 Ladies and gentlemen hope my My live live or work on here and make sure I got my Settings right want to pop in tonight and do a quick little live God bless y'all for the blessed tribe Somebody say you can't see my last video I don't know what's going on cuz you know some people seen it some people didn't I'm not sure what's going on You might have to go to the video click on it and hit like submit feedback and Maybe send that to YouTube. I'm not sure what what happened It was a lot of issues going on with YouTube yesterday like on my screen It was saying, you know, this isn't available. This isn't available. So I don't know what What they got going on sometimes it happened to me if I'm watching the video and I just have to like close out the app open it up and Fast forward back it up. So I'm not sure what's going on with that and A lot of times too sometimes it'll get thrown off just because of the ads So they trying to place the ads in there and sometimes that may throw it off. I'm not sure honestly Hey, that's good you able to catch the live Terry Thank you for being a member of bless tribe now the bless tribe that to join To be a part of our Q&A's the link is in the description Me or more I'm doing great now what you'll notice as y'all little icon as those things change colors It changed colors with each month that you've been a member And I think the highest color is is red and I think that's after six months the bless tribe only been Okay, my bad. All right. I'm bad. I'm bad Alarm went off and I forgot to put my phone on do not disturb people be Calling me and text me everything So, yeah, um with the bless tribe those Things your icon changes colors each month Glam rocks. Say y'all single mothers might stay single. Hey Do what you got to do when you can do it. Now, let me see Somebody just said no sound. Oh, you probably caught it when I just was out Now you see how? Nacocha put the hashtag Q when you got a question put that hashtag Q in there So I could see it How many disagreements are normal in a relationship? But not deal breakers You might have a disagreement every day You might have a disagreement every other day because you got to realize you're dealing with another human being So a disagreement should not become an argument. See that's the difference You may disagree on something But the two of you got to love each other enough to get to the place to where you're not gonna argue about stuff And it's and it's a little annoying when you disagree on stuff and everybody want to be right and everybody want to convince the other person But you just got to learn how to be emotionally intelligent and be the bigger person my wife is really great at it and I'm trying to be as great as she is at it And but I think we both realize, you know, we kind of have a saying in our relationship if it's not worth Breaking up over it's not worth arguing over So that's what we kind of live by if it's not a deal breaker, then we're not even gonna argue. Okay, that's how you feel That's what you think great congratulations and vice versa That was nice you did the single Mom's video we saw the lady who asked for it last week. Okay, that's great Yeah, somebody asked for it to last night in on Instagram. So I said, let me do this I want to stay away from it. Just cuz I felt like it was a real small audience But you know being if I'm trying to do a video a day. It's 365 days in a year. I'm like, I might as well answer every question How do you address someone who doesn't call you often? But Partly because you friends on them before If you friends on Him before you got to ask yourself why did you friends on them and don't take them out the friends on just out of desperation So if that's not your husband, that's not your husband Single mom's chat was life-changing for me. Hey, God bless you You know, some people get it it bless some people and some people be mad Why can't I stop thinking about my ex? Because you have a soul tie, you know, well, whatever you want to call it, but it's normal That's normal. I'm mad. I really want to see your last video. I view as soon as you upload somebody said watch it from Google like get the link to it and Paste it in like the Google search or the Google web browser and watch it there instead of watching it from the YouTube app That's what I've seen somebody said they had to do. I pretty much been single for five years Men men that do approach me or at least ten years younger Do you think it may have something to do with where I'm living? It could if it's just a bunch of young men, but it is most likely because you look younger You probably look younger and so they might think you you're their age I mean, that's always a compliment. It also is because younger men have less inhibitions. So younger men are a little bit more Ignorant so a young man might not Process as much his his doubts his fears his insecurities where the older man gets the more He thinks and analyzes stuff which kind of slows Older men down some from approaching women Tony I've been watching that all day while I do my work might be my favorite so far I'm guessing y'all talking about the single mom video I was out my element on that I really y'all confuse me sometimes I shoot a video and I'm like man video terrible And then people be like man that video blessed me. So I say I'm just stay out the way and let God do what he's doing Question I told my parents I wanted to vlog for a living and they looked at me crazy thoughts on that They want me to keep going to school Keep going to school and vlog, you know vlog going to school vlog walking the class Vlog going from class, you know until it start to make some money it take time to build up on YouTube I've been on here since 2011 and It's 2020 I've been on YouTube Since 2011, you know, and I still got a long ways to go and I earn now I earn from YouTube now cuz them ads that y'all see when you watching a video, but that take time So on YouTube, you got to get a thousand subscribers and then you got to have 4,000 watch hours Meaning that they told up all the time that people don't want your videos and it got the total to 4,000 before they monetize you now It could be a full-time Living you could earn, you know more than people earn with masters and doctorate degrees on YouTube Real talk now so it is something if you serious about it and you get down with it You're gonna need to post about three videos a week to really gain some traction though Is it strange to be fine? With being single till your children get older. I'm 40 No, that's not strange. That's your intuition talking to you. That's your spirit talking to you That's peace. That's blessings. That's favor. That's a good place to be in Talk about men who are quitters Well, I'm a quit talking about them, but I you know, I really don't Understand everything you know that men do and to be honest with you a lot of men just quit out of fear Just a lack of knowledge not being taught not being raised And so you came really focus on that you got to just keep pushing forward You can't worry about a man and his problems if he's not trying to be present in your life Thanks for all the free game you give us your videos help me leave a very toxic situation of 12 years Hey, that's big. Now. I do not tell him that you know me Do not mention my name. Don't let him hear no video because he's gonna be looking for me 12 years He gonna be looking for me. You hear me? Hey, Tony. Have you heard of? No contact rule. If so, do you suggest it for 30 days to heal their relationship? To heal a relationship post break up. So after you break up I Have not heard of the title of the rule, but I Teach that on when you break up with somebody to heal you got to cut off all contact You know, you have to block them if it was really serious. You got to block them. You got to cut off there You got to cut off mutual friends. Sometimes you got to get distance from mutual friends You got to cut off their family members You really have to cut all the way off to be able to cut that soul tie and to be able to pull back and see what happens A lot of times people try to leave a relationship but then you still keep it in touch and when you keep it in touch some people break up and Y'all texting every day. You definitely will never heal like that So, you know, you do have to have no contact. Now the question comes up Well, what about if we have, you know, responsibilities together and we got a co-parent or what have you in that situation? You got to reduce all conversation down to just business a business transaction. You got to be specifically about You know, y'all's responsibilities together. Sometimes it's a business sometimes it's children. Sometimes it's a dog or another animal And that's all y'all talk about H flowers, God bless you. Thank you so much for that blessing H flowers, Lord bless, bless, pull out in our life How do you deal with distancing yourself from your ex-family and friends and them being upset? Because you did to heal Okay, we just were talking about that there You let God deal with them, you know, distance yourself and pray for them. Lord bless them Give them peace. Give them a wholeness. Give them prosperity, you know Say a preform, but you can't worry about, you know, them being upset about yourself care As they say self-care is not selfish. Ms. Laredo. God bless you. Thank you so much for your blessing Thank you, Tony. God bless you. I watch all of your videos and read your books I want to do the life coach certification, but I have no experience. I want to do a coaching session before it's booked Yeah, definitely do the coaching session and no coach has experience, you know, you take the the training You that that helps you a lot then you may go and book a coach For a few sessions and see how a session is ran and then you set your price at $25 an hour so that when somebody books you as you're learning and you're growing It's not like they're having to, you know, eat noodles and you just keep getting better and better and better You know, you keep learning and and but that's what the trainers are recommended for training is not required Certification is not required in in coaching a lot of people don't understand that Certification is not required accreditation is not a thing You'll see is it accredited by this accredited accreditation does not exist in coaching because it's not governed by the Federal government or the state. It's not like counseling and therapy It is an open field for passionate people who want to help others So understand that a lot of people won't tell you that and they'll try to make it look like oh you gotta get certified And it gotta be accredited and with this company or that company And that's all just kind of preying on people who don't really know the industry, but Coaching is a passion industry, you know It's about if you want to help somebody and they value you enough to pay you For the value you're gonna provide in their life the support you're gonna give then that's their personal choice And you're not diagnosing them and you're not prescribing So that's that's how coaching works. I'm talking to a 51 year old. We're friends But he keeps saying he's interested But we only been on one date been talking to him for nine months and he always says he's busy. Okay to me You need to put your track shoes on now You need to be bent over right now tying your shoes up listen to him cut him all the way off because he blocking your blessings And this the thing if you deal him with somebody and They're not moving forward y'all don't win on one date in nine months and he say he's interested But he always busy come on now you wasting all your time because When you have a man in your situation just what Jesse J. Just told you he married That's exactly what it is He married when you got a man in your situation or he in some kind of situation When you got a man in your life and y'all ain't moving forward He blocking your blessings because when you talking to somebody that makes you feel You know full and so what'll happen is you'll be out and about You'll be out and about and you won't be talking to people and dealing with people Men you won't even recognize them just because of the fact that you've got a man that you talking to But it ain't really your man. So you hurting yourself. So if a man ain't making way quickly listen Caramel kisses say if you would like to bless Tony directly Money sign Tony Gaskins is his cash out his B. Day is March 8th Sunday Now Caramel kisses. That's not my she she my sister in the Lord I just met her for the first time at the life coach sir Oh the singles event and she'd be on here supporting me. She does not work for me I know some of y'all think that oh, she might be a plant Tony might have his staff in there No, she in the bless tribe. She support me and she'd be blessing me because cuz and Caramel I'm praying blessings over your life. God bless you pull out in your life I'm claiming favor for you because she'd be blessing me and People be cash-shopping me a dollar here and there, you know five dollars here and there Some people get them a blessing some people. I don't know they got a good job But what got a check come in. It's it's them being people and sent me two hundred dollar cash out Yeah, I ain't tell you no lie and I say Lord. Thank you. Bless you. I'm gonna receive this and I'll be praying over y'all I'm not gonna tell you no lie. I literally said prayer for you and one lady She was sending me like a dollar every day and every time she sent that dollar I say a prayer for and she'll send me a dollar the next day because you can't chat on cash out so I can't send a message that say thank you so much I just could hit that heart and I say a prayer for and she'll send another dollar the next day I'm like Lord must be moving in her life because you keep sending me a dollar I said the Lord must be moving in her life. So caramel kids. Hey, I sure appreciate you Because they had a lot of places in your path. You hear me? Are there any good men left? That's a good question. I'm gonna tell you something though. I'm gonna tell you something about that see this hell See this hell what they say They say a woman's influence. I'm gonna tell y'all the truth now You see this hell woman influence you got to pre-order this I got I got the hard book because they sent this to me But you got to pre-order this to come out next month. Make sure you pre-order this now But I'm gonna tell y'all the truth when you come to good men There are good men But just because a man is good don't mean he know how to be a good husband See it's a difference between it's a difference. So what you got to understand Sequoia Harris. God bless you. Thank you Bless her Lord pour out in her life What you got to understand is just because he's a good man don't mean he knows how to be a Perfect husband a perfect boyfriend because when it comes to relating with the opposite gender it is not easy and For me and all women you got to learn so understand that it's good men now But he still got to learn and he learned based on what you allow What you stop what you allow and what you reinforce That's how he's gonna learn Hey, I'm glad y'all pre-ordered that they released their starship of the month on April 7 I was getting to know a guy that got so upset when he knew I was listening to your videos and podcasts a Man don't want you to have that knowledge. He don't want cuz he know he know if you listening to me He know all the games out the window He knows that if you listen enough you gonna hear every little game he try to pull Every little game. That's why I mean get mad with me But I don't care you scratch your booty and get glad like my daddy used to tell me don't get mad son scratch your booty and get glad because hey, it is what it is I got to do the work of the Lord because When when we elevate this here level Then men can't play games and it's on the man because the man want to be the head the man want to be the lead So you need to stop playing games But one thing that I know because I'm a man is I can't tell it to a man because I could tell a man all day until I'm blue in the face and I'm brown I could talk till I'm blue in the face and he's not going to make a change if a woman does not have the game So I got to equip I got a challenge the man and I got to equip the woman so that the playing field is level So that the woman can see the game when he come to play it and when all them game getting shut down When all them games getting shut down because I'm showing up an hour a day on YouTube and them games getting shut down Guess what? Men gonna have to elevate they're gonna have to elevate because now women ain't falling for it because the Lord is allowing me to get Right now one point. No one point five million views a month on on YouTube That's that that's a lot, but it ain't a lot Because it's a whole lot more than one point five million people and that ain't one point five million people That's one point five million divided by five Because every person who watched my videos on average watch five videos, so I might really be reaching 300,000 people a month and it's a whole lot more women than that in the world So I got to keep working, but the more get the message the more them games gonna get cut out Now hold on now. Somebody had a question up here. I was about to get to a tool Now y'all know I'll be talking now. Um, you are special to me. Thank you for that blessing God bless you. Just want to say thank you and God bless you Tony God is molding lives through the gift He placed in you a God bless you. I really appreciate it now one thing y'all don't understand Is about this spiritual warfare? I'm trying to learn right now how to turn off my messages on Instagram so I could stop receiving messages because just so many spirits be coming at me Be coming at me trying to knock me off the work trying to keep me from the work Will series portion of the book be told in her voice in the audio? Yes, it will she recording her audio Next week So yes, it will My ex opened doors. He always got me flowers always paid on dates and he still was a dog. Uh-huh be trying to tell y'all Dogs know how to play the game too. You got to remember the devil know Bible scriptures The devil know the Bible like the back of his hand I'm divorced But have a good relationship with stepkids Did not get a chance to talk with them about Since the divorce should I contact them? age 16 and 20 Since the divorce. Yeah, if you got a good relationship, I think they'll like to hear from you 415 Money or money. God bless you. Thank you. God bless you boy in a life Lord Any good men that are that are not five to ten years younger than me That is all that approaches me Five you still in the range if he five years younger, you still in the rain 10. That's your son I'm waiting on the audio book soon come I'm starting to think I have to approach the older men because only young ones come after me Hey count that as a blessing The pianist, thank you so much for that blessing. I see you up there in the yellow. God bless you My boyfriend makes me believe He will drive to see me about 45 minutes away But changes plans every week And says he will come on such and such day. It seems he only changes when I threaten to break up with him If he only 45 minutes away and he's not coming to see you You are not his girlfriend You are not his girlfriend. You are his pen pal And that's what you have to understand You hear me because if you his girlfriend 45 minutes If I like a woman, I'm driving that 45 every day I'm driving 45 the spin 45 and then drive back 45 if I really like a woman That's what a man going to do. Oh, yeah That's your pen pal You got to realize that and you got to stop threatening to break up and you got to go ahead and let that be your promise Not your threat How do you know You are a toxic woman If you got to ask that question, you probably a toxic woman a woman who is not toxic is not going to ask that question so Raw fashion. Yeah, you toxic Okay, and you just got to start doing the healing you got to start doing the healing And what that means is you got to learn you got to grow you got to identify what hurt you Who hurt you whether that's therapy coaching and start doing the work, but if you got a You know consideration that you toxic A thought then that's that's what it is That's what it is and toxic show up in so many ways It's kind of hard to just say one way we'll be listening all day long You are helping me get over this really bad breakup. It tore up my soul so bad. Thank you Let me see my friend husband just told her Friend guys don't like When a woman tells them too much making it easy They like to chase is that correct 100% 100% why do older guys play mind games and waste people time? That's sad I've been live 24 minutes. Um keel bath and body and I guess you caught this here I've been live 25 minutes. I'm doing an hour tonight. Lord willing I'm doing an hour Shakita, thank you for your time and the commitment. God bless you. I think I said, thank you But I didn't get to read what you said Kelly dating about three months. He wants Me to meet kids mom when she visits she lives in a different state. He has full custody Known him five years. We go to church together Dating about three months. He wants you to meet the kids mom now see That ain't something a man have to do That's not something a man has to do He he could have you around and he y'all could be dating and He could have you around them kids and he got full custody if she got full custody that mean She's unstable. That means she unstable that either means she unstable and he won Or she unstable and she gave him to him either way her opinion don't really matter a whole lot because You know one got to be in a really tough tough state Kara j god bless you for the court to give a man full custody That just that just around the board or he got to be or the man is filthy rich You know like celebrity men they get full custody Because they got that money and they got that the top attorney Christine god bless you asia bless you bless you So understand this he might really want you to meet her for her To rub something in her face to say hey look moving on Because three months you ain't you ain't got to move that fast. So yeah, that's something else there Asia tony, how do you know? How do I know if my standards are too high? I sometimes wonder if I'm being unrealistic in my expectations of a man I'm working on the three B's God bless you asia Kara j a blessing Boy, I didn't in life. Lord bless him Standards too high First I think I got a video called standards verse preferences So you so if it's truly standards and when I say standards, I mean it's rooted in your belief system So your standards are you know things that Really equate to life like you don't want a man who smokes you don't want a man who gets drunk Um Keely crawford god bless you god bless you. You don't want a man who gambles why smoking? That's the longs going to die early might catch cancer Getting drunk killing his brain cells killing his liver or kidney which I want it go to and Going to die early Gambling going to spend all your nest egg going to spend all your savings nasty movies Going to be giving in to lust going to end up cheating So all of these fight clubbing those are standards Now when you start saying he got to be six foot tall He got to earn six figures. He got to have a six pack. He got to like You know A certain kind of music. He got to be athletic He got to be this, you know, all those things are preferences Because they have nothing to do with the grand scheme of things in the big picture. They don't really matter Merch L. God bless you. Thank you lord bless him. So understand the difference. Okay standards He'll lead and help y'all like a little connect Standards is core values Versus preferences characteristics. So you got to understand. So it's no such thing is Standards too high But there is such thing as preferences being too high too unrealistic and so What I typically say is take the numbers off All almost all numbers can be taken off height weight Income those type of things could be taken off now age of matter in there. That's a number sometimes that'll matter four one five Money god bless you God bless you I was dating what seemed to be the perfect guy. He ended things out of nowhere because he was afraid of our future I'm so confused and extremely hurt Well, see this is the thing what you've got to understand y'all hold your question for a second Hold your question for a second. Lakisha. I'm gonna try to remember to get back up to you But hold your question for a second Let me address this right here because this right here happened This gonna happen more often than not now what happened with four one five money Is what you have to realize every guy you meet gonna be perfect If you meet a man and he's not perfect meaning It don't feel like a honeymoon. Then you got the you got to run immediately You got to take off immediately if he's not perfect If you meet a guy he getting on your nerves With his conversation and arguing and debating and being petty you got the you got to take off but If he's perfect then that's what's supposed to be because you meet his representative The other thing what you've got to realize is you can't get your hopes up when you're talking to a man Because you can't start saying oh, he's perfect. You don't even know him So you're meeting his representative and you got to be in expectation of him leaving Because he's dating around he is looking for a wife. So in his life You're auditioning even though you don't call it an audition and you don't want to call it an audition You don't see it like that. That's what you're doing He's looking to feel the role of wife and he taking auditions He holding auditions when he see that he don't feel like you could fit the role He taking off So that's why you can't get your hopes up and imagine y'all know with anything in life Like let's say if you go and do a job interview When you sit and you Get done with that interview and you sitting all day and you biting your nails and you stressing and you doing all this And you doing all that if you don't get the job it hurts so bad You want to cry it hurt you down and out, you know, but When you say it is what it is. I did what I could do It is what it is Lord, if it's your will let it be if not let it slip through my grasp and give me The paint the the peace not to worry about it. It is what it is when you take that approach You much better off if it don't come through you like, okay, it ain't meant to be That's how you got to be with me and you can't go into to it And so desperate and that you go to fantasizing. Oh, he's so amazing. Oh, he's so amazing And now you seeing y'all wedding you seeing your wedding dress you seeing y'all Trip around Europe you you talking to your friends about and all that you got to treat it like another day Okay, cool, but i'm a i'm a whole lot to see i'm a whole lot to see what he talking about i'm gonna see what he on And you and you can't believe nothing Until it's beyond a reasonable doubt now. Let me see if I get back to lakisha taylor God bless you Is it possible to hit the reset button on a relationship that moved too fast been dating for four months? Absolutely. Yeah, you get the reset button You get reset button, but when you hit that reset button, he might hit the eject button So you got to understand that now so Yeah, because you hit the reset don't mean he want to reset So if you jumped into the bed He might and you reset he might be ready to go But if you feel like you need to reset reset because it's going to he's you're going to get to see who he really is Shawshaw god bless you. It's three years too long to date before marriage Um, that's the max. That's the max. That's the max. You need to be married around two years, but Three is the max now once you go past three you you you Yeah, you wasting your time Um, Tony as a life coach. Yes. I'm on my mentor. God bless you. I keep getting asked about maid time versus plan time From men. What are your thoughts on this? um I really don't understand the difference on that right there because if you make time then You plan in time. I don't I don't know if you I don't really understand the difference So it sounds like a cute little phrase, but to me it's the same thing if I'm making time if I'm if I'm planning time I'm making time if I'm making time. I'm planning time So I that they're really I don't really understand that right there now God bless you So it's on the road. Let me see. Why do guys come to disturb our peace? That's a question you got to talk to the Lord but You got to talk to the Lord and that's y'all see me post sometimes I say protect your peace Now I was the first one to say that it went viral after I posted it It went viral now now they're saying protect everything protect your peace protect your sanity protect your heart protect your mind and um But you got to protect your peace every man gonna come to disrupt it Can you please address how to discern when a man is a bit distant because They're in their season of focusing on their money and goals versus excuse for pulling back from the relationship Well, to be honest with you a man goes into his season After he didn't already got you you see what I mean. So Like right now I'm working. This is my purpose Right, but I still Gonna make time for my wife. You see what I mean? So He's still even when he's in his season of focusing on earning money He he can't work 24 hours a day So even if he worked 16 You got another eight So out that eight if you working 16, you the type of person that you're gonna sleep four to six If you sleep six, you still got two Them two need to go to you So if he's serious by so anytime when a man get distant, he is pulling away from the relationship And he ain't gonna be too distant by itself now I told him when you wrote your first book, did you experience writer's block? No, I didn't um Just because I write from the heart. Yeah, I'm just telling the story. I'm telling the story and I'm making a point I'm not trying to sound deep. I'm not I don't do research I'm talking from my experience from the wisdom. God is giving me so I'm not reading articles I'm not reading other books. I'm not researching So I'm not writing like I'm doing a uh college essay or dissertation I'm just writing from my heart my wisdom my knowledge my understanding that God is giving me So I don't experience writer's block all my books even this right here that I wrote here My wife is in here now, but she but see I'm gonna tell y'all how this here go So see here, I write this here chapter a man's world And I write 10 pages And then my wife she come in at the end of the chapter She come in at the end of the chapter and she hit you with charise perspective And she tell you her side of it and then she has some key takeaways for you So even this book right here this book 200 and 227 pages And I wrote this in five days So all my books now this one over here This one 200 and I make it work. Some of y'all got this make it work. I wrote this 276 pages I wrote this in six days. So that's how I write I come from the heart, you know, so so that's what I recommend um when it says Retracted that means somebody posted and then deleted they question Let me go up here and find some questions Tony when is the deadline To book for the self-love retreat in august? I think you could book up to it But if it's probably gonna sell out if you waiting for a deadline, you're gonna be out of love So I will take in Alice god bless you. Alice heart of god bless you. I will take and put your deposit in Because I think the deposit might just be 150 or something like that to hold your spot And then if you can't make it then get your deposit back, but it'll be better to do that than to wait and it sell out Well, a man tried you even more after you tell him you are abstinent I'm 100 percent abstinent till marriage What will he end up doing? Ashley god bless you now. See this the thing with this Ashley now Don't say you abstinent and ain't really abstinent Because if you say you abstinent you end up on your back in six months He's gonna lose all respect for you because you're playing games So make sure that you abstinent and next thing what you got to do is don't tell a man you abstinent until he keep trying you When he trying to sleep with you trying to sleep with you, you don't have to tell him that you're abstinent You could tell him I'm not ready That's the thing with a lot of times women tell a man that they abstinent and you really don't know That you abstinent Then you hope you abstinent you trying to be abstinent But you really don't know what wine and dining session Going to be the one going to be the straw that broke the camel's back and I coach women on this all the time Going and telling the man i'm an abstinent. I'm an abstinent. I'm an abstinent. I'm an abstinent Trying to get some brownie points trying to get some cool points But really ain't really really really really about their life And so what you're going to realize is just just tell him i'm not ready for that I'm not ready for that. We ain't going there. He said when you're going to be ready when you're going to be ready I don't know, but i'm not ready right now And he can ask again next week. I'm not ready After 10 times of him asking you he gonna get the picture Oh, you wanted them celibate. You must be celibate, huh? I ain't know you were celibate And Then he gonna start questioning you like that and you just let him know i'm not ready Because when you tell a man your whole plan and you tell him all that then yes, he may go in the game mode Crystal lee god bless you. Thank you for that blessing How am I being viewed by men as a single mom kids nine through 15 in age Who has been married more than once? When you've been married more than once it means you got this sauce on you It means you got that sauce on you and then other than that it just up to the man Some man gonna think it's cute. Some man gonna think it's too much drama too much headache You know some gonna see it like baggage But the man like you the man for you gonna say wow my family ready made for me here i come baby Talisha walker god bless you our breaks healthy in a marriage. No they're not absolutely not you can't take breaks in marriage If you take a break it got to be one time And you do a three day break if you take another break the max it could be as 14 days When you go to breaking more than two times and three times and you go to breaking more than 14 days Going to the courthouse Curzetta god bless you. Tony. I need some advice about dealing with loneliness. Now when some of these people drop these here colorful Um blessings up there. I got the I got the 10 to on first now because that's how they got this here chat set up Because they working on it helping me get this iPhone 11 pro I still ain't got it y'all, but i'm almost there. Tonya needs some advice about dealing with loneliness I have been waiting on god and i'm feeling hopeless the older I get today is my birthday happy birthday. God bless you. God bless you Ross h bless you. Thank you. Ross bless you Now listen to me kesha griffin bless you listen to me Let me ask you You say you're dealing with loneliness. Now what you're gonna have to do is invest in you And you're gonna have to get out You're gonna have to get out every weekend. You need to be doing something Friday night You you do a tour of the restaurants every Friday night every Friday night You treat yourself out to a different lounge to a different event Okay on saturday you're going to the comedy show or you're going to different parks You're going to the different state parks. You're doing different things. You're getting out of the house You go on one of them sites like meetup.com Join one of the interest groups that you interested in and y'all meeting up Once a month, you're gonna meet new people. What you got to do is I was just coaching on this today Which i'm gonna have to do a video for people dating in their 50s because I coached two clients today And both of them 54 years old and I say lord bless you Thank you lord got people that's a little older than me a few years older than me on here listening and support me and booking me for coaching and um But what I told them is you got to get out and about you got to have you a full schedule The same way when you raising children like my son My my my five-year-old yesterday he did he does yoga And something and don't come telling me about christians can't do yoga This at a christian school and channeling no spirit. They just end up scratching in the dark He does yoga right after yoga. He went to baseball training The next day he did soccer training the next day back to baseball training the same way we do for our kids The same way when when they get grown how you got to do for you You got to create you an adventure schedule kisha griffin men tell me i'm a mystery all the time And that's a mystery to me too kisha um But to be honest with you you can't listen what men say men just be talking men just be needing the conversation piece Trust me when I tell you Hello, mr. Gaskins. I'm a guy in college j. Rossi god bless you. I'm a guy in college 21 And I have two questions Is it okay to have a girl in college? And is it okay for a woman to change or mold you? It is okay to have a woman in college as long as she's not stealing your focus From your work and all of those things and it is okay to have a woman mold you um Yeah, it's okay, but not in a sense that like control you now understand makes your mold mean that She influencing you for the better Meaning that if you drink if you smoke if you curse if you don't study a lot if you don't have goals She helping you in those areas. She helping you grow. She pushing you forward She's encouraging you she's speaking life to you any area that you lazy in if she allows you to be lazy Then that's not your wife Any area that you're slacking in if she won't push you that's not your wife I remember I had you know an ex who when I was in the streets hustling She was cool with it. She was like, oh, okay. Mr. Bedtime. Whoo. Whoo But then when I got with my wife, she was like Draw though. You ain't gonna be with me I I won't be with a draw though I was like, what you don't want me bringing home that money She was like, absolutely not. I'd rather be broke. That's the kind of woman you need That's gonna call you to your highest self That's gonna demand that you be your highest self if you want to be in her life Not a woman that's gonna let you settle for mediocrity Let me see Pink loads. God bless you. God bless you. Thank you for your single mom video. I have a nine year old With severe 80 hd. I have to assist her a lot. I've been single five years. Should I wait to date? I'm 35. Yes, wait the date Wait the date wait the date because she's still young and she needs to get a little bit more age under And hopefully with time and with the different computer games and the different exercises the different sessions that y'all do to help develop her brain and you know Be in prayer and and doing all the Activities to see if it can get better and as she get older I'm believing God is going to get better and as it gets better Then you'll know when you got a little bit more time, but right now it's too early. It's too early. I would say you need you need to probably Focus about another five years and understand now dating When we say dating when I say dating I really mean Somebody like that you introducing to her somebody that's living with you or somebody that's over at your house all the time If it's somebody you talking on the phone and y'all texting y'all not sleeping together But y'all just you know kind of building something real and he understands where your priorities lie Then that's not really a real real situation. You know, so if that kind of happens You could be building that and a man could appreciate The slow pace the time the connection Appreciate that your priorities are on your daughter and all of that So that's a little different. It don't mean you just got to be completely No male energy can't talk to a man can't text a man, you know Can't get on the phone when your daughter's asleep It just you can't be neglecting her and chasing after him or letting him move in and all of that Keeley Crawford God bless you now Keeley nine What do you do for a living sister because you got a bag on you? Because y'all seen you in here last time dropping these blessings on me. God bless you lord Send Keeley a blessing name with Jesus. Don't have any questions yet But taking in the great advice, but I'm trying to get out being so cautious of going places by myself We'll do movies lunch and dinner comfortably by myself Just not other places. That's good. That's good. Take yourself out to eat Every week take yourself out eat and just watch your surroundings watch your surroundings And and just make sure ain't nobody following you take a different way home and be looking in your mirror When I'm coming home if somebody right behind me I put on up and I turn on round I turn on round and I go right back up to that end of that street And I come right on back Even as a man, I don't you know and and and might have me a little tool on me That could do a little damage, but I still am cautious. So be cautious, you know, there ain't nothing wrong with being cautious Marilyn King. God bless you. Bless her. Bless her lord CJ Johnson. Now you don't know membo yet. You remember you just had to renew your car CJ Because you got a yellow Thing so that mean you've been on now Fati on you God bless you. Let me see. I'm trying to yours is a sticker Thank you so much for that blessing. God bless you Somebody's shown up being good y'all Y'all done been blessed dating five months every time I call him to a higher standard. He says i'm judging him listen listen Understand this dating you don't fight for dating don't fight for dating If he don't want to grow if he don't have ambition leave his butt If he see it like you judge him There's one thing if he say you judging me and then he make the change If he say you judging me and he stay the same leave him do not fight for a dating relationship You fight for marriage You focus and you try to work and you try to make sure your marriage succeed dating That's the time where you supposed to be out of it out. He don't want to act right I'm gone Track shoot if a man takes long to reply often should you just stop talking to him or address it? I did used to not reply timely, but Not I don't know if it's payback now It could be payback and if you was playing a mind game when you would take long to reply then that's what That's what you get Because that's what that's what I always say if you playing a mind game now Then you you reaping what you sow If you just was busy and tired up Then you need to find out and see if he's busy and tired up if he truly not busy and tired up then Yeah, go on about your business Go on about your business Got about 10 more minutes y'all got about 10 more minutes. I want to try to catch my wife at 10 third. I'm trying to catch her Well tomorrow my son birthday. So I think she up rapping guilt still Dating men with children That might be too too deep to unpack I'm naturally an introvert So it's hard to socialize if no one attempts to speak to me Even when I go out to different outings Any advice just have a pleasant look you don't have to try to socialize you ain't got to strike up conversation Just have your pleasant look on your face be dressed nice smelling good all to that now um Satira I didn't see your question post it again right now while i'm while i'm down here Yeah, you listen them fell off on a boy you listen i might have said something stepped on you listen told How do men react when you do the no contact on them go crazy? They go slap crazy. They go slap crazy. You hit me? A man hates that How long to see if a man will change in a relationship You got to set a timeline based on your heart When you start to break down and you start to go down and all of that, you know That's when it's time to go But if you've got a year in you if you got two in you if you got three in you Just don't go past your breaking point. Don't go past where you're going into a depression and slowly fade Issues dating run marriage work alia. You got it When we play mind game everybody loses you right i think that might be a chapter in here too now Kai or k or k why god bless you What does it mean when you jokingly say to your god, babe? Let's get married and he says eventually Uh, it mean eventually It mean eventually or it mean eventually not And so It depends on how long y'all been together If it's if y'all been together three years that mean eventually not If y'all been together less than three years, then it mean eventually But you got to set a timeline how long you willing to wait Married for five and a half years been separated for one year X has not seen two daughters since separation has been very inconsistent with making contact with our daughters Is it okay to cut him off completely? He already cut off completely He already cut off completely and he ain't making contact. He ain't seen them in the year He already cut off. So go on do finish the favor Like mortar combat finish him Go on head and do it Sharon Savard. God bless you. That's canadian money the other night. Oh Simply some of that drake currency that canadian. I think that what does ca mean god bless you that 27 99 keely You got to go Tony blessing you in the tribe good night keely god bless you The world you work for the government Bless keely keely must have got her blessing on the call keely Convict in my spirit. I'm gonna hear getting a little Caught up in my spirit now I'm like lord now lord. You know, this is a blessing now. You know, that's a donation now Got to tell my wife. Hey, baby. Keely ain't mean nothing about them donation now. She's just a good hearted person Is the no contact effective even when he is pushing me away because he refuses to be held accountable Yes, it's effective. It's effective and if it's not effective Then that means that he really trying to push you away for good Like a lot of times a lot of time But y'all have to realize what a man is doing is he's begging you to break up with him He begging you because nobody And don't she can need she can need say keely got her back. Yes. She do god bless you keely Now what a man trying to do he's trying to push you away Because he's trying to get you to get the strength to leave Because let me tell you why A man hates to be the one that says I don't want to be with you Because if he says that that means he's closing the door If he pushes you away, then he could say you left me You ran out on me when things got hard you ran out on me So when he want to come back he can come back because he could say I never left you you left me And so that's why a man dogs you out and gets distant and get caught cheating and do all of those things because he's trying to get you To leave him. So go ahead and do that Go ahead and do that So that you dataman 20 years older if you want to be a cna And push them in the wheelchair when you 60 But if not if y'all you want to be walking together Then I wouldn't recommend it. You got this kind of try to stay with somebody in your generation You know because when you think 20 you got to think 60 80 a lot of time we think 30 50 That's totally different 60 80. That's totally different 70 90. You see what I mean? That's totally different 80 100 Praise with no contact. Yeah, I do a video on it I do it just men like to control the situation Men like to be in control men like to know what's going on Men like to be in control. We do that with other guys Like if a guy texts me and I'm busy And I see the text and I answer my head But I can't and I forget to get back to it. He'll text me again And then he'll text me again and he'll text me again and I thought wow, I'm like Do I want to text this guy back because he sound kind of crazy But it's really men just like control men don't and men hate rejection Men hate rejection. So that's all it is men do that with other men And don't even like men it ain't about that Karen Johnson God bless you God bless you pour out in her life. Lord. Love and blessing to the blessed tribe. Happy birthday, Tony Praise his name. Praise his name Adil you bless May the Lord bless you Now let me see I'm trying to look for this D Thank you Thank you. Thank you for that feedback Why a man can't express their past Why he treating women poorly as his mom not being there for him Articulating one of the hardest things One of the hardest things for a man to do Beauty be Daniels bless you get you a little laugh in God bless you and your family for this work you are doing Hey, I so appreciate you Kayla Do a video on dealing with your younger man 23 I'm 22, please. Okay um Janessa bless you Make sure I ain't miss nobody now. I see I'm missing y'all. I'm missing some of y'all Diane, thank you so much. Bless you. I sent him a random article that addressed his broken promise From a fake number I left him he let his boss who was 60 years old leave me a voicemail pretending that I have the wrong number if he didn't care Who sent it? Why would he answer back? He probably knew it was you He knew it was you and nobody sent him an article Of his broken promise. He knew it was you. He's just playing with you He's just playing with you because he knew you'll be here in this q&a asking a question So so right now he have presence in your life tonight even though y'all not together He's on your mind right now. That was his goal. That's all it was Whitney bless you Six months broke things off Red flags. We have a soul tie went back to ex-wife. We live in different states He claims to want both she confronted me then took them back. What should I do run? Run, I pull a hamstring reading that I pull my hamstring reading that run run if you got to do therapy or coaching every day Do it do it, but you cannot deal with that Shanice pinkston God bless you pull out in our life lord Pull out in our life. Let me see now Let me see now Yeah sunday I'm gonna try to shoot a video saturday because my birthday sunday so I ain't gonna be on here sunday Nah, okay I'm gonna be over here sunday, but I'm gonna try to shoot a video saturday for sunday Because the work still got to go on. You can't I can't stop Come down from this hill work just cuz my birthday. So I'm trying to have a video still go up on sunday What to do about the child's father needing to visit our child at my home. She's 12 months You shouldn't be dating in a way. So that's okay, you know, that's okay for now and uh now um If you want to meet at a park or if you want to meet it at the at the jump place And you want to keep your space separate say look, we'll meet you at the jump house at the You know, they got the bounce house it cost 10 99 to get in there If you want to go to the park and but it's you know, she's 12 months I think you said she But that corona is out right now. So you got to be careful where you go with um corona So right now, especially for the next Few months you probably want to stay in the house But once we get corona under control because it's getting out of control in a lot of places Once corona is out of control then you could go out the house Because you do want to start even though you shouldn't be dating You do want to start kind of keeping your space separate so that he knows That this off limits and it's preparing for my husband And because as long as he could come to your house, he got refrigerator rights and he gonna feel like he's still on you Hey, god bless y'all. I got to get going I thank y'all so much for y'all blessings that you pulled out on me tonight from for whatever reason for my birthday Um, thank you so much. It means the world to me. I can't even tell you know Like I mean the absolute world Valerie. Thank you Valerie She says she finna hit a buzzer be the lord bless her get her buzzer beating her life lord in the nick of time in the last minute And thank y'all for joining the bless tribe to all the new members who joined the bless tribe tonight. God bless you Thank you. If anybody sent a blessing in karen johnson I saw you and I miss you please forgive me because they put it at the top And then they move them across so they move them off my screen and once they move off my screen I can't get back to it and it's just something that um, youtube got going on So, thank you taro thomas god bless you Yes, lord. I'm single 37 years old. Where do mature men hang out? No, I'll be honest with you I'll be honest with you The mature men that I done met that I done hired to do some work for me. I met them in starbucks The guys who work for me that are single they work out of starbucks That's why I always people think I be joking when I when they say where should I hang out and I say starbucks That's because all the single men I know Men like to be at the house men don't like to work inside the house They work at a starbucks the internet cafe bars in oval and then they always at the gym But you got to go to a gym that got a cafe because they might not try to holler at you Why they working out but after working out where you go get the shake at In the little cafe where you get the shake and you get the turkey sandwich or your egg or your boy eggs or whatever In there. That's where the west. That's where they shoot the shots at ruby L Lord bless and bless ruby j no Bless you bless you now. Let me get on here now because I don't want nobody else Don't make no more money. I show appreciate y'all but y'all I'm just I don't know how to receive all of this And I so let me hurry up and get off here Blood of Jesus covered tone in his family in Jesus name. Thank you, ruby. Thank you. Let's bless ruby Hey, thank y'all so much. Oh somebody say Panera bread. That's one of them too. Hey god bless you and um I don't know my wife told me she said you could go live on friday night After we put Tayden to bed because I told I ain't I might not be able to shoot a video tomorrow so And I owe the bless tribe because I miss a lot of days So if I can make it tomorrow, I might try but I I doubt I will God bless you. We'll talk soon