 A few friends of ours need therapy. They need therapy? Someone we know. Therapy? Literally like people who like go to marriage counseling before they're married. We want to get engaged but... But we already have a lot of problems. My wife won't say yes and my girlfriend won't say yes unless we commit to two months of group therapy. We're fine, we just want to do this in preparation. Okay, Jo and I are asking for a friend. They need therapy so they don't think it's us. Possibly group sessions and for disease not us just to make sure they don't think it's us again. If any of you know a therapist, hit us up. That's good? I think so. To be done. At what point did you realize your parents didn't like you? Middle school. And why was that? Because I started wearing makeup in middle school. And why did you wear makeup? Because I didn't care. You didn't care about what? Right, what? Alright, Andrew, you have to tell me that my hair looks perfect or not perfect. Perfect. Thank you. Hey guys, what's up? It's Kinsey and... Drew. Drew! So to end off our little fun docu-series all about... Sure, let me just, yeah. All about the reason we are no longer friends. Oh, we were no longer friends. Now we're friends. We decided that we were going to give some relationship advice. Kinsey was like... You know the phrase, it's like if you can't do coach or whatever and I was like, yeah, if you can't do teach yet. Us, horrible. Don't know how to communicate, talk. Nothing. I would say we've gotten better. We were actually good at it now. It took two years, three years. Because you have to account for like the other year that you didn't tell me anything. It took three years. It took three years for what? For us to like be able to communicate well. Oh, yeah. I wouldn't say that we would communicate well now. Better. We had to, we had to thumb the three parts and we had to start communicating. That's the best part about all of this is that we, I found out things from the interview with you. Kinsey like does the closest video. She's like, that was great. We had the conversation we needed going on the way. It's like, it's like 20 to 20. I'm like, Kinsey, where's that, where's that video at? You're like, what video? Oh, oh, yeah, yeah. Basically we know nothing. So we thought why not give some relationship advice. We did consider a career in... I was just gonna say this has been a long time coming because we used to joke with our friends about how we wanted to do like our relationship therapy, like couples therapy because we thought we could get some really good pointers. No one asked us for advice though. No, we were like begging friends. We were like, hey, can we please just sit down? Please tell us your problems. The only people that took us up on it? Oh, yeah. The only two people that are like as, if not more dysfunctional than us. Asked us for advice. Question number one, how long does it take to get over a breakup? I usually envision myself putting all of my emotions from that breakup into a box and putting that box on the top shelf. It's called compartmentalizing. And then just never opening that box up again and then I'm just like good the next day. Until years later when you're still angry and the way you talk about them is mad. I'm kidding, I'm never good the next day. Okay, yes, I do compartmentalize on occasion, but it's not... On occasion? It's not something that, it's not like a quick fix. It's like, it's still there. Andrew used to argue with me that compartmentalizing was healthy and that's how you're supposed to handle things. Right, well I think that another good way is I like to just like distract myself. So like if I'm like feeling like whatever I'll just hit up people and like hang out and like do something fun. Yeah, well have fun, but then you won't deal with his problems and you won't deal with the issues and you also won't do anything with them and they don't ever go away. And then you have the same problem. How many people have you had the same problem with? Lots of friends. Andrew will tell me stories and I'm like so what happened with that friendship? And then I'm like wait, did you have feelings for her and not tell her? And then she dated someone and then you got mad and you're like, well yeah, but that's not why. It's exactly what's funny. I'm not the only one at the best time. No, the only relationship that you're talking about is the one where I don't want to say her name. But it's because, yeah I never told her but because she had a boyfriend the whole time and I was like respecting that and then she went and got engaged to him and then they called out the engagement but I just like, we stopped talking to Texas and stuff. You love Texas girls? No, actually she was from Michigan. She was becoming a Texas girl. Is that when it started? From Texas girls. When you found out she was moving to Texas. I like have a weird Texas kick. I like I like I like from Texas. Okay, okay. We're at in Texas. Oh my gosh. Are you guys happy for either? Either what? Each other. Yes. Well, yeah, I mean that was a stupid one. I just picked up a typo. I'm like happy for you for you for you for what? No, I'm not. I mean like you're still killing it with your job. You're working on new shit. You have like basically your own house now. I mean you share it with your friends and everything but like half the house is like your office. Half the house is mine. Have you shown them how gigantic this office is? I haven't done a tour yet but it's really big. Yeah, the rest of the house is about the size of her office. Okay, okay. I'm very proud of you. I think you've grown a lot. So yes, I'm happy for you. What do you do when you get friend zoned? What do you do when you get friend zoned? Yeah, we'll have Andrew answer this one. Andrew just goes about living his life. He literally does this all the time because he won't tell anyone and then they don't know. And then he's yeah. No, no, the thing is is like like how do you... Wait, what's the question? How do you do with the friend zone? What do you do when you get friend zoned? I mean I don't know. I got out of it. No, no, no. He just goes and visits the girl for two weeks while she has a boyfriend for a new year and stays with her for a week in an extended time. The two situations that... Then he moves in with her. The two situations that I have been friend zoned in I just kind of like... I don't know. I just like go on and like whatever. I don't think I want this question and I'll talk about it anyways. Just because I don't have a good answer. Are these supposed to be good answers? Well no, I don't have anything to say because like whenever it's happened I just kind of like... Okay, we're friends. Yeah, he does do that. And you stick around for a while though. Yeah, I have always been like respectful too. It's very... Okay, whatever you've been with someone I've always like respected that and not made a move. Yes, and? Like I'll come visit you and I'll come hang out but like I never like did anything that I felt would make you feel uncomfortable or like made anyone upset. The thing that I thought was really cool about you I mean this would be like horrible for anyone to do so I guess it's really not like a great quality but I would still go to you for like boy advice all the time and you gave me good advice. Like it wasn't ever... Well, I'm great at giving advice. Yeah, but it was never... Yeah, that's true. It was never like manipulative or like break up with him ever. It was always... I mean when it needed to be it was break up with him which was most of the time but... There was one time I can remember who was with but I literally told you I was like you're acting on impulse don't break up with him right now you should probably just like give it a day or two and just like see how you feel and then you called me an hour later and I guess you were at the airport and you're like, hey I broke up with him. I'm like, okay. Glad I could help. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I missed like that Andrew. Yeah. Like I miss friend zone Andrew because you were so kind to me. This is one thing though that that I've realized about you is that and it kind of bugs me is that you're always like like you've never been happy with like the current me you've always been like you were so great back when you would wait on me hand and foot you were so great back when you would come over to my house every day and put Jack in your coffee or you were so great when you would give me all this relationship advice and then like but when I'm in those phases when I'm doing that you're annoying and then like six months later you're like I missed that. Okay, okay, okay. You don't know how good you have it until it's gone. Always missing the me six months ago. No I think it's just because progressively you get meaner and meaner you got meaner and meaner to me so like I thought that it wasn't going to get any worse and then it would get worse so I missed the safe before it you know so it's more so like that. I'll stop that. Okay, how to get into a relationship? Yeah, I have to burp. Do you think it's possible to work on yourself and be in a healthy relationship at the same time? I think that one of the biggest aspects of a healthy relationship is allowing each other to grow and so I think that a healthy relationship can really only include like self-growth and also like focusing on the other person's growth and being happy for that as well. That was a good answer. That was actually really good. That was really good. I'd love to see you do it. I'm just kidding. I'm so kidding. I'm really back to the last question. A relationship or relationship which is more important to you guys. I mean if you have to choose between them. I've always preferred relationships not even like in the future but just like where I'm at right now I'm not focused on a relationship at all so I only care about my friendships and like my parents have always told me that like if you're in a friendship that is leading you to a place where you they're making you like lose friends or like kick friends out of your life then that's something that you should be a part of. In general a lot of the time the person that you're in a relationship with gets blamed when a lot of the time it really is just that person who's just choosing to hang out with them and not the other people. No I agree and that does happen a lot. But I've just always put a big like priority on my friends and like not trying to lose them over other people. I don't know how I feel like six years but I think I would still say friendships unless it's like who you're going to marry. That's why I said that I'm like right now I don't want a relationship and I'm not looking for anything like that and so I value friendships most but if I had a wife I'd be like yeah my wife is like yeah. How do you know if it's time to tell someone you like them but they're your best friend? What's your friends do it for? Even when this is all happening with us though I was weirdly glad that you didn't say anything to me just because conveniently for me it was when I wouldn't have felt the same way. So if it but also well that kind of relates to the last question too because I I valued my friendship with you a lot and I didn't and I knew that like I wasn't in a place and I didn't think you really were either where like a relationship would be what we're looking for and that it would be a relationship that would last forever and so I figured staying just friends was going to be like the best way to save our friendship. You should have said that. I did tell you that. No. Yeah I did and yeah I did because I came over to your place and I told you that and then Sean called me the next day and I don't remember what he said but he was like you really should reconsider and just give it a shot man because like blah blah I forgot he called you He was like he was trying to like really pressure me I love Sean by the way I know Sean's one No I forgot because I didn't tell him I don't think that Sean had bad intentions at all but it was like for me it was like oh Kenzie's having Sean pressure me or something it wasn't he was just mad because also imagine being our friends and watch you feel this way for a year and a half and then you mess it up kind of and so like all of our friends watched you do that forever and then when you finally like had a chance they were like are you kidding with that they were annoyed but I get it I agree I told you too that I wanted to just be friends because I didn't want to risk like messing up our friendship I think you look back on things and you think we had a lot more crystal clear conversations than we did but I agree with what you're saying especially at the time like it was just not good what's the best thing about a drew love that guy the best thing about drew there's just so many big fries I know um I picked the best out of so many great qualities I'm trying to think of you as a whole and then you as a whole in your entire our friendship just think about my right wrist the brace that I saw is where you've been very patient with me like throughout the years even before things went bad like we still had a long time before things went bad together you're very patient with me but you also handled me well like you'll just be like okay like if I'm being like not like actually dramatic I'm just kidding you know that's like the mantra to my life you get a lot more people watching these than me I know you in a way that like most people don't know you one cause you don't talk to people and two just like sad I don't know what that was we're very close and we both know each other very well but I'm like really comfortable with you like I would just yeah we're just very comfortable but we're very funny together with you I laugh harder than I do with like everyone else like I have a better time but I also will have a way worse time so it just depends on the day advice for how not to give up after the honeymoon phase that's actually a really good one do you remember when everyone always just saw us that we were in the honeymoon phase we were like we fight all the time of our friendship we're like we've been friends for two years like honeymoon phase was gone and over a long time long time ago I had a really good thought and I lost and I'm trying to get it back I feel like if you actually have feelings for someone you still like them past the honeymoon phase like I feel like the honeymoon phase really only happens because you're really excited about a certain quality in the other person and so yeah after the honeymoon phase things get complicated but like I don't know if you really like value that person then I don't think that you should be thinking about giving up so if you're like hmm should I give up on my new best friend probably give up go ahead that was like maybe our issue we're just like attached like we should have we did it I was just going to say that like the thought of giving up on you like honestly never really crossed my mind yeah I never it was never even if other people were like but you did today that's my birthday you did after a year almost of that happening it was like February to December like what did you expect to do thoughts on cheaters what do you always tell me what about cheaters once a cheater always a cheater cheat oh oh yeah if they cheat with you they'll cheat on you I don't know I'm not a fan never been a cheater I didn't like eating on someone is so horrible and also that messes up a person's trust for life like people really will always be afraid of that so it's just it's not it's very tacky and it's also horrible it's horrible it's not a good look it's not a good look how do you not rely on your significant other for everything I would hope you're not relying on your significant other for everything just don't how do you know when you're ready for a relationship I don't know if there's that sincerely a point when you think that you're ready for it and normally I would agree with what Drew was going to say but I think also how do you know what I'm I don't even know what I'm going to say well because you're just like you need to work on yourself and you need to be you need to be complete in yourself and you need to be oh right like what I just said yeah but also I one of my biggest fears is having like a timeline for my life that I won't go that I was sticking to so strictly where I miss out on things that I should have done or had in my life like I think what if you meet the love of your life when you don't necessarily think that you're ready on paper for a relationship like maybe you don't have the right job or the right you don't live where you want to live blah blah blah whatever it is but then like I think that things always work out in the end but I also think that you miss out on a lot by always wanting to be completely ready and I don't know if you're necessarily always 100% ready for a relationship if that makes sense but also there are times when you're way less ready for a relationship when you just shouldn't do it because then you're going to hurt yourself in that person right and I just think that like and I know it's not like the same for other parts of the U.S. but like LA culture especially is like you don't really get married until you're like 20, 30 like but like Drew was super a date to marry hometown friends like hometown friends like they'll get married like my friends are like married now like with like kids crazy no what the no but like so I I like I'm not like stressing myself really trying to brush myself like I know a lot of people do because I'm like not really trying to time like 30 anyways I also am not a casual data like about it takes a lot from you actually like want to do someone the guy asked you to go to dinner are you with him is he interested and should I pursue I don't know how to answer that because I ask a lot of people to like go eat like whatever and doesn't mean that I'm necessarily interested a lot of guys that are friends of mine asked me to go eat exactly yeah what was the question again we're so good at this it's unbelievable if the guy asked you to go to dinner are you with him is he interested and should I pursue I think if you're interested then you should pursue but I mean personally I don't think that asking you to dinner means I don't know there's a big difference of two because like if he pays where is he asking you to go to yeah if he pays like there's like different things because like when I have money I would like go to dinner and like I just my instinct is to just like pay with whoever pay for whoever I'm with because I try to we're both like that though with friends in each other like if we go out because especially because we spent so much time together we would always pay for each other because we were just together all the time like it didn't matter ever so like if one person well that's just like how I am too is like if I have the money like I want to like spend it on my friends too what do you think about getting back with an ex you seem to have such strong opinions about when I do things and all of a sudden you have nothing to say what if I had a strong opinion about when you do something you're kidding oh well they're different okay thank you so Andrew has very strong opinions about this maybe off camera um he will he's had some very strong things to say okay I really don't want you making it seem like I just talk shit about all your exes no you don't you don't you just don't you just care about me so you want the best for me and it's nothing about them that's the other thing I think with relationships I know that it's important just because the relationship didn't work out does not make either people like either of the two bad just didn't work out with you guys like that's fine also 9 out of 10 I think it's a bad idea but I think there's an exception and sometimes if you guys break up and it just doesn't make sense at the time then it makes sense later and that works out perfect but I think that looking up with an ex is probably a bad idea 99% of the time because if you already have feelings for someone like that strongly and you've dated them like I feel like that's just risky unless you're both on the same page and then getting back with an ex is normally a bad idea like you broke up for a reason and it's easy to forget why you guys broke up you know but also who knows I think there's not like a blanket statement like we're talking so fast because we're really just finished the question before the camera cuts us off again is it for our relationship advice from the therapist over here for very good do as we say not as we do I'll leave you with those words yeah very well put I will have Drew's channel linked down below love you girly I don't know if you should link my channel on my instagram because my channel doesn't have it his instagram what? link your instagram or your channel I don't know because there's nothing on my channel right now okay well go subscribe to his channel anyways and I'll link his instagram down below spam his comments with kenzie is the best love you guys so much, subscribe if you guys haven't already if you didn't watch our first two videos where we talk about all of our problems feel free they'll be linked down below if you guys want more relationship advice from us I don't know why you would but let us know in the comments down below there's plenty of reasons why they wouldn't yeah we can tell you what not to do we'll make this a thing if you guys want to see more love you guys so much and that's it bye guys