 now the next etiquette is in the hand of the husband everything has to be accordingly islam says you stand by the door and welcome your wife first night but if you do every day mashaAllah is good of course you have a reason you have to accept her we have a reason like that is to accept her always welcome her but you know man you know man man is mad man you know man he want his suit to be brought to him and he wanted to hold the bag and follow him and as he give that yaman illa but when she wants that he said no i'm tired work related issues i'm tired man problems but that first night is highly recommended according to our teachings of ailele bite i know normally they bring the wife and the husband is not even in the house it's somewhere busy but islam says this is the right way so you open she comes now they go it is you and the wife listen to this etiquette is very very crucial very important from ailele bites the first thing you do is to remove her shoe or socks if she's wearing you as husband this is a why i'm quoting from the first imam imam amir rasulullah told him is a dakhalat ila arus baytaq when arus come to your house arus means the wife ekhla fakhhayha remove what she's wearing a footwear if she's wearing socks you remove it but you remove it gently i know that time you'll be shivering because you know now now it's a new world altogether new world order she's stressed you are in stress all the shawdi is over but imam rasulullah said remove it when you remove it you take a water then you bring the water you wash the feet this is sunnah of rasulullah they ask one of our imam why do i have to wash the feet then imam said because it is the most difficult moment for a woman men sometimes they are at ease but for a girl to leave her mom especially and her father to come to a new house is not a joke so our imam said doing so is telling her i am ready to sacrifice for you feel at home i will be your backbone it here is your home don't worry at all so amir al-mumin said wash but does it stop they know imam amir al-mumin said after you finish washing you take your water and you sprinkle the water in each and every corner of the room you know you see water is a baraka is a blessing hence we are told when you go to the graveyard we sprinkle it also especially after 40 days we are told when you sprinkle water on the grave Allah bring 70 baraka down the same thing applies to asban that first night is crucial i know you will get billions of advices from people focus on the advice of amir al-mumin that will score you free and it will help you but look at the rewire very interesting rewire imam said take the water sprinkle each and every corner of the room imam amir al-mumin says whoever does that Allah will protect you and the wife from 70 kinds of poverty poverty is not only about money poverty of knowledge social poverty political poverty sometimes you find your good one corner another corner you are not good ahmad you guys have the opportunity and for yours follow the two teachings of ahl al-bayt and you are free 70 kinds of poverty you are protected one two imam amir al-mumin said if you do that immediately Allah will send 70 kinds of a baraka el-rahma to you and then the last imam said you be rest assured there will always be a way out for you and your wife is that over no the next etiquette is to sit and look at her ask her if she owe salat or not wajibat this is sunnah of rasool Allah read the books of al al-bayt how many wajibat do you owe because it's not husband let us kono eleha to do well in her how many wajibat you owe take notes because the life is going to begin now have you made your margarib of tonight or not because you know many times even the husband on the night they forget let alone the wife so islam says ask this part of the etiquette so if she has not done the wajibat of the night at least and you have not done it you become her imam and she follows you in salah what a beautiful salah of a beautiful night night of blessings night of rahma half of your religion is forgiven you only looking for the half ever though how you make that night rasool Allah says there is no barrier from the acceptance of Allah because rasool Allah said when two families come together for marriage Allah creates many angels to serve the umar after these wajib salah if it is done then it's fine then you go to the mustahab which amir al mu'mineen mentioned now you make you will do she makes will do and you lead her in two na fila salah na fila she decides to recite you in the front she's standing at the back two raka'a but after the two raka'a there are du'as to be recited there are so many types of du'a 10 times different but whatever you can get you do one du'a from rasool Allah now once the everything is finished then you take your hand like this and you place on a forehead Allahumma ya Allah i ask you of the khayr of this woman grant me that khayr and grant me of every khayr that she comes with tonight then he said ya Allah all the becoming sharraha wa sharraha mafiha Allah if there is any sharraha that comes with her Allah we seek refuge from you take away that sharra because sharra is what makes you fight every day misunderstanding in the house so if you begin on a good footing be rest assured Allah will protect you in each and every problem another du'a said no you place the hand on a forehead said Allahumma adi he is audjati ya Allah this is my wife before the liquor azak taha Allah you are the one who blessed her with your rizq wa alakita because i watched to her and Allah i married her tonight through the teachings of your book you know what you're saying you're telling Allah when problem comes i will not go anywhere but i will follow your book you're telling Allah she is a manate in my hand then the du'a continues Allahumma salli ala muhammad wa ala muhammad then you praise prophet muhammad and his family then he said ya Allah ejuma abaynana be ahsani ejtema'in Allah brings us together and closer with the best form of bonding you are asking Allah so you can paraphrase it you can do it in your own english is fine and then the next line of the du'a rasulullah says he said ya Allah i know you love halal and you hate haram Allah bless me of all halal in this family relationship and Allah protects me from ever haram and bringing haram to feed this lady then he said ya Allah grant me the opportunity to be obedient to you and this lady he said ya Allah if there will be shaitan to play with us and our iman we ask you to take away that shaitan from us and the last du'a which is from beautiful du'a from our sif imam he said no way she comes just place your hand on her forehead you look at her first and you said ya Allah Allah have accepted and taken her as imanat from you yani this girl is imana not from the father and mom she's imana from Allah then what do you say at the end imam jafar said alaihi salam said ya Allah bless her with a risk like the way you bless rasulullah in khadija tal qubro once this etiquette is done then you are truly husband and wife and then the journey of husband and wife continues and i remember very well imam jafar says whoever observes this du'a and amal if that person happen to be blessed with a child on that night that child will be among the lovers and followers of aili muhammad so therefore in short brothers and sisters marriage is about bringing Allah in it you cannot do it alone she cannot do it alone but once we bring Allah together and we ensure that Allah is the standard and the criteria in that marriage that marriage will be a successful marriage