 Katie I am so thrilled to chat with you tell me about your sexuality so my sexuality I don't exactly like to put a label on to it But if I had to it's around the bisexual pansexual area. Oh beautiful. Yes. I mean you got love for everybody Oh, yes love for all. Yes, you have never gone down on a woman before no not yet Is it an area that you're at all insecure about I'm I am afraid of looking inexperienced But I'm hoping to gain more confidence so I can go in there and be like, okay I know what I need to do and practice makes perfect. I love that because confidence is a result of practice, right? And also to yes, you can practice in a live person, but you can also get the information You know really run through it for yourself understanding your own body as practice and then go and apply it to another human being And so that was very first tip to giving someone mind-blowing kind of lingus You want to make sure that you take your time right now in order for the clitoris to truly get a Sensitive as it's going to be the clitoral hood needs to peel back the area needs to fill with blood and all this can Take some time which is good for you Because you can take your time elsewhere now arogenous zones are anywhere where there's a cluster of nerve endings So for example, this is an arogenous zone mostly where joints are connecting But this the general area is a hotbed of arogenous zones and not necessarily just the clit. Okay interesting I actually did not know that okay interesting So this is where you can use your entire mouth to tease Kiss lick all over the body when you start to get to the ten minute or so mark You can start to move downwards towards the genital region and that's when using the entire area the Mons pubis Which is where hair grows. Yes massaging that air can be really nice as well, too And finally when your partner is begging for it That's when you're going to go to the clit the first thing you want to do is find out what kind of stimulation that your partner likes Okay, and this is where communication can be incredible in the bedroom. Yes so the four different areas that you can really ask about our direct stimulation in direct stimulation Sucking or palming. Hmm. So direct stimulation is all the attention on the hot button There you go. You're actually gonna be flicking the clit with your tongue directly Indirect is orbiting around that might be a circular You know sort of wrap around or it could be even wider and doing the entire of all the area Some people like sucking which is where you put your lips around the clit and then you're just Sucking it up. Right. Yeah And then there's something that's called palming some people call this hunching as well, too And this is just almost like a shifting of the entire area. Oh, okay So somebody who likes to masturbate while humping something they might prefer palming So asking your partner how they masturbate might help to Uncover some of these or being down there and being like do you prefer this direct lick or that? Circling around like yeah, you prefer this if I suck on it or that if I move it with my hand Yeah, that's where the communication which ones hitting your buttons right now. What one works best for you Honestly, all the above sounds amazing. I mean I would appreciate all of it. All right So now we started slow and figured out what kind of stimulation that they like. Yes Now how do we stimulate when we're down there whether it is direct indirect sucking etc? There is a certain pattern people like so can I see your palm a second may I yes, all right So the different types of stimulation would be now there is consistent Consistent means if they like this, that's all you're doing over and over again I am consistent when I say that feels good. I mean don't stop. Yeah, exactly. Don't get any crazy ideas Yeah, exactly it some people like a rhythmic motion and so rhythm would be just like up around down tap Up around down tap whatever their rhythm is you repeat that over and over again Fun fact a lot of people's right side of their clit is more sensitive. Interesting. Now. There's also surprise Mmm, and that Anything goes you just basically playing you're trying a whole bunch of different stuff. Nothing is consistent You're surprising the nerve endings. They don't know what's coming next, right? But again, it depends on the person like I said surprise wouldn't work for me Okay But it might feel like amazing for someone else right and the final tip is to get Handsy your hands they can do a lot of other really great stuff number one The clitoris is not just the button. It is shaped like a wishbone. It's an entire network of pleasurable nerve endings And so okay the clit actually runs down the entire length of the vulva. So your hands can be cupping and Massaging up and down with your thumbs as you're licking so to get the legs of the clitoris Interesting your hands can also obviously be penetrating them. Yes, and working towards that G region area That's really sensitive. Yeah, or put it in the booty They like that. Yeah, and especially if you've warmed that area up that might feel really great for that person Also to spreading the labia apart gives you more stimulation for the clitoris Notice that yeah, definitely notice that but somebody who has a very sensitive clitoris might find that's too much direct stimulation Right, so I want to say as a final bonus technique a way to be amazing at cunnilingus is to praise the pussy Mm-hmm giving your partners lots of reinforcing compliments. You taste amazing. You look amazing I love the way that your body reacts to every touch. Yeah, you got a beautiful vulva You would be surprised how few times people actually hear those direct compliments. So true That's so true. I know I would love hearing that I would love hearing that Actually, my husband recently told me like maybe two weeks ago that he loves the taste and I was like, why have you been keeping this information? Like it just really is something that feels really good to hear and actually helps that your partner receive and feel better But receiving oral because they know that you're loving every moment of it That sounds great. Do you feel more confident after today to go forward and please a woman so much more confident I've learned so much more. Oh my gosh. Well, I hope that you make several people come over and over again I hope it's great for you. Thank you so much for your curiosity. Well, thank you for teaching me Oh, no problem. Thank you for watching sexology. We'll see you next time