 And welcome to the single guide channel. We have a very special guest. You might recognize him You've seen some of my other videos. He's actually just got a book coming out. Mr. They brought it. How you guys doing? Okay, it's good to see you. So I got your book here. We'll get to that in a second But first we have some text messages to get to so you're excited to read through them and give you guys some advice Yeah, for sure, man. I'm always I'm always excited to break down some text messages. So let's do it Yeah, let's do it. So this was a one guy who reached out to you, right? His name is well, we'll keep his name out of it But why don't you read to us what the message said? So this guy had a Netflix and she'll day all set up with the girl But then she flake he tried probing it a little bit again to see what went wrong didn't work out So let's dive in here and see what happened. So We're gonna pick up right where they sort of finish organizing hangout. So he says, yeah, you're right 25 minutes See you Tuesday night seems like, you know a solid day confirmation right there She follows up with looking forward to it. Well, anxiously looking forward to it. Ha ha and I think for him This is where he starts going wrong So he says don't be you give off really good energy. She follows up with I hope so and Then he says this is where he really starts going wrong and I find you absolutely stunning She says, oh, thank you. And then he says no problem. I'm gonna head to bed. Good night. So what do you think about this little exchange here? Cool. Yeah, I mean the problem is not that this girl was not attracted to him or he Doesn't know that he is attracted to her It's just he feels a little nervous about going over to this guy's place And what he should have done there is he should have acknowledged that and made her feel more comfortable But instead he just went for I think you're hot and I really want to get with you that made her More nervous, which is what we're about to see a little bit and probably came off as a little meat Yeah, he basically he also tried to like oversell it like oh, no, don't worry like I think you're beautiful It's fine. Like that's not that's not what you want to be doing here, bro Like you want to be taking a strategy that that Lloyd just laid out here clearly There's something in her head There's some type of objection and if you don't address that then it becomes the elephant in the room Which is probably why she started getting you know more and more distant with her messages Yeah, the biggest deter for why women don't show up to dates is not because they don't like the guy They're not interested to see them. It's because they're scared, you know The safety is a huge concern, especially when you're going over to a guy's house to Netflix and chill No, it's it's true man, that's a fact. So so let's keep it going. She she drops in the good night Then he comes through the next day with the text. Hey, are you still good for seven tomorrow? Okay, not not a bad confirmation text as she says they're supposed to be a snowstorm He says they're supposed to be a snowstorm warning tomorrow. Do you want to postpone? so Right here. I don't even like the way he did this like if the girl is gonna postpone I leave that on her I wouldn't try to like preemptively, you know postpone the date. What do you think man? Yeah, it's a little bit like he was expecting her to cancel on him He was expecting this to not happen And so he's kind of making up excuses for her to not cancel She's already nervous and he's making up excuses for it's very likely that he's not going to see this girl And she's not gonna show up the time stamps he said the first confirmation text around 4 p.m. And then the second conference The second confirmation text or that post-mortem one around 6 11 p.m. So waited about two and a half hours. You can tell he's probably getting cold feet like oh, no She's not gonna respond. Let me just toss this out there and see if she wants it to postpone it So I think a little bit of that is going on there too and she probably picked up on that All right, so then she follows up with sorry. I just got home from work. There is oh god Okay, yeah, maybe then so this is a perfect example She didn't even know the snow the snowstorm was coming You probably didn't even need to mention it there if it does snow the next day then that's when you could bring it up you don't need to do it as a way to try to save things and Yeah, she didn't even know what was going on there So he follows up with how about we play it by ear and see how it is if not with Thursday work and She says my next day off is Friday And he says Friday actually works better for me same time Doesn't hear back from her that day and it looks like the next day Says if you're too nervous, then I don't understand So what do you think about how this how this all kind of came to a head? Cool I mean he never really addressed the primary concern which is that she doesn't feel comfortable going over straight to his place And what he could have been instead was he could have made maybe come up with another idea for them That would have been a little bit less Like just coming over in Netflix and it's showing it could have been you know Hey, let's get a coffee. Hey, let's meet at an usual location or something like that Where you feel a little safer He didn't do any of that sort of stuff and honestly to there's actually a trick that I would do for situations like this If you're encountering someone who's a little bit feels a little nervous or uncomfortable With a situation honestly, if you just talk about normal stuff and just have like an like an easy Lighthearted fun conversation that actually does a lot to make a woman feel just more comfortable with the situation But if you're constantly pressing for a meetup and press it for the same meetup That she's not comfortable with then expect to get those two Yeah, there's there's no attention going on this whole conversation at all either. I don't know if there was tension before I'm guessing if it was this type of exchange like there probably wasn't either Because she did agree to go over at some point. So, you know, maybe there was or wasn't I don't know I haven't seen it, but I would think there might have been something there. I would hope so I would hope so but Yeah, we're not really sure but but yeah, and then that last message like if you're too nervous Then I then I'd understand like that just kind of hits it home where it's like man this whole thing just kind of fell apart there Yes, it's just nice It's just not good a way to end it not a very confident way to kind of end it right and it sounds like he's he was in He's nervous about Blowing his chance and when you're kind of in that category then it's really easy to When we can pick up on that Yeah, so I think the main takeaway when a when a girl gives you an objection figure out what she's actually objecting to and address that Versus just trying to do it. Do whatever do whatever he was doing here, which is just kind of comb right through it So yeah address that little nervous dude. Just talk to her like banter with her for a little bit have fun with her You know when she gets more comfortable with you that she's gonna be she's gonna be down for that stuff Like I regularly have girls come straight over If it's even it's a girl who I got off a hinge or something like that and it's because I build rapport in the same way You know, maybe organizing a FaceTime call or something like that would be good So, you know, there's a lot of options that you can turn that will make a girl feel more comfortable to even come straight over to your place It sounds crazy, but we know we live especially with the lockdowns and everything like that's a very viable option Probably the best option in some cases For sure and now speaking of doing some FaceTime or some zoom dates like you just mentioned our next text exchange That's that's exactly what the guy is trying to do and this one is from B B basically is trying to move this girl from hinge to a zoom or FaceTime day And have that sort of that face-to-face interaction He gets a little bit of pushback doesn't handle it really the right way and it just kind of falls apart He ends up getting a little bit and he ends up getting a little bit needy So so with the first message then you must try to use those skills on me Ha ha by the way, I would love to continue this conversation through the phone. How does that sound? She said through the phone as in texting He says you were you were close so I will give it to you Ha ha I enjoyed the song of ice and fire novels by by George RR Martin. Have you read them before? Yeah So we can do a zoom and then she says I'm not comfortable with the zoom with a caller zoom yet I haven't read them, but I do own the first game of Thrones book so I mean, I would say the first thing here is like bro You're trying to like weave this game of Thrones conversation into you asking her for a zoom call at the same time There's too much going on there, bro when you when you're gonna go for the any type of hangout have that that should be the singular focus not like Some type of side conversation, right? I don't know what they were talking about before I don't think he's doing anything super wrong But I feel like he's definitely jumping so so from there that she says she's not she's not comfortable with it So for you like how do you usually handle handle these types of things when a girl gives you pushback like that? Cool, it depends how much I like her honestly, but if you really like the girl you want to keep talking Maybe you jump the gun a little bit I'm like cool no worries and then we just continue into a normal phone conversation a lot of times What builds connection number one is familiarity So the more familiar she gets with you the more you guys talk like chances are she's gonna be more comfortable with it later Now how long you're willing to wait for that is up to you? And honestly if you're just talking about nothing then I don't really see that to be a good use of your time So we'll see how long it takes for this guy to get to a comfortable point where she's actually willing to do You know FaceTime call with him or something like that But I think you could have started out by just getting the phone number first and then texting her for a little bit Getting off the app and then that's a smaller step that she might be more comfortable with first No, I definitely agree now. So so later on he actually does get the number like he pushes the number he gets it Yeah, so so this is this is the second conversation It's a little bit later on in the combo when he already has the number So he says nice ha ha. What have you been doing with work helping people conquer the world one day at a time? I hope she says nope ha ha people can be very mean about us not finding their one tiny book in a two-floor book store And then take it out on me and any recommendations I make are dismissed and not even looked at then he comes back It is time for us to fix that ha ha. I got I got to send my best ages down to the library to straighten them out By the way, would you be down to do a zoom call for this week in her next week? And then again, she says I'm not comfortable with that I and then he files up. No worries. Would you feel comfortable doing one at a later point? She says possibly I don't know so so what what do you think about this this little exchange here? Gotcha. Well, she's doesn't look like I can tell by the way. She's talking when she's being a little fake She's not really asking them a whole lot of questions in return. He's basically pulling this conversation all up on his shoulders His back must be hurting She's carrying this conversation on his back. That's not really where you want to be You want to have her come to you a little bit more and put in a little bit of effort So it's no shocker that she says she's not comfortable with that so what I would do if I was him is honestly I would go talk to a girl who is gonna be more interested in him and Maybe he can turn to some of the other videos that you have Dave And I have as well where we talk about how to build up some momentum over text Because he hasn't built up any momentum and there wasn't that much of a connection there to start with so I don't really Unless that happened that I really only saw one answer coming of this which is that she's not down for a For a FaceTime or zoom call. I'm surprised you responded at all actually. Yeah, there's really no connection here They're basically just bullshitting about her job and he's he's trying to make it funny, but it's not it's not really hitting And then again like he again tries to weave in two different conversations to like asking her asking her for the zoom It's like bro, just be singular if you're gonna ask you to hang out Just have that be the only thing don't try to like fluff it up with some with some funny some funny quit Just ask it to hang out bro. Uh and I don't know You know what mean you have like two slightly different perspectives on this But when a girl for the second time if she says, oh, I'm not comfortable doing a zoom call I'm not comfortable with hanging out, you know, sometimes I like to set a boundary there and be like hey like listen It's fun talking to you, but I'm not really on this app to text If you're down to meet up and hang out, that's cool. Let me know And then at that point either it'll be over or she'll respect that boundary and say, okay Cool, like let's hang out then when are you free or you can ask her that You know, whatever it may be but at that at least at that point you have some finality to it Versus just just all this BS Sure. Yeah, I mean for me and then that's something if you feel like you need a little bit of finality I think you should send that message but for me. I mean the message has already been sent. It's final like this is done I think you should move on to a girl who is gonna play ball with him a little bit more Who is gonna show more interest and I wouldn't even have wasted my time without last message Which you know, it can sometimes come off a little bitter, but yeah, they feel like you got to set that boundary I think it's definitely a good thing to send One thing that I think we could talk about a little bit is maybe get this guy a little positive encouragement because you know Sometimes we get a little negative by talking about the things that they do wrong One thing that he he did do right was that he was trying to be trying to move from the phone number So sorry from the dating app to the phone number and then after that to a face time call That's a pretty reasonable transition What I would recommend that you do to improve is if you split up his text messages a little more Talk about things rather than like a game of thrones book that he's into actually talk about her personality Relationships those conversations can have a lot more impact and give you a lot more room to flirt with So you can have fun with her you can actually build this intention and then from there It's just much more likely to want to get on the call with you because you guys have built up some connection there rather than just You know talking with these long messages that that to me seemed pretty genuine. I Definitely agree man And when it's more when you have in the conversation more about the two of you versus about something else It's a lot easier to build that connection Yeah, one thing that you can do is if you guys are worried about talking about stuff Like honestly ask her about a photo that she has in her profile picture or send something To her about something that you've done and then what you want to do is you want to acknowledge what she said Tell a little story about it and then ask a follow-up question with that as well too And she should follow the same format But if she's not really asking about you if you're the one who's carrying this conversation on your back And then you try and go for a FaceTime meetup She's probably gonna say no and you know, it's it's because she hasn't even been playing ball from the get-go like You've probably been wasting your time for bags Well, all right. Well, honestly guys, hopefully you got a lot out of this I mean like we get conversations like this all the time and at the end of the day Like it is a two-way street So you can do everything right over a dating app or texting a girl and she might not be down And that's okay But as you get better and better about this, you're gonna learn how to let the girls come to you a little more You're gonna learn how to actually filter for women that are gonna be wasting your time And you're gonna be dealing with this frustration a lot less, especially if you work with guys like me and Dave and If you buy Dave, I got your book right here the lifestyle blueprint How to be a high value guy is something that really eliminates a lot of these problems I think and you don't know this Dave But I'm actually one of the reasons why we became friends was I saw your blog before you can start YouTube and everything And I saw the life that you were living and I was really inspired by it And that's actually one of the reasons why I started this channel today. So Yeah, I think you're a great person to be talking about that sort of stuff Oh, that's that's awesome and for sharing and yeah, I think a lot of guys don't a big part of dating is building a Lifestyle for yourself that that's gonna make you more attractive to girls and also make you feel just freer as a person You know, you're gonna enjoy life a lot more versus just living a life that society lays out for you and tells you that you should live Right be like, you know deciding to live an intentional life that that's what I've always done It's awesome to see you do that too, man. Yeah, absolutely And you know for situations like the text messages that we just talked about if you're inviting a girl into a cool life That you live you're not gonna be getting these. Oh, I'm not I won't even sign on for a zoom call Or I won't even like be willing to leave my house to meet up with you Like you're not gonna be dealing with that that much because they're gonna they're actually gonna be chasing you And so if people want to get this book and people want to learn how to live this lifestyle What can they do Dave? Of course, so it'll be linked up in the description as well as it'll be on Amazon too If you just search the lifestyle blueprint, you'll be able to see it You can get it for just 99 cents for the next few days when this video comes out So yeah, it's basically free. You can just hop in go grab it and start living an awesome lifestyle Yeah, I mean, that's a solid deal. Cool. Thanks a lot for coming on this program and hopefully we'll see you soon, man Yeah, for sure, man. I gotta get out there to Texas again. Yeah, you gotta come back man. It's good to see you. All right. Later, man