 is here now let me see here now I'm sitting down on my pillow cuz my desk ain't in here and my chair not in here so I'm a little Ottoman thing so that why it might look like I'm low and I had to get away tiktok tripod look like I found this in the garage on accident but wanting to pop on here cuz one haven't been able to go live for a little while and it's not really just a blessed tribe so I'm gonna try to send this I try to send it out but not sure I'll be able to so as you can see for the blessed tribe you'll see some other people in here for those y'all who not in the blessed tribe you'll see a little join button up under the video we'll love to have you now typically I'm able to set it up to where I could just have it for the blessed tribe but I didn't see the option on the cell phone but they had an option on the computer but I'm not on the computer cuz I'm at my home office not my office office but wanted to pop in here and I'm gonna try to do better about going live I realized today it hit me today that I'm lazy it hit me today I'm lazy you know I thought I was not lazy but I realized today that I am in fact indeed lazy and I cannot explain it I don't know why I don't know if it's cuz I'm at peace I don't know if it's cuz I'm content in life but I was wondering I was like man why in the world when I go on YouTube I see different accounts that go live every single day and I'm like why don't go live every day it's one guy seen he go live every morning and he talk about nothing important but go live every morning I'm like man if those of us who have something important to talk about had that same kind of work ethic that's the crazy that's the crazy thing about it is like the people who ain't talking about nothing do the most talking and the people who got something to say do the least talking and so I'm trying my best to be a little different on that but I want to pop in here tonight going talk about this because it's something that I keep seeing and one of the things that I that I notice is it's so much and it's getting overwhelming it's so much relationship talk and I'll be honest with you I don't like talking about relationships it comes easy to me you know I could speak on it I don't like talking about relationships and you know why I don't like talking about relationships is because I'm in a relationship and so when you do something and you do it every day a lot of times you don't want to talk about it because it's what you do is who you are and so I don't really like talking about it and a lot of times I rather talk about entrepreneurship you know business something else but then I realize if it's gonna get talked about then people who actually are in it need to keep talking but it's hard to talk when you in it so it's kind of like coaching while you playing like nothing very rarely do we see do we get to see a coach we never see a coach playing the game and coaching the game and so that's the thing with being in a relationship is you in the relationship so it really almost don't make sense to be coaching on it but you have to because people who have never played the game or don't understand it will be trying to coach and so it's just like with the athletes when we go in to speak to them if you never played on they level then they only take what you're saying with a grain of salt so I don't even talk to them about they sport I talked to them about life I talked to them about manhood they could verify oh he in manhood he living manhood so I could hear him on that but I don't talk to them about football and basketball and how to be better at that because I haven't played at the level they plan that in most cases and one of the things we have today is we have a lot of single people that is using the the hot button of relationships to get famous it's a lot of people that want to be famous by talking about relationships and if you notice the hottest topic on everything is relationships like even when you listen to music it's all about love and relationships almost every artist is singing about love and relationships and even some of your artists who are you know guys who in the streets supposedly are saying about women rapping about women rapping about relationships and think about all the hit songs think about all the hit songs you know 90% of them gonna be about relationships and so really it's like it just go to show you how the greatest gift given a man is love given a mankind is love and that's from the good book but it's a lot of people playing on you know a lot of people playing on it a lot of people playing with it and what's happening is it's so much relationship talk that's out there online that it's affecting our relationships in a very negative way because a lot of people don't understand how the mind works and so when you understand how the mind works then you understand how when you hear something how it can affect your life it can change your life for better or for worse and it doesn't matter your level of intelligence or your level of understanding when you hear something it initially and immediately affects your mindset it affects the way you view things it affects the way you think so I could come on here and ever so eloquently talk about the importance of a woman needing to be okay with her man having other men I mean not a man have other men her man having in which that's happening today home home man having other women or the woman having other men and people will hear it and they'll be like you know what let me change that let me change that let me take that back I could get on here eloquently talk about the importance of a woman allowing her man to have other men now listen how crazy that sound listen how but if somebody got on here and talked about that there will be a segment of people that actually believe it there'll be a segment of people that actually like whoa just like and and really really it's happening today we just seen the pastor it just was a pastor that got caught up was dealing with him a man and I think he got exposed some kind of way and then the video I seen I seen something people talking about he was saying you know don't come for him pray for him no no we coming on at you cuz you're nasty and you shouldn't have been up there preaching if you but know you nasty and then people was talking about I seen the lady she was saying she mad because passes be talking against that lifestyle but then be living it and I ain't never seen no video of the pastor talking against that lifestyle cuz he could have not been talking against it he could have could have never said nothing about it cuz he know how he was living and so that's a totally different thing but today what I'm seeing is I'm seeing a lot of single people choose relationships as their topic is their their topic of choice and the question is is like is this something that they are as that something they aspire to is this something is is it something that they really want or is it something that they see gets a lot of attention and goes viral is it something that seemed like a space to go viral because I'm gonna tell you I don't go viral on my relationship talks and you know why because it's rooted in healthiness and purity monogamy it's rooted in something that make too much sense so my relationship stuff don't go viral but what you see going viral are these hot takes you see these hot takes that sound absolutely ignoramus and it's crazy to see because a lot of the real stuff don't get shared it don't go but what goes is gossip and ignoramity and that goes viral and a lot of us don't really understand the work of the adversary and what the devil doing and so what's happening is it's so many people that share all these single people that share all these relationship takes and it's ruining relationships because it's so jaded and so skewed and then sometimes they sharing stuff and don't understand it sharing stuff from people who don't live what they teaching so a man who is in the closet is not gonna be able to give advice on a healthy heterosexual relationship his advice is gonna be skewed because of what he is living and then you have people who you got single people who they know what they know y'all got to forgive my wife out here at wonder and I'm in here my love makes your situation because we got a lot of bags in here that she giving away to the good with her and my dad's not in here so I'm in here on my love on my what you call this thing I don't know what you call it I'm calling a little pillow and then my chair my desk chair that I was sitting in what is somebody else chair is in front of me so she coming up to the one of the taking pictures of me so y'all got to give me and my outfit don't match okay so my shorts don't go with my shirt in my hat nor those slippers I got on so she climbing in and take a picture of me and then be texting me the picture baby you're not doing the work of the Lord right now because you're throwing all of them I forgot what I was saying so y'all have to give my wife and him and so now like I was saying I forgot what I was saying y'all give him food will you go on so well and so we have single people who they given relationship advice and what they know is what they did wrong and what their partner did wrong but what they did wrong what went wrong in their relationship and what it takes to make a relationship work is two very different things so I see a lot of times single people say oh you know I want to be a relationship advisor a relationship coach because I was married and you know I can get some advice and I'm like no now yeah you could give advice now you can teach what went wrong but you don't know what it takes to make it work because what went wrong and what it takes to make it work they far apart it's not just polar opposites it's not just okay we did this wrong if we do the opposite that means gonna work that's not the case that's not the case and so when you get into a relationship and you make it work and you're making it work it actually shows you you actually learn that what you thought you knew you didn't know what you knew you learn in your relationship that your relationship don't look like no other relationship you learn in your relationship that almost nothing could have prepared you for what you have to go through to make a relationship work that's what you learn when you in a relationship I was thinking today I was coming home and I got a mentee who she is a artist she's a singer and she on a TV show well one of the streaming things show and we supposed to be having a talk because she in a new relationship and I tell you the truth what women just be mind-boggling with this right here a woman always come to me when she's single and desperate for love and when a man done dog the eye I never really ever have a woman come to me when she get in a relationship same with a man never when they in the relationship could be in the relationship knowing it all and so I told I say listen I don't don't you will talk to him when you were signally ready for a man now don't don't disappear now that you got a man and then when stuff go wrong they want to be on my phone no no no because a ounce of prevention is better than a pound of cure so you need to be able to know what you're going through what you're dealing with and you need to be assessing the situation as you're going instead of just letting all this haywire happen and missing all these red flags and then when it blow up in your face then you want to come oh give us some band-aids and let's talk about it and let's fix it no no no should have talked about it when you first started when the relationship started so now you could go you could build a relationship the right way instead of just going with it and going through with the flow so the thing about it is today is we got a lot of single relationship advisors single relationship coaches and people who did not get it right trying to make money off of giving relationship advice like consistently ain't talking about popping in with one video I'm talking about people trying to make a living off of giving relationship advice and don't have a relationship but we so desperate for love and we so desperate for a relationship that people literally sit down and listen to single people tell them how they relationship ought to be which there's only one type of single person that can tell you how to make your relationship work and that's somebody who is completely surrendered to the will of God like Apostle Paul somebody have to be living like Apostle Paul to have the download and the wisdom and the understanding to be able to tell you how to make your relationship work and here is the irony about it outlets will like podcast and events and producers will give people a platform to tell you how to make your relationship work and they not in a relationship and they do not think nothing is wrong with that they don't think nothing strange about that and I'm just like hold on so essentially it's like somebody coming to you and saying to you hey I'm bankrupt but let me tell you how to be rich let me tell you how to be rich and manage money now yeah they can tell you how they went bankrupt and you not doing that can help you but how they went bankrupt and actually manage your money and becoming rich is two different things so that's totally different so somebody could give you cookie cutter relationship insight but how you actually build wealth and so that's the thing that but see this is society we live in and people don't think about this like my son he came home here in a finance class but the finance class is based off of of financial piece by um Dave Ramsey well Dave Ramsey went bankrupt and then he created this very extreme finance program that program is not for a normal healthy income with a healthy spending appetite with a healthy lifestyle Dave Ramsey program is actually for when you on your last leg when you bankrupt this how you change your life so he went bankrupt lost all his money in real estate and then came and did this drastic program but when you actually start to get the program and you get into the program and then you you you get past it it's like okay now I understand okay I no longer need this now I need to graduate from this now I need to be able to have a credit card to build credit I need to be able to have a mortgage instead of trying to live this caveman no credit card buy everything cash and empty and your empty and not your cash or on a job that is just overbroke and expecting you ever going to be to the place to where you could just buy everything cash when you barely making enough money to afford groceries and gas so it's like you've got to develop discipline to where you could use other people money and be able to build and leverage the banks money because they got more money than you but see people don't realize that people speak from where they are so when people speak from where they are or from where they was that advice ain't gonna benefit you all the time it's gonna benefit you when you are where they are or when you are where they were and so this is the thing some people they'll go through a relationship and then they'll be single and then they'll start trying to understand their relationship they'll start to understand a relationship and they'll start to say okay now I need to be able to understand what I went through what I dealt with what I'm living with and so this is the thing we'll take and we'll see this and they'll share something that they learn they'll share something they learn and next thing you know it'll go viral so now because they go viral they like oh well okay let me keep doing this because I was sharing a lesson I learned and from that lesson that lesson that took in went viral that tweet went viral and so we have to take it real live okay it's different talking about your experience and what you went through but when you start giving advice and trying to give application for what somebody need to do to make it work and how it's gonna make it work but you never even came close to it or you're not doing it then that's when you're gonna start to realize and see this ain't add no and so the thing about it is I'm in a 16 year marriage and I'm 39 years old so if the Lord let me live till 80 years old that mean I got another 41 years so at 41 years from now at 80 years old I will have been married 41 51 57 years at 80 years old so if I'm if I've been married if I've been married 16 years and I'm still learning how to make a relationship work 16 years into marriage what in the world do a single person know about making a relationship work 1% so that's why we need to start boycotting single relationship coaches if you want to give relationship advice as a single person for free with with no monetization then okay do that but when you want to start writing books being paid by youtube doing one-on-one sessions doing seminars you need to be banned you need to be boycotted and you need to be banned and see here's the thing these spaces they know what they're doing they're doing the work of the devil and that's why the ones that's doing the work of the devil they don't even try to be balanced they don't even try to be balanced so like the the the conversation the the guys who going around and doing the tours they doing the tours we all they having these big conversations in these ballrooms but they calling no married people who married and successful they just have a conversation that is spinning tires in quicksand so now people leaving out of them from listening to lambs who was never him who never had his way who never really understood women and relationships but then these men go get a job in it or a job in sales they get to 100 thousand plus and not all of a sudden they think they him because a woman want them for their money so now they think they are ladies man because they don't reach the six figures but you not no ladies man there never was no ladies man if you didn't have women that was lined up for you and wanted you when you didn't have no money you ain't you understand nothing about relationships and women if you ain't have multiple options when you was broke see for those of us who had multiple options when we was broke for those of us who was able to get a good woman when we was broke that's who knows something by a relationship but see they have these guys with it and and and i'ma tell you this right here it's certain looks that people know it's certain looks that people know let me tell you and when you were in grade school glasses and and god bless y'all who were glasses i'm not talking bad about you but you can attest to this glasses in grade school has never been cool meaning kindergarten 12 grade glasses have never been cool glasses have only been cool on Clark Kent that's it so when i see a man with glasses on i automatically know he was never him thank you thank you joya joya no ain't telling no lot now see listen i won't i won't bully nobody i won't pick on nobody i just tell the truth about the situation when i see a man with glasses on i automatically know he was never him only way he was him is if he was to start actively or he came for money and that's when the woman just wanted them for that for those things she wanted the coolest homecoming date now when you see these men with these big beards listen if you look good if you feel like you look good as a man you're not finna have no beard this big you're not finna do all of that see let me let me let me let me let me help you understand something when you look at the men that is models what what kind of beard do the models have they have no they have no beard or they have a shadow they have a five o'clock shadow you ain't never see no model who got no big old beard you know why because the big old beard is to hide insecurity or to play on the trend see i'm gonna tell you something a man who is hymathy don't follow trends he set trends now i got mentees with beards and clients with beards and there are exceptions to the rule there are exceptions to the rule but i'm talking about on average there are exceptions to the rule now on average so when i take and i try to grow out that beard man i start looking rough i'm like man i want all that hair on my face and you can't even get all the way down there to the skin you can't even get all the way down there to the skin you can't even get no good moisture to that skin so let me take this one i'm trying to tell y'all how to read these men when you see a man and if you're a woman and you see a man and he give relationship advice if you wouldn't date him based on how he looked now remove his mindset remove his mindset remove his money if you wouldn't date him based on how he looked look come on he was never him so he don't even know what he's talking about and this is the thing with men men don't even know how to read men but see if you'd have ever been that guy if you'd have ever been that guy then you know how to look at a man and tell who'd have been that guy you know it and so when i see men when i see men flocking by in in grows to listen to kevin sammer i said oh wow we don't have men when i see men flocking in grows to andrew tape i said oh man we don't have men these is the leaders of lanes these is the leaders of insecure boys in a dark male body because if you'd have ever been him you know both of them individual was not ever him you know money made them think that they him but see when it's somebody who was him then you know he ain't have to have money to have them and so what's happening is playing on relationship talk playing on relationship talk is now becoming a career choice for people who not called to it they just came to it see if you call to it you're supposed to be compensated if you call to it because even the bible say a workman is work his wages and double if he is faithful if you call to it then you need to dedicate your life to it but see if you call to it what god going to do if he going to position you for it why you think god had christ talking about salvation and not about marriage why you think jesus wasn't a relationship coach because yeah he he mentioned about a man not lusting on a woman not lusting in his heart because the lust is committed adultery but why you think jesus went no relationship coach because he was single so see when god called you to something he gonna qualify you for what he done called you to so god not finna call you to relationship and marriage coaching and not bless you with no marriage now he may call you to single and happy coaching if he gonna have you talking to about to singles about being happy he gonna call you to that he gonna qualify you for that by giving you peace in your single life so see this will be have to realize so you gotta understand when somebody chooses to advise on something they ain't been successful at that's a red flag listen i have not been successful at finances that's why i don't have a finance podcast that's why i don't speak on finances because i'm gonna tell you something wrong i'm gonna tell you something wrong and then people will talk about um you know we were talking about day ramza earlier i'm gonna tell you not day ramza help you get out of debt but not after you get out of debt and you start surviving now you how you go from surviving the thriving because money is a mindset so if you only got enough money to put in an envelope you got a scarcity mindset if you got to be counting every penny that's a scarcity mindset so eventually that mindset gonna stop serving you and then what you're gonna end up doing is you're gonna start worshiping money and you're gonna start hoarding money and you're gonna die with millions of dollars because you was afraid to spend your money and afraid to live because of a scarcity mindset you created when you was coming out of debt so you see we got to understand with everything that comes graduation so this a church and the brother had his church and i went to this church and they used to they used to rap they they rap and they praise and worship so when i'm coming from listening to plies and listening to jesus because that's when i was in the streets plies and jesus was the big thing and so when i got robbed and i stopped selling drugs and i rededicated my life to christ when i went to that church that rap during praise and worship i loved it i'm like man this is amazing this is amazing but after a while i grew past that i grew past that and i needed something with more substance i need to go from rapping to i need to go to worship now i need worship music and and not just i now i need to be separated from the world so now i don't want to hear a beat that sound like secular rap i don't want to hear a cadence and a rhythm that sound like the world now i need something that it sound like god now i need something that sound different and now if a rapper if god give a rapper something that sound original and he's not just a christian rapper that's trying to sound like future that's trying to sound like young thug that's trying to sound like little baby then i could listen to it because he went to god and he got something that is that that is original so see that different so now i can grow with it but see what's happening is is we got single relationship coaches who could give advice on what went wrong in a past and what went wrong in their relationship but they are not qualified to give advice on how to make a relationship work but because they go viral by giving their advice on what went wrong they now get to a place to where they they got to keep doing it and then what's crazy to me is what's crazy to me is people with a platform that's when you know somebody is about money because if somebody got a podcast and they say this single relationship coach or this single relationship content creator is viral and got a million subscribers and got a million followers on instagram and got million here a million there i'm gonna bring him or her on my podcast to give relationship advice that's when you got the question that podcast because now you bought the money because if you really about helping people you ain't gonna bring somebody on who just sound good you're gonna bring somebody on who live good you're gonna bring somebody on who living it because here's the thing if a single relationship coach is single and fornicating and they're giving advice if somebody's single and fornicating meaning they're not married and committed they're single and fornicating what are they doing they are leaving a stream of confused hearts because they are sleeping with people creating an emotional and a physical bond with this person and then it fizzles out and they move on with their life so here they are single and supposed to be helping relationships but they're causing the same problems that they so-called trying to alleviate they're causing the same problems that they so-called trying to end that is the work of the devil because see god is not the author of confusion so if you single you should not be giving relationship advice you should humbly sit your butt down so you have to think about this you have to think about this you might have insight i could talk to my nine year old and he could come on here and tell us some profound things about relationships he nine years old everybody knows something my 16 year old could come on here and preach a whole relationship sermon and they never even had a girlfriend everybody knows something because some of the stuff is common sense but to get paid to give it right oh you need to be in the trenches making it work you need to be in the trenches making it work and if you have a platform then you need to be ashamed of yourself if you're giving a platform to workers of iniquity if you're giving a platform to panderers because see let me tell you what pandering is because when i come and i give a woman the game that grown boys that grown boys play on women people try to say i'm pandering for giving the woman a game to protect her heart that's not pandering that is protecting let me tell you what pandering is pandering is when you're not qualified to speak on something but you're speaking on it and you're making money from it and you're not qualified to be talking about it that's pandering see people don't even know what they be talking about and this is where we go wrong so we have we live in a world without old shape trainers with broke financial advisors with unattractive beauty coaches with non-dressing image consultants with single relationship coaches our world is upside down upside down like listen to me i have never played cricket in my life i could come out here and become a cricket instructor and travel the world as a cricket instructor that's how that's how backwards our world is have never played nothing different if i played as a youth if i played as a young and i'm teaching on it because i was learning it but i ain't making it all the way so that's different but we got people who ain't never been successfully married and given relationship advice and that's the problem uh somebody said tonus 50 your advice stopped worrying about others keeping them on good no i got to worry about others because the others are deceiving y'all so i got to call it out because the way people are when you hear something you'll believe that it's real you'll believe it's real because you heard it so you listen to single relationship coaches who don't gotta clue how to make a relationship work and you'll start to take that advice and you'll go into a relationship and be jealous be ignorant be basic be selfish and now you'll you will be on here and just be completely lost because your mind heard it and you don't know you don't have the wisdom to refute it and you will hear it because it sound good so that therefore now the next thing you know boom and you can't see through the bull that's why single relationship coaches have millions of followers so no we can't see through the bull no common sense is not coming because the common sense was coming a single relationship coach would have zero followers but common sense ain't coming so this what you have to understand and nothing tickles your ears see we think that it tickles our ears it don't actually tickle our ears it permeates our mind because the closest thing to your ear is your mind so if you give somebody your ear you're giving them your mind the quickest way to your mind is your eyes and your ears so when you give somebody your eyes and your ears you're giving them your mind and when you give them your mind you turning over your life to them you giving them your life and that's the problem that is the problem so I'm here to tell you we have to get this thing together to where you start to identify the decepticons you got to start to identify the workers of iniquity you have to pray for wisdom knowledge and understanding you got to pray for discretion you got to pray for discretion and you got to pray for discernment and you got to pray for the strength to walk away because while you entertaining the devil it could kill you it could kill you so see what you have to understand nothing is entertainment nothing is entertainment there is no such thing that's entertainment everything is education you either being educated right or you being educated wrong people say oh no oh no this uh this music just entertainment the tv show just entertainment these books just entertainment no it ain't entertainment it's education it's affecting your life because if you want education why would you give your brain that much work why make your brain go through the headache of having to why make your brain go through the headache of having to decipher between all this information why make your brain go through that why make your brain go through having to listen to all this stuff that somebody who don't know what they're talking about keeps saying and then you got to be going through all of this stuff hours of content siphoning through the bull and refuting it that's too much brain power when you could have been using that brain power to advance your life instead of just spinning your tires in the mud spinning your tires in quicksand so you're sitting there spinning your tires in quicksand listening to a single relationship coach and now you got to be listening to everything they're saying and telling yourself no that ain't right no that ain't right no that ain't right no that ain't right now you don't waste it hours of your life listening to an imbecile and when you on your deathbed you're gonna wish you had them tens of hours or them hundreds of hours back that you listen to a imbecile give you advice on something they don't know what they're talking about listen to me and if you were saying a relationship coach or you saying they want to talk about relationships and how to make it work and i'm stepping on your toes that's what i meant to do because i want you to shut up and to sit down and to learn from people who have made it work and then figure out your recipe then pray that god send your spouse then get your spouse then you make it work then teach your recipe and see that's our problem we ain't got no recipe but we want to throw out a bunch of ingredients and tell people here go the ingredients for spaghetti and next thing you know they sit down and go to eating and they got be stewed but we done told them this the ingredients for spaghetti and they sit down eat beef stew and this is what's happening with these single relationship coaches they giving you a ingredients for a relationship and they not apostle Paul they're not living like apostle Paul see apostle Paul ain't have no publishing company he ain't get no royalties off no bible apostle Paul ain't have no tours with event bright selling tickets so he said let's go give you a recipe for a relationship and the next thing you know you end up in lust and war and you like man i thought i had i thought i had me a recipe for a successful relationship from that single relationship coach man what's going on and then i'm gonna tell you something i'm gonna tell you something me personally as a man i'm gonna tell you something me personally as a man i don't trust a single man over 40 i could like him now meaning i could i could be cool with him now meaning i could mentor him i could be his life coach but i don't trust no advice from no single man over 40 i see i don't trust no advice from a single man period but i definitely don't trust a man who's single over 40 because it's too many women it's too many women it is too many women and so i go to i go to hold on my brother what's going on hold on hold on what you got going on what you got going on do you like me do you like me do you like me once a man cross four and he's still a single listen man do you like me okay if you don't like me it's you nasty is the hand nasty is you mr nasty man come on now once you cross 40 it's time to it's time to as a man see and women say oh what that mean by the woman what that mean about men and women not the same because a woman get got to get chose see a woman a man got the approach of woman hey how you doing are you single i want to know so i'm gonna tell you now a man over 40 now something start to hold on my buddy i need an explanation i'm gonna need an explanation you can't be water i have 40 blood single as a dollar bill something going on do you have something entering your exit or is you nasty are you crazy see what's going on with your brother now if you living like apostle paul okay if you live like apostle paul okay okay but if you a man and you 40 and up it's time to sell it's time to sell it's time to sell it's time it listen all your everything got to go out to get your woman just get your woman shut up and sit down get your woman get married have kids because that's what you're here for god did not create you to have no podcast he created you to be fruitful and replenish the earth if you're not gonna be fruitful and replenish the earth then you need to be living like apostle paul and if you're not going to be apostle paul then you need to sit down and shut it you need to cut it listen to me now we got to get this thing together now if you is a man and you 40 and up you it's time to get you some therapy you're trying to get some therapy get some healing get some healing and it's time to fire your wife and I'm gonna tell you man I have to carry this message and I got home boys that's single and 40 that's 40 plus than single so you got so I want you to understand like this message ain't easy for me to shout it ain't easy for me to shout because I know men that's 40 plus and single but I still have to look at them with a side eye I still have to wonder everybody what's going on with you now what we got going on now what you waiting on a mermaid what you wait on a unicorn but you not no mermaid and you not no unicorn so why is you waiting on a unicorn or a mermaid and you got no unicorn on the mermaid so what's going on now brother you're not that special you it's not that special because listen it's no reason to be all 40 and single now you're not that special okay okay the woman you want do not want you so brother it's time to sell it's time to settle you need to get with Bertha you need to get with Ursula you need to get with Dasha Quasakisha it's time to settle because you was too old to still be single point blank period because listen man we don't want no single man and I'm gonna tell you don't get in the relationship just to get married get in there shut up then get in there because people say oh don't try to make people get married because then they get in there they be destroying women no don't get in there and destroy get in there and love her the way Christ Lord of church get in there and be teammates with them and build with them and I'm gonna tell you I'm gonna tell you why a lot of men that's 40 and up and single is because they don't like who like them because the women who like them it be hurting their feelings it be hurting their feelings I had to realize something about myself I had to realize that I wasn't all that because when I the women I started seeing that was shooting they shot at me like the bottom of this shoe I said oh Lord look like they he'll punch it by eight I said the women who start shooting they shot at me as a married man not when I was saying look like they're punching by eight I messed around one woman I'm married woman don't come over here looking like this trying to describe me you need to come over here looking like something but see listen I'm tired of seeing single men because it's two many single women and I'm meeting these single women and I'm coaching these single women and I'm seeing these women and I know every woman gonna put their best foot forward for me on the coaching call because they don't want to sound like no hot mess but I could read through the woman bluff if she a hot mess I could tell if a woman a hot mess and I'm gonna tell you it's some women that I coach there is a hot mess and I have to tell them listen you is a hot mess okay and we're gonna have to make you a cold mess and then we're gonna have to make you something delectable and delicious so it's gonna be a process but what I'm tired of seeing is single men because God ain't make a man to be alone because if he made a man to be alone he wouldn't made a woman for Adam a man is not intended to be alone a man need to find a woman well see I'm gonna tell you something relationships are hard relationships are hard and so the thing about it with a relationship you got to be willing to be hurt as a man a man have to be willing to be hurt meaning that if you're not open to the possibility that you could love this woman and she might not love you back you're not going to succeed in a relationship because you got to be in that space of vulnerability to even have a chance at real love see the other thing about it as a man is you got to be willing to be faithful see as a man you got to be willing to die out to yourself and to be in this relationship and to be faithful and and this was this was hard see as a man you got to be willing to sacrifice but I'm gonna tell y'all something now I'm gonna tell y'all something see when you don't have money you have a dream car let me help y'all understand something relate something to you listen to me now listen to me listen to me I'm gonna bring some home to you see when you don't have money you have a dream car but when you get money you no longer have a dream car because when you get money you knock about any car you want see when you hungry you know exactly what you want to eat but when you're not hungry you really don't know what you want to eat see when a man ain't got no woman when he don't have options he know what kind of woman he won't but when he gets some money and he gets some status and now he could have several different type of women now he all of a sudden get he has paralysis by analysis because now he's afraid to pull the trigger because every single day you see another woman with something that the last woman did not have and that's why we have so many single men who are of age we have single men who are of age because they got money meaning they gainfully employed and they make enough money to take care of a woman and when you got enough money to take care of a woman you start to look good to more women so now you see this woman and this woman have one woman may have beautiful eyes then you see a woman who have beautiful hair then you see a woman who got beautiful breasts then you see a woman with a flat stomach then you see a woman who got beautiful legs then you see a woman who got a perfect booty then you see a woman who got a mosaic bands Dean said a woman who is the CEO of a company. Dean said a woman who is the daughter of a multi-millionaire. Dean said a woman who is the daughter of a billionaire. And guess what? All of those things look equally good. But none of them women have all of it. So now the man has paralysis by analysis. Because he analyzes and analyzes and analyzes and analyzes and he overly analyzes. But because men are visual creatures, he first looking for what look good to him. And then he find what look good to him and he start to dive down that hole. He start to go down that hole, go down that path. And then he realize that he taken and he going down this path and it's a dead end. And so now he down there it's a dead end. And so that's the thing. Someone say you criticize the coaches and people that do the same kind of work you do. No I'm not. Dummy. So stay out the comments. I'm criticizing coaches who are single. So please shut up. Satan get deep behind me and stay out the chat if you don't know what you talking about. I'm not only criticizing RC Blake's because RC Blake's is every time. So hush devil and stay out the comments. And that's why I be on here where only the best tribe could talk. Because when y'all ain't no blessed tribe member you want to get in here and get beside yourself. Better shut up before you get blocked. And then come in here and sit down and be quiet while the person up here talking. You don't come in the classroom running your mouth. You don't go in the church running your mouth. You sit down and you listen to the message. And if you don't like it and it make you mad scratch your booty and get glad. Now see listen to me back what I was saying. So here you is. These men start to go down that pathway. They start to go down the pathway and because they looking at what look good now they taking and they looking at what look good. So now they want to see okay what this about. And that's all that they, that's all they thinking about. And then they realize this woman that look so good to them is empty. She look so good. But see this what men don't understand about women who look so, so, so good. And then look good like that they whole life. A woman who look have been who have look good her whole life. She has been preyed upon her entire life. So see this what you have to understand. A woman who a perverted man when he see a cute little girl he start to prey on her. Listen to the stories of women. The most and this something that Kanye West learn. Kanye West learn this and he put it in a song. He say the prettiest people got the ugliest stories. See that's what you got to understand. When somebody look so amazing they don't have to go through. Yes Jennifer, tell my little girl. Yes Jennifer. Yeah this is the real. This the real we talking about. We talking about the real world. When a nasty man sees a cute little girl he prays upon her. So when you see them little beautiful little girls that's four years old that people is posting on social media. Don't let a nasty man find out what city she live in. Don't let a man be on Instagram and realize oh that's the little girl I seen on Instagram and oh she live in the same city. Don't let a nasty man find out his son or daughter go to school with that little girl. Because you know what? He gonna tell his son, he gonna tell his daughter oh you need to be friends with such and such. Why don't you be friends with such and such? And oh you need to ask her to spend the night. Don't ever let your child stay the night at somebody house. Don't ever let your child stay the night at somebody house. Boy or girl don't ever let your child stay the night at somebody house. That's why you got a house. And when you have kids you don't get no days off. You don't get no days off. Just like when you get in a relationship we don't get no days off. I got to wake up and be a good husband every day. And if I take too many days off I'm gonna lose my marriage. So if you a parent and you're tired, you're supposed to be tired. You should have been too tired to get on your bike. We supposed to be tired. It's time that we stop crying and complaining about what we got to do and how much we got to put up with when we weren't crying and complaining when we was having that fornication. It's time to say Lord, I laid down. Now I got to stand up. Because if I were man enough to lay down I need to be man enough to stand up. If you were woman enough to lay down you need to be woman enough to stand up. Point blank pierod. Point blank pierod. And so listen to me. What he mean don't understand. Let me tell y'all mean something. What y'all don't understand is when you looking at a woman just for her beauty. Beauty is pain. You ain't gonna ever meet a beautiful woman who don't have a painful story to tell. And when you go to that woman you got to take that pain on. Because a man is instructed to love a woman the way Christ loved the church. I heard a man say, you know, I don't think that it's right that a man take on a woman pain. What did Christ do for the church? So don't say that you're a Christian. Don't say you're a Christian and then say you don't believe you're supposed to take on that woman pain. Because Ephesians 5 tells you to love your wife as Christ loved the church. Christ took on your sin. Christ took on your brokenness. Christ took on your pain. Christ took on your ignorance. Christ took on your greed. Christ took on your selfishness. Christ took on everything that you brought to the table. And he sacrificed himself for everything that you are. So a man is instructed to love his wife as Christ loved the church. But see now women want to hear that. But now women don't want to hear why submit unto your husband as unto the Lord. Submission. Submission. Yo. Submit unto your husband as unto the Lord. So now you can't expect this man to love you the way Christ loved the church. But then you don't want to submit as unto the Lord. Come on now. The lady want to get up there and say obey her husband. She want to objectify. She want to object. Pastor, I object. You obey the Lord. So when the Bible says love your wife as Christ loved the church why submit unto your husband as unto the Lord. Listen. When we both surrender to that when we surrender to that it's a perfect love. See you ain't submitting to no man who ain't submitting to God. You ain't supposed to submit to a man who ain't loving you the way Christ loved the church. Because now you are evenly yours. Ain't gonna be able to do it. Ain't gonna be able to do it. But see one hand watch the other and both hands watch the face. So you got to know who you getting with. So see listen. What men don't understand is when a man is chasing booty he gonna end up with doodle. When a man is chasing booty he is going to end up with doodle. And that's why it's so many single men over the age of 40 because they are chasing booty. And then when they get this woman they can't handle the doodle of her story. When a man is chasing booty he can't handle the doodle of her story. Because now they are like oh man ain't know you went through this much crap. You the prettiest woman I've ever seen but you got to be through some stuff. Oh my good ain't gonna be able to handle that. So then the man starts to look for something that God has not created. The man is looking for a beautiful woman who has no past who has no pain who is unscathed in spiritual warfare. Every human is in battle. Every human go through spiritual warfare. So the prettier a woman is the more warfare she to been through. Guess what? A man could think that a woman is beautiful. But that woman is beautiful too. It just beauty is in the eye of the beholder. So every woman is beautiful to somebody. So then even when a man say well the woman I thought was beautiful she had too much going on. So I'm gonna go pick this woman that's unattractive to me. Guess what? She might be unattractive to you but she's been beautiful to somebody else. She might have was beautiful at the age of 3 to a grown pervert and she went through it. She might have was beautiful to a man when she was 10 years old. She might be unattractive to you today and so you're gonna think that she ain't been through nothing. No everybody beautiful, every woman beautiful to somebody. Every man handsome to somebody. So everybody gonna have a story to tell. So see that's the thing when we got to realize. That's what we got to realize is we have to get to the place where we understand that love is not lust. You got to understand that love ain't got nothing to do with lust. You also got to understand that love is not found. Love is created. Love is not found. Love is created. But see people want to find love. You're not gonna find love. It got to be created. So see this is what you got to understand. So see we need men to be intentional about finding a wife. I need every man under the sound of my voice because there's men watching this and there's men who gonna watch this. I need every man under the sound of my voice to be intentional about finding your wife. Do not rest until you find your wife. Put the same energy that you put into your business into looking for a wife so that you can get married and be getting rich at the same time. Do not put more energy in nothing else before finding your wife because guess what you being rich is not gonna benefit the world but you being married and raising a family is going to benefit the world. Your money ain't gonna move no needle. Jeff Bezos is a trillion now and ain't move the needle. Men so focused on getting money and being successful not realizing that that is futile. That is miniscule. That is vain. That has nothing to do with the grand scheme of life. But when a man get married he adds to the story of the human race. When a man raise children and this ain't got to be children that a woman have because a woman might not be able to have children. See I heard a man and I reached out to him and he said he worked for all this money but he said money don't buy happiness no more. He said money don't buy happiness for a little bit. I tried to buy happiness with money. It don't do nothing but just create expensive misery. It don't do nothing but make people prey on you. Make people want to use you. It don't bring friends, it bring frenemies. Money can't buy happiness but everybody want to find out for themselves. So see it's men who got money but a man ain't gonna be happy until he create love. A man ain't gonna be happy a man ain't gonna be at peace a man ain't gonna be satisfied until he create love. I realized I realized why I realized why I'm lazy because I'm in love. And listen I'm lazy and God bless me to earn seven figures and I'm lazy but I'm in love. No relationship is perfect if that if perfect to you means you don't have disagreements or arguments. So a relationship is perfect if you say it's perfect because you define what's perfect not dictionary. So if you okay and you understand that disagreements is a part of a relationship then you gonna be good. But see the thing is is we going into a society of miserable men and miserable men create miserable women and miserable women create miserable children and miserable children create miserable animals and now we in the world a misery. That's what the kick the cat syndrome is the kick the cat syndrome is the boss get on to the man the man go home and get on to his wife the wife go get on to a son then the son go kick the cat that's why it's called the kick the cat syndrome because that cat ain't did nothing to you boy ain't did nothing to you woman that woman ain't did nothing to you man that man ain't did nothing to you boss God ain't did nothing to you see this the thing we in the society of miserable men so men creating more misery that's why these podcasts is so miserable and because they know they miserable and they won't company so because they know they miserable and they won't company that's why they don't call me if they call me I go on the podcast just to help them understand that they operating in misery and that they need to come out that misery and I help them understand I help them learn how to come out that misery but they might say well we don't we don't reach out the tunnel cause he think he all that he think he too good he too he be preaching too much he too good at two shoes or you know no they know that they the ops they know they the ops they know that they working for the devil and see misery little company so what miserable men do is create miserable podcasts create miserable tours create miserable books create miserable YouTube channels create miserable TikToks channel create miserable Instagram channels and then they spread at misery to play on other people misery now they have a a dialogue of misery misery they got miserable women arguing with miserable men and miserable men arguing with miserable women and now they take they misery and they start to affect the peace of the rest of us so now we can't get online without hearing miserable people arguing it's like cannot get on my phone without having to see miserable people argue with y'all miserable people shut up and sit down and listen to people who are at peace tell you how they came about that peace with y'all stop touring listen to everybody who was single given relationship advice or creating a relationship platform or creating a relationship platform and you are single I would rather you fix credit we would rather you sell lemons we would rather you have people car cutting off on the side of the road then for you to have a relationship platform bringing on your miserable counterparts we is tired of it we is tired of hearing y'all miserable single chronicles we want you to sit down and shut up and listen to your grandma and them who been married for 50-60 years go to your grandma and them and listen to what they did and if you need to make 6 or 7 figures sell insurance fix credit build business credit I got a client who is a multi-millionaire she fix credit she build business credit she sell insurance she do estate plans she do real estate but she is single and she is at peace because she is minding her business she could have a single woman related single woman relationship podcast bringing on single relationship coaches but she is making millions minding her business so listen if you single you post to be in a season of shutting up you is not post to be in a season of talking about relationships if you is single then earn your leisure talk about finances if you is single talk about real estate talk about credit repair if you is single I want you to sell organo gold if you is single you need to join total life changes you need to join FES I think they went out of business if you single you we will rather you do MLM and pyramid schemes I rather you do a pyramid scheme than to keep doing relationship advice because see with that pyramid scheme you ain't doing nothing but messing up people's money but messing up somebody's money it ain't gonna mess up our world but when you mess up somebody's relationship you ruining the kids you ruining the whole household you ruining the family you ruining the future you literally working against God see God really don't even care about money other than us being a good steward so yeah you literally I'm just joking when I say do a pyramid scheme I'm just trying to help you understand we will rather you sell soulless shoes we will rather you get you a shoe and cut in your bottom out of that and sell this here sell this we will buy this from you if you as a single relationship coach I'm just giving you my word that if you get one of these and cut the bottom of it I will give you $100 and I will tell every buy I know buy them soulless shoes so that man can shut up please we do not need another miserable book we do not need another episode of that raggedy podcast we do not need another tour stop of that ratchet tour we need you to sit your behind down get you a lollipop a bottle of yike and in a blackie mile and shut up if you as a single relationship platform we is calling for your resignation I'm just finna hire and put on retainer resume writers CV writers I'm finna get recruiters who do recruiting for the tech industry to start giving yall six figure and seven figure jobs so yall could sit down and shut up cause we have had enough we have had enough of this raggedy advice that do not work in no relationship we are sick and tired of it we sick and tired of this cookie called advice that do not work in no relationship if you got a podcast and you as single and all you keep bringing on is relationship single relationship coaches we is calling upon the lord to steal your voice yes I did not know people pray like that until one of my clients that I managed showed me the prayer in Ecclesiastes I think it was in Psalms it was in Psalms or Ecclesiastes where that man was praying that God bind up his enemies and that he sent calamities amongst his enemies listen we is fixing to start stealing I'm fixing to start a brigade and we finna get Mr. Menos because listen this is petty theft now breaking the enter and might get us a thing but if you are a criminal defense attorney I want you to reach out to me because we fishing to link up and we going to these tours we going to the podcast sets and we is stealing microphones we grabbing the microphone and we running out the building we grabbing mics and we running and every time you get a new mic we coming to take it I'm is fixing to start the great Panthers and we coming to take microphones if I see you and you are single and you give a relationship advice I'm slapping your phone out your hand and I'm daring you to swell if you a man and I'm going to hit you with a piece nugget and I'm getting out of there because I had enough marriages is failing because of this advice y'all is putting on your platform marriages is failing men is losing their mind because of this advice from these single relationship platforms women is going to hell with gasoline draws on because of the single relationship platforms is getting out of hand it is getting out of hand you ever seen Tony to close them the way he do with them scam artists and he dedicate his whole life to expose the scam and I can watch I don't get enough time to watch them all the time but they dedicate their whole life to scams I'm busy to dedicate my part of my life to expose single relationship platforms that we need to abandon we got to abandon it it is getting bad listen if I come and give you relationship advice I'm going to tell you I'm going to tell you my advice is not good for a 20 year marriage my advice is good for 16 years of marriage I'm going to let you know my limitations because I ain't not the water I still have to pray and pray and pray and pray and pray I still have to pray and intercede and work daily on my marriage. I meet people who got divorced at 20 years. So I'm humbled. I meet people who got divorced at 25 years. I think I met somebody who got divorced at the 30 or 35 years. I'm humbled. I realize it's still work to do. But what I could tell you is how you could get past five years. Look at Devon Franklin and Megan Good. They was married for five years and wrote a book on a strategy that is a great strategy. And they thought that their strategy was a recipe for a healthy marriage. And they still got divorced. So waiting until marriage was not the only component to a healthy marriage. No, I'm talking about when they wrote the book. I ain't talking about how long they was together. When they wrote the book, The Wait, they thought that was, they wouldn't have wrote that book if they knew four years later they would have been divorced. But see, that's the thing about it is, our advice is only good for what we haven't been through. I ain't going to be able to tell you what everything you're going to pass on the road from Florida to Georgia if I ain't took the drive. And if I done took the drive, and it's two or three other ways to get them, all I can tell you is about the way that I took. But guess what? If I got a certain kind of vehicle and you ain't got that same kind of vehicle the way I took, might not work for your vehicle. You might get up there in your vehicle and it don't fit under some of the pathways. Your vehicle might break down on some of the roads. But all I can tell you is the road that I took and the vehicle that I used. And if you got a different vehicle, then you need to take a bite from somebody else. So guess what? I can't tell you how to make an Asian marriage work because I don't know the Asian culture. I can't tell you how to make a Hispanic marriage work because culture plays into the relationship. I can't tell you how to make a Muslim marriage work because what I've been told is that Muslim men could have four wives. I'm gonna tell you what. We barely want one wife. So I got to tilt my hat to a man who want food. So now I got to deal with four headaches. I ain't talking about my headache. I'm talking about four women with a headache. Four women who cough it up a lawn. Four women who want cardiac, four women who want Chanel, four women who love Amazon. I can't do it. I can't do it. I could barely, I can't even take care of my one woman. I can't even give her everything she needs and deserve. I got to tilt my hat to a Muslim man. As-Salaam-Alaikum, insha'Allah, salak-as-Salaam, brother God bless you. I ain't gonna be able to do it. I'm gonna have to be a Christian for that very reason. I'm not gonna be able to do it. Y'all got to forgive me. I'm falling about to die. Listen to him and I, listen to him. I'm about to have to go, I'm falling about to die. We got men who live in the land of delusion who can't pick no woman because they're waiting on a woman that God did not create. And it's a lot of women with the same problem, but a woman don't propose to no man. And if you're a woman that believe in proposal to a man, then you took a stupid pill and you need your elixir. You need your cleanse from that stupid pill you took. You need a detox. If you're a woman who believe in shooting your shot, you need a detox. You need to go to another woman in your life and ask her to put some baby powder in her hand and to slap you hard as she can. Yah! And if it ain't got knocked out, you let her come back with the bike hand. With the bike hand sign. Because you is in a land of delusion. We have men and women today who are deluded. And that's why our relationships is not coming together. Because we need men to see these good women out here and go and meet those good women and propose to those good women to take them good women off the market. And we need the women who think they're supposed to be shooting their shot to be quiet. I'm gonna need you to be quiet because you're not the man. So if you're a woman and you're ready to shoot your shot, also be ready to pay his bills. Be ready to roll up his feet. Be ready to impregnate him. Be ready to provide and protect him. Yah! If you're a woman and you wanna shoot your shot, if you don't wanna provide and protect, then keep your shot to yourself. And then just get ready for when your husband come to shoot his shot. That's what we need to realize. But see, this is the thing. This is the problem with single relationship coaches. They telling women to shoot their shot. Single relationship coaches is telling women and men to be in fornication. Single relationship coaches is telling women and men to be open to polygamy. Listen, I'm gonna tell you something. You have never seen a handsome man in polygamy. You have never seen a handsome man in polygamy. If you show me a handsome man that's in polygamy, I'm gonna show you a man that is gay but showing you multiple women as a cover-up for the world. You have never seen a handsome man in polygamy. You see ugly men. And ugly don't mean just by the face. He could be a ugly height to a woman. Now, I'm a man, so I'm not against a man that's five foot four. But if you five foot four, you should not have more than one woman. You are out of pocket. You are out of line. You can't even climb up no woman. If you five, six or shorter, you should not have more than one woman under no circumstances, under no circumstances. Muslim or not, under no circumstances. That is illegal, flag on the plate. You are too little to have multiple women. And I ain't no but five, 10. So I ain't no giant nine. But still, every time I see a man promoting polygyny, he looked like the back of a 57 Buick that got a salvage title and in a 85-year-old man garage. Every time I see a man in polygyny, he looked like somebody stepped on or somebody chewed them up and spit them out. Every time I see a man promoting polygyny, he have a face that only his mama could love. But see, if a man become a one woman man, he start to look better. There are men who was bonafide lambs, bonafide squares that women today are calling handsome. See, a lot of y'all women say Russell Wilson is fine. But to men, men that's like Russell women, I mean, I called him man, Russell women, but men that's like Russell Wilson, as men, we didn't see that as cool as men. So when the guy on the pivot, Channing Crowder, when he said that, a lot of people got mad at Channing, but Channing just don't have enough wear with all to not say everything he thinking. But when Channing Crowder said, Russell Wilson is a square, he really was speaking for every man. The only man who said he was lying is gay man, because they would love them a piece of Russell. But unfortunately, no, no, what I'm saying is Russell Wilson should not be seen as a square. He should be seen as a good upstanding real man. But based on how people look at it, based on men, a man called as a square. But see, our problem is we need to be squares. So we actually need more men like Russell Wilson. We need more men like him, that's our problem. But we don't have enough men that's willing to be like Russell Wilson. And so I respect Russell to a degree, to a degree. Because see, for men like myself, Sierra not a fantasy. She's a beautiful woman, but that she's a beautiful woman, that don't make her a fantasy. But see, for men like Russell, she's a fantasy. So that's the difference. Y'all, let me get my, yeah, I gotta get my uh, uh-oh, gotta get my charger. But if I leave my phone in there, people think I left. So listen, y'all know I normally don't speak names, but we coming into a season to where I got to speak names. Because even though I'm gonna meet these people and sometimes I know these people, or they know me or know of me, I still have to speak names cause I got to paint a picture. So listen, let me tell you something. Nine, let me tell you something. I forgot to forgive y'all. Y'all got to forgive me that I don't wear shorts now. Let me see. Y'all got to forgive me trying to plug up, but y'all gonna plug up full. So this the thing. When a man get him a woman, he start to look better. You know why? Because then, protection and provision looks good to women. When women see a man protecting and providing, I'm gonna charge them, let me double check. When women see a man that's protecting and providing, they say, oh, that look good. And so that's what I want you to understand. So when you look at these men who they promote in these lifestyles. So I seen an actor go on the breakfast club. I don't know his name. I seen an actor go on the breakfast club. I don't know his name. He said he don't believe in marriage. He don't believe in marriage. But he yay big. He yay big. So of course you don't believe in marriage because you this big and you've been overlooked your whole life. So now you don't believe in marriage because you wanna benefit from your celebrity. I seen another man go on there say he don't believe in marriage. Yeah, because your head is shaped like a milk dud and you've been bald since you was 16. So that bald head was not cute in high school. And that's why you have to wear that hat all the time. So yes, you don't believe in relationship because you upset with the head and you're yoked every day of high school. You upset with the songs that the girls used to sing by that milk dud. Then I seen a guy who he had two, three, four women and he looked like the back of a 57 Buett. Now, mind y'all don't even know what the back of a 57 Buett look like. I'm just saying. So it just could look a mess. I don't know. With a salvage title. And that's what I'm trying to tell you. So the mouth pieces. And then I seen a man on a podcast. He got so much to say, so much to say, so much to say. But he got a big beard and he got glasses. And he's a grown man. And he looked like he weighed 140 pounds soaking wet. A woman do not won't know loud mouth man who is 140 pounds soaking wet. If you was 140 pounds, you have to tread lightly. You cannot be doing all this talking. If you ain't got no weight. And so, and then you got them glasses. So I know that you went through some stuff with them glasses. I ain't got nothing against glasses. I never picked on nobody. I ain't never bought it. Nobody. I used to take, I used to look out for people. So when he got these glasses, I said, you used to get calls some names. And you'd have been slapped in one of them lenses. And so you don't went through it. And that big old beard, that big old beard coming some up. So you need to be quiet. You need to be quiet. Then I seen a man. Yeah. ACON too. He'd be talking crazy. But when you heard a woman say ACON cute, I ain't never heard it. I ain't never heard a woman getting her draws by no ACON. And so, yeah. It seemed like all the men who the women ain't want is the ones that the devil done recruited. See, I want you to think about these Marvel movies. See, everything is spiritual. That's what I'm trying to tell y'all. Everything is spiritual. When you watch a Marvel movie or a DC comic, I never was in the comic books as a kid because I was outside playing, throwing them up, busting them up and basketball. So I've never owned a comic book. That's just something I'm gonna be honest about. I've never owned a comic book. And I've never read a comic book in the real sense. Like, went to the store, bought the comic book, read it. Nothing against the people who read it. I just never had. I watch it because my kids like the movies. So because the kids like the movies, we go, I see it come up, it'll say DC Marvel or Marvel Comics or DC something. When you look at the movies, what is the villain? The villain always got something wrong with him. He then went through a bad wreck. He then lost his legs. His skin got peeled off. He then went through something traumatic. And then what does the villain do? The villain goes and recruits the broken, the lonely, the hurting, the ostracized, the alienated, the bullied. And he recruits them and he have them join him in his mission for world domination. I just watched it today on Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles, the new movie. This is, prove what I'm saying. Go watch the Ninja Turtles. The mutant sound like it's played by Ice Cube. He's stealing all this different stuff and he then recruited other mutants. All of them look like throw up. All of these mutants look like somebody throw it up. And what he said out his mouth in the movie, he said, I'm finna create this machine that's gon' blast this ooze with my blood in it, with my genes, my genetics to gon' blast this ooze into the air and it's gon' turn all the humans into mutants. It's gon' turn everybody into mutants. And anybody else who is a human, who stay a human, we gon' make them slaves and all of that. Now, look at the podcast. Look at the podcast. You see villains, when you look, see when you look at a man talking and I'm not a woman, so I really can't always speak, I can't really speak on women, but this applies to some women too. I don't see this with some of the women who are single relationship advisors and single relationship coaches who ain't show now husband, single as a dollar bill and out here wanna be a relationship platform showing all this stuff, our relationship and look a mess, look a mess, don't know how to dress or some of the women, it's pretty, but they broken. Some of the most beautiful paintings is broken. So listen, when you look at a man, you don't just look at the man at who he is today. You don't look at him as a six figure, seven figure man. You rewind that man back to when he was in high school and then you evaluate him. If this man is five, eight or shorter in order to not be bullied, he had to be Kevin Hart. Why do you think little to Duvall and Kevin Hart are comedians? Because in the black race, as black men, if you don't become a thug, a star athlete or a comedian, you gonna get picked on if you five, six or shorter. You was going to get picked on. So instead of being laughed at, instead of being the joke, you start telling the jokes. See, we're not thinking about this. We ain't thinking about this. Why do you think a comedian? How many handsome comedians do you know? Name a tall, handsome, fit comedian. The video ain't froze, the video ain't froze. See, Richard Pryor, funny. But now you take that grown man and you put him in a, you put him in high school. You put him in high school. Somebody say Bill Bellamy. That might be your only exception. And a lot of these men that y'all think is handsome, you think he handsome because you can't see him, you can't see him without his money and you can't see him before he grew into his nose. Before he grew into his head, you can't see him. So that's why some of the time you might see a man that's grown and you say, oh, he handsome. No, he grew into his nose. He grew into the head. See, I don't know what a handsome man is, but I know what a ugly man is. So that's why when you see comedians, 90% of them, we kind of laughing at the jokes in our head. It sound funny coming out of somebody that this tall. It sound funny coming out of somebody that you used to pick on or you used to laugh at. It sound funny. So y'all name out of all the comedians in the world, y'all name two or three comedians, y'all think is tall and handsome and fit. And I say fit now. See, Michael Epps is still skinny. So imagine Michael Epps as a teenager. He can thump in the wind more than wind. He is skinny as a grown man. So as a teenager, he can thump in the wind. You see what I'm saying? So this time you can't look at a man at where he at today. You got to look at him at where he was. And that is what developed his relationship with women. That's what developed his relationship with women. Now somebody say, they should pay a house a little. Ma'am, you about to make me question what you look like, ma'am. I ain't never heard nobody say they should pay a house a dime. He might be, he might be. I can't tell you, but I just ain't never heard it. But see, this is what I want you to understand now. Now y'all name the most handsome actors, the male actors that you think is handsome. Y'all tell me some of the male actors you think is handsome. Idris, Denzel, stop playing in the comments with that red fox. Morris Chestnut, guess what? They married, they married. Nine out of ten of them that is of age, Michael B. Jordan, he's still young. He's still considered young in Hollywood because you got a different life. But the men, look at all, I think of Morris Chestnut. Say you've been with this woman for X amount of years and he don't mess around. When y'all look at these men that y'all think handsome, they married. You don't see one that you think is like handsome, rarely. You can't count five men that's in the media that women say are handsome, that is promoting polygamy. Even if they single right now, you can't count five men that women think are handsome, like universally handsome. They ain't talking about this little quirky, fetish one woman may have and she talking about she love Forrest Whitaker Eye and she just love the squint of Forrest Whitaker Eye. That is the sexiest thing she's ever seen. I'm not talking about those type of little attractions. I'm talking about universally everybody gonna say this man, black, white, Hispanic women gonna say this man look good. You can't name five of them that's promoting polygamy. Now some of them might cheat. That's they private act. That's what they do. That's they private act. They got the answer to God. But what my point is the only men that are promoting having multiple women are either looks or height challenged. So their promotion of this lifestyle is coming from their insecurity. It's coming from literally being overlooked by women or it's coming from not being looked at by women. And that's why they promote having multiple women. Even if they say, oh, I'm honest with my women. Oh, I tell my, oh, I tell my women that I got other women or that I want other women. No secure man wants multiple women. No secure man. No confident, secure man wants multiple women because a man who is him or a man who has ever been him knows that it takes all of him to satisfy one woman. 70% of women studies show that 70% of women do not have a release during intercourse. So that means either her body is incapable of it or she will need a special skill set to have a release from intercourse. So what that means is a man does not deserve her on, say, little baby look good, her on your gold digger. You was a gold digger. Now it's just certain looks that even men, heterosexual men know that that look was not praised before millions of dollars. I have, I got home boys that look like little baby and they did not have not a rare single, now single woman until they became dope boys. When they became dope boys or when they became the star athlete, that is the only way I ever seen a man that look a certain way, have women. So when y'all come out here and y'all say these certain type of men look good, you was telling the world that you is a gold digger. You telling the world you're a gold digger. So stop saying that, stop saying that. Before you comment on a man with money, do a poll and ask 10 other women, do you think this man is handsome? If six of them say no, don't tell nobody you think that man handsome, key that to yourself. Key that to yourself, because otherwise you was telling people you a gold digger. That's just a little information for y'all. They're trying to teach y'all something now. Come on now, y'all got to stop that. Because soon as a woman tell me, oh such and such, such and such is handsome. I had a homeboy in college. I had a homeboy in college and there was a young lady she was like, oh, J Rob is fine. She was talking about our running back. J Rob is fine. My other homeboy was like, what? If J Rob fine, what am I? He was like, what the world that made me? If you think that look good, what in the world that made me? That's what my homeboy said, because he was like, hold on now, this ain't nothing. So some of y'all women now listen, some of y'all, whoo, y'all be listening to me now. You can't name five men that you think is handsome. That is promoting, having multiple women. Can't name five men that have been handsome his whole life. You can't name them. Only thing you're gonna be able to name is men who grew into themselves, who they just not growing into themselves. That's the only thing you're gonna be able to name. So listen, what you got to understand, I seen a boy, I seen a boy on, I seen a boy on a podcast and the boy got locks. He got dreads. We call them dreads. The New Age women with dreads call them locks and they get offended when you say dreads. Where I'm from, they call dreads. Point black period. So the boy got dreads. The boy got his baby hauls laid down. The boy got his baby hauls laid down. He got the hauls to the front separated and laid down and then he wear dangling ear rings. I'm gonna tell you, if you are a man and you wear a dangling ear ring, you can't be trusted. You cannot be trusted because a man is not supposed to put on the attire of a woman. So if you wear the same ear ring, that a woman, well, you cannot be trusted. If you lay your baby hauls down as a man and you wear dangling ear rings, you cannot give your advice or opinion on relationships. You need to shut up. I don't know the boy's name, but it's on one of the podcasts. It might be eight at the table up, which I ain't never seen a table that big. You ain't supposed to have no eight people at no dinner table. What they still Thanksgiving and what happened at Thanksgiving? Foolishness. A bunch of Oregon. So the boy on there with baby hauls laid down with a dangling ear ring and dread lost. They don't even go together. What would you think of Bob Marley if he had baby hauls laid down? When you wear dreads, your dreads ain't supposed to be pretty. Dread poster represents strength on a man. Dreads ain't supposed to be pretty on a man. They're different on a woman. Dreads on a man, you're supposed to be wick. That's what they call it. You're supposed to be wick. You're not supposed to be, I was no pretty dread with no baby hauls laid down. And then with an ear ring dangling, you're not supposed to have no ear ring dangling. That's no man. And then I bet the same men with ear ring dangling be wearing cross bodies. Listen, I'm gonna tell you like this right here. I do not own no cross body. And I'm gonna tell every man on the side of my voice, you not supposed to have no cross body. And I don't kill if you know me personally. If I ain't seen you with that cross body, now it's different if you got a cross body fanny pack and you got that thing in there. You got that tool in there now. But stop wearing these man bags because a heterosexual man did not create no cross body. So you got to understand that it'd be spirits on some of y'all clothes y'all wearing because some of y'all clothes is created by a transvestite. And so you putting on the attire of a transvestite. So you are taking on the spirit of a transvestite. But you call yourself a heterosexual man. Stop doing everything in the name of fashion now. If your mama is not Naomi Campbell or Tyra Banks, you need to stop worrying about fashion. They had the NBA player sitting there, I don't know what his name was, Miles Green, Miles Turner. He's sitting there with his legs crossed. Boy, you got a, boy you got a dandelion and you got balls. How is you crossing your legs like that? Where is your stuff sitting? I have never in my life sat with my legs crossed. Because I got something between my legs. I can't cross them. And if I cross them, I'm crunching on something. And then when I cross them, I either got it sitting up too high or it got to be sitting down and pressing on the chair. And the sprouting how my kids sleep. I'm getting too loud. The sprouting how nerves in it. When the nerves get touch, when nerves in a pain up your stomach. How is y'all crossing y'all legs? I need somebody to give me a tutorial on how to do a man cross his legs. Man put to have a breathing room. Come on, huh? Unless you're over the age of 50. The only time I'm gonna improve a man sitting with a leg crossed is when he crossed 50. When he crossed 50. And that could because the scrotum go to sagging or something. And that thing go looking indecent in the pants. And so he crossed his legs. But that's the only time I'm gonna improve a man cross with me. I know a lot of good men who cross their legs. So y'all don't get offended with me. But if you see me, I'm sending them legs caught open. Cause I need to breathe. Needs breathing out. Listen to me. Listen. I do not want no man with a dangling iran. And no baby has laid down or no perm in his beard. I've seen a man give a relationship advice with a perm in his beard. Stop giving advice with that perm in your beard. A beard supposed to be nappy. You got beard with straight house. You cannot give no relationship advice. You need to start a beauty channel. Do not give no relationship advice with no perm and no dye in your beard. You could do one or the other. And you can't be giving no advice. If you got perm and dye. I've seen a man, this man got perm in his beard. And I've seen dye in the beard. And dye was not the same color as his natural hair color. That's how I knew that it was dye in the beard. Do not give me no more relationship advice. I'm gonna take it out of it. Do not give no relationship advice with no dangling iran. And with no cross body. And with no short shorts on. I don't wanna hear nothing but no relationship. And this is the thing. But you know what? It make perfect sense to me. Why these men sound like they wanna be treated like a beautiful lady. They wanna be catered to. It make perfect sense because they got the baby hairs laid down. They got perm in the beard. They got short shorts on with a cross body and with nail paint. Now it explain why your rhetoric sound like you wanna be treated like a lady. You want the woman to shoot a shot. You want the woman to pay bills. You want the woman to be on a bike every day. You wanna be on your bike every day and you want the woman on top of you every day. You asking the woman what she bring to the table. When the man supposed to be building a table that we could sit at. But y'all boys sitting up here with your legs crossed. And when I'm talking to you man to man, you got the nerve to tell me I'm pandering to women. How am I pandering to a woman if I'm talking to you? How is I'm pandering to a woman that out with something I tell you to your face? What? This somebody tell you to your face. What? If you wanna wear an ear ring for one, we need to be wearing no ear rings. For one. But if you wanna wear you an ear ring, let it be a diamond stud. Do not put no dangling ear ring in your ear. And then come around here. You might as well come around smacking your teeth. If you're wearing a dangling ear ring, you need, before you say anything, you need to, well, the way I feel. Then you need to take that bass out your voice. You cannot have bass in your voice with no cross body purse and no dangling ear ring and a perm in your beard and baby house laid down. I don't wanna hear nothing. I wanna hear nothing else you got to say. Boy hush, boy hush. And come over here to the man's school. Come over here to real man university. And I'm finna help you learn how to dress, help you learn how to do your health, help you learn how to take care of that beard, help you learn what kind of ear ring you gonna wear if you got the ear ring, you need to put a hat on ear ring. I'm finna get some, what is that called? I'm finna get some acetone and take that nail polish off for you. And I'm finna get you a wallet. You need a wallet. And if you want to carry a tool on you, then wear you a hoodie and put it in a hoodie pocket like little baby be doing. If you want that tool on you, get you a holster that go inside the belt clip and wave some pants with a little scratch in the waist. And y'all need to listen. When you put some on and you go to feeling frisky as a man, it's nine out of 10 time, a man who date men is the designer of that outfit. And so this what you got to realize now, these men who is designing a lot of the clothes, you have to understand that stuff is spiritual. The men who is designing a lot of these clothes, if you notice, they trying to put women into masculine clothes. They putting women into oversized hoodies, oversized shirts, boyfriend jeans, and oversized blazers because the woman is the home girl. And they putting men in nut huggers, nut hugger shorts, crossbody bags, pearl necklaces, dangling ear rings, and painted fingernails. Come on now. You got to learn how to discern in the spirit what is being put on you. You got to learn how to discern in the spirit what's being put on you. Men are dressing like women, and they have the women dressing like either a prostitute or a man. It's almost two types of clothing that they trying to sell women. Look like a prostitute or look like a man. And then for the meaning, look like a woman. Look like a woman or a pubescent, a pubescent boy. Come on now. You got to discern in the spirit what's being put on you. And what we need right now, I'm gonna tell you what we need. I'm gonna tell you what we need. And I'm talking to the men. I'm talking to the men. Women are talkative, so women be in the comments, but it's men on here watching this. I'm talking to the men. If you are a man and you are single, you need to become very intentional about finding your wife. If you are a man and you are single, you need to understand that masculinity ain't got nothing to do with juggling women. Masculinity ain't got nothing to do with putting a woman under your thumb and controlling women. That's not masculinity. That stuff that a lot of that stuff that Andrew Tate was talking about and that Kevin Sandler be talking about, that ain't masculinity. That's revenge on the nerves. That is revenge on the nerves. And forgive me for using the term nerve in that life. That is revenge on the nerves. Anybody who had ever been a hymn, know a man who was not hymn, and who was butt hurt and spewing a message. And when them men heard my message and they heard a real man who they know was hymn, say what I'm saying, they start to change their tone. They start to say some stuff that makes some sense. Because when a real man called out a grown boy, posing as a man, they get they ight together. They get they ight together. That's why I tell women when I'm talking to men, be quiet. When I'm talking to a man, be quiet. Cause a man need to heal from a man. Don't add on to what I'm saying, let what I say go to him as a man. If you were a man, you need to learn what a real man is. You need to learn that a real man, dress like a man, wear a hat like a man, wear nails like a man, act like a man, talk like a man. And what that mean? And don't none of that mean dog and no woman ight. Don't none of it mean using a woman. Don't none of it mean juggling women. Don't none of it mean that. You got to find real man and stop looking up to fatherless grown boys. If you gonna look up to a man who ain't got no father, make sure that he has become the man that his father was not willing to be. We live in a society that fatherless men are becoming leaders of men. Men who father abandon them are getting a platform and they operating from pain instead of doing the work to heal and become the man that their father was not able to be. So you got to understand it. You got to understand it. You got to look at who you following. You got to look at not who he is today. You got to look at who he was when he was developed. See they say a person's personality is developed by the age of seven. Who was that man at seven? Who was he on the playground? Was he getting picked on? If he was, is he still hurt by that? Is he still hurt by that? I'm gonna tell you at seven years old, I'm gonna tell you and that's why I come the way I come. At seven years old in soccer and I ain't got no captain morale. Seven years old we played soccer. I drove through everybody and scored goals. When I got tripped I rolled into a flip, got up, got the ball and kept going. Seven years old my P.E. coach came up to me, he stopped everybody and he came up to me and he put his hand on my knee. He say, look at this knee. Man, look at how athletic, just how agile. Because when we played football I joked everybody how I'm running touchdown. Then when we got 10 years old, 12 years old, I'm leading the league in touchdowns. Basketball, I'm leading the league in points. So I speak the way I speak because I've never went through being bullied. I didn't go through that. So I don't speak from a place of anger and insecurity because I didn't have to go through that. So what I'm telling y'all men is that if you was bullied, if you were picked on, if you was mistreated, you got to heal, you got to heal. You got to go in the trenches and you got to do the work before you open your mouth. If you was cheated on, you got to heal. You got to heal, you got to, if you were dogged up, you got to heal before you open your mouth. Because see, when you have the advantage, you don't want an advantage. When you had the advantage, you want to level playing field because you don't want it to be easy. So the reason why I give out the game is because I had the advantage because every single woman I met, except for probably three or four, and out of hundreds of women, every single woman I met was willing to have sex on the first night. So that's why I'm trying to level the playing field because you don't want an advantage when you've already been given the advantage. You only want the advantage when you feel like you've been at a disadvantage. Listen to me. Listen to what I'm telling you. You got to know, somebody hit the like button and I never say that, but I don't like that number, it's on. And see, you two like to play. They like to play too much. They know, good and well, I'm saving, sanctified and hold a gold field and they want to sit there and let that thing sit on the devil number. Y'all didn't stop playing out there in Palo Alto. I kept playing around. I kept eating them Twinkies and drinking that Dunkin' Donut coffee, playing around with the numbers. Hey, come over here, Billy. Come over here, Billy. Devote radical Christian. Hey, let's just pause it right there. Just pause it on Satan's number. Come over here, Billy. Come over here. They be sitting out there playing in Palo Alto. Every time I get on here, they want to go to playing. And one time I'm coming on here, they know, good and well, it wasn't a one person on here. They had me sitting on here for an hour and they showed me they were one person on here. I say, what, somebody out there in Palo Alto playing. I say, the devil is, I say devil get me behind me, trying to mess with my psyche. Now listen to me. To these men, I want the men to heal. And I'm gonna tell you something, marriage ain't easy. Marriage ain't easy. You know why? Because you dealing with another human being and humans ain't perfect. Humans ain't easy. Humans ain't easy to deal with. So guess what? When you don't want another human being, you got to deal with their emotional swings. You got to deal with their highs and lows. You got to deal with the ups and downs. So that make it hard. It's hard for the woman and it's hard for the man. But who said it was gonna be easy? I'm gonna tell you something like this. If you're looking for something easy, you're not even a man. Boys look for something easy. Men don't want nothing easy. Men don't want an easy woman. Men don't want no easy job. Men don't want no easy purpose. Men don't want no easy calling. Men don't want nothing easy. If you a man, you want that worth. You want all this smoke. You want the grind. If you a man, so if you looking for a woman that's gonna get on a bike on the first night, you can't call yourself a man. If you looking for a woman that you so worried about what bill she gonna pay, you can't call yourself no man. If you looking for a woman that you worried about how much money she make, you can't call yourself no man. My wife ain't worked since I met her. My wife ain't worked since I met her. And yeah, it's hard. It's hard right now. I got bills to pay right now. Ain't no person sent now donation. But see a man don't get on here asking for donations. See I'm gonna tell you this, they're between a man and a grown boy. When you go on a lot of men, you too paid, you gonna see they cash out. You gonna see they paypal. You gonna see they Venmo. A grown man do not ask nobody for money. A grown man don't ask for nothing. You get it out the mud. When you watch my videos, I will give you a million dollars. If you could find one video that I open up and I say hit the like and subscribe and the thumbs up. A man don't ask for nothing. A man go to God. I'm not gonna come on here and send me a cash out, send me a Venmo, send me a paypal, get it out the mud. And then y'all don't wanna sit up here and be begging for people hard earned money and still earning it. And then you wanna call me a simp. Boy get it out the mud. Boy ain't asking no man for nothing. Not gonna come on here and be and have no cash up on here when all these women on here. When you see my cash out be put on there, that is because the moderator find out my cash out and send me a cash out. And then be sharing the cash out. You not gonna find now video in over a thousand videos where I got my cash out on there, my paypal, my Venmo, cause that's a man. When you get used to begging, you going back to a state of a boy. A man don't beg. A man earn his keep. If I need to earn every subscriber I get, that's why I ain't got more subscribers than a lot of these men because they be on here subscriber begging. They be on here panhandling for likes and subscribes. So of course, you gonna have more subscribers cause you on here keep putting up, make sure you subscribe, make sure you hit the like, no provide value and you gonna get the likes and the subscribe that you have worked for, shut the rest of it up. See what we got to realize is how they say, how you do one thing, how you do everything. Now that's not true. That is not true because you could be passionate about one thing and you do it to the absolute best and then you could be impassioned about something else and you don't kill nobody. So that ain't true. But see, as a man, you got to have a provider mentality. You got to have a get it out the mud mentality. So right now I got bills to pay. So you know what I did? I created a class teaching something that I know how to teach. I don't wrote nearly 20 books. I don't wrote 20 books of my own and I don't ghost wrote countless other books. I don't self publish. I don't publish with a boutique publisher. I don't publish with a hybrid publisher and I don't publish with a major top five publisher. So I know the publishing industry from A to Z. So I'm teaching a class called Book Publishing Boot Camp. And I put that on TonyGassesAcademy.com and I'm teaching that class instead of pen handling for likes and subscribes and donations. And thank you to the person who sent me a blessing that I did not ask for now, but sent me a blessing. I appreciate you all the same. I appreciate you. First and only person. And for that blessing that you sent me now, go into your YouTube and take a picture from the inside of your YouTube and DM that to me. I mean, email that to me on support at tonigasses.com. And I'm gonna give you any course that you want on TonyGassesAcademy. Any course you want. Right now, my most expensive course is $1,500. It's the life coach certification program. So because you did that right now, without being asked or prompted, giving you any course you want. And no, no, don't try to sit now. No, no, I appreciate your sister. I can't get the same deal on this, still not. She got the deal. See, that's just a life lesson right there. That's just a life lesson right there. It's just a life lesson right there. That's all I'll teach you. Just a little life lesson. Listen to me though. If you are a man, I want every man. And for those of y'all who you have a man in your life, meaning a brother, a cousin, a uncle, if you are a man, let me tell you something. Learn what a real man is. Start looking at real men. And I'm gonna tell you one thing that you could tell that a real man, he married and he faithful. He married and he faithful. Because to take on the role of loving another human 24 hours a day and seven days a week and sharing your space with this human, knowing that humans are finicky and knowing that humans are volatile and knowing that humans have mood swings, that is the hardest thing that we as men will ever do in our life. Love a woman the way Christ loved the church. And if you don't believe what Christ did is hard, then I dare you to go out in the streets and volunteer to be crucified for people that you do not know or people that do not know you. Christ know us, but we didn't know him. Nor do most people, a lot of people don't reverence and respect Christ. But yet he died for your sins. He died while you masturbating. He died for your masturbation, for your fornication, for your idolatry, for your greed, for your envy, for your backbiting, for your gossiping, for your stealing, for your lying, for your killing. He died for it all. But yet we don't even reverence and respect them. And the Bible say husband, love your wife as Christ loved the church. What Jesus did is the hardest thing that'll ever be done. And so if we told the love our wife like Christ loved the church, that means that is the second hardest thing that'll ever be done. And women don't wanna hear this, but you gotta understand for a man to die out to himself and to love someone as much as he loves himself or more than he love himself is the hardest thing a man will ever do. I don't learn, I have learned how to make $1 million working seven hours a week. I have learned that, but guess what? And it took me about 10 years to learn that. Today people learn how to do it in one year. Legally, men learning how to make a million dollars, they learning how to make a million dollars in one year. Meaning it's taking them one year to learn how to make a million dollars in a year. But tell me this, how many men know how to truly love a woman? Come on now. So what's harder? How did Tyler Perry become a billionaire before he became a husband? How did Jeff Bezos become a billionaire but couldn't keep his wife? How did Bill Gates become a billionaire but couldn't keep his wife? How has Pete did it a billionaire but don't have a wife? You hear what I'm telling you? Do you hear what I'm telling you? How has Steve Harden worth $400 million and own his third wife? A man loving a woman is gonna be the hardest thing a man will ever learn how to do in his life. That is why I don't respect the man until he learn how to do the first thing God had him do in regard to another human. See, the first thing Adam had to do is learn how to love. It learn how to love. Well, LaVon, it really don't count with Steve Harvey on this marriage, because when a woman looked like Marjorie, a lot of men, they didn't have him. You see what I'm saying? Listen, we can't give Russell Wilson no credit. It's Steve Harvey. It ain't no whole lot of credit when women built like that and looking like that. Okay? So that's why you hear what I'm saying? To them particular men, you hear me? They might not look good to somebody else. They don't look better than my wife, to me, but when they worship that woman and they see that woman and they think that woman look the best they've ever seen in their life, that's gonna help the man stay. You know what I'm telling you? Nah, if them looks go to fading and them looks go to changing, nah, we get to see nah. Now we get to see love in them now. You want me to tell you? So now listen to me. Listen to me now. So a man loving a woman faithfully and fully and wholly WHO, L-L-Y, and also wholly H-O-L-Y is gonna be the hardest thing that a man does in his life. I am not impressed with a man making a million dollars. And the way a man make a million dollars is the same way he could make a billion dollars. He just got to do it, thousands of times over. Now, I'm not impressed with a billion now because a lot of it is a stroke of luck. A lot of it is just being in the golden age and just being first to something. I ain't impressed with that. You know what I'm impressed with? I'm impressed with a man getting married because he's dying out to himself. He's consecrating his spirit. He's taking on a covenant with God. And then I'm impressed with that man treating his wife the way God wants her to be treated. So that means he's faithful. That means he's gentle. That means he's kind. That means he's compassionate. That means he's patient. That means he's giving. He's forgiving. He's understanding. This man now goes into, this man goes into the Corinthian 13 type of love. So, which I don't think is talking about a romantic relationship, but a man goes into that type of love because that's Christ's love for us, Corinthian 13. That's Christ's love for us. So if we're supposed to love our wife the way Christ's love to church, then we love her with a Corinthian 13 love. That love, that love, that love, that's too real. That love, that's too real. LaVonne, don't worry about getting found by that type of man because that type of man gonna find you when you were a reflection of that type of man. And I see some women could be a decepticon and they could deceive that type of man. But he gonna find out and she either gonna have to change or she gonna get left. Pumper in Pierrot. And he gonna go to God for forgetting them and hope that he get it, but God will forgive him. So what you got to do as a woman, you got to find yourself. You got to find yourself because a man of God is always finding himself. A man of God is dying out to himself day in and day out. He is crucifying his flesh. He's trying to grow every single day. So that man of God is looking for a woman who is trying to do the same. So if you are a man, you need to get intentional about your relationship with God and then you need to get intentional about finding your wife and understand that from real men, you're not gonna have a real man's respect until you could be married and faithful. Real men don't respect men who are not married and faithful. When I see a man who is afraid to get married, I can't respect him as a man because a real man does not operate from fear. When I see a man who cannot find a wife, I can't respect him as a man because he has no vision. When I see a man who cannot keep a wife, I can't respect him as a man because he has no self-control. He has no discipline. He is not willing to grow. See, a man got to be married and he got to be faithful to get respect from real men. See, and in the respect that that man have, it's not across the board. He may be respected for what he does well, but he's not fully respected as a man. And if he's fully respected as a man without being married and being faithful, then he is respected by grown boys who don't understand the purpose of life, who don't understand they call from God. A man's call from God is not to build business because if a man's call from God is to build business, then God would have told Adam to build a skyscraper instead of laying him down and creating a woman for him. Now, what God wanted Adam to do is to lead. And Adam failed at leading his wife. What God wanted Adam to do is to stand on business, to stand on the covenant and Adam failed. See, that ain't what God signed Adam up for. He signed Adam to build no Fortune 500 company because he could have just told Adam, Adam go enterprise in the world, go create a currency and go build currency and make money. He say, lay your butt down. You need to help me. And when I give you this help me, be fruitful and replenish the earth and lead her righteously and Adam fail. So see, Adam fail, Adam fail. I ain't lead my wife righteously. I ain't lead my wife across the board in all responsibility because I was strong in some area. I was strong in, I was strong in faithfulness, but I wasn't strong in finances. Because, and my wife ain't strong in finances. So then God say, if your wife ain't strong in finances and you ain't strong in finances, but you the head, you the lead, then you need to become strong where you weak at. And right here, this what I tell you in my word that the borrower becomes servant to the lender. Right here, I tell you in my word that the man who buried his money, his money was taken and given to the man who invested his money. Right here in my word, I tell you that if a man don't work, he don't eat. Right here in my word, I tell you to study the act because she don't even sleep. Right here in my word, I tell you, see, God say, if you don't, what you don't know, I done put it in the manual for you. It's in the Holy Bible. You, see, we can't even call ourselves men till we start reading our Bible. The Lord convinced in my spirit and said, Tony, you got to make sure you read your Bible now, boy. You got to make sure you read your Bible now, boy. Clara, God bless you. See, we can't even call ourselves a man if we ain't reading our Bible. You know, everybody lean on about you. I got a family that's Jehovah Witness. You know what? They come over and claim and quote, they come over and quote the Holy Bible. I say, well, why is you a Jehovah Witness with a watchtower? If all you quoting is the Holy Bible. I heard you quote now passage at watchtower. What is you over here doing? You're quoting the Holy Bible and nowhere in the Holy Bible do it say, read a watchtower. Now, I mean Muslims and all they quote is the Holy Bible. So if all you quoting is the Holy Bible, then what is you doing with the Quran? Now, tell me a passage out of the Quran now. So the God, the gave us the Bible to where every religion is leaning on the Holy Bible. See, when I was curious about my faith, I was curious about my faith and I was questioning my faith and I went to my dad and I said, you know, why are you a Christian? I said, why are you a Christian? He said, son, he said, son, he said, son, I chose God at a late age. He said, son, he said, I went to the Jehovah Witness and they got a watchtower, but they quote the Holy Bible. He said, son, I went to the Muslim and they got a Quran, but they quote in the Holy Bible. He said, son, I went to the Mormon and they got a book of Mormon, but they quote in the Holy Bible. He said, son, I went to the Catholic and they praising, you know, Mary or whoever, but they got a Holy Bible. They quote in the Holy Bible. So he's saying, if all these religions is quoting one book and that one book has not quoted not a single, nair, noun, one of them other books, he's saying that I had to come to the conclusion that this book is the source, that this book is the most profound, prolific book that has ever been written. I made up the praise, Mary, but they've been there with too much going on, all that right there. Oh, you know who said, the Catholic said, somebody told me that Catholic, they said that, they said they can't read the Bible. Somebody else got to read the Bible, tell it to him. But it's a lot of people that come to me and say they used to be Catholic and not a Christian. So I really don't know what a Catholic doing, but I know they losing a lot of people to Christianity. So listen to me, I want you to understand. So here it is, a man got this right here, instruction manual. And if he don't, oh God bless you Chanel. And if he don't read that manual and start pursuing that manual, he ain't pursuing that manual. He ain't trying to do what he got to do. And listen, we ain't arguing about religion in here now cause I'm gonna be getting emails. Tell me, I've been watching your videos for years and I am a Jehovah Witness and I am a Mormon and I am a Muslim and I am a Catholic and I was offended of what you said. I don't care what you were offended by. I know Jesus Christ and that's who I serve. And the day I just read when Jesus went in that church and flipped over them tables cause they were playing with his daddy name and he said, you not finna play in my face. So listen, do not come to me by what you is because I do not care. You could be whatever you wanna be. That's between you and God. I know Jesus Christ and that's it, point blank period. And I ain't worried about stepping on no toes cause Jesus won't worry about stepping on no toes. I ain't hating on you, I ain't mad at you. I just know Jesus Christ is real and he has redeemed my life, saved my life, chained my life. I can't speak for nothing else. Now if I meet a Buddhist or a Hindu or a Muslim or a Catholic or a Jew or a Jehovah Witness or Mormon and they got the same peace that I got on the inside, not, then I'll tell them you must have them found something but I ain't met them yet. The only ones I meet is angry and wanna argue because if you know what you know, you ain't going to nobody email inbox or to the DM to Arga. I ain't DMing nobody to Arga by what I know. I'm gonna stand on what I know cause I know it's real and the truth, like my daddy say, the truth pressed to the ground, gonna rise again. It's gonna rise again. Listen to me now. So now if you a man, it's time to get your life together. See we going into a season right now where we finna have to start talking man to man. And I don't put enough videos out there to help protect women from grown boys, from dogs, from players, from womanizers cause I was all of that. Now it's time for us men to sit down and have a conversation. See they tell you when you write books they tell you don't write books for men. I just wrote a book for men. The publishers tell you don't write books for men. So when I say are you Baptist? I'm a child of Christ. Christ don't have denominations. Arrogant humans created denominations. Christ got a word and Christ's word don't tell you to be now the domination. It tell you to live by these commandments. But see arrogant men who was sit by the devil came and tried to create their own version of Christianity so that they could have power because they didn't wanna sit up under another man that God had called. So they say I'm gonna branch off and I'm gonna make another church, another denomination and I'm going to divide the body of Christ by teaching something else and I'm gonna focus on this one scripture and I'm gonna build my whole denomination off this one scripture and I'm gonna ignore the other scriptures that Christ has said. That comes from men's arrogance. That's why we have different denominations because of the arrogance of man. Christ didn't divide Christians. Christ didn't even call us Christians. He called us children of God. You live by this instruction from God. You keep God commandment. And that's what we got to realize. That's what we got to realize. See, listen, on Tony Gadsden Academy, I got a sample chapter from my next book. It's called War. A man's God to defeating the enemy within. And I'm building a support group with that war and that's what's gonna publish that book. So if, and I, because I gotta go self-publish and so it take money to do it. And that's why I say I don't beg for nothing. I have to create. I gotta give something. I gotta serve. I gotta produce something. So I got an introduction and a chapter on TonyGadsdenAcademy.com. I don't know if any moderators in here but if one on me here, if you, even if you ain't no moderator, put TonyGadsdenAcademy.com in there. And on there, you're gonna see my support group that I'm building so that when the book is published, you'll be the first to know about it. And you also could read the sample and it's unedited. It ain't, I ain't even went through it one time. It's completely unedited. God bless you, who sent that right now. It's unedited. But this book for men. And I want you to get, if you're a man, I want you to get this book and I want you to get it for every man you know. If you're a woman, I want you to get the book for every man you know. When it come out, it gonna come out soon. I just gotta sit down and read through it before I release it. What it's called war. And that war is an acronym, but I want every man to create the acronym for themselves. Cause I don't want what it mean to me, to mean to somebody else. I want every man to create their own acronym because we have to go to war against the flesh, against the adversary. And we got to defeat the enemy within because we have become our own worst enemy. When you look at the world, when you look at this hill life, when you look at this hill life, what you're gonna see is, when you look at this hill life, what you're gonna see is you're gonna see that men have become our own worst enemy. What I mean by that is, men have become our own worst enemy. Meaning everywhere you look, a vice is being promoted. Men are promoting to men. Marijuana, alcohol, gambling, pornography, strip clubs, polygyny, polygyny, polyamory, pills, drugs, fornication, adultery, gambling, if I ain't say that. The only thing that is being promoted is vices. It ain't enough men promoting the Bible. And a lot of men who promote the Bible ain't living it. So we got to come together and we got to start to do better. We got to live more pure. I go and I watch a podcast that's talking about sports because I want to hear what this athlete's story is, but I can't get through the podcast without hearing a bunch of advertisements about gambling and alcohol. So I'm like, okay, what's going on? Gambling and alcohol. Like I come over here to learn about an inspirational story. Like go to masterclass.com and strike a deal with them. Go to betterhelp.com and strike a deal with them. Now go to skillshare.com and strike a deal with them. Like don't just settle for promoting to your people alcohol and gambling because it's not friendly. It's not friendly. It's not nice. Alcohol don't play nice. Gambling don't play nice. It is a work of the devil. And it comes to steal, to kill and to destroy. So yeah, some of it gonna be, some of it gonna be able to manage it. But how? How is a man gonna be able to manage marijuana, alcohol and gambling if a lot of men can't even get married and be faithful? How is a man gonna be able to manage those vices if he can't even be married and faithful to one woman? How are you gonna be able to manage those vices if he can't manage money? If he can't manage his mind, how is he gonna be able to manage his vices? Eventually them vices is gonna take everything from him. And see, this is the thing. Deion Sanders and his family got a commercial and it's KLC. My mom and daddy got diabetes. LeBron James got a deal, it's McDonald's. Other NBA players and rappers got a deal with Mountain Dew. What do Mountain Dew do to a man? You see what I'm saying? We're not paying attention. We ain't paying no attention. We ain't paying no attention. We're not even thinking about. So I have to ask myself, I gotta say, man, Tony, when McDonald's bring you a check for a million, did you go turn that check down? Because I can't come on here and do a video and say, hey, y'all, I'm about to do a McDonald's commercial now. They gon' give me a million. But don't y'all go eat at McDonald's because McDonald's gon' see that and they gon' cancel the deal. And they gon' make me get on that million dollar bike and they gon' make me pay them more than that cause they gon' take me to court to sue me and they gon' make me pay their legal fees too. So guess what? When Coca-Cola come to me, when Budweiser come to me, I got a guy I know in the NBA. He got an endorsement deal with Midello, the beer. And I guarantee you, his neighborhood full of alcoholics. See, we put money before, we put profit before principle. And then we say like Charles Barkley said, I'm not a role model, ain't a role model. And see, we have to think about that when we have that level of platform. But see, I can't judge nobody. I can't judge them because I ain't been confronted. Now, when they come to me, I'm gonna say, Lord, all right. Now, the devil have brought me this check from Mike Donalds. Now listen, can you match them? Lord, can you match them? Lord, please tell me you can match them. Lord, tell me you can blow them out of water. And if the Lord say, no, I can't match them. But if you wanna take the money and kill your people, then go ahead. And see, listen, the people I'm speaking on, a lot of people, I know all these people. Nine out of 10 times, I know majority of them. But I still got to stand on business. I still got to stand on business. And any real man gonna respect that. And a real man gonna know the truth is the truth. So if a man's gotta speak on something that I'm doing and he know me personally, but that's the truth. And it coming from what God got to do, then guess what? I got to deal with that. I got to deal with that. I got to sit down, I got to say, oh, okay. Let me sit down and deal with that. I got to confront that. So now, this right here, I got to deal with it. But see, a lot of times as men, we don't wanna be confronted. We don't wanna be confronted. We don't wanna be held accountable. Oh, you said, oh, you said something about me? Oh, you said something that stepped on my toe? Oh, I wanna talk to you. Don't call my phone, don't text me. Oh, I don't wanna hang out with you because you don't believe this right here. That's how men are. I had to grow up. I had to get past that. If a man, if I ain't treat my wife right. And a man say, you as a punk, if you controlling your wife, if you dominating, if you dictating, and you taking your woman for granted, you treating your woman like a pawn on your chessboard. If a man say that and I ain't treat my wife right, I got to take that. As a man, I got to take that. And I got to say, you know what, he right. He right. He right. And I used to live a whole another lifestyle. And I went to church one time and that pal said, oh, he said something that punched me in my chest. He said not to out me, but I had to take that. And that helped me grow as a man. And that's what I'm asking men is stop seeking, stop seeking just bomb for your wounds and start seeking a somewhat look alcohol, let it. That's gonna purify that thing. They're gonna clean you up. Start seeking friction. Stop seeking just what's gonna make you comfortable and start seeking friction. Start seeking a challenge. Start desiring to be challenged in the dark as a man. And get out your feelings. Get out your feelings and stop just getting out your feelings in the weight room. Get out your feelings in the board room. Get out your feelings in the bed room and get out your feelings in the dark. Get out your feelings when the message, when this message punched you in your chest. When this message punched you in your mouth. Get out your feelings. Get out your feelings. What you think Jesus did when he went in that church he flipped them tables over because they were playing with God. He was telling them, get out your feelings. See, as men, we wanna talk to women like trash and then we wanna be talked to like little boys. And that's what anger is me, is that my tone and my delivery is said to be too harsh, too aggressive. But then I see men in the comments clapping and janking off to Kevin Samuel's cussing women out. But then when I say something that's real and direct to a man who could square up if he want to, oh, well Tony, you two judge mental, you two condescending. You two, it's the way you talk to men. You call a man a grown boy. How you wanna help a man if you wanna call him names? I'm calling a spade a spade. What you want me to call a spade a ace? You want me to call a spade a king, a heart, only play cards? What you want me to call a spade? Just tell me that. So if I call you a lame, if I call you a grown boy, it because it's time for you to put your big boy pants on. It's time to man up. It's time to grow up. It's time to stop judging women like you shopping for a car. And understand this woman is your help me. This woman is your teammate. And that you need a woman that gonna be willing to work. Me ain't talking about going to get no job. I'm talking about a woman that gonna submit to God and live a righteous and holy and pure life with you. A woman who gonna speak life into you and encourage you to be better instead of condoning you watching pornography, which gonna lead you down a dead end road. Instead of a woman condoning you smoking weed and popping pills and going to strip clubs and doing things that are vices that's going to further addict you. Instead of you want a woman that's going to pacify your child like behavior, you need a woman that's gonna speak life into you, that's gonna challenge you and that's gonna hold you accountable. That's what you need to be looking for. And you need to stop just focusing on her body and her looks because those things change. Those things change. Your woman is going to go through a season of acne and her face is going to be hard to look at because she gonna go through a season of adult acne when her hormones are imbalanced. Your woman going to have hormonal imbalances and she gonna have yeast infections. She might have urinary tract infections. She might have different things that a woman go through. She gonna go through menopause and gonna be having hot flashes in the snow and you got to turn a fan on and it's 10 degrees outside. Your woman is gonna go through menstrual stuff to where three or seven or 12 or however many days depending on her issues and her health, that period are finna have her toe up from the floor and you got to love her. Your woman might have health issues to where her period have her land on a tile floor crying and you got to love her through it. You got to support her through it. She might be like the woman with the issue of blood and have a period for 14 days and you got to be abstinent. See, listen, as a man you got to understand discipline. You got to understand self-control. You got to understand what really matters with a woman. That's what you got to understand. So you can't get caught up on just her face, her breasts, her booty, her stomach. You can't just get caught up on that. You got to look at her heart. You got to look at her character. You got to look at who she is in that pain. Who is she in the pain? Who is she in the trenches? Who is she when tough times come upon you? What she's saying when you going through your Job season? What do she fix her mouth to say? When God allow you to be tested like Job, is your woman a descendant of Delilah? Or is your woman a descendant of Proverb 31? Is your woman a descendant of Jezebel? Or is she a descendant of Ruf and Esther? Who is this woman that you looking at? Okay, she got a little muffin top on her. Go to the gym with her every day. Get in the kitchen and meal prep well. She been leaning on food because she been stressed. She been lonely. She been worried. Okay, she got some adult acne. Go get a skin routine. Go change the meal plan. Start eating better. Start sleeping better. Bring that peace to her life. Okay, she got that gap in her teeth. Give her some braces if she came for them. Go give her some filler. If she tough it up with that gap, but she ain't got the funds to get that gap closed. And if she love that gap, love her with it. You sit there and be reposting TDJs until he got his mouth fixed. He done been had money. That's when I had to put TDJs on notice when he got no teeth fixed. Now, TD, you done had that gap your whole life. You done been a millionaire for decades with a gap. And now all of a sudden you want some venetrious. Come on now, Constance. Come on now, Bishop. What in the world, you know, when he got the venetrious? The venerous and dentures put together. Come on now, Constance. Michael Strahan still got his gap. When Michael Strahan get his gap closed, did you a hole and build you a bunker under the ground? Cause it's going down. Listen, when people who would have been millionaires go to get gaps closed, it's time to start looking around. The Lord getting ready to come back. When they go to get them venetrious. No, listen, listen to me young man, find your wife. Stop worrying about money. Stop worrying about money. If a woman can't see your character and see that you're building and see that you are willing to work and see that you're willing to grind but you got character developed after Christ, if she can't see that, she don't deserve you. If how much money you make is a prerequisite, she don't deserve you. Okay, okay, I owe you. Okay, I owe you. She don't deserve, she don't have God like vision. She don't deserve you. Now, if you on your couch, if you lazy, if you don't wanna go work at McDonald's cause you waiting on McIntosh to hire you, then you got life messed up because a man gonna work. A man gonna work. If you ain't on your dream job and you just comfortable with unemployment to your dream job coming, you ain't trying to create your own business. You can't call yourself a man but when you willing to get out the mud, when you willing to grind and you are emulating Christ, forget Mike. You ain't trying to be Mike Tyson. You ain't trying to be Mike Jordan. You ain't trying to be Mike Jones. You ain't trying to be Mike, nobody. You trying to be like Christ and you willing to grind. You willing to get how you live, listen. If everything fell through, I'm going to Mike Donald's. That's the only Mike I'm gonna try to be like Mike Donald's. If everything fell through for me, you gonna see me at Mike Donald's. You gonna see me at Walmart. I'm not fitting to be laid up on unemployment as no grown musky man. I've got to get it, I've got to get it. Come on, man, I'm fitting to create something, man. If I need somebody, I'm fitting to get online. Hey, I'm teaching a course on how to go live on YouTube. It's $9.99. I'm fitting to show y'all 50 plus year olds how to go live on YouTube. Come, hey, I'm fitting to teach something. I ain't gonna scare you now and charge you $1,000. I'm gonna charge what is worth. I'm gonna charge $10, $25, but I'm gonna teach you how to go live, because guess what's going on live? It's gonna make you a little money. It's gonna make you a little money. So it's gonna be worth that. It's gonna be worth it. So listen to me. If a woman got a prerequisite of your height versus your healing, she ain't a woman for you. If she were more about your height than your healing, she's not the woman for you. If she were more about your money than your mindset, she's not the woman for you. Listen to me. If your woman ain't got no booty, do 100 squats with her every day, get your planet fitness or a crunch fitness membership for $7.99, and y'all go in there and get on the step master. Get on the step master with her. If anything you wanna change about her beauticiously, listen, anything you wanna change about her beauticiously, it could be worked on. You need to look at what God looking at. See, God ain't looking at that woman's face. God ain't looking, and see a lot of men, they say, oh Tony, you a hypocrite, you a hypocrite. And I have to, and my wife know this now. So y'all ladies, y'all, I'm gonna ask you nicely. I'm gonna ask you respectfully. Be quiet. When I speak on my wife, she already know what I'm called to do. And I ask her all the time. I say, baby, you worried about me being real? You worried about me telling the truth? She say, do what you got to do. So listen to me. When I speak on my wife, oh and here none of y'all, don't say that about your wife. Your wife be beautiful. Listen, when I met my wife, I thought she was cute. And now and time, that's why men, they be like, oh man, your wife fine, your wife fine. You know why a lot of men think my wife is fine? Well, one, she is fine. But my wife look better today. My wife look better since y'all seen her than when I met her. Because money do change things. When a woman could get better skincare, she could get a better hair stylist. She let her eyebrows fill out and she stopped going to the cheap eyebrow lady. She look better. When a woman put on diamonds and jewelry, she look better. So my wife was beautiful. I remember looking at her and saying, man, this woman's face is flawless. Like everything in her face is flawless. But my wife have Indian in her. So what that mean is, she had a little bit of stomach on her. My wife did not have a flat stomach. She didn't have a flat stomach. She had a little stomach on her. When she sit down, it was a stomach. And I took notice of it because there were women with flat stomachs. They could sit down and there would be no flat. There would be no stomach. When my wife stood up, she did not have a booty. She did not have a booty. And I am a man that like a woman with a booty. So when men call me a hypocrite, but I'm not actually a hypocrite because I actually had preferences. I actually had preferences that my wife did not have. But I chose her because of her character. Chose her because of her character. I chose her because of her character. I chose her because her relationship with God, because of her mindset, because of her heart, because of her communication style. And she was pretty to me, and she was pretty without makeup to me. So when I seen my wife without makeup, she was pretty. And then guess what? When the first time she put on makeup, I thought it was ugly. I saw, I said to her, baby, you gonna wear that makeup? I ain't think the makeup look good. Yeah, I ain't think the makeup look good. So when I try to tell y'all that what I teach is what I live, I didn't choose a woman based on just preferences. Because if I told a woman based on just preferences, she would have had a six pack of abs. And she would have had a booty built like a brick house. I didn't choose a woman on purpose. I chose a woman on character who looked good to me. And that's what I'm trying to tell men and women, choose somebody that when you look at them, when you look at their face, you could say, I could look at their face. When you look at their face, you could say, I can look up their face. I could look at their face. It might not be completely perfect, but you could look at their face. And guess what my wife did? She told me the same way because I'm 5'10. And I have a big head. And I had not grown into my head when I met my wife. So I don't just talk about her, I talk about me too. But guess what? No, I'm not regret my decision. Because guess what? My wife became a fitness competitor, meaning that when she competed in Miami, had she placed number two, she would have turned pro. My wife, she built a booty in the gym. She built a booty in the gym. And she became a fitness competitor that if I could pull up a picture, I would show y'all her body, her body became the absolute best body you ever wanna look at in the world. And I was like, wow, she became a whole another person. That's why I'm telling men, choose your woman who is attractive to you, but don't wait on a woman to be perfect. I remember setting the man up on a date with a woman. And he told me he couldn't be with her cause she had a black line down her thumb. She had a black line down the middle of her thumb. I say, you mean like a, I say, you mean like a, like a jam nail? He said, I don't know what he'll, but I can't be with her because I need a 10. I need a 10. I don't save myself. I'm saving myself till marriage. I need a 10. I'm like, bro, a black line down her nail. I say, brother, it's like a jam nail. Like a nail got caught in the dole. Like what the world is you talking about, man? Didn't want to look better than you, boy. You better be glad she agreed to go on a date with you. She only went on a date with you, but because I asked her and she respect me. Like, boy, you're not even on that looks level. And you coming over here being a picky. There'd be men coming up to me. Yeah, I want this kind of woman. I'm like, listen, brother, brother, when you under six foot, you don't get to be picky. Us under six feet tall, do not get to be picky. You got to get what you could get when you was under six feet tall. You don't get, come on here and just lay out your list of what you're looking for. You better get who wants you. When you come over here and you got that cell nostrils on you, you got that nostril domice, and you got no eyes sitting apart. And you got no eye like this or you got no eye like this. You don't get to be picky. When you a black man and you ain't got no plump to your lips, you don't get to be picky. When a headliner receded, you do not get to be picky. When you got you a keg instead of a washboard, you do not get to be picky. You got to be six foot tall with a cell of six ounce, and you got to make six figures or more, which technically mean you now bought the devil with all them sixes, but that's the only way you get to be picky. And then even then, you still gonna have to be realistic because ain't no woman gonna be perfect. You gonna be the woman and she gonna be absolutely gorgeous. She gonna have a flat stomach. She gonna have a nice booty and then she gonna have no edges. I'm telling you, I'm telling you, she is not gonna have edges or she gonna have a flat stomach, a nice booty, and then when her breath gonna be stank. Trying to tell you, breath gonna be stank. Or she gonna be sour downtown. She gonna be absolutely gorgeous everywhere. She gonna look like she stepped out of magazine and she gonna be sour downtown. You gonna end up getting down now when y'all get married and you go, you know what I know? You know what I know? I done been out there. I done been out there with women that y'all think perfect. God did not make nobody perfect. Nobody perfect, give it. So guess what? When you vain, you gonna end up playing yourself. When you are a vain man and you looking for the perfectly built looking woman, you're going to play yourself and you're going to be up a creek without a power. I'm trying to tell you. She is going to look that good because that pH is off. That pH gonna be off. But that breath gonna be off. Or her edge is gonna be dilapidated. Do you hear me? Because the lace fronts and that glue it did a number, it did a number. So if she ain't on edges, okay. She ain't on edges, but she got a booty. She got something. She got something. Work with it. And she got a little stomach on her when she sit down. And then y'all work out together and y'all eat good. I'm trying to tell you right now. Try to tell you right now. Y'all men need to find your wife. Find your wife. I'm gonna tell you something. The happiest man I see in marriage, wife do not look like what y'all want y'all wife to look like. I'm telling you now. I'm telling you now that the women who look like what y'all boys is looking for, they don't spend you out of house or home. They don't spend you out of house or home. My wife is not like, she's not super vain. She's not into like, you know, doing a crazy amount of beautification. And I came for my wife. I can't, it just, it ain't her bottom for herself. It's just what a woman, how a woman want her house to be taken care of. The groceries that she want on stock and the supply she want on stock, I feel like we spend $200 or $300 a day on Amazon. I ain't gonna tell you now a lot. I am not gonna tell you now a lot. And a woman who take care of herself, when she get a man and he got a budget, then she not making coffee at home no more. She going to Starbucks. She going to Starbucks. Or one of them other places. And I ain't literal $200 or $300, but it feel like every time I look up and I'm just gonna get $200 or $300 all of them. And my wife could be considered low maintenance compared to a lot of women. Yeah, $200 or $300. And then when it ain't $200 or $300, it's at least 70, but it's literally, right now it's a bunch of heat. So fruit flies, little nags and stuff. You open the door, they slipping in there. Then they get in there and go to corroborating. So just the other day we had to buy fruit fly trap traps. They added up to about $70 on Amazon. And so every woman low maintenance until her man is a handyman. Every woman low maintenance until she got a man with a tool belt. Listen to me. My wife used to eat ramen noodles with me. And we used to go to windows and get the dollar menu. But when I got a tool belt, you hear what I'm trying to tell you? I had a homeboy, I got a homeboy, he got money. He come to me bragging about his new little girlfriend. Yeah, man, she's so amazing. She doesn't ask me for anything. She'll ask me for anything. And she doesn't even wear Tory birch. And I remember me and my wife met her. And somehow the name Tory birch came up and she was like, I don't even like Tory birch. They're just, they're not even there. You know, I don't even like Tory birch, you know, because they're just a status symbol and everyone in the town, they want to wear Tory birch to look special. Oh, she sold it. Oh, she sold it. Guess what his wife doing now? Private genting around the world. She taking trips that just a flight alone cost $500,000. And she going without him. Now this the same woman who said she wouldn't buy a $200 pound of sandals from Tory birch. I asked him, oh, how is that going? He said, well, now the minimum she spends a month is $50,000 a month. I said, guess what? I said, guess what, man? And so that's why I try to tell men, yeah, that woman is gonna cost because a woman like convenience. Now a woman will be anything she need to be when she got to be it. But when convenience is available, she's gonna do no sacrificing if convenience is available. She gonna sacrifice when she have to sacrifice. She gonna be on Dave Ramsey plan if she got to be on Dave Ramsey plan. But when she ain't got to be on Dave Ramsey plan, she finna round Dave plan up Dave. You hit me. So when that money change, Dave Ramsey became a curse word around in his house. You even wanna try to tell you, I got a cousin who was a dope boy for 27 years. He said to me, cuz I ain't never been with no woman who good with money. I said, okay. So ladies, I hate to tell y'all the truth about y'all's self. But y'all be broke when you got to be broke. When you get mad trying to get you to provide a man. Listen, you gonna let them provide. And so listen to me. Y'all fellas, when you looking for your wife, get you a woman that you like her character. She's a thing about my wife. She's such a blessing. She's such a blessing. Now I heard this about Christian and say that we not supposed to be saying vibe as a Christian cuz she related to like some kind of spirit or something. Child, please. So heavenly minded, you know, earthly good. But my wife will vibe. Like I said to myself and I thought to myself, I said, you know what? I have to be honest about this thing. If I don't cause no problems, we ain't gonna have no problems. Now my wife, she'll get a little attitude and stuff like that sometimes. And she could be a little snappy and stuff like that sometimes. Like she get beside herself, but she got to cause she know I'm a savage. Like she know I'm really him. Like she know what I come from. When my wife left me and we got back together, I was an organized pimp. So she went on a, that's what they called an organized pimp. But I ran a modeling troupe. Well, I had women who was called Dazzling Dimes. And then we ended up with about 90 women across the state of Florida. And who was in the Dazzling Dimes. So my wife know what I come from. So she got to be on her peas and cues because she got to make sure that I don't get beside myself. But I said to myself, I say, you know, if my wife don't cause no problems, we don't have no problems. We don't have no problems is if we don't, if I don't start no problem. So I realized I could be with my wife any well. And she make anywhere fun. She make anywhere fun. And I'm a very chill, quiet person. So truth be told, my wife get on my nerves a lot of times, but it's in a good way because she like to play. I mean, I'm gonna tell you, it's like, I don't play around, I don't like to really play. But my wife like to play. So like, she'll give me a wedgie. She'll come give me a wedgie cause she playful like that. You know, she on, but she, if I had a woman who boring like me, our relationship will be dead. But she my opposite. But yet my similar. Our foundation is the same. But then the things we build with is different. Our interior design is different, but our foundation is the same. We built on a firm foundation. We just got different tastes on the interior. So see, did what I try to tell men like, find you a woman and I'm gonna tell y'all something. A lot of y'all, a lot of women is putting too much sauce on femininity. I believe in femininity, but you can't put too much sauce on it to the point that you look like a baffling, bumbling, bimbo, buffoon. You don't wanna be so feminine to the point that you look airheaded to the point that you think feminine mean you can't walk heavy. And that you can't stand on bed, you know. So you gotta understand what feminine to a man, to a masculine man ill. So see, when you a man and you picking a woman, you need to pick a woman that you could chill with, a woman that she could let that hair down. She could take that wig off. She could take that lace front off. She could wipe that makeup off. She could put on some sweats. She could put on a little hoodie. You know, she could wake up and because she take care of herself, she could wake up and she ain't got to brush her teeth right away. She could say a few sentences and you ain't got no dragon coming over there. Ha! Be in the know because she brush her teeth at night too. So you want your woman who she strong, she tough, she willing to learn about the game. Like my wife knew nothing about football when I met her but she learned about football. She learned about football to the point that we had a sweep at the stadium till it got too expensive. And we say, I'm gonna let this go cause we're gonna be gone on the game days anyways. So my rich homeboy took it over for me. Then people ain't want to let me out of there. Got to go. Lord told me to be a good steward over my money. Got to go. So listen, but my wife didn't know nothing about football because she Jamaican. Jamaican don't have football in Jamaica. So she ain't know nothing about it. Now she know everything about tennis, golf, stuff that, you know, they watch on TV and stuff like that. She tracks, she know everything about that. She ain't know nothing about American football. And so guess what? She learned about it. So if you got, if you looking for a woman that she's too stuck in her ways and she's not willing to be flexible, she ain't willing to try nothing new. She ain't willing to learn about nothing. She ain't willing to help out and be no teammate. I'm gonna tell you, and a lot of women don't understand this, but my wife do what got to get done. She don't wait on me and she don't depend on me. So if I'm asleep, because I'm up like this working for the Lord and trash go out tomorrow, my wife will get up in the morning and take the trash out while I'm sleeping. But yet it's on women. I never ever touch the trash. Then you're not a teammate because if you'll never touch the trash, you can't say, oh, I only touch trash on a special circumstance if my man ain't got no hands. You ain't a teammate. My wife is stuff around the house that she done built stuff and put stuff together before I did, before I got to it. My office, she went up there and was sawing and put stuff on the wall because she liked to do that. It's a later on Instagram that she do contracting. So the lady, I'ma know when to go to sleep. I'ma know when to go to sleep. I got to work. I got to work. God got God working cause the devil working. So I know when to go to sleep. I don't work. I don't got nobody to job. I work for the Lord. This is the hours that we work in the night. I ain't got bless you now. Now you need to go to TonyGastleracademy.com if you wanna learn how I don't have to wake up and punch nobody clock in the morning. So don't get, y'all don't get mad at me, I'm up late cause I'm getting sleepy at the bar. Okay. If you got to wake up, go to bed. This is gonna be same. This is gonna be on hell. Y'all gonna go to bed, you got to go to bed. But I ain't punching nobody clock tomorrow. I work for the Lord. And right now we on the night show. So listen, a man need a woman that's gonna be a teammate. And with a teammate don't say, oh, I only do rebounds. No, we need you to school tonight, we need you to school. Now, if we need you to just get a sis, we need you to get a sis. If we need you to get rebound, we need you to get rebound. teammate got to fill in where teammate got to fill in. So that's one thing I love about my wife. Now, sometimes she could be too independent and I have to try to, so I find a way like today, we carry chairs out to the soccer game to watch my son friend. And there's three chairs. And them chairs though, just that strap be hurting. It'd be digging in your arm and it'd be hurting. The chair, not that heavy, but it'd be hurting. And my wife, you sure you don't want me to carry one? Now, because I know my wife take out the trash sometimes I'm like, no, I got it. I got all three chairs. And when it's time to put the chairs up, I put the chairs up and I try to do a little stuff like that where I carry all the grocery in. I try to do a little stuff about, hey, calm down, chill out, let me do it. Cause you're doing too much now. And so I have to do that. But then sometimes she'll be asking me to do stuff and I'll be like, yeah, you got no hands. And so I have to check myself. So see, this is why I want you to realize is that we looking for the wrong things and we don't know what a real relationship is. So the reason why a lot of singles remain singles cause they don't understand that sometimes a woman got to take out the trash. They don't understand that sometimes a man got to be the stay at home dad. They don't understand that sometimes the man got to change the baby diaper. That sometimes the man got to have his wife pump the breast milk and then he got to get up every two hours to feed the breast milk to the baby. Sometimes, see, sometimes they don't understand sometimes the man got to cook. Sometimes the man got to clean. But it's so many singles that they, that that thing that a relationship have to be one way and that a relationship is based on gender roles and that a relationship is just based on these certain things. And don't realize that ain't always how it works. You got to do what work for your team. Some teams just shoot threes. Some teams they drive to the hole. Some teams they trying to live on the free throw line. Some teams full court press. Some teams play man to man, some teams plays on. You got to do what work for your team. And if you got a cookie cutter and you got a cookie cutter mentality then you're not going to have a successful relationship cause a relationship don't fit in no cookie cutter. See, a relationship is them cookies that you put on them. You put on the sheet, the baking sheet or the baking pan and it's one shape when you put it on them but when it get done, it doesn't spread all out and it look like the state of Florida or state of Texas. And you're like, what the hell that cookie did? That's what a relationship is. It ain't cookie cutter. It ain't no one size fits all. You got to figure out what work for your relationship. And this is what you got to understand and realize. Everybody got different needs. I rather my wife rub my scalp than cook a meal. Now cook a meal gonna be close. Cook a meal gonna be close but if I had two between cooking a meal and getting physical touch, I won't physical touch cause a human or die without it. So I'd rather my wife than me physical touch than cook a meal. Now a man who Lord will eat, he might rather get him a scalp scratcher and have his wife cookin'. I really ain't crazy about food like that. I really could do without it. A lot of days it feel like you said I'm lying. So this what you have to, this what you got to realize. A relationship go both ways. So you got to give and you got to have reciprocation. So when you can give and you can receive and you know how to do both, then that's when you own a song. That's when you own a song because it's one thing to love, it's another thing to be loved. It's another thing to receive love. One thing, one area my wife grew in is she grew in the area of receiving compliments. Cause I was complimenting her and she just would kind of fake smile like not let herself smile and not really say nothing. But then now she say thank you, thank you. So being able to say thank you to a compliment from your spouse is a healthy self image. And that's what she grew at. You know, I grew in my temperament and how I talk to my wife. And because I talk to people very rude, very raw, very blunt. I make you wanna swang on me, but based on the tone of my voice, I'm not even yelling, but based on how my voice is hitting, you know I kill you if you swang on me. So, and men know men and that's honestly why men don't try me because a man know, a man might wanna try me but a man know, men know men, especially if you done been in the streets. You know somebody that'll take your life when you see them. And so that's why I ain't never been tried in person by a man cause God know my heart and he don't want me to end up like Moses cause he Moses got away with his murder. I wouldn't get away with it. So God don't put more on you than you could bear. That's why, you know, the baby get into a lot of fights, a man of time and public because they feel like they could do that. But certain men, they know if you unhinged, they know if you crazy. And when you give away the whole game, when you break the man long, when you break the man cold and you helping women in relationships and you teaching women how to protect themselves from grown boys and manipulators, a man know you ain't all the way down because men don't do that. Men don't do that. But see, not the reason why I'm doing it is because I'm sold out to the Lord. And the Lord say, this is where the work need to be done. This is where the work need to be done because your relationships, your marriages and your relationships and your families are losing. So this is where the work need to be done. That's why I'm doing the work that I'm doing. The Lord got me on here right now to a certain point. The Lord got me on here to a certain point. When it's time for me to be quiet and get off of him, I feel spirit lead. I feel spirit lead. But see, different people come on at different times and that's why the message got to go for. So I want you to understand something. It's time that we move toward righteousness. It's time we move toward righteousness. It's time that we come to a place that we start pursuing purity. I won't ever man to be married because one of the things is, and see God gave me that wisdom at a young age. I started looking for my wife at age 16 but I didn't know how to look for her. So that's where I went wrong at. That's why I was sleeping around because the test was to try to sleep with a woman to see if she was wife material. That was the grown boy test because I was not taught what to look for in a wife. But I wanted a wife because I saw marriage in the home. So that's the thing. I started looking at the age of 16 but the test I was using, it was canceling every woman out because in my head, what I was telling myself is, this woman does not know me. So if she will sleep with me, if she would be willing to sleep with me and I didn't sleep with every woman that I could have slept with. Well, I said, she'll be willing to give me her body when I can have AIDS. Then something is wrong in her self-esteem because if she willing to risk her body with a stranger, I'm not sure I could trust her. Now the saying could be sad about me but you will sacrifice yourself to find somebody else when you don't know no better. See, had I knew what I was doing, then I wouldn't have did it that way. And that don't make sense to adults today. It don't make sense. But this is children. When you children, then when you young adults or even grown adults, if you don't know better, if you don't know better, then you ain't gonna do better. Now, when you know better, then you can do better. And so people say, well, oh, that ain't fair because if a man tried to sleep with a woman, he also sleep with her. Life ain't fair. Life ain't fair. Anything you do, it's not fair. Go to the car dealership tomorrow and see how they try to swan you. Go to the car dealership tomorrow and see how they try to swan you. They're gonna try to get you a 14% interest rate if you'll accept it. They're gonna try to sell you a car for $10,000 over what is worth. Life ain't fair. Go to a restaurant. They selling you food from last week because the food and safety say they got seven days if it's refrigerated. Life ain't fair. The restaurants is selling you grouper, but you really eating kai. You seen the report on the restaurants in Tampa and Atlanta that you think you buy a grouper and you eat in kai. You eat mud fish. Look dirty, loud fish. That costs $2 a pound when you think you buying a fish that costs $20 a pound. Life ain't fair. So that's why you gotta protect yourself. And that's why I give women the game. Don't hate the player, hate the game. That's why I give women the game because before I knew that the game I was playing was an unfair game, every woman was falling for it. And then the first three women that didn't fall for it was women that I didn't even wanna be with. I say, oh my goodness, now how does this work? How is all of these women that I think look good and could be a wife falling for the Okidok and willing to give me their body when they don't even really know me? But now the women, now the woman who don't shave her legs, she turning me down. The girl with the thick tongue, she turning me down. The girl who liked to argue and debate, the whole car ride and got a little more meat than I'm strong enough to handle at this particular time, she turning me down. Those three women that I could remember turning me down. The rest of them were ready Freddy, hot, tidy, hot and ready like little Caesars. Give me until I met my wife. My wife put me in place. My wife put me in place and she made me wait till she was ready. Then I said, oh, okay. This a woman who she gonna get what she want to. She's gonna give me what I want. She got to create a win-win. Okay, so this woman ain't gonna let me run over her. So I'm gonna have to be accountable as a man. This the kind of woman I need. Because if you let a child eat candy all day, they gonna eat candy. That child gonna grow into an adult that still eat a bunch of candy. If you let somebody spend your credit card money every day, they gonna spend on your credit card. It don't matter how Christian they is. If you go to the church and you tell the pastor he can have how much ever he want at your bank account, he gonna take it all. A person is going to take advantage of you if you allow them to take advantage of you. And this is what I have learned in life. I have not met anybody that will give me an advantage if I'm willing to be taken advantage of. I ain't met nobody that I say, I'm gonna pay for your lunch. And they say, no, you ain't. And they fight me over that car. I ain't met a single person that's gonna fight me over that car. And if I met that person, we only ate one time. So they did it that one time. But I guarantee you if the next time and the next time they'll eventually get used to it. They will eventually get used to it. That one thing you got to rely. You got to protect yourself. You got to protect yourself. It ain't gonna be nobody out here coming to save you. And that's what upset me about women is women expect men to be decent. The Bible say a faithful man who can find one. The Bible say every man will fall short of the glory of God. So the thing what upset me and perturbed me about women, they always say, there's a lot of women that say, oh, a man of God would not do that. Every man of God has failed God. Name a man of God that ain't failed God. Who, what was David? What was David? The apple of God's eye. We're talking David. Now we talking David, nah, we talking David. So what you think your little raggedy Christian boyfriend gonna do? He going to fail you. He gonna ask you for a little bit of that pom-pom. He gonna try to play you. If the pastor is trying to play you, at your ties and offering, what you think your boyfriend who just go to church is gonna try to do? Trick you at your spot. So the only being that you can trust is God. See listen, I don't trust myself. If I'm around a woman for too long, I'm gonna end up getting weak. And I'm finna shoot that shot. So guess what I gotta do? Put boundaries. I'm about to close my DM. But the other day a young man DMed me and said that he inspired by me and now he want me to come speak to his football team and this is a prestigious high school football team that I really wanna speak to. So I'm glad my DM's open. But there's two men and women that DM me. So I'm getting ready to close my DM cause I'm tired of hearing women everyday thoughts. Cause sometimes I be getting tired of hearing my wife thoughts. They're just human nature. It's just sometimes you just don't be wanting to hear stuff. So if I know that I could be in a place where I don't, I didn't want silence even from my own wife, you definitely don't want to hear another woman random thoughts out of the blue in the DM. Telling, I think this, I feel that I don't care how you think you feel. I've heard about Shari Yashdis. Do not DM me with your opinion about my message. I talk to God daily. If I'm in the wrong, God gonna correct me. God sent you to a married man DM to give him no correction. If God gonna send some correction, he gonna send another man that I can't sleep with. He not finna send no woman that I could sleep with that I could go into conversation with and be ardent back and forth with and then make up with and then go to talking to him and then end up in an affair with. God not finna send you to my DM if you as a woman. So do not DM me unless you are sending me a post that you think I ain't seen that I need to address. This is what you have to realize. This is what you have to realize. So guess what I have to do? I have to set up boundaries because no man can trust himself and man that tell you he could be around a woman every day and be talking to that woman and not end up shooting a shot. He lying to you. He lying to you. And the only way he gonna get through it is if he like men or if he driving off to that woman. That's why I'm not gonna be around no woman every day. And gonna be around no woman every day, but I'm why. Got to set boundaries. You got to know, you can't be conceded in your strength. You can't be conceded in your wisdom. You got to know that you are human and you flow. No, God not gonna give you self-control if you is up under a woman every day. God gonna give you the wisdom to put boundaries around you and that woman so that you don't tempt yourself. The Bible say who can take fire in a bosom and not be burned? What that mean is if you're sitting in the fire, you're going to get burned. You're gonna get burned. So because of that, I can't be close to women. I can't be up under no woman. If I'm talking to a woman every day, it's business and we're not in each other presence. It's through business and it's about business and it's about the phone and we talking about life, then we talking about life, but it's gonna be some coaching and it's still about business. It's on purpose. It ain't just, you just sitting there and you just making love. That ain't what you're doing. You building for a purpose. You see what I'm saying? This what you have to understand. So that's why I say, men and women can't have friends of the opposite sex. And if they're attracted to the same sex, they can't have friends of the same sex because humans are built to connect. So you either gonna do business or you're gonna end up getting out of bounds if you don't set boundaries. You see what I'm saying? So you got to understand what you got to do. What is a chat door? Cause it look like, I can't really tell. Something stuck on the screen. So that's what I want you to understand. So we in the place right now, you got to go to righteousness and men got to take the lead in righteousness. If you a man and you hear this and you get to this point and what I want you to start doing with this right here, if you got to listen to something to go to sleep, listen to this. If you got to listen to something when you drive it, listen to this. Cause this video long enough for you to listen to it. It long enough for you to listen to it. And it's gonna be a select few that listen to it now. Most people ain't gonna be here the whole time. Most people can't listen to all this. Some people gonna come back to it and listen to it. But most people ain't gonna be able to listen to the whole thing now. But it's something for everybody in each part of it. And what I want you to be praying for right now, I want you to be praying for discernment. Pray for discernment. We live in an evil world. We live in a confused world. We live in a broken and toxic world because I want you to think about this. There is no reason a man who is not living what he is preaching should have a following. I'm gonna tell you something. Men are so untrustworthy that I am not going to sit up under a single pastor for too long. That single pastor gonna have to get together like Adam had to get with Eve. A career single pastor. I ain't gonna be a little... Not just met a single pastor in New York. He 31 years old though. He young. But them single pastors in all of them, in their fifties, I got to go. I got to go. I'm not going to be able to do it. Because I could look at you and tell, I could listen to you and tell that you don't have the same calling as apostle Paul. So what are you doing with your thing between your leg? Because if I get around you as a single man and I don't get, I don't feel the spirit that apostle Paul had. Oh, you up to some shenanigans. You up to some shenanigans and I got to go. I've got to put that one finger up and I'm finna tilt over not to be up then. Cause you up to some shenanigans. You hear what I'm telling you? And one thing I'm gonna tell y'all to the women who listen to this, pray that you meet a man who is some kid to you or who can't touch you, who have discernment and who is heterosexual that you can bounce things off of through a video like this, through a coaching session because one of the things that one of the things that women lack when it comes to men is discretion. Women lack discretion. It is so many women who don't support me online but support single relationship coaches. So they look at me and think I'm a player but then look at the single relationship coach and don't know, don't know sirens go off, don't know alarms go off. But they'll look at me who is 100% faithful to my wife and won't even shoot a shot to find out that I'm 100% faithful to my wife. Cause I'm gonna tell you like right now if you don't think I'm 100% faithful to my wife shoot your shot or have somebody shoot their shot and because I put this out here and because I'm talking like this I'm not no rapper that gonna have a cap in my route. I ain't gonna have no cap in my route. Everything I say gonna be real route. So guess what? I see that there are, sometimes I see women and I can tell somebody sent this woman somebody sent this woman. I can tell it. Cause when God call you to something He gonna give you what you need. He gonna give you what you need to see. Yeah, yeah, I coach single women, coach single women all the time. And cause I'm hitting nine or 10 times a single woman hired me to learn what to look out for in a man. And, but I coach single women. See, the one thing I don't do is I don't mentor women. Mentorship is free. So I do business, meaning if I'm working with a woman, it's work. And I don't call a single woman a friend. I call her a client. Every woman I deal with, I call her a client because I'm a teacher something. I'm teaching her something. I'm helping her in something. So I call her a client. And it's some women who will call me friend. That's their prerogative because that's that's how people use the term. Some women will call me friend. Now when they call me to my, they tell me that then I will tell them, no, I ain't your friend. I'm your life coach or your manager. I gotta manage me at company. You know, I'll tell them something else. So listen, you gotta understand that ain't no man going to be a perfect man or God. Ain't no man gonna be a perfect man or God. All of us have to be working on something. We've got to be working on something. For me more so, I don't struggle with infidelity. What I struggle with is temperance. Temperance, temperance. But see the Bible say be slow to anger. The Bible say a man who can control his anger is stronger than a man who can conquer a city. So my battle went from being dealing with lust to dealing with temper. So that's what you have to realize. And when you start to understand that, then you'll start to realize that, okay, I got to make sure that I'm seeking purity. And I got to be working on my weak areas because what we have today is men and women are being turned over to a reprobate mind. Men and women being turned over to a reprobate mind. So me being a man, I understand the sinful nature of man is completely filthy. I'm a man so I don't understand everything about a woman, but I'm starting to realize and see that the sinful nature of a woman is completely filthy. So we have to go from filthy lucra to purity and righteousness. And then we come together and we strengthen and we build together. We strengthen and build each other. So that's what we have to come to. Well, see, we're not doing that. We're not doing that. No, I mentioned names. Y'all can't mention names. If I mention names, it's authorized. I won't let people in my chat mention names because you can mention somebody and send somebody to somebody who working for the devil. And now you don't send somebody to somewhere to be devoured. And there's a lot of women, sometimes women come to me and say, oh, Tony, you need to collaborate with such and such. And I go look at such and such and I'll be like, this man was not called. This man just came. And he just came so that he could come. But a lot of times women can't see it. They can't tell the real from the faith. Can't tell it. And so it's a lot that go into it. And that's why you got to just use what's for you. But you also need to make sure that you pray for discernment and that you read the Holy Bible so that you see if this lines up with the Holy Bible. Because if it don't line up with the Holy Bible, so if a man is he single or he married and he telling you that it's okay to sleep with a man. Now, let me make a point now. Let me make a point. Let me make a point. Let me make a point. Y'all listen to this point now. Listen to this point. There was a long time ago, I did a video to women telling women. Listen to me. I did a video to women telling women when you meet a man, do not tell that man right away upfront that you are saving yourself to marriage. And boy, women got mad with me. And they said, oh, oh, I'm gonna take Derek Jackson advice on that. I'm gonna take Derek Jackson advice on that. Oh, oh. And I said to them women, I say the only reason a man cares if you are saving yourself until marriage is so he knows whether he should waste his time or not. What turned out with Derek Jackson? This is what I try to tell y'all. I be knowing because I am a man and I don't play every game a man can play. So the reason why Derek Jackson was telling women to tell a man if she's waiting until marriage so that he would not waste his time with you when he met you. He could just move on with his life because he was looking for women to sleep with. While he was giving relationship advice, but people give advice from where they are. So if I was playing the game, I would tell a woman the same thing. But I don't tell a woman a game that's gonna benefit me. I don't tell a woman a game that's gonna benefit me. Now see, this is why I have to slow stuff down. Is it that good though? No. You should never tell a man what you're doing with your vagina. Think about this, man. The only time a man should know what your vagina doing is when he in it. That's not a man. The Bible say don't make no promises because you don't have a power on your, you don't have a power to turn one hand on your half white or black. Well, they didn't have hair down by then so we could do that now, but you know what it meant. And so when you tell a man what you're doing with your vagina, now he get to make a plan. Now he get to make a plan. And I'm gonna tell you what a player gonna do. Let me tell you what a player gonna do. Tell you what a player gonna do. When you tell a man you saving yourself for marriage, a player gonna, he gonna call you every day and he gonna talk to you for one to four hours a day. And while he talking to you, he gonna have you laughing. You gonna be doubled over laughing. He is going to send you four nothing texts. He's gonna get you four nothing gifts, roses, t-shirts, jeans, nikes. He's going to take you to your favorite restaurant. He gonna let you order whatever you wanna order. If you drank, cause Jesus turned water in the wine, he gonna get you on that red wine. He gonna have you two, three glasses. He gonna pick you up. It's gonna be a yellow rose in the seat. He's gonna tell you, hey, don't get out. To like, you know, get out there, come over and open your door. He come in to open your door. He pulling out your chair. He asking you what you want to eat. And then he placing you on order. He ain't eat until your food come to him. Then he sharing his dessert with you on his fork. He driving you home. He ain't trying, he not touching you. He ain't touching you. He is making love to your mind. He undressing you with his mind. And when he can tell that you in love, that you have fallen for his treatment and this type of treatment, this is what somebody call a love ball. This type of treatment, when he could tell it, cause see you gotta understand, the largest sexual organ is the mind. It's not the vagina or the penis. The largest sexual organ is the mind. So when a man make love to a woman mind, that's why women lose their virginity before marriage. That's why so many women lose their virginity before marriage cause a man that made love to her mind. When a man made love to a woman mind, a woman vagina reacts. A woman will start to get turned on. She'll start to get her areolas. Stuff will start to feel different when a woman get turned on. But he made love to her mind. So conversation get a woman ready. See, you gotta understand, conversation get a woman ready. That's why they say conversation rule a nation. The more a man communicate, the more love he express. Communication to a relationship is like oxygen to life. So you gotta understand, the more man is talking with a woman, the more she starts to love him. But see, if they are dating, and it's not a platonic situation, then that love is going to be a romantic love. And then what's happened, because this man is out to play a game, the devil in him, which is playing his game, is gonna play a game with this woman. And the woman, so now the adversary, because the adversary don't want a woman living for God and doing what God has asked of her. So the adversary is going to start to sit on a woman's shoulder and start to say, what you don't do, another woman will. You listen to the Tony Gaskins, but he don't know what he talking about, he married. So how far is it to you for Tony Gaskins to tell you to abstain when his woman could get some dangling anytime she want to. You listen to Tony Gaskins, but you need to be listening to that Jezebel spirit on YouTube, name such and such. Now he gonna say Jezebel, spirit, he gonna call her by name, but it's a Jezebel spirit that's telling you the opposite of what I'm telling you, because I'm a man who played the game. So the only thing I'm gonna tell a woman is what's gonna protect you. And then the men who get mad with me, they mad with me because they know the game that I'm giving a woman is foolproof. I've never ever, never ever had a man come to me personally, who was him or who is him, and tell me online. The only man that get mad with me is men who done been mistreated and overlooked by women, because they know that when they former him, him a thief, him university, give a woman the game. If that woman listen to me, if that woman listen, she not gonna get played. She not gonna get played. But see, this the thing, this the thing. Yeah, that's how I courted my wife, but that's how I could give you the game. And my wife turned me down. She waited till she was ready. She waited till she was ready. I wrote poems and everything. I would play a player from the Himalayas, as soon as I met a woman, I'm writing poems on everything. And I can't tell y'all too much. Can't tell y'all too much now, because we are here on the public. And then you got these idiots who take my story that they would not know if it didn't come out of my mouth and then they lie and put sauce on it and then be making videos like they telling somebody something that I ain't never told them, or they tell somebody something I ain't never told them but they tell the lies. But ain't nobody told my story but me. I ain't had no woman go to the gossip page and try to tell my story. And if a woman do, she don't know the whole story. All she know is what was dealing with her. Point blank period. Check on it. Check on it. I tell my story in transparency to let people know this how I know what I'm talking about. Because this what I live through. So see, this one I'm trying to tell, that's what I tell women. So it was a lady. She come in the comments. I had to check her because I did a video that say five things a woman should not tell a man upfront. There is a time that a man is ready to hear that his woman was raped in the past. There was a time that a man is ready to hear that his woman has slept with 20 men. There was a time or 30 men or 50 men. There was a time that a man is ready to hear his woman pass. It's not upfront. And the reason why it's not upfront is because a man do not know you. So he does not care about you. When you meet a man, you are no better than a can of paint to that man. You're not even on the same level of can of paint. You see the panel on the wall? Do you see the panel on the wall? This paint could do something for me. When a man being a woman, you don't mean nothing to him. So why would you meet a man and then go to talk about everything you'd have been through? How many men you gonna slept with? How much trauma you done had? You take that to God in prayer. You take that to your professional clinician. You don't take to somebody that you don't know if this man is out to get you, to pray on you. Because what he know is, oh, okay, that happened to you. What he know is, sometimes you don't take it to your therapist. Something, cause that's a human too. It's some therapist and life coaches that will gas like you. Because just cause you got a degree or just cause you got a certification don't mean you got credits. Don't mean you got credibility. Don't mean you got character. It's a lot of toxic life coaches and therapists that will use what you say or get you. We ought to be and get you at some point cause we human and sometimes we get tired of hearing saying stuff and then we pray it up. We'll act out of our flesh cause we human and we taking on all the problems of other people. You see what I'm saying? And so that's what you have to realize. That's what you have to realize. And it's not gonna make them no thirsty. I've been saying this for 50 years. Women don't reach out to me because women don't necessarily, most women don't have discretion, but women believe what a man say out his mouth. That's how players could do what players could do. Women believe what a man say out his mouth. How in the world, for lack of a better term, how dumb do a woman have to be to sleep with Derek Jackson when he is married and talking about relationships online? That shows you that God put man in a position that women automatically on average, not every woman listen to a man and believe what he said out his mouth. How can a married man who the woman knows that the man is married, how can a married man sleep with a woman? How can he sleep with a woman? Because he already sinned against God. He already a piece of trash. When we in that state of mind, we trashy. When we in that state of mind as a man, we worthless. When we in that state of mind as a man, we displeasing to God. So when we in that state of mind, but then a woman will still sleep with a man because a man say, oh, oh, me and my wife don't get along. Me and my wife don't get along. It's not the same for a man and a woman to sleep together. It's not the same because it's a difference between you punching somebody in the face and you being punched. It's not the same act because a woman is a receiver. A woman receives a man into her body. Men could carry STDs and not even have symptoms. A woman can't carry a STD and not have symptoms. A symptom gonna come up eventually. She gonna start to itch or she gonna start to smell or she gonna break out. Men could carry certain diseases and have no feeling different in his body. A woman is a receiver. So a woman is put in a position of power so that when a married man come to her, she has the ability to take her time and get to know this man. She also now has Google and she could Google this man. She also could look up marriage records. She also could ask this man on the second or third date to see his driver's license. A woman is sitting in a position of power but women relinquish their power and say, oh, because this man has low self-esteem and he is insecure and he is a piece of trash and he is willing to have sex with me while he is with his wife. I'm going to relinquish my self-esteem and my self-worth and my self-respect and sleep with this married person because he's willing to do it. How much sense do that make? How much sense do that make? So it's like when you see somebody doing something stupid, don't do something stupid with them just because they doing something stupid. When you see somebody doing something stupid, then you need to realize, okay, I'm gonna let you be stupid by yourself but I ain't, I'm not, I ain't finna say nothing. I'm finna edge the stage love. I'm finna go on about my business. I'm gonna let you be stupid by yourself. So see, this is what you got to realize. This is what you got to realize is you have to protect yourself and you got to know what you call to and you got to have discernment for yourself. That's what you got to have. That's what you got to understand. You can't expect somebody to have discernment for you. You can't expect somebody to come into your life and look out for your well-being because you don't know what this person is going through. So he could be in a church every week but be going through the deepest, most intense spiritual warfare he's ever been through in his life and you become a casualty of his spiritual warfare. You become a casualty of his spiritual warfare because he is in the deepest, darkest place in his life and he literally in the church every time the doors are open and that's what has to be understood. That's what has to be understood. You got to know that you know and you got to know for yourself. You got to know for yourself. And so here's the thing. Now see, men, men, we are risk takers because you got to understand a man who will hunt and kill, that's a risk taker. That's a risk taker. Like think about it, think about what it takes to kill someone. Like a living, breathing thing, like something that has blood. This ain't like smashing a cockroach. This ain't like stepping on an ant but men will go out and shoot deer, butcher cows, butcher chickens, blood squirting, blood everywhere. That take a certain type of mindset. Some people see blood and pass out. It take a different type of mindset. Like white people, when white people eat their cows, they like the cows still be mowing. You got to eat with white people, they order they stay medium, I mean they order they stay medium rare. The thing's still mowing. It's like, okay, that thing, no. It be sitting in a pool of blood. You different, you different. You different when you can sit down and eat that cow sitting in a pool of blood. You built different. That's why I really would not want to fight a white man because they just different. You can hit them with an eight piece of it. Come on, bring it on. Man, get out of my face, man, let me go somewhere. Think about it, Na. Think about this, Na. Think about this. These are men. These men who had slaves. Think about, think about what, think about where you got to be as a human. Now these humans, I want you to understand humans had slaves and they beat these slaves. Men owned slaves and they beat these slaves. They killed these slaves. They slept with these slaves. They slept with the men. They slept with the women and the humans, these human beings. What I want you to understand that the idea that slavery is wrong has not left the heart of man. It has only been changed in the law. So the people who feel like slavery is wrong, who are white people, they would have been abolitionists back in the day. But there are still people today that believe I should be a slave. See, the heart don't change unless Christ comes in and renews it. The heart don't change. What changes is the laws. The laws change. So the laws say you can't own slaves. So what did they take and do? They create sports. I'm gonna put you on an auction block. We're gonna have several people put a price on your body, on your strength, and we're gonna pay you to kill yourself. We're gonna pay you to bash your head against another man's head. We're gonna pay you to ruin your knees, ruin your hands, ruin your arms. We're gonna institutionalize you, but you're not called a slave. You're called an athlete. You're called a pro athlete. And we're not gonna care about your life skills. Our teams will not have Tony Gaskins. We will not have Tony Gaskins and RC Blakes own staff to help you grow as a man. Uh-uh. We want you to grow as football players and basketball players. And we're gonna institutionalize you as an athlete. And then when you're done, you just done. We don't care nothing about you. We'll give you a little health insurance, maybe. But we don't care nothing about your transition. We don't care nothing about your life skills. That's why 75% of you are divorced or bankrupt within two years of being done as a pro athlete because it's modern day slavery. Unless your organization cares about you as a person and they bring in people like myself to help you learn how to be a man so that you can stand on something and you can make a living as a man without that support. So see what you got to realize, I say all that to say that you've got to understand the mindset of humans. You've got to understand the mindset of humans and you will know that by knowing yourself. So that's why I give away the game because a man cannot be trusted. Only God could be trusted. A man or a woman cannot be trusted until that man or woman has been renewed. Guess what, women can't be trusted either. Humans cannot be trusted. When you read the Bible, you're gonna see examples of fallen humans that are being used to teach us lessons. So what you're gonna see, it take you a long time before you get to a woman who you feel like you wanna be friends with her because even Roof, we judge Roof because we like Roof now, hold on now, you went and laid on that man Flo now, was you out there popping pee? Now what you was in there doing Roof? You ain't going there to pop pee now. What's going on now Roof? Why you went and bowed ass Flo and laid down on that Flo now? And you listen to Naomi, what was Naomi, a city girl? Cause listen now, Boa had seen you out there in the field. He didn't see that booty cause when you bent over to pick up that wheat, he told the workers to leave something behind for you now. He already looking out for you. He not already asked who is this? So Boa has not already seen you now. Now Roof, why you took your butt over there and laid on that Flo now? Come on now Roof. Come on now Roof, what's going on now? And so, and then probably at 31, we don't even know if that was a real woman or if that was just, or if that was the woman telling her son about the type of woman he supposed to be with. See, we got to go look at the hermeneutics and all that, that the Bibleology people be talking about that's trying to be on YouTube, trying to sound smart. Man hush, man hush. We ain't gonna read the study Bible. We just ain't got to it yet. So listen to me. So even when you see women all the way from Eve, I'm reading the Bible one, I'm reading the Bible from the Old Testament. I'm reading four. I call my daddy and I'm like that. Man, I've been thinking women perfect. And I've been around here preaching about women angels. But I'm like, as I'm reading this Bible, man, all I see is deceit from these women. I'm like, I ain't seen a good woman yet. I'm like, even Sarah, but she gonna tell, she gonna tell Abraham go sleep with the handmaid. And then after she told the man to go get him a look at that thing thing, then she gonna start treating the lady like crap. Then when the lady son get born, she jealous of the lady son. And then when God give her her son, she's like, hey, we got to get rid of her and her son. We got to send them to another land. And so I'm like, man, then the lady who Rachel and Liam went on stole from the daddy. And then when the daddy came up on the horse, cause he realized, man, somebody stole something. He went up to them on the horse for something. She had something from a daddy. She gonna lie to her daddy face and tell her daddy her period on. So she can't get off the horse. I'm like, man, you gonna stole from your daddy then lie to the fate? And then man, the work seven and 14 years from y'all. And then they get them and they slushed us and they scammed each other. Hey, you tell your little ragged son to go out there and pit me some dates off their tree and bringing them dates. And I let you plot that P for Jacob, or whoever it was, Joseph or Jacob, I think it was Jacob, but who was somebody? I let you plot that P nine if you'll tell your son to go out there and hunt for me. I'm like, man. So I'm just looking. I'm like, so what I realized is that we flawed as humans, we flawed as humans. And I'm gonna tell y'all lady something. I'll be on here and I'll be giving the game to women and women don't even be listening. Almost every woman hire me for coaching. Well, Tony, I've been listening to you for five years but I just got up off my back. I just fell for the wrong man. And I know what you tell me, but so I realized I'm just talking for no reason. I'm just talking for no reason. And that's what I try to tell men is God has given us so much power, so much demand on earth that I literally could sit up here and talk till I'm blue in the face and I can't stop nothing. I can't stop nothing until a woman wanna learn and grow and change. I can't help. I could talk till I'm blue. Look how long I've been on here. And God giving me the strength to keep talking for somebody to get their breakthrough, but I can't help you unless you're willing to grow and change. But as soon as you see, as soon as you see a dangling in your face, it's like you forget everything you've ever heard and just go to work. And then come to me and be crying. Cousing on the headboard, hollering. No, keep that same energy. And come over here with pride. Come over here with pride and strength and get this talking to us. Do not come over here crying, trying to get sympathy for them tails. I thought I'd been talking till I'm blue in the face and you gonna let that man nail you to the headboard. Come on now, come on now. When I told you to keep your legs closed, told you, keep your legs closed. I told you to try to man by the fire. I told you to try the spirit by the spirit. I told you to read two chapters of your Bible every day so you can recognize a man of God when you sing him. But you ain't wanna listen. You ain't wanna listen. And the devil sent a decepticon who told you he was a Christian, told you he was a man of God, but a bit more no God than a can of paint and then got in them drawer. And sometimes I get in a little mold and then women will come tell me, well Tony, I ain't sleep with him, but I did sing on the microphone. Oh my goodness. Listen, you sang on the microphone, you do that with no protection. At least had you slept with the person you put your son on now. So you sang on the microphone, so now you finna have bumps in your throat. You finna have bumps in your throat. So now with the bumps in your throat, you're bluffing to be dragging mouth where at least if you were caught bumps down low, ain't nobody could see it. Now you finna have bumps all around your mouth. All on your face. People think that's sissy acne. No, that's what that man has sprayed up done. Come on now, that behoove me. That befundled me. Bewildered, kebabah laka laka, I'll elaborate it me. When a woman, when women started telling me that they were sucking thing versus sleeping with thing. I say, hold on now. Okay, I said, okay. I see everybody taught y'all nothing. I say, do you know that a man will put his thing in the mouth of a crack cocaine addicted prostitute with no teeth who live on the corner under a tent. That a man will put his thing in her mouth, but he will not sleep with her. He will not climb on top of her. So what that mean is, oral is 10 times worse than intercourse because a woman body is made for intercourse, not oral, because the mouth can't do nothing with what come out of a man private area when it go in your mouth. If it was made for the mouth, you will be able to reproduce from swallow. See, we get too real, but I'm trying to help you understand what God intended. Now, if you're getting your marriage and you want to get into stuff, that's between you and God, but ain't nothing supposed to go nowhere that it can't perform the production of life that God intended. Ain't nothing supposed to go nowhere, especially outside of marriage. Now, when you get married, y'all body belong to each other, and you should only do together what God gave you peace with. And if you walk with the Lord, the Lord will give you peace about what you're doing. If you go to do something and it's just a little too frisky and you feel uncomfortable, then that lets you know God ain't in that. That lets you know that the act that you might be getting ready to do may come from Satanism. So you may need to reel that on in. You may need to reel that on in. You see what I'm trying to tell you? So listen to me. You got to get knowledge. You got to get wisdom. You got to get understanding. You got to get discretion. You got to get discernment. And this is what people don't have. This is what people don't have. So people is out here losing. Out here losing because they're unwilling to learn and grow. And everybody want to be nasty. Everybody want to be nasty. And so now when I'm saying this, I've been meeting more women than ever, just the same way little boys don't know that women, that little girl boo boo, and little boys don't know that little girl past guys. It's some of us grown men that did not know women white pornography. It's some of us grown men that didn't know women smoke weed. Women smoke cigars. It's some of us didn't know that women mouth a bit. We had to learn that. But then when you think about it now, it was women who, there was women who, yeah, we had slady masters, but then you had women who were lying on a man and say he winked at her, or he sipped at her and get that man home. Just because she want to see her father and her brothers defend her. She want to see her father and her brothers or her husband or her boyfriend show what she felt like was protection or masculinity and because she didn't value the life of this black person because the black man life was not valued in that country. She allowed that black man, even if she came on to him, even if she wanted him, even if she got caught with him because of what she wanted. So see, we got to remember the mindset. We got to remember the mindset and that's what I try to tell, that's what I try to tell black men too. Don't look down on your race and then pedestalize another race. If you meet a woman of another race as a black man and y'all hit it off organically and y'all got chemistry, that's one thing. But don't go choose another woman of another race because you think her race is superior to your race. Because you think her race of women is superior to your race because what you got to realize is that same race that that woman come from, that race hate your black skin on average. So her daddy hate your black skin. Her brother hate your black skin on average. Now you may find an exception to the rule if they was raised with blacks. You may find an exception to the rule, but again, it's an exception. But it's a lot of black men today who are going out and hand picking women of other races because they think that woman's race is superior to their own race and that's a trick of the devil because ain't no race superior to another race. But if you hate yourself or you hate your race, you're gonna go choose a woman of another race unless y'all met organically. But you got to get to the real root and say, why did I pick this woman? Did I pick this woman because I thought she was better than women of my race? Or did I pick this woman because we happen to meet in class or meet on a job or meet at this place and we hit it off and we just really mesh. And I ain't even want no woman of that race, but I met her. So guess what? When I met my wife, I didn't want a woman of her complexion. I didn't want a woman of a lighter complexion and my mama is very light. My mama is lighter than my wife, but I didn't want a woman of a lighter complexion. I was looking for a woman that was my color or darker because I wanted to procreate this hill skin color because I seen the attack that this skin color is under. But when I met my wife, I couldn't deny that she was a wife. I couldn't deny that she was a wife. And I said, you know what? I can't let this wife get away because I could go find a woman just based on her complexion because that's my preference and then she'd be horrible. And I had just dealt with two women that was my complexion, but neither one of them was a wife. And then I met my wife and she, you know, lighter than me, like my mama and she turned out to be a wife. So if you, and that's why I say, there are instances where people of different complexions, people of different races, people of different nationalities meet and it's organic. But when it is deliberate, that's when you got an internal issue. When you are deliberately looking for someone who is your opposite, not personality-wise, but your race, your color, and you deliberately looking for that, that's an internal issue. It should be organic. It should be natural. So this is the thing. We got to start learning. So if you miss any of this video, go back and watch this video. Just let it play when you're doing your spraying cleaning. Just let it play. Let it play and then let it take you to another level. Let it take your mind different places. Let it go deeper, go deeper in your life. And see, the thing about it is I don't want to offend anybody, but the truth got to be spoken. It got to be spoken. Truth got to be spoken. And one thing about the truth is anybody could get it. I got to get it every day. See, be working for God, be working for God. I got to check myself daily. I got to check my spirit daily. Every single day. Because I could be fired and not even know it. And we right now, we're in a society of perversion. So being in my position, being with a platform, there's so many of them that are perverted. So many are perverted. Like man who slept with that 14 year old. Absolutely insane. Man got all this wisdom, all this knowledge in a position to make all this money. And now pleading guilty to sleeping with a 14 year old. You look at the pastor that just got caught up. Nah, nah, I'm gonna be honest with you, nah. The pastor who just got caught up, I think they say it was with a man. Now a video or something got leaked of the pastor with a man, man, not listen. Some people just, you just could look at him and tell they off. Just see, nah, I'm gonna tell y'all something that's a red flag. I'm gonna tell you something that's a red flag. This pastor, when a man is wearing the hairstyle of boys half his age, that's a red flag. That's a red flag. Listen, a man should dress his age when a man is wearing the hairstyle. So you see all these kids with the nappy fro, with the little fro standing up and they get it kinda nappy. Listen, as grown men, we're not supposed to grown men in our 40s and 50s and even late 30s is not supposed to have them hairstyles like the NBA players. The NBA players is 20-something years old. Let them boys have that hairstyle. Let them boys have that hairstyle. Grown men, once you cross 35, you see how this hell is. And I'm losing this hell of a, this is what we're supposed to be at right here. Once you cross 35, you need to cut your hair. You need to cut your hair once you cross 35, unless you got some locks and it just, you've been growing for hell man, it just mean, but other than braids and the little nappy froes and all the other little, little twists and all that, you're not supposed to be like that over 35. So I can already tell that a man is up to some foolishness when he in his 40s and he got a hairstyle of a 19-year-old. If a man is in his 40s and he going to get a little piece of his hair dyed or he can get his tips dyed, that's a red flag. And your fellas, I'm talking to you. I'm talking to you, dye your hair back to a natural color. You're not supposed to have hair dyeing your hair and you cross the age of 35. You're too old for that. If a man wear a hairstyle of a woman, like the Pastor Mike Todd, whoa, when he had them two braids hanging down the side of his face, that's a spirit. Cause the Bible tell you a man ain't supposed to be putting on the dormant of a woman. There has not been no man in the history of the world who was heterosexual that gonna have them two braids down the side of the face. The Bible say, so if you heterosexual, the Bible say don't let your good be even spoken of. Why is you gonna get the transvestite hairstyle? This getting ridiculous. It's getting ridiculous. Silk presses, finger waves, listen. When you cross a certain age, you got to do better. You got to do better. We out here looking like kids. These men out here looking like kids. So when I seen this pastor, now this pastor is not a mega pastor. He's like a no name pastor. Then nobody know him and he was in the dark because God have not called him and that's why he don't have a platform. None of us know who this man is. But that transvestite that he was sleeping with was mad by that money and released that video. So none of us know who this man is because God did not give him no platform. Matter of fact, the devil couldn't even use him. He wasn't even believable enough for the devil to use him. So the devil ain't even getting no platform. The devil giving some of these people platforms so he could use them because they believable. This man, he was so powerful. I guarantee he got one of them churches with about four and a half people in now. And then four and a half people would be a different four and a half people every Sunday. And he got to go flatten their tire, the charging to pump it up, to get tires. He got somebody putting boots on his member's car and then telling them they got to pay 50 dollars to get tires and off of him. Listen, this man is so powerful. I seen he talking about don't come for him. Everybody need to come for you because you out here playing with the Lord. It's the least, I'm like, okay, if you gonna fall into sin, leave fall into what David fell into tonight. David fell into about Sheba. David ain't fall into Barry. David ain't fall into Bobby. Bobbina. I'm like, my goodness. It's like, okay, have you slept with a woman? I at least still would've, I still would've had to talk about you tonight and check you. But it's like, okay, other people don't fail. But now you're falling all the way into a man. And I think they say he sent a text that said, how that D and that A ready when I get over there. I said, oh, my goodness. So not only is this man sleeping with a man, but the man got in the nerve to be sending nasty text messages. Look here, where you nasty, nasty. But see, those are our leaders today. And then men is in the pool pit with childbearing helps. Childbearing helps. Breast feeding chest and got the nerve to well, skinny jeans and got the nerve to have two plaques down the side of their face. Got the nerve to have a dangling earring and already in the pool pit suspect. Come on now. Y'all, y'all got to do better. Y'all got to do better. Right now, I really honestly don't really approve of nobody pool pit posture, but Keon Henderson. He bought the only one being in the pool pit looking the way a man who is a heterosexual man of God supposed to be up there looking. Now, by every other path I see up there looking like they'd be tooting it and booting it. Dookie shooting it. Come on now. We got to do better. Y'all have to understand spiritual warfare and get them spirits off of y'all. Y'all, and some of them pastors is watching this because they emulate a man of God so that they don't get outed, so that they don't get caught up, so that they emulate a man of God so that people can't tell that they're a decepticon. And I'm calling you out. If you up there with child bearing helps, get you some soup pans that fit. We need to go back to pastors putting on suits. Stop trying to dress like B2K. Up there in the pool pit looking like pretty Ricky and B2K and Chris Cross. And I mean, outfit terrible. Got them tight old ankle jeans on with them big old high top Air Force ones. With the strap that go across the top that don't go together. That do not go together. And why is your shoes a color? You was in the house of the Lord. Nobody did not come to the house of the Lord to see you as a pastor trying to do no fashion show. You're supposed to be as inconspicuous as undistracting as possible because we is in the house of the Lord and we is in here for the Lord. We is not in here for your red shoes. We is not in here for your patent level shoes. We is not in here for your $10,000 soup. We is not in here for all of this distraction for this loose booty spirit outfit. You know, went and consulted with RuPaul and say, hey, dress me for the pool pit, Ru. What's up, Ru? Ru, yeah, Ru, what's going on? Ru, what? Hey, God love you. Come here, Ru, God love you. Hey, hey, let me hold that outfit. Man, if you don't go sit down in the back of the church and let one of these young men or God get up there and preach a sermon with holy fire and sit your tight jeans behind down. I'm coming out here to sit in the church. I'm looking up there to the pool pit. I can't see nothing but scroll them. I can't even read the scripture because you up there with a meat leg pressed up against your thigh and the jeans cuffing it. What in the world did I come in here to? I'm feeling, I'm ready to go up there and knock the mic out your hand. Man, if you don't get out of the pool pit with this fruity booty outfit on, you don't win out here and borrow your name, name, barbecue outfit. Up there in the pool pit, looking like Madill going to the gym and I'm sitting out here trying to get a word and you got that spirit of Satan up there dripping all off on you. And I'm talking about saying when he was an angel and getting ready to get kicked out of heaven. It's getting ridiculous. And we need to start calling these pastors out and say, listen, take your butt up there in a black suit or a navy blue suit or a gray suit or some loose fit and jeans and a loose fit and shirt and sit your butt up there and preach the word. God say, do not be a hindrance to your brethren. That also means don't be a hindrance to your sister. So that woman don't want to be looking at the path of meat leg either. Just like we as men of God don't want to have to be looking up to no stage with no meat leg showing. Women don't want to be sitting down looking at no meat leg either. Especially with no child bearing hips. This is not, I understand y'all pastors is up there and y'all are lost a little weight. Get you some clothes that fit you. It is not time for you to thank you on South Beach or Venice Beach with your outfit. It's getting ridiculous. And wear you some regular shoes. Start getting up there with $12,000 Nikes on the weather. You can't even pay attention because you up there in Travis Scott's. And so now they sitting there and they trying to get a word and they can't even focus because they just got Travis Scott lyrics playing in the head because you up there with your Travis Scott song and your booty jeans on and your muscle shirt with your two plaques hanging outside of your face. And yet we're supposed to be in here talking to the Lord. And then y'all pastors start getting up there and trying to have a secular concert. The man with the yellow glasses gonna get up there and preach that raggedy sermon. Man, delete that sermon. And don't you ever get up there again preaching no sermon and he put that bread in our pocket. Our bread in our pocket. Our bread in our pocket. Do not take the sermon into no booty shaking rap song. That is not what God is about. Stop feeling like you have to appeal to somebody. God is not a chameleon. God ain't got to appeal to nobody. Jesus didn't go, we didn't read no well. Well, Jesus said, I'm gonna put a nose ring in my nose and I'm gonna put ear rings all through my ears so I could go in to this land that's resembling Sodom and Gomorrah and wind souls. Jesus has never emulated Satan. So why are y'all pastors in the pulpit trying to emulate the world? Kurt Franklin, get his, Lord forgive me. See, Jesus flipped over the table. I ain't got no table to flip over. So I'd be about to flip tables with the words. Kurt Franklin, give him a little miniature butt up there. And he up there, I don't throw my neck out for real. My neck just popped trying to do that Kurt Franklin move. I'm like, Kirk, sit so high down. I did not come in here to see you up on the stage thinking that you was usher. You see what usher got Kiki Palmer into. Sit yo little butt down, get up there. And if you wanna do some dancing, have you some praise stepping? Have you some praise stepping? Do not be up there doing all that generating. It's like, when do we think emulating the world is of God? Why is this man gonna get on the stage, still usher, whole routine and thank God is in this? Where is, I'm talking about just literally like, huh, huh, huh, I say, hold on, huh. You're thrusting down, ain't it? My brother, you go back to the stop. That's all God to authorize. Stop, do not be up there thrusting Daniel Lang. With these women watching this. You got these men who is gay and they in there trying to be delivered like that man who got up their line and talking about he delivered. He told, I'm delivered. I don't like men's no more. I like, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait. Boy stop lying, boy. You still popping all that thing like a handstand. Boy shut up and get off that people pull pit line. That the spirit got you up that line. That spirit had you go up there and tell that line. Boy sit down. Telling that lie. You got men like that sitting in the congregation and here go Kurt Franklin. These men trying to come out that. And then the rest of us that got us a woman, we don't want to see your little butt up there shaking your booty and swaying thing lane. Get your butt up there with a mind in your head. Get your booty and swaying thing lane. Get your butt up there with a microphone and you conduct that choir conduct that choir and don't do nothing else conduct the choir and do not do nothing else. You're living a little bit of weights. Put you a shirt on trying to show off your arms that is secular. You're not supposed to use your body to be a temptress. To be a tempter. Put your shirt on and stop shaking your hips. We need accountability in the body. We need accountability in the body because it's getting ridiculous. So imagine a stripper come to church and she trying to change her life because she's been popping pee. She's been selling her body and she know it's not her God. And she sit down in there and the same beat that she used to strip to come on in the church. She is triggered. And then she look up there. The man with the yellow glasses is rapping. Kirk Franklin shaking booty. Mike Todd got the plaques down inside his face. The other pastor out of Alabama got the dangling earring. She enough corroborated. She don't know what to do. Imagine when the thought come to the church. The thought come to the church. He just come out the streets and he look up down and Kirk Franklin slaying meat leg. I got the grunt. Bro, I just come out the street. So I'm getting ready to come in here and meet God. And this man up here, this man up here twerking. Come on now. This can't be the work of the Lord. This ain't the work of the Lord. This is not the work of the Lord. We got to do battle. We got to do battle. It's ridiculous. We got to do battle. That's why I put Kirk Franklin in my story. Because it was absolutely ignoramity. And I'm going to start calling it out. Because y'all is making people think even Christians making people think this stuff okay. This stuff's not okay. This stuff's not okay. We got to do battle. We got to do battle. Because guess what? There is a price to pay. When you plan with God, there is a price to pay. That's why I love God too much to be playing with Him. That's why if I'm going to be on here talking about love or relationship, I'm not going to be out here doing what buddy was doing, a swole buddy was doing. I'm not going to be out here cheating on my wife. I'm not going to be out here cheating on my wife. I'm not going to be out here playing with the Lord. Because guess what? You can only do it. You can only do it for so long. You can only do it for so long before you get caught up. But see, listen. What you doing in your private life? See, from the abundance, the mouth speaks from the abundance of the heart. So when you see these pastors get up there and they quoting so many rap lyrics and they doing the rapping and the beats just like the world and they dressing just like the world, that's because that's their influence. They closer to Satan than they is to God. Because when you get close to God, God going to tell you to be appropriate if you are a man or a woman of the cloth. If you called a preach, you can't dress like I dress because I'm teaching on YouTube. So you see me with something, I'm not standing up as no reverent, as no pastor, as no bishop. You got to do the right thing. You hail to a higher standard. Yet we all Christian, yet we all got a little righteous. But when you take a position in God's temple as the man or woman of God, you got to be hailed to another standard and y'all need to start, y'all need to stop sending me emails and DMs with your opinions on me and you need to send an email to your pastor. Yet you got to tell them it's you because they in that church in the four walls on that pool pit receiving tithes and offering. Everything I get, I got to work for it. They up there getting tithes and offering that is intended for the work of the Lord. And it's getting to go to that nice Rolls Royce in a nice jet that all of it is not being done for the work of the Lord now, but they getting their tithes and offering. So if somebody finna get your tithes and offering, they represent God, then they can get checked. A pastor or a worship leader, I ain't appreciate you up there twerking. I ain't appreciate you up there in them tight behind jeans. I ain't appreciate you up there with that secular music. I ain't come to church to hear Beyonce. I did not come to church to hear Beyonce. I ain't come to church to hear no secular music. I did not come to church to hear a secular instrumental, a secular beat, because all that stuff is made with a demonic spirit. So why would you bring something that is created with a demonic spirit into the house of the Lord to appeal to children? Children don't want you to appeal to them. Children want something they can look up to and aspire to be. If you is a grown 40, 50 year old acting like a child, then that child can't look up to you because you never grew up, because you the height of a child, or because you built like a child, or because you thinking like a child, or because you childish like a child. And so you up there in the pulpit trying to appeal to a child. When you in the pulpit, be a grown man and let a child appeal to you. Meaning, let that child want to be more like you. Let that child want to be more responsible, more mature. Let that child see something that he or she can grow up to be like in character and dignity and integrity. Don't have that child sitting out there wondering why you dress like young thug. Why you dress like little baby. Don't have that child sitting out there wondering why you and little dirt got the same house style. That child wondering why you got this beat from this new album that just came out that is full of fornication, adultery, drug use and violence. And you bringing that instrumental into your church service. Talking about you got to appeal to children. You got to appeal to the teenagers. They have you appeal to no teenager and there is nowhere in the Bible that tells you to give a child what they want. A child will want you to play the secular music because they want to be comfortable in their sin. But when you are doing what God told you to do, they going to have a fire lit in that seat and they going to go to squirming and their toes going to go to curling up and they going to feel a conviction in their spirit and they going to fall to their knees and cry out to God because the Holy Spirit and the anointing is moving. God cannot be in the same place with anything of Satan. God will not be in the same place of anything with Satan. And this got to be understood. This has got to be understood. Y'all is playing with God and listen. If you playing with God, God is going to remove his hand from you and when God remove his hand from you, don't be in the pulpit trying to subliminal message me tell my touch not my anointing and do my prophet no harm because you ain't anointed and you ain't no prophet. You fire. And God hand is off of you and the devil finna slam because you try to make a mockery of God. You try to make a mockery of God and God don't play. You going to be in your grave early because God do not play. Calamity is going to come upon your life if you don't stop playing with God and stop trying to emulate the world and talking about how we got to relate. We got to put bait on God don't bait nobody. God don't bait nobody. God don't bait and switch. God do not switch hit like some of y'all up there doing. Switch hitting, batting from both sides of the plane. God don't play that. God do not play that. So if you going to get up there, then get up there with reverence. Get up there with respect. Get up there with a fear of the Lord. See, if you a Christian and you feel like you got to appeal to the world that mean you got more reverence for Satan than you do for God. Because if you got to say that God got to adapt to the world what really are you saying? The man with the yellow glasses and this why I question certain other podcasters because they claim to be Christian but don't have discretion. The man with the yellow glasses he took and printed out all the lyrics from Lil Wayne's song and gave it to all his people, his leaders, volunteers and told them you got to learn the lyrics to this song or you can't work in the church. Them kids is not coming to hear y'all old corny butt rap Lil Wayne. I'm ready to throw this phone through the wall. Kids don't want to see your old butt rapping. Them kids want to come in and see you acting like a dog on an adult. Them kids do not care about you knowing no rap lyrics. Them kids want to come in and be sanctified and be holy. They can listen to Lil Wayne outside. Them kids do not want to come in that church and hear no Lil Wayne or hear no young dog or hear no Lil Baby or hear no Lil Dirk or hear no Lil Nothing. Just because you love them do not mean these kids want to hear from no little rapper. Lil Uzi Burke just told him kids at his concert they got a spell on their life and that they all going to with him. That's what the lyrics you want them to be, your parishioners, your staff to learn. But see this is what I try to tell y'all is people will sit up there and sound deep and be shallow as a kiddie pool just because they could sound profound and they could see it in their own wisdom but then they ain't got no sense ain't got no spiritual discernment. This the man with the little yellow glasses I think Tim Ross or somebody like that who I heard say he told his staff they got to learn the rap lyrics. Listen, when you have your staff learn rap lyrics you're casting a spell on your staff because them words that is going in their eyes going straight to their brain and now they know these lyrics and they are speaking a spell over their own life because you think they want to relate to some kids you know what them kids coming into children's church to learn the love of Christ. Them children want five loaves and two fish them children want a hug them children want to hear about the goodness of Christ them children want a sandwich them children want a sandwich to take home them children don't care about you knowing no rap lyrics what in the world is y'all talking about? Y'all gonna make me start a church to show y'all how church is supposed to be done church is sanctified listen ladies put you on a dress that is not too tight don't come in here with no bodycon dress on don't come in here with no leggings on with your camo toe and your say it like showing through your leggings do not come in here with your belly button showing this is not the club come in here to have an interaction with Jesus Christ come in here for that listen here you got to do the right thing you got to know God the Bible say don't be no hinders to your brethren so you can't be doing stuff intentionally that's gonna remind people of what they're trying to come from and I'm gonna tell you how I like this I'm working with this pro sports team and here you have this guy this y'all man is in the strip club all the time he known, he influenced by the strip club in that city he in the strip club all the time this y'all man came to me and he said such and such is in the locker room listening to young thug but he claimed to be a Christian he said you can't listen to young thug and be about God he said you got to pick one that is how people who are in the world feel when you in the world you don't want to leave the world and go to church and be reminded of the world so if a woman had on a miniskirt and leggings and all of this stuff that was showing her body and she was selling her body she want to come to church with a business suit on or some jeans with a blazer she don't want to come to a church with her same strip or outfit that she went to the strip club with is okay in the church she don't want to be reminded of the strip club she trying to be renewed so when you trying to be renewed you want to do differently when I renewed my life when Christ renewed me I threw my I had plies and jeez that's all I listened to I was selling drugs I had a quarter pound of weed with me at all times and I had a 3.8 handgun at all times I listened only to plies and jeez it probably plies real testament jeez it probably was thug motivation that's all I listened to just own rotation take one CD I put the next CD in when Christ renewed my life I took them CDs and broke them in half and throw them out the window just like that you don't want to come to church and hear the same lyrics that you just got done trying to break free from because the lyrics what had you in that debauchery you was in so when you come to church you want to be pure we need to go on ahead we need to sit down with these pastors and from outside of the church and we need to talk to these pastors and help them realize how they represent in the church how they represent in Christ that ain't what it is that ain't what it's supposed to be you got to represent Christ in holiness in purity like Lecrae talking about he could quote Cardi B and Corinthians no you can't no you can't because you can't mix the profane with the sacred when you quoting Corinthians you quoting God God don't want to have nothing to do with a Cardi B lyric unless she is knowing her life in Christ and she singing she rapping about the goodness of God that's the only time God want to hear a Cardi B lyric he don't want to hear no lyric but nothing else but reverence you don't mix Cardi B with Corinthians that mixture is what you call lukewarm you don't mix ratchet and righteous because ratchet represents ghetto which represents a debauchery because what you do in the ghetto you sell drugs you smoke weed you torque on the fire hydrant you going from apartment to apartment fornicating you skip in school but for the most part when you in the ghetto you is unlearned it's a couple families that's trying to get out the ghetto and they not comfortable with welfare they not comfortable with food steps and they going to school in a different district they trying to get their kids a better education they working 2-3 jobs because they trying to get up out the ghetto ain't none cute about the ghetto ain't none cute about it because when you dare most of us is in the ghetto it's slavery and so because we coming from slavery a lot of time we slaves in our mind so you not supposed to be ratchet and righteous when you become righteous you let the ratchet go but see what that is when you mix in the sacred with the profane that's what you call lukewarm I'm bout to have to go I'm bout to get too tired that's what you call lukewarm and what do the bible say about being ratchet and righteous God say he'll spit you out his mouth cause you lukewarm he say be hot or you be cold you can't be both so that's like me being on here being a Christian and I'm cursing and I'm on here cursing like the other motivational speakers or life coaches who curse who are not Christians that'll be so confusing to people who claim to be Christians if I claim to be a Christian and I'm on here cursing I remember I'm on a song I'm playing gospel music on one of my on one of my classes and a Jehovah witness she got mad because it said something the lyric that the man was saying Jesus is God Jesus is Lord and I think she says she's a Jehovah witness something that don't believe Jesus is Lord and I was like so she was offended by the gospel music I'm playing I'm a Christian so okay bye I gotta do what I'm gonna do see do what we gotta realize and understand you gotta be hot or you gotta be cold you can't be lukewarm hey listen to me look that was Kevin Lamar I don't really know what I gotta do but I'm finna get ready to go on here and go so thank y'all um on TonyGasinAcademy.com I put a sample chapter of a new book called war I'm planning to self-publish it at the most I might do hybrid publishing so it's a support room where you getting the sample is helping me publish it now this is something that I decided to do just to see what type of support for this type of book that will be geared to men I believe women will benefit from it as well but it's written to men the subtitle is a man's guide to defeating the enemy within if you're a man and you're hearing this go to TonyGasinAcademy.com and read that snippet and get ready for it cause it's real but you can only be so real in written word cause it's you don't have inflection but it's real it's gonna talk to you but my whole goal right now is purity it's purity my whole goal and mission is for men to be pure to live a clean life in the dark when nobody's looking to live a life knowing that God is right beside you watching everything you do to live a life like that and to have a fear and reverence for the Lord to fear the Lord in the sense that you're not playing with the Lord that you're not just gonna sit there and be playing with the Lord because you can't hear him audibly or see him physically and so feeling like you could do what you want to do now God is a spirit so God must be served in spirit and in truth so that means we gotta purify our spirit and the more you try to purify your spirit the more warfare you're going to go through so I want you to understand that you're going to go through warfare while you're trying to purify so I need you to realize that when you start trying to clean up your life everything to make your life dirty gonna be on your mind and gonna come into your life the people, the things, the places and you gotta realize that you gotta realize that you gotta know it that's what I want you to realize and understand now it's time to get your life together seek wisdom, knowledge and understanding, seek wisdom pray for wisdom the prayer that I pray is Lord, double my wisdom Lord, double my faith Lord, double my courage Lord, double my strength pray that prayer now because it's gonna benefit you it's gonna benefit you, it's gonna help you live right and then as you live and write, be a light live right and be a light live right and be a light and then when you see somebody living wrong and you don't know them personally you gotta call them out publicly but see the thing about it is the reason why I really don't feel a way for adults who've been in the body of Christ for decades and then decide to start worshiping the devil and later on as they worshiping God I really don't be they picking a side they picking a side so I'm calling out but a lot of time they already know what they're doing okay, then Tony Gaskins what we got coming up we got the book publishing book camp like I say, I don't ask for handouts I teach what I have learned and I put a price on it and so when you go to TonyGaskinAcademy.com you're gonna see a lot of what I have learned and it's gonna be there for you and so that's why I tell people to support me it need to be a win-win support you too don't just send me a blessing go get a course that can move your life forward and you still blessing me but it's also gonna bless you that's a win-win that's what we're supposed to be doing for each other so understand that but hey, they're Tony Gaskins God, bless y'all hey, this went way too long tonight but sometimes we got to tear in the spirit we got to let that thing flow and everybody to get something from it but hey, had to do what it had to do now, if you get to this point and you end up watching the whole entire thing let me know because I'd be interested just to see how many people are on that wavelength of self-development because there might become a little special group for me that I started people who want to go into that next level so hey, God, bless y'all and we gonna talk soon somebody just spoke some hey, Lord willing it might happen one day