 Hi, she was seven and y'all I'm in my pajamas. I'm just being comfortable This is gonna be my last video of 2015 and My daughter actually gave me the idea of this video I know a lot of people have asked me to cover topics and I will in 2016 But I wanted to end the year with this video that my little girl Actually Inspired so Um She asked me a pretend question as if she was one of my viewers But of course from her mind. She thinks older is being in high school. So she said well, I'm 17 years old And I have a problem finding a boyfriend. What do I do? I'm like you're 17. She's like, yeah, I'm 17 I'm in high school. I was like, okay. Well in about one year. You're about to open up a whole new Range of men because once a woman turns 18, she's legal to date anyone any man she wants no matter his age You know Where he lives, he doesn't have to go to your school. You're free now Like if you go to college, you can date anybody college You can date people out of college. You can date a professor. You can date an old man You can date a young man. Does it matter? Just can't date anyone younger than you So This brought me to how how much women actually Have available to them like a lot of women stick in their own age range race this this this and that When they can open it up after 17 It's just like You can open it and to whatever you want, you know, you don't have to accept This this this and that unless you created those standards in your mind a lot of women who go for older men After they get out of high school usually benefit a lot from it They learn a lot they get they get more life experience. They get to go more places They get to travel. They don't have to work and you know Slave their way through through school or college if they are with an older man Yeah, so you have opened up a whole new genre of people you can date now for guys. It's a little different because They're still sort of immature they're still after young women they still want to party they still want to You know just have fun be free women. However, they're trying to get their lives together They're trying to get their life started. They're trying to get their education. They're trying to travel They're trying to have fun. They're trying to go on trips. They're trying to have meaningful relationships and You know accomplish all these things in life that they want to accomplish a lot of women like to do this in their young 20s and in order for you not to be like all you know bundled up in work school and You know social life You're gonna have to have some man that can actually help you that you can benefit from you You know a lot of women will date, you know a college guy An older college guy sometimes, you know or one their own age But you know after that first heartbreak or first few heartbreaks. They're like, you know what if this I'm gonna find me a real man so after they get to that point a Lot of girls Who are career oriented will try to date a guy that's in her field so that she can get the upper hand When she tries to get a job out of college, you know, because they say it's not what, you know, it's who you know, you know So this is advice for a lot of college girls date someone in the field that you want to be in because they can help you also You know when you're dating older guys don't aim too high because they know what you're after ain't Aim like in the middle like so they they think you're attracted to them. They think they still got it You're mature for your age They don't have to deal with the bitterness of certain women who've been messed over too many times You still believe in love. They want another chance at love So it works out good and for guys, you know You know, they have they have a lot of time to mature to get their stuff in order to get their education to make money and Dad and you know once they get to their like late 30s or 40s You know, then they can start seriously considering real stable type relationship or marriage because guys aren't ready to get married in their 20s guys are not ready to get married in their 30s There's they're still trying to get their life together women are ready because They have, you know that clock that biological clock they need to have kids saying to this this this and that before they hit This age they need to have kids at this time in their life So it's okay for you to marry older men. Who said that you have to marry somebody your own age? Nobody. I mean a long time ago in the old days women used to marry like mostly older men And it's a fact that women mature more mentally than men. They mature faster I mean then men so at 25 you're probably more like 30 35 years old and you're mental Or as far as men who are 25 or 25 or younger So you have to get in You know into that Math and equal it out So if you're 25 you should be dating a 35 to 40 year old if you want that stable man Who's going to be able to hold down a decent job have a career going? Have equity in something have good credit have this have that have that because If you're trying to start a family if you're trying to get married Unless you want to struggle together with a person your own age Who's not as mature as you and you have to teach them stuff and they're and they're gonna mess up many times because they're young then that's fine, but if you want that stability that Dependability you want That knowledge you want to learn something from your man then go for a little bit older and Guys age like why guys age good. So when you see a sexy man who's older you're like You know that that's even more of a turn on because they look even better When they're older and they have money and they can teach you stuff and they treat you like a queen You know, they're not they're not like They're happy to be with you you make them feel younger as well They're like reliving their youth through you so they're going to really treasure you, you know So Yeah, and plus you make them look like they're Higher status because they can afford to have a younger woman, you know a lot of men They'll make enough money to get a younger woman They're like, you know, they're stuck with what they got or what they can get But a man of means with a younger woman Not too much younger just a little bit Looks like okay, well his money Can make up and get make up for this this and that and get him a younger woman. He must be This this and that he must have this he must have that No, it raises his status if he has a younger more attractive wife and we all know that a lot of people will labor Hold her a gold digger and that and about but they would be quick to take our place in one second if they had the chance So don't worry about what people think And there's a lot of guys that are going for older men and a lot of girls who are I mean ladies who are older going for younger men Now if you're a lady that's going for a younger man, you're not going to be able to get money out of him as easily And whatever he gives you he's going to be extra proud that he could afford to give you, you know, if you're if you're Rich and he's rich as well Like, you know, some of these celebrities out here a Lot of women don't age as fast as some women. So the age difference doesn't matter, you know It's just one is more experienced When it's been around longer blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, but and some relationships The woman will look a lot older which will keep her insecure around younger women So unless you look damn good for your age, don't date a younger man because he's always looking at the younger women He's just using you or being with you and tell something better comes along now If you look better than any younger woman out there and No, I can top you even if they're 10 years younger than you then fine go for it, you know I know a lot of girls a lot of ladies who date younger guys, but they look younger than the guy Okay, so it's all about appearance and how you look. Nobody will be able to tell that you're 10 years older than him If you look good, you know So keep that in mind y'all But there is a downfall to mirroring or being in a relationship with an older person They're not gonna understand every single thing that you understand. They're not gonna know all the latest lingo emojis Text they're not gonna be all up in social media. Sometimes they're not gonna be like that and sometimes you might miss that But you have to learn that that's not important you got to learn like look what's more valuable somebody understanding a damn emoji with a Facebook account or Somebody that can handle their business Pay the bills take me to Hawaii. What's what's more important? Okay? So a lot of women will get caught up and get mad because their man don't understand This is not their youngest young immature side and they'll don't forget the value of an older man You're like, oh, he's gonna know anything. He's another new song. He doesn't like my music Find something neutral that you both like listen to classic artists like you know Michael Jackson or Just some somebody everybody likes no matter what age you are I'm going on stuff like that listen to your music when he's not around or maybe he'll like a few songs And you'll like a few songs of his you know, you just got to compromise because it's not really worth it I mean you'll be with somebody who knows the every word to young thug and think they're all that But can't take you to McDonald's okay, no Okay, go Go for the guy who offers the most quality. Okay, and don't don't get caught up in the age thing because it doesn't matter and Most women I know who are well off who have married up have all married somebody at least 10 years older than them I mean look at Jay-Z and Beyonce. He's about 10 years older than her and they don't look awkward, you know, I Knew this girl who married this guy who's about 15 years older than her and They don't look that much different than in age because men age well and She's living in this lap of luxury She had a helicopter take her away and you know like instead of a limo at the wedding she had all I mean and You know He bought her a Hummer for her wedding gift, you know, and she was just an average She was pretty she wasn't like You know Perfect body or anything or supermodel. She was just average pretty Latina girl. She met this guy he was very like business oriented he wanted the pretty pretty wife and He told her, you know, I need a wife I need I'm you know, I might run for public office. I need a wife I did that, you know, a lot of guys want to fill a roll of wife when they're doing important things fund-raising Trying to open a business. They need that complete, you know look So she's you know, he said, okay, well, this is how I like you to dress Classy I like you to keep your hair long. I want you to drive this car You know, he was a little bit controlling But this was to fit the image of what he wanted to become and she was totally on board with that Why because she understands that older men have priorities they have career goals and If you want to be in a relationship like that, you're gonna have to fit in with them, you know, and you know So he was like mayor of some town and she you know It was nice. She got his dream. He got No, I mean he got his dream. She got her dream. So You got to Understand sometimes you got to think things through To the very end of what could happen versus oh, he doesn't like my music. Oh, well, he doesn't understand this emoji. Oh He doesn't know what Facebook is. You know, you can't be like that. You have to outweigh the quality Okay, because in in ten years In ten years, he's gonna be a little older. You're gonna be older. Y'all are gonna have a grand life together You're gonna have property together. Y'all gonna have things paid for you might even have a business together Okay, and you can't do this with someone younger than you most of the time Because they're not that they're not there yet mentally. It's very rare You know, you can try to have a kid with someone your age, but it's gonna be a struggle You're gonna have your obstacles You're gonna have his his eye wandering because the guy in his 20s is not ready to settle down Okay, and that's just it. They think they are and then they'll start what I will start wondering You got to get someone who's ready who has the formula who wants that missing piece Who's ready to accept it? Who's? financially Available to accept it. Okay. A lot of women Have that I can't I can't be with an older man. I can't let me tell you older men are more experienced at everything and You know They can teach you you can teach them because I've taught Older men so much Because Sometimes they're out of the loop and they need you to give them the information so their mind can stay young So they can know the latest technology so they can know what's going on, you know On both sides, you know And it actually helps them in their career because they know where they the young people are coming from and the older People are coming from and they can merge those ideas to come up with You know money-making ideas at at their job or in their business or whatever they're doing, you know They have both sides of the spectrum so Ladies, this is my last video for 2016. If you go into 2016, I mean 15 you go into 2016 Don't leave older men out, you know, welcome them in because They want someone who still believes in love who will look up to them Who will think they're all that who they can teach who they can spoil who hasn't been tainted? Like if you're a young lady and also if you're older lady still men older than you still want that beauty You know, that's what men value in women. They're their youth and their looks