 amazing because Sarah asked me to talk on certainty and it's interesting it was the correlation between wandering in this world and not knowing who you are and certainty is a very high correlation the more willing you are to wander and not have a clue of who you are where you are what you are what's happening and you become more and more really clueless about everything that's where your certainty level goes higher and higher the more clueless you get the more certain you get it seems like a paradox to the ego because the ego says you can't be clueless and certain but actually that it's actually how it goes and by it and you know just all kinds of things that seem to be beyond the traditional ways of moving through time and space just like that workbook lesson I trust my brothers who are one with me just and then growing in the confidence of that and so you know I think we're kind of moving more kind of into a touring phase away from the centers and and I think that's part of the joy of it but it's a step more into confidence and certainty so you don't necessarily know where you'll lay your head down you don't necessarily know where your next meals coming from you don't necessarily have a clue like you know we'll go through the day with these clever meetings but when you're out there in wandering in the world you don't know who you're gonna meet what's gonna happen how long you'll be a place and it's it would seem that that would bring in high levels of uncertainty and maybe even for the ego just like a fear of of just being purposeless but actually when you have your purpose firmly in your heart and you just kind of give it over to the spirit they show me lead me then that's where it opens up all the all the adventures all the avenues just open up from there from not knowing from being that place of not knowing and that's what I loved about I mean I did the gatherings in Brazil and just put up in hotels and taken to see different sites and everything but the best part for me was just these spontaneous heart-to-heart gatherings where you could just feel it going deeper and deeper and deeper just deep sense of love and intimacy and then this spontaneous things just unfolding out of that in so much glee enjoy just one thing to the next to the next to the next and then I guess to come into that certainty it's also letting go of the idea of what it means to be something to be working out or not working out because I guess when we work on projects there's still some kind of idea of how it will look if it works out and how it will look if it doesn't work out and that can get frustrating to to kind of you find yourself going in it's like you're going down a route road in the tunnel and it's like you start to hit walls or dead ends or whatever it's like well what's happening here and I think that's like a washing away of this idea that that you actually still know what anything is for because even with the projects you know there's certain assumptions of this is going to happen this is showing us that it's working and reminds me of the early days when I would sit down to write something or whatever and I'd get like through this whole thing work for hours on something and then something would happen it would all get deleted and it would just be like what like and I still had this sense like you know it was it was a state of mind kind of mind training it wasn't it was showing me that it's not in the form you know and it was undoing all senses of accomplishment and and everything you know when you get work so long and something and something happens and it just completely is gone then you know you have to just see the humor and and and have a laugh and and start to get the lesson you know there's really a lesson underneath it there but so goes against all our conditioning you know that's just such a it's like an accomplishment mentality and in the end the state of being is you know it from the world's perspective it seems like an accomplishment but from the experience of what is you know it's it's laughable the whole idea of accomplishment is is even laughable there's nothing there's nothing that's ever been accomplished in a world that doesn't exist you can't actually have a real have a real accomplishment you can't have a real resume you know you can't rest on your laurels because you you have no laurels so that's that's always good that's where it's all it's all having yeah so not about accomplishing or achieving something that's that's probably why she was just that she that she even had the question coming from like whether you're aiming towards her but you're not really aiming that's the fun of it you get into the joy of it then you want to talk about it and it's all exciting but this is what is it for yeah like sometimes people will say what are you selling or you're trying to get it a motive but there is no there's no motive there searching for a ghost yeah the title of the book unwind your mind if you put that title along with this notion in the course that everything not some things or most things but everything is backwards and upside down in this world and you then you start to get a hint unwind your mind and everything is backwards and upside down so so yeah if you can start to open to that then you can start to see that he says you can't judge your advances from your retreats meaning really you you really can't judge success and failure in this world and you never will be able to I mean the once you come to the enlightened state there are no successes and failures and on the way there everything is going to be backwards and upside down so it's comforting actually I mean I found those things in the course were very very comforting but I couldn't make sense of anything I would just be reminded of that because probably some of the happiest most so joyful moments that I've had in my experience with the tears just burst out you know we're we're more like Lucille Ball episodes with Lucy and Ethel you know where they would get off and some adventure and then you would get more out of control and more out of control and then that would be the funny moments of everything was out of control and that was the comedy you know I'm sure that just even the writers got a feel before they even got in there and then when they got in there and they got into the skip and they were acting it out and I've had I just had you know just yeah like a lot of those kind of adventures and where I was just kind of in that state of kind of expecting the unexpected or not realizing that it wasn't going to go a certain way and knowing that heading into it but that's kind of like if you can have that attitude with with everything that nothing is as it seems everything's backwards and upside down that you're just gonna go through this you'll get internal guidance and you'll be navigated but you won't be able to know the destination because if you already knew you would have needs the guidance and so and things are not gonna go the way things are gonna go things are gonna go very different you know there's gonna be a lot of twists and turns and lots of things that are just not gonna anticipate and you may be tempted to to judge them sometimes that something's gone wrong something's gone off something's gone bad but in the end you'll see that no it hasn't never went was off never took a wrong turn you never actually even made a mistake you never never made one wrong move at all ever grace like you're in the grace and that's truly the healing of relationships because it's yeah that just totally wipes away any sense of wrongdoing or grievance it's it's the undoing of unworthiness even what talking to these two Chinese girls because they they each had this sense that the other was giving them so much more than they were giving Susie was like you just love me and you offer me so much and you help me out so much and everything and I don't deserve it and then the other one said you open my heart you take me on travels you open doors for me and take me places I would never dare to go myself and I don't deserve it and I thought and I said yeah I told him in the end I said that's just the way that it goes usually it's the one that we think as ourself is the last one to accept the love and the gratitude we can we can see it reflected even more in others than we can you know seemingly in our self until the transfer goes all the way around but I said oh it's so beautiful you guys it's such a great holy relationship you're both you're both givers and have a little trouble receiving or believing is more believing that you're worthy to receive that's the thing that's the that's the convincing that's happening there were so worthy of everything yeah and the joining it's like the doors open to but it was like again and they're joining you know whatever one needs the other provides it's the spirit does it through these joining where it can seem to be a limit or an impossibility then something comes in because Emily said oh Susie just keeps talking about Utah I want you know like people talk about going to Mecca or something I'm with Utah Utah I want to go and live in Utah I want to see what it's like to live in Utah so she's over there well wandering all over China the king of Utah is like her Shangri-La and I'm here if you're all here in the Camus Metaphysical Center and I'm talking about wandering and who you are where you are what's coming next is the the glee of wondering just you know not not having an idea not having a clue that's the beauty of it yeah people just get fired up about some pathway or teaching and then they just want to give it away they want to share and extend it join together in some way that's really all we do just have opportunities so many opportunities every day what you said about you know it takes all the pressure off relationships is the guess you were saying I couldn't have been any different during but the worthiness that part that just all felt so good I can't actually conceptualize the words you use but that felt so good I could feel like the clench of the unworthiness the trying or something still I could feel it start to release and go here's my way out like the relief it's like it's like on the way like zooming in on the love and zooming in on the innocence and so different from the ego just picking at everything trying to pick apart things but yeah there's so many opportunities for that to love is so strong and then it comes out in such a playful way I feel that a lot with the touring and going out it's just like everything just it's so warm and playful that it just kind of melts everything away and then people are just so drawn into that vibe they just feel the love just want to just open up to it and come closer and closer and closer it's just it's just so prior to time it just it doesn't it's the I am this it just can't recognize a mistake it just has no recognition of a mistake or the possibility or the potentiality of a mistake it's flying back from Brazil and and I had my iPhone on shuffle this song came on and I just started to feel the love just well up and it's the song you might some of you have heard it called high and and then it got to that part of the lyrics when the tears just started to flow down my cheeks I'm just laying there meditating but impossible is easy when we're together you know that that line even the impossible because everything you could say that that atonement or innocence from the worldly perspective seems to be impossible in a world of sin in a world that's generated out of error where every nuance every fabric of this dream is is projected error that's why it's so depressing that's why it seems like such a closed system that's why it seems like there's no escape that's why actually there's no awareness in the mainstream of of it being a dream or of escape so that's why there's so much focus on just a little bit of scraps of pleasure and scraps of good good feelings because it's so dark that the scraps are even emphasized but even the impossible is easy when we're together you know it's you know it reminds me of that with God all things are possible and that there's no ain't no mountain high enough and all those songs that just talk about really that how inevitable awakening is through this love through this innocence but without this love and innocence it just seems bleak bleak and meaningless I mean in a dark sense dark and meaningless and empty in a very dark sense not like the Buddhist to talk about or we talk about an empty mind so to me that's that's really what we're we're just sinking back into that that experience and feeling the gratitude of that we're back to you know again we're not trying to accomplish anything it's not not going for an accomplishment we don't have that like your mother was saying what's it what what is it for we're not fishing for a reason not fishing for something to make sense in the world we're so willing to let go of whatever things mean just what I love just to have a good taste of true love I find from the course nothing you think or do or say or make and establish your worth your worth was established by God so far beyond the things that we have associated with worth we're worthy when a plane takes off you know it's got to accelerate quite a bit down a runway before it actually just softly to see the tires lift up it just takes off it's such a soft lifting at the end but there's this loud and kind of forceful acceleration and so yeah that's weak our path has been the path of devotion and through this collaborative devotion but but the lift off is when you really see that was nothing about any of the form it's not even a collaboration between people it just seems like that way when you're on the runway that you're collaborating with your brothers and sisters and and you can even feel the momentum of the speed picking up as you're getting closer and closer to that beautiful point of light lift off where you literally where you leave the ground but that lift off point is where you see it's always been the spirit it's always been the Holy Spirit and it's always it's never been personal and nothing that you ever seem to do or not to made no difference at all went to the lift at the end of the runway because even with the idea of collaboration and team you know there's still there's still a tiny little there's still personal aspects to it little nuances a little bit of pride injected in there with the persons but not with the lift off it's almost like an ah like oh that's where you get to yeah I feel that then I say that's why I sit and I look out from the airports and just watch the planes faster faster I will be there I'm coming get it up but it's just the day flows along you don't have to like search it out or figure it out or make it happen or whatever it's just just being in presence just being and letting what comes come and if something it's doors seem to open you go through them if doors close you don't you don't you can't you just that's that stores not opening I'm not going through there but you could you know that's that's the way the day is going I was talking to this woman right before I left Brazil and she was she was concerned about what to pray for and and what steps to take she kept talking about some points where she felt she was stuck and what to pray for and everything I said well you know my prayer has always been make it obvious she said make it obvious oh that's great that covers everything that's the only prayer I have to have for God I don't have to figure any of this stuff out just make it obvious and and she said do you put anything like please make it out she wanted to make sure she got the exact word because it's the only prayer I need that takes care of you from personal inspiration yeah feel or don't feel that could be a thing do I really feel it is it meant to happen is this the Holy Spirit you go no no blah blah blah blah make it obvious you know and she's almost like slicing through like one of those ice cutter you know ships up in the heart they just got a whole mass of ice just cuts through the whole thing make it obvious make it obvious kind of fun when you think about it just to offer those prayer up to the Holy Spirit make it obvious and then just rest okay I've offered my prayer up I've done my part you can obvious and now we'll see after there well that was the first part I was actually I had to write all these gratitude letters I kept hearing it for two days from the moment I was happy to go do things like buy a little orange thing with zoo for the show or camp to write these gratitude letters and I went to go do it as I some kind of like resistance just sharing or using this body and saying Jason is but I got into it I got so excited I was like jumping around my room oh my god you know should I be doing this whatever that's when that movie thing and I like it is they kept going forward so I came back and kept going yeah yeah that was your icebreaker with the kids because you know like the force of coming down it's like there's something that wants to come through just keeps coming and coming and it's not it's a whether doors are opening or closing it's I experienced this when I was in in Hawaii you're swimming towards what looks like which looks like a shelf of Carl it doesn't look like there's any way through but you can feel that's the way you're going you just keep going going and not until you're right there is it really obvious where the opening is and you're straight through the stream is taking you your kick is taking you unknown are taking you and you're just going that way and you more and more feel like you're just along for the ride this and just like the things that make it obvious like it keeps being in front of your face but that doesn't necessarily mean you experience it as feeling good or you understand anything of what it's for like right in front of my face and then there's this temptation just over your eyes like why you okay but what is this for because it keeps you I have experiences that keep showing up right in front of me like I don't get this but I am doing nothing to bring this if anything I'm willing to like step back I used all these step back thoughts in my mind but it's like I mean blatant so it's for me and why I really I can't even really know why I say I don't feel like a no-fly just this must be where it's just happening yeah it's just I remember this teacher of the course Tara saying you know we're always talking about no expectation his was his thing was always the wise man expects things to be exactly as they are I was like I would read all these books and they would get one thing it would stick with me like the wise man expects things to be exactly as they are so that's that was beautiful like when I was in Brazil they go to these new countries that don't speak the language and even that you know oftentimes we're taking in and staying with how in people's houses okay we're in a hotel you like this and then it's everything turns into a joke though because now in modern day in the old hotels you used to have keys you get in you unlock the key you unlock the door with a key that was back in the days when they have phone booths nowadays I say phone booths in my stories and what's a phone booth I go believe me there was fun there actually was we actually had phone booths but I said so I so they give me the magnetized card so I go to my I get there late got through all we go through these big traffic jams and finally hours hours later after the long flights I get there to give you the magnetized key and you ready to just go and lay down and you slide it in and it's red and and they put you up on the kind of what floor you're in it's like you've got your luggage in red so I go down and meet some guy in the hall and he's like shaking his head I said remember the days when we had keys you could actually stick a key in it and get in there he's laughing and he said now it's all so yeah that's the thing the whole time it would be I would never know I would go up there I go up there the second time down red red green every single time it was a whole new adventure with these magnetized things and then they're like did you put it next to yourself no I carefully kept it in the other pocket everything but it was just this thing with the keys and then I was telling him at the thing because the one who was paying for it he said now this hotel you get breakfast with your hotel room stay okay keep that in mind so then I did ever had an appetite anyway but one day I thought I'm just gonna go and get a cup of tea or something and so I looked and everybody was giving a little voucher and I thought that's kind of odd for a free thing and I went up to go to the checkout this I went over there and they said oh yeah you have to pay for it do they said it was free so I was sharing that in the gathering it's like every single thing you just it's like oh you accept whatever it is oh yeah it's this way you don't have it you end up I didn't ever had anticipation that the magnetic that the door was actually gonna open you have to go up there and you just kind of look around the hall but you don't it's even something that simple as putting a card in you don't you don't you just go like this red but it would be sometimes too for you know just so was just perfect practice it now that all things be exactly as they are that all things be that's like the day you had today it was just the one lesson all things be exactly as they are and try to figure it out let all let all things be exactly the hour just so just because you keep getting sent up in the elevator with a bag and with a seeming key code card that doesn't mean anything nothing that's just what you're doing that's just what's happening it's irrelevant I just keep thinking George was to open and I can see oh my god it's so great like it's like it's the tension is you just thought there was an outcome even as simple as all these setups it looks like that's even this idea that the healing is supposed to have any idea any thought that they're supposed to be released forgiveness something any thought like that becomes concrete for torture it's just you get so many opportunities when we finally got set up to do the talk you know they had held my candle like they gave me a shirt Mike and then getting it up and then to get it to stay perky pointed up this way and I look down look down there look down look down just like drew and they have a little safe a little clip or something like a safety pin or something so then finally okay test test test test but I would speak it would be on and would go on and off and on and off and one time it had done this during the thing and they said the batteries up this time I'm getting ready to start the talk and it's it's doing this thing on and off the guy comes out and he says no no it's good it's got a fresh battery it's good it's good so we start the thing it's it's on and off for like 10 minutes I'm talking you know where it's magnified and not magnified magnified and not yeah whoever's editing those films they find that part in there and then finally I but I just went along this was talking magnified not magnified not I couldn't distract it it's you can't expect that the microphone's gonna stay on you can't expect these things there's no point in even giving a thought like I'm just gonna speak as if it's there is no microphone and then after 10 minutes the guy comes out it's not working yeah that's why and so they said you need to use a handheld mic just put it to the floor but there's just little things I got so deep into attack thoughts at one point talking about how do you release attack that's why I said I said you have to realize that that attack thoughts are any judgments that are positive or negative not just the negative ones but the positive ones the compliments are the same as the criticism so people scratching their head and one guy said oh such resistance when you start talking about that positive thoughts are the same as the negative thoughts it's you know so I said yeah it's like any compliment around form of the body I said yeah you know you've got nice hair I like your hair I don't like your hair I like your shirt I don't like your shirt I like your pants I don't like your pants I started going there was a woman in there must have been in the course for like 20 some years you know and she just was just looking at me while I'm going way down into the positive thoughts are the same as the negative thoughts and then at the very end of the gathering she waits till the very end after I've given talk for like 15 minutes on this topic and she goes I like your shirt okay that was the end of that all I did was okay that was I'm just here sharing a presence and so then after the gatherings over people are milling around and everything and I shared in that example that that you you know you get both sides you have to see they're both the same that's the whole lesson and so people were milling around gathering over somebody talking to me and then she goes oh and by the way I don't like your shirt aha there we are there's the other there's the dented beetle you know there it is coming around it's just wait the like and the dislike positive and the negative but it's the big distraction of the world to go for the positive seek the positive and avoid the negative every day because each seek seek more the positive avoid avoid the negative not seeing that they're both the same again another day police person let's try this again here's the lesson seek the positive avoid the negative and that that still has to do with trying to think you know what's going on you can figure you know what's positive you know what's positive that you can figure anything out yeah so we've been married for 50 years and then one person goes another because it's not a good or bad thing you don't know and you'll never know because it's it's not understandable but nothing of this world everything just everything just completely taken care of but it's like yeah just to be a leaf in the river that's that's all we're you know make it obvious and to be a leaf in the river where you just have not a clue and yeah so that's great it's great heading towards an airport not having a clue whether you're on the plane or yeah but it's just with every single thing you just have to stay in that we always talk about chance the gardener or Magoo to stay in the Magoo mind that's really that's more the advanced I'm training it's just to be totally Magoo 100% Magoo then you're you're totally invulnerable to an expectation you're really invulnerable to the script because you're writing simultaneously and you're in that absolute cluelessness with everything it's an empty mind what's coming or care really it just felt so much love to I just felt there was so much love and care in that being carried it's a beautiful symbol of beautiful reminder of that how how cared for we are when we're in that place it's just total surrender I think that's been helpful that symbol to travel for many of these countries where I don't speak the languages don't understand things then it's almost like that's like an invitation to me like just come even deeper into that trust yeah yeah sometimes maybe it's a little child when you get a little whiff of this world and you see all these adults big adults around everything they're all moving around they seem to have such important things to do and the help dressed up and they do all these crazy things and you're just looking in this going God my God like this is a mess I got myself into and you're just a kid you're just a tiny little body and you're looking at all you think I can't even imagine getting into whatever that is and yet all your messages as you move forward from there are you have to get it to that and part of you is just going like that is not appealing at all it was pretty strong in me education school without feeling and you know I mean just the rules of the strange weird place and you don't do that and then you're supposed to kind of get into that is just that's normal and as if you can actually fit into it and then once you I mean the message is just hammer it hammer hammer hammer day in day out you know and you've seen that no other option nobody's showing up saying that it's just a dream don't give it a thought you know and then you you finally start to get into it and then you finally start getting to this thing we think oh God I'm something suggesting or adapting here you finally start to take on personal responsibility now you've been tricked into being a person tricked into survival tricked into do the right thing tricked into pleasing people tricked into having future goals tricked into having ambition tricked into the whole lie and then and being told now you're adjusting now you're good you just bought this big lie and now the messages are getting hammered that's good that's good that's good you're just normal developing progressing human being responsible it's good you're responsible that's good so you're you're hammered that personal responsibility is good and at some point now you've got it now shift back to that little childlike thing it wasn't buying it in the first place but it's been so ingrained hammered in personally responsible personally responsible personally responsible so when I meet people that they will open up their hearts and they will just say well I'm I'd be home free and happy as you are except for this this this and those they just speak their tethers they speak their chains you know they come right up and they speak them out and I don't know there's just something to me that's just once just pour out to them and just go no those things can not hold you back at all and and then all these kind of symbols and metaphors of no it's not the prison that you think you're in is not really what you think it is and and just almost like stepping some ideas that they could start to begin to go because they don't really see a way out they're so in they're so just circumscribed by these false responsibility personal responsibility is that they don't think there's actually hope of an escape from them they're just trying to figure a way to try to have a little more wiggle room but they don't actually believe they can get out of the chains but that's yeah so for me it's like just being with the being with the being with them I mean one says no I have a child and I said but my word Hillary Clinton said it takes the village it takes the village maybe you'll have symbols of other caregivers coming in this you know you don't have to even personally feel responsible for raising a child or it's the weight of the personal responsibility with whatever the job streets of the year the children or whatever the tether seem to be it's like no so it turns into it's that seemingly being thrust against the rocks is is like now you're like unwinding from that heavy heavy hammering heavy conditioning is so reinforced you know that you have to do something even to get out of it and that's not even true ultimately you don't really have to do anything it just seems to play itself out but it's more of just yeah every time we get thrust against the rocks it's more just by taking a step back and saying what is it what is it that I'm still clinging to or holding to or identifying with this really that takes you right to the core of the tether what is it that I'm really still identifying with what's thought that you can't be the thinker of this thoughts what a doer of those actions is absolutely impossible but the convincing job it's just it's just been so strong how it's going the other way feels like almost a willingness to shout help instead of trying to avoid rocks instead of trying to keep shouting help just calling it beyond this this anything of the known and just like a loud it like a rushing into just that would be what I don't know there will be the difference this throwing it completely open there's always a there's some sense of handling always yeah yeah heavy conditioning with autonomy that's like the first kind of reaction to handle it on one's own that's supposed to be this great thing that you finally achieve and mature and you can handle the world in the world's terms really it's nothing actually you know it's hell but it's talked about as if it's heaven and then the ones that seem to be successful in the world successful still confident they've got it all together you know this price removed from reality not even close to reality and those are the successful ones and there's chinks in the armor there's cracks this that's controlled and manicured and everything as it is why it's a major chinks in that armor and then it's yeah it it's never pretty yeah it's such a watching just to stay in I hopped into a camp on the way to the mountain climbing and again it's all going on Portuguese sharp I can feel the sharp conversation back and forth back and forth back and forth back and forth it's like a Chinese ping-pong game and the cab is a movie this is like this is all interaction inside the cab and everything and then such swash wash wash wait wait I believe I've just a part of the string that's not moving so I'm just bobbling there Portuguese is going out of the cab not moving we're in a cab but who says cabs are supposed to move when you get in them right just for sure so I'm in the cab and it's all that's going on the cab is not moving and the cab was really firm and and then I'm after like two minutes of this then she looks up to me she says she opens the door we're getting out of the cab and then she explains to me that the cab driver were going up to this high mountain and the cab driver is insecure about taking his cab up away from the city up that high and she said so she said it was good it was a good exchange she said because she said he he was forthright and he she was very glad that he was transparent about his insecurities and you know we wouldn't want to be going up in the cab with somebody that didn't really want to be going there but she was also asking me so she said so this we don't we just accept it right and we don't push I said yeah that's exactly exactly it because that was the that was the thing and it happened again it seems like there was a series of those events and she's like looking like what's the lesson in this and I said yeah we don't push we don't push no matter what we don't push we can afford not to push in this this state of being she's like yeah I like this but still it was there's no missing of you know it was back and forth it was it was almost like an exposure of insecurities and so forth it had to take place but it still was not affecting you know anything that seemed to transpire at all yeah it also comes back to this it's so subtle because it's always around time like people that go to Mexico and they they go whoa the perception of time is so different in Mexico and then they'll say yeah and be when somebody tells you mañana mañana they don't mean tomorrow they mean not now that's all manana means is not now which is great because the Bible said let your yeah be a let your Navy name so if somebody asks somebody for can you do a service for me can you do this can you do can you promise me something around the future the Bible Jesus says it's your yeah but we're not supposed to promise make promises for the future really because it's a trick it really isn't there we're promising something that is hypothetical so it's not even there so I like that manana manana means not now it's it's no if you ask somebody can you do this for me and they go manana manana it means no it's very simply no which is good I like that they're being direct but that's their language if you interpret it mean tomorrow you're in trouble then it's hell if you think there is a tomorrow then it's hell but and you think you've made a promise now somebody has to keep their word on it then it's hell you know help is on the way I think Byron Katie one time he said help is on the way is hell and no one's coming no one's coming that's it help is on the way you see how different that is from the help is on the way in the future it's like good and no one's coming we're screwed but it's actually everything the world is backwards and upside down it's deep but it's all makes sense from you see it's all backwards I went over to the Canary Islands to visit my friend Susanna Ortiz one time and she kept telling me before I went she said oh there's a couple that wants you to marry them over here on the island and so when I got there she said oh come let's do some talks with David so we're talking talking apparently the night before the wedding I was giving a whole talk on the present moment love is present so all it is it's love is right now and I didn't know it but the bride in the groom were in the audience so I get my whole talk on it's just present as present as present and I could say yeah if you ever get married and I don't even know that I'm marrying who I'm marrying the next day it's always blind but so I said if you ever get married the best vowel really the only value you want to take if you want to really be in the truth and be a line with truth is I love you now that's the value you can make so sure enough we get the next day and the brides all dressed up and the groom they come out and they said have you prepared your vows they're both those became English but I had to translate they said yes we have one bow we were at your talk last night and I love you now that's they've got so they exchanged the vow the vow I love you now and I said yeah you know it's if you really understand what this means you know that you have no future together it just flips everything around but in the most striking ways we're like with the marriage people the bride will sometimes say I spent my whole life dreaming and visualizing one day and then the pressure is enormous on that day spend years and years visualizing however you've got to be and how it's got to look they make movies they make comedies out of that day going I mean there's so many good ones but I do like time travelers wife because the groom literally he dissolves away and then the best man is trying to make excuses you know and then he comes in the door but he's from a difference so he's got a little bit of gray and when he goes down the aisle the father the bride looks but that's really playing they had and then on the wedding night that's got to be your all-time no expectations saying they're on the wedding night they're bouncing up and down prior to having sex the first on the wedding night just after getting married and she's laying there waiting for him and she's just so happy she closes her eyes and just his clothes come down on her nobody on the wedding night I thought that's a good movie that movie is more than expecting sex on the wedding night expecting a body in the bed with you on the wedding night or a body at all in the room with you that's a that was a good movie for for laying inside expectations what the fast-track marry a time traveler never know whether they're there or not there or gone when they'll be around that was perfect though that was on the wedding day it rained and stopped and stopped and nobody knew what would happen or because we were going to do it down the points but not in the rain but then it was rain and stuff so we just were trusting and going through the whole day that's a great thing because you drove down the parking lot and I was getting a little like cheese but it was gonna happen to you and I don't know what and you got a car and you gave me a big smile and I said that's a moment to a moment thing I guess you know just kind of calling me but down it was nice yeah there was you could feel all the letting go of expectations right there on the wedding day it's funny the things that seem so important in this world you know then you start to get this deeper context like it's still the same lesson like being a leaf in the river it doesn't matter what it is marriage graduation birthdays so-called big events sacred days afternoon it's it's a it's a message from a Hawaii credit union flashing the hurricane has passed