day presidential election started Friday and ended last Sunday and at least 114 million registered voters in Russia were expected to cast their votes over the three days in the last contested election. And I know this comes a minister backdrop of so many things, especially the war happening at Gaza. It's just interesting as well. But away from that, before I actually inform you of our topic of today, so I was just scrolling through social media very fast and I landed upon this question that somebody who's posted on Reddit, Nibbui Chah Dhanasema, will I ever get a girlfriend? And the comments, I tell you they are on fire. So let me just ask you shortly as before I introduce my guest, what can make somebody give up on love that badly? Cause this guy's asking, will he ever find a girlfriend? What could be possibly wrong? What do you think about that? And are you in that situation yourself? And somebody just right here told me there's a lot of men who've given up totally on love because they definitely don't see themselves dating and maybe they get dumped, they get dumped, they get dumped, they get dumped too. I'm praying for you please. But this guy, he'll definitely get someone now that he's posted the question on social media. Anyways, away from that, we have an interesting conversation and we had talked about modern youth and patterned relations, especially in the day we live in today and I'm being joined live by Musita Deniz. He's a university of Nairobi student who'll definitely be giving us his insights and his experiences as well. So continue to talk to us on the hashtag why in the morning and at Y2 for channel and at Brian Sakuwan One, that is my handle as well. I'll definitely love to hear your feedback and we'll be sampling it towards the tail end of this conversation. Karibu Sanna Deniz, this is your third or fourth time here. This is the third time. Oh, this is the third time, okay. Yes. So let's get into it immediately. First of all, let me just get your reactions on Brian Chira's death now because he's a boy child. I remember we were trying to talk about it in our intro here and there are so many people who come out actually to say that, you know, they are supporting his funeral. They'll cater for the expenses. There's even one celebrity, thank God, the don't said they want the body to be transferred from city mortuary to umash, I believe. Yeah, so, but somebody argued and said, you know, he feels like this guy was supported while he was alive but a lot of people are saying, well, are you, do you bear the same sentiments that, you know, this guy was not supported when he was alive. He was screaming and shouting for help and nobody was paying attention. So Brian Chira is a boy child and today we are told that a girl child is protected by the law but now it's upon the boy child to fight for himself. While Brian Chira was still alive, several people really mocked him. Do you remember the incident when he was a witness of a road accident? Right, yeah. Sometimes back, one of the 60s. It's years back, yeah. Years. So that's when Brian Chira became famous. Yeah. This guy has been facing a mockery on social media and to be honest, he has been depressed. Right. And things leading to his death, maybe we don't just talk about, maybe let's say that accident or something, that's actually depression also. Yeah, contributed. So when guys know today stand up for him that they are going to support him, give a contribution for his funeral, they are, today we must say that we should stop living in denial. Well, this guy was there when they needed him. You remember one of the celebrities called Kasipol. Yeah. One said that this boy, this boy child, when someone is not going to talk to him, we will lose him. Yeah, he said that. Yeah, he said that. There's a place he said that in an interview. When you go to TikTok or IG, you'll see Kasipol trying to flash back what he told the media. Right. And what he said in one of his interviews that Brian Chira actually needs someone to talk to him or else he's going to lose this boy child. And he was the only child actually, I think to the grandma, like in the family here, everybody died near to Aliqua and he was the only hope to the grandma. He was the only hope to the grandma. Uh-huh. Yes. Really sad. Wow. So, I don't know. But it's just sad. Really sad. Because at this point, there's nothing you can do. But also it just shows you the nature and the ecosystem of the social media space we are in. People will mock you when you're alive, but when you die, everybody is coming at you with flowers and resting peas. It just shows the hearts that we have, especially in the digital space. Anyways, sorry for another day, but since on that note, you've so-called support. Now, in terms of support, now parental support, today let's get into family support. Our question of today is whether, Zaziana, whether you are still cool with your parents who want to support? Do you guys have a relationship? And I remember in our intro here, I was trying to say, you know, in our days, boy child and a kongana, a little bit of a difficult relationship with their fathers. Yes. And especially, I don't want to talk the interiors. But I believe it's general, because that's one of the guests who told me, like, it's a stage, there's a stage where you disagree with your dad, there's a stage where he ghosts you, he disappears, there's a stage where he supports you and starts succeeding. But when you look at today's world, I don't know if you're a Gen Z, but maybe you can say later on, do you feel like personally, from your own experience, do you have a relationship with your mother and your dad? And now this depends with today's social dynamics. In today, we will say that boy child, actually has a very close relationship with their mother. Exactly. And the boy child, I mean, like their father. Yeah. What do you think it's so? What do you think it's so? Some parents today, you'll find that, especially fathers. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I don't go to my mom, I don't go to my dad's because the father is fierce. Yeah, the dad is fierce. He's approaching with very fierce avenue. If you are dressing, now the kind of feedback you'll get from the father, it's a list of your expectations. So you'll get that the boy child now goes to the mom. Kind of gravitate towards mom a lot, yeah. Yes. Because mom is understanding and so. The mom is understanding. And very so. Okay. And maybe you can find that, now this depends, whatever I'll tell my mother, maybe she will find it so difficult to address this, maybe to help me. For example, today, let me just say it. I'm feeling this feeling, maybe for example, in terms of relationship with my girlfriend or let me say my wife, if I'm married, I'm facing a lot of difficulties and challenges. Right. And this issue that I should just address to my dad because he's a man, that's the way. Like it's a manly issue and he can relate, right, yeah. But you'd rather go to mom than dad. You'd rather go to mom than dad. Why though? Because I feel like maybe manly issues should be addressed by manly energy and feminine issues should be addressed by feminine energy. But now it's vice versa. But it's true, because there's also an African saying that goes, a man or a son is who his mother makes him. Meaning that the first woman you see in your life is your mother. So she also gives you an example mentally of how women are. So if you had a reckless demonstration of a mother, you'll always feel like women are reckless. And I think maybe, story and sexuality can come in. I'm not sure though, that there's people who like, their mother hated them, they hate women like purely. They would never want to be with a woman. And there's people where fathers hated them, they purely never want to be with a man. So I don't know. But yeah, do you feel like also in this generation, maybe parents are lenient? Like let me give you an example. I was given an example in our intro where for me, my grandma calls me baba because Sakwa is his, her, sorry, her dad. So she calls me baba, daddy, all those things. And it's so sweet when your grandma calls you that because she values you and she likes to see you as her dad. But then nowadays parents of today, remember when you come to a story that Konda Shule, your dad wants you to get an M minor. But you know, you're getting a C. So in today's parents, they're like, I'll just do it again next time. You know, education is not for everyone. Konda's a way back education is for everyone. And there's a saying that this education is the key to success. But it feels like today, the digital space is the key to success. It has been replaced either way. I don't know what's your mindset and sentiments on that. At Bionist, education is the key to Bionist. It's still the key to success. Okay. At times you can be told that, for example, let's say you are looking for a job. Yeah. And you don't have the papers. You call them the academic qualifications. Actually you need connections. And they say that new broom sweep clean. New broom sweep clean. Yes. Okay. Maybe the relationship not you, sometimes you can find that the dad now is the breadwinner in the family. Let us just focus on him. And then this dad that you are fearing is the one who can give you connections to a certain point. You are talking of a point that today your grandmother calls you daddy, calls you all those sweet names. And I could be Keza. Papa. Which is a good thing or a bad thing? As for me, I'll say, today we shall not say that it's a good thing. Today. But way back it was. Way back it was a good thing. Why though? What has changed? What makes it a bad thing today? And way back it was cool. A man should be strong. Oh. When I was a kid I used to say I was strong. I was strong. Actually at times back when I was in primary, my head teacher used to tell me that while I was at home I was on a cruise with my grandmothers. They stay with their grandmothers. When I was a kid I used to say they don't, anything for example today, if I was going to go and wash my face and you feel it's something very hateful. The whole world is coming down. The whole world is coming down to you and you feel actually I'm being burdened. But if you find that someone who has been with their parents, today when I was just reading an article, I find that when a boy child cries, they say that he's weak. He's very weak. Actually today also boy child really goes through a lot. But Chiro's crying by the way. There's one of the videos she recorded when he was really crying like way back, I think last year. Last year. Yes. Screaming for help, literally. And people judge. Those people who come for his help maybe even cannot talk about the family. When you're talking about the story of Brian Chiro, you'll say I'll say that maybe not all of his family members were very close to him because of maybe let's say the community was in us. It's being told on the social media. But when you look at for example those, especially when we can relate about students especially from the university, in recent days we've had students committing suicide especially boy child in the universities. I can tell an example of from the University of Nairobi because I'm. Where you school yeah. Okay. You'll find that the boy child for example where you can text your parents, you can call your parents you need help. In the campus you call it quenama. Yeah. Quendabila food. Quendabila food. You will find that someone wakes up very early in the morning. He has a class from eight to five at around five. You're starving on an empty stomach. You decide to call your parents at times. You find it's very difficult. Today we can say that boy child, let me also include a girl child. You will find that today we are living in a digital society and everything is being civilized. Where people tend to eager the Western civilization. In when you compare in ancient days, there are certain ads that when you did during those days, sequels, you will be mocked in this society. And not today you find for example, a girl child dressing, we call it my dress, my choice. I'm a violin going on fire. But now during those days, we used to learn that when you dress in such a way, during those days you'll be mocked and even you can be punished. And now when you compare that in today's, you'll find that a girl child wearing such and then you are passing before your parents and all this one will not deter the relationship between you and your father. And it can also even lead to broken relationship with your parents at all. You are dressing in such a way your mother is also supposed to do it in such a way. You'll find your dad. When you listen, they call him when I'm dead, be it kid come at you. So you can find that one of my parents is a child and a mother is a child. A father and a mother is a child. But it's happening. It's a real thing. I've actually heard so many stories now that you brought it up. Now that relates to today's relationship between parents and the ancient days. In the ancient days, I believe there were no such clothes and no one was eagerness in the western mode of dressing. But I don't think it was Marinda Kubwaka or Holy Mary, Mother of Jesus or Mother Teresa, covered from head to toe, like the only person on any matter. In the ancient days, the head, the societal Lord, we can call them the beliefs. There were some penalties that you would say that you are a pig. A pig is a type of pig especially if you are going tethering. So you are told that but you can't do that in the ancient days. That's incest, literally. And actually, using those reports, the numbers of incest may increase, especially from interiors. This comes in, for example, when you are marrying a wife, who comes with the baby, especially a girl child? You will find most of the cases, for example, I'm marrying a lady and she comes with her daughter. The daughter, Pia Meweza, you find that daughter Meweza, she is a mother. This especially happens to the step-daughters. They are really facing a lot. Wow, very serious. Now, the relationship, it now in Akatisa, especially in Katia, was with a father and a daughter. I told of a story that when you get close to your wife, you will find a very good way of expressing yourself, like you will speak your mind. And for example, let's say today, I was raised up with a nanny since I was born, I didn't even see my mother. Because she was busy working to get money to pay your fees, anyways, which she had no choice. She either has to work, pay your fees or stay at home and you don't go to school. So now you see the communication, communication between you and the nanny and the parents will be very difficult. You will find it very easy to address the nanny and like your parents, the nanny is not there for you. Because you are a king here and after-pacer, but he is not there to address you. You see some of the movies where someone, let me talk, not someone, a child is being raised by a nanny. You saw it was last year, where there is this Kenyan who was a brother, who went to, who was looking for a job. And then after she had found a job abroad, a time came when she was supposed to come back in Kenya. She was in this Wazungu family. Wazungu family. And then they never wanted her to come back. Or they wanted her to come back again and not go back to Kenya. They wanted her to come back, but now the children didn't want her. Oh, the kids were against it. They thought the kids were the one rooting her for her. The kids were running to the nanny and leaving behind their parents. So now the communication. Actually, I will say, and I will encourage that parents today should actually try and be with their children. Even if at all you are busy, that busy. But you should find time. Find time to talk to your kids. Today I may find something very difficult that this one only now needs my dad who should address this to him. But maybe you are now mature and you don't need your dad's voice. I will say there is no maturity, especially we've been told of this. That something that I can't see while standing, my dad can't see it, actually, while seated. Wow, okay. Good one. I may feel or let me just talk of this. I'm a boy child. Let me talk of the sexual education. Actually, you need that. Oh, boy child is needed. That was an argument whether men need sexual education and stories of sex hygiene or it should only be diverted to the girl child. And I think it was a dramatic conversation. They were like, this is a boy's monofunzone. But then I brought in stories of circumcision trauma. And I pointed out there's people who come from the interior, especially boys who want to cause a little interior communities. Their circumcision is done in such a traumatizing way that by the time they're 50, they'll still be remembering that painful ordeal. But it was only just a cut. It was so painful and torturous. But nobody addresses that anyways because there is a boy child and sexual hygiene and sex education now that you brought it up here. You'll find that, for example, let me say those who undergo the traditional way of circumcision and those who go into the modern way of circumcision. You can find, for example, you are sharing a blade with those who are using the traditional way of circumcision. And they are bleeding a lot. They are crying a lot because they are not injected in any of the pungus. It's called anesthesia. They're not put anesthesia as compared to anyone who went to Hosea. And they were just told to memorise and they're like, oh, to memorise and you're just walking. Because you've not felt that torturous pain because of the anesthesia. So you will find that, for example, when you don't even stay close to your parents, but now it comes to a point that you are now going through this cut, the traditional way, you're facing a lot. It can even affect you personally, the psychological way. It really affects you. Even physically, they won't take long to heal. They won't take long to heal. And they might even develop into another story. Not even told a story. I've ever seen this. They say that especially those who feed a lot on red meat, especially those who feed a lot on red meat, much proteins, especially now the wound doesn't heal very fast. And there's no traumatisation. And it's not medicated. It even leads to trauma. For example, let's say today, you and I, we are going through the same cut. And then you, you're out of the room very early, maybe two to three weeks, we're going through the same corner. And now you're leaving me behind. Actually, that traumatises me. You'll go, you start laughing at me. And now that brings in that a boy child. Also need the sex education. We call it SHR. Right. So what do you think should be addressed in that specifically? What do you think should be addressed in that with parents now? Now, even before including the parents, this one should be now between the brother and sister. Or brother and sister. Not brother and dad. Or brother and brother. Let me talk of brother and sister first. Okay. You'll find that, for example, when you began the conversation, I said that you can find the communication between you and parents. It's so... It's broken. It's broken. And the only person you can find peace with is your brother or your sister. For example... Or even your nanny. Yeah. That's good. For example, today you can find the, the girl child going through this, the menstrual flow. And then she finds it very difficult to address the mother or to address the father. And now you are the only boy, or you are the only person who is very close to her and she can actually address that too. Yeah. So the communication between parents and today youth, it has actually broken. Some of the parents, I'll say some, I will not say many because I've not come across many of the parents. You'll find that they go for these forums where they can even learn online or even go for physical forums. And they are educated these, especially using, through the social media. You'll find some of the ways that a parent can talk to their child either directly or indirectly. I may find it very difficult to address my dad, for example, when personally, today, let me call it, there is this thing called masturbation. Oh, that can seen with porn. Yes. When you're talking of these, actually you'll find that it really affects you and you when you're an addict, especially, I was told that the day you start watching this, it's like bangi, it's actually very difficult. And then now this comes in when you find that now on your mental health, it really affects you. When you're talking about the mental health, let us start talking about the health of your personal health first of all, the sexual hygiene. You'll find very difficult things like maybe they call it, what will I say? Now, because of lack of, the better what to use, I'll say one minute, man, call of that. No, because of excessive masturbation. Excessive masturbation. Now, just hold it right there. I remembered something. There's one of the guests I interviewed here who said porn is a stage for boy child. He said it here. He said my masturbation and porn is a stage. So, I don't know. But he's, he's still in campus. It's a stage, but I disagreed because not everybody goes through that. If I was here that day, I would have disagreed with him. This is mindset. So, it's a mindset. But then also the question was where was your parents? Where were your parents while you were watching all these videos? And he said, for him, the first time watching an adult's video was when he was in class five, pretty much too young to even start thinking about things. About that in first century. Yes, exactly. Someone is exposed to using a phone or a smartphone even in class two. And then watching this comes especially if it's peer pressure. And also sometimes it's peer pressure. How can peer pressure lead you to watching adult content? Today, for example, there are those boys in boarding schools who can sneak in with their phones. It's something, you know. And now, it comes to a point where you feel like I need to do this. You don't concentrate. You just want to do this thing. You cannot address it even to your peers. And because you're sneaking in with the phone to school and someone who is used when I talk a lot I'm exposed to my parents. Oh, okay. Interesting discoveries. Because of your parents, your friends, there's no girlfriend. There's no checker. There's no girlfriend. It's a thing. They'll actually mock you out of the circle. Yeah. So it excludes you from the rest of the clique. And not because I want to fit in. I'll actually have to do what they're doing. All right. But also the question is what did your parents teach you about morality? Now that you're talking about relationships. Essentially, parents teach their children about morality. It's actually very difficult because some of the parents today are committed. My dad will not find time talking to me about how I should browse my phone, how I should use my laptop, how I should use my gadgets, especially the electronic ones. Live alone gadgets. Let's talk about meeting your first girl or having a crush on your first girl. Because it's a thing. It's a stage, I believe so. So here you are in Form 1 or I don't know, most stories I've had in Form 1 or others immediately after Class 8 or even in Class 6, 7. So you have a crush on this chick and probably the connection is really connecting. The Bluetooth device is really 100%. But then your mom, I don't know if it's your mom or your dad should be the one to tell you that, hey, what you're going through is not a real thing. But I'm glad I appreciate you that you are interacting with women at this young stage. At least it shows you'll not be gay anyways. But I don't know the relationship that a dad should have with a son to a point like Columbia. Your dad, hey, dad, I think I have a girlfriend. And have you personally ever told your dad or your mom, hey, mom, I'm super. And what was her reaction? To be honest, to be honest, no one will ever tell the parents that they have a girlfriend. Why not? Because I believe your mother should be asking. So you're calling them to what's happening at your own campus. That all comes in special. When you are in campus, now that one is understandable. Because it's a secret and nobody is watching. When you're in high school, they'll tell you focus. We came to the university to teach you what to do and what not to do. Which is not true, right? Hey, hey, hey. It is not true. Ah, okay. And so now, you see the relationship, me addressing my dad, that dad, I found this cheek. I would really love to have some mafia with their cheek. Yeah. What could be a possible reaction from your dad? A possible reaction. First of all, my dad. Why are you, why, by the, a very hardcore relationship with their dads. Actually, 90% when you're a mom, even men who are married, there's still like relationship. You can have a dad. It's, but mom, it's up there. But dad, why, why is it so, especially in African traditional? You know, you must act as the, you are the head of the family. You are the dad. And there are some things that you should not entertain in the family. If I'm at home too and I'm telling dad they have a girlfriend. So. Which is actually the right stage to tell your dad your girlfriend informed you. Informed too. Yes. Exactly. Because that's where you start your puberty, like it's, in fact, that's where your puberty starts ending. Having a girlfriend that is not a good thing, but having a girlfriend. Oh, it's not a good thing. Sorry. Having a girlfriend is a good thing. Okay. But having girlfriends, it's not a good thing. Okay. So, when I'm telling my dad that I have a girlfriend, my dad will ask me now, since you are a man now to start your family. When you're delusional, you just have to take it like it is. Which is now very difficult. But I find out when you're dating, maybe you impregnated someone. Especially girl child. Let us also focus on the girl child. But girl child are usually given a soft treatment with fathers. Do you know that? I'm not saying all, but from the story. Tell the story and even since I'm, you're in campus, you already know what is good for you and what is bad for you. You actually have the wisdom. Okay. But at all, for example, you got pregnant while in campus. Yeah. And then, we are going home maybe for a short, let's say, for a long break, a long holiday. And you go home while pregnant. Do you know, I've had some of the stories that no parent or even a mother will allow you to stay with them. Some of them until you go back from whoever gave you the pregnancy. And now, this one needs to be pressured. Where you can find it, that someone a mom or a kid you are. And now, you see, if I will start down with my parents and told them, actually made a mistake and because I've had that flashing or a button may lead to death and actually, at very high risk, especially while a button has a kuffa. And you found it so ethical that I should I should just raise the pregnancy. It's not like Mr. Rudi at all. Is it a reason why a birth control or drugs are so on demand, especially in campus students? Actually, there's a stunt that was done. They say, P2 equal way up there on demand. Not in advance. I hear there's even one like you get a yearly injection and you'll never get pregnant. And funny thing is they are HIV. They are afraid of getting pregnant. So they'd rather get AIDS than, say, break news and pregnant. Which I was feeling like it's safer to get pregnant because it has a life in the land than HIV. It's terminal. There's this president of Oswa, the university level. Her name is Madam Esther Gitaranga. She's the one championing for the girl child. Yeah. And told her yesterday in a WhatsApp group discussion, they were talking about you can, the best way you are, you are just addressing about the P2, some of the contraceptions, you get a one injection using the pills. You can even go to some, especially when now, you fear to address even the doctor, because I want money. You'll address me with an octave of tape and adults and actually one of the girls yesterday pointed out a point that who you are Panadol. You are given, you went for the P2 and in connection with the P2 and then you're under a chase war. Yeah, you don't see any difference. But also, so the contraceptive was to do what exactly in this situation to flush out the pregnancy. To flush out the pregnancy actually. But now I told my parents these are zapping. What is the worst thing you gangster up and make a call to your dad and tell him dad, I'm pregnant. Well, God is not going to come back that time. In the confidence to tell your parents that I'm pregnant, it's very difficult. Especially, but if you have your siblings or even your elder sister or brother, those are always the first people you'll actually interact with them for maybe friends that have already been pregnant. I I was honest with them and they were like how did you address these two parents? Actually, to be honest I was very close to bringing the topic to the parents. Yeah. So what happened in short? Well, of course, of course. Yeah. But, where will you go? It has already happened because I believe in this situation. It has already happened. It's either you bought it or you keep it and it's nothing you can do. But also, the question is, again, what led you to finding yourself in such a situation? I want to explore and take a look at the topic. Oh, you're exploring the topic. All right. Like, my friend did it. I want to explore it. Peer pressure now? Yes. Okay. That brings us to the topic. Vijana Bado, one of the great, good one. One of the things we should talk about is communication. Mm-hmm. The communication between parents and children or the youth. Mm-hmm. Which let us use the word youth. Yeah. They believe that to Kshafika at the age of 18, mm-hmm. you can identify the good things and bad things. Is it true? When you're 18, you can see through good and bad and you're able to go? I'll, when at the age of 18, personally I believe you should be able to identify between good and bad things or the good and evil things. Mm-hmm. No one will tell you that this is alcohol, that drink this alcohol. If you've never tried it, why should you do it? Mm-hmm. Why should you do it? You know it's evil. Mm-hmm. You've seen people who drink and drink a lot and they come so drunk on a big body. Mm-hmm. Like, totally you are my laver. Yeah. And now this one, even retards your reputation. Mm-hmm. Macquarie, Virginia, Kibisa. Mm-hmm. So, I told you are doing this and now your parents don't know about it. Yeah. And actually, you need their advice. Mm-hmm. I'm putting this, it's through your mother. Mm-hmm. You tell your mother. Actually, for the boy child, we'll address the mother. Mom, this has happened to me and I'm finding myself lost in this. Mm-hmm. For the girl child, you'll see them addressing their fathers. Yeah. The relationship between parents and the youth today. Mm-hmm. Now it depends with the communication. Mm-hmm. But also, still on that point, how does your dad correct you as a gentleman? Mm-hmm. I've heard stories that are like, you know, they usually say, they are to beauty to the other parents. You know, I don't see. If your dad will just text them. Yeah. And if you are a sura, no one is like sura, you know, such statements actually permanently are eged in your spirit and in your mind. Yes. And you grow up with dad-uns. So here, they're called dad-uns and then there's also mam-uns where the thing is your mother says to you like, you can't even believe you came out of her like, you're not my mother if you're saying this to me. But she is your mother. It's just that maybe for her as well, she's never had a chance to learn how to communicate effectively. I don't know This parents who I want to get to come neighborhood. Well, and the kid they are talking to is like a two-year-old kid But Zilema to see this mama is telling that kid. You're like, oh my goodness You'll find this are not brilliant store this close attention or between the relationship between the child the opposite parent If my mother telling me that they wouldn't even come about back always picture my father That are causing and when I would do you mind asking dad mama myself, but me And see what dad will say And it's happening actually in most of these homes where maybe the woman is has no respect for the dad Because maybe the dad is not providing because I believe as well if you're a father figure and you're not providing and the mother is taking all The responsibilities there's a way. She will make you feel it Yes, she will make you even if she worships at the altar every Sunday. I preach and you are true I'm okay. She will definitely give a gesture I'll call you she like you're the father of this house and you're not providing That's a for high if you say is when in jingakama like you said she definitely has a point Brand today, you also as parents, they should raise their children in godly ways You should bring your children in godly ways make sure they go to church We if they don't go to church physically make sure they at least attend someone's those almost that always online Today it's a thing with Genesis. They don't want to go to church on Takatu a chill on Netflix I'm not only in the club one. No, also. No, this also depends also on you as a youth, right? we are told that in this a book in the Bible Hebrews in Hebrews chapter 2 chapter 1 verse 2 Okay, you will say that in in the olden days God used to speak to the people to ease people through prophets and through ancestors at times Equally even come to them in forms of for example when you're talking to prophets in form of fire Form of dust you see the story of Moses when you're talking to go through the burning bush Visions, yeah, the visions and but not today. Yeah, the youth the youth What will I say do you? The youth are not using the godly ways to speak to their God They are driven by emotions for example today. They are listening to the voice of money We actually know that children use you listen to the voice of God the voice of Jesus That's why you're told that in John chapter 3 verse 16 that God brought he brought his son that whoever believes in him not very much better lasting life today The youth are listening to the voice of money Nipua Nipua Nipua Nipua Nipua Nipua Nipua Nipua Nipua Nipua Nipua Nipua Nipua Nipua Nipua Nipua Nipua Nipua Nipua Nipua Nipua Nipua Nipua Nipua Nipua Nipua Nipua Nipua Nipua Nipua Nipua Nipua Nipua Nipua Nipua Nipua Nipua Nipua You see, for example, even today, they also told of a story in Kaka-Mega North. There was this story where a class 8, a class 7 boy killed a class 8 boy because of a girl. Who? Class what? A class 7 boy killed a class 8 boy. It was actually... Because of jealousy. Because of jealousy. Because of jealousy. Because of a girl killed in class 7. Supposedly to be a girlfriend. Emma was a girlfriend to him. She was a girlfriend to him. And not because the class 8 one was also... Hinting at him. Hinting at him. Yes. It's only today. So how do you judge that if you're a judge in court? But anyway, we're just about to exit, bro. But also, now that you've brought up so many issues that I really like your mindset and I think we should even have a part one and two. I like your sentiments a lot. Thank you. Especially university students who are battling addiction. I've heard stories of somebody who is deep in alcohol. Like I call it a school. Yes. Alcohol, full blast. Like here and there, you're not scared. You see us, you're not... We'll hear a new name but me, you're not... And but there are songs that promote drinking. Yes, sure. And they give a caution and say excessive consumption of alcohol is harmful to your health. Not for sale to persons below the age of 18 years. You're 18 years and above here. And you have access to alcohol. But you can go home or go to school. You are deep into alcohol. So I like to hear your sentiments for anyone in high-learning institutions battling addiction. Any form of addiction. You mentioned porn in there and you said it's very hard to tell your mom or dad that you're addicted to porn. And now that you have your smartphone, you're the only one who is controlling that smartphone anyways because you have access. Now there's things like only funds. You know, they're helping people to make money and doing what you've just said here. So for anyone going through that, what do you think they should do if they can't access their parent and they can't access their system? Or literally in the case of Brand Sheeran, he had no one. It was only the grandma and they were not in constant communication. He was out in the world alone. And look what has just happened. The first point you're talking about the addiction. Maybe for example someone watching porn and being addicted to masturbation. The solution to that, actually, you're finding a very... To find a solution, you must be in a relationship. To find a solution must be in a relationship. You must be in a relationship. Actually that is the best solution I can tell my fellow boys. Oh, those who are addicted to porn. Yes. Or get into a relationship. But it can escalate. Because you know, addiction doesn't care if you're a pastor's kid or in a relationship. Let me tell you this. Brand, I'm used to watching porn and I invited my... You know some of the parents know that their children stay in the hostels. But in Dottoblu, Olympelika, Shule, actually went to the hostel for one week and then got married. They stayed there, boyfriend. Alipatam to Maradat that. So you see, if I'm close to this person, I'm going to access my phone and start watching porn. Not unless you seek upstairs. But then look, a good example, just hold it right there. But you're having sex even more than your parents. You're enjoying the marriage rights more than your parents. Yes. Don't you see that's happening as compared to just what you said? It is happening. And by there today, even you'll see in social media memes talking about do your parents actually know that you even had more relationships than them? You've also had more divorce than them. Or even you've washed more clothes than your mom washes more clothes. And you've washed for different guys. It's something that happens. It's a thing that should be addressed, right? That one should be addressed actually. But then I'm also looking at it. If this lady, she's in her son's context of mind and she has made that decision that she will continue moving from one relationship to another until she... You know what they say? You will kiss so many frogs until you've landed your prince. So probably she's in her kissing frog era. That day. On social media, you've heard of this story escalating especially from at the university. With the names we've heard from Nairobi Gossip Club that this girl Chalu has confessed. That along this road called Mamlaka Road. That especially on Fridays evening. Actually on this story, University of Nairobi. But then there's something that happens in there because it's true, a personal experience. My sister used to go to school there and I used to see Friday like there's a busy pick up. For me at first I used to think it's Paris picking their kids on Friday night for a couple like a home. And then later on I learnt that none of those men picking those girls at University of Nairobi is their parent. It's their boyfriend or sponsor or something else. Now when I saw it on Communto Instagram now that you've said it and the confession that you're just about to say I was like, what? And it's happening every Friday. Every Friday. What? What's your story? That few of the high profile people picking them. And where's your mom and dad? Well, all these are happening. Comrades want money. They're doing it for money. And you see she confessed because they wanted money. For a night I'm giving $70,000. That's a good amount. The second point you also talked about after now how to address the issue of porn and I've just said that a solution according to me that's my postulate. Getting a relationship. What about disconnecting from your mobile devices? Because the more you stay on a mobile device the more like the signs will just be there. It will lead you automatically anyways. The sites or their platforms on your phone that actually you should do away with them. Do we have feedback? All right. There's no feedback. Okay, cool. Sousa bro, we have to go because it's one minute to 10 a.m. Your social media handle Mojito where people can find you and access you and maybe get to Hala at you. Mojito. So you can get me on X at Mojito underscore dengis. All right. So I'll follow him. I definitely would like to have a part two with this guy. I thought being a solo guest it would be tragic but nope, you've gotten an excellent from me and I loved it. Thank you so much. I will definitely see you tomorrow for innovations and entrepreneurship at Y2 for 4 Channel and at Brands.com. Have a fantastic Monday. See you tomorrow.