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I've actually been feeling quite sick the last few days So I'll try not to cough in this video But yeah, I wanted to get on here and discuss this important topic of how Narcissists make us lose confidence in ourselves Because that's what they do They target our self-esteem They make us feel small They make us feel like we're not good enough and they do that by Stringing us along by leading us on without any clear plans or intentions To pursue the relationship Because they refuse to commit to you which confuses you About where the relationship is going to go because sometimes they do give you what you want they give you tiny morsels of communication But they never fully commit to you they give you just enough breadcrumbs of the attention and interest To make you hopeful To keep you on the hook But it's never enough so that you feel comfortable We're sure that things are going well But of course this doesn't work on everyone they targeted you targeted you for a reason Because they expected you to be set susceptible to it These kinds of tactics they work on people who have a lot of empathy Because people who have high empathy will see the breadcrumbs Something greater than what they actually are But let's talk about why they do this. Why do they play these silly games? Why do they target your self-esteem? Well, they're trying to bring you down to their level because they are actually very insecure They have low self-esteem themselves So they're trying to target yours and bring yours down they give you breadcrumbs and When they see you coming back to them for more it makes them feel wanted It makes them feel like they're worth something and this is really a typical thing that narcissists do Because it makes them feel special Gives them the attention they're looking for So they will just sit back and call you now and again or send you the occasional text message and Maybe you might go out with them sometimes and things may seem okay, but it's Not consistent. It's occasional. They don't follow you up on anything It's only on their terms It's only when they want to and yet you hold them as a priority in your life. You give them the significance that they are not deserving of You're putting your heart and soul into everything for them They are deceiving you They are cheating you because they are giving you something that is not equal in value in exchange They're treating you unfairly Because they are giving you less than you really deserve Because you're putting everything out at maximum effort for them But they're not doing the same for you in return They don't put in the same amount of effort as you do for them and you shouldn't accept that Because that is invalidation It's just a way of them telling you that you don't deserve better treatment As though they can just give you breadcrumbs and you will still accept it and I'll say again. This is a typical thing that narcissists do It's one of the main tactics that they use Because then they're able to get maximum effort out of you and While giving you little or nothing in return It's kind of funny when you think about it because although they are treating you Like you don't deserve them. It's actually They who do not deserve you because they are hurting you. They're not serving you in any way And they're capable of doing a lot more They could do more But they choose to give you less than what you really deserve and yet they still expect to be a priority in your life They expect to be something significant to you while they're not Making you significant to them But the way that it should work When you want the best out of someone There should be an equal exchange, but they don't support you They don't assist you with anything they're never there when you need them And yet they expect so much from you they haven't got The morals or respect to see that they never do anything for you While they're expecting to be a priority to you and you shouldn't settle for that You shouldn't settle for less than what you deserve You should know that you are being breadcrumbs You're giving you're being given less than what you deserve and the reason why is because you deserve more you deserve better You're giving them your respect You're putting them first you're putting them before yourself You're always giving them something But you're not getting anything back in return That it weakens you because you haven't got anything to replenish yourself Since you're giving everything that you have to them It's not right because people are meant to Recognize the things that you do And they're meant to want to give something back to you in return That's how it's supposed to work. That's meant to be a fair and equal exchange But you're always the one who is paying for everything And yeah, they may keep you around but it's only because they're getting something out of it So they do Recognize your value And you also need to recognize it, but you should be around people who can reciprocate your value People who can do just as much for you as you are doing for them Because that's how we build And grow And it's why narcissists don't get very far in life Because as soon as you try to hold them accountable As soon as you try to confront them, they will ghost you, they will disappear If you want to make a narcissist disappear very fast Just give them some money You won't hear from them for a long time And of course the more money you give them the longer they will be gone But yeah, there's lots of people out there like this So you need to protect yourself because they will take as much as they can Especially if you don't confront them on it Especially if you don't tell them how you feel Or you don't put a limit on what You're willing to do But you're watching this because you sense that something is wrong So you are aware of it And that's the first step to preventing someone from leading you on Because they will try and get as much as they can out of you Without giving you anything in return And that is how they cause you to lose confidence in yourself It's how they target your self-esteem You just have to remember your worth Remember everything you did that made you who you are Remember all of the work you put in everything you did for them Did you even get a thank you? Did they ever appreciate it? Did they ever give anything back to you of equal value in return? And if not then you need to get rid of them You need to cut them off because it's not going to change It will never change as long as you keep accepting it So the only thing you can do is just get rid of them I've said before narcissists don't change So yeah, just cut them off Cut your losses I know it's hard sometimes because you think about how you invested so much into them And you're just hoping to see a return on your investment You're hoping you're going to get something back and return at some point But that's just going to make things worse because the longer you keep them around They're just going to keep sucking you dry So it's going to be worse for you I know you may have lost a lot already but you need to cut them off Because then you can cut your losses Because it will just keep getting worse They're like leeches They drain you of everything they have of everything you have If you want to know if you were dealing with a narcissist It's really quite simple Narcissists always come into the relationship with a lot less Than what they leave with They leave with a lot more Than what they came in with Because they got it from you Money, possessions, experiences They got all of that from you So they gained a lot by being with you. That's why they stayed with you for so long But the victim The person who was being abused, deceived Lied to, cheated Stolen from That person always leaves with less than they came in with Less money and resources Less energy Less enthusiasm Because they've just drained the life out of you And they may have drained your bank account as well So keep that in mind whenever you're dealing with someone Think about that Are you putting out more Than you're getting back from them? If you are you need to cut it off because it's only going to get worse In time the amount you're doing for them And the ratio to what they're doing for you is just going to multiply Even further Maybe you've been with them for one month. You're already doing 10 times more Than what they're doing for you Maybe after three months you'll be doing a hundred times more than what they're doing So you're just going to deteriorate At a faster and faster pace the longer that you will whip them Until you can't take any more And when you've finally had enough they'll just get rid of you They'll ghost you And then they'll try and find another unsuspecting target But just remember that The narcissist always leaves with more than they came in with They leave with more money More possessions, more experiences And you leave with a lot less than you came in with Less money resources and energy I mean it's really that simple That should tell you straight away Who the narcissist is Because it's the whole point of the disorder The whole point of it is for them to gain an advantage for them to gain something They have to benefit from it. Otherwise they want nothing to do with it So they'd have to have been gaining something from you Narcissists do not Get with someone just so they can leave with less If they ever thought that that was going to happen they would cut that person off Straight away They wouldn't waste any time with that person they would ghost them Just as they ghosted you when you ran out of money Or when you got sick They dropped you like a hot potato they were out of there They were onto the next person And that is exactly how they would treat someone If they felt like they were gonna lose by being with them If they thought that they weren't gonna gain anything They stayed with you for so long because they were gaining something They got a lot out of you And they left with a lot more than they came in with While you got the short end of the stick you left with a lot less Than you had before you met them And it's really sad when you think about it because People who go through this they had so much potential Just imagine if you never got involved with them You could have done so much more in your life You could have been so much bigger and greater You could have had it all without them If you had never met them And it's really sad when you think about it because There's a lot of people on here a lot of people who I watch right now We will never know What could have been because you never had the opportunity to reach your full potential To be the best that you could be It's really sad and it doesn't just hurt you it hurts everyone Because I know a lot of us we are in paths And we want to be the best that we can be so that we can share it with other people So everyone loses out just because of One selfish greedy narcissist That's all it is They should have known I mean they knew that they didn't deserve you so they should have just left you alone And then you could have gone on to be the best you could be And you could have shared that with someone who could appreciate it Who would love you for it You could give it to people who deserve it But that's just it isn't it I mean when you put something of value In the hands of someone who is not worthy or deserving of it It's going to get destroyed It is It's only when you give it to someone who deserves it that they will love Cherish and respect it And give it the proper treatment that it deserves Never put anything of value in a narcissist's hands Because remember they only care about themselves they don't care about treating you right But making sure that you're okay so of course It's just going to end up destroying you I've never cared of anyone Becoming better or greater by being with a narcissist they only break you down And in the end eventually they break themselves down Because they have no accountability they don't grow or develop They don't accept the mistakes so eventually their own mistakes end up destroying them 56 live viewers on here please give this video a thumbs up It will help to support our community But yeah that's it that's how they cause you to lose your confidence This is how they break you down I've been sick the last few days so I know My voice isn't right on this one But so far I haven't coughed once So I'm quite proud of myself with that Thank you all for joining me and you all have a great day I'll talk to you in another one very soon