 I think an interesting question almost nobody asked themselves or at least if they asked themselves they don't really research and come up with an intellectual answer is the question of where should you live you know I was reading a book about Jeff Bezos and say what you want about him but at some point in his business career early on he decided he wanted to live in the most strategic place so he said he did his research and he found this is before Google by the way it's easier now but he decided upon Seattle Washington in the US because a you know he's an American so he wanted to stay in America be there was no state taxes see there was a big pool of employees that he could draw from that already worked at Microsoft he got down into nitty gritty details like how many flights there were coming into the airport how many non-stops from around the world for business meetings and while I probably wouldn't have picked that city I do admire the fact that he looked into this deeply because I think three or four most important questions anybody's gonna ever ask themselves I remember at age 16 being overwhelmed when I asked myself these questions you know it's like what's your religion world view gonna be one what diet are you gonna have diet slash lifestyle three what career and then for like who you're gonna marry or have kids with but that fifth one wasn't in my consciousness as much as it should be and sadly the school system hardly ever talks about this but this fifth question of where you should live and base your life is in some ways if not the most important maybe it's a second or third in that list because and by the way I've thought about this for years so the point of today's episode is I'm gonna try to fast-track and give you the answers in less than 20 minutes that I wish somebody had told me you know and I'm gonna throw out a few kind of frameworks you can use and you pick the one you like so an interesting framework is where will you have the best social life okay forget career for a second forget where's the healthiest place because you can go down we'll go down that framework to right so I think those are like the three best frameworks or where's gonna be the best social life and by the way you can just use the four pillars of the good life if you haven't gone to four pillars calm you should be getting my four pillars program which is you know how to everything or the quickest answer to how to find the health wealth love and happiness so the first you know a question you can say is where would be the healthiest place I could live second word be the wealthiest aka career third is love which is friends family romance that's social that's what I was talking about now and then last one will be happiest okay so let's start with that third pillar use the frame for framework of where would you be the most socially engaged friends family romance now interestingly the framework most people use is family right average person and it's been this way throughout history lives pretty close to where the majority of their family lives and I think that's valid to be clear but the modern world is all complicated there's something if you've been listening for a while talking about evolutionary psychology my mentor Dr. David bus you know there's a thing called evolutionary mismatches which means in some ways you can argue we were built to grow up around our family right but everything's been kind of chaotic for the last call it 200 years 300 years industrial revolution maybe even 400 years in terms of living near your family I don't know that that's a totally valid way because family now spreads out and a lot of people don't have you know that traditional mom and dad so I think that's a good framework but I think you got away the frameworks with multiple other frameworks right so most people go by family but friends is a super valid one and sometimes in the modern world because of I'm not gonna get into this but you know the collapse of the family in many ways right go in with the framework of friends makes a lot of sense but I'm gonna go a little further because like I said social slash love which is the third pillar in the four pillars of good life romance go where your best romantic prospects are you know if you talk to a scientist like Dr. David bus he always tells me tie everything is mating mating because ultimately you know we live on through our children and so I think it's one of the most valid frameworks of deciding where you want to live is where do you think you have the best romantic prospects where are those people who are your tight physically don't forget physical physicals valid you know or our eyeballs are attracted to certain types of people and now scientists are finding validity to that you know in this histio complex meaning people who have opposite or complementary immune systems so you don't have to discount your love your love of a certain physical type right so if you like blondes that may mean you know that on average those blondes have a complementary immune system and of course I'm oversimplifying a complicated subject but that's the point of this podcast is to get to the answers quick so don't think that relocating to an area that has people who look like the type you're attracted to okay you know I've always liked to kind of Scandinavia and that look my mom told me as a little kid when I was like two years old I would like chase the blondes around chase a little blonde when I was like two you know I would see a little blonde at two years old on the beach and go up to him and say hello so there's probably something to that you know genetically aka complementary immune systems and other things that we don't even understand now right so the next thing so so that romantic framework also personalities like you know I lived in LA LA is a big city big market but it attracts a certain type of person you know it's a lot of people who want to be influencers I always say every city has its good things and every city has its mental illness right or prone to a certain illness and this is people who migrate not people who are born there obviously if you're born in a certain city although you could argue your parents were attracted there and genetically most things are genetically heritable right so I always say LA is narcissistic it's the narcissistic it attracts the narcissist I think a lot of nice people live in LA it's not the worst mental illness now narcissism some people would argue obviously if you have NPD narcissism a narcissistic personality disorder which is the super extreme level of narcissism it's a nasty but you know New York is greed there's only two cities in the world with a trillion dollar plus economy for the city itself and one of those is New York and I've noticed there's a lot of good things about New York but it attracts greedy that's the mental illness hard-working you know ambitious but you know London attracts a certain type Miami for sure has its own Miami's a little bit like Vegas but globally you know Scandinavia has a lot of what I would say is more mellow people you know the people who stay there and don't migrate out people who migrate Dr. Bus has done a lot of research of this in the Mediterranean Islands people migrate tend to have higher testosterone you know more aggressive but again these are vast over simplifications but anyway you know Scandinavia I think anxiety is higher in closed societies you know I noticed that in Scandinavia Mormons in Utah things like Canada has a certain vibe so I think it's a really valid way to think about where you're gonna locate because if you get this location right a lot of things fall into line easily okay and you know I think at the end of the day there's not gonna be really anything you do more important than your mate who you have children with forget the romance for a second but who you have children with matters and it's permanent in your lifetime in your children's lifetime so you know people often ask about dating and that marriage dating marriage is not necessarily permanent there's no actual you know living being between you until you have kids so who you have kids with is really the defining moment of the next hundred to a thousand years of your lineage right so you there's a principle in economics called thick markets you need to live in a place with thick markets thick market means a lot of people of the type that you're interested in okay so it's you could say well time you know every city has somebody who's my type even if I live in the city where not many people are my type you know well that's a dangerous game my friend because if you're in a thin market this is an economic term but it applies to many areas if you're in thin markets okay the odds are against you and I'll tell you one of the most important lessons I've learned in business and life be careful of thinking you're gonna skirt the odds you know be careful of going oh well but you know Ty everything's gonna work out for me perfectly no matter how I play the odds that's not how it works you know it's not how it works my stepdad was pretty religious he used to say trust God but wear a seatbelt he was just saying play the odds don't try to say well I could make a whole bunch of bad decisions but yes you know I'll be bailed out by God that was his opinion he might have a different one right so to the extent you can you need to really think about cities through the lens of that social love aspect friends family but don't forget romance and you know honestly if I had a choice and this would be a tough choice horrible choice and I had to choose between a city that would have all my family a city have all my friends and a city that would have you know the best romantic part prospects it would be tough let me put it to you that way some people think it's cut and dry like family you know remember now in the model world especially if you become successful financially you could fly in your family you could fly in your friends it's harder to fly in especially when you're in the early dating stage looking for a mate UK it's hard to fly everybody in in fact if somebody was gonna fly in before you ever met him you know they may be you may not want to meet him because they're a little bit kooky I mean maybe not but I've flown in some people before I met him but not really it's kind of a strange there's a whole other podcast I can do about that concept but what I would say is you know you need to be in thick markets with early prospects so living in the right place romantically now I want to put a caveat by the way this episode I'm just keeping short I can talk about this especially if we talk about the other frameworks because there's you know this is the framework of love slash romance using that to determine where you live but we could talk about you know they have trying to find the physically healthiest place in the world you know I've lived in Puerto Rico that's like one of the healthiest places vitamin D close to the equator warm just one of the healthiest places you know career wise if you go down the wealth path I've lived in a lot of the big cities London New York Los Angeles those are great for your career you know and then right now we're talking about love I don't think New York and LA are good for your romantic prospects in fact I think they're actually dangerous because there's a lot of prospects in terms of attracted people but they're not necessarily good for a mate we're talking specifically about a mate a mate I define I don't like to use the word marriage or dating or too ethereal and easy to confuse but I'm talking about having a child with somebody potentially so that's that's how I define mating in that context it's a romantic attachment between two people with the purpose of having a child okay so so I think you know this this episode about them the mating side the love side and and I really think in some ways if I was 18 years old I probably guide myself with this framework over health wealth now happiness is a tricky one and I won't talk too much about that in this episode but you know I kind of my belief on the four pillars of good life health wealth love happiness is that happiness falls into place when you get the other three right when you're healthy physically when you're financially independent slash wealthy you don't have to be crazy wealthy but financially independent and when you have love friends family romance then I come now you can argue though you know happiness is comes from is its own extemporaneous attribute which I think is valid in the sense that there are some places that I go have lived in the world that I'm super happy I'll give example my farm I'm probably happiest in the mountains you know I've got some farms in different places and but they're not necessarily the best for you know health they're pretty good for health but for wealth career they're not the best because they're kind of isolated areas and for love they're not there's not many people who live there so so there's an example maybe you could argue that happiness you know picking a location on pure happiness you'd often end up probably in the mountains of Switzerland or Colorado but I don't know that I would I would think about having a second home in those places by the way theoretically if you can afford it and build up your income you can have four homes I kind of have four locations now so I actually now but that takes a while to build up you can't do that couldn't do that was 18 so you have a place where you're optimizing a city you live in you're optimizing for physical health a city for wealth career a city for love romance you know social and then a location for happiness I kind of rotate now and I have that so like last week I was in New York I don't live there permanently but you know like take you know there's a time in my life I'll give you an example where I was like New York or LA for career Puerto Rico would be for physical health really healthy place for Fred love Fred's family romance Europe and then happiness my forms but you still need kind of a primary place so I think a primary place can be built around that love mating framework now if you're already in love have a spouse you know have a mate have kids then even then I would still stay with that framework because you want your kids to grow up in a place where it'll be good prospects but I think you know then it's still the third pillar of good life love so maybe if mating you've already done that you still want to live in a place where family and friends you know really friends are super important it's interesting like some Scandinavian countries like Denmark the average person has this huge friend circle and in Denmark by the way and Sweden Finland and Norway Iceland they're voted the happiest people in the world and if you look they really have the four pillars health love happiness right so they have health they're the fittest people in the world least amount of obesity highest gym attendance wealth Sweden has five time the billionaires per capita of the United States you just go to Wikipedia and see their list of billionaires divided by their population right and you know love they have this huge social circles and then happy they they're voted happiest so the Scandinavia is a pretty powerful place I mean I've been coming to Scandinavia when I had a guy who was my doorman years ago Drago mr. X I used to call him so he was the best guy I've ever met with women he was a he always told me Ty go to Scandinavia so I followed his advice many years ago big going back and forth anyway I'll wrap up this episode because I'm doing my million-dollar body program and for those of you not million-dollar body you should go to million body calm million body calm it's my in-depth explanation and routine of what I did I spent a million dollars over seven years trying every single health hack to get in shape test my blood add muscle all that but part of the daily routine for the million body calm is you know recording while you do 18 minute walk on the way to get some coffee or green tea so I'm gonna wrap up here yeah I'm kind of dividing everything and I'm teaching and over the years now into this framework of the four pillars and then you could go in depth into health wealth love happiness I'm trying to like my life goal is to leave a complete system of everything they're all encompassing it's kind of like they call it in physics they call it you know it's kind of like equals mc squared it was this if you reduced the physical universe into one formula you know the grand theory of everything that's what Einstein equals mc squared obviously I'm not trying to compare myself to Einstein not as smart as him but what I'm saying is you know what is the grand theory of everything and that's my four pillars of good life so this podcast is part of that and you can branch out into the areas that are most interesting to you but it's pretty important and I think the biggest tragedy in this world is that people aren't taught the four pillars you know the grand theory of life because what does it profit a man to gain one thing and lose the other right like what does it profit you to gain all the wealth in the world but you don't have health if I trade you a billion dollars but you'd have to be bedridden for the rest of your life you wouldn't take the billion dollars so there's actual forget mazl's hierarchy of needs there's actually a more simplistic yet more profound hierarchy of needs right so four pillars is health will flow of happiness you got to move towards all four of those and that's the hard part about life is more life's about juggling things you know I know billionaires and I very few billionaires I'd actually exchange for their life right I know people have great physical health and but I wouldn't exchange for their life so it's a it's this exchange test anyway we'll talk about that in another episode alright leave a comment below on what because I didn't get into all the details I'll record a more detailed follow-up podcast so if you could leave a comment below a review and then in the reviews leave a comment of what you'd like me to talk about more on this subject of where you should base your life where you should live