 Okay, let me be upfront about this video. This content is gonna be one gigantic rant, okay? And let me just say where I'm going here. First off, we have to acknowledge that a lot of single men out in the dating realm are absolute cowards. There I said it, they are cowards in their behavior. But sadly, at the same time, women give their power away to men in relationship. And that's what I wanna address because if you're tired of feeling used, or if you're tired with being in dynamics where men are using you, then I wanna address the most, like what I call it the sneaky ways men use women. And guess what? This is a disturbing reality check, okay? Now, when I say men are cowards, what I mean to say is in today's dating marketplace, and I use the term dating marketplace, most men don't really have to address commitment because in many cases, for those of us in midlife, which is after baby making years and before retirement, the desire to start a family with someone isn't in the same context as when you're in your 20s and 30s. So commitment is actually rather confusing for a lot of people because they don't know what it looks like. They don't even know what it means because most likely they've had a failed or unsuccessful relationship before. And because of this, men actually get the one woman post a comment, women are giving wife duties at girlfriend prices, wife duties at girlfriend prices. So this is coming back to now I wanna address for a few minutes where women give their power away and then I'll share with you those 10 sneaky ways men use women. And again, I think a lot of men are acting like cowards. So women give their power away. Let me give you some examples so you know what this looks like. Number one, the relationship is on his terms. You abandon your standards, you abandon your boundaries. Ladies, I see this habitually with you from time and time again, the relationship is on his terms and you probably don't feel like you have any say. Let me just say this, ladies. If the, okay, you get offended when I say this, my girlfriend gets offended when I say this but I'm gonna say it. If the penis gets to go inside the vagina on a regular basis, you have every right to establish the rules of engagement. You have every right to have deeper conversations because guess what? Sex is one of the privileges reserved, I believe. Okay, first off, I might sound like a Puritan here. I might sound like, you know, I'm righteous but I'm here to say sex is reserved for people who are exploring a long-term relationship. At least if you're in that camp, you don't have to be in that camp. You can be in the camp of have sex whenever you want and it's free and you can live your life that way. I'm here to, my channel is for those of you that want deep commitment. My channel is for those of you that want partnership. Okay, so coming back to giving your power away, if you have regular sex with a guy, you have every right to establish the rules of engagement, okay? Laying your cards on the table, having deeper conversations, being vulnerable, authentic and transparent with one another, okay? Another way women give your power away is you're afraid to speak your truth with them. Now, your truth is simply your truth. Your truth is how do you really feel about this relationship? How do you feel about your interactions with one another? How do you feel about connecting with one another? I had a client, a former client of mine who reached out because she's dating a guy and she was afraid to ask him a really simple question. Where is this relationship going? So we got on the phone, I crafted a text message for her to send him because these days many of you just prefer text messaging. You don't prefer the old fashioned way, see each other face to face to have a conversation. And what was interesting is how he responded back was a very kind, sensitive way. Now it was because I helped her craft this in a way that would entice him to be more vulnerable, authentic and transparent. Yet many of you are afraid to speak your truth. She was afraid to even speak her truth because she was afraid it might scare the guy away. Ladies, if you're afraid of scaring a guy away, I want you to remember my chapter in my book. My book is called, What the Heck Is Self Love Anyway? A Journey of Personal Development, Self-Help and Spiritual Work, by the way, there's a link below to get a copy of my book. Chapter nine, if it's sincere and from the heart, you can't say the wrong thing to the right person. When you're with the right person, you can say what's in your heart and they won't run away. Now you might vomit, fear, that's a different, that might cause someone to run away, but if you're afraid and someone runs away, they're not the right person for you anyway. Number three, when the relationship ends, all you do is focus on him, him, him, him, him instead of yourself, that's giving your power away. Waiting for him to initiate contact all the time. Why doesn't he text me all the time? Why doesn't he call me? Ladies, you can reach out, guess what? You can send a message when you don't hear from him. You have every right, if he gets to have regular sex with you, you have every right to ask for what you want, including regular communication. And if he acts like a jackass because you want that, then he's probably not your guy. Number five, you stop doing your pre-relationship life and you make your relationship all centered about him. That's another way you give your power away. Another way you give your power is you feel like you can't live without him. Oh my God, I will die if I don't have him. Maybe it's because here in the United States, we are suckling on the nipple of I need you to love me so I can feel good about myself. I need you to love me so I can feel good about myself. Folks, it starts by feeling good about yourself and adding someone in your life, not being dependent upon that person for you to feel good about yourself. And lastly, you think this person that you're with is the only one you're ever gonna feel good about. Folks, I, listen, I felt fantastic for several women in my life. And when each one didn't work out, I knew there was always somebody, there's a lid to every pot, okay? So just remember, if it doesn't work out with one person, there's a bus coming around the next corner with another person. If, but if you put all your energy and give your power away to him, you can't see the next bus coming around the corner. So my rant today is both about ladies who give their power away and these cowardly men that operate in the way I'm about to describe with you. So I said something a moment ago, sex should be reserved for people who want to explore a deeply committed relationship. And if two people want to explore a deeply committed relationship, then they have every right to speak up. But I'm gonna give you some examples of what I think are cowardly men who don't speak up and don't initiate this. And yet many of you are giving the goodies of the relationship the sex piece and not getting the real fulfillment from the relationship. So number one, he pretends he wants a relationship, but his actions say otherwise. Ladies, let me just say something to you. A man, all he has to do is what I call relationship talk. All he has to do is say, I want a relationship and you're hearing, oh, we want the same things. But in your mind, a relationship might look like this. We spend three or four days and nights a week together doing shared activities, hobbies, mutual interests, spending time with family and friends, traveling together, teamwork, building skills, both in our personal, our professional life, intimacy, both physical and emotional, intimacy that leads to either moving in together, getting married. And his idea of a relationship is, I'm gonna see you at my beck and call. Do you know what that space in between is called? Your emotional anxiety or worse, your emotional drama. Folks, one thing a man has to do is actually describe what a relationship looks like and then does his actions match his words. And yet many of you spend more time on your devices texting each other. You guys are having these incessant text conversations. You know what I wish I could do for all millennials right now? I wish I could take away your cell phones because you guys actually believe texting is a form of communicating. No, texting is about giving directions and telling people what time you're gonna show up. It's not a form, okay, it is a form of communication. And my client used it to initiate a conversation, okay? It's designed to offer information to initiate a conversation. Folks, many of you are having these relationships where you spend more time on the phone. I know some people, I had a woman a few months ago tell me she's in a relationship with a man. I go, how long have you been seeing each other? She goes, six months. I go, when was the first time you met? She goes, I haven't met him. I go, you don't have a relationship. You have a cyber relationship, folks. A relationship, okay, men can't bond with you over the telephone or text message. They might get excitement. They might lean on you. And I'm gonna talk about that in a moment, but they can't really bond on it with you unless you're doing social activities, hobbies, mutual interest. I wish, folks, let me just say something. Right here is a link to a schedule, a discovery call with me. My clients are achieving amazing results. I got a text message from a client the other day. She sent me a picture of her and her boyfriend. They're now fully committed after eight months together. It's because you do a terrible job of determining true compatibility. And you do a terrible job of assessing emotional maturity. That's why I want you to schedule a call with me. By the way, there's a link below to schedule that discovery call with me. Number two, he always makes excuses about spending time with you. Or worse, he makes it your fault because he has a jealousy streak. He makes excuses and then he gaslights you and turns it around why he can't make time for you. That's a great sign he's using you. Number three, this is after you've had sex. After you've had sex, he says, let's take it slow. I need more time to get to know you. Folks, one thing I've noticed about men who are in happy relationships, once they like someone, they were territorial in the senses. They don't want any other man sweeping in and taking that person away. And yet the minute you have sex with the guy, the minute he says, take it slow, you take yourself off the market. And guess what he could be doing? He could be using you while he's testing the market with other people. These days, look at monogamy and exclusivity. Many of you are in relationships with people. You think you're monogamous and exclusive, but you never really had the relationship talk. This is why I've initiated my dating vows. You're not familiar with my dating vows. By the way, if you'd like a copy that I'm about to share, schedule a discovery call with me. Schedule a call with me. I'll give you a copy of the dating vows. But the dating vows is an agreement between two people that says the following. I agree to explore the process of getting to know you with the intent to declare something serious within the next three to six months. I agree to be monogamous sexually while we have regular sex together. I agree to actively, to not actively seek to meet and date others while we're in the process of getting knowing each other, including taking down our dating profiles. I agree to speak up if this isn't working for me versus pulling back, ghosting or disappearing. And lastly, I agree to invest regular time in the process of getting to know you. That's the dating vows. Now, 90% of guys won't agree to this, but folks, all you're doing is avoiding the guys who aren't serious about commitment anyway. Okay, another example, he's using you. Good chance he avoids sharing personal things about himself. By the way, isn't the whole purpose of being a relationship is to open your heart to someone? Isn't that the purpose of it? I really invite you to look at what is real intimacy? If you're not familiar with the book, Emotional Intimacy by Robert Masters. By the way, link below to get all the books I recommend. Learn what intimacy is. Many of you guys are so clueless to intimacy. And you know, I know this because I talk to women all day long through my coaching practice. And I realize many of them have no idea what true intimacy, intimacy, vulnerability, authenticity and transparency. And I'm only ranting here to shake you up, to shake you, to shake you, to wake you up. And I'm ranting here and I admitted that from the beginning, I started this, okay? Get back to your cheese, Jonathan. Another example is conversations with you are rather surface. How's your day going? Did you have a good day? I hope you had a good day. What did you do today? I hope you had a good day. That's a joke from Seinfeld, that's a Kramer line. Many of you are having these surface conversations about your day and you're not getting into the real meat of what you're feeling in relationship. You should be, listen, my sweetheart and I, there's a picture of Marie and I. We talk about our feelings within the relationship. I initiate a lot of conversations so we can build the deep roots of trust. Trust is built through the expressing your feelings about a relationship. You, listen, trust isn't just about fidelity. Trust is, does this person have my best interest at heart? Does this person have my feelings? Do they really care about my feelings or are they only care about getting their dick wet? And I gotta tell you, a lot of you ladies are allowing this and I want you to stop, stop, stop letting men get away with these sneaky ways of using you. Number, the next one, he talks to other women constantly but claims it's all friendly. By the way, with Instagram now, I can't believe how many men have all these thousands of female friends and they're just, you know, they're just people I follow kind of thing. Yeah, right. I'm here to say, look, if you want, if guys are constantly flirting with women through Instagram and they have lots of female friends on Instagram, that's a good chance that he might be using you and if he talks to them constantly, believe me, he'll turn it around. If you even ask about it, he'll make it your fault. He'll gaslight why you're doing that. Okay, next one. He breaks up with you constantly and then tries to get back together. Oh my God, I see this happen. I see this happen, I mean, day in, day out, many of guys will break up with you and then get back together and break up with you and says he'll change or break up with you. Don't allow men to do that. Don't allow men to take your power. Don't allow them to do that to you. I just had this happen recently and I've seen it happen at least a half a dozen times in the last two months with clients that they're with men who ended only to want to get back together the next day. You're dealing with an emotionally constipated child if they're doing that sort of thing. Next, he's selfish in the bedroom. All he cares about is getting his own rocks off. If a guy is selfish in the bedroom, all he cares about is his ejaculation. If he's not actually trying to please you in the bedroom, there's a good chance he's using you. Oh, here's one. He teases you. He teases you. He introduces you to people in his life who are important and yet then his communication afterward is almost non-existent. I've seen this happen where you get this little tease like, oh, he must really like me because he introduced me to someone important in his life. Oh, he must really care for me and then yet his communication is almost non-existent. That's a tease. He gives you something to wet your beak, but he's honestly, there's a good chance he's using you. Here's another one. He gets sex, but okay, here's one. This has happened so many times. People, men that don't want to share, they're secretive in their life and they don't want to share you with their friends. And what I mean to say is they're unwilling to post pictures of you on social media. I just, I mean, I had this happen recently, but I've had this seen this happen time and time again. Men who refuse to acknowledge that you're in your life. He's getting regular sex with you. You have every right to establish that, hey, make it public because that's a demonstration of trust. That demonstrates that this guy actually has feelings for you if he's willing to share it with his public. But let me tell you something. He's got a lot of female friends on his Instagram and social media and he's not willing to post about it. He's being secretive about you and that's not a good, that's a really good sign he's using you. Here's a couple more. Oh, he uses you for money. Yeah, well, that's not too sneaky, but he's in some sort of hardship in his life and you need to be the financial caretaker. I don't know how many women over the years I've witnessed do this, I've witnessed. Listen, if you've established deep trust in your relationship, someone's going through a hard time, but he's invested financially in you, I'm all about taking turns, but if you are basically supporting his lifestyle, he's using you. You might get some minor benefits, but really ask yourself if you, okay, it's okay to do this, but if you don't feel fulfilled and safe in the relationship, don't let a man use you for money. By the way, I'm talking to you like you're my little sister. I'm talking to you like you're, I'm your big brother. I'm talking to you like your father should talk to you and prepared you for the reality check of men out there who will use you. Now, here's one of the most common ways men use women for those of us in midlife. They use you as his therapist, that's right. There are many men out there that love the female energy and they share all of their emotional problems with you because you're willing to listen. There's a difference between a person that might come to you to vent and might seek your guidance to improve, but if a man is just simply dumping his emotional problems, you ladies hear that, like it's music to your ears, you hear, ah, he's being vulnerable with me because he's sharing his emotional problems with me about his ex and his work and he's so emotional in his problems. By the way, if guys are dumping their emotional problems with you, you have just become their therapist and they're not actually trying to solve their problems with you, they just want, they just like that your female energy will listen to them and even comfort and stroke them through all his emotional problems. Do you really want to be with a guy who's all fucked up emotionally, okay? That's just my invitation for you to ask yourself this question. And lastly, he avoids commitment conversations. Any man that gets to get to have regular sex with you and avoids commitment conversation, he's gonna use you, he's gonna use you. Do you want to be used? No, put up big no, I don't want to be used anymore and I will not allow this anymore. Write that in the box, in the comments. No, I don't want to be used anymore. I'm not gonna allow men to use me anymore. I am stopping giving my power away to men. Are you with me? If you are, please post a comment below. I'd like to hear it. If you are, hit that like button. Please share this video. Please subscribe to my channel. Check out all the links. I'm here to support you from stop being used, especially these sneaky ways men use you. Is this sinking in? Is this resonating? Please let me know. Trust commitments. Before sleeping together, you need to understand this. We're meeting total strangers. If he cared about your feelings, he would do what it took to make you feel emotionally safe. Why give wife, what's it? Why give wife benefits at girlfriend prices? Don't do it. If he genuinely cared about your feelings, then allow him to demonstrate it by building the deep roots of trust. Vulnerability, authenticity, conversations about commitment, conversations about what you really want. Seeing if you're on the same page, laying your cards on the table, radical honesty, establish the rules of engagement before you get physically intimate with a guy. Is this sinking in? All right, that's my rant for today. Those who know my format know I'm here to answer your questions. If you have a question for me, write the word question, then post the question there after, or you can purchase a super sticker, super chat, all the monies from the super sticker, super chat, goes to a scholarship fund in the name of my son, Connor Asley, that's him right there. He's my son who passed away almost five years ago. And his honor, I donate to causes like the Hoffman Process and Insight Institute. There's a little dollar sign in the chat box, purchase a super sticker, or you can purchase a super thanks right now if you're watching the reply. And it seems like a lot of women say, yes, I don't want to give my power away. Way to go. All right, I saw some questions here. Let's see. I saw one from Wanda. So bear with me. Here's our first one. Question, if you are diagnosed with a terminal illness, should you tell the person you are dating after a few dates or saying nothing? You know, that's a real tough one. You know, the reality is, is that's material to the relationship, okay? Would you want to think about the other way around? If a man had a terminal interest, would you give your heart to someone? Would you, you know, you have to ask yourself, would this work in reverse for me? Would I want to know sooner rather than later? Here's a good one. What if someone has AIDS? Would you want to know about it on the first date or after having sex? Where do you want to know? I invite you to answer that question for yourself. I think there's a Keanu Reeves movie with Charlize Theron, where I can't remember if she has a terminal illness or he has a terminal illness and they only have two months to spend together. You know, each person's feelings on this is different, but ask yourself the question, when would you want to know if it were the other way around? I hope that answers your question, Wanda, thank you so much for asking. By the way, Tweet News says, is this live or is Memorex? No, this is a live video. So, Sharifa says, question, what if a man agrees to dating vows just to clear that hurdle, but has no intention of keeping those relationship vows? Here's the thing. Yeah, a man could use you and agree to the vows, but I will tell you, most men, not all, but most men have a subconscious moral compass, okay? They might not have a, they really do have a subconscious moral compass. And I would say to you, if a man is no intention, he might get it for the short run. And here's the chance you take, having sex with, this is why, listen, Jay Shetty says it takes about 40 hours of face-to-face time just to kind of get to know someone. I say it takes about a hundred hours of face-to-face time just to build the first layer of trust. And it takes about 200 hours of face-to-face time to build a good friendship with someone. Maybe before sex, you wait to build that deeper connection with a person. And if he's lasted that long, I highly doubt he's doing it just to get laid. But if he does, you know, that's the risk we take, okay? Sharifa, thank you so much for that question. I really appreciate it. Tweet says, I'm not letting a man touch me before marriage, okay? Let's see. Akua says, I don't wanna be used anymore, way to go. Gloria says, I'm done giving my power away. Omni in the air says, it's sinking in. I'm so happy to hear this. All right. LG says question. How do I break off from a man who is enjoying your warm, how do I break it off from a man who's enjoying your warm energy but has no interest in commit? It seems like it takes a while to figure this out. Well, how do you break it off with a guy? You say, I'm done. I want to end this relationship, okay? You just simply say, I'm done. I wanna end this relationship. You say, I don't want to do this relationship. You just break up with them. You send a text message if you have to and end the relationship. And if he's being inconsiderate to you, you block him. That's not, ladies, that's not a hard thing to do. You know what I mean? I know you guys are, listen, I know you're suckling on the nipple of I need you to love me so I can feel good about myself. That tells me you've given your power away. You should love yourself so much that you have the self-respect to say, this guy isn't meeting my needs. He's not meeting the agreements. He's not living up. His actions don't live up to whatever words he said. You should walk away. And if you don't, that's because he has your power. You know, there was a saying in the movie, ghosts of girlfriends past where Michael Douglas plays a player and he says, the person who cares the least has the most power. Look at, I know it might seem like a loving thing to do, to care about someone. But the first person you should care about is yourself. Would you give your daughter? What advice would you give your daughter if she's being used by a guy? Would you say, please keep letting him use you, please let him lose you, please let him, is that what you would do for your daughter? Will you have a little girl inside of you that is screaming to say, please take care of me? You're the adult, please take care of me. And that means don't giving your power away to another human being. I told you upfront, this was gonna be a rant, a big gigantic rant. All right, Miranda says, question. What if you were in a bad place when you tried to date a guy, broke up with him and then want to try again because your life is better, but he doesn't trust you? Great question. Well, then I think it's about building trust. Now, by the way, where are these two books? There's another book I'm looking, waiting, trying to get. Oh, okay, if you haven't read the book, it's a tiny little book, How to Build Trust in a Relationship. And by the way, Couple's Communication Guide, two really good books. Look at, this is only double spaced 49 pages. It's a great start, Miranda. This is how you learn to build trust. Read these books and they'll get you on your way. All right, great question. Thank you so much. Let's see, Omnire products. Question, entered into a no contact. He texted twice but didn't respond to me. I told him to no longer contact me and I told him my feelings why. Did I handle that correctly? If it's sincere and from the heart, again, my book, chapter nine, where's chapter nine? Here it is. If it's sincere and from the heart, you can't say the wrong thing. If it was sincere and from your heart, you couldn't have said the wrong thing, okay? So yes, you did the right thing. Paloma says, question. So are these little using tactics only a man thing or just a human nature of any person? That's a good question. I think women have a higher propensity to want commitment and men have a higher propensity to wanna get laid. So men will say what they need to say to get laid, more so than women. Again, there are women users out there. They're entitled women. There are gold digger women. There are women who will use men but traditionally speaking, men are rather dysfunctional after they've gotten to midlife. By the way, women are rather dysfunctional because women accept bad behavior from men and men have bad behavior because they're fucked up. And now mind you, we're all fucked up. It's just a matter of degrees, but there's people that have significant childhood wounds and traumas. Well, let me reframe that. We all have childhood wounds and many of us have adult traumas that makes most of us rather emotionally constipated or rather dysfunctional to be in relationship. That's the reality. Whether we like it or not. And if you want to improve your odds, if you want to put yourself in a space like my client that emailed me with a picture of her boyfriend recently, then you have to learn the rules of engagement. You have to learn radical honesty. You have to learn how to present yourself in such a way that you can be seen, heard and understood by those quality men. And by the way, 80% of the guys are dysfunctional. Only 20% of the male population, the world according to Jonathan are actually emotional grownups who want to be in a healthy, happy relationship. Is this sinking in? Is this resonating? Please let me know. So thanks for that question. Question, how does a woman know when she is ready to date after a breakup? When she doesn't give her power away to a guy. When you can operate from a place of I call it passionate and detached. Passionate means being open to the possibilities and detached from the outcome. When you can get to that place, you're ready to date. Oh, and you've healed from your previous relationship. Question, we've not had any intimate contact yet but he doesn't want to leave me alone. What should I do? Have a conversation. What are we doing here? What's the purpose? Folks, again, you guys are so afraid to ask real serious questions. Listen, the minute two people like each other and want to kiss, you get to establish, and by the way, if you want to have sex, you get to establish the rules of engagement. What is the purpose of this? Well, I need to take it slow and I need to take it slow but I want to fuck you, but I want to take it slow. Folks, if someone, listen, we need to be adopting a different philosophy. We need to, listen, I think right off the bat and this is purely, this is just rhetorical. I'm just being tongue-in-cheek when I'm about to say this. We should stop dating and we should, the minute two people want to have sex, they should move in together for 30 days to see how they actually get along with each other. Do you know, you really don't know a person until you live with them? So you might as well get it out of the way rather than this long drawn out process we call dating which is really just a long drawn out version of friends with benefits but you don't really know that's what it is because truthfully, okay, I want you to think about this for every person that goes on a first date tonight. Let's say there's a million people that go on a first date tonight in United States, okay? Probably less than one-tenth of one-tenth of 1% will actually ever get married from that number. I'm just being tongue-in-cheek here for a moment. And of that, okay, let's just, let me change the odds, okay? Of the million people go on first date, they'll actually marry that person is one-tenth of one-tenth percent, okay? Of the actual people of that group that will actually move in together, it's one-tenth, wait, let me do this again. It's one-tenth of one-tenth of one percent, okay? And the other one is one-tenth of one percent and of the actual turn into a relationship is less than, no, it's the other way around. Yeah, it's probably one percent will actually turn into some sort of dating and I'm making up this number. The point is we should try to sooner get to know this person because the current process of dating ain't working, okay. I'm just a rant again, I'm ranting tonight. Someone says you're so on target, thank you so much. Thank you, you're a boss, thank you. Melanie says so true. WM says thank you, you're like my dad teaching me to pick men wisely, you've saved me. I'm happy to hear that. Oh, let's keep going. Jennifer says dating is a mess, exactly. Relationships are dead, they can be. Men, a lot of men just wanna get laid. Kasha says, question. I was dating a man, he broke it off with me because I have kids, we haven't had sex. He just wants to be friends but wants to see and talk to me most days and buys me gifts and things I need. Do you remember when I said the sneaky way men use you? He treats you like his therapist. He just wants to be friends, he just wants a female, some female person to talk to. Folks, you don't need to collect friends. I just wanna think about it. If you met the love of your life tomorrow, is this person gonna be in your life? It took me, I've got a dear female friend. It took us a decade to build that friendship and we're very tight with one another, okay. Now, we invested in each other regularly to build that friendship. Now, she's met my sweetheart Marie. Actually, we went out to drinks with her the other night. She's a dear friend of mine. We never dated, we never had sex, we never kissed. She's a dear friend. It took years to develop that friendship. While you're developing this friendship with this guy, what about the person that's gonna be your true life partner? Is this person going to be a long lasting friend or an acquaintance, okay? Just my two cents on that one. All right, let's see. Well, it looks like we don't have any other questions. You know what? I just yelled at you guys for the last 36 minutes. Did this have any value for you? Are you going to make a difference in your life? Are you gonna stand in your power? Are you gonna stop giving your power away? Because a lot of men are cowards and they're clueless and they're emotionally constipated. It's not your job to re-educate them. It's your job to sift through the muck and find the diamonds in the rough out there. And they do exist. Great guys do exist. My clients are meeting great guys all the time. I get calls from, it's amazing. The minute they make an investment in the program, I get calls, Jonathan, I met a great guy. Jonathan, I met a great guy. Jonathan, I met a great guy and they know the difference because they've done the work to learn how to weed out men by vetting, by screening, by filtering. And actually, through this other process we do in my coaching, which is really designed to create your funnel as wide as possible, but really do a good job of filtering out the wrong people to actually let in the right person in your life. Is this sinking in? Is this resonating? Please let me know. All right, I'm so glad to hear from Gloria. This is super valuable. I'm so happy to hear that you had value from this. I'm glad to hear this is making a difference in your life. By the way, if it is, please purchase a super sticker, super chat before we wrap up tonight. If you really like to donate to the Connor Asley Scholarship Fund. Yeah, I'm gonna wrap up this video as I always do. First off, giving myself a big, gigantic, Jonathan Barrett of self love. I'm gonna reach into the camera and give you a hug of love if that's okay. I'm gonna ask you to turn to someone, a pet, a teddy bear or a pillow. There's a teddy bear. Give it or them a hug of love because hugs are a great source of love. And let's face it, we could all use more love in our lives. I wanna thank Mimi and Melissa and LG and Gloria and Jamison and Jennifer and Desert and Belgium and Chandler and Rhonda and Anna and Kausha and Jamison. And let's see, Paloma and I can't even get all these names. LG, thank you so much. Wishing you a fab evening. Bye now.