 Stay with me in this video and I'm going to share with you one of the absolute best tools I've developed for my clients when it comes to overcoming procrastination and taking more consistent action and whatever goal that you have for yourself. You know it's time for you to take action to do something that you've been planning on but there is some kind of inner conflict within yourself. A part of you wants to stay rude on the couch while the other part of you knows it's time now to go and do something to take action on this goal. So you're in the middle right and you're trapped and it feels like actually it's really weird because you're in no man's land, let's say you're watching TV or something and you know you've got to do some work on your goal, your project, you're sitting there and you're watching your TV. Now you're not actually enjoying the TV because your mind is actually thinking about oh I should be working, I should be working, it's that nagging little voice in the back of our mind. So you're not actually doing any work on your project but you're not watching TV either, you're not relaxing either so you're actually in no man's land. That's the whole problem with procrastination. So the course I have for this online at my website, DrDavidNoe.com, takes you point A all the way to point Z in terms of how you actually eradicate this behavior once and for all from your life. And I'm going to share with you today in this video one of the ways you can think about this and understand why you procrastinate because if you understand that I want you to give you this for free today you know this can be in itself this can be something that can really transform this unhelpful behavior that we get drawn into. So we're going to get into it for now. I have written here procrastination, lazy and bossy. Now this picture here is you, that's your mind okay and what we have is Freud would have called these things, this is two parts of your mind. This is your lazy mind and this is your bossy mind. Now this Freud would have called your super ego and this he would have called your aid. So what do I mean by that okay? So if you're in a situation where you have to make a decision about whether or not you're going to do something or not, a part of you is going to have a lazy conversation. I don't want to do it, I just need to relax. Maybe I'll watch one more episode of that show. I can do it later you know it's not that important. On this side of your mind you're going to have a completely different conversation going on. That's why did you wait so long? We need to take action now, get up, we don't have time for this etc etc right? Bossy bossy bossy lazy lazy lazy. And this is why so many people who procrastinate have this thing where they talk about feeling like they're in inner conflict and that conflict gets so overpowering that it kind of leads to paralysis. So where you are in all of this is here in the middle. So you are in effect the, you're the decision maker in all of this okay, you're the decision maker right in the middle. Do you choose lazy or do you choose bossy? Now here is the super important part about all of this and the point of this whole little video today. Most people identify with this. Most people think the bossy mind is the helpful one and they detest this part of themselves, the lazy part. So they give out to themselves, they judge themselves because they're so lazy but they wish to identify with this voice more and they wished it could be, they could actually follow the orders. Now here's the trick in all of this. You will stop procrastinating when you realize neither of these two voices, these two mentalities if you like are your friend, none of them are your friend. The lazy mind is not your friend, but the bossy mind is also not your friend, why? Because they, these two voices because they're so loud and they're fighting your, for your attention all the time, they are causing you to be in conflict. Do you go here or do you go here and you actually lead, it leads you nowhere. It's a state of constant indecision about what to do. So neither of these two are your friend. So this is why things like mindfulness can actually be so helpful in all of this, but I'll tell you why. What you need to do is transcend both of these two voices and you need to bring something above all of this which is compassion. If you go to the lazy mind and ask for its advice for instance, it is not going to give you any compassion because it's going to be completely reckless about your future. It's going to pretend like it doesn't care about it. So it's going to be saying well just forget about your goals, you know it's fine, we can do it later on whatever. Now this part will give you no compassion either because this bossy mind is like it's very, it's very attacking, it's very judgmental of you. We need to get in touch with compassion. That comes from being still and it comes from deliberately using a different type of language when it comes to personal productivity and getting things done. It's one that asks you, it actually checks in with both of these and it says okay what do you need to relax and what do you need to move forward with your life to actually take more action. It's not bossy or lazy, it's balanced. Now that comes from why is it above here because it's above these two voices. These are the two loud voices. We hear these all the time every day. This voice is above, it's a lot more quiet, it's more still. So in order to hear it, to get in touch with compassion, what do I need, what will be useful for me right now? What do I need to move forward but also feel relaxed and rested. We need to stop listening to these two voices which is why my friend is helpful because we just breathe and just check in for that silent whisper, that voice is going to say okay let's just do something very simple, one little next step forward and then we'll take a little break. Or let's say take a little break first and then we'll move forward but it's going to be a very easy task we have. The bossy mind will give you incredibly difficult tasks to do and this will put you in denial about the importance of the tasks full stop. So neither of these two are useful. So it's a huge part of overcome procrastination is about compassion. Find yourself compassion for yourself which if you've watched any of my other videos in this you'll know that the root causes of procrastination are actually a deep rooted sense of guilt or low self-esteem which actually causes us to use the tasks or projects in our life as weapons against ourselves that we can berate ourselves for and feel worse and perpetuate that cycle of low self-respect and feeling guilty all the time. Okay so I want you to start working now on being a little bit more quiet when you're in those moments of decision and checking in with yourself. What do I need now to be more compassionate to myself? Guys if you found this helpful you can come visit my website Dr. DavidMiloney.com where I do online counseling or coaching and there's also a complete video course from step A all the way to Z on how to overcome procrastination once and for all where I answer subscriber questions as well. So check it out and hopefully this helps and I'll see you in the next video. Take care of yourself. Bye.