 Hi, I'm Matthew Coast, head dating coach and founder at CommitmentConnection.com. And in today's video, we're going to talk about when a guy says that he just wants to be friends, but he acts like maybe he wants something more. So if this is your first time to our channel, make sure that you go and hit the subscribe button on the bottom right hand side of this video in order to get more videos on how to have the relationship that you really want. So let's get started. So maybe you have a guy in your life and maybe he says he just wants to be friends with you, but he acts like he really wants something more or something different than that. So what's going on here? I'm going to give you three different things that could be going on with him and I'll let you decide which one's going on. So number one, he likes the attention that you give to him, but he's not really sure how much he can give you back. And so there's a lot of guys that maybe he really enjoys, but believe it or not, there's a lot of guys that they just want that emotional connection because they don't get it. And maybe they're not ready, maybe they're not in a space where they can really commit to a real relationship or commit to something deeper with you. Maybe he's been hurt, maybe he recently got out of a relationship. Maybe he's trying to heal over something. Maybe he's got issues with his work and he wants to be in a stable financial situation before he starts pursuing a relationship with a woman. There could be a lot of reasons for this, but just know that maybe that's the situation he's in. Number two, he's very interested in just making you a friend with benefits. So a lot of times guys will say that they're not really interested in something more because they don't want to lead you into this space where you get into like relationship mode. And if you talk to any guy, they'll know exactly what I'm talking about. It's like you talk to a woman and if she gets into this certain head space, it's like this funnel that she goes down where it's like relationship, relationship, relationship. And if he's just looking for some kind of casual thing with you and maybe he doesn't see you as relationship material, maybe he's not in a place for a relationship. Maybe he's trying to maneuver around so that he's like, oh no, I'm not looking for something more, but really I just want to have sex and hook up with you. And that's why I'm acting this way. So number three is that, you know, he really does like you and maybe he might even be in love with you, but his heart is in conflict about it. So a thing that happens with a lot of guys, you know, it's funny talking to women because a lot of times they're like, hey, love, we're in love, right? That's enough. But for guys, that's not enough. You know, for guys, typically, they need more. They need compatibility. They need an alignment. They need to make sure that you're the right person. You know, a commitment for a man is a really big deal. Getting into a relationship for a man is a really big deal that he doesn't use. Most guys don't really take lightly. You know, there's a lot of consequences for being in a relationship. You know, and if a guy's been in a relationship with a woman before, what he knows is that she's going to constantly be pushing him for more and constantly be pushing him to get to another level in the relationship. And so if he looks at you and he feels like there's some kind of mismatch between the two of you, he might be in love with you, but he might be like, yeah, but you're not right for me. And I already know that you're not right for me. And if we go down this rabbit hole of us getting into a relationship together, I know that it's going to end in heartbreak and I don't want to go through that again. And so a lot of guys will end up feeling that way. And it's really, it's something that you really should respect because it might end up in a lot of heartbreak and you'll be in a lot of pain and, you know, do you really want to go through that? Thanks for watching this video. If you're ready to know exactly what to say and do to attract the man and the relationship you've always wanted, click on the button on the right hand side of this video and go to our website.